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inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 63 (view)

starting a family after 40 Posted: 11/14/2009 4:02:27 PM
men really don't mature fully until about 40. think of it this way...what did you want when you were 30? men are behind women maturely about 10 years. so being 40 as a guy is like 30 for a woman. the perfect time if most men would wait to start a family and marriage is 40 and to a woman that's 30.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 37 (view)

someone please try and help me understand... Posted: 11/13/2009 2:50:15 PM
i don't even know what to say about this other than...man this kid has GREAT parents. thanks for bringing this bundle of joy into the world that my kids may someday meet. wow....thanks.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 149 (view)

Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially? Posted: 11/13/2009 2:13:49 PM
of course they aren't looking for you to take care of them financially. gez...they are independent women with careers and...oops forgot about this one...loads of child support. hmmm...wait a minute i guess they are one way or another. nevermind.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 29 (view)

Well you chose them Posted: 11/13/2009 2:05:46 PM
i agree with someone who said people don't change. it's one thing being married to someone who had a midlife crisis and decided to up and leave, it's totally another thing to have a child out of wedlock where you keep complaining about the person who had you up against the shower over and over and over and over again. very poor choices with numerous birth control options out there. no it's not the man's problem because as women, you are the ones that have the child and carry it. i know people don't want to hear this but as a mother it's more responsibility on the woman to be safe. not only if the man leaves but what if he goes to war and dies or dies from a disease. so you really have to think which of course you didn't and not only that....if the guy you let into you over and over and over again was so bad....look at your kid because he's got half that DNA just because he ain't around doesn't mean his crappy genes weren't passed on. duh!

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 277 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/11/2009 1:44:40 PM
if it's a woman's right to keep the child and not be on birth control, then it's her choice and her's alone. don't drag the man into it or call him a deadbeat. besides by calling the father of your child a deadbeat, you're calling yourself stupid and your child (who is half his deadbeat dad) a loser. birth control is no mystery, if you choose to have one, then you do all the work and support. we all know the statistics about children growing up without a father and unfortunately there's too much incentive to keep the pregnancy. free government handouts, handouts from the unsuspecting man for 18 years. Let's not also talk about this is a occassional occurance considering 40% of children are born out of wedlock now and a 50% divorce rate. that suggests....some kind of kid racket...like free money. well all know what's happening. anyone that says differently is lying.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 29 (view)

Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize? Posted: 11/10/2009 8:34:51 PM
I think with the internet a lot of people get the high of being contacted or wanted so to speak and then enjoy it for the moment like chocolate and it's like shopping at walmart on the internet. no personal contact, no feelings, not remorse or consideration. totally annoymous. the good on the internet are few and far between on the internet...or maybe they aren't but it's like this. when a telemarketer calls you on the phone it's easy to say no but in person it's not so easy because it's a real person standing in front of you. it's not a webpage you can ignore or click off of.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 22 (view)

Are you available; or jus wasting my time Posted: 11/6/2009 2:49:19 PM
wasting time with idiots is something i don't put up with unless of course like i said...god has obviously given you more time on this earth that the rest of us. why do you waste your time?

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 170 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/6/2009 2:41:56 PM
the whole fact that marriage in the west is legalized and a huge industry (the divorce industry) has been created because of it, really turns most off. divided assets, attorneys, child custody....all the rest. there's no benefit to it with the current laws.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 42 (view)

Grief turning to anger Posted: 11/6/2009 2:17:33 PM
this is worse than a soap opera. where's her real dad? if he's not around then she has to deal with 2 men leaving her life or you forcing her to love her stepfather while her biological connections will always want that comfort of the man that made her. your forcing issues here you have no understanding with. back off her.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 19 (view)

a single dads shattered heart Posted: 11/6/2009 2:02:39 PM
dude...tampons are to your left...tissues to the right. jesus....unless you're trying to come across as the sensitive guy...which girls will want you as a friend but nothing more. really bad call dude...very bad call.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 165 (view)

