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LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

How Many Of You Are Doing This? Posted: 11/7/2009 5:55:40 PM
No, that is NOT what I was referring to, callmeken, and I think you know that. I'm referring to a man who has bills up the ying-yang who drinks excessively while smoking pot.....and there are just as many women who slip into this catagory, too, I imagine. When you get to be my age (63), you should be near retirement and not looking for someone to put your butt on a gold platter. I work. I pay my bills. I'm not looking for a bank account. I'm looking for a friend, buddy, foot warmer on a cold night and someone who will 'add' to my life....and I don't mean $$$$. LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Of You Are Doing This? Posted: 11/7/2009 12:13:22 PM
Heck, YES, I'm 'selective'! And why shouldn't I be? I believe out there somewhere is a man who will meet my needs and desires: Tall, well mannered, mentally/financially stable, sincere, fun, intelligent, common interests/hobbies, average build, honest/moral and willing to give 100% to a relationship; except for height, that's what I'm offering. No, no one is perfect but to accept less that what I want would make both of us unhappy eventually. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/26/2008 5:27:11 AM
You know Ladies.....if I could delete almost ALL the male responses , we might have an intelligent thread going on here. See directly above. Nuff said. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/25/2008 7:20:25 PM
Honcho, you are absolutely correct. A great number of medications people take these days affects the libido. Depression medication is another. I have always told a man I take medication for depression because I think at times my 'interests' decrease, and because sex IS more important to a man than most women, he needs to know. Are you Diabetic 1 or 2? If you're 1 w/o complications, exercise and a rigid diet can usually eliminate it from your system. Then, no pills, more drive and lots of 'parking'. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/25/2008 6:26:54 PM
Well, lots of OP-bashing while I was at work, eh? You guys feel better now? Look.......I'm going to say this one more time: I did NOT start this thread to belittle or undermine a man's abilities to perform. The last four men I've met this year have ALL suffered from ED, ranging in age from 56 to 63, and not one of them had the blls to tell me up front. However, while spending time getting to know them, thru IMs and Messenger they made it quite clear sex was very important to them and it would make a huge difference in whether WE would be compatible or not. How could these men make such statements and base a relationship on performace when they, themselves, had severe ED? I wanted to know if other women have been faced with these same circumstances and how did they handle it? Yes, I made the comment most men who sit in front of their computers beating their chest, trying to impress us ladies how great they are in bed, are likely the same ones who don't have a clue how to make love to a woman.....but, boy, you should hear them berate women every chance they get; she's fat, she's frigid, her vagina is as big as the Grand Canyon, she hates giving head.....and on and on and on. I don't know about the rest of you but this horse is DEAD! Been DEAD for years! Let's try something new for a change...........reality and honesty. And, in case anyone's remotely interested, I'm just as much woman as I was when I was 40. I'm just tired of having to do all the work and still being disappointed. ED is a common and most disheartening medical condition a man can go through. Instead of understanding it might just be a part of growing older and instead of trying to reverse the effects with exercise, good nutrition, laying off the booze and cigarettes and getting their blood pressure under control, they sit around, expecting a purdy little pill to do the work for them. Yes, it takes a very understanding partner (which I am) to help make the outcome better but even we ladies expect a man to meet us at least half way. Instead of doing so, you guys sit around a btch and complain, trying to pass the quilt on to someone else. Most of you guys who have had fun this afternoon, at my expense, are NOT old enough to really understand what aging and body abuse is going to do to you in a few years but, hey, let's burn the old biddy at the stake anyway. Not only do you need to learn more about what makes a woman tick but you need to grow up as well. I am not amused! Men, if you're reading this and you suffer from ED, do yourself and any woman you might meet a favor and be honest about it. If your condition can be improved or even eliminated by exercise, get off your duff and exercise...the same thing you keep telling us women to do. If changing your diet helps, too, do it. You want US to be better lovers? Well, we expect the same from you. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/25/2008 6:10:43 AM
