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vorax

Joined: 3/6/2006

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What do you do when he calls? Posted: 5/24/2006 1:57:17 PM
I think he's seeing someone else. MOST Men never leave one without having another. Indigo, I normally agree with most of what you say, and I think you may be right about this guy.... but as a general rule it's far from true that most men never leave one without having another. I would say that most women THINK that's true though and a lot of women tell themselves that's why he left. I know lots of guys, myself included, that have left women without having another lined up. I left my wife to move to an empty apartment because I'd rather be alone and happy then feeling alone and being ****ed at daily....hehe...she also thought I had someone else lined up...and so did her friends...I didn't, but I was happier then I had been in years :)

vorax

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ARE YOU REALLY ADVENTEROUS???? Posted: 5/24/2006 1:25:14 PM
Sounds like great fun to me :) While in Europe, my ex and I hid in the changing rooms of the hotel swimming pool, then snuck out after they closed up...there were windows to the outside (could see other buildings, was on 25th floor)...and a semi-transparent window that bordered with the bar...we could see shapes moving through the bar window, but they couldn't see us.... a hot tub and a pool and a tanning bed all in one spot... it was amazing... though since this was in the Netherlands, it probably wouldn't have been a big deal if we had been caught anyway. hehe

vorax

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why are guys such crying biscuits? Posted: 5/24/2006 12:52:59 PM
the "nice guy" isn't going to say anything about the woman having her own life. There are 'nice guys' and then there are "nice guys (tm)". I consider myself a 'nice guy'. If your insecure about it...perhaps it's because your a "nice guy (tm)"

vorax

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Msg: 26 (view)

why are guys such crying biscuits? Posted: 5/24/2006 12:44:50 PM
That's why I put this question before you. Why are (some) guys like this? I'm trying to get warning sign pointers so that I can steer clear of this type of guy. Two types of guys act like that: "Control freaks" and "Nice guys" Control freaks want to control you, your schedule and your life. Warning signs: almost undetectable until you actually interact with them...sorry. You could try challenging him in some way and see if he gets upset or reacts gracefully...not easy though Nice guys want to control you as well, but they do it by convincing themselves that they should do everything for you and place you on a pedestal. Your independence will be a threat to him because he himself is very insecure. He will get upset that your life is not aligned with his and outcomes like the one you described appear. They really believe that because they feel so strongly for you, you must for them and then they see your asserting your independence as an assult on them... Warning signs: to many emails, taking things to seriously to soon, confesses feelings for you before you've even met...general neediness (same applies for "nice girls") edit: second thought...he was a control freak

Vorax

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i really like him but................ Posted: 5/23/2006 4:38:34 PM
^^^ What she said

Vorax

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When do we start taking someone seriously Posted: 5/23/2006 4:34:23 PM
I messaged her on here and she did a read/delete. Ahhh...the old "read/deleted" -- the universal sign for..."move along please" Don't write her, if she writes you then fine...but unlikley

Vorax

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i really like him but................ Posted: 5/23/2006 3:53:51 PM
Hey Richard-uk, It's great you think the guy should be given the benefit of the doubt, but read after the last comma in this quote. :: wont tell me his address, wont let me pick him up from his home, or go out together in his home town.............. He won't go out with her in his home town.... nuff said. I could possibly believe the address thing or the house thing...but he won't be seen with her in his town? OP: Did he give you his home number? If he did, that would be a plus for him, if not...please refer to my previous post for an explanation.

Vorax

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OTTAWA BALLOON BASH MAY 26 AT THE LONESTAR!!!! Posted: 5/23/2006 3:45:20 PM
I've been coaxed to give it a try, so I'll be there

Vorax

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Interracial Dating..Advice Posted: 5/23/2006 3:39:23 PM
Well, post one and I'll hit on you so you can say at least one caucasian guy did

Vorax

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Interracial Dating..Advice Posted: 5/23/2006 3:22:39 PM
Most guys don't care much about ethnicity, if you posted a profile picture you'd probably get more responses from caucasians/asians.

Vorax

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Everything above the neck, say what you want...below..well.... Posted: 5/23/2006 3:20:37 PM
Not entirely right, but close... You can compliment a womans shoes ...

