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cecdwarfer

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Robbie's esoteric new single. Posted: 10/14/2009 3:17:24 PM
I found Robbie's new single a bit esoteric when I heard it the other night. I think some of the lyrics are meant to be a bit satirical about our obsession with our superficial appearance but I'm a little confused by the rest of the song and the religious references? Is the bit about everything being contageous meant to be a reference to swine flu? Would love to hear people's different interpretations of the meaning of this song.

cecdwarfer

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What is the point? Posted: 10/2/2009 11:06:51 AM
You say you love nature and animals and seem to be a bit of a free spirit so perhaps you should travel round the world and get involved in some kind of conservation project so you can influence things in a positive way. You may meet a woman in one of these projects who will be into the same things as you. Maybe you should become a lecturer on philosphy or something like that as it might be up your street.

cecdwarfer

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Jobcentre Work Trials Please tell me your experiences. Posted: 9/28/2009 3:07:27 PM
I would like to warn people about the use and abuse of the Jobcentre Work Trials scheme. I recently went to work for an employer as a telesaleswoman. I did four days work there and signed off the dole. On the fourth day my employer told me that my job was an unpaid work trial for Jobcentre Plus and they should pay my expenses. It seemed other people working with me were also unpaid and were aware of it however I did not remember being told this at my job interview and I had given nothing in writing to say that I was volunteering for unpaid work. So I was shocked to realise this and wondered if I had misunderstood something. I decided not to challenge my employer until finding out the rules and regs of the work placement from the job centre as I had no idea how these trials were meant to work or what my rights were. The jobcentre basically said I couldn't claim anything as I hadn't arranged the trial with them at the beginning. I realised my employer had given me no actual contract of employment or timesheet so I would be unlikely to get any money out of them not having a legal leg to stand on. I am trying to sort this out with the jobcentre at the moment. I just wondered whether anyone has had bad experiences with unpaid work trials and if you think that jobseekers should be made to sign a formal agreement before they volunteer for any unpaid work. This scheme seems very open to abuse and I think many employers are using it for cheap labour.

cecdwarfer

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Getting support from family with losing weight. Posted: 9/4/2009 6:21:17 PM
I joined Slimming World again recently as I wanted to get my weight down a bit. I have had obesity problems in the past and lost a lot of weight. My family have never been very supportive of my decision to lose weight and showed no interest in learning about nutrition. They even bought me a pile of chocolate one year when they knew I was paying out a lot of money to a slimming club and was quite unhappy about my weight problems. Think they saw my joining it as perhaps being critical of the way they had fed me over the years. At the moment I cook my own meals and eat separately from the rest of my family. I have tried to suggest that they use low fat ingredients or sweeteners in some of their recipes so the food would taste just the same but I would be able to eat it, but they selflishly and stubbornly refuse. So I have to be an outcast because I want to lose weight. They have made silly suggestions to me such as eating the same food as them but reducing the portion size. However with the number of calories they pack into most things they cook I could only eat one or two mouthfuls therefore making it a starvation diet. I have a big appetite so this is not a practical. The whole point of the Slimming World plan is that it is a volumetric based diet which encourages you to eat lots of food to feel full and keep your metabolism stimulated so this suggestion is flying in the face of everything I have been taught. Has anyone else encountered these sort of problems with their family and has anyone figured out a way to solve them? I would really like their help and moral support. Losing weight is hard enough as it is without this. Is there any way I could win them round?

cecdwarfer

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how do you get to see a therapist in UK Posted: 8/25/2009 5:28:51 PM
Cognitive Behaviour therapy is supposed to be good for issues like this. See your GP for a referral.

cecdwarfer

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Should genetic matching be used for dating agencies? Posted: 7/18/2009 2:21:13 PM
Is was reading an article today about the idea that humans tend to be attracted to those with different immune system genetics to themselves in order to give their offspring a better range of immunity. It made me wonder whether dating agencies in the future may offer genetic matching to bring together people who are likely to be attracted to one another. I think a lot of the time who we are attracted to is built in to are physical make up so maybe looking at other factors such as age location etc may not be as useful for filtering in or out people we may or may not be attracted to. Would people want to use a service like this or do you think people would dislike the idea or worry it could be misused for eugenics type purposes?

