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Why won't he call when he says he will? Posted: 1/2/2009 4:52:27 AM
Hello, I am no expert, that is for sure, men think so different than us women do. You sound like me, I get attached, now though, I try and not have expatations, trust me, this is very difficult, this last weekend I had 2 coffee dates on the same day, one in the AM and one in the PM, both men did not call, runed my day because I have better things to be doing than waiting for someone to phone me, I was up and dressed early in the AM for the first coffee date, not even a phone call, with this perticular person this is the second time, no more, move on if you can, if you flirt with someone else it makes it easier. My second coffee date in the PM did call, but hours after the time of the date, he did say sorry and that he would call me later, he has not called, and I am not waiting for him. Different than you, you had some very intament moments with this man, so it is difficult to move on sometimes, he could be dating others, or just a player, or perhaps the closeness with you frightened him, as he is attracted to you and not ready for the things you are, we could be here all day and try and figure out the reason. In my past experiences with men, if hes not calling,hes not that into you, sorry, I know it hurts, but dont let this person hurt you any more.Try not to take it so personal, he might be out of town, or just working hard, Dating is tough love as they say.Best of luck! reply if you wish paulette

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Hurt... Posted: 4/5/2006 2:42:49 PM
JERSEY,yep, I was married 13 years, and he left me for his best friends wife, my x and her are now married to each other. It is hard to see the x with someone else, but as time passes, I get over it.you will also.It might not work out with her anyway, you never know what is in the future. pj

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Men reaching age 50 + Posted: 4/5/2006 2:26:36 PM
hELLO,I have found out that men lie all the time, I meet them online, and have met some in person, about 5 or so, most are much older than the photo, I am in for a huge dissapointment, and I post a new photo of me and expect the same f them. What do they all think that you are not going to nitice that they are gray haired and fat???????????????I wish that I could find someone that does post the total truth. good luck pj

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What happened here?? Posted: 4/3/2006 3:27:57 PM
HI, People grow and change, life goes on, for her, so , for you too..If she is a true friend, she will be back later, it you contact her, you might make her upset, we can not second geuess what she is going through now, she might need some space now, so, give it to her.PJ

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Have You Ever Breaken One's Heart !?! Posted: 4/3/2006 3:23:31 PM
JIM,I think you are understanding enough!!! pj

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Have You Ever Breaken One's Heart !?! Posted: 4/3/2006 3:20:58 PM
Yes, once, I think, I cryed the whole time, I, at the time, did not have feelings for him, I wanted to be truthful, so I was, Odd thing, months later the same man contacted me again, we had coffee, and I fell head over heels for him this time, and I would like to tell you that we are happy and dating, nope, after leading me on some, he told me he had a grilfirend, broke my heart. so all I can say is make sure you do not burn bridges, I suspect I will hear from him again, he would not have contacted me if he was not thinking about me and he had this girlfriend then I suspect. So that tells me that he and her will perhaps not work out.SO I GOT THE BROKEN HEART AS WELL, STILL IN RECOVERY!!!!PJ

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Prison Penpals Posted: 4/3/2006 3:13:38 PM
I find that you had contact with Charles Manson interesting, I find it more interesting that he answered you, I guess he wants all the publicity he can get, isnt he in CA., Not far from Reno, that is my home. I think Vacaville ?????????Yes?? Pj

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What is a witch? Posted: 4/1/2006 12:03:36 PM
You must do what you feel in your heart is the right direction for you, no matter, cards, yes, I have cards, Goddess cards, very useful for me.Helps me direct my life in the proper direction and keep a good prospective on life. Things change all the time, including you, at this time you have been guided to paganism, you will be rewarded for your efforts to inquire about the path you choose. Mine was given to me, by a simple task, I was already living the Wicca life, as you please, and did not know it, but I had no spititual direction, I do not believe in organised churches at all and have been to some seeking the truth. The truth came to me, in a person I just stumbled on in conversation, she told me to burna candle, I did...that was it, now I am in the process of educating myself..good luck to you pj

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When all logic goes out the window Posted: 4/1/2006 8:21:32 AM
thank you, but you see, the second time I wanted him!! I Incouraged him, yes I agree with most of what you do say, because I have known Ed for a while, I sould be his confort zone, a little any way, we have had wonderful fun conversations, on the phone and in person. So do you think he is attracted too me still???? perhaps this is part of him not wanting to stay in contact with me, just emails, once in a while. I email him too say hello, let him know I am still around, not much, once every couple of weeks, nothing gushy, just hi how are you stuff.But now the issue of trust comes into play, if he does come too me, than I have some big decisions too make on that area.HE does not leve close, he lives about 25 miles from me. So can I trust him, part of me says yes, because, he did tell the truth. We shall see when the time comes...PJ

