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ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Prostrate Massage - How do you? Posted: 11/25/2009 8:59:42 AM
If you do, OP, you'll probably end up learning alot about the sexual activities of clerics. If you get tired of that, try a search on "prostate", the gland, not the position, Lol, and you should find the good stuff. Sorry, E, I am the LAST person on here who should be kicking a typo, but my coffee's kicking in, your pic shows that full-on playful look, and, well, I engaged. lmfao. Thanks WW ...hehe, ;-) I am quite playful and enjoyed the laugh =) Last night was..well, yeah, last night ; we'll leave the excuses out =)

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Can our own emotions, attitudes at a given moment in time causes us to judge a person too hastily? Posted: 11/25/2009 7:51:40 AM
Absolutely, everything plays out through the filter of our mind/emotions. It's one reason that I like to take a step back and not judge.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/25/2009 7:49:31 AM
He could also be at a place in his life where this just is not healthy or possible (recent divorce, etc). I haven't met that many guys that don't want strings.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Should i stay or should i go Posted: 11/25/2009 7:47:13 AM
Normally I'd say enjoy each other until you don't. But , if she's in love with you..that would be unfair to her. The kindest thing would be to let her go, even if it hurts her initially. I don't think that you can force such emotions or 'try' to fall in love. It's either there or it's not. And there is a big difference being caring about someone and being in love with them. Good luck =)

ependa

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Seeking Advice... Posted: 11/25/2009 7:44:03 AM
I don't necessarily agree. I think you can enjoy each other until you don't (unless he is getting 'attached' --that would be wrong). I think 24 is a time for finding you, personally. When you meet your life partner, it will fall into place. I think you have to trust that. I also think that different people (including lovers) come into our lives at different points for a reason. This guy may be exactly what you need right now =)

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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two different body temps and sleeping Posted: 11/25/2009 7:40:44 AM
Yes. My bf and I got heated mattress pads (with dual controls). I sleep naked, he in boxers. We both have to have the room freezing. I can only turn the thermostat down to 65, so I sometimes open my bedroom window in addtion. However, I get cold , he doesn't. I put my side on 2 or 3 to cut the cold...he didn't even turn his side on. We both like to snuggle (well that's what he says anyway ;-) til we fall asleep and then we both like to be left the hell alone (unless wake-up booty calls are involved ;-). He ususally stays under the covers, I usually throw mine off except the sheet. It worked out the 5 years we were together. I initially got it the heated pad when I got rid of my waterbed...can't imagine not having one now.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Have you ever received a Xmas present that made things a deal breaker? Posted: 11/25/2009 7:34:13 AM
I have never received a xmas present that wasn't graciously received and appreciated. I don't think that gifts should carry 'expectations' with them personally.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Women and Being a Challenge Posted: 11/25/2009 7:30:00 AM
I have never seeen any good come of people (in any stage of a relationship) trying to be a challenge to each other. In the beginning stages ,it's may be less damaging (and reaps apparent 'rewards'). But, in the long run, things will collapse. When you build a relationship on a foundation of deceit or games, it does not last. Not to mention the fact that by doing so, you're basically attracting women who fall for this type of game. This is why I only have so much tolerance for the whole 2 steps forward, 3 steps back BS that Terry Clark so fondly sang of =) I think the way to avoid it is stop playing games, date many women if it's what you like to do ..but don't do so to 'keep them on their toes'. Be sincere and true to yourself. And take things one day at a time ; enjoy each other until you don't. Personally, if I'm at the point where I actually date a guy, it means that I really like him (nothing more, nothing less). So, I'll give a lot of leeway for a while if I need to (taking into account different personalities, experiences, places in life). But at a certain point, you weigh out the potential 'good' in someone vs. the damage and energy wasted with games..and then you just walk away and stop spinning your wheels =) I am actually working on the whole dating multiple people (for completely different reasons)..it's weird for me.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Strippers and Lapdances Posted: 11/24/2009 11:57:23 PM
Yeah, what the first guy said..I've heard alot of guys say they prefer it from their partner...but what the hell, you only live once..may as well try it and see. I wasn't all that impressed with mine but there were reasons for that... =)