cecdwarfer

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Hypnosis for phobias Posted: 7/18/2009 2:02:34 PM
Has anyone ever tried hynosis for phobias? I'm wondering whether it is effective or not. Does it work for nerves and anxieties? -x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-xx-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

cecdwarfer

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Anthony Robbins self improvement books. Posted: 7/18/2009 1:55:28 PM
I have been looking at one of Anthony Robbins books recently and wondered how many people have used them to further their career etc. Does anyone on here have any stories about how his books have helped them?

cecdwarfer

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How far is too far to travel for a date. Posted: 7/17/2009 8:36:48 AM
I'm wondering whether I should focus on emailing men within a certain distance as I'm not sure if some may not want to travel. Just thought I'd do a poll to find out what the maximum distance is that most guys would be prepared to travel for a date. Would like responses from those with or without cars so I can compare. What do you guys think is distance important?

cecdwarfer

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BBM whats you view Posted: 7/5/2009 10:59:51 AM
I was reading in one of the women's mags about a nightclub designed for bigger men frequented by girls who like bigger guys. I think it was called Curves but I'm not sure where it was. There seem to be a few gay clubs with that name as well so make sure you find the right one, lol.

cecdwarfer

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Do we really need Forums on a Dating site??? Posted: 3/31/2009 11:00:05 AM
I find it helpful to get advice from other members on dating issues here plus you can find people who have similar interests if you post a thread about it.

cecdwarfer

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Is approaching men effective? (Question for the girls) Posted: 3/30/2009 7:05:02 PM
Have read some things saying that it is better for women to pick men from those that write to them rather than approaching men as this tends to be ineffective. Some say men will negatively judge women who approach them. Was wondering whether the women on this site have found it easier to get dates by approaching men or is it easier to get dates by letting men come to you. What sort of success rate do you find with the different methods? Are these articles correct?

cecdwarfer

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Winning back a guy and being less intense Posted: 3/27/2009 6:32:25 AM
I am I just went to bed, lol. I'm really grateful for all the advice you have given. I think the points that people have made in my defence and his defence are all valid and I will try to strike a happy medium between being a clingy psycho and kicking him to the curb as I think people deserve a second chance.

cecdwarfer

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Winning back a guy and being less intense Posted: 3/26/2009 9:04:42 PM
Was wondering if the guys could give me some advice on a personal situation I have found myself in recently. Have been dating a new guy for a few weeks now and it is the only relationship I have been in for a few years so I want things to go well. Unfortunately we have already managed to fall out with one another. He cancelled a date on Friday due to stress at work so I rang him Friday night to see if he fancied doing something Sat. In the end we agreed that I would come over in the evening and leave next morning as it was mothers' day and he wanted to spend time with her. Sat evening before I set off I rang him to tell him I was setting off but couldn't get through as he had his phone off as he sometimes does. So I set off to see him a fairly long drive and pulled up at his house. When I got there I found that he wasn't home and his car was gone. I got my sis to check the internet for messages but he hadn't left any. Was pretty angry at the time and money I had wasted visiting him and my wing mirror got stolen while I stopped to get food just to add insult to injury. I drove home and sent a message asking if he was ok to his phone and email as I was concerned that something bad had possibly happened to him to prevent him getting home. He sent me a fairly unapologetic and vague message back next day just saying that he had felt ill and stressed out and didn't mention where he was and what he was doing. He didn't ask for another date. At this point I put two and two together and got five. I figured he was probably dumping me and had assumed I wouldn't come to visit him if I couldn't get through on the phone. We had recently slept together for the first time so I thought that maybe he had not enjoyed it or something. I was unimpressed with his lack of apology so sent him a biting text saying that if he wasn't interested in seeing me anymore he could have been straight with me or at least cancelled the date and he should have more respect for women. I got an email back defending himself and saying he hadn't known I was coming and he would have been there had he known. I thought this was strange and wondered if he had just forgotten and not meant to offend me. I rang him up but he had been a bit offended by my harsh message and he wasn't sure whether he wanted to see me again. It turns out he had forgotten he ever arranged to see me and gone to visit his mother. In the end he took some time to think about it and decided he still wanted to see me but we should take things slower and gentler. I would like some advice on how to play things so he will feel he is being given space and I seem nonchalant and undemanding. I want for him to ask me on a date first so I know that he is really interested in getting together. Thought I might send him some texts in the meantime to keep him thinking of me as he is away for the weekend. What sort of stuff would be good to put in my texts to show I care for him and tantalise him into another date. I know this is maybe a case of he is not as into me as I am into him but I am willing to give him space and time for any feelings to grow. Any advice fellas?

