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Thread: Confussed
a_sweet_fishy
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Confussed
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6/30/2009 2:13:07 AM
I can't for the life of me figure out why anyone is telling her to stay with this man! Dump him NOW!!!! For crying out loud, give him a chance to actually live and maybe find someone who can appreciate the hard working and obviously sensitive person he is. He deserves so much better than what he is getting from you and from his ex. Hopefully he can find someone willing to help him and work with him instead of just adding to the pain he already feels.
I haven't seen my husband since January. Won't until May next year (Military). I am proud of the awesome husband and father he is and would never dream of giving him the sick choice you gave the man you claim to love.
a_sweet_fishy
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Q for Guys Who Have Taken A Girl's V-Card
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6/30/2009 1:57:51 AM
Wow....ummm......I have not posted on these forums in FOREVER but I just have to ask this. Does any real, serious human call it "taking their v-card"? Can't imagine any female with any speck of self respect willing to "give it up" to someone willing to put it like that. Glad I lost mine 100 year or so ago.......
a_sweet_fishy
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Ladies: your take on short guys?
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3/4/2008 10:07:27 PM
For many years I would only date men 6' or over. I am 5' 6" and not small by any means. With smaller men I felt large and ugly so I would date men who made me feel smaller and more feminine. Then I met my husband. He is 5' 7" and about 145 pounds. Somehow, it has never mattered with him. He is sweet, sexy, charming, and always makes me feel great. I am just really glad I broke my rule for him. :) You never know what you might be missing when you limit yourself.
a_sweet_fishy
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a racist slur from someone your dating....what do you do?
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2/15/2008 4:40:09 PM
The fact that you even dated him says a lot about your own self worth.
This is not necessarily true. Maybe he didn't show what kind of person he was when she started dating him? I was in a relationship with a man many years ago. He started out great. Within a few months he started letting little racist comments "slip". When he found out that I have dated several black men, have black ancestors, and several black family members, he was livid. It did not take long for me to find out that he was a card carrying member of the KKK, knew the man who dragged James Byrd to death and thought of him as a hero....anyway, you get the idea. I immediately dumped him, but I actually had to get a gun for protection. He hinted that he would kidnap my child (I had my oldest son then) and tried to break into my house once. I don't know if this man you are dating is anything close to this bad, but trust me, they can hide it. I say, be afraid, be VERY afraid!!!!!!!
a_sweet_fishy
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Have you ever done this? Fess up!
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2/9/2008 4:46:26 PM
This seems like an awfully strange thing to do since it wasn't HER recipe anyway. If it was a recipe that she created, I can see telling you no,but not altering it. Anyway, with the difference being oil and shortening....different amounts and different substances, I am assuming the recipe she uses is just different. Maybe she shorts the flour or something when she makes it and hers just turns out better. It wouldn't make sense otherwise.
I tend to share recipes with all my friends. I have a lot of stuff that is MINE and I take it as a pretty serious compliment when someone wants to know how to make it. As with most though, I have no set measurements and just wing it so sharing can be a chore sometimes.
a_sweet_fishy
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Married or Divorcees Help!!!!!
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2/6/2008 2:03:04 PM
TO ALL: It is not okay to withhold sex from your spouse, not ever, not for any reason, not for anyone! I don't care who starts it, it is not okay. Period. Get out of the relationship then find someone who suits your needs better.
Yes, yes, oh, did I say YES!!!!!!!!! A HUGE part of marriage is sex. I don't care what anyone says, a bad sex life ruins a marriage. Now, if you are in a happy relationship, no fighting, want to be together for the kids, jsut don't want sex with each other, there is no reason for a couple to discreetly get it elsewhere and stay together. I don't condone outright cheating, however, but I also know there are plenty of women (and men too I suppose) who will deny their spouse sex but would go ballistic if they got it elsewhere. They are scum, in my opinion.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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2/3/2008 4:50:34 PM
If I hadn't heard it from you, fishy, I would not believe it. I know you like to make fun of where you live, but I didn't realize how backwards it really was. That is kinda scary. Do they let you paddle the teachers when they get out of line? lol That might be kind of fun, I know a couple of principals who are just cute enough to spank.
LOL....yeah, when we moved back here from Alaska and had to fill out a consent form to allow them to paddle or not I almost fell over!!!! My children have told me stories of their friends being paddled. It takes a name on the board 3 times and you get paddled if your parents allow it and get a 3 day suspension if they don't. It is pretty harsh. Oh, and our principal is female and even my husband wouldn't really want to spank her. :)
Wow. I had no idea that newborns could present with ADHD symptoms. We didn't notice that my daughter had it until she was in school. She's not on meds right now, so I'm hoping she has outgrown the worst of it. We are controlling it via diet, and it seems to be working (she's doing well in school, at least).