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Prostrate Massage - How do you? Posted: 11/24/2009 11:54:30 PM
It is for sure..there are some great previous posts on this..try a thread search on prostrate. In particular, look for this guy Dave (something) ' s answers. They are extensive and will be helpful to you.

ependa

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Married woman becoming pregnant as the result of rape - does husband stay or leave Posted: 11/23/2009 11:11:21 PM
It would be difficult to call unless you are actually in that situation. A member of my family turned on me as teen/woman in a similar situation when I refused to have an abortion. I was 18 , so they couldn't force me. Caused alot of drama in my family for a while. I'd like to think there are plenty of men who would be able to work it through with their wife. Obviously, just the trauma of the rape alone would affect their marriage. I think with counselling (to come to the decision together and to deal with that decision- whether it be to put the baby up for adoption or raise him/her..you ruled out abortion) would be an absolute requirement. People can overcome seemingly impossible obstacles. They only seem impossible until you face them. I wouldn't give good odds on the marriage surviving if they weren't together on the decision and willing to go through counselling.

ependa

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Inexperianced dater seeks advice on keeping a lady interested. Posted: 11/23/2009 10:56:22 PM
be yourself, engage her in conversation, ask about her (and take a genuine interest in her answers)..mostly, be yourself =) Good luck.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Do woemn find kindness as a weakness? Posted: 11/23/2009 10:53:03 PM
Well, if they do, you don't want them anyway..and in my experience this is not something that's unique to women..I'm very kind (in my humble opinion, lol ;-) but not even a little weak. I think there are certainly women (& men) out there that do and it's best to avoid them.

ependa

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Did I catch him before he tried to use me for sex or did I jump the gun to fast??? Posted: 11/23/2009 10:49:15 PM
well, something was obviously amiss if can't handle you setting your boundaries (in a pretty polite way imo)...you left a very easy out for him to do the right thing and keep communicating if he so chose...I think you handled it well and are better off to be rid of him.

ependa

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Have you ever fallen in love with a sociopath?? Posted: 11/23/2009 10:43:16 PM
JTWolfy..thanks for your answer. I guess I've read some works that purport the differences (with most traits being common except the organized vs. chaotic lifestyle and the living in society vs. being an outcast). But I've also read where the two are the same. And where the difference is biological vs. learned. I am definitely not an expert, but there does seem to be some differing opinions..I did not realize there are 5 type ; that sounds interesting and I will read on it. Thanks again. =) K Oh..and Ticklelicks..that post was very informative, too =)

ependa

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Hard Question Posted: 11/22/2009 11:01:58 PM
I would ask him point blank what he finds difficult about the question. Tell him that you enjoy trips and would like to be able to have someone in your life that will enjoy sharing that. Nothing wrong with that question. But that is the only way to find out if you are just both looking for different things.

ependa

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bad pickuplines Posted: 11/22/2009 10:57:12 PM
I had a guy come over and hassle the guy taking my cover for a bar this weekend. He was reading him the riot act about not checking everyone's ids. The guy was stammering and said what do you mean, did somebody report me. The guy points over to me and says for instance..did you check her id? And when both me and the door guy guffawed, he took my hand and said something really silly. If he hadn't been like 19 , it might have worked ;-) It was original anyway.

ependa

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Cheating Posted: 11/22/2009 10:52:36 PM
I think different people cheat for different reasons. Either to; fill their own void (insecurity) , because they don't have respect for themselves and /or their partners or relationships, because they aren't 'wired' that way (to stay faithful to one person), because they like the game/chase too much, because they need constant 'affirmation', because they are in a miserable relationship for some reason or another and don't have the fortitude to fix it or leave , or maybe they feel they can't leave. But, I personally think regardless of all of this, it comes down to one thing - integrity. Doing the right thing even when nobody is looking. I would absolutely never consider cheating and never have. I don't consider watching porn or going to a strip club cheating. Depending on how they're done (openly, covertly,defiantly,as a means to boost an ego or get a 'one up' in (and I've seen both men and women blatantly do this)...they can be very damaging to the relationship. I do think that those flirtatious, going right to edge of the line relationships are cheating on some level. (you didn't ask, but I've seen them bring down many relationships). At the very least, they are damaging. What you pay attention to flourishes. I don't know..maybe. I've seen a lot of profile with no pictures and dishonest answers about traits like age (that would make a search harder if someone was looking for them)..seems like it is easier to at least cheat online. Rule of thumb..no profile pic, lies about stuff, can't go to his house/apt..run away ;-) If I was cheated on, I would not stay. Fidelity and integrity are very important to me. I simply wouldn't cheat.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Warning signs:Physical abuse in a relationship rarely starts out as severe violence. Posted: 11/22/2009 10:29:25 PM
jealousy, controlling behavior, put downs/insults, grabbing your arm, pushing,using their body to intimidate (like get right up in your face), yelling, rearing back to hit you and stopping, anger boiling noticably 'below the surface' (seething), separating you from your friends and/or family,moving you geographically to a different city/state.. ..all of these are bad signs and all of them can be indicitive of escalating violence. And yes, I'd say run away and don't look back. (some of these individually, while not pleasant, may not be an abuser..but some even by themselves are for sure..)