cecdwarfer

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The new Doctor Who. What do you think? Posted: 1/3/2009 3:58:36 PM
What does everyone think of the new choice for Doctor Who? I have not heard of him before, someone called Matt Smith. Has anyone seen anything he has been in? Is he a good actor and do you think he will fit the role?

cecdwarfer

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Asking for dates at the last minute... Is it ok? Posted: 11/23/2008 1:13:40 PM
Personally, I feel it's a bit presumptuous for someone to think that you have no plans, and can/will hang out with them at the drop of a hat. Asking someone in advance to hang out is polite, and I like polite people. It really depends on what you feel comfortable with, this is how I like to date, not because I read it in a date guide but because often, I feel that last minute planners are not a good match for me, as I like to plan in advance. This is really the perspective I was thinking about when I posted this. Phew someone saw my point of view.

cecdwarfer

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Asking for dates at the last minute... Is it ok? Posted: 11/23/2008 9:10:50 AM
Have noticed some guys will chat to you for a week and not mention going out and will then ask you out on a Friday or Saturday morning for a date Saturday night. Some romance guides say that it is best not to accept a date near to the weekend as you should play hard to get, look busy and make the guy be polite and ask you well in advance. What do guys think of this? Is it likely a guy is asking at the last min as someone else let them down or does it just take them a while to pluck up the courage. How do you play it guys do you like to ask in advance or last minute and which do you think is best? Would you respect a woman who declined a last min invitation on the grounds of needing more notice?

cecdwarfer

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for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 11/23/2008 8:52:40 AM
I think wealth is not essential but sometimes it is a turn off if a guy says can we wait till next month to go for a drink as I'm saving up for my holiday right now. Makes it look as if a relationship is not too important to him. Maybe guys should keep a little dating reserve fund to pay for dates when they get one.

cecdwarfer

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Age discrimination and nosey job interview questions.HELP Posted: 11/17/2008 4:46:24 PM
I was being interviewed for a job today and one of the first questions I was asked was what is your age? It made me wonder whether people should be allowed to ask this as we supposedly have age discrimination laws now which say it is not mandatory to put your age on application forms etc. The law states that people should be judged on their ability to do the job rather than their age. So why is it relevant to ask you your age and do people think that they shouldn't ask this? I've also been asked whether I've applied for other positions and whether I've had any interviews. I feel this is a little nosey also as surely it is my business what other jobs I applied for. I don't see how that is relevant to the position I'm being interviewed for. Just wondered if any HR people on here could tell me why this question is asked and what sort of answer are they hoping to get. Is it better to say if you've had other interviews as it makes you look in demand or will this put employers off if they think another firm may steal you away in a week or so? What is the best answer to this question?

cecdwarfer

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How important is it to a guy that a woman has a high sex drive? Posted: 8/26/2008 2:20:13 PM
Have sometimes heard men complain that women don't have a very high sex drive. Do men often feel that women do not want sex enough? How high a sex drive do men think is ideal and is it important for a woman to be sexually adventurous and orgasmic?

cecdwarfer

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How important is it to men that a woman is maternal? Posted: 8/26/2008 1:02:43 PM
One of my male friends told me the other day that most men don't worry too much about whether a woman is very maternal or wants children. That they only tend to to think about whether they want kids once they are married. Would most guys out there agree with this? How many men would be turned off by a woman who couldn't get pregant or who had a phobia of pregnancy? Would this be overlooked if they were generally a caring loving woman who likes children and was willing to adopt a baby or be a step mother to the children a guy already has? In todays modern world do men still see a woman's role is to provide children or have expectations changed over the years?

cecdwarfer

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Are there two extremes of internet dating. Posted: 6/28/2008 8:01:00 PM
Sometimes I feel like I tend to get two extremes with internet dating and don't really get much middle ground. People seem to either be reluctant to go out on a date even after emailing you for a month or they are trying to invite you to have sex with them immediately hard to find anything in between. Has anyone else had a similar experience?

