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WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS? Posted: 7/27/2009 9:38:08 AM
Anyone can marry(and half of them divorce!) and have kids(and end up a single parent!). It's harder to ignore society's traditions and peer pressure (all your friends get tied down) and go your own path. Be proud and ignore the people who are jealous of your freedom.

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Situps/crunches or run to get abs? Posted: 7/27/2009 9:09:55 AM
I'm hooked on hanging leg raises. I've done too many situps in my life that I think I'll ban them forever. Now my gut sticks out a little with 10% body fat. I guess I overdid it?

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A nice tasting Protein Shake? Posted: 7/27/2009 9:02:41 AM
I've had the Nitrean and while it is the best quality powder, I found the taste too metalic. I'm puzzled how so many people think it tastes great, I must have gotten a bad batch 3 times in a row. I found Atlargenutrition's chocolate Maximus to taste better than Nitrean. Even Opticen tasted better. Best tasting in my limited experience is BSN's Syntha-6 series.

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Trying to get HEALTHY anyone got any pointers.... Posted: 7/27/2009 7:58:17 AM
Also if you must sleep after you eat, I have read that sleeping on the left side is most favorable to keep contents in the stomach, due to gravity and the way we're piped. :)

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Trying to get HEALTHY anyone got any pointers.... Posted: 7/27/2009 7:46:36 AM
I work nights but don't go to bed right after work. So I eat what I plan just like a day-shifter would after work. If that's all you're eating before you crash that's fine. I used to eat oatmeal or cottage cheese before bed when I was bulking, just because I needed to in order to increase my daily kcal intake and have constant protein. The eat before bed isn't the rule for everyone, there are exceptions. Look at your daily total, not so much what you do and when.

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Trying to get HEALTHY anyone got any pointers.... Posted: 7/25/2009 11:47:39 PM
Lots of good tips already been posted above. Here's what I do: Fish oil capsuls, twice a day, get the ones with the good coating (no fish aftertaste). Vitamins, pick a good vitaman that suits your needs. Take one with food everyday. Other stuff I do: Flax seed powder, I sprinkle this on my cereal. Baby spinach, I use this instead of lettuce for my sandwiches, its tasty! Natural Peanut Butter, (skippy natural is best imo) No partially hydrogenated oils, which is really trans fat! Count your calories and slowly reduce them per week. Don't starve yourself, there are foods high in volume and low in calories (fruits veggies) that are filling. Try to have protein every meal, you want to keep muscle as you lose weight. Don't try to do everything at once, start small! Don't rely on the scale 100%, go by how you feel and how your clothes fit too! Muscle weighs more than fat. Don't get discouraged if the scale doesn't change, your body is still changing. Change the cardio up and keep it interesting and fun.

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Why isn't there a Gamer thread!? BRING ON THE VIDEOGAMES! Posted: 7/11/2009 2:13:26 PM
I've been playing Team Fortress 2, nomnomnom! Also play X3: Terran Conflict. And if my friends invite me, I'll play Left 4 Dead. Waiting for Diablo 3, FF13.

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The Star's Love Posted: 7/11/2009 4:16:01 AM
The infinitely near nothing, packed so tight. In a blinding flash, God showed his might. Slow motion violence, reversal of time's start. When did love, first take its part? Before might, it was unending. No time, too mindbending. Seven days, seven millenia, does it matter? Some critiques we are, idiotic chatter. Where did it originate, in all its girth? Unconditional love, from the Earth's earth. One way relationship, Romeo and Juliet. Terran says, "mostly down the toilet" Soap scum we are, on windows bland. One grain, in the mountain of sand. Be thankful of the air you breathe. It was made from love, heavenly unsheathed.

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Write Your Own Rejection Letter Posted: 7/4/2009 11:20:32 PM
(un)read/deleted should be plenty of clue for you Me, I'll always reply because I welcome the banter, sometimes very funny conversations come out of it, lol.