Of course, at the time no one actually knew he had ADHD......the caffeine was because of apnea. However, when he was in the NICU he was on constant valium and demerol so he would calm down enough to actually grow. This was when he weighed less than 2 pounds. I freaked out at first but they finally helped me realize it was the only way to hepl him grow and, ultimately, help him survive. So yeah, his problems showed up from birth. When he was a baby he never slept more than about 10 minutes and he has NEVER taken a single nap since he started sleeping about 5 to 6 hours at night. His body and his mind have never slowed down enough. He actually sleeps better now, on Stratterra, than he ever has.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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2/3/2008 2:55:27 PM
Caffeine has actually been shown to increase the ability to concentrate in persons with ADHD. I'm talking about adults here, not children. Caffeine is a stimulant, not unlike Ritalin. However, too much caffeine also can cause insomnia, nervousness, irritability and increased heart rate. This is especially true in children, which is why they don't recommend treating with caffeine.
My son actually spent most of his first year taking perscription caffeine to make sure he continued breathing. That was one way I discovered it calmed him. He also cried most of his first year. Some of the only calm time I had was right after a dose of his caffeine. So, when he is off his medication and we need something to take the edge off, I KNOW we are safe with a caffeine containing beverage. If he tolerated it as a newborn I am certain he can handle it now.
Back in the day, teachers and principals used corporal punishment to deal with that kind of situation (which wasn't right either), but today they got nothin. I feel for them.
Believe it or not, our school still paddles children.
a_sweet_fishy
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George Foreman Grill Idea's
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2/1/2008 10:38:10 PM
My family has gone vegetarian (and almost immediately after buying a family sized George foreman grill) and I have found it is WONDERFUL for my veggies. I am a sucker for grilled onions and they turn out PERFECT and bell peppers, mushrooms, squash (any kind).....I even get stir fry veggie mix and just pour it on, grill it, salt it a touch, and it tastes wonderful. Grilled cheese sandwiches turn out just great (but be careful not to open and close it much or the cheese squishes out)......I know I just LOVE mine!!!
Damp paper towel on the still very warm grill, close the lid, then the inside wipes out quick and easily(after it cools of course!).
YES!!! Especially when cooking vegetables (they seem to make more of a mess than meat, IMO......but I use a bar towel (thicker and seems to work better) and sprinkle baking soda on it to absorb any odors. The baking soda also helps remove and residue.
a_sweet_fishy
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transgender boy can use girls restroom at school
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1/31/2008 8:21:00 AM
I'm trying to imagine under what circumstances going into a room with member of the opposite sex suddenly causes a person to be "tramitized".
I sincerely hope it takes a bit more than that. If not, I have successfully traumatized a good portion of the town in which we live taking my boys to the restroom with me. If this is the case, the therapists here need to start paying me commission. :)
Oh, and for good old bill up there saying boys restrooms have stalls, again, this boy views himself as a girl. Would you want YOUR 10 y/o daughter to be forced to use the boys restroom and deal with all the boys at the urinal? They do NOT have stalls for those.
a_sweet_fishy
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transgender boy can use girls restroom at school
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1/31/2008 3:50:49 AM
Arieanne, the thing you seem to be overlooking is that this child is not gay. He is transgender. You say "we are what we are....". That is not always the case, and with a child such as this, it is not. Forcing him to go in the boys restroom would have been more the equivalent of making that housekeeper take care of the sexually abusive patient and putting her in harms way. Damn people, it is the year 2008. When are you all going to wake up. Isn't it time to educate yourselves? This child sees himself as a girl and will spend the rest of his life doing so.
a_sweet_fishy
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transgender boy can use girls restroom at school
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1/30/2008 8:41:38 PM
Just turn all washrooms into co-ed with a lock on them. Problem solved.
Honestly, one of the best and most logical solutions of all. :) I know a lot of businesses are starting to have "family restrooms" for mixed genders to use. It is certainly helpful.
a_sweet_fishy
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transgender boy can use girls restroom at school
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1/30/2008 4:37:13 PM
If this child is actually transgender then he needs some type of special provisions made. Whether using the girls restroom (which ALL have stalls) or a teacher restroom (which the article said he was doing). YES, a 10 y/o can easily have gender identity issues. Do you think your 10 y/o son or daughter don't know what gender they are? transgender does not mean homosexual. It means he views himself as a female (and has from the minute he identified with a gender). People need to grow up. What if this was your child? Would you want him to have to use the boys restroom and risk being beaten, raped (YES, children that young do rape one another on occasion), or worse? It happens. If everyone would wake up and realize the whole world doesn't fit into one nice little cubby it would be a much better place to live.
