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Joined: 3/22/2006

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how do u get over the mid life crisis blues? Posted: 4/27/2006 12:53:54 PM
no one can stop the age process - it sucks and i do have a hard time dealing with it but remember everyone has to go thru it.. when ur young u do take alot for granted and waste alot of years and sure i would like to have some of those years back but u have to accept urself and be glad that you did have those years.. alot of young people dont live to even be our age.. and were still going :) so live and do things youve never done before.. stay young at heart and stay active !

Joined: 3/22/2006

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Women Over 40... this is what Andy Rooney says... any comments? Posted: 4/24/2006 2:10:39 PM
thats why i like younger guys lol

Joined: 3/22/2006

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Some people are ageless Posted: 4/12/2006 7:20:10 AM
as of now i have given up on dating.. not attracted to older men at all. love younger guys but they dont take me serious.. so i guess im a misfit..the 40's are strange thats for sure. i am told i look 20 yrs younger and i know i act younger.. its just hard being a woman in ur 40's

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/31/2006 2:13:02 PM
Hey pablo - the popcorn and 3d movie cracks me up !!!!

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/31/2006 6:43:02 AM
DAY 11 for me - WOOHOO DONT EVER GIVE UP !!!!!! I loved to smoke - i used cigs to cope with everything on the planet !! but its not our friend like we think it is all the years we smoke..its our silent killer.. ok - i am more tired now too - nicotine gave me energy and it does - its a stimulant !!. Your body has to heal from all the crap from the cigs so u will be tired for a while!! Keep exercising - eventually it will pay off..i work out whether i feel like it or not - the last two times i was in the gym i was so tired i was falling asleep on the weight machine but i still did it .. it takes a long long time to feel comfortable not smoking..but im not coughing up my guts anymore and even tho i have done alot of damage to myself i can breathe a little better !! You can make all the excuses you want to = to continue to smoke like i did - u can quit !! I know everyone says this but its true !! If i can quit - You can too !!!!

Joined: 3/22/2006

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What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site? Posted: 3/29/2006 6:32:38 AM
if its right then it will work... obviously sounds like u were w a playa !!! there are alot out there - you have to weed thru the trash to find a good one..

Joined: 3/22/2006

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Exercise High Posted: 3/28/2006 2:28:37 PM
lifting weights gets fun..after u start doing it then u really can tell a diff and it gives u more confidence.. its hard tho to stick to it..ill work out alot then slack off but im starting back slowly cause i want to get really into it and look good and feel good too.. u will get addicted to it and thats a good thing !!

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/28/2006 9:47:08 AM
hey heartstillopen !! wats up ?? r u still quitting soon ?? if i can do it anyone can - i have no will power but i prayed about it and i know its not me getting me thru this ... let me know when u r quitting.. another thing too - the longer u go the longer u dont want to ruin it and have to start over ! i have to get back to work but will get back on this afternoon..

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/28/2006 9:31:47 AM
yeah at first it is hard - im on day 8 now.. i cried for days at first but im getting a lil better now - it does feel like u r losing ur best friend cause ur so used to having them all the time.. i used cigs to cope w everything !!!! after 4 days it does get better - but u have to hang in there and just one day at a time !!! do watever u have to do to get thru the day !! YOU CAN BEAT THIS!!! there alot of people in this battle together - ur not alone !! i am struggling but u just ignore and dont dwell on the urge !

Joined: 3/22/2006

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That old saying that LOVE will jump up and bit you in the behind when your not looking..... Posted: 3/27/2006 6:57:45 AM
yep - def when u r not looking love somehow does manage to bite ur butt..lol im single because i choose to be - i dont like being single all the time. Im just scared to get involved again and have to go thru the bs all over again and get hurt = blah blah blah.. but maybe eventually i will let my guard down and give a guy a chance - im very selective and have to be

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/26/2006 7:44:31 PM
hey everyone - its sunday nt and today is day 6.. yes i havent hurt anyone and im surviving..i still crave cigs but not all day long like the first 4 days..i have to stay busy and have been doing alot of weird things to stay busy but thats the way is goes. its hard changing but i guess it takes a very long time. i went out friday nt w a friend who smokes..we sat in the "boring" section cause of course all the fun people smoke and i wouldnt sit in the bar..so during our meal my friend had to go smoke twice - we ended up in the bar and ran into 4 more friends...they were all smoking and blowing smoke in my face so i had to leave - i didnt smoke..it seems like when u r quitting something everyone is doing it.. anyway i am going one day at a time and only worrying about the day im living - not the future - dont want to stress out about never poss smoking but if i go day to day and not smoke then i guess i can consider myself a non smoker even tho i want to.. dont think the urges ever go away but you just dont dwell on the urge.. dang this is hard but im hanging in there - maybe one day ill feel like myself again - right now i am trying to figure out who i am without a cig.