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Bitch take this dick................. Posted: 7/4/2009 11:12:37 PM
I love your message history #605, some funny reading! I can understand women who like to hear it but that's only because they are switched on to a different "mode" at the time. Every woman has their own "mode" and they can vary widely. Finding them all is like collecting "poke"amon, just kidding. :)

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Any other grammar nazis around these parts? Posted: 7/4/2009 11:00:13 PM
deos it raelyl mttaer sicne you can pobralby raed tihs aynawy? just kidding. I agree, I wish people will spend time communicating properly. I would take them more seriously and it does look more polite. It's akin to copying gangsta moves, once the kids see it, it spreads like wildfire and is unstoppable! Degeneration Z!

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Docked Ships Posted: 7/4/2009 10:03:08 PM
What I meant is that I wrote that in about 15minutes, mostly from trying to get a rhyme going. I don't think I could put into words what I really want to say. I got so much bottled up, it'd be best expressed with a kiss.

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Rest Pause sets, Posted: 7/4/2009 11:55:24 AM
So the question to ask is are you going for strength or size? Powerlifter or Bodybuilder?

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Making assumptions about girls over 30 Posted: 7/4/2009 11:03:08 AM
Assume = make an "ass" out of "u" and "me" Perfect thread for this example. :) People assume that a girl over 30 will settle because that is what most women seek. That's just how it works. I get asked when I'm going to find a girlfriend all the time, and yeah it can get annoying but when it comes from family I know they care about me and want to show concern. I think people are basing psychology too much on this question and ignoring the fact that people will put you into the group of conformity, women who settle. I don't know why people try to pick your brain apart when everyone is different and we will never pin you over the internet of all places. Nor should you care, your life is different and you'll continue to raise brows and stand out. You should be smart enough that when guys make that assumption about you that they really are asking a question. How you answer it can be a deciding factor on whether the guy would want to further persue you, nevermind that he wants the same thing. Relax and don't get so uptight about it.

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Docked Ships Posted: 7/3/2009 9:54:13 PM
Passing by, I turn admiring the view, I look thinking back, I get the yearn of all the adventures I've took. "She handled it well," I said. Over the waters clear and blue even when night rendered sight dead reliable she was, tried and true. Docked ships, promising bows mourning turns to hope "To love again," I made a vow. loneliness a sin to cope. Docked ships, caressing the waves take me with you, if you'll have me Journey abroad, count away the days Do you have the heart, to match my key? (just pulled out of *ss, lol)

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Why do you have sex? Posted: 7/3/2009 9:10:46 PM
It keeps the swelling down. :)

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Making assumptions about girls over 30 Posted: 7/3/2009 7:48:25 PM
Isn't it about time you start thinking of yourself as a woman, rather than a girl? I realise people have their own opinions of what makes a man a man and a woman a woman but that's rediculous. I find it cool to see a woman who ignores tradition and leads a life of adventure. I'm sure there are plenty of guys who would share in it. To each their own, I say!

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Thin Overweight Average Posted: 7/3/2009 3:43:56 PM
I find that women who are average or heavier(or even thinner) who want bigger males tend to be self conscious about their bodies and want someone bigger to feel secure and thus attracted to them. I've had a date like this where she was really tall and amazon built, not fat at all, sexy in fact. But she didn't feel comfortable around me being lighter than she was, so she dumped me. So it looks like it goes both ways. I think the thinner males have it worse than the slightly overweight females.

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Making that first contact. Posted: 7/3/2009 3:11:14 PM
This is also why it's important to fill out a healthy profile so that the opposite sex can find something to initiate contact with. I see so many profiles that are pretty weak and I can imagine that they get the "generic" emails often. IMO, short is not sweet in this case.

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Only allow messages from users within... Posted: 7/3/2009 12:58:42 PM
I'm on the other end of the spectrum, just look down and you'll see that I posted the exact same question an hour ago. lol, I do hope they put in more options. 25 75 120 200 500 then the 20000 In my case, I live in a town that is just outside the 75 mile mark of the biggest cities in Nebraska. Which carries more than half of the possible matches I could have had with this site. I'm willing to commute to those cities for a good match no problem. But I cannot contact anyone that picked 75miles over the 20,000.

