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Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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So you meet a guy and really think he's good b/f material but... Posted: 6/1/2007 11:35:30 PM
Well thankfully things have slowed down a bit, and I get to be home a couple weeks each month, now of course, I'm single and it doesn't matter anymore! I am starting to wonder about this whole Karma thing! LOL

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Ok I need a review after some changes. Brutal Honesty is required Posted: 6/1/2007 9:47:40 PM
Ok, made some changes after rediscovering the site.... What you think now?

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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So you meet a guy and really think he's good b/f material but... Posted: 6/1/2007 6:00:20 PM
You make me Blush!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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CLASSIC ROCK JAM, RICHMOND @ THE PUMPHOUSE SUNDAY a weekly event! Posted: 6/1/2007 5:52:22 PM
I will try hard to make it this Sunday nite! Keep an eye out for me. I play keys and do some Vocals...First timer so be nice! See you there all.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Edmonton Oilers offensive problems? Posted: 2/20/2007 6:03:22 PM
To the OP (only 6 pages late) The main reason for the Oilers offensive issues this year, is the lack of a quarterback defenseman who can make the intelligent break out pass out of the zone. When your team is limited to the dump and chase offense, you are easier to defend against. Not that I am saying that anyone like this is available, but the Oil need to deal for at least one Offensive D-Man that move the puck in a hurry and do it intelligently. Would go a long way towards solving their problems. Playoffs? I'm a HUGE Oilers Fan and have been for 29 out of my 30 years. But I am not expecting too much this year. Maybe it's time to trade a guy like Smitty or Steve Staios on D for someone younger and more mobile while you can get something for him.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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So you meet a guy and really think he's good b/f material but... Posted: 11/22/2006 8:16:42 PM
Hmmmmmmmm..... I think I'm dating the wrong women.... Any Takers out there? Just Joking! Ok maybe I'm not. Thanks for all the valuable advice. (You HAD to know I am posting this from the hotel on another trip.) M17

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Members who live in Canada Posted: 11/19/2006 5:13:25 PM
As a frequent business traveller, I find the best two options in Canada to be: Air Canada: Depending on the route and the importance of getting there on time I would usually reccomend Air Canada. They have the most flights to anywhere I usually need to go. Best deals are right at AirCanada.com. Sign up for their seat sale announcements online. You can do Vancouver to TO for as little as $109 on a good seat sale with short notice. Onboard though, I have in many cases found the Flight Attendants to be less than friendly, usually not that helpful. (There are exceptions of course) WestJet I love the laid back friendly atmosphere of WestJet and the comfy leather seats AND the Seatback TV's but, if there's a mechanical issue on a WestJet flight, you are guaranteed a long delay. Having said that, if you are flying on a Saturday and are a Hockey Fan, WestJet's seatback TV is GREAT as you can watch Hockey Night in Canada LIVE which is the BEST on the 5 hour flight home from Toronto on a Saturday afternoon. Great deals right at Westjet.com too. As above sign up for seat sale announcement Hope this helps M17

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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So you meet a guy and really think he's good b/f material but... Posted: 11/19/2006 4:28:36 PM
He has to travel alot for work. And I mean ALOT! I seem to hit it off with ladies when I first meet them, the first date is usually a good time and usually leads to 2nd - 3rd dates but then, the inevitable 5 -10 day business trip comes up and I have to go travelling. I try hard to keep in touch while I'm away (i.e. staying up late just to drop a line to say "hi" & texting when I can) but the travel seems to destroy anything that may have started before I left. As I have been told (on a few occasions) "I can't handle someone who is away SO much" I love my career and really wouldn't want to change it just to meet someone. So I guess what I want to know, is how to tell a potential significant other about my lifestyle without them: a) running the other way, screaming hysterically (joking) or b) saying that they have "no problem with that" then proving themselves wrong (usually the case) Also, If you met a guy, had fun on a few dates and he goes away for a week or so, what do you suggest for him to do to keep your interest until he returns? I understand that the separation can be frustrating, beleive me it's frustrating for me too. Any advice is appreciated.. M17

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Musician17 Posted: 11/19/2006 4:11:37 PM
Riley, Thank you very much for the feedback! I appreciate your time! Enjoy the remainder of your weekend... Best, M17