Vorax

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i really like him but................ Posted: 5/23/2006 3:16:41 PM
A few possiblities: - He's married - He's got a live-in girlfriend - He's actually an axe murderer and he keeps the bodies in his living room. - He's part of a terrorist cell and he "needs his privacy" - He's a cult leader and his house is full of juice drinkers that worship him when he adorns the sacred cow head - He's gay but experimenting behind the back of his "life partner" - He's an alien and can't afford for you to figure that out one other slim possibilty... He's telling the truth... no wait, that's just to way out there to beleive...pick any of the above, they are more likely

Vorax

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No Pic = Hot Chick? Posted: 5/22/2006 3:29:36 PM
Just reporting about the first meeting with the girl without a picture: Nice! She's very cute, smart and fun. I've been on 9 meeting dates in the last 3 weeks and this is only the second girl I've wanted to ask out again. She's was the only one that had no picture, she is definetly the cutest and I think she was the only one that contacted me first. No pic = equal hot? Not necessarily. But don't assume they won't be :)

Vorax

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Why are men so scared of women who know what they want and have it? Posted: 5/21/2006 10:04:14 AM
I agree with everyone else. No way would I contact anyone with such a negative profile. It doesn't sound at all like you know what you want - it sounds like you have more baggage then the underbelly of a 747. I'd suggest re-doing your profile and focus on writing about the positive things about you and the positive things you're looking for in a guy.

Vorax

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No Pic = Hot Chick? Posted: 5/20/2006 3:34:38 PM
Three reasons: 1) They don't want to be spammed 2) They don't want to be recognized 3) They want to choose who to talk to on their own I was recently contacted by a women with no profile photo (Reason #3 I believe). Her email sounded nice, her profile sounded like she was probably active and interesting. I decided to write her back, exchange a couple of emails, got her on MSN...then she shows me some pictures... First meeting date is tomorrow...

Vorax

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Tough Love Posted: 5/19/2006 3:22:04 PM
What the hell kind of place is this where common sense gets so much applause? A place where common sense isn't so common.

vorax

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WHAT WOULD YOU DO Posted: 5/18/2006 1:28:42 PM
Run!!! Don't even put on your shoes!!! Get up from your computer and RUN!!! Seriously though - That's exactly what happened with my marriage... HUGE mistake (combined with getting married to young) and that's why I'm posting on this forum 13 years later. If your not ready, don't do it. Find someone that's in the same place as you in terms of your views on starting a family. That's the kind of mistake that builds huge resentments later and eventually ends in divorce...and it's the kids will be the ones barring the brunt of that disaster. You can't compromise on something like that - it has to be right for you.

vorax

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Is there such thing as too private? Posted: 5/18/2006 1:14:41 PM
Ya, that's kinda lame. It's not like anyone is going to know where in that city you live. If you want to know how close she is, just do a search for women within 10 miles...then 25...etc till she pops up.

vorax

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Do people really go on dates on here Posted: 5/18/2006 8:55:02 AM
Hang in there, you'll meet people. You'll find it kinda comes in spurts - one week you might have none, the next week you're double booking and moving people to the following week. Be patient, and Good luck!

vorax

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Anybody date a shrink? Posted: 5/18/2006 8:47:19 AM
Anyone on here date a psychiatrist? Gotta hear the "war stories" as this sounds rather intriguging...... Intriguing...I'm curious why you'd ask. Tell me about your mother...were you breast fed?

vorax

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Why do you read Forums? Posted: 5/18/2006 8:41:55 AM
If I'm interested in womens profile and she has posted, I'll check it out - but that doesn't mean I'll keep visiting that forum. I like the forums because it's pure entertainment and fun to share the disasters and successes of online dating :)

Vorax

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Bogus Profiles? Posted: 5/17/2006 4:28:59 PM
So the implication here is that some profiles aren't bogus?? I thought I was the only one telling the truth? I keep telling the truth only for the novelty of it :) Do I sound jaded? Oh ya...I am. I've been on 8 dates in last two weeks...I recognized only one woman from her pictures...ONE... and it was more like recognzing a resemblance to how she might have looked 5 years ago...and had one girl tell me flat out 90% of her profile was a lie when I asked about stuff on it. I just assume everyone is lying now and meeting anyone on here is like walking into a bar with a blind fold on and talking to first women I bang into :)

Vorax

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Why do people ignore you after a date Posted: 5/17/2006 3:22:45 PM
"Hi, this is so and so, I enjoyed our date the other evening, but I really don't think you and I have any common ground on which to build. I wish you all the best life has to offer, take care." And then the next question is... "but why?"

