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singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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If you could know how and when you're going to die..would you want to? Posted: 11/14/2006 5:41:34 PM
I have thought of this a lot since the passing of my sister. I believe we will know when the time comes. A lot of people are talking about getting things in order, and telling our loved ones things and writing notes. Why not do that now? Write the ones you love a letter and put it away, put names on things and make sure you have a will written. My sister did not, and her husband has not even given the things to her kids that were meant to be given to them. Please make sure to write it all down so that you too wont have to go through such selfishness as one huge loving family has had to do. People change when terrible things happen. Make sure you tell your loved ones everyday that you love them. For those little words will last in each others hearts forever.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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I met the perfect man on this site. Posted: 10/3/2006 9:56:27 AM
Good for you OP. I am happy to know that someone else met someone they are really into on here as well. I have, and I am not perfect, nor is he, but we are a perfect match for each other. I am doing things very differently as I have in the past. Meaning, I am looking at things from all angles this time, rather than jump into anything. I don't want to hurt, nor do I want to hurt him. He is a wonderful person. We have both been out of bad situations for a long time, and we know what we want. I hope that you too are happy and that things will always go your way. Don't listen to all the negative people. They are just that, maybe that is why they are still single, I have no idea. I wish you the best and hope that the two of you last a lifetime. Good luck!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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This Site Works! Posted: 9/28/2006 11:29:10 AM
Thank you very much, and I will be sure to keep you updated. Yes, I know that others have gone through this same thing, and I hope that things work out for them as well. Good luck to you and thanks for the kind words!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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This Site Works! Posted: 9/27/2006 10:11:54 PM
I just want to let everyone who is looking for someone wonderful to come into their life, then stay here!!! I have found the most loving and wonderful man that has ever walked the face of the earth. He is all that I have been looking for and more. It has been just over a month since we have been together, but we click so well. If this can happen to me, it can happen to anyone. Keep your heads up!! I wish everyone on here the best of luck and happy fishing!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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How do you know if you're over him/her? Posted: 8/29/2006 11:22:02 AM
I so agree with you Jarbarian!!! I questioned that thought when my ex moved out. I didn't know the "true" reason until right after the divorce was final. I had a clue, but you don't want to believe. Yes, he cheated. I guess the first month or so, I was afraid of being alone, cried all the time, which I do not cry hardly ever. Then one day, I woke up and I was so tired of feeling the way I was. Like the poor me thing. I decided to put him out of my feelings and think of him as someone who hurt me. I mean in a big way too. Twelve years of being with a person, you think you know them so well, and only to find out that they are much different then you thought. Anyway, when I started to think of him as someone who could take my heart out, stomp on it and crush it and hand it back, you tend to get a bit pissed off. I no longer thought of getting back with him (of course we all think that and think we can change things....blah blah blah), I no longer wanted to run into him, didn't care and I was strong. If and when I ran into him, I was positive and felt like I had the world on my shoulder, because I did. He got to see the person I was and he was jealous of that. You will wake up one day, and think...What is it that he has that others don't? The answer is NOTHING.....you will realize that you crave what we can't have, and you will come to bouts with it and be happy. It is like starting a new life. Once you can do this, the world is your dance floor.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Is this a sign? Posted: 8/28/2006 9:42:41 PM
If you have forgotten and written him a letter, how is it that you have written him letters and letters and called him and called him for nothing? I guess I don't understand that part. Is this the father of your baby? If it is, maybe the meet will be for what is to come in the childs life. Every child deserves and Mother and a Father. After I read your post, I did go and read your profile. JUST BE VERY CAREFUL!! If is meant to be, then it will be. You cannot force someone to fall in love with you, and you cannot make a person stand up to being a parent if they don't want to. I think you should be in a very safe place when you do see each other. Just keep your chin up and I wish the best for the both of you, and your baby.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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best ways to get even with your ex Posted: 8/25/2006 6:45:04 PM