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bummer Posted: 4/1/2006 12:34:25 AM
thank you!!than really makes me think, I think you are right, and thank you for you honest opinion.We were never considered boyfriend and girlfriend, it just upsets me that he did not even give me a chance, he led me on, making plans to so some fun stuff togeather, and the next time, I get an email. I was never a girlfriend, I would have like to have been if given the chance to get more aquainted with him thank you again. pj

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What is a witch? Posted: 3/31/2006 7:35:10 PM
thank you for taking the time to message me.I am both pagan and wicca, I am new, only about 5 months, I am educating myself every day, and I embrace with love and trust knowing that I can deal with what ever life brings my way with peace in my heart. I am in Reno, I have found a few, always have my charms on to attract, and it works sometimes. Thankl you.. still learning are receiving the blessings along the way.. pj

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What is a witch? Posted: 3/31/2006 7:29:22 PM
Hello, congraulations, You are lucky, as am I, I too have found my path Wicca and pagan as well, isnt life wonderful. I find candles are my path, whatever the Goddess gives too me, good and not so good I know she has a plan for me, so I accept it. PLease contact me if you like, I am new also, I get books from the library and buy as well. My spells so far are for a companion, I have been divorced for 2 years, I am ready for a man to come into my life, and I know he will when the Goddess thinks him and I are ready for each other. Nice having you around!!!PJ

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When all logic goes out the window Posted: 3/31/2006 5:24:15 PM
Hi,yes, me too, damn....I will tell you my story..Kind of long..Around last xmas, I met this guy online, Ed, he is local, Reno, by the way, so we meet. He gets real fast and pushy, so I decide that I better not see him, he was just wanting to move too fast, did not want to get to know me...OK..fast forward......I have not heard a peep from Ed, I get a email on the dating sight we met.He explained that when we first met that he was trying to proove the he could get someone, just out of a long relationship. We have has several phone conversations, and I love them, we have so much in common and really enjoy his comopany OK. So, I ski at Donner, well he lives in Truckee, same place, so he said after I ski lets have coffee. Well I am totally excited to see Ed again after all this time, I felt a deeper connection than the last time,I thought I would give a relationship a chance as I have changed as well. So we meet for coffee in Truckee, same thing, wonderful conversation, lots to talk about, he is making plans for us to ski togeather and for me to visit his hous,e and so on, well, this time I fall for the guy, he was so different than the first time we met, I am thinking finally I found someone, it has been 2 years. So I am totally excited and looking forward to all are plans and really fell, HARD, the weekend comes up, Ed said his daughter was comming for a visit, so I did not bother him much, knowing he was visiting . Well Monday comes around....this is word for word OK......PJ my daughter Leah did not make it up this weekend and I have something to tell you I am seeing someone and I have feelings for her, you are a good friend and I am flattered by your interestin me, but I have to be honest with you. My heart is with her at this time and you should not waste your time. You deserve a god man. I consider you a good friend but I do not expect you to like me anymore nowthat I am involved with someone else. I can not deny my feelings about her,and I do not wat to deceive you either. Please forgive me. I hope I donot hurt your feelings because I know that it will come back in the form of karma. You are a good hearted person and I may have led you to believe the I was only interested in ou..I was playing the field all along I have been single for so long and I suddenly stulmbled on a girl who fullfills my desires. I do not know how long this will last but I must be truthful about my intentions right now. This is very hard to do, but I feel it is in your best interest to be honest withyou. I wish nothing but the best...........................................OK, what do you think??this is my opinion...WHY DID HE RECONTACT ME TO BEGIN WITH.......HE MUST BE NOT TOO SECURE IN HIS RELATIONSHIP, OR HE USED ME FOR A TEST PERSON TO SEE IF HE LIKED HER.............BROKEN HEARTED, IT WILL COME FULL CIRCLE, I LEAVE THE DOOR OPEN, SO HE WILL FEEL CONFORTABLE CONTACTING ME, WHEN HE IS READY, YES, WHEN HE IS READY!!!!!! SO WHAT A F&*^^IN FOOL AM I??? I am dating, but my true heart belongs to Ed, waiting a little in misery, but I know he will contact me sometime. PJ PS...we were never intament,,not even a kiss.