Oh, and just a side note. I live alone with my three sons. Anytime I am out shopping with them and have to use the restroom I make them go in with me. They are 10, 8, and 6. I don't, personally, care what anyone thinks. I am not risking having my children kidnapped just because some idiot is embarrassed to have a boy in the women's restroom.
a_sweet_fishy
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Would you choose love over your career and family?
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1/29/2008 6:07:47 PM
I dropped everything and moved over 4,000 miles for the man I love and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Your extended family (mom, dad, brother, sister, whatever) does not necessarily have to be right in your backyard. Moving away from extended family is actually what adults do the majority of the time. As an adult your immediate family should be a spouse and or children. Those are the one you travel to the ends of the earth for.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/27/2008 8:17:08 PM
Nope, not confused at all. I know exactly what you're talking about.
That was my thoughts exactly when I read that, as I am sure it is with most people who have dealt with true ADD or ADHD. :) Glad to see someone who knows that feeling. :)
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/27/2008 9:54:13 AM
Maybe it's time to dispell a few myths about ADD/ADHD.... Now, as I speak on this I ask all to allow me some freedom, as I do deal with (notice I did not say suffer ADD) ADD on a daily and personal basis. How? I am ADD.
Moving on though. By refusing the "Zombie Pills" and paying attention to what this does to me I have learned how to deal with it in a positive manner. I actually use it to my advantage most of the time now. Here are a few facts about it that most do not know or realize.
It is wonderful that you were able to find what works for you. However, that doesn't mean it will work for everyone. My son, too, has a "through the roof IQ", unfortunately, without something to aid him in controlling his body, he can't use his mind. I currently drive about 100 miles (back and forth) daily to take my children to the best school in the area. I do this for all of them, but mainly so he has teachers who can help him harness his abilities. You call the medication "zombie pills" but I have never allowed my child to be a "zombie". What you and so many others do not seem to realize is, if you have to put every ounce of your energy into making yourself focus, you miss what you were trying to focus on to begin with. I know that my child has unlimited potential. He far surpasses me intellectually so I am not able to teach him what he needs to know in order to live up to his potential. I have to seek out those who can. I consider his unlimited energy a tool, but right now, while he is desperately trying to learn all he needs to know, it is only in the way. I know him well enough to know that he will use it to help him later, right now he can't. I allow him access to anything he wants or needs to help him learn. He is currently self-teaching Spanish, he has owned his own computer since he was 5, we spent countless hours and as much money as is required searching out bookstores and buying anything he wants. His bedroom looks like a library. I allow him to dissect electronic devices (well, within reason, of course) and try to re-assemble them in different ways.....better ways. He has numerous Science books he uses to do experiments. a telescope, a microscope, you name it, the kid has the tools to help him use his intelligence and his energy. He also rides his bike, plays with our dog, we go for walks and hikes and rock and artifact hunting. We are trying to cover every base, but still HAVE to have medical intervention.
Just a little side note that your post made me think of. When he was tiny (between 2 and 3) he used to get a screwdriver and take the cabinet doors off and put them back on for fun. :) It was all he could do to lift them but he did it anyway.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/27/2008 8:03:25 AM
ok first of all my son has ADHD,ADD,BI-POLAR,ODD
i say it is all these people doign drungs that is messing up the kids heads ..i didnt do drugs but the person i was seeing did maryjane and lord only knows what else he did ...but my son and his other daughter both have close problem except she has adhd,add,bi-polar,and ocd ...
so you tell me everyone stop thsoe damn drugs.....
Alright, you say your son has multiple issues, most likely caused by parental drug use. You admit in your profile to having been married to an alcoholic. Your short patience and irritation with your son comes through clearly in everything you write about him. THEN you blame the doctors for not being able to control him with medication.
comeon doctors get your heads out of your asses and figure this out im sick of my son not beable to controll himself.....
THIS is exactly the type situation that makes people look down on everyone who has an ADHD or ADD kid and claim we are poor parents who are not trying.
It sounds to me like this child needs in some really good therapy and perhaps some classes (for you) to help you deal with him and his issues in a more positive fashion.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/26/2008 12:29:06 PM
Now why do schools look for a ADD or ADHD Diagnosis? No one has answered that but me...they want what is best for the system and is in some cases a cop out but not in all cases.