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Riley PLEASE do My Profile Posted: 11/19/2006 11:51:05 AM
Hiya! If you are so inclined, I would love a review!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Would appreciate both girl and guys perspective on this one. Posted: 11/19/2006 11:29:07 AM
Please and thanks for taking the time to let me know what you think of this Version 3.265893 of my profile. I think I have corrected the grammar and spelling now so maybe just a quick check on that too! Awwwww Thanks!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Summer on the Island Posted: 5/26/2006 8:58:53 PM
I am out in Summerside from July 6th - 11th for a conference... Fortunately I barely have to do anything! I think I work 7 hours in 6 days? So Locals? What should I be looking to do? Thanks for any advice....

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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if you could fly??? Posted: 5/26/2006 7:03:12 PM
Good thing you straightened that out....Thanks. I get lost enough driving, can you IMAGINE me flying? Oh yeah! I forgot to mention before, If I could fly, I would SO steal Lord Stanleys Mug, bring it to my house and drink a whole lotta beer out of it I would have to sober up before returning it, as I wont drink and fly let alone drink and drive.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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if you could fly??? Posted: 5/26/2006 6:37:12 PM
If I could fly I would, Screw with American Fighter Pilots over Iraq. (For Shits n Giggles) Go south with Canada Geese for the winter and poop on everything between here and there just like they do. Do several fly bys at Area 51 with a video camera. (Same Shits n Giggles) Wait till Dubya was travelling somewhere in Air Force One and moon him. (You guessed it! Shits n Giggles) Catch Barry Bond's 715th homer before it left the park EVERY NIGHT! That'll teach him! Win the NBA Slam Dunk contest every year. Buy a Blue Spandex Suit and a Red Cape. But my emblem would be a Maple Leaf and a Beaver. Definitely get to see all 8 Wonders of the World. (FYI My 8th is the worlds Largest Perogy located in Perogy Alberta)

Musician17

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What is/was your favorite ride at a fair?? Posted: 5/26/2006 6:18:05 PM
When I was younger I HATED rollercoasters.... Paramount Canada's Wonderland in TO has some pretty damn cool ones though. Mindbender in West Edmonton Mall scared the S$%T outta me! The Drop of Doom was 13 Stories of hell too!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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I'll review profiles...no promises that I'll be gentle Posted: 5/26/2006 6:15:15 PM
Thanks for taking the time.... Now let's see what kind of fisherman I am!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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I'll review profiles...no promises that I'll be gentle Posted: 5/25/2006 8:01:45 PM
I would really appreciate a review.... Thanks for taking the time.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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A lot of guys seem to lie about their age Posted: 5/25/2006 7:38:38 PM
I don't lie about my age... this year I'll be celebrating my 2nd annual 29th birthday. Me too!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Introduce Yourself Here.... Posted: 5/25/2006 7:28:52 PM
Howdy, Musician17 a.k.a. Jay, Moved to Richmond in '04 after a stint in Europe (UK) Originally a Kamloops Kid. I work in the music industry here in the Lower Mainland and one day I'm gonna be an astronaut. OOOOPS! I mean one day I'm gonna be a policeman....Damn! I meant firefighter....Ok I'm happy in my profession. I am becoming addicted to POF Forums. MUST POST! I love weird words like "absquatulate" and "rhinotillexomania" and I even know what they mean! I think thats why I like 'em. Is "stupenderifulous" even a word? I just found out that Richmond is below sea level so it's time to learn to swim. Great to meet you all...especially those of you who own boats. If Richmond ever sinks, can I borrow your boat?

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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POF escort Posted: 5/23/2006 7:53:21 PM
I know what you mean. I have always found that in a situation where I "need" to arrive with a "date", and there is nothing in the offing at the moment I usually ask a friend to come with me. Someone who I know gets along well in unfamiliar social situations and whom I know very well. That way she is comfortable being on my arm for the evening, I am comfortable knowing there is no pressure to be around someone (not to mention a bunch of other people) I don't really know. And we can have a great time together with no expectations. And if you don't have a friend available, I clean up well and I LOVE unfamiliar social situations.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Execution by Brutal Honesty Posted: 5/23/2006 7:39:49 PM
Ok Doc, I am game....(winces) review away (ducks) as honest as you want (dives for cover) Looking forward to it! (Really!)