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What is a witch? Posted: 3/31/2006 2:34:37 PM
PS. I read some of the answers you have got, wht ever happoned to kindness, accpetance, some people can not see beyond themselfs, is this the way too treat others???PJ

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What is a witch? Posted: 3/31/2006 2:23:46 PM
I am Wicca, very missunderstood, this religion is one of the most oldest known to man.It is a grounded, earth, we think thier is a Goddess as well as a God, but more inportant, Wicca is open to everyone, Tarot cards, candles, chrystals, astrology, all of it is Wicca, you can take what is in you heart and not feel bad about what you believe in. I dont run around naked in my back yard OK. I am forgiving, and treat with kindness, I am open to others. Yes, you may cast spells, if that is what you believe in, pay as well.You see???? I hope I have been helpful and answered your question. If you choose to call me a witch, that is OK with me as well, all is good.pj

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bummer Posted: 3/31/2006 2:09:52 PM
Hi, and thanks, yes, men seem to move on quickly, when I am not interested in a man, I do not start someting to begin with, or say at first lets just be friends and no more, If they do great, if not, too bad, at least I do not lead them on, or lie to them, I like to cut it off real quick if I am not interested, I do not like doing this, but at least they know what the score is. Yes, you are right!! Just cut us off like we never existed, that has just happoned to me with a so called friend, like all or notheig, what is with that!!! I guess he has his reasons, I like to think that he is attracted to me so he does not want to be around me, THINK POSITIVE I SAY!!!!!He has a girlfriend, so why did he even bother to look me up again?? That tells me that things are not so happy in his relationship with her, and sooner or later he will be knockin at the door again if I leave it open for him to do so, and I will. We never slept togeather, the relationship just did not get that far, that is what pisses me off, is when they do not even give you a chance, even in friendship. I am not holding my breath on this one, but I have him on a back burner, I will contact him once a month, just to let him know I am around, and when the time is right, he will feel confortable contacting me again, unless I find someone else!!Ha!!!!Please reply again, I like different points of view!!pj thanks

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the best friend syndrome, can't go out because we're friends only Posted: 3/29/2006 7:39:54 PM
Hi, You neve know what the future holds, for you or her. Keep your friendship, and be happy that you have a dear friend. I am in the same boat, in a way, but he chooses not to contact me, but we were never intamate. I choose to not wait for him, but to keep contact with him even if he does not, because things change, every day, I do not want to shut the door on a possable relationship down the road. She is being truthful with you, you are very lucky.My friend was not, had a girlfriend and led me on, made plans to see each other, than emaild and told me the truth said he was sorry if he hurt me. I forgive very much, not like youl, so I hope someday that he will see that we can have a great relationship togeather, timing is very INPORTANT. good luck 2 u

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bummer Posted: 3/29/2006 7:05:11 PM
Hi, I am sorry for you, it is painful to love someone so much and not have it returned. My friend and me were just friends, I was wanting to take it easy and see what would come of are realtionship, just have fun togeather. Perhaps some other time for us. pj

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bummer Posted: 3/29/2006 7:02:19 PM
Please explaine further, truth?? that he treated me badly or what...thanks pj

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bummer Posted: 3/29/2006 7:00:52 PM
HI, Thanks for your information. I think you are correct, in my case, your number 2. I think if we saw each other we would have sex, most likley soon, as we have known each other for about 6 months. He persues me. And he does not want to hurt me, he has told me so, even though he already has, he has said he was truley sorry for what he did. Or could it be that he has the attraction to me and better off staying away??? I would like just to be online friends for now, but he does not invite this. I am not hanging around waiting for him, I date some, but it is just a shame that he does not give me a chance to be a friend.I will continue to contact him, once a month or so, to keep the door open, so he will feel comfortable contacting me if and when he chooses. You see he contacted me, already knowing he had a girlfriend, so that tells me that the relationship with her is rocky, why contact me? after almost 4 months.He must still have some thought of me. We were not sexually active togeather,it is all in timing I say. thanks again pj

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How do you keep your emotions from mucking up your life? Posted: 3/29/2006 3:24:12 PM
I am very emotional as well, we tend to get hurt more. I can not answer your question, my emotions are who I am, part of me, so better than being a COLD FISH, just ride with the hard punches, learn from them and move on.good luck pj