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Has anyone else Posted: 7/3/2009 12:05:27 PM
Yeah, no doubt that will play into the psyche of everyone on whether to respond to messages, etc. Sabotaging subconscious ftw!

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Suggestion for distance filter and receiving msgs Posted: 7/3/2009 11:54:44 AM
Right now there are only options for 75 miles and 20000 miles, any chance to have anything in between those numbers? Often times I find profiles that are just outside the 75 mile mark and I can't help but wonder if they would have picked say 100-150 or even 200 miles if they had the option. This would especially help in the sparsely populated areas like Nebraska where we do need to broaden the scope more than usual. Thanks for such a great site. :)

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why pics with guys? Posted: 7/3/2009 12:57:29 AM
Same reason why the president kisses the babies. To show that he's good with kids and is family oriented. That's my guess anyway.

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FOR THE HORDE! Posted: 7/2/2009 6:56:05 PM
I quit long ago, I was on Cenarius server. I had a 70 human mage (Denz) and 70 dwarf warrior (Blurzerk). My guild was Afterlife, more known for its Everquest days on Mithaniel Marr server, which was my heyday as a monk at the time (Denzalo). I'd probably still be playing if it weren't my evening shift hours interfering with the raid times. I really miss the friends though. Now that I think of it, I'd probably still be a scrawny nerd if I still played, so I guess its good I don't play anymore. To the guy that suggested Eve Online, there's a single player version of that kind of game. X3-Terran Conflict, meant for serious and patient players. Steep learning curve but wonderful outerspace sandbox game! I still play Team Fortress 2 and sometimes Left 4 Dead, too.

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Morning sex, why is it so great?? Posted: 7/1/2009 10:01:29 PM
Cue Folgers commercial music! The best part of waking up, is exploding all over her cups!

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Over 30 -- What is your biggest turn on Posted: 7/1/2009 6:07:10 PM
Physical things are a close tie with... A woman who is assertive in all aspects of life wink A woman who knows how to use what she is given double wink A woman who never takes things for granted. A woman with an OPINION.

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Is a toothy smile really that important? Posted: 7/1/2009 5:46:36 PM
First and foremost, no guy should ever refer to his own lips as being "full". Thats deservant of an arse kicking at the next man meeting. Just because you read something on one womans profile, dont start taking it all personal, and think you have to create a thread asking about it. Well obviously there is more to being a man than semantics. Part of why I started this thread was because it really bothered me when my mother-in-law kept hollering at me to smile when she was taking pictures. I am smiling I told her, and while she's a nice lady if not a bit rash at times she just didn't understand. She's good at turning a good family moment to a rather uncomfortable one. Stereotypical mother in law, ftw. I didn't mean this thread to be about my smile, rather about why people think there are right and wrong smiles. People let their ideal mates they dreamed up cloud their judgement during their search, imo. Or they're just idiots. Take your pick. :)

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Do guys want feedback??? Posted: 7/1/2009 2:59:12 PM
Personally, I wouldn't have done it like he did. Did he seem nervous? Some men's brain don't function right if they meet a gal they really like. Best thing to do is be up front with him and act annoyed and see what he does. This way you give him a chance to show a better side of him AND educate that talking about Ex's does not work. Everyone wins, and it saves a lot of time. Do this before he leaves and sends you "miss yous" later. Happy

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Is a toothy smile really that important? Posted: 7/1/2009 2:03:06 PM
Thanks for replies, not really worried about it since my teeth are pretty straight and although full of fillings, they look fine. People who dismiss others in that way aren't worth the time anyway.

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What is the obsession with physical perfection? Posted: 7/1/2009 1:55:33 PM
Im not saying that men should continue in a relationship with a person they are not attracted too. And I dont think she should get a pass cause she has kids. However, she wasnt always a big girl and he was with her at her best and contributed to her worse. So why not instead of walking in different directions why not walk togeather (on the the treadmill, the park, around the blocketc..)? Because they need counseling if they are ever going to get to being a happy couple again. The man needs to grow up and support her so she can work on her weight so she can regain her self image again. Weight loss should never be about impressing someone else, it should be something you do for yourself and having a happy mate is a great side effect!