ependa

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Doing it in the car/automobile - Do's, Don'ts, How to, etc. Posted: 11/22/2009 10:19:32 PM
lmao..always the girl on top...driving is better than parked..watch the horn (and other stuff)..DO put your emergency brake on when you're parked on a cliff..on the hood is very nice..but not if it's freezing cold...oh, one exception to the girl on top..but it's gotta be a compact and parked..and I'm not sure they make the footholds properly anymore so it may not work (that sure brought up some 'fond' memories ;-)

ependa

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It's easier Posted: 11/22/2009 10:13:27 PM
very true...gawd I can't stand twitter ;-) but it's true. But, I am happily in the midst of doing just that. My ex-bf (of 5 years) and I are working really hard on being friends and not wanting to bonk each other =) He's important enough to me that I want him in my life for the long haul and I know he feels the same.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

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Would a person who suffered a brain injury be a turn off for you? Posted: 11/22/2009 10:07:19 PM
While I find the study of the brain, neuroplasticity, and abnormal brain function very fascinating, I probably (never say never) in all likelihood would not have the kind of attraction to sustain a romatic relationship. I had a fabulous converstion on the wall in hawaii this year with a fellow that suffered such an injury. And it was wonderful talking to him, he's done amazing things in his life, and the conversation did get dicey at a few points when I didn't realize I triggered off a major frustration (while he was trying to recall something). We got through it. I liked talking to him. I just don't think I'd pursuit a romance. Now, if it happened to my life partner, that would , of course, be a whole different story...

ependa

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Have you ever fallen in love with a sociopath?? Posted: 11/22/2009 9:55:16 PM
No, I haven't. I've met several narcissistic personalities (including my dad). They aren't necessarily sociopaths though. I've known maybe 4 or 5 people that I'm either certain or fairly sure are sociopaths (they don't all murder people, though 2 I would not be surprised by this at all if they did). I have even met a psychopath. Chilling. I am not even close to an expert on this, but narcisstic people are very selfish, very image driven and don't even actually know (or care) that they hurting other people. They're basically harmless***eads that who have their head so far up their own azz they don't see the world as we do. (though , I should not say it like it's just men, women can be narcissists as well). The sociopath and psyhcopath are narcissists with an evil side, who needs to hurt people. They also lack empathy and don't confrom to society's rules Sociopaths are outcasts and don't normally hold regular jobs/relationships long term. They aren't organized or 'smart'. Psychopaths are anal retentive, I think intelligent (not sure on this, but it would follow) and actually very successful. They lavish people with generosity and they are successful at their careers and family relationships (even marriage). Sociopaths would be more likely to give you the creeps. But, I have to say, it is an evil,evil,cold feeling when you are in the same room with a psychopath. Watch American Psycho. He's a psychopath, but that unravels into sociopathic behavior as he implodes/explodes and he's a narcissist to boot. My very amateur interpretation. Good movie though. Lol. If you're thinking any of these 3, I'd say he's not dating, relationship, or fking material..just saying =)

ependa

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How Much Should I Disclose? Posted: 11/22/2009 9:24:32 PM
I never tell anything about a friend that they wouldn't want me to tell. So, generic questions are not that bad..what kind of music does he like,etc. But, I would definitely not tell her about his past and plans. I just state that I don't think I have the right to divulge such things. I'd encourage her to talk to him herself. And then step away ;-)

ependa

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What do Atheist Holla Out During Sex? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:49:35 PM
I've been known to let an oh god or two slip out ...it doesn't mean anything really..I know better than to try and condition myself during sex ;-) it takes away the fun...or at least lessens it.

