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carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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How do I tell my girlfriend I like to wear a bra? Posted: 9/16/2007 6:46:47 PM
Strapless, whatever turns you on should be a turn on to her too. People should have the compassion, understanding and maturity to realize that 'sex' is not simple at all....sure, it SEEMS simple, but really it occurs in the mind. The more intelligent one is, the more likely that sex can (but not always) be complicated. HOWEVER, having said that, I still would not recommend that something that falls outside of the general conception of 'normal sexual behaviour' not be blabbed about upfront, nor necessarily brought into the first sexual encounter. As you become more familiar with each other, and relax your inhibitions, you can slowly trust each other not to: a) laugh! b) run! and the biggest c)tell your co-workers, friends, neighbors, the girl next door, your ex, etc. (i.e. SHUT YOUR MOUTH!) Basically, love is about showing the good, the bad, the ugly, and in this case....the off center (and who doesn't have a little off center in them somewhere??) and still being there for the other person. If you can't do that, then its time to rethink the whole situation. If she's the right 'love' for you strapless, you should be getting a lacy little something for valentines day and it won't be in her size LOL......just remember to have the same compassion and spirit of adventure in the opposite, because some day she just might surprise you....

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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40 and over - who views you? Posted: 5/16/2007 8:19:19 AM
Sweet Euphoria I've checked out your profile and I can't see anywhere where you are putting yourself in a position where a man would get the idea that you would be up to a one night encounter.....if anything it was obvious that you were looking for the 'the one'. At that I think that what you are getting is the usual dribble of guys who just spam as many women as possible and figure sooner or later the numbers will work in their favour. So really, there is probably only a small percentage of mindless egos out there that contact everyone and make it look like the site is littered with them. I remembered getting spammed by this guy who sent his hotel room, location, flight number, even size LOL!.....and said he would be waiting for me! Well, when I called my girlfriend, she had the same email in her inbox! We had a great laugh and I always wondered if some women (or more!) showed up! One thing you might want to do is shorten your profile.....by half. I've been here awhile and I know that its best to save most of the story for the late night chats that lead up to that first coffee. I know my eyes start hurting after a couple of paragrahps LOL. Good luck!

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

Msg: 267 (view)

Long hair on older women Posted: 3/21/2007 7:27:37 PM
When I turned 40, I made an appointment to get my long hair cut off. When I asked a the male co-worker who sat behind me what sort of 'bob' I would look best in, he said 'Your cutting your hair? What for?'. I said I was cutting my hair because I was now 40....duh.... His reply was 'why would you do that when it looks so nice?'. Why oh why indeed? Made me think of my own stereotypes and what I perceived as appropriate behaviour for my 'age'. Yep, old school again. Bottom line is.....if it still looks good and it makes YOU feel good.....leave it! If not, cut till your hearts content and help keep the hairdressers in business! After all, long hair women who don't dye or perm their hair do not make them money.

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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Are intelligent guys a turn off? Posted: 3/21/2007 6:54:05 PM
I can see that I still have not figured out this 'quote' thing.......the first part of my message above is a quote from a previous writer......not me. Just giving credit where credit is due.

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Are intelligent guys a turn off? Posted: 3/21/2007 6:51:51 PM
[I'm very attracted to intelligence. Unfortunately, a majority of the men I've met lately who are my intellectual equals or better, have suffered from severe social anxieties. I know that this is par for the course with many who fall into the category of nerd/geek but I'm finding that its reach extends much further. Intelligence is a powerful attraction but social retardation is a road block.] And therein lies the key.....I can't see an intelligent person NOT wanting to be with another intelligent person, however, just because they are both intelligent, that does not mean that they have ANYTHING in commen other then that. Work on your humour, and learn how to 'listen'.....and approach the date as an opportunity to make a new 'friend' first. This will take the pressure off and you will more likely be yourself enough to bring out the best in your personality.