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bummer Posted: 3/29/2006 11:36:11 AM
Thank you, you are so right!!! confused, it is nice to have gal lpals that understand my point of view. Yes, I also do not want to hear about the personal stuff, just that they are ok with the decisions he has made and that I believe things go full circle, he will come around sometime, not now, but somtime if he stays open to new relationships, I am forgiving and caring person, he has been forgiven for the way he treated me, that is over, you can not move on intel you forgive. We had such a connection that I thought he enjoyed as well, it baffles me that he would want to give it all up, you never knowl what life brings around the corner, I think he should have thought about that, if he contacts me I will welcome him in my life as a friend. Yes I am emotional that is for sure.Thanks pj

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bummer Posted: 3/29/2006 9:07:25 AM
Why is it that men, most of them, choose to no longer contact you if they are not interested in you as a girlfriend? What ever happoned to friendships? I also think that when the relationship is over, friendship or otherwise, the men just stop talking, can they not at least let you know that they have moved on???? Or are not interested in you. This is just being polite, and you never know what life brings in the future, why burn bridges. You can read my story onAS THOUGH MY HEART GOT RIPPED FROM MY CHEST...IN BROKEN HEARTS. thanks PJ

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Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?... Posted: 3/29/2006 9:00:05 AM
Yea, bummer, me too, all the time, Iwish that instead of ignoring me that they would have enough guts to tell you the truth, not just leave you hanging on not knowing what the deal is. I would rather even a lie at this point, just so I know that it is over and done with. I nice polite, I am sorry, I found someon else even would be hard but at least you would know. sorry, sorry it hurts pj

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Carrying a torch? Anyone out there still carry one? Posted: 3/29/2006 8:52:31 AM
You can read my story, check As though my heart got repped from my chest, broken hearts. thanks pj

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Carrying a torch? Anyone out there still carry one? Posted: 3/29/2006 8:50:24 AM
Hi, I am PJ, Yes, Just gettin over, or trying too. Was just led on and got really hurt, he just did not give me a chance, that is what upsets me the most. Why are guys like that? He just made a choice and it was not me, timing is everything, so in the back of my mind I think he will contact me again, he did before. PJ

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As though my heart got ripped from my chest. Posted: 3/29/2006 8:44:53 AM
ps, I have two dogs, one at the end of her long life, and one that is at the beginning, I also have cats and ferrets, I do not know what I would do without my friends to love me totally without games. pj

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As though my heart got ripped from my chest. Posted: 3/29/2006 8:39:58 AM
SO SORRY, ME ALSO,My name is PJ, I live in Reno, I met a man around last xmas, online dating, he came on too strong, I felt that perhaps after a while that I would like to try friendship with him, but I never contacted him, about 3 weeks ago, he contacted me, out of the blue, as you can emagine, I was pleased with the contact, well, we set up a coffee date. Are conversations have always been wonderful, interesting, we shair the same opinions on things that matter and are well matched. I decided to try again, after a couple of phone calls and good conversations again. We met for coffee, same thing, we are on the same page in life, great conversation and communication, this time I felt a physical attraction that I did not before. Well, I wanted to persue this relationship with a good friendship first, over coffee, he indicated the same, wanting to see me again and making some plans to ski and snow shoe and visit togeather, I went home excited and ready to imbark on a new wondeful friend to have fun with and perhaps get serious about later. Two days later I get a email from him, he told me he was sorry and that he had a girlfriend already, that he had been playing the field. The only thing I can think of is that he used me for a test person to make sure that he loved his girlfriend.He chose his girlfriend, so I guess he loves her. It is just too bad that this person does not give me the chance to be a friend, just cuts me off. He never touched me, I am greatful for that as it would have been harder to get over him if we had been togeather. My heart is healing and was broken, and yes, MY HEART RIPPED FROM MY CHEST.but they say timing is everything, I agree.

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Msg: 191 (view)

OVER 50 And Alone....again. Posted: 3/25/2006 9:21:27 AM
I AGREE, GET OUT THEIR AND FIND SOMEONE, DO SOMETING, BE ACTIVE, SITING HOME, YOU WILL NOT FIND SOMEONE!!! THE MORE PEOPLE YOU MEET, THE CLOSER YOU ARE TO FINDING THE PERSON YOU WANT, WITH EVERY NEW PERSON YOU MEET, YOU LEARN, GOOD AND BAD. LEARN AND GROW WIT LIFES EXPERIENCES, EVERY DAY IS A GIFT NOT A GIVEN, ENJOY IT!!!!PJ

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