Well, with an ID like 'KittyLiquer' I would expect your reply to be as it was. How classless! Besides, you're 35 years old and haven't even grown up yet, much less old! When you get to be 55 or 60 or even 70, I bet you're chest beating days will be over, too! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/25/2008 4:50:48 AM
I knew I would take a tongue lashing when I started this thread but I believe it's a subject that needs addressing, not only for men but for women, too, because we're ALL going to get older, count on it. We're all going to experience health issues of some kind, be it arthritic thumbs or bladder control or ED. Never ONCE did I amuse myself with these men's difficulties as that would have been an insult of all insults. I did, however, expect them to be honest and forthcoming, which two were not. For as long as I can remember, since Forums were invented, men have bashed women for being fridged, fat, non-stimulating because their 'equipment' was too large...you name it, men have complained about it. And, yet, women are supposed to be all forgiving and understanding when 'they' can't produce. It's always 'their' fault! I also know diabeties can be comtrol and even Diabeties 1 can be totally eliminated with proper diet and exercise.....but guys won't do that! I know eliminating alcohol will dramatically improve the problem but guys wouldn't think of giving up their booze with the boys. Most just sit back and complain about women as they pop like pills expecting a miracle to happen in 20 minutes. And, just for the record, I personally believe friendship/companionship is far more important, at any age, than sex in a relationship. If you don't have that, by the time you're 65-70, you're going to find yourself very much alone in this world if you're expecting 'sex' to keep the relationship together. I would be the first one to stand up and put my best foot forward if I fell in love with a man who had ED because I know I'm not as young as I used to be either but it's time, I believe, men start taking full responsibility for their situation and do something about it, if they can, and stop bashing women as a last recourse. And it must be some kind of denial because all four of these men, especially two of them, made it quite apparent they expected lots of sex in a relationship. I just wanted other opinions, other views from women who may have experienced the same issue. And, if you men take exception to my questions/comments and need to berate me, I wonder why. Hmmmmm. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/24/2008 9:43:05 PM
tbm55, you are absolutely correct! WAAAAAAAAY too many overweight people, period, not just men. But that has nothing to do with a man's ability to get it 'up' in the first place. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/24/2008 9:40:06 PM
Thanks, no 1, but after the second run-in with Mr. Limping-A-Long, I did a ton of research on the net and even talked to my physican about it. According to him, sexual dysfunction begins between 55 & 60 and increases up to as much as 45% by the time men reach 65. That's nearly HALF! Most is due to being overweight, alcohol, HBP and diabeties. Men my age don't seem to think exercise and a healthy lifestyle are very important but, to hear them talk, they are just as sexual as they where when they were 25. BULL! When you add the fact that (IMO) 75% of men walking the face of the earth don't have the foggest notion HOW to make love to a woman, it's no wonder women these days would rather take a beating than become physical with a man, even if it's her own husband; they talk a big story but few can produce. Anyway.....I can't be the only woman who has run into this problem because us Babyboomers are a growing society day by day. And, guys, if you really think all these meds being pawned off on men in the US is the answer, you are sadly mistaken. Let's quit beating your chests and get down to reality here. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/24/2008 9:14:31 PM
I know this is going to be a touchy subject but I've run 6 researches for this subject and came up empty handed.....excuse the pun OK, so here's my beef: I will be 62 in 55 minutes and the last four men I've met on line have admitted to being somewhat 'slow' and/or 'non-existant' in the bedroom department, w/o the help of the little blue or pink pills. Two were diabetic, one was overweight and the last one was diabetic AND overweight. Now.....I've never been one to men who were a bit chubby nor have I ever given a health screening on prospective dates but, good Lord, guys.....is this as much a problem as it seems? And two of these men made quite an issue about telling me they loved and wanted frequent sex. Whoa, cowboy....how can you sit there and somewhat 'demand' sex when you ain't got what it takes to get the pony up and running? Any of you other ladies run across this situation and what have you done about it? I've tried to be very understand and patient but having to 'time' intercourse really pulls the plug on any kind of intimacy and spontenaity (sp?). LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 133 (view)