The best way is to kill them with kindness and to be the best you can be without them. Trust me, never look back, and never never let them know that you are thinking about them. They will be looking for revenge, but don't act on it, you will be the better person. It isn't worth the time or hassle of any of it. My ex cheated on me, and left after 10 in a half years of marriage, and I didn't let him once know how much he hurt me or anything. When I would see him, I would smile and ask him how he was. I will admit, on upon packing up his things, because he was too slow on doing it, I did swab the toilet with his toothbrush and his comb, but never told him about it. I have always wondered though, if his "mistress" ever thought he had shit for breath.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Divorce Question Posted: 8/23/2006 12:57:02 PM
I don't think it really matters, I mean if the divorce is final and all. As far as children being baggage, what a thing to say. THEY ARE NOT BAGGAGE. They are Lil' human beings that did not ask to be born. They are what really makes the heart tick and they are the meaning of true love. Meaning, the love you get from them is real, no games or anything. What a lonely life someone has to lead with an attitude like that. As far as I am concerned, someone with children would be a better choice for me. I think of them as the added bow to the entire "package" of a new relationship.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Your best prank on someone...hehehe Posted: 8/19/2006 8:36:00 PM
I used to work at a corner grocery store when I was young. It was my first job and it was always full of regulars. Well, one day it was soooo slow, so I was looking around for something to do, I saw the super glue and thought..hmmmm. I saw on T.V once where this person glued a quarter to the floor, and everyone that passed fought a bit with it, so I did it. It was so freaking funny. There were some swinging doors where there was a break room, and it was right inside the front door, you could see in between the doors a bit, and with the light out in the room, nobody could see back there. It was the funniest thing ever...watching people trying to pick it up, then take their gloves off (winter mind you) and try it....even go as far as trying to kick it. I was the cashier, so I would come out of the doors when someone was up at the register. I put on a straight face and would help them, most never said anything about it, but omg...the laughter. When closing time came, I couldn't get the quarter off the floor, so I left it there. Next day I came in for my shift, the quarter was gone, but omg....you talk about almost peeing yourself. Ahhhhh memories....thanks for the laughs.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Do i look that BAD Posted: 8/19/2006 7:41:21 PM
NO, you don't look that bad. I have no idea why humans act as we do. I do know that things take time. Wouldn't you think something was wrong if someone wanted to date you right as you put your profile up? I mean in a perfect world...maybe. I do know that finding a person to date is a hard job. You will get far more "uninterested" replies than interested ones. Just put your self-esteem on full blast, and if you are unhappy with something, change it. That is all the advice that I can come up with at this time. I too don't get a lot of e-mail, but I don't care.....keeps me on my toes, and everyone that does reply, I do answer. Keep that in mind...the ones that you get e-mail from, if you are interested or not, reply nicely to them, for one cannot have too many friends. I wish you well and hope that you do find what it is you are looking for. Happiness is something that everyone deserves. STAY POSITIVE!!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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what do we realy want in a person that we are looking for Posted: 8/18/2006 6:59:00 PM
My thoughts exactly psssssssst. Great post!!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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How important is it to have a sense of humour in a relationship? Posted: 8/17/2006 7:00:56 PM
I believe that a sense of humor is one of the must's that a person should have. Well, that is what I look for anyway. Who wants to be with someone that takes everything way too seriously? I mean yes, there are times for seriousness, but there must be a lot of room for laughter. I by no means mean that it is at someone else's expense. If a person cannot laugh at or with someone, then frankly, they are not what I am looking for.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Has this happened to anyone else? Posted: 8/16/2006 10:51:59 AM
Yes, I have noticed this too. It's bassackwards too if you ask me, cuz every single "wink" I get is from someone way far away.....for instance lots from Saudi. They are no means in my "area" let alone in my interests at all. I find it funny when you set up an account somewhere, you pick specifics, and the mail you get is from worlds away. I went into some of those sites that I did belong to long long ago and cannot find my profile anywhere, but I get "winks" and "kisses"....Go figure. I closed those profiles long ago, but somewhere, I must be lost in cyber-space.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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just tired of looking Posted: 8/14/2006 7:29:23 PM
Why don't you just try an asian dating site then? They have them out there, that way you won't have to worry about anyone contacting you but them. It really is simple. You don't want to be here, then don't. DUH