ependa

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Am I bisexual? Or an anomaly? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:47:33 PM
hm. I'm not sure that it qualifies as bisexual..that's being sexually attracted to both men and women. Sounds like you may be a little confused. You're young ,there's nothing wrong with that. I'd say experiment some, it's the only way to know for sure.

ependa

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Can a relationship really last if diff sex drives? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:44:58 PM
NO. It can't. Run away now. Serioulsly. Or if you want to give it a try, do so full force now (talking , counselling whatever it takes) and walk away if it doesn't work, because it will drive you apart in the end. Trust me, plenty of hot blooded men out there ;-)

ependa

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Why do women scratch your back and bite your lip during sex? Posted: 11/21/2009 12:11:12 PM
To each their own..I've known many men that really get into this. As to doing it if your partner isn't into ..well, sex is supposed to be fun and there should be some mutual respect...and mutual satisfaction. Doing something my partner was not into would be a complete turn off for me.

ependa

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Kissing....... Posted: 11/21/2009 12:05:41 PM
I have to say....I don't see why kissing is thought to be so intimate....even more so than sex. It's just kissing...it's just fun. I don't think it necessarily has to be..if I don't have feeling for a guy then it's just kissing and just fun..if I do, it's just a whole nother thing..jmo I do find it impossible to 'fake' , for lack of better term, as well..oddly, after my ex and I went to our corners and just kind of existed for a few years...we'd still have sex once in a while..but we never kissed at all. I guess it's just different for different people. The sex can be utilitarian (though that's not my first choice)..but not so with the kissing. lmao whitewater...a reptile?? lols

ependa

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Kissing....... Posted: 11/21/2009 8:43:58 AM
absolutely love it! it's very sensual..has to be with the right guy though...and it is very emotional and intimate to me so I don't open up to it with just everyone (though hopefully and theoretically if I'm kissing other 'parts' ,then we are emotional/intimate anyway ;-)

ependa

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Her Orgasm Posted: 11/21/2009 8:41:52 AM
I think it's just supposed to be fun & natural (and a two way street). First sign of unionizing the duties, so to speak, and I'm outie ;-) Though I am lucky enough to be able to orgasm easily and on my own (sans man or masturbation). About the only way I wouldn't be able to would be if I'm not into him..which case I probably still could, but wouldn't and wouldn't be there in the first place.

ependa

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why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/21/2009 8:34:47 AM
I don't feel like that at all. I am very complete in myself and I think you have to be in order to have a healthy relatioship. I do enjoy companionship (the romantic male kind..I have plenty of amazing platonice male and female friends in my life) and sex. That is a hard to pull off solo ;-) But, I don't need someone in my life to complete me. I am not even thinking about that "right person". I like the attitude enjoy each other until we don't. I figure when you are with the right person, it will fall into place and there's no need to be 'trying' to find it. Honestly, when I do encounter it, it will very likely present me with some logistical challenges. That's okay..I will deal with it when I get there. But for now, just someone to hang out with who has some integrity and a zest for life is great.