How to Date With A Disability Posted: 9/11/2008 9:20:49 PM
Good grief, tuckerjo, I hope to h*ll you don't wake up some morning and discover you're (more) disabled. I've been deaf since 1982 due to a riding (horse) accident and can't begin to imagine how I'd feel if I was blind or limped because I've faced some of life's worst experienced just because I can't HEAR! As far as I am concerned, anyone who is disabled who continues to challange and enjoy life is far and above a better person than your so-called 'normal' person. At least we KNOW our disabilities..............everyone else doesn't. I'd give my eye teeth to find a Mr Right(ly Disabled) because he would be far kinder, far more understanding, far more honest than ANY of the men I've met online so far, except one. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Do men usually love their first wife the most? Posted: 9/7/2008 12:01:43 PM
StarreGazer, I know it's fun to see your name in print but could you PLEASEEEEEEEEE combine your replies? My computer is running out of space! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Do men usually love their first wife the most? Posted: 9/7/2008 11:52:50 AM
I'm going to have to agree w/ratboy7 on this one. I truly loved my first husband but I disliked who he had become by the time we divorced 26 years later. Even so, I'll think about the good times we had (and the bad, of course) but I'm not incapable of loving again or as deeply or more. First husbands are like first boyfriends....at least for me. Jerry was my very first b/f and I remember that first kiss like it was yesterday. We still love each other to this day and joke and laugh about ourselves at every class reunion. So, IMO, if you truly LOVE someone, you never forget them. They will always be a part of your past and, in small ways, a part of your future. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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How good IS The advice on this site? Posted: 9/4/2008 3:12:36 PM
There is not a thing wrong with asking a question and reading how everyone has responded, even from us 'old folks' but the ultimate decision has to be your's. This may come as a big surprise to some but God gave us all the equipment to make wise decisions.....called 'gut instincts'. Wish I had listened to mine many years ago when I knew what it was because I'm certain I would be in better shape (physically and emotionally) if I had. When you has something troubling you, go to a quiet room and 'think'. Just think. Think of all the possibilities and 'feel' what happens inside you. If you listen, you will find your answers. All too often, tho, we (ladies) listen to the beat of our hearts and not the common sense of our brains. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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I can't eat or sleep... Posted: 9/4/2008 7:33:04 AM
WOW! I don't get it! When men talk to other men about how unfulfilling their sex lives are, they are told to 'move on'. But when women talk about an unfillfilling sex life, the advice they get is, "Don't screw up a great relationship just because the sex isn't good". What kind of Victorian thinking is that? That's like saying, "Don't leave a great relationship just because your b/f won't go out and get a job"! If a person, man or woman, isn't getting everything they 'need' in a relationship, it ISN'T a great relationship. Going off in a corner somewhere and "taking care of business" isn't the answer, it's just a meaningless substitute. Come on, folks, if she continues to do without something she 'needs' to be happy, she's 'settling' and that will only catch up with her later....the problem will NOT go away, even with 'self-help'. People change throughout their lives. Their needs and wants change so sometimes you have to 'change' partners to get what you now need or want. I'm NOT talking about cheating either. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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I can't eat or sleep... Posted: 9/4/2008 6:30:25 AM
From personal experience: 1) Your b/f is NOT going to lose weight until HE wants to and it already sounds like he'll never want to. 2) He either has some mental or physical problem, or both, which only HE can change. If he continues gaining weight, his next problem will be Diabeties 1, then 2. 3) If he developes either 1 or 2, your sex life will be history because now he'll be dysfunctional and no little pills are going to make it all better. 4) Since the only person you can change is yourself, you need to do whatever makes YOU happy but that should never include 'cheating'. Get yourself healthy and fit. If your b/f wants sex, politely tell him, "I don't find you sexually attractive because of your excessive weight". "Loose weight, get fit and healthy and THEN we can resume our sex life". If he gets bent out of shape (excuse the pun), he's only acting like he's mad at you, when in reality, he's mad at himself. 5) If this does not change his attitude about getting help (and, yes, he needs professional help, medically and mentally), set a invisible time limit in your head and if you still aren't happy in, say, 6 months, leave the relationship and move on. 6) In the meantime, cut all ties with your school chum and concentrate on yourself and your current relationship. This will be a difficult stance to take but the sooner you do, the happier you will be. Guaranteed. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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I am looking for advice Posted: 9/4/2008 6:00:27 AM
You're 30 years old, married and on this site 'looking'? What the hell is this world coming to? Lady, you have spent SEVEN YEARS with a man who has made your life miserable (so you say). Why are you still married to him? Sounds like he's got too many problems and he ain't going to change, if that's what you're hanging around for. Delete your profile here (and anywhere else you have one), get a divorce before this marriage ruins your children, get off your butt and get a job then spend the next couple of years growing up and finding out what you really want and need in a relationship. If need be, seek some therapy to find out why you stayed in an abusive (yes, what he's doing to you is abusive!) relationship so you don't repeat past mistakes. I am truly sorry if this sounds harsh but I know from personal experience people DO NOT change only circumstances do. I wasted 20 years of my life married to a man who couldn't be happy with just one woman in his life. I will regrete that wasted time until the day I die. Get out of that relationship NOW! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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little luck on this site Posted: 9/3/2008 8:08:19 PM
Call me a wet blanket or whatever trips your trigger but when are people on these 'single sites' going to finally wake up and realize that's all it is......a site where singles (most of us anyway) meet. I wouldn't go as far as to say 'most' people here are 'fruit loops' but pretty close. You have liars, cheaters, users whose sole purpose is to get whatever they can at everyone else's expense. I talked to a guy who had lent some woman $40k and was wondering why she wouldn't reply now to any of his messages. DUH! I've had drunks try to pass themselves off as someone who rarely drinks, fat guys trying to pass themselves off as 'muscular', married men wanting me to think they were single and the list goes on and on and on. Anyone who sits at home night after night trying to find love on the net is only fooling themselves. If it happens, it's only rarely and I wonder if they are still together a year later. Get off your butts and go out into the real world. Face living, breathing humans and judge for yourself whether you're interested in them or not. Talk face to face. See how they are dressed. See if they are mannerly, polite. Did they come alone or with friends? On the net, you can be anything and anyone you want to be and rarely would the person on the other end know any different. It's a game to them. It's filling a void life with some interuption. It's blowing smoke, making fun and basically disrespecting everyone they come into contact with. Yes, if I'm bored or don't want to get cleaned up and go out, the net is second best. I can sit on my couch with no make-up, in my PJs, having not brushed my teeth in three days and flirt up a storm, just to pass time. Well, I think that's kindergarden mentality and I'm not looking for someone to raise or save. Accept this mode of matchmaking for what it is, and nothing more. Have a good time, meet people but leave the BS and crap outside with tomorrow's garbage collection. Believe me, your life will be so much simplier and enjoyable. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Did I overreact? Posted: 9/3/2008 6:43:29 AM
I don't honestly believe you care one way or the other what people think. I believe you're here to gloat! LIB

