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Open Relationship Issue Posted: 10/19/2005 11:59:49 PM
I mean really, if either of us were really OUT there, we probably wouldn't ahve done open, but we know how we operate.

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Open Relationship Issue Posted: 10/19/2005 11:56:43 PM
No, I went on a date awhile back when it was CLEARLY OPEN and she was ok, if a bit jealous also. WE both concluded, why lock ourselves into a dead end relationship? but we still liked each other's company, so we hung out a lot, coupled with the fact we didn't have a buttload of friends. And it really wasn't like we were both screwing around all the time, I went on 1 date during that open phase as I said, maybe tried to set some stuff up online but that feel through,and then the recent one this week. ANd she went on a few wtih a couple guys, having sex with one. So yeah, its not a double standard if she thought we were back together, shes just confused. It will be ok, we make a habit of smoothing thinsg out.

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Open Relationship Issue Posted: 10/19/2005 11:27:46 PM
Well we had disccued he rules numerous, numerous times about dating people, try to stay away from sex if we are still active, and it was pretty clear for months. Then something changed in her mind recently to think we were back together, despite no real verbal agreement, it was more of a feeling I suppose. And I may be at fault for not being more clear, I really should have told her about the date before hand, it was a bit underhanded in that regard, I just didn't think much of it.

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Open Relationship Issue Posted: 10/19/2005 10:57:41 PM
Well, just needed to see that I am NOT crazy basically. Ok, me and my quasi-g/f of over a year(met online btw, not here) have been in an open, meaning we can date around a bit as we just aren;t compatible long term. I am pretty liberal, agnostic democratic. She is a pretty conservative, and religious. But anyways, she has gone on a couple dates in the last 6 months since we switched to our open deal, she even had sex with one about a month or so ago, I wasn't very pleased about it because we stilll are sexually active, but that was really my only issue. I mean i was slightly jealous in general, but i didn't stop here. That dating stopped after he said he didn't want to hang with her anymore. So, this Tuesday, the day she leaves for Job Corps, 2 hours away mind you and hard for her to contact me or her(15min on phone per day for her) I go on a date, my first date in like 3 mohths outside of my g/f. The date wasn't so great, and then my g/f calls me up and we chat for a second, then i tell her I went on a date, it sucked blah blah, no big deal right? Well she gets PISSED, because she thought we were back on for some reason, and although I did notice her saying she loved me more, which is her kinda cue that shes feeling more for me, we NEVER discused being exclusive recently. So basically it was an honest mistake and i said we would talk about this weekend when I visit her, but of course shes all in drama mode still and is like "well I guess you don't love me then, we aren;t going out now, your downgraded to friend status" etc. At points I just feel like saying " F U" for her being so irrational, but I do care for her and I don't want to cause more problems. I can't stand to let bridges stay burned either. Thanks.

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Non So Good looking Guy's With Hot/Sexy Girl's (Why?) Posted: 6/20/2005 11:10:04 PM
Why won't you answer my e-mails? :{

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How about a Webcam or special seeking forum? Posted: 10/22/2004 10:56:57 AM
A lot of times it very difficult to find others who want to cam with you, couples whatever, a lot of people don't even check their e-mails or even mention that they like to do this in their bios soooo, could we get a special seeking/webcam fun forum perhaps?? Thanks.

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Re: TIRED OF LOOKIN Posted: 9/5/2004 12:51:12 PM
3 kids is intimidating for some men. What do you do for a living?

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Re: Am I really that bad? Posted: 8/26/2004 10:07:05 PM
Your a great looking dude bro, I dunno wtf you were thinking hehe.

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Re: K i Just joined but will i get messages from other girls? or will anyone notice me at all? help me Moderators?? Posted: 8/19/2004 10:42:57 AM
What they said.

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Re: Does anyone else have Once-They-Get-to-Know-Me syndrome! Posted: 8/19/2004 10:35:06 AM
Yeah its all a numbers game, like advertising just e-mail all the women you are interested in with a simple message to see if they nibble. Then set the hook and reel her in!

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Re: Mistakes Guys Make on Dates? Posted: 8/19/2004 10:32:28 AM
Interesting stuff, realtionships are all about power balance. It helps to have a communication class in college, a lot of this stuff is covered sorta.

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Re: My apologies....lol Posted: 8/17/2004 1:31:40 AM
Thats all I know of so far lol read it while they are up!

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My apologies....lol Posted: 8/16/2004 12:35:42 PM
Well I posted a link to POF in my online gaming clan's forum and lo and behold the more immature and humerous fellows have had a field day. Some of the follow links are funny, some are both funny and offensive, so take caution. Don't hate the messenger! I didn't make any of these! http://www.plentyoffish.com/member161230.htm http://www.plentyoffish.com/member161380.htm http://www.plentyoffish.com/member161514.htm http://www.plentyoffish.com/member161679.htm http://www.plentyoffish.com/member161976.htm http://www.plentyoffish.com/member162454.htm http://www.plentyoffish.com/member163384.htm

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Re: THE MYTH Posted: 8/16/2004 11:55:45 AM
Hmm not sure I would say all myths have some basis in truth, but who knows. Do you fulfil the myth then?

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Re: Nice guys finish last! Posted: 8/16/2004 11:50:53 AM
LMFAO@Blast that blows dude seriously.

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Re: Dating more than one lady at a time... Posted: 8/16/2004 11:42:46 AM
Sounds like you want more an activity partner really or just plain friends, which usually morphs into something else eventually.

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Re: Races- can they mix? Posted: 8/16/2004 11:35:23 AM
I think all people can mix, nothing wrong with that. Personally though, I find myself less attracted to black/asian/hispanic woman, doesn't mean I won't date one but you take 10 white women and 10 black women and I will find more of the white women attractive on average.

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Re: Can Two People Really Meet and Begin a Relationship in a Forum? Posted: 8/16/2004 11:32:36 AM
Have faith bro, after being on here 3 weeks I am in the proccess of meeting someone soon, so hey who knows. As far as the demographic thing, I would say their are more younger folk (under 30) for several reasons: Most are naturally more available, computer savvy (or mommy/daddy got them one for college etc) they may have more free time in general with no kids or full time job to focus on dating.

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Personal thanks to BIgfish and other founders of POF Posted: 8/16/2004 5:39:16 AM
YOU ROXXORS! GReat SITE! Any way we can donate money via paypal? It would be a shame to have this site have to go into $$$ side of things.

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Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE? Posted: 8/15/2004 9:41:05 AM
I don't see why not, especially if you also combine web cam, pics, telephone etc into the equation, but I guess thats not completly ONLINE (although you sub in telephone with FREE voice programs it works).

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Re: heres your book all Posted: 8/15/2004 9:20:55 AM
Awesome.

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Re: I'm communicating with somebody... Posted: 8/15/2004 9:13:47 AM
Congrats I to am in contact with a girl atm only took about 2 weeks too.

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Re: So, John Kerry should win, right? Posted: 8/14/2004 4:05:34 PM
KERRY For teh win!@@!

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Re: Pick up lines Posted: 8/14/2004 3:54:29 PM
"My love for you is like diarreah-I can't keep it in!" LOL!

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Re: JUST ASK THEM.... Posted: 8/14/2004 3:44:58 PM
Too true.

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Re: On my first date I got stood-up by a POF member Posted: 8/1/2004 5:09:13 PM
bummer

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THIS WEBSITE ROCKS! Posted: 8/1/2004 2:12:47 AM
That is all, carry on.

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