Perhaps, in some cases at least, they see a kid they KNOW has potential and is not able to achieve that potential? I know there are cases where teachers would like to drug every child that ever acts up. I actually had a teacher (who was long past due for retirement, BTW) tell me she wished EVERY child was on something to make them calm. That is a frightening attitude, but fortunately, no one would have ever listened to her anyway. It is also not the norm. MOST teachers and MOST parents are trying to do their best to raise quality adults.
The way I see it is this, if you have a child with issues you need to explore every possible solution to those problems. If, in the end, the only workable solution is medication, you have no reason to feel guilt. If your child had any other condition needing medication you would give it to him. Just like I will not allow a doctor to give my children antibiotics for the sniffles, I wouldn't have allowed ADHD medication without thourough testing. Perhaps there are parents who don't care. There are also parents who insist on antibiotics for a cold. You cannot eliminate all the bad parents out there by judging the good parents who have no other choice but to give their child desperately needed medication.
It amazes me how many people keep saying "but what did they do before these medications". What did women unable to deliver their babies do before safe c-sections? They died. What did people with what are now easily cured infections do before antibiotics? They died. The world of medicine makes major advancements all the time. We should be able to take advantage of the opportunity to give our children a life they never would have had an opportunity for 50 years ago without being ripped apart by people who just have no clue.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/26/2008 10:26:27 AM
You weren't born 5 months early. I'm betting your mom's doctor was wrong about your due date.
He isn't listening. :) I have already pointed that out to him several times. However, during that era, there were still a LOT of very large "preemies" born. In order to hide the fact they were pregnant before they married they would claim a false due date. My guess is that is what happened. No doctor is going to be THAT far off on a due date.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/25/2008 6:54:01 AM
(Too many parents push different diagnosis on their kids so they can get disability for them, that's a whole nother thread!)
I noticed someone else mentioning the disability thing in this thread, previously. I have never met a single person who recieved disability for a child because of an ADHD diagnosis. I can't believe it would be possible, and if it is, needs to be changed immediately. I am sorry, ADHD is no reason for someone to get disability. The ONLY reason a child should ever get disability is if they have a condition severe enough that a parent absolutely cannot work and HAS to be with them 24 hours a day, or if the child is never going to be self sufficient and will require assistance their entire life. With the combination of proper parenting and, yes, many times medication, ADHD kids can not only succeed, but excel in life.
People are acting like you can just walk into a doctors office and say "hey, my kid won't sit still" and he will grab out the prescription pad and give you a lifetime of ritalin. I know with my son, it took tons of testing and evaluations......checking back from the day he was born all the way to that moment. it was not a "here, give him this and see what happens" sort of decision. I know there are some unscrupulous doctors and parents out there, but that certainly doesn't mean they are the majority. I truly believe that MOST people want what is best for their child. For me, medication was a last resort (as it should be for everyone) but when it came down to the choice of giving him meds or tossing his future, I felt the choice was already made.
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/24/2008 9:22:38 PM
Maybe what we need to do as a society is value the outcome of children's life as adults instead of just how to get them to behave as kids.
Maybe parents need to be more creative?
It appears that this prematurity has adversley affected your ability to comprehend? I clearly stated numerous times that this (medicating my son) had NOTHING to do with making my child behave (he does that anyway) and EVERYTHING to do with his future. I could keep him off medication and let him fail and essentially throw his futrure down the toilet. He means more to me than that. He has very lofty goals for his future. I plan to help him obtain those goals. He has no choice over his condition, it is not a matter of lack of discipline or the need for motivation. Watch you own child, the person you would literally die for, absolutely devestated, wanting nothing more than to be normal, and tell me you wouldn't be willing to give him one tiny pill a day to allow him to function as a person.
I am the poster who said the kids with problems were the drop outs and drug addicts, btw. Before street drugs they were alcoholics. They were the drifters. Society has always had people who fell through the cracks and just trudged along until they finally died. Many of these are people who have mental illness that could have been easily solved with proper medication. ADHD is one of these. It is real, it can be totally devestating to a person's life, and it can be controlled with medication. You also have the issue of more babies surviving now that never would have before, therefore more problems to deal with.
One more time, YOU WERE NOT BORN 5 MONTHS EARLY. The earliest a baby can reasonably be expected to survive is 24 weeks. The absolute earliest one has EVER survived is 21 weeks 6 days...almost 22 weeks. You are trying to tell me that 35 years ago you survived at 20 weeks. I call BS because I KNOW better. Perhaps your mom had to lie about the date of her pregnancy? How much did you weigh? Looks to me like you need to have a talk with your momma. :)
a_sweet_fishy
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/24/2008 3:16:13 PM
Oh good grief, johne102, where to start. First, you WERE NOT born 5 months premature. They can't save a baby that pre-term now, certainly couldn't when you were born. So, you are not being quite honest here, are you. Next, I never said that jsut because a child is premature they will have ADHD. I said MY child had ADHD as a direct result of his brain bleeding due to his prematurity. His brain was damaged and this is the outcome. I know other kids who are blind, deaf, have cerebral palsy, etc. from the same thing.