ldynblk

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Lies and deceit! Why? Posted: 9/3/2008 6:38:20 AM
If you have to 'ask' that question, you already 'know' the answer. That's your gut instincts tapping you on the shoulder, lady. Better listen. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?? Posted: 9/1/2008 2:09:57 PM
Funartist25.................was a great post! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?? Posted: 9/1/2008 1:03:30 PM
OP, just ignore eagleeric. He HAS to be one of the most negative, 'ass'-n-nine men I've ever seen on this site. He doesn't have a pleasant thing to say, to or about anyone.....except maybe about himself. Talk about arrogant and egotistical! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?? Posted: 9/1/2008 11:13:13 AM
I can vividly related to the OP's situation. And since I can, I don't believe she needs to see a therapist or wonder if there's a decent man alive because I'm not sure there is, at least on all these dating sites. I met a man from MN. Wasn't exactly what I was hoping for (tall, dark and handsome but he did seem very honest and trustworthy. He wasn't perfect but then neither am I. He visited the first time for a week and then got a 'panic attack' and left. Before he even got home, he was texting me he was sorry and should never have left. Second time he came, he was here for two weeks. Had to go back home for foot surgery. Two night before he left, as I found out AFTER he had gone, he got out of MY bed, got on MY computer and started flirting with women on another single site. Apparently was fast a sleep because I had no idea this was going on. As he made is way back home, I discovered what he had been doing. I was hurt, angry and embarassed that I had allowed myself to be 'played'. He has talked about moving down here, buying a piece of land and building a log home for us. Traveling on our Harleys together. Even talkd about marriage down the line. But there he was........flirting with other women. When I texted him I knew, that was the last I've ever heard from him...no real loss except for time. So, folks, if you think all women need to see a shrink because they've been fooled by some scumbag, maybe YOU need to see one because it's called 'life' and shit happens. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's? Posted: 9/1/2008 10:53:41 AM
As I look back about 10 years, sex on the first meeting/date only happened once, and it wasn't planned. It just happened. As others have said, when things are right and good, it happens and it's wonderful. Spent nearly 11 hours talking, flirting, laughing, enjoying, wondering, hoping....did I say flirting? Then it was 5 hours of the most sexual, fullfilling, invigorating, wonderful and fun intimacy I've ever experienced. I often believe I fell in love that night, and I think he did also. But, it wasn't to be and I still think of him often, 6 years later. If only I could find that again! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/31/2008 7:29:20 PM
dabearsuy, I know nothing about Bobby Jindal but he got my immedite attention and total respect when he annouced, "Anyone staying are on their own and if you get caught stealing or vandalizing an unprotected home or business, there will be no trial or jury or Judge. You will go straight to prison." I like that guy's attitude! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/31/2008 3:20:04 PM
I'm glad to see this topic is still getting some attention because, "Ladies and Gentlemen, this storm could make every one before look like a spring shower". It's moving at 20 MPH at a CAT 4. With several hundred more miles and warm ocean to move across before it hits land, it's expected to reach a CAT 5. That means, as is my understanding, EVERYTHING within 200 miles of the Gulf is in danger of being wiped off the face of the map, or flooded beyond imagination. Me? I live 80 miles due north of Galveston and 90 miles northwest of Beaumont; both those cites were evacuating starting this morning. I'm staying. Smart or not, everything I own is here. Me and my three dogs will take shelter in my hallway closet if need be. If I can help anyone near me, contact me through POF. I'll do what I can but this is not the Hilton and I'm not Paris. Good luck and God's speed to all. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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The Most Functional Word in the English Language Posted: 8/31/2008 12:44:08 PM
Well, it's shit ... that's right, shit! Shit may just be the most functional word in the English language. You can smoke shit, buy shit, sell shit, lose shit, find shit, forget shit, and tell others to eat shit. Some people know their shit, while others can't tell the difference between shit and shineola. There are lucky shits, dumb shits, and crazy shits. There is bull shit, horse shit, and chicken shit. You can throw shit, sling shit, catch shit, shoot the shit, or duck when the shit hits the fan. You can give a shit or serve shit on a shingle. You can find yourself in deep shit or be happier than a pig in shit. Some days are colder than shit, some days are hotter than shit, and some days are just plain shitty. Some music sounds like shit, things can look like shit, and there are times when you feel like shit. You can have too much shit, not enough shit, the right shit, the wrong shit or a lot of weird shit. You can carry shit, have a mountain of shit, or find yourself up shit creek without a paddle. Sometimes everything you touch turns to shit and other times you fall in a bucket of shit and come out smelling like a rose. When you stop to consider all the facts, it's the basic building block of the English language. And remember, once you know your shit, you don't need to know anything else!! You could pass this along, if you give a shit; or not do so if you don't give a shit! Well, Shit, it's time for me to go. Just wanted you to know that I do give a shit and hope you have a nice day, without a bunch of shit. But, if you happened to catch a load of shit from some shit-head........... Well...................... Shit Happens!!! Now I sent this to my older brother who's a retired school teacher and HE says the most functional English word is "it". Think about "it". LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/29/2008 11:34:09 AM
Whoa.....hold on Charlesedm.....why are you blaming the government because retirement homes dropped the ball on getting their residents out in time? They had ample time to 'hire' transportation if necessary but just like almost everyone else down there, they sat around EXPECTING someone else to do their jobs for them. As for people w/o transporation.......unless they are disabled and can't walk, using one's feet to escape has long been the choice of many, from caveman to astronauts! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Dating an Alcoholic Posted: 8/29/2008 5:49:55 AM
And people complain about smokers! LIB

