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aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

Asking someone out in a drivethrew ??? Posted: 10/1/2009 11:10:59 AM
I agree. asking her inside will likely be seen by the supervisor and manager. not a good thing to get her in trouble at work. unless you're gonna stalk her till she finishes her shift

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 159 (view)

Rejection-men have been dealing with this a long time. Posted: 9/26/2009 6:13:35 PM
I can generally take rejection well but in moderation. It's REALLY discouraging to keep trying on online dating cause the rejection is alot "colder" and more frequent (if you've sent out alot of mails). It doesn't feel good when you see a whole list of "read delete". At this point, I've stopped with mailing girls on this site. Maybe I might try again a few months from now. But I've come to terms that this online thing ain't my cup of tea. Just here for the forums

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 41 (view)

Wife finds porn on computer and.... Posted: 9/23/2009 10:40:16 AM
To those women saying "why he need to resort to porn when he has me?" Unless wives/girlfriends will strip naked/open for sex on command, then porn is here to stay. Granted men shouldn't be so care-free to show their indulgence in front of their SO just to not hurt their feelings

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 22 (view)

I find this site disheartening.... Posted: 9/16/2009 8:26:52 PM
starfish342: How do you know what the other men on this site do? Just because you sit back and pray doesn't mean they do. Maybe I should've bolded "for the most part" for you. I didn't blanket ALL women as choosers and ALL men as prayers. Take it in context instead of face value

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 39 (view)

Why the nasty girl Posted: 9/16/2009 7:56:10 PM
OP, I hate to break it to you, but we men will judge you by the type of people you hang around with as well. So if I was going out with you, and constantly get baited to sleep with your friend, I'd have second thoughts about your judgment of character and sanity.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 18 (view)

When you see some new pics, and click to see if it's someone new... Posted: 9/16/2009 7:28:20 PM
I click on the photo, and I'll say "oh look, it's the same girl for the past 2 months... guess she's still looking for mr. supermodel"

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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I find this site disheartening.... Posted: 9/16/2009 7:23:58 PM
I just log in to interact on the forums now. I don't bother with msging the girls I feel are a match any more cause they just ignore it and won't talk to you. Women are for the most part the pickers and choosers here (and this experience isn't any different for other pay sites ). The men pretty much sit back and pray. I've been going to social meetups now and I've been talking to more girls than here. Granted I'm not dating them but at least I'm TALKING to them and having fun unlike the trash that is online dating. Don't bother with deleting your profile, you can leave it on and people will see what they missed :) If you do get any interest, you're gonna be notified by e-mail so you don't have to check in at all. So if you're ready to quit, just delete the shortcut to this site and walk away.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 52 (view)

Losing one's virginity, some say it's easy Posted: 9/14/2009 9:43:01 PM
I am under the strong impression my first GF devoured me for the purpose of taking my virginity =/

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 199 (view)

How do you teach a guy to give oral? Posted: 9/14/2009 9:38:47 PM
You're pretty much directing your own movie here.. "lick here..." "A little higher..." "left a bit..." "There!" "HARDER..." "FASTER...." "yes...." "Yes..." "YES!!!"

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 131 (view)

anyone ever had a psychic reading from an Ontario psychic? Posted: 9/13/2009 12:08:29 PM
There are several videos on youtube where Sylvia Browne was caught doing a bad reading. So there's quite a few skeptics about her.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 87 (view)

Do tall men like short, petite woman? or do men prefer women who they can see eye to eye with? Posted: 9/12/2009 10:26:11 PM
Though height to me is not a deal-breaker. I like fairly tall girls. Makes them look leggy :) And kissing them won't make me hunch my back.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 270 (view)

Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get? Posted: 9/12/2009 7:33:52 PM
it's funny cause I talked to my ex after we broke up and she was complaining that even though she was saying No to practically everything I should've been persistent cause she actually wanted to go but just wanted a push. I basically said "No, it shouldn't take me three times to get you to go out, it's your loss you pushed me too far back."