No child would ever be put on medication for ADHD because they beat up some bullies at school. I have no clue what kind of school you attended but it sounds frightening to me.
My child was NEVER put on medication to "make life easier for the teacher" and never would have been. In fact, when they tried to say he was retarded I pulled him out of school and kept him home an extra year while we figured out what was really wrong. This is NOT a phase, my child does not need things to do. He is an active, healthy child.
Just because you don't have ADHD and claim to have been premature does not mean there is no one out there who does.
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/21/2008 2:13:06 PM
What the heck did all the hyper, unfocused kids do before we could legally drug them?
Well, that is an easy one, isn't it. They are the out of work, drug addicted, fell through the cracks because no one knew what to do with them degenrates you see thousands of every day. They are the people who started life with unlimited potential and couldn't cope, couldn't handle life, and were pushed to the side. They now fill up the prisons and the soup kitchens of the world. You can say and believe what you want, I (and most people I know) never medicated their child out of frustration and to control their "kwirks". Personally, I did it so my child could actually lsiten to the teacher instead of pinching the side of his leg, chewing on his jaw 'til it bled, and rapidly bouncing his feet just so he could sit in his chair. When he started school they said he could never learn to read, that he was retarded. I KNEW they were wrong. He is 10 now. Just a couple of weeks ago they tested to re determind their reading levels. His is now set at a 12th grade level. I knew his potential and knew I had to do what it took to help him. I never claimed to be an expert. You are the one claiming to know what is best for all children. It is incredibly funny you say that the doctors and I are treating the symptoms not the cause of my child's problems. Try to think here, the CAUSE is brain damage sustained at birth. would you suggest I try to cram him back in my uterus (he is kinda big for that at 10) and see if I can do better this time around?
Thanks, toddy666, and good luck. I know how hard it can be. We weaned him off medication for almost a year and then had no choice but to go back on it. I couldn't let him fail. :(
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/21/2008 10:54:51 AM
I don't care..it's still drugging your child to change their behavior. And I never said anything about "zombie" so before you start ranting figure out who you are talking to. And have you EVER spoken to anyone that grew up on ritalin? even they will tell you it made them feel like they were in a cloud. Kind of a daze.
First, it is not necessarily drugging your child to change their behavior. In fact, one of the first things I discussed with my son's doctors was that I would NOT put him on anything that would change him. I don't just love my son, I like him too. We tried ritalin first and it was AWFUL. It did change him so we flushed it and tried others. We finally ended up with concerta (which is still ritalin but absorbed and released differently) and loved it. He was my same active, happy, friendly, fun, playful, child. Not every parent wants to put their child in a drugged haze. Most do not.
Second, I knew full well who I was talking to. You may not have used the exact word "zombie" but made it clear that parents are using the meds to make their child silent and immobile. so, even if you did not use the exact word so many here have, you still jumnped on the zombie bandwagon with both feet. It is so incredibly easy to judge that which you do not understand, isn't it. I can assure you, if your nephew was started on meds and truly did not have ADD or ADHD, they would NOT have had the desired effect. Maybe he was mis-diagnosed (which does happen....see above, the little girl for whom the meds did not work at all) or maybe this was all it took for this particular child. Every child is different. Some have to have meds. Some do not. Mine is one who does, and I have spent countless hours awake, worrying, frightened, depressed, feeling helpless, but in the end, KNOWING his future is worth making sure he is not left behind. This is the only way for him. For most parents, giving their child meds is not a choice they take lightly.
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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1/21/2008 7:52:16 AM
I'll say it. It's a cop out. Kids are hyper. Kids get bored. They overreact and act out. That doesn't mean that we should dope them up to calm them down. I was appalled when my sister was going to start treating my nephew for his diagnosed ADD. Sure...lets drug him up so he doesn't talk during class or fidget with his pen. ...
Well, after taking him to several different doctors and psychologists it was found that his IQ level was extremely high and he was placed in advanced placement classes and has not been a problem since. Sure he's still your average kid that will climb up your walls but I'd rather see that then him be a shell of his original person.
It's an easy solution to a hyper child.