ldynblk

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/28/2008 11:42:59 PM
Souzou, NO ONE left ANYONE there to die! That's pure hogwash!!!! There was a call for total evacuation because the city and state knew New Orleans was going to get hit and hit hard. Instead of packing up a few belongings and making a quick exit, people sat around on their asses and whinned the city and state didn't care about them. "Whoa is me....what shall I do?" When it was obvious they weren't going to get a free ride out, THEN they decided to move but it was too late. Whose fault is that? I'm sorry so many people died. I am sorry so many lost everything but until people are ready to assume some responsibility for themselves, they don't have a right to **** because someone else doesn't. As for the wetlands..........this is 2008, not 1950. Times have changed. The Earth is changing. What might have worked before, doesn't work now. Those levees were built YEARS ago for the storms we had then, not the ones we get now. If it isn't safe to live with the ocean at your front door, then MOVE! LIB

ldynblk

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/28/2008 11:03:32 PM
WhosDrunk.....as far as I know, the crime rate in Houston skyrocketed when the New Orleans overflow moved in. The majority of people this city housed, fed and doctored for a year, without cost to them I might add, as well as Fema who gave them apartments, furniture, clothing and education, were pretty much the lower class, riff-raff of Burbon Street. And how do they repay us? By stealing, injuring and killing Houstonians, as well as their own. Maybe if those people had gotten off their lazy butts years ago, by working honest jobs instead of living off their state, they would have had money to buy cars so they could have gotten the hell out of Dodge like everyone else! And.......Houston is no worse than Miami, Detroit, New York, L.A., Washington, DC., Chicago, just to name a few. Frankly, you couldn't pay me to live in any of those cities. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/28/2008 8:39:32 PM
Shortly after 10 this evening, CST, one of the local Houston news channel is now predicting landfall west of New Orleans and east of Texas City, TX. That's pretty much what my thought was night before last. However, New Orleans is still making preparations to call for total evacuation sometime Sunday or Monday if the storm continues driving towards Burbon Street. Hanna, it seems, is making her way to the east side of Florida, as if they need anymore rain and wind! However, there's a slight possibility she'll turn south and breeze past the Keys, then make a sharp turn north. If that happens, right now, they have no idea where she would land. It's going to be a very interesting 4 or 5 days. LIB

ldynblk

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/28/2008 2:28:18 PM
Just heard on the Weather Channel the Governor of Louisiana is making preparations to call for a TOTAL evacuation of New Orleans. I guess you have no choice in the matter; you either evacuate or whatever happens to you is YOUR problem, not the State's. That should have been the tone the last time!!!!! Then on top of all this, "Here comes Hanna"....another potiental Hurricane! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

