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Joined: 8/4/2009

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What impression do you get of me? Posted: 9/27/2009 6:14:15 AM
You come off as confident and interesting, intellectual but not so much that it dominates you. I like it

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new guy here! Posted: 9/27/2009 6:09:05 AM
OK.. I'll go out on a limb here and say I don't know that the first paragraph is good. It comes off as kind of lecture-like "I've had a hard life and succeeded and blah blah".. us women hear that from at least 50% of the guys. It sounds like you wouldn't settle for someone who isn't insightful and intelligent, so let her figure it out for herself..it is a great trait to be resourceful and a survivor, but even better if we see it ourselves and you don't tell us about it. You're handsome and pics are good. List some interests maybe.. Peace

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Need a review here - PLEASE BE HARSH Posted: 9/27/2009 6:04:27 AM
So I see you started this thread a month ago.. any luck yet? I think you're profile is better than the avg 19 year old males but I've only looked at it after some changes were made.. and I don't usually check that age group. Nice profile though, shows your personality.

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How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard... Posted: 9/27/2009 5:50:27 AM
If you feel like time isn't helping and you are thinking of this person ALLTHETIME, its time to change your thinking. It all starts in the mind. This might sound MaryPoppins, but once I accept that he is happier with someone else, or just without me, it is easier to move on. Don't question why he left or how could he like her better..he does, he's happier. Honestly if you love someone, you want them to be happy, with or without you. It takes alot of time to get to this place...but it is the only way to truly move on from someone. Its not an overnight process, getting to the mindset described above. In the meantime you have to implement the "I will not be pathetic" rule. At least not around him or his friends/family. Fake it. Act normal.. don't stalk his facebook, anonymous call him or drive by his place...This will be hard, because reason doesnt come into play here.. you love him , you're hurt and you want him back. I know sweetie I've been there but even if you got him back, it won't be like it was.. he wasn't into it or he wouldn't of left. Try to live for you now you only get one ticket and he bought one to a different show.

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What can I change about my profile to help me stand out? Posted: 9/26/2009 5:46:00 AM
Your cute, but I would delete the third pic in the pink top.. not your most flattering. I only have one comment.. and not a critisism, but you talk ALOT about travelling and its in your interests. Also you have tattoos in your interests and then describe yours.. just alot of things said more than they need to to get the point across. I am more of a try to say more with less words.. but overall I would think even if you leave it like it is you would get alot of emails.

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Any suggestions for my profile? Posted: 9/26/2009 5:42:00 AM
I liked it.. I do tire of men professing their honesty in profiles, but that's just me. I'm of the opinion that if they are honest, I will see it over time. Telling me your honest or a good dad is weird...just show it. Anyways, I think you put a good visualization of yourself out there. good luck

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I'm new; please tell me what you think! Posted: 9/26/2009 5:38:43 AM
Your profile's not bad. your cute..but put something about the kind of guy you are looking for. And I agree take the photos w kids out.. keep it about you and your date. they can see that you have kids by reading.

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Geek needs a profile makeover? Posted: 9/26/2009 5:34:17 AM
Nice profile actually. I would take out the One last thing comment..that could be reworded possibly to state I am not looking for casual sex.. and later..if you meet someone you like you could go into deeper discussion. I hate to say it but I don't know many women in 2009 who would marry a man without having sex first. I could be way off... and I'm not trying to change your values.

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How does my profile look Posted: 9/26/2009 5:28:33 AM
Not bad profile overall, but IMO by saying you want that one in a million girl or whatever language you used.. we all think we're superspecial, but most of us want YOU to think it, not us. You sound like you put this high bar out there that not many would meet, and why would we respond to you when we get 10 or 20 emails a week? Having a high bar is ok, and nothing wrong with that.. but usually the superspecial girls, in my opinion, are not as hung up on theirselves and may not take your bait.

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Review my profile : ) Posted: 9/26/2009 5:14:35 AM
I like your profile :) good pic too

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Am I doing something wrong? Posted: 9/26/2009 5:13:09 AM
Another Mom response, but here goes. You sound like you think this place sucks when you refer to your profile as "crap" in the first sentence or two.... I don't understand what in the world your PS statement means..and you don't put anything about the kind of girl you are looking for..its all about you. Your pics are bad quality..but thats not a showstopper I don't think.

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Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend. Posted: 9/20/2009 6:55:17 PM
Its normal to wonder if there's more. I would say 9 times out of 10, when a man and woman are friends, one of them wants to take it to another level. I have one very good male friend (who would love to be more if I liked him that way), and I am friends with one male (who I wish wanted more)..its the nature of the beast I guess..but it is possible from her point of view that they are and only ever will be platonic. Go with the gut.. watch her actions and if she doesnt want to introduce you guys or avoids talking to you on her cell when she's with him then I'd say she might like him more than she's letting on.

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Have relationships made you bitter? Posted: 9/20/2009 3:32:21 PM
Oh Tye, you are way too young to even think of being bitter. Handsome and smart too... you will find your match eventually. My advice is take people as they are, don't expect perfection, and don't count on them for things that you should be giving yourself, and things usually work out alot better. Now, finding the soulmate.. I haven't figured that one out yet either..

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I think ex girlfriend wants more than friendship Posted: 9/20/2009 3:25:59 PM
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say... if you like her, go see her, hook up, whatever. Sometimes things aren't black and white. Maybe she misses you. plain and simple, but doesnt know if she loves you anymore. Its not complicated. Also, if things don't work out, sometimes its easier to let go of someone little by little instead of cold turkey. Just my .02

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Real story - real dilemma Posted: 9/20/2009 1:53:56 PM
A real dilemma you say? whatever.. this happened a couple of years ago??? This is crazy. If it really bothered you you should have wrote down the tag number, and went somewhere and called the police. No time to convince the storeclerk, but time to do nothing?