First, there is no "easy solution to a hyper child". Second, you obviously have no clue what you are talking about. A child who does not have ADD or ADHD is NOT going to be turned into a "zombie" with ritalin or any of the other drugs to control these disorders. They are stimulants. I will repeat this, alright, STIMULANTS. They do not slow down the brain, they speed it up. Just happens to speed up the part that control impulses, therefore ADD and ADHD kids can control themselves. If anything, a "normal" kid on these meds would be more hyper. I get so sick of hearing people claim children are drugged so parents don't have to train them. It is an absurd notion. When parents start giving their kids valium, then I might listen. As I stated before, one of the most calming things for my son is a nice, strong, cup of coffee. Try that with a "normal" kid. It isn't about bad behavior. My child (the oldest of my 3 and the only one with this problem) is one of the most well behaved kids around, on or off his meds. He just CAN'T focus without them. Everything he has is put into sitting still. He can't listen, he can't learn. I DO believe certain groups are more prone to these disorders....perhaps poverty level families don't get proper nutrition, I just don't have an answer, but I do know it is real. Many of these are the exact same families who don't seem to understand proper discipline either (I am NOT running down all poverty level people, it is just all too common) which makes it APPEAR this is the cause.
I know the cause of my son's ADHD. He was a 25 week preemie. Weighed 1 lb 14 oz and had a grade 3 cerebral hemorage. Yes, my child has brain damage. If ADHD is the worst to come of it (and so far it seems it is) then I think we did alright.
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huge pot of kidney beans
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1/16/2008 10:48:14 AM
No matter what you do, they are wonderful Just as is. They are my favorite type of beans.
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kahlua recipie??
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1/12/2008 6:08:10 PM
Here is a link to one you might want to try....I still haven't, but it looks as if a few have and it sounds awesome!!! There are actually several ideas in the thread (there was even a brief discussion about homemade Kahlua).
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8400292.aspx
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ARE YOU REAL??????????
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1/11/2008 9:29:15 PM
This is for cclarkrun,well for me being such a jerk ass I seem too be getting under all your skins enough for you too give me lovely replys,as for you u big dumb ass country boy away and eat some off your haystacks and try shagging the farmers son you gay cowboy
LOL....seems that someone is a bit jealous of the fact that, despite all their hours at the gym, cclarkrun is far more fit and muscular than they could even dream of being. :) How cute. Oh, and you can save your breath, I know, I know, my fat ass this that and the other....blah..........
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ARE YOU REAL??????????
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1/10/2008 5:40:28 PM
Now that i got that little bit a bragging out of the way, i don't know where the motive in that would be for a totally FREE sight!!
They make their money through the advertisers. They can have a free site, the advertisers get tons of exposure, everyone is happy. since it is free, there is very little motivation for fake profiles on here. I have never been contacted by someone I thought was fake. I have on other sites (pay sites).
As for the ignorant ranting above (satire, of course)....again, PROOF there are very real people here. No fake person could be THAT stupid. :)
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ARE YOU REAL??????????
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1/10/2008 4:31:28 PM
HEY YOU ARE PRETTY DUM EH, SURELY YOU CAN TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A COMPUTER ANSWER AND A REAL PERSONS EMAILS !! DUH.
DAMNNNNNNNNNN..........having a PMS moment are we???? This guy is obviously real.. Only a real person can be this ignorant/rude/hateful.
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What foods are you allergic too?
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1/9/2008 7:13:46 PM
I think I am the only person I know of who is allergic to celery. One whiff of it and I start vomiting and get severe migranes......one bite and it just about kills me. My poor children actually whine for celery. Makes me feel awful!!! :(
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Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
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1/7/2008 11:48:34 PM
Good grief! This guy admits that after ONE DATE he tells her his life story, calls and texts constantly, and even admits to being pretty much a cyber stalker. I don't know if the majority of people here are just feeling pity because he can't spell as good as the average 5 y/o or what, but this guy needs to get a grip, get a life, and perhaps get some counseling!!! Glad there are some who see what he did was creepy/wrong!!!!
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Interpretation please.
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1/3/2008 10:41:57 PM
Seriously, phones do STRANGE things. Recently I KNEW my husband was about to board a plane and he got a text from me asking him to call me immediately that I HAD to talk to him NOW. He was worried and confused until he realized the text was sent almost a year previously. Who knows. I would just feel it out and see what happens.
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NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
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1/2/2008 11:03:48 PM
At midnight I was vacuuming the living room. :( The kids were asleep (of course) and even my cats had abandoned me for the night. I told my husband good night on the phone at about 11:30 and wished I wasn't looking forward to another year of being married and alone with the kids. Such is life, I suppose.
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Question for the Fellas
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12/28/2007 9:32:55 PM
OMG.........yeah, do a thread search for rimming, tossing salad.....you will see that LOTS love it!!!!!! It is HEAVEN!!!!!! Giving and receiving!!!!!
