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ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Calgary: The silver lining of the recession Posted: 9/10/2009 8:16:24 PM
I am an ex-Ontarian and have seen the method of operation of the LCBO (Liquor Control Board of Ontario) and the "privatization" in Alberta. In Ontario, the government sells alcohol to consumers for a regulated price. In Alberta, Connect (a.k.a the Alberta Liquor and Gaming Comission) sells to private business by regulated prices, who then mark it up to whatever the market will tolerate. Ideally, an open market means businesses compete for your business. But when businesses decide to conglomerrate with an addictive product like alcohol, with the restrictions of government, the only people who lose are the consumers. By the way, tcpl.... people **** and moan about a $21 case of beer going upto $23 as per Mr. Stelmach, but they still buy it. Only after 3 months of incredible revenue and intense public pressure did he cave and rescind the hike.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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What professions are a turn off? Posted: 2/6/2009 4:43:07 PM
Ok, consistently read on here police officers. What gives with them? Just because they wouldn't let you off of a ticket when they knew that's why you asked them out. At least you know they'll put their life on the line for you...

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Why do men run when I tell them I'm sober? Posted: 12/10/2008 5:59:03 PM
Why do you feel you have to talk about it like it's a downfall? Most guys don't ask if women want a specific drink anymore for fear of being presumptuous. When he asks, just tell him what you want. It's not like he'll interrogate you on why you don't want rum in your coke. It might be dangerous territory though if you ask him to hide all signs of booze in your presence.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Where did your smile go? Posted: 11/19/2008 5:51:18 PM
i've used it more than once, but with me it's been in different tone, different exact lines, and different obvious meanings. It was never really meant as a pickup line, but more of a line to take her our of her routine. Obviously saying "Hi there"........(next customer)"Good afternoon"....(next customer)"How are you doing"...would get a little monotonous. I would constantly make sure I had the opening, and then when she responsed, say ANYTHING but "good thanks". Awesome...terrific...terrible...who wants to know?!....you tell me! Any of the above works fine

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Should I back off? Posted: 11/19/2008 5:38:55 PM
Buttonone1, Why are you talking about this guy like he's a manipulative, scumbag who's leading her on? We don't even know what this guy's relationship is to the OP. Definately need some more information before anyone starts dissing this guy.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Does it mean he wasn't into me? Posted: 11/14/2008 10:33:02 AM
Give the guy benefit of the doubt. There are alot less noble reasons to sever ties. I actually have refused sex, and even kissing becaause I still had feelings for someone else and didn't want to lead her on. If he hadn't "sugarcoated" it and told you he just wasn't into you, would that have been enough? You probably would have called his bluff on that too.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Where do I start??? Posted: 10/12/2008 5:09:35 PM
Guys don't find it desperate when a girl makes the first move unless it comes with an engagement ring. If you do it the right way, and just flirty enough, it'll give him confidence in himself. You say Stephenville is a small town? Small enough to not have any bars or respectable clubs for people who are in the same situation as you? How about parks or paths for you to take a walk during a sunny afternoon? Maybe there are clubs or organizations that cater to your interests within a short drive and you have some fun and get to know some people. The biggest problem I've found about coming out to a new place (Calgary) is not knowing anyone and trying to figure out somewhere to go on a boring night. I've learned to strike up a short conversation with EVERYONE you see everyday. As long as people see you as a positive person who's fun to be around, they'll talk to you later on and want to be around you. It's all about marketing yourself and showing the positives about yourself. Good Luck. -ddr

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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IM Etiquette Posted: 10/12/2008 3:22:38 PM
Most of you have some pretty good suggestions so here's one more. If you're going to insists that I open with something "intelligent" and don't regurgitate something you mentioned in your profile, how about a little substance in your "about me". Beyond the first 2 sentence it takes to list your "qualities".

