Again, it seems that it's the folks in the south who have the issues. That may be the perception in the south, but again from my personal experience where I live my child has never experienced this.

I don't have that trouble. I am NOT hurt, bitter, angry, confused or misdirected (you sure you didn't miss any??). NOR do I have sex to gain power over a man OR to get my power back (???!!!???). I have sex WHEN and with WHOM I want WHEN I want. I have proudly OWNED my sexuality since I was 14 years old and just because YOU or anyone else don't own yours doesn't mean I don't own mine!

First of all, relationships are about compatibility and compromise. If you meet someone and you are not yourself, you are not being fair to your personal needs. Being yourself is the only way you can really get what you want out of a relationship. Otherwise how could the other person know what you need when they dont even know who you are? Sure they might reject you, but being with someone you are not meant to be with is way shittier than being alone for a time, then finally meeting someone who is totally perfect for you.

..when people have to state, a quality that they have, in excess or over and over again, it generally means it is a quality they wish they had...

I dont think too many men would be lining up to be anally probed by a woman they know little about, BUT women are supposed to take those risks and if she doesnt she has issues.....

Not wanting anything up your butt hole, which is exit only, not wanting to be peed or pooped on is not a "hangup", it is common sense and wanting to maintain your health and cleanliness. Anal sex, no matter how much lube or gentleness, will cause anal fissures among other problems.It gets even worse when you have hemorrhoids which many people have. If you happen to have hemorrhoids then they are prone to rupturing during anal sex.

The anus is an exit only area and was built that way for a reason. Anal fissures are prone to infection as the anus is a very unsanitary place. When feces gets into the fissures it can cause infections.Fissures can also get so big and open so much that sometimes it causes and opening between you anus and vaginal wall. Many times fissures will not close on their own and will require medical intervention to heal and close them.

am just amazed at how many of you can form words during such an event. Athiest or not.

Who cares what an athiest or anyone else screams out during sex as long as it is not "ok, I'm done get out"?

It's called being a babyboomer.. That generation IS the greediest bunch of people i've seen in history as well as during my inneraction with people. some exception exist for sure, but for the most part, holy damn, i just can't believe what babyboomers have done to our planet, society and youths.

Hilarious!! Notice the big guts on all the men??? Why is that?

Mind citing the latest scientific study/research/journal that supports or "proves" this claim? I must have missed it and I and can't find it anywhere. Thanks.

By the way, having a logical mind doesn't exclude having or showing emotions and/or taking the emotional factor into consideration ALONG with being able to critically assess a situation logically with the the cold hard facts.

One (ability) doesn't trump the other, nor are they mutually exclusive.

Don't forget to remind your sons that all women, including their mother, are only needed for their HOLES eh?

know my value and what I have to offer
and if any man can't see it there are plenty of others who do.

It sounds like the OP is the one who does all the calling and shows all
the interest. Then she is upset with the man for not showing
interest back. Let him go find someone that he wants to call.

Red flags to me are....and this is like first conversations.... I've had 50 dates but not one of those went to a second date. My penis measurement is... All women are gold diggers...
I'm married, we are living together but separated, we stay together for the kids and look like a happy couple so, we need to be discreet... I talk to ghosts... There is a ton of them however, not once did I hold it against a man if he said he was financially well off, independent...professional... I took it as he doesn't live with mom and dad and he has a job...I don't judge. Then, once I have a conversation I will see what type of personality is behind those words.

You may find that you need several people to have a satifying "love life".

exchanged with a guy on here over 100 emails, several phone calls this past week. We have alot in common and when we talked by phone it was for hours. We were going to have lunch today. He's on POF now, did not send his customary 50+ emails yesterday and none today. To me you just have lunch and see where it leads. How much simple can a man or woman want it to be?

I sit around and listen to my buddies. Some of whom are in FWB's... Some of whom are not.... Most of my buddies are happily married and have been for years....A couple are married and have women who are their FWB's(that think the guy is single and monogmaous too....) on the side....
So far, I've not seen much to dissuade me that my opinions are not those of a large number of men...

agree - it's only logical - we are ALL responsible for the choices we make, REGARDLESS of when we make those choices.

To say that I am shocked (and disappointed) by some of the things I've read on this thread would be an understatement ...I never realised there were so many people - fully grown ADULTS - who were not willing or able to take/accept responsibility for their own lives. But what's truly shocking is to see those who are advocating it as the way it should be...I still can't wrap my head around that one.

Without asking, you are no wiser than a little old lady who talks to her cat... assuming the cat understands...
To be honest, I've seen so many threads from people who have found that their supposedly wonderful Fwb relationship was nothing more than just sex to the other person, that I honestly don't believe that Fwb's can be anything more.

think sometimes the honesty between two people in a Fwb is often mistaken for more than it is...and often hides the small deceits that may lurk hidden beneath the veneer of communication... You are not seeing anybody else, he still may be(despite what he says) or he may just be leaving his options open... for many if not most men, the reason for a Fwb relationship is that they don't want to be monogomous.
You only think you talk about everything possible... if you truly did, you would have already talked about how you feel... if you can keep this from him, what can he then be keeping from you..?
Perhaps in truth, he feels the same as you do, but is scared to say, for fear of scaring you away....

Men who buy women dinner can prevent being used for meals by not paying for meals. Simple. One cannot ever expect all women on earth to be honest about this - so if you don't pay for meals, you won't be a guy whose money goes to anyone else's food.

Well, I bit the bullet today and broke it off with him.....REASON??!! I found his smiling face on about 3, count em folks, 3-4 dating websites and the photos were recent and he was still looking....
We've been corresponding for about 5 months and in the past 2-3 months he has been at my house more than his own.
Maybe I'm reading more into this than I should, but why would this man single me out to take advantage of and blatantly try to lay a guilt trip on me for calling him out on it?

I don't mean to be niave, but could there be men out there that crass and calloused as to move into your apartment with you, have you pay his moving expenses, all the deposits and fees and first and last months rents etal, all the while going on MDC and DHU and all the free dating and costly dating websites looking for someone else??!!

Obviously it can and did happen. This man has a master's in behavioral science and specializes in substance abuse.

I got an email from his state trooper daughter telling me that if I ever wander into upstate NY, she is going to make me regret sending her "daddy dearest" a nasty email breaking up with his sorry loser azz.

Wow, just wow....I guess I am just a babe in the woods.....because people never cease to amaze me.

I have a novel idea.

Why don't you ask HER what she wants from you because none of us know.

What difference does it make if he asked that question, meekly?

If a women senses weakness, the rational response is for her to get angry??? This kinda crap is what frustrates me about people in general. How can I view something so completely different that some(most?) people.

If I were to encounter a girl on a meeting and she asked something "meekly", my inclination would not be to get pissed at her. In fact, I'd be accomodating as to ease her nervousness. Not because I'd be trying to be some white knight but because I wouldn't want to spend the whole time in awkwardness. But to be rude or think rude thoughts over a simple question that was presented less than boldly.....amazing!

Maybe the guy sensed this attitude in HER and knew from the get go there was nothing he could do/say to appease her, so he mentally checked out before he physically checked out. I've been able to sum someone up pretty quickly by huge personality no-no's they've displayed....sometimes you just know by someone's actions it just won't work.

For me it's high maintenance and rudeness.

I read somewhere that what really really matters to men... brace yourselves... is access.