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Resolutions?
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12/27/2007 5:39:07 PM
Anyone doing them, and what are they?
My three children (ages 10, 7, and 6) and I are going to become vegetarians. :) we are pretty excited and are searching out new and cool vegetarian recipes. We already eat very little meat and have discussed it in the past. Now seems like a great time to start.
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finishing your family before 35??
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12/25/2007 7:43:45 AM
Yang: ~~~My sister is 40 and pregnant, and having a difficult time. She had to be sewn shut last week to keep from losing the baby, was ordered not to work anymore, and prescribed strict bedrest. She was pregnant with twins last year and lost them both. If she loses this one, that's it. The Christmas party at her place is on hold indefinitely. Her and her hubby have wonderful careers, though.
But none of your sisters problems are necessarily age related. Two of my children were born in my 20's the last one in my 30's and I had BIG problems with all three. First one born at 25 weeks the second one was on bed rest from 20 weeks on (I almost went insane!!!!). So, her problems could just be her body, not her age.
Jeez, smilinglaughing, she made it quite clear she wants NO MORE KIDS. PERIOD. Why are you trying to convince her/push her to get more? she even said she doesn't want a man with small children. There are plenty of women who want more kids. it seems strange you picked this one woman to pick on and try to convince she is wrong. She has every right to want to be finished.
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120 Bicuits/cookies for $4!
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12/24/2007 2:12:05 PM
This is a lie. Do your math... condensed milk is 3.29/can, chocolate chips 1.69/bag ... we're already over 4 bucks so go back and do the math.
WOWWWWWWWWWWWW...............I will NEVER think I have a bad attitude again!!!! I think someone needs to de-stress a bit.
Not to mention, I can buy some things for about half the price some of my firends can and they do the same. Prices are different EVERYWHERE, depending on the size of your town, the stores you frequent, etc.
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Abused Men
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12/13/2007 8:51:48 AM
I am sickened by how society handles abused men. I have been an abused spouse and I KNOW how hard it is to break free. I am a strong, self reliant, confident woman who was slowly dragged into the cycle of abuse. It can happen to most anyone, trust me.
When I lived in Alaska I drove by a neighbors house and saw the husband sitting outside in the snow, handcuffed with blood everywhere, wearing only a T-shirt and jeans (it was FREEZING outside) while a cop stood over him. Windows were smashed out of their two vehicles. Of course, I assumed he had gone psycho and attacked his wife. Turns out that she had attacked him with a broken beer bottle, slicing him up pretty bad in front of their 2 small children and broke pretty much everything that was his. Apparently this had happened a few times before and even though she was still attacking him when the police arrived, he was outside in handcuffs freezing and she was in the warm house being questioned. It is a sick world in which we live.
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How do you make the perfect eggnog?
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12/9/2007 8:29:30 PM
OMG........couldn't control myself any longer. I just had to make some!!! Ahhhhhhh.......I LOVEEEEEEEEE this stuff!!!!!
Oh, don't forget, rsx11s, you have to have some sugar or it is gonna be yucky.
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How do you make the perfect eggnog?
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12/9/2007 6:27:03 PM
Nutmeg...never even heard of putting cinnamon in it. And I use Brandy........I LOVE brandy though. This is going to sound crazy (I am sure) but if it is just right (read, mine) it makes me think of the taste of bread pudding which is my favorite comfort food.
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Ideas for cookies to ship overseas
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12/8/2007 6:35:21 PM
Dont laugh, go invest in a vaccum sealer.......
you know the kind that sucks the air out of packages.......
Make whatever kind of treats you want, then seal those suckers on plates (paper or styrofoam) and ship in that box of popcorn to your hearts content.
being sealed they last longer....... and on the plates keeps them stable.
Wow......that is a great idea!!! I know the crackers in MRE's (I LOVE those crackers for some reason) are NEVER broken!!! I can't even get crackers at the grocery that aren't broken. They are sealed in those funky foil packs with NO air. I will have to try that next time I send goodies to my hubby. :)
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Ideas for cookies to ship overseas
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12/7/2007 4:21:29 PM
The dipped pretzels truly are the easiest things on earth, and if you can find pretzel rods, you don't even have to worry about tongs. Just dip half and stand them in a coffee mug to dry...look cute and are so good!!! While I can't possibly agree with nebula that chocolate chip oatmeal cookies are the best (I think they are NASTY) they are my husband's all time favorite. He is military and I have experience mailing them. They go through the mail like little troopers.....much better than standard chocolate chip. You could also do mini loaves of quick breads (pumpkin, cranberry walnut, banana, etc). They ship great when left in the individual little foil loaf pans and are oh so yummy.