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 10/12/2008 12:08:01 PM
I dated a single mother who was in almost the same predicament, but with cigarettes. I didn't really like her smoking because of the smell and that (I don't care how much money you have) it takes away from being able to support your child in favour of something that could be damaging. But we weren't married and her daughter wasn't mine so I could overlook the aforementioned. What I couldn't get past was the 2 of them living in a basement apartment and her smoking cigarettes with no open windows while her daughter had no choice but to breathe in the second hand smoke. The second that your lifestyle starts to directly affect your kids, you are a bad mother, nothing less.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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How can he move her in? Posted: 10/11/2008 11:15:01 AM
Could be as simple as , while he dated you he found attraction to someone else and fell for her. After realizing he had more attraction to her decided to break off with you. By the time he did, you were out of the house so what's the point of procrastinating his feelings for this other woman. You giving "everything you were to him" wasn't his choice and he likely didn't care. It's hard to care about someone you don't plan to be with again.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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is it just me? Posted: 10/5/2008 2:22:19 PM
Lost girl, I get your points, but they're not the best arguments in the world. Yeah, you might LIKE a certain bikini clad/provocative picture or yourself, that's why you have it. But on here, your pictures are an advertisement and a medium for your best personal reflection. If that mean t!ts and a$$, then women can't expect much more than a horn dog. OP isn't talking short shorts and a tank top or a bikini shot with friends by the beach. We're talking an over-the-top sexualized body flaunt. But why is it that some of the same women will point blank cite in their profile that they don't want to see a guy with a body shot flaunting their 6 pack abs, or inciting how big their member is. Not everyone, but some people are incredibly hypocritical.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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is it rude to pre-empt a text message/call Posted: 10/5/2008 10:53:46 AM
C Monster has a really good point. Shy guys are usually that way only because a lack of confidence. Having the woman ask HIM out could start to bring out his confidence. It would give him bragging rights about something not many men have had happen, too.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Am I wrong to be offended? Posted: 10/5/2008 10:49:23 AM
I don't think it's really tacky unless unless you've been on a couple dates already with him. Unless he completely stood you up, maybe be thankful that he's telling you. You don't know him very well and there's alot of good reasons that he probably can't get into, or doesn't feel the need. Give him another shot on your own terms, or release the little fishy.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Emails are read righht away, but reply takes day??? Posted: 9/14/2008 7:49:35 PM
Aurora, Very true. that doesn't mean you can't acquire, expand on and master a lightning quick wit. But what many guys mistake "wit" for is complete arrogance and condescendance towards the opposite sex. Not true. How difficult is it to have such a playful sense of humor that you can be confident instead of****? Listen to a few cds, talk to some "ladies men" and change you attitude and outlook far far from what your parents taught you. It'll be very beneficial.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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How do men feel about being metrosexual? Posted: 9/14/2008 3:37:46 PM
Hey! It's not Metreosexual....it's called "just gay enough"....

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

Msg: 392 (view)

Red heads... Posted: 9/14/2008 2:39:08 PM
For me it's the pale skin. Effin gorgeous. That and I love firebox.....

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Emails are read righht away, but reply takes day??? Posted: 9/14/2008 2:26:52 PM
Is it wrong that I find most of the reasons for "taking time" to respond to e-mail a little fake. -You're trying to appear as you have a life and can't always get to them right away. -->We'll this is just plain sad and you're only fooling yourself. The woman who you're trying to "woo" is probably smart enough to see through the facade. -You're trying to think up a "smart" response. -->If you can't think of a smart response in 5 mins or so, how are going to think of one while you're looking dumb trying to rack your brain in first date real-time? -->Along with the smart response thing. I think most women on here would agree that they'd rather hear an honest answer than some preconceived, processed, filtered bulls*. -You have kids and can't always be on the computer. --> This is what reflection time during the day and late nights with coffee and kids fast alseep are for. *-They're keeping you on the back burner hoping for something better. -->Finally something realistic. Enough said I think. Any other realistic answers. Oh by the way, I have one message to quite an attractive, interesting and (I thought) down to earth woman that's been only "read" for 3 days now. Any justification on that?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Do I smell MARRIED ? Posted: 9/13/2008 8:05:37 AM
esad and broncsbuff are both right. So what if you suspect him of bring married ONLY because your gut feeling gives you that message? Doesn't mean he's a lying, cheating**** player because of bad experiences you've had. How many people on here have no expectations and think everyone is hiding behind the profile of anonymity? Even if he is sending out what seems to be a generic e-mail, what's the loss in having lunch with the guy? If he pops a ring halfway through, THEN run!...right to the nearest pawn shop...

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Need a mans opinion Posted: 6/4/2008 1:36:14 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ What he said. OP, maybe you could tell me why the woman I met at a bar, in the smoking section, we were talking about all our common ground, finishing each others sentences, and at the end of the night, she made out with me. I gave her my phone number, but haven't heard back? Any number of answers? That's what I thought. And you thought guys were confusing...