cecdwarfer

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Why do men ask so few questions? Posted: 6/17/2008 6:41:01 PM
Your profile only has 3 lines. How many questions am I supposed to come up with when I only have a limited amount of information? We need something to work with here too. (Maybe you make up for this in your emails, this is just an observation based on your profile) Thought I'd better do a post to defend myself here as a few people are blasting my profile. Just wanted to point out that you are making the assumption here that men actually read profiles which I've generally found is not the case. I did used to have a more detailed profile but people rarely bothered to read any of it. So I decided to make it short and snappy instead as advised by a guide to internet dating I read. As to having more info to work with well I would have thought that the less info there is on a profile the more questions it is possible to ask as you don't already have the answer.

cecdwarfer

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Why do men ask so few questions? Posted: 6/16/2008 6:54:45 PM
Maybe alot of the men you are complaining about want to ask you those questions in person. As in on an actual date. I know i do........ But if they don't ask me for a date or a phone number then I can't ever go out with them....

cecdwarfer

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Why do men ask so few questions? Posted: 6/16/2008 6:25:22 PM
Have noticed that when men write emails they very rarely ask any questions to the woman they're writing to. This makes it awkward writing back as you have no questions to answer and have to come up with something completely original to say. Men often don't bother to sign their name at the bottom either so you know who you are talking to. I think asking questions is vital to keep up the dialogue before going on a date. Is this maybe why women lose interest in guys and don't write back. Do guys think it might be a good idea to include more questions in emails to get to know someone?

cecdwarfer

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Which exercises are fun and burn most calories? Posted: 6/11/2008 4:48:09 PM
Which exercises are good for burning off lots of calories but are not too much of a strain for a not too fit person to keep up for a period of time? I'm wondering about buying one of those mini trampoline things. Are they good for losing weight? Anyone tried them?

cecdwarfer

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Are women less inclined to internet dating? Posted: 6/2/2008 6:02:29 PM
I think the number of timewasters may put some women off. I often think that internet dating for men is like trying to find a drop of water in a desert as there are so few women. For women it is like trying to find a diamond amongst a pile of zirconias as you can get lots of men pretending to be interested just to get attention and emails so finding one genuine guy is a struggle. You can have seven guys telling you how gorgeous you are and still have no one to go with to the film on Saturday night. This may put some women off after a while as they may get tired of trying to sift out the real people from the fakes and they may leave the site.

cecdwarfer

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What would be a good model of camcorder for filming birds and wildlife? Posted: 5/25/2008 6:05:14 AM
I want to buy my Dad a camcorder for his birthday and he is keen on filming wildlife. I am looking for a camera within a £200 - 300 budget. I would like to know what specifications I should look for in terms of resolution and zoom for this subject. What special features would be useful for filming birds against the sky. Which cameras are good for managing light etc outdoors? What would be the best camera I would probably get for this sort of money?

cecdwarfer

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How long is it comfortable to be a friend before a relationship starts? Posted: 5/17/2008 4:22:31 PM
He already knows I like him and get the impression he likes me but doesn't want a serious relationship right away. I was just wondering if anyone else had found themselves in this situation and how long it was ok to wait for something to happen. I'm sure if I push him towards a relationship he will get upset and I will lose him as a friend. This is why I'm not pushing the issue with him.

cecdwarfer

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How long is it comfortable to be a friend before a relationship starts? Posted: 5/17/2008 3:36:27 PM
I have met a guy who I have loads in common with and we are good friends. The problem is shortly before I met him he had got out of a long term relationship that had gone bad. This means he needs to move slowly when it comes to any new relationships. I have known him nearly three months now and we do things together when his busy schedule allows. He seems to like me but things haven't moved into anything really romantic yet. I am thinking that maybe if I give him space and don't push for anything things might eventually develop into something romantic. I was wondering how long it is ok to be friends with someone before getting romantic? Would the men out there say that once you have been a friend for a certain period it is awkward to move onto having a romantic relationship? How long would that be? Anyone had a similar experience?

cecdwarfer

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What MP's can expense Posted: 3/14/2008 10:15:06 AM
John Lewis are a notoriously pricey store. It's the sort of shop where they will charge the earth just for a toaster. So it's no wonder they can claim so much. At least they didn't make up a Harrods list that would be even worse. I think if it is considered necessary for MP's to have second homes they should just be given an average amount to spend. Or restricted to only claiming for one room per year. Perhaps they should make up an Ikea list or an Argos list that would be a lot more affordable.