Vorax

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Email I received this morning Posted: 5/17/2006 2:42:06 PM
Ya, I removed it. I'm not taking any chances after the posts I've seen in this and another thread :)

vorax

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Ever Wanna... Posted: 5/17/2006 1:27:58 PM
okay but what are some of the mean things you'd want to say , or funny? Well... I wouldn't, but it might go something like... Look, I'm only interested in dating females...human females.

vorax

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People response to an open mind Posted: 5/17/2006 12:16:01 PM
Wow - I just asked the same thing in another thread. I guess I got my answer....you women gotta get your minds out of the gutter!! lol I'll be editing my profile.

vorax

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Email I received this morning Posted: 5/17/2006 12:11:30 PM
I totally agree with the OP's position and response...but.... Since when does open-minded have sexual underpinnings?? I always read open-minded as someone that is more liberal thinking, not bound to their routines and beliefs, open to new experiences, adventurous - a free thinker. It could apply to sex, but also to ALOT more....get what I mean? OT, but should I remove "open-minded" from my profile? I don't want women getting the wrong idea and thinking I'm talking about sex. D

vorax

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At the end of a date and you're not interested what do you do? Posted: 5/15/2006 5:54:30 AM
When meeting someone for the first time, at the end of the date I'll hug them if I may be interested in seeing them again. If not, I shake their hand and say "it was nice to meet you." I guess I should add in the "good luck with your search" line as well. PS: ... I'm getting tired of shaking hands :(

Vorax

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Saying Goodnight :) Posted: 5/12/2006 4:16:41 PM
I think alot of women would find that klingy or needy...which translates into a very powerful women repellent.

vorax

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money or hard worker Posted: 5/12/2006 12:28:28 PM
Not everyone who's got money was born with it and not everyone who has money is an a$$hole. There are guys who make alot money, work hard and will love and respect a women and give them anything in the world....ahem...me...ahem...sorry, something caught in my typing fingers :)

vorax

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 5/12/2006 8:41:19 AM
Nope. I wouldn't buy a car without taking it for a test drive, why would I commit the rest of my life to a women without knowing what she's like in bed?

vorax

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we need a break - definition Posted: 5/12/2006 8:35:30 AM
Hehe...I do the breakin up! lol Seriously though, it's never happened to me, but I've had friends get that line and just get into a total state of insecurity because of it. I don't recall any of them actually getting back with the girl either.

vorax

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we need a break - definition Posted: 5/12/2006 8:29:22 AM
We need a break == ...I have temporarily delayed this breakup to because I am afraid to be honest... sorry for messing with your head

vorax

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Back to the ex! Posted: 5/12/2006 8:25:04 AM
How can you tell if someone has unresolved issues?? I'm seperated but I have no unresolved issues with my ex. I was on a date last week with a women who wasn't married but did nothing but talk about her ex boyfriend... Seperated is no different then "was in a long term relationship" - in either case, the person may still have unresolved crap... hell some people get hung up over "short term" as well. Judge people not by their labels, but by their person. If you've got doubts, ASK..if you don't like the answers LEAVE...but don't ASSume just because their status is "seperated" that they are anymore of a risk of having issues with their ex then anyone else is.

Vorax

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Bad first letters and replies.. Posted: 5/12/2006 5:19:59 AM
There must be some women out there that buy into that stuff, because there are women sending the same thing. The best I got was...: "i'm horny. you? do you have any pictures of your c**k?" ... her profile said she was seeking "friends"

Vorax

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Why is that when you leave a woman it cant be in peace? Posted: 5/11/2006 7:16:28 PM
It can be done. I left my wife and managed to keep it peaceful. Mind you, it took me three years of prep to get it to the point where it would be. I paid off all debts, waited till she got a job, left her everything we owned, worked out what I'd pay in child support and gave her a lump of cash to get her started. It took alot, but now it's paying off because the kids are ok (gave them time to adjust as well), all things are settled in writing (will make the divorce cheap and fast) and we aren't holding any grudges and get along like friends.