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 8/12/2006 10:37:27 AM
I too have lost a loved one that was VERY close to me as I her. My dear sister just over a year ago. She was ill for a short while, but they could never find out what was wrong with her. I forget the "proper" name of what it is called, but her small intestine wrapped around her large and poisioned her. She was at my house and I was getting her ready to take her back to the hospital and she stood up and asked if I could get her a chair. When I ran and got the chair, I set it down and helped her to it, and she passed on the way down to sit. I tried all I could to help save her life. I felt so alone and it was like I was just a shell of a body standing there while the paramedics were on their way. She was six days into her 44th year of life, and NEVER EVER was this expected by anyone. I know how I felt, the loss of a best friend, sister, a person to argue with over STUPID little things (we did that too, for we were sisters),a mother figure and most of all a mother to my dear dear nieces and nephews. I had to tell her kids whom I am very close to, and the shock and non-belief that came from others was just terrible. There is no sure way to cope, believe me, I wish there was a book on how to deal with something like that, but there isnt. You go through so many mixed emotions and periods of being so upset at god (I did ). There is no explaination to it at all, and that is what is so hard to understand. The "Why" of it all. I am not sure what you mean about starting a new life without them. You have to go on, and it is the toughest thing there is do. I don't believe that you do start a new life, you just have to keep going and deal with them not being in your life. Today, I still find myself wanting to pick the phone up and call her, then realize what happened. The tears for me I doubt will ever stop. They do get less and less, but there are somethings that will just touch your heart and you will just cry and not know why. Please know that you are not alone, and that things will get easier, I dont believe I will ever get over the look in her eyes when she passed. I do know however that I loved her with my entire heart and I still do. My deepest sympathy to you and hope that you too will find a way that will help ease your pain.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Very confused and hurt! Posted: 8/11/2006 2:42:54 PM
I don't know about most people, but I would think if someone said that to me, they plan on moving out of state....I would take that as something like they didnt want to continue seeing me. I mean honestly...How would you take it if he were to say something like that to you? If he has been cheated on, I can see why he is kind of stand offish to a point. That is something that takes a long time to get over. If he says he loves you and cares about you very much, then maybe he does....I know from being cheated on that it brings up feelings and alerts that you never would have thought that you had. That is always on the back of your mind, like you are being set up to be let down again. I do understand what you are saying to a point, but as far as you feeling like you are getting your finger slammed in a door, that is your own fault...you told him something that he will have on his mind for a long time...he will be thinking "when" is she gonna drop the bomb and do it? Were you planning on inviting him to go with you? I guess I don't understand as much as some do, but I do know what I would feel about someone saying something like that to me. I do wish you the very best, and hope that things work out for the both of you. It does take two and lots and lots of committment to work things out.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Do I deserve a second chance? Posted: 8/9/2006 5:27:44 PM
Wow....Wish they made men like you in my part of the world.... But seriously....are you sure that she was out with a few of her friends? If she was the one that did tell you to keep calling until you got her, then I do not see any reason for her to get all defensive. I would be honored to have someone call just to say goodnight. I don't know what conversation you did have with her on the phone, but it sounds like she is stringing you along. Maybe I am wrong, but to me it sounds like it. I would just try to get ahold of her like someone else mentioned like a greeting or something in the mail. That way, she will know that you thought of her other than on the computer or phone. I sure wish that she comes around. You sound like you are really into her, and maybe this is something that will pass. My deepest wishes to you.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Birthday gift after a six month relationship Posted: 8/9/2006 5:15:48 PM
Most women I know (including myself) don't really care for expensive gifts. It is the thought that goes into something. Maybe he can leave a poem he wrote for her on her pillow while they are away, or something else that comes straight from the heart. Those are the things that mean more to a woman than anything that can be purchased.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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I guess its time to be serious for a change Posted: 8/9/2006 9:20:06 AM
If her coming back into your life makes you feel lonely and depressed, then leave her in the past. I mean why do that to yourself? Her telling you what he does for her and all isn't right. I mean I would talk that as a slap in the face. Yes, it is nice to get along with ex's if you must, being children and all most importantly, but just for the sake of talking to them is hard. You have to move past it unless you are willing to tell her what you still feel. Most often than not, if you do tell her how you still feel, she may just know in her mind that she has you pegged, and that she caan keep telling you things and still continue to hurt you. Cheating on someone is a HUGE thing, she did it. My ex did that to me after 10 years of marriage, and let me tell you, I know how it hurts, but I would never ever be able to trust a person after that. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you do not have anything. The are ex's for a reason. I wish you well on getting over this. Remember, there is someone out there that will treat you wonderfully and love you with their entire heart.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Let T-Rex review your profile...I'll be gentle..hehehe Posted: 8/8/2006 6:17:08 PM
Thanks....I will see what I can do