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Gulf Coast(ers), are you ready????? Posted: 8/27/2008 10:23:26 PM
While most of the U.S. is gearing up for summer's end and the Labor Day festivities, there are several million of us who have other things on our minds.......Hurricanes. According to the Weather Channel this evening, the projected path/landfall of Gustav is anywhere from just west of Houston to the Florida Panhandle, with New Orleans a distinct possibility, anytime from Monday evening to Tuesday afternoon. Remembering the Katrina mess several years back, Houston Mayor says, "Houston will NOT be open to Louisiana evacuees"; guess we learned the first time that was a disasterous mistake for the state of Texas, which we are STILL dealing with over 24 months later. Since I live approximately 57 miles northwest of the Big H, I'm making plans to ride it out, whatever 'it' is. While a few of my neighbors believe this is just another false alarm, my gut tells me we can only be 'lucky' so many time before we get kicked in the a** and water up to our belly buttons. I believe once Gustav leaves Cuba, it's going to hit the warm Gulf waters, strengthen and make a bee line for an area between the Louisiana state line and Houston. If you're like me and you live within the projected landfall area, what plans, if any, are you making? Staying? Leaving? What are you doing to prepare yourself if you're staying? Have family/friends down this way? You might want to call them and let them know you have a warm bed if they need to head north. Of course with the possibility of a major storm heading into the Gulf, oil companies are preparing to evacuate oil rigs, which will raise the price of gas again. In fact, it's already up $2.00 a barrel since last week. Well, it's my beddy-bye time as I have to make a trip to Lowes in the morning to get some plywood before it's all gone. I wish everyone a wonderful Labor Day weekend and for those of us who may not have time to relax and BBQ, I'm wishing you nothing more than a few raindrops. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