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/24/2006 2:34:46 PM
thx - thats help alot ! my friends all smoke and i need to be with them for support but they have no intension of quitting so i cant really get support from them..its hard having to deal with this alone but i guess we would still be doing it alone even with others.. i hope that when and if i get a lil sane i will be able to help others who are going thru what i am now. al the replys are awesome and helping me more and more..i guess u just have to go one day at a time and just fight the craving when its there which is ALL the time - when i grew up everyone smoked and thats just the way it was - when ur young u never think about getting older and then bam - ur older and have to deal with all the stupid decisions u made when u were young..its like totally having to restucture your while life - my life did revolve around smoking and right now i think yeah i get off in 30 minutes and can smoke ....then i remember ..oh i quit ..haha.. i used cigs to cope with everything.. the only thing u can do is jusy try and find the inner strength u have to beat this control from a stupid cigarette!! the weekend will be hard cause i will be on my own time. i will try the "im a non smoker relaxation " - sounds like a good thing to do.. thx and wish me luck this wkend..

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/24/2006 7:45:12 AM
yeah the depression and the not thinking clearly is crazy !! i am on day 4 now and i think ive already gained 4 lbs..i worked out the last 2 nts but still gained - my metabolism is gone... its really crazy how u dont even know who u r or how to act or what to do with urself... trying to change a lifestyle u r used to is hard.. thx for the advice everyone - i really appreciate the support- i need a support group in the worst way.. i guess u just have to keep going and do whatever u have to do to get thru the day.. i do feel like just sceraming !!!!!!!!!!!! i get tired more now and cant concentrate...ugggggg and crave cigs all the time... i dont think the cravings ever go away...

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/24/2006 7:38:33 AM
i tried that one time and was by myself - i was kinda scared - i was so stressed out trying to relax that i couldnt do it..im so glad that worked for u ... i wish it would of worked for me cause i heard that it helps alot ot people... thx so much for sharing !!

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/23/2006 12:17:21 PM
boy is it a challenge - trying to change urself when u have been this way for longer than u can remember.. getting out of a habit is hard and the mental part u have to live w the rest of ur life.. if i only knew who i am right now.. i have always smoked and now im not and i really dont know what to do...i used cigarettes for so many diff voids in my life..

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crowne plaza party 4/22/06 Posted: 3/23/2006 9:56:17 AM
wish i lived closer to go but i live n fw

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Best places to meet people after 45 Posted: 3/23/2006 9:41:29 AM
ive been single for 3 years and it is hard when u get older to meet people - weve been thru alot and dont want to play games or have to go thru crap we have already gone thru again.. i choose to be single evn tho i dont want to be..i look alot younger then my age and act younger - all my friends are younger so its hadr for me to even look st someone my age - the young ones tho just want to play...id like to meet someone now - i think im ready but im not looking for mr perfect - he needs to look for me.. is there help for us ??

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/23/2006 8:19:30 AM
aww ya'llare sweet for replying - i got on here for the purpose of making friends and helping others and others helping me on quitting smoking and trying to redirect my life.. For the last 2 days i have done nothing but cry, depressed like crazy, dont know what to do with myself at all...i guess u just have to tough it out.. there were alot of times i liked smoking but times i didnt..i know i smoked for something to do and habit and to suppress emotions which us girls have a hard time with anyway.. i read books about it but it all depends on how u strong u can get ur mind to do it.. i am not a disciplined person so im really surprised that ive gone 2 days now but i guess thats what is keeping me going.. if u are having a HARD time then why go back and have to go thru it again... its gonna be a constant battle but it helps to know that there are others in the same boat.. wish we all could go to meetings together !!

Joined: 3/22/2006

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tanning and its benefits Posted: 3/23/2006 6:27:40 AM
i got malignant skin cancer in a tanning bed and now can never get in the sun ever again ! its all good until u get skin cancer and i never thought t would happen to me too!

Joined: 3/22/2006

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I just quit smoking and am going crazy ! Posted: 3/23/2006 6:22:30 AM
hey - i just quit smoking 2 days ago and i am going crazy..i have smoked off and on for 35 uears and have tried to quit b4... i cant stop crying and I have no support group here at all - all my friends and family do not live here.. does anyone have any advice as to what i can do to try to feel normal ? I dont know what to do with myself not smoking.. all my friends smoke and i cant hang around them now so that leaves me all alone - its hard !!

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