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Let T-Rex review your profile...I'll be gentle..hehehe Posted: 8/8/2006 3:10:46 PM
Ok, I have never had my profile checked. Please do mine and see what you can do with it. Thanks!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Have You Ever? Posted: 8/8/2006 2:45:06 PM
I don't look back unless it is something that could or would determine very rocky roads for the relationship. Now there are just some things that are not tolerable. For the most part, I believe that a person can recover (mind you in jail for sex offences or something) but, that is not my cup of tea, that would always be on my mind, and I would not feel comfortable with someone like that.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Shallow people. Posted: 8/8/2006 2:39:13 PM
I am not shallow by any means, but I do have a very low tolerance for stupidity. That can come in many ways. Be it a "Perfect 10" person, which I wouldn't want, because in all reality, we ALL have a flaw or two somewhere. I do know some people who THINK they are "perfect" but....no need to tell them, society does that everyday.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Why Do Beautiful Women Sometimes Marry Unattractive Men? Posted: 8/8/2006 12:07:06 PM
That is like asking why is the sky blue? Beauty comes in all aspects of a person, not just looks. What you or I find Beautiful/handsome may not be what others think. There are nice looking people everywhere, but some are not beautiful when they open their mouths to speak. On the other hand, someone that maybe less attractive, may have the kindest and nicest things to say when they speak. I think it is all in a personal opinion myself. But, then again, that is just my opinion.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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some insight please Posted: 8/6/2006 7:54:20 PM
Sad as it seems, He did answer you in his way. He doesn't want to deal with it, and to me I would take that as a sign and move on. Yes, it is easy to say that, but....don't keep beating yourself up. It is like running your head into a brick wall...eventually you will stop because it hurts. Take it as you are both finished, and move on to bigger fish that do not want the games.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Taking Back What You Gave Away!!!! Posted: 8/6/2006 9:19:42 AM
Very Powerful! I don't understand how you can say that someone else defines who you are. But, then again, if it were a very controlling relationship, then I could see that. It is good to read something so positive. as far as taking back what is yours. Stand up for yourself and don't look back. Strive to be what you want, and do not let others stand in your path. Good for you! Good luck, and stay positive!!!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Loud partners Posted: 8/5/2006 8:08:32 PM
The first time I had sex with my Ex-husband, he scared the hell outta me. I mean it was really nice, then all of the sudden...he made some type of screaming noise, like he was being hurt...like someone was twisting a finger back or something...Totally caught me off guard. After that, I had something close by to shove in his mouth and muffle the noise before neighbors came over to see what was wrong.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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OK< a challenge on the weight thing.... Posted: 8/5/2006 8:01:18 PM
Ok 10buck2..being on the "fluffy" side of the exterior....Maybe with your little willy you have to have someone that is thin so that you can fit. Yes, that was rude. How did that feel? I bet not too good. Before you judge others, in manners that you know nothing about.....Think before you type.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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If Italian need not apply Posted: 8/5/2006 5:25:07 PM
Mmmmmmmmmm Italians! She sure is going to miss out. I dated an italian after my divorce for just over a year. He was awesome. His work took him out of town. Now, I am not going to say the entire race is like him, but of course I am not racist. He meant a lot to me and we talk whenever we get the chance. HMmmmm saying something like "no italians need to reply" is like saying "anyone with brown hair doesn't need to reply" I tell ya, it takes all kinds to make the world go around. At least she can rest at night knowing that her mailbox will not fill up. I cant stand people that are that stuck on stupid.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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What would you have done? Posted: 8/5/2006 5:16:20 PM
Wow....I think my mother would even slap me if I did something like that at my age. I mean come on....an outfit that he wore? In your pic you don't look like you are wearing anything special either. Maybe he was trying to be like the "FONZ". My gawd. I cannot believe you are 40 and act like this. You didn't want to hurt his feelings so you went to dinner, mind you, when you were there, you had your daughter call you and get you out of it. (like what you did was so original...NOT). Why not be the grown up that you should be and talk to the poor guy and tell him that you did what you did because you were a coward. It really gets me that people are on here trying to meet people, but they do and find one flaw in them and drop them like they are a piece of trash. I hope one day that you get what is coming to you. Turn about is fair play.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Married but looking .. a dilemma Posted: 8/5/2006 5:02:44 PM
GoodDay...I couldn't have said it better myself. You are so right on your points and once a cheater , you are always pegged as one. I just love the blame thing myself. What a bunch of crap he is. I mean to do that to your spouse and mostly to his children! PATHETIC!! My question is, if it were so good and you were so happy with your "other woman" then where is she now? Now that you are single and you had everything so perfect with her? Was it not fun for her anymore since you got divorced? I hope all his so called friends and all know what a pansy he is. When it gets tough, rather than working things out, he runs to the other side of the fence. Without a word to anyone I am sure....HIDING things rather than taking them on like a real man. He doesn't think about the feelings of others (only his own between his legs). I hope every woman that is in his area on this site reads this and will find out what a nasty man he is.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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What do you say instead of cussing Posted: 8/5/2006 7:43:33 AM
My favorites are: Mylanta! Jiminey Christmas flubber gaskets dag nabbit