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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Best Friends... or Best Lovers Posted: 8/6/2006 9:28:38 AM
[If you are a girl, I'd say converting a friendship to a lover is fairly good. There's a good chance that the guy found you attractive at the start but gave up at some point (you already had a boyfriend, etc) and just ended up becoming good friends.] I think you hit it bang on here. Wake up ladies! As women, we really do fall for the idea that men can be 'just friends'. Which they can be EVENTUALLY, but likely it was a guy originally trying for us but then figured that friendship was better then nothing once he realized that you were not showing any romantic interests. However, HE is likely to stay always 'close' in case he can manipulate the relationship over the years to one of something more. My husband was my 'best buddy' for two years. He stayed real close, and was soooo sympathetic to me about my first marriage and would always agree with me that my first husband didn't treat me right, that I should find a better man, etc. So when I did leave who was there hovering? When I asked him what was up he told me that he had always loved me right from the start and had always wanted to marry me. Seeing as he was 'my best guy friend in all the world' I figured that it made sense that it would be the best base for a beautiful marriage. WRONG! We are still married, but no longer friends, let alone best friends.

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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Best Friend Stabbed my Back! Top This! Posted: 8/6/2006 9:01:17 AM
But thats the WHOLE point.....I DID tell them to break up. Since they had already broken up on themselves perhaps a dozen times before in the last two years, I said 'next time make it stick'. But everyone is right. This chick has 'major' issues that I obviously ignored because I loved her and accepted her for who she was, and when she felt her world falling apart instead of listening to the advice of others she began to plan her revenge. I can see it now. So much easier to not to grow up and face reality by blaming everyone else for your problems. When I told my 19 year old what happened, he even said 'Mom, what the hell?? Is she 16 or what??? Grow up.' I guess that is it in a nutshell.

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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Best Friend Stabbed my Back! Top This! Posted: 8/3/2006 6:10:05 PM
The reason she says it was my fault was because once I found out that both were alchoholics (really, I had not idea, just thought they were heavy pariters), I told them BOTH that this was no life and that they made for a mean couple. All they did was drink, then call each other really nasty things, and make everyone around them miserable. And they are not even living together. I said come on, if it is THIS bad now, what is it going to be like when you actually ARE married and living together?? It took a lot of guts for me to say that to them, but I figured I owed them both to be open and honest about things. No hiding my head in the sand as it was only going to get worse. So, I guess she figured it was justified. Thanks for the help guys.

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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Best Friend Stabbed my Back! Top This! Posted: 8/3/2006 5:33:36 PM
After 27 years of being my 'very best friend in all the world'....my 'best buddy' decided that it was MY fault that my brother and her broke up! So what is the worst that she could do?? She called up my husband (who is already suffering because his father is lying in the hospital and dying), and told him all the dirt on me from over the years! AND, then told him I had filed for divorce which is completely not true!! I couldn't believe it! They almost had to call the ambulance on him at work as he couldn't breath. And then she called up people and said 'remember when blah, blah, blah'. Crap, why hurt them now, leave that shit in the past where it belongs!! OK, so I never said I was Mother Theresa, but come on....even enemies don't do things like that (or do they?)......even now I won't dish the dirt on her (though my brother begs me to), 'cause I would never do that!! Or am I just being a friggin doormat?? People say let it go, but she was the one person I could always count on and she me! In fact, the first time we EVER got into a fight was over my brother and that was last March....so that makes it decades before we even disagreed on anything. Well, I guess that is what you call 'burning your bridges', but I see this more like nuking the state. My husband is worried that I will 'forgive and forget', but even if I could I would never want a person like that back in my life. Has ANYONE experienced such a thing, or is this just the domain of the middle aged (she is 42 with 4 kids), jealous spinster looking to blame the world instead of looking inward? So back to the drawing board. . Contact Broadcasting Statement Snipped - Please see the Acceptable Use & Posting Rules Forum Moderator

carpediemhamilton

Joined: 3/23/2006

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After a Tubal Ligation Posted: 5/28/2006 7:34:01 PM
Well, I had mine about 8 years ago....problem is they forgot to tell me that it is not just a simple 'snip snip' procedure...but major surgery. Either that or I wasn't listening - just concentrating on 'getting it down once and for all'. Anyways, I thought I was going to die when the gas that they fill you up with travels to your shoulder and sits there! Phoned the hospital in a panic only to find out it is completely normal. Then I did the dumbest thing...went back to work the next day....well that was a mistake. Ended up delaying my recovery and bled pretty bad after that. Take it seriously, and book off a week if you can. If you end up not needing the time, then you can always go into work, but there is nothing worse then having to call into work and whine to them that your 'operation' didn't go well....and there is nothing more pleasant then explaining to your male boss exactly what the 'operation problem' is when they ask - oh, and they alwaaaayyysss do - ugh. Laura

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