Should I put up with it for the sake of our daughter, or not? Posted: 11/6/2009 1:54:22 PM
sometimes the man gets verbally abused and he knows that if he does anything...his ex is just waiting for an excuse for a restraining order or anything. she was keeping my daughter away from me and poisoning her head that i didn't love her enough. there's only so much to take before you realize that you've lost the child and nothing will be the same and the drama you have to put up with to see a child that does not think, feel, or has been raised anything like you want....sometimes they become a stranger and you have to take care of yourself, lick your wounds and survive.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 252 (view)

An unofficial look at CS payment amounts. Posted: 11/4/2009 8:08:13 PM
we as men know this now. so we get wiser about it. and also we all know that i don't ever want to do that again. and let's face it, women you all have the power of the courts, the law, playing the victim over the few that actually have a valid gripe about leaving your marriage. so as men, we now understand that and CS and alimony is just welfare and we all know what happens when people get stuff for free for doing nothing! yes i'm a jerk to most of you women that left your marriage if you are feeding me your lines. so let's cut down to the brass tax on this shall we? it's a big game and we all know that fathers suck, mothers are great and that's how it is. so keep it in your pants, never make the same mistake again and look to never make this mistake again as men. we gave people too much power and it's abused. now we know different but we keep making the same mistake because...the thing between our legs. well if we thought about not doing it then we wouldn't be talking about little junior needs braces and is that considered or is she going to take me to court. so keep it in your pants gentlemen, don't date a lot and don't get yourself into this mess. it's an easy fix but no one wants to have the balls to stop screwing around. men or women. and who is screwed after the fact...mostly the responsible man. so god...this is brutual it's like everyone seeing the airplane falling out of the sky towards them but like the bright shiny colors even though it's going to crash right into them.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 251 (view)

An unofficial look at CS payment amounts. Posted: 11/4/2009 7:55:30 PM
this is absolutely rediculous to continue this thread. the facts are this...if there was no child support and no alimony the divorce rate would be next to 0% only for the women that could not stand the constant beating and abuse. Now it's easy, free and a free paycheck. EVERYONE ON THIS THREAD KNOWS THAT EVEN THOUGH YES YOU WOMEN THINK YOUR INDEPENDENT. okay if you're so independent than you don't need socialist support or a free paycheck just because you had children. now if there's no guy around then....a lot of you go to the government and shriek....hey i spread my legs and got pregnant...doesn't that count for something? no it freaking doesn't. if you leave your marriage barring the guy wasn't beating you senseless then that's your choice so you support the children on your own. this is all bullcrap. CS, alimony is all bullcrap. it's a mix of women wanting equal rights but if men still have to put up with getting financially screwed because they married you guess what? YOUR NEVER GOING TO GET EQUAL RIGHTS. ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever ever until the courts give the dads the kids and make you pay and live like crap because your man decided to screw another woman and because he has your kids and decided he wanted "some more fun" that is exactly what is happening. you all can argue it all you want, everyone knows exactly what's happening. i don't know if you all are trying to fool people or like hearing yourselves talk but we all know what's happening. this is rediculous going on for like 10 pages about what calculation to use.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 42 (view)

Baby mama drama Posted: 11/3/2009 3:42:12 PM
unless he's a nuclear engineer that can afford lawyers every 2 months, daycare for 8 children when you all want to kill them, and other stuff i would not be so sure about this. Ummm you should always make decisions in life based on one principle...will this make my life easier or harder and by harder i mean harder in a bad way not a good way. think of it this way, would you befriend a screaming person in the store? probably not considering you don't want the drama. there are other men out ther.e

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 240 (view)

An unofficial look at CS payment amounts. Posted: 11/3/2009 3:35:11 PM
yes conscious soul i have a house and pay tons of child support and still have one of my kids still living with me full time so i know how much stuff actually costs and the incremental cost of having the child live with me, go clothes shopping, food shopping, gas, car, blah, blah, blah. think i'm just a b.i.t.c.h.y single dad? you assumed wrong. so i have experience on both sides of the fence so i know exactly what i'm talking about. before you think i'm bashing it, i also have children living with me full time. you know what they say about assuming right?