cecdwarfer

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ok its date night Posted: 1/19/2008 4:45:40 PM
Notting Hill as it is about a clash of two different worlds that is interesting. While you were sleeping is a good one from Sandra Bullock. Also The Object of my affection with Jennifer Anniston. Love Actually has to be one of the most romantic movies as it has lots of different love stories in one. Also of course the classic Pride and Prejudice Jane Eyre and Sense and Sensibility. Midsummer Night's Dream is also good and Much Ado About Nothing.

cecdwarfer

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Best holiday destinations in the UK. Posted: 1/18/2008 2:39:06 PM
Am thinking about where to go on holiday this year as I have been to London the last couple of years and want a change. Which locations in the UK offer the best attractions shops and culture? I am a single traveller on a small budget. What are the most unusual attractions in the UK people have been to?

cecdwarfer

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Job satisfaction how would you rate your career? Posted: 1/18/2008 1:47:31 PM
I am a graduate who would like to make a career change from my job in insurance to do a more enjoyable job. I thought it would be interesting to ask people in the UK what they thought the best most rewarding jobs are in terms of job satisfaction and also salary. Are you doing your dream job is it worth the pay? What are the worst most stressful jobs to do and which are the least stressful? I am thinking of becoming a solicitor is this an enjoyable job anyone have experience of this area?

cecdwarfer

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separated at birth twins end up marrying each other Posted: 1/11/2008 2:20:20 PM
Think I would be devastated at losing my husband. Not to mention the weirdness of it all. It is one of the unethical things about sperm donation etc to me that the child does not know their parents. This issue needs to be addressed with more people born through IVF.

cecdwarfer

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Property investing Posted: 1/6/2008 1:30:27 PM
Had an email today advertising a course on property investing. It sounded interesting. Wondered if there is anybody on here who has been successful in this field that would like to share their experience with me. Has anybody done one of these courses and was it useful? Is it worth attending one? What websites/ books are informative?

cecdwarfer

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Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait? Posted: 1/5/2008 3:15:36 PM
Ironic things can be funny. For example I remember joking to my date while we were in a pub that nowadays due to the smoking ban you have to walk inside to get some fresh air. A truly funny person can make an anecdote about a fairly mundane happening seem funny. For example going on a trip and getting lost and ending up somewhere strange.

cecdwarfer

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Where are all the sci-fi lovers? Posted: 1/4/2008 1:40:22 PM
I know that sci-fi is a popular area of culture but few people will admit to liking it in their profiles. Just wondered how many guys there are out there on POF who like sci-fi and if they would like to form an SF singletons club.

cecdwarfer

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Do men prefer a woman with her own home? Posted: 1/3/2008 11:06:20 AM
Was wondering how many men base their preferences in women on their economic or career status. For example if you are a guy with you own home or rented home do you prefer women who have their own place over those living with parents. Or does it not matter. I also wonder about how much a woman's career status is judged by a man. Do men make judgements about women based on whether they feel they have achieved their potential in their career/professional life also? Or is it an area men largely ignore. Do they judge women by other issues? What is most important to the men on here?

cecdwarfer

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How you like your Steak done? Posted: 12/20/2007 12:53:39 PM
I like my steak in a steak and kidney pie! The English know the best way to eat steak.

cecdwarfer

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Romantic things to do for a guy Posted: 11/26/2007 2:45:06 PM
We all know about the traditional things men do for women to be romantic, buying them a dozen red roses etc, but what would be the equivalent thing for a woman to do for a man. Thought it would be interesting to ask you guys what you think should become a traditional thing for a woman to do/buy to show affection for a man? Also what is the best romantic thing that a woman has ever done for you. I know a similar thread has been done on the ask a girl forum but I couldn't find any similar question on the ask a guy posts so thought I would ask. Give me your best ideas guys.

cecdwarfer

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Stoke on Trent Speed dating Posted: 10/26/2007 2:29:06 PM
Hi don't know if anyone can help me here. I was wondering if it might be fun to set up a POF speed dating event. Not sure how to go about it though. Has anyone got experience with this? If you could send me an email it would be really helpful.