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Booming car stereo systems... Posted: 5/31/2008 5:16:29 PM
[I'm not aware of any study that has tested the effects of loud music on a driver's ability to control a vehicle. Though I do know listening to music, no matter the volume requires no concious thought, while participating in a phone conversation does for most people.] I couldn't agree more. I drive for 8 hours a day and I have noticed that whether I'm in my car, or my cube van (huge difference in all specifics), when I have the music blaring, I could weave in and out of a 20 car lineup and be at the front of the line by the next red light. However, when I'm on the cell trying to have a conversation, I'll be riding the line when doing something as simple as looking in my blind spot to make sure I won't have a collision on the merge ramp.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Do people use this for committment or online shopping? Posted: 5/19/2008 6:29:48 PM
[Also what's POF's return policy? ] Return policy huh? Didn't you read the big front page sign when you first signed up? "Put your credit card away" Don't you need to pay first to expect a refund?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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why does he pursue me if he just wants sex? Posted: 5/19/2008 6:19:40 PM
Op, As ubkobalt said, don't ever think that they way this guy has treated you is at all a representation of you as a woman. You do have to look at the way many men think about women and sex to understand and unfortunately many women wouldn't care to understand it. Many guys have little respect for women they no nothing about (however it does work both ways) and the best thing you can do it look at him with pity as his actions are worth little more than that and don't get discouraged. Best advice, don't get discouraged and keep fishing. There are still many of us good guys out there...

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Do people use this for committment or online shopping? Posted: 5/19/2008 8:01:53 AM
It all depends on where you are in life. I was living in Newmarket, had all my friends around and wanted to find someone to get to know, and date if it went well. Since then I have moved out of my parents place on my own into the big (Toronto) city, lost many of my friends to their lives moving ahead as planned, and now try to fill my weekend with something more than work, and meaningless bar activity. Therefore I've geared more towards finding friends to hang out with and see the city. That's why we have the "looking for" option, so you canhonestly declare your intentions so the people who aren't interested don't waste their time and the ones who are, don't pass you up.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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How does one replace a 20 yr long friend with benifits situation Posted: 5/19/2008 7:54:17 AM
You can find a friend with benefits with anyone who you can stand to hang out with and create the sexual tension with. A protector, best friend, a confidant, a quality partner in crime? That might not be so easy when you leak the fact that you're only really looking for a f*ck buddy.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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why does he pursue me if he just wants sex? Posted: 5/19/2008 7:43:29 AM
Excuse me...pushing you into writing down your phone number when you're in the middle of writing your e-mail is "kinda tricking you". Getting your number through a "card upgrade" is downright fraud. As said before, asking you to join him late night, alone, in the stream room? Three strikes and he's out! Oh and from a male, yes he is in it for sex! Also likely playing the numbers game and do it to other women. But don't do the mature thing and report him to the manager, mention is to other women and see what's happened to them.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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why won't men say what thy do for a living - don't want their$$$$ Posted: 5/11/2008 6:50:38 PM
There are a few reason most men don't want to reveal what their job is. -It's not a source of pride. -It's by no means a profession. -They don't make alot of money by it, and it would be obvious. -It takes up too much of their time and are afraid the woman would make a judgement call about it if they have half a brain to know what the job entails. There are undoubtably more, but that's the basics.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Guys, would this hurt your feelings??? Posted: 5/4/2008 8:29:29 AM
Every one of us hears this all the time without talking to a female. It seems women (more often than men) set their standards to be out of reach for a guy who would probably turn out to be they guy who could loosen them up. -Do not message me if you don't know the difference between their, they're and there. -Do not message me if you take pictures of yourself with a cellphone in a mirror. -Do not message me if you have nothing intelligent to say. -Do not message me if you have pictures of you falling flat from drunkness at a party, yet say you're a social drinker. You think that guys like to be told right off the first sight that "you must be serious, never make a fool of yourself, have impecable spelling and worship the ground I walk on to have the slightest chance with me". The hell with you! You might have good pics, but I'd rather be happy than always trying to please my eye candy.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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TTC Strike - your opinions Posted: 4/26/2008 10:08:16 AM
I started a thread about a week or so when word first started that TTC might strike. I'm starting to wonder why it was taken down. A carpool thread doesn't seem like a bad idea right about now does it?!