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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World Cup POF gathering in Vancouver? Posted: 5/18/2006 11:27:01 PM
I'm in as long as no-one minds my cheering for England

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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What way do you want to go? Posted: 5/18/2006 8:55:02 PM
To answer this, let me write my own Obituary! "Jay was 87 years young when he passed into the next life. A noted philanthropist he always selflessy gave from his Trillion dollar fortune. He was the founder of the most successful Fortune 500 company in history. One of his proudest moments fell on his 54th birthday, when he completed what he called his ultimate goal by completing the purchases of Wal-Mart, Microsoft, Ford, and GM. A true family man, he is survived by his 6 ex wives, 24 children, 53 grandchildren and 84 great-grandchildren. Jay died suddenly in the throes of passion while bedding his 22 year old 7th wife Missy. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that a donation be made in Jay's name to the fertility treatment centre of your choice." Ummmm.....Yeah that's it...

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Your first car? Posted: 5/18/2006 8:42:08 PM
1978 VW Rabbit! FINALLY killed it with over 680,000 K on the clock.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Have friends visiting from England.... Posted: 5/18/2006 8:40:37 PM
We have three days in Vancouver before they take off for the Interior in an RV. I'm looking for some out of the box thoughts as to what we can go do.... LOL! (this is gonna blow up in my face I KNOW IT!) Nothing is off limits for these two beleive me. Step right up and help me out here... Thanks in advance.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Are you a morning person? Posted: 5/18/2006 8:35:17 PM
I'm a morning person alright, a REALLY REALLY Grumpy one..... So much so that I have a distinct morning personality (according to my ex) "Morning Jay's" voice is about 3 octaves below "Mid-Day Jay" If he didn't sleep well or went out drinking, "Morning Jay" tends to hang out for most of the day. A positive response is a Yawn. Negative, is a grunt. After a cup of coffee it is usually safe to speak to him. Hey you might even get a Yawn back... Seriously though, Takes me awhile to get going. But every morning 6:30AM when the alarm goes off, "Morning Jay" takes over until caffeine is taken in. Gets better from there!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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What do you suggest if... Posted: 5/12/2006 7:13:41 PM
Ok. Her self decription was "I have long brown hair. About 5'5 110lbs, big green eyes." So I thought, ok cool. The resultant picture (requested after we had agreed to set up a meeting) was NOTHING and I mean NOTHING even close to that. 5'5?...ok I would buy that but 110lbs?...absolutely no way....Big Green eyes?...Tough to tell colour to be honest but by this time I am sure I wasn't thinking about her eyes and hair. After having just checked the picture again. I know I'm not being shallow. I believe if someone is going to mis-represent such obvious attributes, how can I have confidence in anything else that we talked about? I thought I would take a chance on maybe meeting without a picture. I am glad I asked now. I have called her and laid it out exactly as I saw it. She didn't get mad. Just said that she was sorry. Thanks again all.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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What do you suggest if... Posted: 5/12/2006 7:49:34 AM
rainbow, We messaged back and forth a few times, then chatted on MSN for a bit. During the course of THAT conversation she asked if i might want to come meet her for a coffee. I wasn't even sure at that point so I gave a yeah why not. And asked for a picture. When someone describes themselves, THAT'S where some level of honesty should be kicking in. Some truth goes a LONG way. Beleive me I know what a true woman looks like. And I am not saying that she is NOT a true woman by any means. She misrepresented herself. Told me a lie about what she looked like. Yes I do want to meet people. Honest people. Who I feel even SOME level of attraction to. If I wasn't a good guy I wouldn't have even thought twice about just standing her up, I wanted some advice on the best way to do this without hurting anyones feelings. I thank everyone for their wisdom. But I gotta go to work now. Peace

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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What do you suggest if... Posted: 5/11/2006 11:16:23 PM
Thanks for the sage advice do far... I went by her description in both her profile and how she described herself in our online chat. I admit I probably should have seen a pic before agreeing to meet, but lesson learned. Now I have seen the picture, I really feel she mis-represented herself. Gonna call it off tomorrow. Thanks again though.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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What do you suggest if... Posted: 5/11/2006 10:17:55 PM
I agreed to meet up with someone...a couple of days from now. Asked them to send me a picture so I would recognize them...What I got was NOTHING like the description in the profile...and now I want to back out for no better reason than I feel like that person mis-represented themselves. How do I tell her that I am not showing up based on that? Or do I just simply call her (she has my number too) and say that something has come up and I don't know that meeting up would be such a great idea. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but judging by the picture there is and will be no physical attraction and to be honest I have enough friends. Am I a jerk? Or too nice?