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 38 (view)

Confidence - the double edged sword Posted: 10/30/2009 9:15:19 PM
Asking this question means you still don't understand. You ask for anything from a woman if she's attractive...big deal. she's still just a human being. Never give away your confidence by acting nervous. what's there to be nervous about? nothing but also don't waste your time on the ones that don't want to talk to you and never get discouraged. you could meet a woman having a bad day, some might not like you but who cares. you'll experience tons worth things in life. trust me.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 263 (view)

after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 10/29/2009 6:02:28 PM
for men it's easier. we get the first or second round of divorcees that have been through the bad boys and now realize...oh crap...got to find a good man and us good men that have been good now have our pick but we don't like now that they are looking for us. we know the score so it's pretty dam easy.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 165 (view)

At what age do you Just Give Up? Posted: 10/29/2009 5:30:58 PM
this is america...you don't give up. maybe you adjust your strategy but give up?...search the world instead of the back yard because there is this thing called the internet. i hate it when people give up like...well there's no one good around me...well they make cars, trains, buses, planes, passports....don't waste time with stupid women. search and wait for the right one but don't give up.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 306 (view)

Abusive Women : Signs to watch out for Posted: 10/29/2009 3:55:23 PM
oh this is extremely easy question i've been married to 2 of them. Number 1 1. they complain about always being a victim and usually are pretty cute. make you want to save them. 2. look at their mother or parents. if they so much as complain one bit about how abusive their parents were...they are as well. 3. pattern of abusive ex boyfriends (so she says). 4. complains life isn't fair even when you see that the mistakes in her life are actually her fault. she will soon blame you and verbally abuse you. easy question...and abusers never show it until they know....they got you!

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 46 (view)

Best friend was hitting on your spouse. What would you do? Posted: 10/28/2009 7:19:10 PM
next time my wife went out with her friends i'd have a good looking guy try to hit on her and see how she acts. that would tell me if i should be loyal to what party and who to believe.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 133 (view)

An unofficial look at CS payment amounts. Posted: 10/28/2009 5:23:40 PM
child support is bullcrap. if a woman did not have children she would still need...a house, a car, gas in the car, food (and let's face it if you make hamburger helper for 3 instead of 1 how much more is that really), she needs electricity even if alone, water, and cable tv. so what is child support really. let's say the kids have 200 dollars every 6 months in new clothes. 150 extra a month for food, 200 for extra curricular activies a year. let's say 50 dollars more in gas to drive them a month here and back to soccer practice. 50 a month for school lunches. so a person needs a house, car, electricity, water, gas in there in tank, anyway without children. so roughly the incremental cost of raising a child is about 3,000 dollars a year. now, the ex is responsible for let's say 40% of it. so the guy should pay 60% of that incremental cost of raising a kid. so about 1700 a year. or about 140 dollars a month. now if there is daycare for a toddler then he should pay half that cost or 300 max more a month so about 440 max a month. now if the child is a teenager, then there is no law that says that dad has to pay if they want a cell phone or a car or car insurance. those are luxuries and i had to work for that when i was a teenager. so that shouldn't be computed. so barring extenuating circumstances like your child has multiple personality disorder and needs hospitalization child support is a free income to the mother. now if she says well she doesn't work well......i bet she would have to if the ex died now wouldn't she? everyone needs to work but not if they are rewarded for not working. so i don't mind child support but the whole calculation is all screwed up. people need the basics without children and there is such a thing as saying "no" to a child or not dragging him to the doctor every second for a sniffle and making the ex pay for it. if they were single and no child support or still in a husband and wife marriage they would say....think the kid is sick enough to go...we really can't afford it. but because they can...they drag them, hold out their hand and say i can do what i want so pay up. some women don't get any money. and i think that sucks. but the majority that do based on the calculations, you know you're ripping people off. no worse than the banking industry right now.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 152 (view)

What sign goes good with an aries? Posted: 10/28/2009 5:11:15 PM
zero! i'm an aries. it ain't about that because so far, none have been really compatible. it's the people, not the sign that are incompatible.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 185 (view)

Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/28/2009 3:05:54 PM
amen to that. i plan on retiring in the phillipines. no crazy divorce crap. and if you notice there's no such thing as divorce in those countries or very small. and it does eliminate the whole green card crap. if you love one from there....sure go marry her and say...i'll be back in 5 years...but don't bring her over here. look halloween is coming up and if someone had a bucket of candy that said....please just take one, how many of you would not think about taking more? it's like the divorce industry. it's bigger than microsoft and IBM combined. it's a business so if someone dangled in your face money if the relationship was getting boring, and you could take a lot of money and go screw pedro the 19 year pool boy, who wouldn't do that? jez...look at hulk hogan's ex wife? now screwing a 19 year old. i rest my case for remaining a bachelor with your own place.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 121 (view)

