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Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Smokers and Non-Smokers Posted: 4/9/2009 9:47:04 PM
Seems like a personal issue to me. I don't smoke and haven't since my teens (very long time ago). It makes no difference at all to me whether I date a smoker or non-smoker. The other person's health is their responsibility, not mine. It just happens that the smell and taste don't bother me (I kinda like the smell of a freshly lit cigarette, but not enough to take up smoking myself). I have dated a smoker for two years and absolutely no interest in taking it up myself. YMMV

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 139 (view)

Threesomes...why the bias? Posted: 4/9/2009 9:34:17 PM
So why can't we all just have preferences? I'm not sure that being bi or gay is relevant to the situation, since gay sex is two men, and the topic here is one woman with two men. Anyway, I'm all for getting to enjoy two men at once, but the presence of another woman in anything that's even remotely sexual would be SUCH a turnoff. To each their own.

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 193 (view)

Ladies That hate receiving oral sex Posted: 12/6/2007 1:39:16 PM
Among the many posts here are lots of possibilities suggested as to why a woman might not want to receive oral. There are also lots of men quite adamant that they simply must give oral to any woman they date. Now that we've covered the possible reasons for the women, let's see why the MEN might insist on performing oral: 1. They lack experience and don't know of the many other methods of foreplay. 2. They feel other methods are wrong. Possibly due to their religious upbringing. 3. They are lazy. They couldn't be bothered adapting their methods to the woman's preferences. 4. They are selfish. They like it and feel women should cater to their preferences. 5. They lack a sense of adventure. Doing it the same old way is safer than trying other things. I'm sure there are other possible reasons. Just thought I'd list a few.

Joined: 3/18/2006

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I want you to be sexual insatiable.... but......... Posted: 11/7/2006 9:27:21 PM
Isn't this part of getting to know someone? Why would you try to put absolutely everything in your profile? One of many conversation topics.

Joined: 3/18/2006

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DIGNITY ......relationships online or offline. please read. Posted: 10/31/2006 9:15:24 PM
I think there are people of all kinds here, much like in the real world. They're here looking for different things. Sometimes I wonder if counselling or motivational seminars should be offered at dating sites too. I wonder if people just don't know any better, and that's why it is the way it is.

Joined: 3/18/2006

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The Final Word Posted: 8/10/2006 8:18:15 PM
I guess it all depends on your perspective. If you're totally goal-oriented in your dating, your post makes perfect sense. And I fully respect your right to be goal-oriented. I think there's another way to look at it though: as a journey, with each new experience adding something to your life. You can learn so many things, collect interesting stories to share, make some friends, and so on. This reminds me of my ex every time we went on on a trip. He'd wake us all up so early we'd be short on our sleep; pack the car in such a hurry that we'd forget crucial items; and explode in a rage at every slow car and delay during the trip. We'd arrive at our destination exhausted, with frayed nerves, and spend the rest of the holiday recovering. I love travelling. I think getting there is half the fun. Sometimes it nice to stop and see/do things along the way, enjoy the scenery, have great conversations, make jokes and laugh when something goes wrong, and meet new people. It's all good: dating or travelling

Joined: 3/18/2006

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WHY CAN MEN TALK TO SEVERAL WOMAN AT ONCE BUT WOMEN CANNOT??? Posted: 8/10/2006 7:59:30 PM
OK, there's one thing I don't get with this question. Given that you're just chatting and there's no relationship yet, why bring up your other activities? Seems like just good manners to keep the conversation pleasant while still in the early stages. You don't bring up the nasty details of your divorce or the jerk who dumped you last year. Those are not nice topics, and need not be discussed until later. Unless he asks, I'd keep the conversation on more important things. Like what the two of you have in common.