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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I WANT MY EX TO LEAVE ME ALONE Posted: 8/4/2006 5:39:54 PM
Good lord, you have to come on to the net to get some advice? Tell him to leave you the hell alone or get ahold of the cops first, and if that doesn't do it, contact an attorney. Simple as that. If he is one that does not make you happy, TELL HIM. Someone has to tell me only once, and I am gone. Sounds like a high school game to me. I didn't even play those games then. Grow up, get your boots out and kick him to the curb for good. Then get on with your life. Simple as that.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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No women want controlling men? Posted: 8/4/2006 3:15:15 PM
HHHHHmmmmmmmm.....Wow, all that and you are just looking for an intimate encounter?? I suggest since you have to be discreet, that you talk it over with your wife. It seems that you like to think that you are in control. Maybe you outta be the demanding one and tell her how it is gonna be. Then, come back here and let us know how it went!!!! LMFAO....get a life. It is people like you that make me sick. Since you love to hang out and love to be in love, try it first with the one you are with...like your wife!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Meeting jerks.......... Posted: 8/2/2006 9:48:20 AM
I said it before, and I will say it again "You can lose weight, but you can't lose ugly." That is attitude or whatever. I so cannot stand shallow people. My ex was the same way. My weight issue started and it was medical. I see him here and there while out doing something, and boy, he so did me a favor. I hope that you can just smile and when you do go to his church, sit there and give your best smile. Kill him with kindness then walk away. Good luck to you and I hope you find happiness.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Females: What is more attractive --> Men showing or NOT showing Emotion?????? Posted: 8/1/2006 4:57:10 PM
I would rather have a guy that shows emotion rather than not. I want him to be able to show me that he knows how to feel. That is very important to a lot of women I know. I dont want a "cry baby", but someone who can shed a tear or two when the need arises. It does take a real man to cry.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Little white lies....fibs....exagerations....can they break your relationship???? Posted: 7/31/2006 8:03:28 PM
Yes, I believe that a lie is a lie no matter what. First off, if they are lying to you about lets say.....umm...how many beers they had or something when they were out with the boys, they lie, then they can see how easy it is a do it again in a bigger form. I am totally up front and I would like the person whom I get involved with to be also.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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buying a girl a drink Posted: 7/30/2006 1:21:01 PM
I have had that done to me, someone buying me a drink (up at the bar and watching the bartender make it) and they go on their way. Then, I too will send one over to them. I think it is nice. If it makes a person smile and a nod or so, then it was worth it. I think some people read too much into some things at times. A simple drink is what it is. Smile and say thank-you.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Can true love really turn to hate? Posted: 7/30/2006 1:14:26 PM
I really don't think I could actually hate someone I have ever loved. I mean yes, I can hate something they did, but there was something there in the beginning to make me love them. Would I go back with those people? NO. I know they are capable of hurting me again. I do believe that there are hurtful feelings towards them, but hate? Nope. Hating someone is like wishing something bad on them or something of the sort. I wouldn't wish for that on them, I would rather they just go on and leave me alone so that they can get on with their lives and me mine.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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Married but looking .. a dilemma Posted: 7/29/2006 11:50:57 AM
Let me ask you this OP...What if the shoe was on the other foot? I mean what if it were your spouse on a internet chat line asking the same question? First off, to answer your questions....Yes it is possible for them to not find out for the time being, but eventually, they will find out. Second, Is it morally right? LOL...too funny. No not if you are in a committed relationship period. Doesn't a committed relationship mean exclusive? That is what it has always meant to me. If you want to find that feeling in the pit of your stomach of young love, then do something about it and change what is going on with your relationship. You can recapture those magical moments if you want to bad enough and if you work on it. You are being very selfish to want what you have plus someone on the back burner. There is nothing exciting about ripping another person's hear out to me. That is what you will be doing. Take the plunge if you want to, but at least be grown up enough to get out of the relationship you are in first. If you do have an "affair", I hope to hell that you will be eternally damned. Being a person who got divorced for this very reason....Cheated on, It sure doesn't feel great! Yes, you displaying this on the internet says.....EASY all over it.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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I had a realtionship that meant the world and I cheated Posted: 7/28/2006 9:18:30 PM
Good! Glad that you feel like crap!!! My ex-husband did that to me after 10 years of marriage. Yes, he did feel like crap too, but getting drunk and/or stoned is just a damned excuse! It is amazing if you are in a so called relationship, that you need to talk, well what in the hell are we women there for? Like you couldnt find a way home? BULL...call her...duh! Who cares if you were in an arguement. Getting a loved one home safely is more important! Either that or WALK...I so hate to hear excuses for someone out screwing around......Think with the head on your shoulders! Be a man and take what is coming to you! I hope she stays clear of you. Once a cheat, always a cheat!!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