How do we Unlearn behavior? Posted: 10/27/2009 8:48:58 PM
i have learned in life to look very carefully at a woman's upbringing or people's for that matter. learned behavior is never fully undone. with therapy it can be turned around somewhat but the brain will always want to go back to that behavior. think alcoholics annon. those people make a choice not to drink but their brain still wants one and they fight it everyday but still....it's hardwired into them. same with abusers, cheaters, whatever. once hardwired, they can't change totally. best bet maybe 50%. people never change.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 100 (view)

My ex-husband cheated = The sex was bad Posted: 10/27/2009 8:44:48 PM
no that's completely wrong it's how a woman respects and loves the man. sex is important but....if she's a good woman it wouldn't matter if he married her and she was in a wheelchair he would not even consider cheating on her or having sex with someone else. a guy is a guy he's just happy to get sex. good sex, bad sex, whatever sex so it ain't about that and if any of you guys say...oh yes it was your full of...sh#t. it's about the woman and if she respects you and you respect her. you wouldn't even consider it. just another excuse.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

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Is it too late? Posted: 10/27/2009 8:40:52 PM
yeah because at 35 they've realized...marriage isn't that great of a deal for men in the west. brings no benefits and all legal consequences. why can't you love a woman without marriage....too much business riding on it. men over 35 who never married have figured that out. they are the ones enjoying the spoils of the rest of us suckers.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 328 (view)

Why don't men date single mothers...the answer Posted: 10/27/2009 8:28:37 PM
look for all those on here trying to prove their point of view...great...quit freaking emailing me like you need to drive your point home on my email. save it for the forum. unless your stupid that is what this forum is for, not my email. if you can't save it for this then take a xanax or prozac before you hit the send button. jesus...and you wonder why people won't date you.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 854 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 10/27/2009 6:51:46 PM
look...i am almost 42 i could have been with a woman that is a famous fashion designer in london and i'm not rich. money means nothing. the older you get you want peace more than anything else.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 68 (view)

What ever happened to Love Posted: 10/27/2009 6:39:53 PM
jesus man...what's wrong with all you on here? i'm almost 42 but GOD you all sound like you got hit with a bus with love on the front of it and don't want to ride it anymore without an insurance policy. You think they give gold stars out in heaven for not living?

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 87 (view)

Is he stringing me along or is this goodbye? Or am I the ONE. Posted: 10/27/2009 6:35:03 PM
okay for all you females out there that want to understand men...here's a clue if he wants to be with you forever, he will never let you go and want to be with you and tell his guy friends...screw that i don't want to watch football i'm with her. other than that, good luck you're wasting your time.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 82 (view)

What is your expectations of the perfect man/women for you??? Posted: 10/27/2009 6:31:32 PM
that's like asking someone what their favorite food is or favorite color or favorite type of movie. dumba.s.s. question you're going to get 120000 results. asking that is like playing the lottery. stupid question. do you want to know what brittany spears is doing tonight to?

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 139 (view)

41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this! Posted: 10/27/2009 6:28:33 PM
sure let me enlighten you...you're looking for someone to say it's okay because at 41 you are in your prime before your reproductive system shuts down forever...that's why you're so dam horny and you want these guys. be very, very careful i know lots of women around 40 that go insane because of this and screw every man they can get their hands on. not a bad deal for men but may be for you....

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 50 (view)

Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot? Posted: 10/27/2009 6:25:32 PM
the sweet spot is being 25 with the knowledge i know now. for most men our age, a divorce has cured us as thinking we are in a "sweet spot". if i could do it all over, i wouldn't even date til 40.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 114 (view)

Dating a 27 yo girl for several months but she won't have sex Posted: 10/27/2009 6:16:37 PM
unless she's a virgin dude you're a freaking idiot. she did it with other guys if she's no virgin but she doesn't want to with you. idiot.....unless god gave you extra time on this earth to waste on women that aren't into you what are you doing?