What to do if drinking and smoking rules his life? Posted: 8/25/2008 5:16:29 AM
There's an old saying which I believe is true: "We are what we are since we were ten". No, I am not suggesting he drank and smoked at 10 but he's been this man for a long time and for reasons, likely even unknown to him, he's an alcoholic and excessive smoker, both of which are 'symptoms' to certain 'causes' and he will never change. Pack you bags and find the nearest exit. You do NOT want this kind of relationship.....EVER! LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 6:43:30 PM
eagleeric............it must be so wonderful to be so perfect, standing on that tall pedestal you've put yourself on. Be careful you don't fall......I guarantee you it'll hurt when you hit bottom. And you WILL. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 5:14:24 PM
Bluesman....................I think that's IT! I really believe you've hit the nail square on the head. THANK YOU, thank you, thank you. As I look back, I can see where I was accepting them as they were and then ****ing to myself "this is not what I want!". That doesn't really mean they were 'bad' (well, some definately were), it means I was expecting them to 'change' into what I wanted/needed. God, how stupid can I be?????? OK, don't all of you answer that at once. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 4:53:09 PM
cute nurse, tell me more about "The Secret". LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 3:19:38 PM
urinemyway ( great ID, I think), someone asked me what my 'wants' were, NOT which ones I would negotiate. So, just so you understand I'm not the stuffed shirt I'm afraid my comments have made me appear to be. 1) TALL: Maybe that should be in the 'wish' catagory and I'm not about to pass up a great guy because he isn't TALL. 2) ATTRACTIVE: Yes, this means different things to different people. I was only referring to what I find attractive. Could be looks, attitude, personality, the smile, the laugh......all those things will make someone attractive or not, depending on who you are. 3) HONEST: Won't accept anything less. And if by being truthful (expressing his honest opinions/thoughts) he appears to be someone short on 'tact', so be it. I'm an adult. I have broad shoulders and I've never been someone to run from constructive critisiim (is that spelled right?). 4) FINANCIAL STABLE: I'm not looking for a millionaire (or even close) but someone who knows the value of saving, good credit. I came from the other side of the tracks and I ain't going back...not for love or anything else. 5) MENTALLY STABLE: I think it should go without saying, I'm not going to trust my life and happiness to a 'nut'. We all have baggage and "we are what we were at 10" and I'm not going to be abused (mentally or physically) just to have a pair of warm feet on a cold night. 6) COMMON INTERESTS: We don't have to have all the same interests and nothing more. If he wants to shop at a fabric store to make curtains, good for him. If he wants to have a manicure and pedicure, I'll sit right there beside him and have one done, too. If he wants to hang around the 'guys' on Saturday while I snoop through the antique stores.....great! Everyone needs a little 'my time' now and then. But if we share NO common interests, one of us is going to be very bored and unhappy. 7) MORALS & INTEGRITY: See #3. 8) LONG TERM: Sure, I might be happy just having a friend or dinner partner now and then and if it turns into something else, wonderful. But that's not my goal. 9) MANNERLY & POLITE: A gentleman knows how to treat a 'lady' so that's what I want and need. Most 'men' haven't a clue about table manners, social graces, etc. Let him find someone else to treat like one of the 'guys'. 10) HEALTHY: Look, I'll be 62 on Sept. 25th, so I come equipped with a few aches of my own. I could probably loose about 10 pounds and feel better so I'm constantly watching what I eat and am now the proud owner of a treadmill. What I can't accept are men who have medical issues which could be corrected with a change in diet or more exercise but who refuse to do it and they complain about feeling bad anyway. I don't mind a diabetic if he's controlling his diet, exercising and taking his medication as prescribed. If HE doesn't care about himself for the long haul, why should I? Why should I waste my time? I won't! Frankly, I know my downfalls better than anyone but, all in all, I believe I am an honjestly 'good catch'. Perfect? No! Compromise? Most likely, depending. Forgiving? You bet....for unconscious mistakes....we all make them. Faithful? ABSOLUTELY!!! I like me and I have to believe someday someone else will, too. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 10:32:24 AM
Msg#13: Good points. T Y. Msg#15: I think you are correct....as I now think back. Msg#16: Point taken. I changed it. Msg#18: My 'wants' reflect my 'needs' but that's the way I am, and at nearly 62, I'm not about to settle or change. I only have so many years left and they will be good ones or I'll stay single. Period! Msg#19: I didn't get it either. Seemed more of a 'put down' than 'help'. LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 9:45:08 AM
ALL of you have been terrific, including the ones still kicking my shins.....just kidding... and most of what everyone has commented on has merit which I will give great thought to. As for my 'want' list, let's see if I can give you (and myself) a Reader's Digest version and the 'whys', since that seems to be more important than initially thought: 1) TALL: Because standing beside a man taller than myself makes me feel more petite and feminine. 2) ATTRACTIVE: Because attraction is the fire that lights passion, and it would feel so good to feel that again. 3) HONEST: Hopefully no one needs a reason for this! 4) FINANCIALLY STABLE: I'm taking care of myself just fine. I don't want to get involved with someone who isn't because, being the kind of person I am, I'd want to help and would feel bad if I couldn't. And since it seems $$$$$ is at the root of most relationship problems and 'evil', I don't need it. 5) MENTALLY STABLE: I'm not a doctor or therapist...I'm a dog groomer. I'm not here to rescue anyone. 6) COMMON INTERESTS: Why would I want to become involved with someone who doesn't like: dogs (I have three), motorcycles (have ridden since 1971 and don't see myself quiting anytime soon), fishing (just because it's relaxing and fun), traveling (I am definately NOT a homebody)...you get the picture. 7) MORALS & INTEGRITY: Same answer as #3 which seems to be sorely lacking in the world today. 8) LONG TERM: I'm not interested in free dinners or more coffee so why should I spend time dating around with people who have no interest in being serious when I could be spending my time looking for one who is? 9) MANNERLY & POLITE: I was brought up in a very strict Southern tradition. I LIKE manners and being treated like a lady. I hate men who eat like pigs, dress like a bum and have never given thought to opening a door for me. Maybe to some women, those are not important. I am not 'some' of those women. 10) HEALTHY: I know better than most what it's like to age gracefully. I have sore joints and headaches like everyone else my age. But the last three men I've tried to form a 'more than casual' relationship with have been overweight, diabetic and sexually dysfunctional; if two of them had just lost weight like their doctors had told them, the last two problems could have been eliminated. I'm not perfect and I don't expect anyone else to be but I'm tired of being Miss Understanding all the while they seemingly don't give a sh*t as long as they get what they want! That's all I can think of right now. So where am I going wrong here? LIB

ldynblk

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 7:49:12 AM
I think I've come to the conclusion that all men aren't bad, it's the ones I choose who are. For the past 6-7 years, I've been on and off single sites, depending on the weather, my mood, etc. and I've had email and IM conversations with tons of men. I've even gone so far as to meet and few and even fewer have made it to my home eventually. But.......the bottom line.......the results are always the same: they turn out to be BIG disappointments. Liars, cheats, self-absorbed, selfish, disrespectful and the list could go on and on and on. Then, this morning as I was making coffee, it dawned on me that I keep picking men who are just like my first husband. So I'M the problem! Now that I realize this, how do I stop? Do I need to scrap my "I want" list and try something different? Do I stop making the initial contact and let the men pick me? Or, do I just give up and become a nun? Inquiring mind needs to know. LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

Women With No Heart Posted: 12/26/2007 5:56:13 AM
You know, annikagirl......my mother used to have a saying which I think pretty much applies to you. "You can wrap sh*t in a pretty box but it still sinks!" LIB