ependa

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Realizing ALOT! Posted: 11/21/2009 8:20:53 AM
I was in my 30s before I really got this. It honestly all starts with you. You get one life. There is no relplay. Things that happened in the past; you can either let them hold you down or make you stronger (or more compassionate, wiser, whatever). The way you feel about your looks (I peeked, you're beautiful)..You either realize that you are not Farrah , or Meagan (or whatever era you grew up in) and be healthy about yourself or you wish your days/years away trying to be something you're not. Something that more people and even a few companies are getting (at least moreso) now is that all women are beautiful..and there are different types of beauty. Your own uniqueness is what sets you apart. Bottom line is you can't change your past or the cards you're dealt (you can still keep yourself healthy, fit, take care of yourself, etc). If you don't put things in perspective and let them run away with your life, there will be no way for you to get those wasted years/emotions back. Best thing that I ever did for myself personally was to stop wearing any make-up about 10 years ago. It was just something that I needed to do. Now , I play and dabble once in a while but it isn't the same for me. And I (personally) prefer the natural look (because that's me..many women look very beautiful with make-up on, too). But everyone is different. You need to look at what you think you don't like about yourself. And see the good. If it's something healthy like, wow, I'd really like to get more in shape ,etc. Then fine, come up with a plan and do it. If you're simply obsessing because you don't fit in the size 3 jeans you wore before you had your baby, then get over your perceptions of what a woman should like =) It took me 5 years to give those jeans away =) Fake it til you make it, too. If you tell yourself negative crap, you will buy into that (get the book What to Say When You Talk to Yourself..it's old ,but very good..we use it in the martial arts, too). Guys. pfft. Hell if I know. I suck at dating. I've actually only dated one person and talked to one other on the phone since I split with my boyfriend last June (not this June, last one ;-) I am about to change that and go out with a couple of guys..just casual dating. A different approach for me (I hate dating almost as much as I hate shopping. Hmmm there is something to that maybe). What I have learned (and I don't even know if I'd trust this) is to keep it casual for a while and see if you both click. Keep it more casual so if he starts acting like a jerk it's easy to walk away =) And don't date people who aren't done with their previous relationships. They're not ready and you don't need the hassle. If you really like them, keep in touch as friends. It is probably easier to date a couple of people (makes it easier to keep it casual)..but this is not something that's natural to me and I'm just trying it out. Finally. Life is about living. Part of that is getting hurt. It's fine to be common sensical. But don't put yourself in a bubble trying to avoid pain. It's healthy. It tells us what NOT to do =) and you have to experience it sometimes. Good luck to you , sister.

ependa

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Female Tool of the Trade Posted: 11/18/2009 11:07:06 PM
Not a chance..but some of those gadgets CAN effect sensitivity (as in de-sensitize) , which doesn't diminish the desire for men, but can make things more unneccessarily challenging.

ependa

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Men love naked women Posted: 11/18/2009 11:03:43 PM
They pretty much just see naked =) We are so much harder on ourselves than guys ever are, that's for sure! And hell, even women think naked women are beautiful.

ependa

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your opinion on our situation Posted: 11/18/2009 10:59:24 PM
A man's financial situation is to me just that, HIS financial situation. I don't really care what he can build up to. That kind of stuff is the least important thing on this earth to me.

ependa

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do women really have a checklist Posted: 11/18/2009 10:57:43 PM
I have certain things that I look for that are musts (courteous, strong, intelligent,has integrity), certain things that turn me on (alpha, deep voice, muscular, fun loving,outdoors..etc) ,and certain things that are deal breakers (married, smoker, abuser, hater)..It's good to know what you must have, won't tolerate, and what you like. But I don't consider men to be binary, so it's really not a 'checklist' in my mind. I can be friends with a guy, for example even if he's not someone I'd date.

ependa

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obsessing over women a turn off? Posted: 11/18/2009 10:53:29 PM
I have had this happen in the past. I try to drop all contact. Better for them, better for me.

ependa

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Sensitive nipples Posted: 11/18/2009 10:52:10 PM
some like it , some don't...if he's into, I definitely like it..if he's not, well then there's just no point..rather focus on what he IS into..jmo. Not a thing weird about it-enjoy.

ependa

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Are you sure your ready for a relationship again? Posted: 11/18/2009 9:14:14 AM
Yeah, that's a given to me. Some people just don't get that.

ependa

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What do I do? Posted: 11/18/2009 9:12:19 AM
Sam, You are very wise to recognize that a girlfriend will not make you happy. This is very common. Two people that I love very much have battled with this. One of them is thanfully still with me and doing well. The other one battled demons his whole life (alcoholism and depression) and in the end , it killed him. First , the crux of the matter being depression. It is serious. Even if you are 'functioning'. Talk about it. Get help. Professional help. Probably equally as important; educate yourself on this...knowledge is power. Some of the things that can help diet, regular sleep patterns, exercise, sunshine, counselling,meds,socializing (or rather, not giving in to the feeling of isolating yourself). Cognitive behavior modification approaches can really work.Getting yourself into something you love; great thing..music, martial arts, yoga, etc. Volunteering in the community. These things can all help. Seriously, get help...it is out there. Ok, the girl. I think you see the good and don't take the rest personally. If they have bad intentions towrads you, definitely move on. If not, recognize it, recognize you are probably sensitive and look at it objectively. See the good things in the friendship. Normally, I'd say talk is always good..but it honestly sounds like this is manifesting itself inside you because of other things. You don't sound whiney at all. Such is life. There is a great book called the Four Agreements. Quick version; Be impeccable with your word ( this includes to you and how to talk to yourself..do so with kindness). Don't take anything personally (there is a lot more to this..this was my battle and I think maybe you could benefit from reading this, too). Don't make assumptions (clarify everything, live with the courage to do so) Always do your best. (it's all you can do). That was a brief synopsis. It's a great book. Good luck to you, Sam. K