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 69 (view)

why do most of you think kids NEED two parents? Posted: 10/27/2009 4:17:57 PM
hey idiot...you're not a woman unless you want to be. they provide stuff you cannot to a child. if she's a bad mom then that sucks but yeah...a child needs two well adjusted parents to have the best chance at life and know what they want in a family...unless of course family isn't important anymore. i mean really it's only been around for thousands of centuries but now no one needs it.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 156 (view)

Why Are There So Many Abusive Men? (Not Here) Posted: 10/27/2009 4:15:17 PM
are there really that many abusive men? maybe because they were raised by single moms or single dads alone....who knows. or they are spoiled brats? why do most women want to divorce? money, what? no one knows. must be our wonderful society. something doesn't work, hire a lawyer and turn the page....the american way.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

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fall in love too quickly? Posted: 10/27/2009 4:02:23 PM
because he had sex with you and got those stupid chemicals in his brain working without knowing you long enough. trust me i have been a victim of that and probably most younger guys...hence why i'm divorced. i never even utter those words until i know exactly what type of toilet paper she likes, what side of the bed she likes to sleep on, her whole childhood, how she acts when angry, how she treats me, and lots of other things. takes a long a.s.s time to know someone. or else he's just one of those borderline personality people...i love you then two months later...i hate you i'm sleeping with someone else.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 81 (view)

Do women speak better than men? Posted: 10/26/2009 7:28:34 PM
better..um no...more...yes. so you're telling me that all those heads of corporations that are men suck at speaking or all the presidents? that's hilarious.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 471 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/26/2009 7:25:55 PM
umm in this economy it's becoming common and even you might be one of them that has to do that. If you do then we'll all laugh at you to for being down on your luck and ignore you then

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 70 (view)

Why do men with kids respond to my ad? Posted: 10/26/2009 5:44:52 PM
it's your choice and you don't have kids so if you don't want to consider me because i have them, then i respect your choice. not your problem to step into someone else's mess when you haven't made a mistake yourself. ignore those guys.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

Does Sex Change How you feel ? Posted: 10/26/2009 5:29:39 PM
well when you have sex it releases these chemicals like a drug and can cloud your thoughts and feelings and you can ignore red flags. Then of course if a man is getting good sex then it's gonna be hard for him to let that go even if he doesn't want the woman so it can create a big problem if done too soon. It's no secret that women use it as a weapon sometimes, it just does something to the male brain to get good sex. Also if a woman is lonely and she hooks up with a player the gives her good sex and says he loves her, that could be a problem as well. So I'm 41 and i've made my mistakes of jumping in too soon (and the divorce to prove it) so it's better to know the person first if you're serious about a LTR. Also I've seen many times where both people say they just want casual sex and one gets emotional where the other one just viewed it as sex so in a lot of times it is better to wait.

inncsearching

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Msg: 56 (view)

Here is my theory on why I am the ONLY one he has ever been faithful to Posted: 10/25/2009 8:00:39 PM
yeah...how would you know if he cheated on you? if he's a serial cheater don't think you're so special. wait....he told you and you believed him. if he's a cheater he's more likely a liar to. wait again...not with you.

inncsearching

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Msg: 28 (view)

Is desperation always bad? Posted: 10/25/2009 7:57:11 PM
no not at all. deep down inside we all want to find that person and whether people want to admit it or not we all are desperate to find that person. who the heck wants to go through life alone? if people say...oh i'm fine with that then okay...cut off your junk between your legs and become a robot. human beings need each other. only thing is if you show desperation the narcissists or crazies can pick up on that. they are trained to pick up on desperation.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 116 (view)

Would you date a cheater Posted: 10/25/2009 7:47:44 PM
well some people cheat because their husband or wife isn't even around so that's not that big of a deal, i just don't know why they don't end it first. usually they always need someone before they do it. the idea of cheating is the same as working on a project. sometimes the project gets tough so if you do cheat it means that you're giving up on the project before the completion. how hard is it to end a relationship before you cheat? not very. well to those that say that monogomy isn't natural to human beings...well okay fine but morals are so end it first and go on your way. why hurt another human being, that's selfish, self centered and stupid. And if you cheat you don't really feel that good about yourself so your self esteem is crap and when your self esteem gets low...you'll cheat again to bring it up again or need more and more attention to bring it up. then you'll cheat again to bring it up but...it brings it lower. If you don't feel horrible about it then your a narcissist. either way who wants to be with either? what's so hard about ending it first even if your a serial dater or something? because...cheaters are selfish and drama queens or kings.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 198 (view)

Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy Posted: 10/25/2009 1:16:10 PM
im with ya brother. after screwing every woman i dated by the third date, i'm waiting for one that doesn't give it up or has so easily. god gave me hands for a reason. good ones are willing to wait for

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 174 (view)

Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:26:43 AM
being a bachelor in america with the divorce rate and the court system is actually the smart thing to do. who says you can't love a woman and live with her and if things don't work out theres no huge legal crap because when a relationship breaks down it boils down to one thing....back to being selfish and if you're not married then the selfishness doesn't get into divorce court. it's smart being a bachelor. if they changed the laws most all men would be married and most women would not file for divorce. the divorce rate would drop like a prom dress on prom night and divorce would only be between the truly abusive relationships. so being a bachelor is actually extremely smart.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 44 (view)

do your breakups revolve around the same issues? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:21:36 AM
two types of relationships: 1. wow they are attractive. great sexual chemistry. ignoring the incompatibilities until the dopomine in the brain calms down from the newness and people start realizing the differences they didn't see while they were screwing. 2. relationship starts out good. good chemistry. everybody is good. then communication breaksdown, respect is lost for some reason or trust. the relationship that could have been good breaks down on the lose of one of those. 3. one party has emotional issues from the past, can't go forward with it. these are the worst.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 162 (view)

I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:16:18 AM
and okay i concede to the woman that say they are independent and stuff....then pay for the dam dates and show us how independent you are? equality right? pay for all of it. it's an equal country right? so when we ask you out, we'll ask you where you're independent head wants to take us out to, we'll waste your independent money, and then you aren't a whore and you have the upper hand and are in the driver's seat. we will say we like horse back riding, walking on the beach so take out that independent check book and show us a good time then we will tell you if we want to go out on another date with your independent self so you can waste money on us. Look as a 41 year old man I've realized that every woman with their clothes off gives you the same things so it ain't so wonderful after you've been with some women you start looking at other things and if you're independent then...i can wait and not so concerned with if you'll give it up. Not like I haven't been there before. But who wants to fight through a woman that says she's independent and then wants you to work and pay for her date or say she is when it suites her. then resort back to the...well you're a guy so you're suppose to have a good income and blah, blah, blah. Men you all need to wake up and realize that she's coming into your world and vice versa. Don't ever let a woman know she controls the whole thing....it's your life to. she's got to work for it to. doesn't matter how independent or attractive she is, she will get old and guys will eventually stop asking her out when her looks fade and her kids are driving her nuts. sometimes these forums get totally out of hand with such feministic speach. ya can't have it both ways. feminist when you want, and go back to traditional woman when you don't and independent. crazy crap.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 161 (view)

I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:04:35 AM
and if your on a dam dating site then what are you here for if you're so independent and don't need anyone? to get a free screw? okay well they make other sites for that. who wants to fight through the mentality of "i don't need you" well okay then that person will think i'll be with someone that does.

inncsearching

Joined: 7/22/2009

Msg: 160 (view)

I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:00:43 AM
i totally agree it is a red flag. that's like a man telling a woman, I don't need a woman. look god put men and women on this planet to be together so if they say that it means one of a few things: 1. they've been f#cked and chucked and hurt by so many men that they gave away their heart and never can get over that pain. big red flag. they are emotionally unavaliable. 2. they are hiding behind the fact that they are weak really. people that always proclaim to the world they are this or that put up a defense because if you ever got through it then you would see they are the exact opposite. 3. they have daddy issues from their past. there is nothing wrong with being independent, everyone is until they meet that person and the thing is so many people are worried that they don't want to rely on someone else. well duh look at the military what if every soldier in the military said, "we don't need teammates" duh. what if a corporation said "we don't need our employees" co-dependency in a wonderful relationship and to rely on each other is what it's all about so if anyone says those things...run and fast. I've been crushed by a few divorces but i'm not ashamed to say...i need a good woman. i'm a man...i would like a good woman one day.

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