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Like a copy of the Book of Mormon, Sir? Posted: 4/18/2008 7:16:07 PM
Ok granted, the fact that I'm an athiest should have no bearing on it. My question wasn't meant to be degrading or condescending. But I have had other experiences where someone who wasn't identified as a missionairy turned what was a pleasant conversation, into a chance to see what my beliefs are and possibly convert me. As I said the question wasn't meant as "don't these people have better things to do?", but more as "is this their job regardless of the setting?".

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Like a copy of the Book of Mormon, Sir? Posted: 4/18/2008 5:54:22 PM
So here's the scene. I'm coming back to my apartment from the video store. An athiest with a copy of Sweeney Todd in hand (beliefs relevant, movie not). I'm about to board the elevator as the door is opening as I see 2 teenagers, one with a bike unloading. With the short sleeve dress shirt, backpack and name tag, it's obvious, he's from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. He asks me "How are you today,sir" to which I reply "Great thanks and you". "Everything going fine"and I say "Very well, thank you". He asks "Can I interest you in a copy of the Book of Mormon", and I say "No thank you" and turn away almost in disgust. My question ; is it possible for a Mormon to simply have a nice civil conversation, or does every interaction with someone need to be an opportunity to sell their religion?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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would you do this? Posted: 4/16/2008 6:02:44 PM
I might have suggested dine'n'dash just because we're outside anyways :P Maybe the risk could have sparked something between you two.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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why did my boyfriend want me to move out Posted: 4/16/2008 5:42:48 PM
IEatBabies, Agreed. Him saying you're trying to trap him means "there's no possible way I can answer that question without indicting myself" LawSpeak 101. He's trying to move on to greener pastures, which is respectable for him to admit before you take the marriage pill. Remember, many of us will tell our girl/boyfriend they mean the world to us until someone else attracts us more. Sucks eh? Just be careful if he comes back saying it was all a mistake. These greener pastures probably won't look so good when he actually steps into them.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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I found some disturbing pictures on my boyfriend's computer!!! Posted: 4/16/2008 5:30:57 PM
Deleting those pictures makes you 4 different things. -Potential felon -Intrusive -Irrational -His ex-girlfriend if he has any sort of backbone without getting an apology (and possibly the best "I'm sorry baby" sex he's ever had")

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Would guys like to be approached this way? Posted: 4/15/2008 4:48:39 PM
As said before, it's a turn on until I think of how many other guys she's done this with right before me.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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What makes a woman good in bed? Posted: 4/15/2008 4:47:16 PM
"Duh! She shows up." Wow, some uf us have some pretty high standards.... I'd say the best feeling in the world (other than the initial penetration) is when she's so into it that she hugs my shoulders with her arms and my a$$ with her feet. It just get's us soooooo close.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Can men and women be friends? Posted: 4/12/2008 5:40:53 PM
Of course it's possible. But once a man pictures his girl friend in bed, it's hard to lose that thought.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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how come Posted: 4/12/2008 5:37:45 PM
Haha...does not wanting to drive more than an hour make a man unromantic now-a-days? How far would you go to see someone you had an interest in everytime you wanted to be together?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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how do I get guys to be more physically aggressive? Posted: 4/7/2008 4:09:26 PM
Easy, give him a nice swift smack in the side of the head, enough to give him ringing in the ear

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Platonic Vacation or Not? Posted: 4/7/2008 4:05:58 PM
Unless you have other plans too, i'd make it clear beforehand that you are going there just as friends. He's probably hoping to get something more out of it, likely "unplanned".

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Do men have double standards? Posted: 4/3/2008 4:31:34 PM
Guys don't have double standards????? BAHAHAHAHAHAHAAH HAHHAAHAHAHAHAAHAHHa Oh that's a good one....you just made my day. But seriously folks. It's not usually that guys get pissed off when saying they need their woman to have looks, and then wonder why the woman only wants the good looking guys. It's when a woman says she's not shallow and will message "anyone" back, but then we see the typical unread/deleted with only a look at the profile. WHEN women judge a guy's looks instead of what comes from his mind, they wonder why we're reluctant to even approach her in public...