ependa

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What do you make of this? Posted: 11/17/2009 9:59:05 PM
No, I think you have to be true to yourself. I have been single for something like 17 months now..and only recently dated. I had my reasons. And I'd rather not date or have a boyfriend if it's not somebody I am really into being with. Don't find any value in being with someone just for the sake of it. Now, I'm a lot older. My daughter is a year older than you, and she stayed single for well over two years after she got her heart broken. As her mom, I was glad she was working through things, yes, a little bit worried about her, and can't like ,very relieved when she did start dating. But, she needed that time and chose to focus on things like job and school (and her). I wouldn't worry about what people think.

ependa

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kinda confused i guess and girls seem to be the best for advice ;) Posted: 11/17/2009 9:54:24 PM
It's natural to have these kinds of feelings when you click like that. Just slow down (and slow her down =) and take things as they come..let it evolve naturally. The sex thing. Well, yeah, it's not an automatic deal breaker when you have sex too soon..but if it were me , and this person was very special to me , I would put the brakes on in that area, too.

ependa

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/17/2009 5:12:00 PM
There is no more practical advice than being yourself. And no point in trying to be something you're not. I will always be myself..and I don't think you can really like yourself, know yourself, and find any kind of happiness in this world (in a relationship or otherwise) if you can't be yourself. I personally think the same advice would apply to 'getting tail' as building a lasting relationship. But I haven't sought to 'get tail' in a while , so I may outta touch here ;-)

ependa

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French Kissing, advice please? Posted: 11/17/2009 5:00:01 PM
what everyone said..just have fun with it.. fishbill... If you wanna get really adventerous, try sucking out his air and then inflating his lungs while you kiss, you both have to inhale/exhale in rythm. I might have the intellectual rights on that, so dont copy the files. Sorry hon..we patented that one long ago ;0

ependa

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Complicated Girl Question Posted: 11/17/2009 4:51:29 PM
I was going to come back and add..maybe she just isn't as into you as you are into her...but then I saw the posts about her having two kids. Yeah, I only had 1 and time was not something that I had a lot of. It could be a combination of things..different styles/needs, maybe she's pulling some guard(you have to when you have little ones to consider), and maybe she's super busy. I still think talking about it openly with her is the very best approach. There is not a thing wrong with expecting reciprocity or basic human consideration/respect. But try clearing it up..the answer could be a very easy compromise if you are both into each other. Good luck =)

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

Msg: 158 (view)

If you could change one day in your past, what... Posted: 11/17/2009 3:00:48 PM
Bad as some have been, I probably wouldn't actually change any of it. It's part of what makes me who I am today.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

Msg: 138 (view)

Have you ever fantasized about having sex with a transexual. Posted: 11/17/2009 2:49:01 PM
Shockingly, no. Suum Cuique..to each their own.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

Msg: 3 (view)

Complicated Girl Question Posted: 11/17/2009 2:47:12 PM
I know this feeling, lol. Had my first real encouter with a narcissist (spelling??) since my dad (so , yes I can disprove all those notions that we girls date men that remind us of our dads..I normally steer very clear of these..blame it on the hormones I suppose). Well ,I suggest that you ask her flat out. Open communication is always best. If she's narcissistic, you will definitely know it. Your job is to listen to it (easier said than done). If she's not, then openly communicating is the first step to coming up with something that works for both of you..a balance if you will. Either way, it's all good. It is most definitely no fun rowing the boat with one oar. Good luck.

ependa

Joined: 7/16/2009

Msg: 282 (view)

Smarter ladies have worse sex Posted: 11/16/2009 10:38:54 PM
not even a little ;-)

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