cecdwarfer

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should we still have to support the monarchy. Posted: 10/24/2007 12:46:03 PM
I think the monarchy will slowly get less priviledged but I think it is unlikely that support for them will wain enough for them to be removed from office anytime soon. To be honest I think people who complain about the priviledge of the monarchy are missing the point that the people in the house of lords have real political power yet are unelected yet the Queen has no real power and is politically neutral. Surely getting rid of the lords is far more important than getting rid of the monarchy especially when some of them are Tony's cronies who've paid to get in. To me the fact that some woman gets a tiny proportion of our taxes to go about wearing a crown is far less concerning than the fact that some people are born into power. Surely it's better that someone is born head of state rather than killing someone for it as they did hundreds of years ago. At least we have progressed since then.

cecdwarfer

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Would you date a guy who wore a costume to a date Posted: 10/22/2007 12:02:04 PM
I think it would be a bit embarassing for the date if you turned up in a costume. But maybe you could find a sexy one. A Wolverine outfit might be good if they have a leather fetish. I wouldn't try dressing up as Arthur Dent though or they may think that you just got out of bed and couldn't be bothered to get dressed. Have to say this is one of the funniest ways anyone has suggested to spice up dating.

cecdwarfer

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What are your Personal pet peeves and other stuff Posted: 10/5/2007 2:38:47 PM
My pet peeves are guys being all over you on a first date. Another pet peeve is people contacting me without bothering to read my profile. Also guys who act kind of luke warm towards you so you don't know if they are interested or not. They'll seek attention at times and then make excuses when it comes to meeting up. It can start to get on your nerves.

cecdwarfer

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 9/2/2007 8:59:16 AM
[times have changed. i remember about 7 years ago when the whole online dating was just getting started. i would send out emails and get reply's. i would meet women over coffee within 3 days of talking to them. sometimes it was plain flat out sex, other times is was just hanging out and doing things together. now its hard to even get any of them to email back. even a short reply of "not intreseted" is better than nothing but that rarely happens. trying to get them to use a IM lately is like pulling teeth when they do reply to a email. using email is like sending something real mail now. ] Maybe some women think that it is better not to respond at all than to send a rejection email. After all when the guy sees that he has got a message he might be disappointed when he finds the content is just a knock back. He might prefer not to waste his time reading it. I have had two or three men message me back just to tell me they have already got a girlfriend. While it was polite of them to respond it just made me feel a bit sick that some other lucky woman had bagged herself a boyfriend while I was still single! I kind of wished they hadn't bothered writing back or that they had taken their profile down so I wouldn't have wasted my time writing to them. As for the instant messaging thing I think I can tell you the source of their reluctance. The thing is that many men will abuse the instant messenger by sending rude photos or just using it to randomly chat to lots of women they have no real interest in. This is the reason why I won't instant message anyone I have not already met. Would also like to point out that internet dating can sometimes be a challenge for women too. I find that if I message round about a hundred men in my area only 10% will respond and 1% will go on a date. Not a high success rate there. I tend to find that of the few men that message me most are either twice my age or are immigrants who look as if they may be after a visa. So the choice of English speaking men around my age does not seem to be great.

cecdwarfer

Joined: 3/21/2006

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Whats a guy got to do around here to meet some quality ladies? Posted: 8/3/2007 3:27:14 AM
Maybe you could get someone who is good at photography to do a better picture of you. The one you have is slightly over exposed.

cecdwarfer

Joined: 3/21/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

whats the thing with hun Posted: 8/1/2007 10:37:40 AM
I live in England and get this too from guys all over the world I don't like it personally it's disrespectful.

cecdwarfer

Joined: 3/21/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Playing hard to get Posted: 7/27/2007 3:01:26 PM
When I was talking about playing hard to get I was really meaning as far as approaching guys goes. I didn't really mean being awkward about going on dates etc. I am looking at this from the perspective of a woman who wants to get dates. I find that I only get about 1% success rate from emailing guys as far as obtaining a date is concerned but the success rate dating guys who write to me is probably about 20%. This seems to imply that men prefer to approach women first and not the other way round.

cecdwarfer

Joined: 3/21/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Playing hard to get Posted: 7/26/2007 3:06:48 PM
How is advertising yourself as a single woman looking for dates playing hard to get? I would have thought it was the opposite.

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