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SINGLE DADS Posted: 7/28/2006 6:46:31 PM
Single Father's Rock!! They are more devoted to "people" than most of the single men...(I said most, and that is what I myself have learned through experience). Thumbs up to ya dad's! But,...because this seems to be a HUGE problem for me in dating in general. I have adopted a little boy. Now, he is the best thing that has ever come into my life. I was divorced when I adopted him, and find that a lot of men run when they find that out. I don't get it. I now know what the single "parents" go through when trying to find someone you click with and date. Are they just assuming that I am looking for a father for him? Because I can assure you I am not.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 477 (view)

I caught my date peeing in the shower!! Posted: 7/28/2006 4:45:04 PM
LMFAO.....This is way too funny of a thread. I was in a bit of a "pissy" (no pun intended) mood until I read this tread. Talking about pissing in the shower? Well....do ya drink water? Fish fornicate in water! God knows who else does. This has got to be the funniest thread ever. About the soap...too damned funny....ever hear of shower gel? Thanks for the laughs...I really needed them.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

How Do I get her to break up with me? Posted: 7/27/2006 6:52:21 PM
Oh for the love of god!!! If she is making your kids' home a place that is not up to your standards healthwise, then what in the hell are you waiting for??????? Self esteem? Sounds like you got yourself a winner there. It is quite simple though....just say something like this..."Look, you are a drunk and you are making my home as well as my childrens a less than healthy place for us to live. I do not agree on some of the things you are doing, and you turn into a drunken sailor when you drink. This is not going to work out for me." Or something of the nature. It just gets me when a grown man is on an internet site asking for help when their children are being harmed. Get your boot ready to KICK HER TO THE CURB!!!

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

How many messages a day do u get on average? Posted: 7/27/2006 5:55:12 PM
HHHmmmm at this point, I am like..what is an e-mail?

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

WHEN IS IT TO SOON TO HEAR THE WORDS I LOVE YOU Posted: 7/26/2006 7:23:12 PM
To me....I don't know when it is too soon, but when you cannot stand to be away from that person for more than a few days....constantly feeling something tugging at your heart and constantly having them on your mind I mean night and day. You know it when you cannot stand to say goodnight to that person and want them to wake up with you every single day. When you feel your life is so complete with that person. (yeah, I know...time to wake up...I said it once before too...) a girl can dream though.....