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 84 (view)

Are you European … or what? Posted: 8/3/2006 9:56:42 PM
Wow, people sure have strong opinions on this. I didn't even think about it when I filled out my profile. Maybe I have to consider changing it... what to do, what to do! I was born in Finland and raised partly there and partly here. I have Canadian citizenship, so I just put caucasian. Honestly, I had no idea what European meant, and wouldn't have thought negatively about anyone who used that, for whatever reason. Maybe others didn't think about it or know the difference either, and just picked one and kept going?

Joined: 3/18/2006

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Prettier than me???? Posted: 7/27/2006 10:40:03 PM
Way more fun to have the guy looking at me than into a mirror!

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

Handling Rejection Posted: 7/25/2006 10:58:13 PM
Consider the divorce rate, and the slim chance that any two random people might actually be compatible enough to build a successful relationship. I try to look at it from a big picture. Would it be better to keep trying and end up with a miserable long term relationship or marriage? Or for at least one party to notice early on that it's probably not going to work out? Maybe it's just me, but I'd rather figure it out early on and abandon the project than drag it on. I don't think of it as rejection, but as the discovery that this particular person doesn't have the potential to become my soulmate. Just have to keep on looking.

Joined: 3/18/2006

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Why do women communicate with you for awhile then just stop? Posted: 7/8/2006 9:07:27 AM
If it starts to be apparent the two of you aren't going to be a good match, why carry on? That's just being a tease. If you're not at the point where you have any sort of relationship yet, it can be awkward to even discuss it.

Joined: 3/18/2006

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interested or not means no go. Posted: 7/3/2006 11:46:39 PM
Like all good things in life, moderation is key. Too much of any good thing is bad. Find the balance in the amount of interest! Something else to try: go in showing interest... than back off to let the information sink in... then step in again, see what happens. The give and take in a balanced relationship is a beautiful thing.

Joined: 3/18/2006

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Regina people shout out!!!!! Posted: 5/20/2006 4:26:04 PM
Sure, I live in Regina... HERE!!! PRESENT!!!

Joined: 3/18/2006

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Connection Posted: 5/20/2006 4:23:37 PM
I think you can tell a lot from facial expressions and body language.... now, if only the skill was more common!

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 105 (view)

I'm Just Me, What You See Is What You Get. lol Posted: 5/19/2006 7:26:07 PM
Just me again is out there collecting people to join in here... good job! Yeah, I'm still finding it fun to be free... getting out and meeting people. Almost forgot how after being married 20 years, but geez, I still got lots of life left!

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 188 (view)

Why Don't SASK women post??????????? Posted: 5/19/2006 7:21:05 PM
OK, ya got me... why haven't I posted? Ummm... didn't think of it? Sometimes I need specific instructions on what to do?

Joined: 3/18/2006

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Online today in search yet a previous date shown in your POF Favorites Posted: 5/15/2006 1:20:05 PM
I would assume it's a matter of a time lag in the database refreshing itself, or something along those lines. But really, until a relationship develops to the stage where it's considered exclusive and serious, why wouldn't people continue to chat with others? And even then, what's wrong with having friends? I can't see it... start getting to know an interesting prospect and suddenly your whole world is supposed to revolve around that person. Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 5/14/2006 11:15:40 PM
There are men who are like this too. The initial dating interview includes questions on what I do for a living (needs to be adequately prestigious), what I drive, and whether I own my own home. And having passed the lengthy interview process, I get invited to plant the new cedar for his yard at night (he'll kindly hold the flashlight while I shovel... - and no, I did not accept!). He carefully tracks the exact value of the food I eat at his house when he invites me over. Whines over having to pay for one drink for me while he parades me around in front of his friends like some trophy (at a time that was very inconvenient for me...). This example is not from this site. No wait... the guy's just cheap.

Joined: 3/18/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

At what age do people get over playing games? Posted: 3/29/2006 9:33:34 AM
Dunno why this hasn't been brought up, but what if the lady was genuine, and had looked forward to an exciting seduction, starting out with amazing foreplay... and was just disappointed by what she got instead? I don't think there's proof here that she was playing games, just that communication broke down somewhere along the line.

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