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Talking to girls for the first time Posted: 4/1/2008 3:58:20 PM
There's something I've been trying for a while now and it's starting to work pretty well. Whenever you talk to someone (especially a woman), your initial line should be something completely unexpected. If you can say something to break her out of her routine, you will stand out, and likely get a positive reaction. For example... When I was in the grocery store the other day, the young lady simply started checking through my groceries without talking. So I broke the silence by saying " I'm doing fine thanks, how about you?" The conversation would have gone longer if we both weren't busy. Another time was a receptionist at an office I went to asked me "How are you doing today?" To which I said "Terrible, thanks. How bout you?" Saying something that is completely unexpected is a golden ticket to starting a conversation, and standing out from the other thousand guys who have tried to talk to her. Oh one last thing, learn to articulate properly, know your point, and get to it, or you'll lose her attention very quickly.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband Posted: 3/26/2008 5:13:28 PM
On first glance, too complicated for my liking. Are him and you still on good terms? Usually all the animosity of the divorce forces both of you to go your separate ways, finances and all. If he's got a girfriend who's living there (or not) why does she not help him, or you buy him out? Does sound a bit fishy to me....

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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How do you text message? Posted: 3/25/2008 3:22:45 AM
Rose, Not to take a walk in your, or anyone else's shoes with the same "urgency" reason for text-speak, but short of your relative being kidnapped, or trying to chase after "love at first site", why reason is so urgent not to use proper language. Not to mention, what text could be important enough that it can't wait until you have time?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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How do you text message? Posted: 3/24/2008 6:59:02 PM
When I text message, though I always use proper spelling, it's just irratating to go full out with proper punctuation. To go through all of the menus with the punctuation marks and go back and forth....ok I'm a hypocrite :P In reference back to my OP, does anyone thing there's a link between using proper spelling and knowing proper language? And does this same link apply between using proper punctuation and and knowing proper language?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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How do you text message? Posted: 3/24/2008 4:24:27 PM
When you're text messaging, you do use the popular abbreviations, or to you spell out the whole word? I noticed that when I first started texting, I was using the usual "brb, lmao, rofl, g2g, etc". My english skills started to decline rapidly. I'm starting to realize that the quality of our thoughts can only be as advanced as the quality of our language. That being said, how many of you use proper words (and the excuse of it takes too long to spell doesn't fly, quick-text has basically every word in the english language programmed)?

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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how many of you guys hav girlfriends Posted: 3/23/2008 7:01:59 PM
I don't have a girlfriend, but I've stayed on here for the Forums when I did, as she did and switched to Not Single/Not Looking. There's nothing wrong with being on a "dating site" when you have a girl or boyfriend as long as they know, and the reader knows your intentions.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

how long can a man go without sex? Posted: 3/23/2008 6:53:52 PM
The question has a bit of a Red Herring in it. A man can go a lifetime without sex, the question is how long can a man go without an orgasm...? After losing my virginity, I've gone about a year and a half and could have gone longer. I've made it about 4 days without masturbating. I've heard Blue Balls can be medically dangerous.

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Would all guys dislike this: Posted: 3/22/2008 8:57:20 AM
Sure, every man wants to know he's cared for, but not waited on hand and foot! Sounds like you're coming off to him as another mother figure and from what he's telling you, he's already got one. --Driving 45 mins with food and not staying because he's feeling tired. --Getting upset when you'd come over un-announced from that far away. --Buying $75 of stuff and telling him he doesn't have to pay for it... Definate mother figure!

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Do men Like Smart Women?? Posted: 3/22/2008 8:22:32 AM
As I say in my profile, being smart is in the eye of the judge. Except with all things that are hard fact! As long as she can think for herself, and not be stuck up while she's doing it. I was talking to one woman the other day that was trying to sound so informed and angelic about how much of a tree planting, soy eating, walk to work woman she was and how everyone should do it. I sarcastically asked her how much that's supposed to mean to those (like myself) who drive Super Duty Engine Diesel Anti-Christs who make sure her soy products get to the store shelf. .....Shut her up pretty quickly...

ddr_one

Joined: 3/20/2006

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Is this to much to expect? Posted: 3/22/2008 7:58:13 AM
I agree with most on here. But there is a way to go dutch without ever having to ask for money after you've already paid. You pay one, I'll pay the other. If you drive to pick him up (it's not usually $30 cdn for an hour of driving), he pays for the coffee. If you drive to his house, he feeds you dinner. If you go to the movies, you pay the admission, he pays for the snacks. If you do go to a more expensive sports event, one pays the admission, the other pays for the parking, booze, food, etc. You get the point. If he's coping out on his share of this, have him explain why, and maybe look for another date.

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