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Ok I need a review after some changes. Brutal Honesty is required Posted: 5/11/2006 6:47:20 PM
Please, don't hold back. Too Long? Too Short? New Headline? Bad Pictures? Do Tell.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Getting rejected felt great. Posted: 5/7/2006 10:05:27 PM
GAWD! If I did that, my laptop would be in pieces!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Anyone Want Review & Some Help? Posted: 5/1/2006 9:28:36 PM
Ok 76Agent, I have been through this process a few times...But if you are willing to make the investment in having a look at mine...another perspective never hurts....I like to think it's pretty good. Please tell me what you think. And thank you for the investment of your time! M17

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Idea's/Thought's for newbs to the boards Posted: 5/1/2006 9:14:36 PM
1.) When you first started posting on forums what did you not like? (hey even if you never posted here is a chance to put in your 2 bits ;) ) I hated trying to figure out how to portray sarcasm without getting FLAMED! (It just didn't come across in print.) 2.) What made it easier/made you enjoy the forums? Figured out how to be sarcastic again! And my life was complete! I mean seriously, what more could ya want? 3.) Do you have any ideas/suggestions on what we could do to make newcomers to the boards feel welcome. Delete/Report/Block! - Oh sorry! Newcomers! Right....A welcome thread that explains etiquette/do's and dont's and if you see a name you don't recognize. Say hello and welcome...that can go a long way...This reminds me of a joke I once heard....Ahhhh forget it! 4.)What is your favourite colour? Chrysanthe--DAMN! Crysan--OOPS! Chrysante---OH FOR THE LOVE OF.... Red.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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take two Posted: 5/1/2006 9:04:40 PM
Dude, You say you aren't putting pics up, but you say you have them. You will have much more success if you put even ONE up. I have 7 or 8 I think. It doesn't hurt... Take out the superficial part, and throw a pic up there. Despite your instincts. Trust us...

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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review my profile please Posted: 5/1/2006 6:16:07 PM
robshoe.... More effort needed here man. Two major things.... One dressing up to sing karaoke (Espescially like a cross between D. Snyder & Bret Michaels) is something that should be found out later....not before meeting. Could be perceived as strange. Your last picture making the hand sign. Dude, there are not too many white, 23 year old, costumed karaoke singers that can pull this off....And....you're definitely not one of them. Not be insulting, but lose the "gangsta" pic. Good fishin!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Need some info about richmond Posted: 5/1/2006 5:10:21 PM
Hey I live in Richmond... The Foggy Dew can be fun as posted above. Send me a PM and I'll make some suggestions for ya... If you need a tour guide, I can be of assistance. Jay