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What happened? Posted: 9/20/2009 1:49:54 PM
This sucks, but I agree its not you. Since she deleted her profile I would guess she decided she's not ready to date after all. Sometimes we think we are ready, go out there, meet a nice man, and then realize no matter how good the guy is, the time is not right or we are just not ready to get involved with someone. And to answer your question, boredom + loneliness = women putting up profiles, whether or not they are ready for a relationship is another story

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Approaching a woman anywhere? Posted: 9/8/2009 2:47:18 PM
Many single women like to be approached as long as they dont feel threatened. Its not creepy if it doesnt sound fake...practice with people who you don't find attractive first.. In walmart just looking for groceries, you see someone looking at soup just say "oh have you tried that soup, is it good? I am looking for some simple lunches"..anything. I would say if you see something you like about a woman, compliment her.. "oh I noticed your bracelet I really like it".. or her smile or shoes..whatever gets the conversation going.

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Just wondering what he was thinking Posted: 9/8/2009 12:58:26 PM
I don't know how to capture quotes and respond but I wanted to thank you guys for your well thought out responses. The love I had for him was true and he is a good man, but maybe it was only companionship for him. I didn't mention that he never took pictures of me...He did once tell me it was the best rlnship he ever had and I was like "what??". It was great for a vulcan maybe but I want it all...love/lust/friendship. I don't think he's gay, I considered that. Maybe I'm just not the one for him. Simple as that. Thanks to all who responded

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Just wondering what he was thinking Posted: 9/8/2009 9:55:25 AM
No no. the texts are still taking place, after the breakup. We rarely see eachother now. He just texts or calls but we are not together now. I understood the general chatter when we were together. I forgot to mention..we dated maybe 7-8 months and this man never would call me a gf or anything. So I called him on it..said look I need to know where I stand, he said I show you every day, I said I need words.. am I your gf? your friend? do you care if i date others? what? he wouldnt respond so I said ok I'm sorry I need someone who can communicate better. Thats how it ended. short version. my confusion is why still text/call. ? thats why I say should I just not sweat it and accept his friendship? I do have a few male friends with NOTHING going on. I like to ride my motorcycle, that leads to more friendships with guys I guess.

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Just wondering what he was thinking Posted: 9/8/2009 9:38:01 AM
Earlier this year I dated a man for several months. We never talked about being exclusive, but he spent 3- 4 days a week w me, and most weekends, doing stuff alone or with both of our kids. We had so much fun together..but in my mind there was something off a little. Sex was never a major part of our relationship. Maybe once a week. I questioned and pushed at first but then backed off. confused that is was such a low priority to him. This man would DO anything I asked him to (fix things, cook, pick up my kids from school), but he would never talk about emotions, feelings, anything. I never knew where I stood I just knew he treated me great. I told him I loved him more than once and he would just hug me or say nothing at all. Eventually I ended it because emotionally I felt I was in deeper than him and was left feeling more like a best friend or sister. Now, he still texts me everyday..just general chatter, but also buys me things and drops them off at my house. In his mind.. am I just a good friend?

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Review my profile porfavor!!!!!!! Posted: 9/8/2009 8:53:34 AM
omg. drop the ex gf reference immediately. And to women.. when you're looking to "hang out"..your looking to "hookup".. yet you say your looking for this 9 1/2 weeks attraction level type of thing. Girls call that a LTR, so at least say dating with the possiblility of LTR if you meet the one. idk. just my opinion. the rest isnt bad but those connections don't come along every day you know.

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My Profile Posted: 9/8/2009 7:56:00 AM
Your pics are dark, and I wouldnt suggest pics with the baby. You say you have a baby and thats fine but leave the pics out. Men honestly aren't going to be that interested in your baby unless they like YOU first, but throwing a baby in their face by pics and mentioning it in the profile may be intimidating... just my .02

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must be something wrong Posted: 9/8/2009 7:53:00 AM
No..nothing major wrong. You should have a photo of your whole head at least though ;). Maybe a pic of you doing something you enjoy, a body shot. You have a nice profile. I would write you if you were in my age bracket and lived several states closer.

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no responses to profile or messages that I send! Why? Posted: 9/8/2009 7:50:03 AM
I agree. You need better pictures. Yours are blurry. I would say maybe change your body type to a few extra pounds. Alot of men think Skinny is average. You want them to know what they are getting when they meet you. Shorten your paragraph by about 2/3. Men don't read all that. Tell them the most important things about you. Don't be discouraged.. remember less is more. thats my motto at least

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A Little Bit 'o Help Please? Posted: 9/8/2009 7:44:23 AM
Your profile is good. I agree with some of the comments about many similar pics. You are beautiful. Men like body shots too though. If you don't get hits, it might be because you are SO pretty, and guys assume you are getting alot of emails..so send a friendly email or two out. I always get replies when I do this. Good luck.

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I need to know if I'm scaring the women away Posted: 9/8/2009 7:37:45 AM
I couldnt read it all..too long. Save something to talk about on the date. And putting a paragraph in italics after every single sentence makes it seem like nothing is a definite with you.. maybe one or two of these might be funny but its overdone, in my opinon. You have potential but give yourself in small doses to people. That means like everyone else said, put out the most important things about you. You should be able to read or scan a profile in a few minutes IMO.

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using my computer to check out women Posted: 8/13/2009 5:11:01 AM
I agree, unless you are in a committed relationship, this is not crime. Why were you checking his website history? Maybe there were other red flags? You have to look at the whole picture, don't be a sucker, but don't look for reasons to dump a guy either. And lastly, go with your gut..its usually right.

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