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 72 (view)

The curse of the Asian Persuasion. Posted: 9/12/2009 11:01:17 AM
I was talking to my friend (who is black) about this. First thing that he said was, "Cause asian women are smaller, therefore got a tighter vagoo"

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 38 (view)

Do all profiles sound the same to you? Posted: 9/11/2009 2:14:05 AM
Not including any profiles involving kids or divorced since I don't look at those.... 1. Love to travel, I want to fly twice a year and see the world before I die. I'm using your air miles. 2. Nothing much to say, don't want to show you my pic because that's shallow. So msg me for more info because I'm sooooooo mysterious! 3. I'm athletic, and outdoorsy and live dangerously. If you can't keep up with me I'll kick you to the curb 4. I like to get it on , on the first date. After Steak dinner... and the wine... and the limo. 5. Just looking for a friend and activity partners.... but if you ask me out, you're buying. 6. I'm just looking for someone to chat... but really I'm just looking for someone to boost my self-esteem.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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Internet vs. real life Posted: 9/11/2009 1:48:10 AM
Read Delete hurts, but I personally feel the READ and sitting in the inbox till expiration is more aggravating. I think the big difference between internet vs real life applies to the introvert and extremely shy. These people feel more comfortable and empowered behind the keyboard than real-time conversation. I find the real life interactions are more "friendlier" because they will often talk to you out of courtesy (but will try to ditch you if not attracted). As oppose to online which can abruptly end ; no goodbyes required. But the rules and results are the same. You're judged by how you're presented, and kicked to the curb in epic failure.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 47 (view)

looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 9/10/2009 8:35:17 PM
I'll play the shallow card and say the attractive photos will get me to read the profile. But I have been known to click on the clever / funny headline ones too. One of my favorites "Hurtin' for a Squirtin' " She was obviously joking but it got my attention and set up the impression that she can be a fun gal.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 24 (view)

Common Courtesy Posted: 9/10/2009 1:41:59 PM
Online Dating is the devil, I tell ya.. THE DEVIL

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 12 (view)

How can you tell if your best friend is interested in you, and not just sex? Posted: 9/10/2009 1:38:15 PM
"I waited 5 years... and IT WAS WORTH IT.... SEE YA!" sounds rediculous doesn't it.. LOL

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 56 (view)

The curse of the Asian Persuasion. Posted: 9/10/2009 11:21:42 AM
As an asian male, it's kinda funny maybe a lil sad that I get better interaction from girls outside my racial background. So it seems like most single asian girls I've been talking to want the 6' tall guy.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 13 (view)

Is anyone on here serious?? Posted: 9/9/2009 4:25:06 PM
they are serious, buuuuuut those people who are talking +50 people through this site have set the bar high for themselves that they will ignore just about any other average joe/jane that sends introductory emails to them. It's the nature of the beast. And ye, if you have no photo, you won't get the time of day either.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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He doesnt...I do Posted: 9/9/2009 8:04:26 AM
If you feel strongly about having a kid of your own (which is perfectly fine by the way), then you should bring it up with him. If he's putting his foot down on the issue, then you might wanna call it off. If he's "i'll think about it" , then you better have a mental deadline of how much time you'll give him before you pretty much walk. remember, don't get strung along and let him dangle that carrot over your head.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 13 (view)

To those outgoing guys Posted: 9/8/2009 10:44:23 PM
Well, for me I'll lose interest in a shy girl if she doesn't stop giving 3-word answers by the 2nd date.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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looking for friends? Posted: 9/8/2009 10:36:32 PM
all the people i've contacted who said they were looking for people of common interest or "hang out" are hypocrites. They claim to want to expand their social circles and meet new people. BULLOCKS. I've msg'd girls are the basis of common interest and was willing to forego any romantic advances and they still don't give the time of day. Full of crap I tell you.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 14 (view)

Why do women ask if they have to pay for the date? Posted: 9/8/2009 5:30:11 PM
I'll share in that beer, piano And well said my friend. But I should also mention that I hate it when i see the girl offers to pay just to use it as a front of looking all generous and giving and when the guy calls her bluff, she goes into a state of shock like she got caught with her pants down holding that check. I think someone in this thread gave such an example. Don't ever get caught and try to cover your bitterness if you got your bluff called on to pay. It'll just show how fake you are. Do it like you mean it!

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 12 (view)

Why do women ask if they have to pay for the date? Posted: 9/8/2009 5:10:29 PM
rule of thumb is get married ASAP and pay every outing through your JOINT ACCOUNT.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 214 (view)

Would you reject someone because of something in their profile? Posted: 9/8/2009 5:05:06 PM
I reject the women who smoke, promote excessive drinking or pretty much presents herself as a party animal/clubber. I'm a bit on the cautious side when the girl sounds obsessed with travelling around the world. (don't get me wrong, I want to eventually see other parts of the world too but not to the point of being a focal life goal)

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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Why do women ask if they have to pay for the date? Posted: 9/8/2009 4:27:04 PM
common opinion is that guys don't mind paying for the date but would like to at least hear the girl at least TRY to pay every now and then. So I think some women are following this. I personally don't think it's a bad thing or a turn off. Maybe the wording of it is depending on the situation. Regardless whether the guy takes her up on the offer is different for everyone. But it can work out. Just the gesture of the attempt goes the distance to the man's heart lol rather than sit arms folded with an automatic "thank you for footin the bill".