Musician17

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GIGS FROM HELL!!!!!!!! Posted: 4/30/2006 11:42:29 PM
We did a gig called the "Mountie Stomp" in Kamloops BC a few years back. Played the opening set at stage level not on the keyboard riser, then the headliner came up. Her keyboardist had his rig up on a riser. There was a fair bit of party time left after she was scheduled to finish. So we were asked to go back up and finish off the night. There was a spectacular light show for her set. Par Cans and Martin Beams goin on everywhere. We set my rig up on the keyboard riser for the last set. Anyways, the other keyboardist tells me "Dude, for the few seconds at a time those PAR64's are on, it's damn hot up there, so ya know." Well, with our headliner's lightshow you're not getting her lighting technician as I found out. We go up in a blackout. Hit the first note and BLAM!!! I have 6 PAR64's COOKING my neck and back. It was painful inside 15 seconds. But the show must go on. (Especially when you're starting with a Keys heavy song.) So I sucked it up for the 1st song. But the PAR Cans didn't shut off until the last note. After the first song I get the monitor guy to toss me up a few bottles of water to soak myself down. So I dump them all over myself. By the end of the third song I have to get off stage. So I soak myself down again and put on a Ball Cap (backwards) and ask the monitor guy to tell the FOH guy to Kill the Par Cans. We start the 4th song which is a Piano Vocal Ballad (D'oh!) And I swear the FOH guy turned em up higher! I barely got through the song! Anyways after the 4th song finished I go off stage and let the rest of the guys do the next song on their own. Take off the Ball Cap and it is singed and VERY hot to the touch. Turns out I have 1st and second degree burns on my neck, upper back and scalp and my hair was almost singed off. But besides that DAMN it was a FUN night!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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OK let's try this again, please review.... Posted: 4/30/2006 11:18:08 PM
Dude that's pretty darn good. You put thought into it, it reads very well. Don't forget though, that people looking at your profile (with the exception of this thread maybe) will perceive the shirtless picture exactly as you described. You mention you're in good shape right? Leave it at that maybe. Otherwise, Great Job Man! Almost as good as mine....LOL!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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What's the latest nice thing you did for someone? Posted: 4/30/2006 6:17:34 PM
Last time I went over the Coquihalla Highway going from Kamloops to Vancouver I paid the $10 Toll for me and the three cars behind me.... Karma...y'know?

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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If there was an emergency Posted: 4/30/2006 6:14:33 PM
Wallet, Phone, Keys, Pictures. Oh and clothes....LOL! I sleep in the buff and couldn't live naked for 3 months while they rebuilt! Then again, it has been nice out lately....Hmmmm...Ok forget the clothes...I would become an Urban Nudist!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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what the bleep? Posted: 4/30/2006 3:41:15 PM
The only suggestion I might make is a more positive headline??? Thats about it from me. Anyone else?

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Pet Peeves of Dating Posted: 4/27/2006 10:30:49 PM
1) Cell phones. Yeah they're convenient, yeah communication is important. But you're there to meet and get to know someone so out of courtesy leave it on Vibrate or Silent or something. 2) The Infamous "EX"........unless asked....Don't bring Him/Her up. And IF asked....answer...then let it go. 3) Movies for a 1st date. NO better way to learn about someone than NOT speaking a word to each other for 2 hours 4) Oh yeah! Show up. And if you suddenly change your mind, call.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Do you want a ruthless review? Posted: 4/26/2006 12:44:10 PM
Me Me Me! As ruthless as you want!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Honda or Toyota? Posted: 4/26/2006 11:20:52 AM
I bought a new Mazda 3 GT at the beginning of 2005 after carefully considering between the Matrix, Civic and 3. For the money I spent I got way more equipment that I would have for the equivalent Matrix or Civic. Just my $.02

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Has your career affected your dating life Posted: 4/26/2006 1:03:30 AM
Ok so here's a follow-up question, If you were dating someone that travelled 12-15 days a month across Canada, could you handle that? Would it get in the way? I have that challenge presently, although I LOVE my job, it has certainly gotten in the way of dating. That's why I'm here. J.

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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how is my profile Posted: 4/23/2006 3:43:30 PM
Hey dude, Looks ok, A couple of Observations: "Construction Foreman" Alot if your "I am" have no spaces between "I' and "am" Maybe change the headline..."Looking for an Honest Woman" I see that lots here. Maybe a short sell yourself line like "Love working with my Hands" or something like that. My $.02

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Yet ANOTHER Profile Review. Posted: 4/20/2006 2:45:33 PM
Cause he's my nephew and he RAWKS!

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Yet ANOTHER Profile Review. Posted: 4/20/2006 12:26:51 PM
A good idea possibly, but hey if she had time to write a review of my profile, the least she could do is actually read it - top to bottom, Yeah? I don't put it right up front and at the top because its really unrelated to anything else in the profile and found it breaks the flow. J

Musician17

Joined: 3/10/2006

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Yet ANOTHER Profile Review. Posted: 4/20/2006 11:56:00 AM
Coulda sworn I put put an explanation at the bottom saying that was my nephew... I could be dumb today.....D'oh! `

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