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

Possibly Married TWICE???!!! Posted: 7/26/2006 3:10:20 PM
I do plan on being in a long term relationship with him. Other than this we are doin great . Lots of love and trust. He very readily open and honest and has never seemed secretive at all. I am usually a good judge of character and can pick up on this stuff with my friends boyfriends. HMmmmmmmmm to me it sounds like the "trust" factor really isn't what you said it to be. If you trust someone, you wouldn't come on here and ask about something, and say you trust him. If I were in your position, I would ask him first. That is the thing about trust. What is he going to think if he ever gets on this site and reads the posts? I don't get it, but then again it is JMO.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

dyin inside due to seperation, PLEASE ANYONE HELP Posted: 7/25/2006 3:07:50 PM
Wow! I was as shocked at reading your profile after your post. I am not going to repeat what others have already wrote, what I am going to say is.....I feel so sorry for your child. Kids don't ask to be born. Usually in a marriage they are made with a lot of love. In this case, I have no idea. What I will say is this, what are you going to tell your daughter years from now when she asked why you and her daddy aren't together, and what brought on something to sad that you had to get a divorce? Something like: "Well honey, Mommy loved daddy, but she wasn't pleased by him, so I went and slept with girls too, while your daddy stayed home to take care of you (or someone took care of her), and daddy got sick of it and went and slept with someone else that he could please all around?" PLEASE!! Too many people do not take the marriage vows like they are meant. I do not believe that sleeping with a woman is not cheating!! It is cheating no matter what when you are with "a different person other than the one you are married to." I don't feel sorry for you. I don't care what the ones that feel sorry for you feel like. Maybe they were never cheated on. Who knows...but one thing is, you have your child to deal with. That should be your number one concern. What you need to do is be a good mother and raise her with some morals. I sure hope that she gets someone in her life that will be somewhat of a good role model for her.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 112 (view)

YOU CAN GO NOW Posted: 7/20/2006 6:33:11 PM
Honestly, I would leave the first time. Then I would seriously think why he gets upset when it is something I want to talk about. Communication is a two way street. Then, what I would do is tell him that you don't appreciate how he acted. I am sure there are things that I wouldn't really care to discuss at times, but putting it on the back burner would not be a way to solve it. You have to come to a nutural ground, if that cannot happen, then I would not want to be in the situation. Of course, I would have to write him back with this information on the reply I would be giving him to the email he sent me. Sounds to me that you are in a situation that you don't want to be in, or he. I am not sure what the arguement was about, but that shouldn't matter. What is important to you should be to him as well. That is if you love each other. I would think twice about this relationship. Honestly, for things won't get better if it is not dealt with before you invest anymore time into it.

singleinks

Joined: 3/24/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

SO unbelievably pissed off!!! Posted: 7/19/2006 7:59:49 PM
WOW!!! ~OP~ I rather like your profile. I know what you mean about the e-mail thing. I like t0 think that when I read these threads, that I can imagine myself sitting with the person to whom I am speaking about (to). I can see myself sitting and having a coffee or something with you and having a grand chat. I also like to look at a profile and look at the things that a person is looking for and not take it to heart. Someone who writes about what they don't want in their profile, and makes it rather lengthy, tells me that they think they are much better than others, well...ya know what they say.....Opinions are like butt holes....everybody has one. To me as well as some others that I have spoken to, forums are for opinions and not judgements. Assuming that a person thinks a person can change things with just a pair of contacts or weights for someone else is NOT changing the person as a whole. Keep your great attitude towards bitter posters. You handled that better than I would have, and my kudos to you. That is a very attractive trait in a person, and that is what is important. That my friend, makes you more attractive than anything. Looks fade, and if someone doesn't like me for simply the way I look, then move the hell on, for there are many others out in the pond that will take you for who you are. NO MATTER WHAT!!! A pretty face sure doesn't make a pretty person, and you can see from one of the above posters. I hope you find someone that will love you for who you are. Keep on fishing!!! P.s Too bad there are many of miles between us, you are the kind of person that I would like to get to know.

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