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 1409 (view)

People who just write how are you Posted: 9/8/2009 4:11:40 PM
varinia: So all that talk about outer packages just means this... "Did your photo make you look good"

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 203 (view)

What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 9/8/2009 4:06:47 PM
I learned that... -people who state "also looking for friendship/activity partner" are full of it and won't give you a response despite multiple common interests listed. -POF'ers would rather keep received mails in their inbox than delete it even when not interested. Trophy box any one? -Talking to a stranger in person is easier than starting something with an e-mail. i.e. Online dating sucks

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 1407 (view)

People who just write how are you Posted: 9/8/2009 3:48:47 PM
I've gotten, the "Hey Sexy, how's it going?". I thought it was nice. Didn't mind the shortness of it. She expressed interested. End of Story. that's all I would need for a first mail. I took the time and actually looked at her profile and gauged whether it was a plausible match or not. It'd be a different story if future emails were just one-liners, then that would a good time to turn tail and run. that reminds me... Out of experimentation, I wrote to this girl who seemed like the geeky type who was into comics (same as me). So I wrote the whole email in a comedic dramatic fashion reminiscent of a comic story. I thought it was a pretty clever work... but 2 words came from it. READ DELETE. All that work down the drain. And her profile even said looking for friends of common interest and she wouldn't even consider friendship from this email? So I said "SCREW THIS! Goddam hypocrite" :laugh:

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 51 (view)

Is being added as a favorite an invitation to e-mail? Posted: 9/8/2009 12:56:46 PM
yeh, I'm so sick of doing the 1st email to express the initial interest cause they LEAVE IT IN THEIR INBOX. I mean I would rather take a full rejection and see "read delete", than "read undelete" and be left wondering. So I pretty much go by the favorite system. I'll express the interest through fav and if she wants to fav back, I'll e-mail. If she emails first instead, even better.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 4 (view)

How long until you stop dating? Posted: 8/25/2009 11:33:31 PM
Sounds like she wants to use you to meet your friends.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 35 (view)

What u guys are really looking for in a girl? Posted: 8/10/2009 4:11:43 AM
Aside from some of the tasteful skill sets already mentioned, I'd prefer if the girl actually has a license to drive. I've known a couple of girls who have an innate lack of confidence and fear of getting behind the wheel and don't even want to be bothered with the idea at all. It's not an issue about willing to give her a lift. It's just a life skill and form of independance that would really help in family situations as well.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 35 (view)

How long will you use online dating? Posted: 8/9/2009 8:55:28 PM
Tried lava life for a month. ditched it. Trying POF for maybe 2 months at most so 4 more weeks to go. Aside from the forums, the email interaction is so scarce. Kinda better off hanging out with interest group gatherings

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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Honesty or player or both? Posted: 7/31/2009 12:43:27 PM
Msg1, that practically gave me a heart attack cause that's what I would usually say in some form or another. I'd be so pissed if a simple statement like that labelled me a "player"... W T F indeed

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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Are they interested or just ...? Posted: 7/31/2009 11:47:38 AM
Got a question , ladies............................................................ Just recently start emailing responses to some of the girls' profile but there's a puzzling pattern going on with some of them which leads me to this question..... Do you ever keep the first contact emails for days but don't reply with an ulterior motive in mind. Cause some girls are showing to have read my introduction email, keeping it , but not replying. So I'm a little confused if they're interested or just keeping it as part of a trophy case

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 31 (view)

Contact rules Posted: 7/30/2009 10:35:06 PM
Speaking of contact emails.... I'm new to POF's online experience so I'll ask the veterans here. Typically when you send / receive the first email from someone, I assume you either read and delete when its not a match. or reply back if you're interested. But what are people doing keeping the email after they've read it in their inbox for a good 10+ days and not doing anything with it? I'm very curious about this . And some are even just for friendship too. Are they saving it like a trophy case of hits or just workin down the list when the guy they're currently seeing doesn't work out? or just don't want to clear the inbox ? Prolly a bit of everything but what is it usually?.... Shrugs

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 6 (view)

dating a co-worker Posted: 7/29/2009 6:30:08 PM
she's likely telling everyone at work you guys are not together to avoid the "stigma" associated with romance in the workplace. If she's not really up for a true relationship, she's just making out with you to relieve her sexual tension.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 177 (view)

Lavalife. Posted: 7/29/2009 6:11:41 PM
I just tried lavalife. But there's WAYYYY too many fake accounts there. I like the search engine better than POF, but the quality of people here feels better. More down to earth so to speak. Plus, on lavalife, all I get is spammed by these "hot" girls that strike up a VERY short conversation then suddenly tries to sucker invite you into seeing her webcam site and try to get your credit card. What a b!tch. I'd avoid that site unless you're looking for intimate encounters.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

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anyone ever had a psychic reading from an Ontario psychic? Posted: 7/29/2009 6:05:15 PM
I'm fascinated on the topic of psychics... but still a major skeptic at best. I love how all the psychic reading signs always say "for ENTERTAINMENT purposes only" Just turn around... and walk away. lol Is there any more festivals coming up?