Vorax

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Should women show cleavage on first date Posted: 5/11/2006 4:52:07 PM
I haven't read what everyone else has said, but .... Are you kidding? So what if they show cleavage? Is it really a big deal to you? I guess living in a province where women are allowed to go topless, I just don't get it. Is this a really old thread that was started in the 50's? hehe

vorax

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other women checking you out on a date Posted: 5/11/2006 1:25:31 PM
If you're with another women, you are demonstrating to other women that there must be at least something worth looking at. The better looking your date is, the more women will check you out. When I was in Junior High, I was a computer geek with no girl friends. I went to my grade 9 prom with a senior from High School who was drop dead gorgeous...got lucky...well, the rest of my high school years were effected profoundly just because of being seen with her...zero to hero, just like that :)

vorax

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WHEN A MAN STEALS UR HEART THAN U NEVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN Posted: 5/11/2006 9:37:50 AM
TheHorse, It's all been good for you, but what about your wife? Why be married if you want to see other people? I just don't get it.

vorax

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WHEN A MAN STEALS UR HEART THAN U NEVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN Posted: 5/11/2006 8:35:32 AM
To be blunt OP - you were played. This guy was just looking for nookie on the side - you probably weren't even the only one. Infact, it may just be that he replaced you with another. Here's an obvious, but undervalued point - don't get involved with married people. If you think you are their priority, then 99% of the time they are just good liers. Forget about closure, it was never open - it was an illusion created by him to have sex with you.

vorax

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Can Relationships survive without a healthy sex life? Posted: 5/9/2006 1:14:51 PM
Anything can be made to work, but that's all it is without a good sex life, you are just living together....get a room mate, it'll be cheaper.

vorax

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Women! So you're smart, funny, independant and single.. Posted: 5/9/2006 1:11:52 PM
Trooth: Sounds to me like you want to be single but have a guy around when it is convenient for you, a desire to maintain independance is very self-centered. Interdependent = codependent = bad. Wanting anyone to be dependent on you is by definition self-centered and in practice controlling. People can work together but still do their own thing, and they will be MUCH happier for it.

vorax

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I spewed on my date Posted: 5/4/2006 1:16:36 PM
Note to self - Never take Morroccon women out to dinner

Vorax

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Dating Woes Posted: 5/3/2006 2:43:37 PM
I've had some pretty meaningful conversations online - it is doable. If you have things in common, it comes naturally. There's also the phone... If you want off after 15 minutes, then that's a sure sign right there that it's a waste of time meeting them

vorax

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Dating Woes Posted: 5/3/2006 12:59:43 PM
OP - How long are you talking to them before you meet them? I'm thinking you need to get some real, meaningful communications going before meeting these guys. Also, be strategic - Figure out as many things as you can about why these guys are wrong, make a list, then screen the potentials with that information.

vorax

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Like a punch in the Gut Posted: 5/3/2006 12:50:24 PM
I think the problem is that some guys (and girls) won't admit that they are dating other people as well, or still interested in getting to know other people, then they make up excuses to cover the ommission. This is dating, not marriage - but some people feel the need to lie. If a women asks to hookup or chat, and I'm going on a date, I'll just tell them - "Sorry, I'm going on a date" - might as well be honest about it. Most women seem to understand and I assume they are doing the same thing. To be honest, I'll respect her more if she can handle that piece of information and not feel insecure.

vorax

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Why do all my BF's cheat??? Posted: 5/2/2006 2:23:57 PM
Not all men are cheaters As to pregenant at 19 - ya, it's a mistake, but she was with the guy for 5 years...it happens. Here's a tip on finding a faithful men - find one that really loves you. If you have a true and real connection based on trust and respect, he's not going to cheat because he'll be so intoxicated with you that other women just become scenery. Good luck OP

vorax

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Abusive Women : Signs to watch out for Posted: 3/31/2006 12:06:59 PM
Lattimus - you have no idea what your talking about. Do you hit women? Seriously? No you say? Then what do you do when a women comes up behind you and smashes a chair over your head? Think about it...what do you do now? You could try to stop her -- but how? How can you calm someone who is raging down? If you leave one mark on her, your ass is going to jail because who will the cops believe? It's not that a man can't stop a women, it's that if he does, he is ****ed. This is the power a women has in today's society. This is why men can be abused by women.

vorax

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/31/2006 11:24:15 AM
I'm with you Stillinlimbo - I love the freedom I have now and I'm certainly not looking for an LTR any time soon. It's partially because I got married much to young originally. Now I know much better what I am looking for and I still have years to find it. My goal is basically to date as many women as possible to get the broadest sample I can and then shorten the list over the next several years until I'm left with just one. It's possible that someone will be "the one" and shorten my plan, and that would be ok too. It's all good.

Vorax

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A new lack of ambition reason enough to break up? Posted: 3/31/2006 5:04:04 AM
I think it's a good reason to break up. If someone has no ambition at 20 and is content with being in a dead end job, and that's not what you are looking for...then hell ya - go. Your just wasting your time and his otherwise - respect is a big part of a relationship and if you don't have it, it will go bad eventually.

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