LDYnBLK

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Msg: 29 (view)

people on site are hard to crack Posted: 12/24/2007 12:37:31 PM
Good grief, Louise. Someone needs to send her the book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Wait til she gets my age and let's see how she's handling the dating scene as I am positive she's going to be single a very, very, very long time. LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

people on site are hard to crack Posted: 12/24/2007 7:19:42 AM
When is everyone on these 'dating' sites going to realize finding Mr. Wonderful or Ms. Perfect is a 1 in a 1000 shot at best. Men want models and women want millionaires. Too many are have hidden agendas and far too many are already 'involved'. The rest of us are either too unrealistic or just plain tired of all the BS. If we do happen to find someone who attracts us, with some common interests thrown in, they likely live more than 10 miles away and most ( I said 'most) men won't travel except for vacations. Have been on and off these sites for what seems like decades, I've chatted with HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of men. I've actually 'met' at least 50 or so in person, as far away as Austria, Italy and Alaska, and there's only been ONE (from TN) I would have married. Frankly, I had better luck going to the grocery store, Lowes and an antique mall. As for those who claim to have found their soulmate (I detest that word!!!), I'd love to know if they are still together a year later. I think we'd ALL feel better and have far less disappointments if we just considered these sites as a format to finding penpals, period. No expectations. No judging a person's value by their looks, their bank accounts or where they live. Concentrate on mutual interests, compatible personalities and leave the games and sexual enuendos to the movies. Besides, you cannot expect a real relationship to transpire before you've developed friendships. LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

How can an hour hold anyone back? Posted: 11/12/2007 10:44:55 AM
I used to believe......I really did......'distance' should not be an issue IF you found the right one. Of course, my beliefs came before reality, and the reality is most people want a relationship of convenience. Yep, "must live 20 miles from me" or forget it! "Must live within the same time zone" or you're out! Come on people.........nothing in this world is 'convenient'. Some people drive 90 minutes in heavy 5 o'clock traffic 5 days a week just to get home. To what? An empty existance enhanced with TV dinners and reruns? The 'same o- same-o' week in and week out? I live 60 miles north of Houston; a HUGE, vast area full of singles, even in my age bracket, and most of the men who have contacted me within this area have begged off getting acquainted because of DISTANCE! Guess there will be a lot of people still single 5 years from now because few, if any, will make the effort necessary to nurture a relationship; the good (he/she is PERFECT for me), the bad (we work odd hours) and the ugly(gas prices are climbing or it might take me two hours driving to have dinner or I can't see him/her as much as I want). Geeze, maybe well should just buy a 'pet' and forget this single site stuff! LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

My disability/my curse Posted: 10/29/2007 4:49:24 AM
Good morning, Spindler2007. I knew nothing about your disability (I hate that word!) so went on the Web to educate myself. First let me say, as I am sure you've heard a million times, 'no one is perfect'. Everyone of us has a disability of sorts........mine is, I've lost nearly 80% of my hearing and have what is termed, 'comprehension deafness'. And, yes, people will judge and avoid you, not because of your disability but because they don't understand it or know how to relate to you. That's THEIR problem, not yours. Second, you're 23 years old. You have plenty of time to find Ms Wonderful. In the meantime, I would look for associatiions or groups who deal with your type of impairment and start learning how to communicate more effectively. Widen your interests so you have more in common with a wider range of ladies. I'm no physician but I would think getting interested in something 'physical', like running, swimming, weight-lifting would help relieve some of the stresses you experience on a day to day basis. Don't have to talk to anyone to do those things. Third, don't hesitate to inform a potiental date of your situation. It is much easier to accept rejection via the net than face-to-face and honesty has always been the best policy. Like me, you may have to throw back a lot of 'catches' before you find a keeper but it will be worth it in the long haul. And, lastly, chin up. You're young, intelligent and good looking. You can see, hear, walk and talk. That's a lot more than some peoople have going for them. LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 88 (view)

instant messenger chats Posted: 10/22/2007 9:55:04 AM
I believe it is absolutely wrong to be chatting with other people when a party "of interest" has contacted you. We live in such a self-absorbed society these days that few people know what manners and respect are. I've been IMing for quite a while now and I'm smart enough to know if a delay is computer related....dial up connects can cause delays....or not, especially when I get an answer to a question I've never asked. If I suspect I don't have someone's undivided attention, as I am giving them, I'm gone! LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

Chicken Stir-Fry.......................HELP! Posted: 10/17/2007 4:42:11 AM
You fishes are awesome! I KNEW I would find some assistant chefs here. Can't wait to try these. Thanks so much. LIB

LDYnBLK

Joined: 3/11/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Chocolate Ice Cream Posted: 10/17/2007 4:39:01 AM
WOW......thanks so much for your input. Think I'll drag out my machine and make a couple batches just to see how it tastes. If it's good, I'll vacuum seal it and freeze. The best chocolate? Is there a 'best'? LIB

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