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plz..some new ways to marinate/ cook chicken
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12/3/2007 9:51:51 PM
The quickest, easiest, and OH SO YUMMY........italian dressing.
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coconut milk
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11/26/2007 3:31:41 PM
Hey new girl Almost all milk products will incorporate air bubles into scrambled eggs, because they tend to have a levening agen/reaction.
Yeah, but coconut milk is not a "milk" product. I can see how this would be great for someone who is lactose intolerant. It seems it would give the eggs a funny taste, however (maybe not?). And, if you want them fluffier with no added calories, you can add a few drops of water. Actually makes them even fluffier than milk. :)
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Wow, Canada steps up and does the right thing for a change!
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11/19/2007 12:10:47 AM
For some reason the quote feature is not working........"If the commander and cheif tells you to jump off a bridge or do something against your morals. I think most people would take a pass."
Unfortunately, you are wrong. I like to think my husband would kiss the kids and I before taking that leap, but I can't be 100% sure. The unfortunate reality is this, when you VOLUNTEER to serve our country you agree to do what you are told. PERIOD. It does not give you the option of "if I agree with you". When I married my husband I knew that he belongs to our country first. We have lived separate (save for two short visits a year) for 2 years now. Don't get me started on draft dodgers, however. No one has the right to tell my child or anyone else they are required to fight for anything. I would allow someone to kill me before I would allow them to force one of my sons into war.
Now, for the Canada bashing. First, isn't directly insulting anyone against the rules on these forums? I have been suspended for calling one person a moron. People here are bashing an entire country and getting by with it. That is pretty messed up. Canada is a beautiful country and judging by the time I spent there, full of kind, considerate, wonderful people. The world could do without the kind of ignorant prejudice being shown on this thread.
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ADHD and ADD the real thing or a cop out?
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11/12/2007 7:21:47 PM
He is in High school now.. still has a sever reading problem.. and problems with a school that really doesnt understand that he does have the condition and that he won't be placed on meds..
I think that there are truely some children that have the condition.. like my son that have only been diagnosed after complete testing..
I also believe that there are a bunch of kids that have been miss diagnosed, and placed on pills that the have no buisness being on..
Some children have naturally high energy and instead of pills would be better off if parents would remove sugar from the diets and get them outside doing some organised sport so that energy could be put to some good use.
well thats my two cents worth..
You say that, basically, your child is doing horribly in school and then proceed to say you refuse needed meds and give advice on what parents SHOULD be doing to solve the problems their children have. This just makes no sense.
I kept my child off meds for about a year. We found that giving him caffeine would help tremendously. However, I can't follow him around at school pouring coffee in his mouth. His last report card was mostly D's and F's and this is a child with an almost genius level IQ. He was also slowly starting to lose every single friend he had. We just started Stratterra and are hoping for the best. While giving my child meds is not something I WANT to do, I simply refuse to jeopardize his entire future. We have tried everything there is to try and with him, meds are the only thing that work.
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Have you dated someone with the same name as an ex?
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11/11/2007 10:11:57 AM
I went through what I called my "Jeff phase" for YEARS!!! Even one Geoff, but no matter what, seemed I couldn't get away from that name. Now, my husband has the same middle name as my extremely abusive ex husband. THAT was hard at first but I have learned to deal with it.
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Paying child support for someone else’s child?
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11/11/2007 8:37:49 AM
It would take a court order and imprisonment to force me to stop being a father to my child.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!
I know quite a few men who feel the same as you, but it always makes me so happy to see one more. YOU are a real dad and the world needs a LOT more!!!
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Paying child support for someone else’s child?
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11/10/2007 9:42:10 PM
When will our courts use common sense as part of a legal precident? (spelling?) I know children are important but when will the rights of others get any consideration?
What if we were to fine/punish a parent who committs paternity fraud?
If everything were taken care of at birth, this would never be an issue. It would be impossible to prove someone lied, anyway, so how could you possibly punish them. If you are having unprotected sex with more than one man and get pregnant, no one knows who the father is without testing, including the mother.
I don't think any man should EVER be forced to pay support for a child he didn't want from the start. He can't choose abortion like the woman, so should be allowed to opt out of the childs life with no rights or responsibilities whatsoever BEFORE the child is born. If the mother then chooses to have and kep the child it should be her responsibility alone to provide for it. HOWEVER, once someone has raised a child and cared for a child for years, trying to get out of taking parental responsibility for said child is wrong, I don't care where the original sperm came from.
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