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 32 (view)

Do you really get more replies when your picture is posted! Posted: 7/29/2009 5:59:49 PM
I don't contact anyone without a photo. Some form physical attraction has to come to play if you're looking for dating (doesn't have to looking a super model or have big boobs). Maybe not so much if it's activity partner you're looking for. But it's funny when I see profiles with no photo, virtually very little info to gauge the person's personality and then it's finishes with "Msg me to find out more". Sorry, that kind of thing just gets passed on. And then there's the people who do post pictures but actually of rarely seen foreign celebrities and some are actually getting away with it. Rediculous.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 37 (view)

Fatal mistake: too available Posted: 7/26/2009 10:18:23 PM
Oh man, this tactic of appearing busy and turning down an outing just to play hard to get. Absolutely hate it. This is a recipe that has a good chance to backfire on you if you really liked the guy. Think of it this way, you pull that stunt the first time, and then you had to turn him down again cause something really did come up, then it'll start putting up red flags that you didn't intend to and the "game" is over. But with that said, you don't have to accept the invite if you're not up for it. just be conscious of the signal that gives if you turn him down too often.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

OK is this a Saturday-nite funk or wtf? Posted: 7/25/2009 10:55:04 PM
did you check their last log in time? there are some people that only log in 1 time a week. I currently have some girls with unread mails myself and they haven't logged in since last friday sooo.. either they just happen to find someone or they only log in sporadically.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 343 (view)

Will a non smoker date a smoker ? Posted: 7/25/2009 9:59:10 AM
I can't stand the smell of cigarettes so I wouldn't date a smoker. And it's a sign of someone who refuses to talk care of his/her body so I just can't be around that. Yes, i know there's those people that work out and play tons of sports and smoke a 12-pack at the end of the day. Seems so counter-productive but to each their own.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 306 (view)

When the bill comes on a first date... Posted: 7/24/2009 10:44:10 PM
So is that what's going on these days? So to avoid ever paying, that's why ladies never ask men out and hence men must always made the first move rule got derived from? ;) /kidding. A more frugal approach for first dates seems like the safe way to go especially for active daters who are constantly meeting new women. Guess that's why there's so many "coffee date" suggestions in the first date section of many profiles . The "who ask first pays" rule tends to get broken after a while when things get better and serious. In my past relationships, I always foot the bill for the initial sets of outings. But somewhere along the line, the girl would insist on paying. So it's rather sweet they provide this gesture every now and again.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 19 (view)

Your personal opinion Posted: 7/24/2009 7:02:44 PM
Hi OP, definitely an appealing physical attraction to start it off and then personality to balance if not outweigh it completely. I've looked through a few local good-looking girls on POF, and despite liking what I see visually, there are times when I can sense a lil vibe from the way they write their profile that puts me off and just won't attempt to contact her. Similar effect goes with meeting girls in person. If there's a side to her that adamantly isn't tolerable then I guess we'd have to part ways. Bottom line is, good looks can't make up for incompatible personality. I will gladly drop the supermodel GF if she's just plain evil.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 5 (view)

Tardiness...How long to wait for someone to show up? Posted: 7/24/2009 5:50:08 PM
15-20 mins is forgivable every now and again. But being 30 mins to an hour late without notice is pretty bad but $#!T happens. A future date would depend on whether the person had a damn good reason and still manage to have a good time at the end. If he does become late AGAIN, then something is just wrong.

aznplate

Joined: 7/20/2009

Msg: 16 (view)

Worst Date. Ever. Posted: 7/24/2009 10:54:33 AM
OP, I think you definitely got punk'd big time. But ye, I'll echo the sentiment that it was definitely a class act seeing the day through to the end. But I love how people would try to dodge photo requests and on top of it antagonize the person who asked by implying he/she is "superficial" if insisted. Although there may be some hint of truth to it, it's a procedure that has to happen to prevent disappointing mishaps like these. I don't even call it a fair blind date if she already saw your profile. Since she saw what OP had to offer, the LEAST she could do was reveal the same and then let BOTH sides agree to even go on the first date. this is online dating people..... get with the program.

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