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Is a toothy smile really that important? Posted: 7/1/2009 1:13:39 PM
I respect and understand why most of you would want someone with good teeth, I know I would. But some of us are cursed with a smile that doesn't quite break open the lips enough to show teeth. The reason for my concern is I've just read a profile of a gal who had a "list" of things if you said yes to, she said not to message her. One of those things were if you don't bare teeth in your smiles. I'm hoping this is an isolated case of someone who was being clueless, but since I'm afflicted with full lips I'm wondering if my lack of a seemingly trivial detail really does hold more bearing than I had originally thought in first impressions when it comes to women checking out profiles. In my case, toothy smiles have to be forced, creating a fake looking smile. So either way, I lose. Any thoughts?

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Any chance for onsite IM service? Posted: 7/1/2009 9:22:30 AM
Ah, that's a shame. I suppose such a tool would bog the server down. But it was one of the main reasons I donated for my "shiny gold star".

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Any chance for onsite IM service? Posted: 6/30/2009 7:21:23 PM
Hey, serious member here. Any chance for IM coming back? Not everyone uses the same 3rd party IM program and it sure is a lot more efficient than communicating via inbox. Currently trying to chat with a gal that doesn't stick around after checking email and sending one, doh! lol. If not that's ok, really like the site, just need more utility for people who live in low populated areas. (don't all of the sites?)

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For the Men Over 30 Posted: 6/30/2009 3:22:46 AM
"Just seems strange that there are some great men out there and can't understand why they are single" - sweetnsassy34 (original poster) Why are they single, cause they are usually getting passed over for the "cool, edgy hot guy who knows all the right things to say and do" And yet I constantly, and I mean constantly hear women QQ'ing about how they can never find a nice guy and all the men they date are aholes. Because nice guys don't know all the right things to say, or do. We aren't edgy or cool. We are real. The guys who do know all the right things to say and do are players, the proverbial aholes. They have plenty of experience at sweeping women off their feet, using them and tossing them aside. Next time, just give the nerd a chance. It's not his job to wow you, or impress you, or make you fall in love with him. It is his job to be himself, to be honest, and to respect you. ^^^^this. My story: I could be called tall dark and handsome but I was a scrawny bugger the bigger part of my life (until I got off my butt and gained muscle) and thusly I felt insecure that I wasn't "manly" enough for the type of women I desired. Compound it with the fact I was the different kid in school who got picked on, you end up with really shy guy really wanting to find love but chokes up when he meets any attractive candidates. Well, not so much anymore. I've found I was fretting over nothing. My excuse these days is my location, my night job and that I'm just picky and cautious. And the important fact is that I want, not need, a relationship. Ya, my esteem is up there and I know I'm a good catch because I grew up knowing what it feels like to be hurt. I refuse to be one of "them".

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Are men on here really interested in marriage Posted: 6/30/2009 2:40:15 AM
^^^ I won't claim to have the end-all answer or I wouldn't be here, that much is obvious. I don't think we're less religious, just more lazy about our relationships. I was simply refering to Christianity as a tool for a better marriage. It can work if you're into that kind of thing. Whether we as a nation chose to use any tools properly is entirely a different matter. We need tools to remain civilized, so that we may reflect back in time, like the 50s. Maybe I'm just old fashioned in that I feel that divorce should be something to be avoided instead of "a way out" hence it served well when it was taboo, it forced a higher percentage of people to work things through. Today divorce is just no big deal, half the people are doing it. So why even marry if it doesn't matter to half of us? It could very well be our culture and society simply is not improving in this area. What should we do to improve? Would the biggest improvement come from being more attentive to our kid's development?

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Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about? Posted: 6/29/2009 10:56:04 PM
Easy answer is no. I think about a lot of things. The most enjoying thing to think about is sex, obviously. You're just wording the question wrong for anything concrete to come of this thread. I don't want to call it just "sex" though, there's so much more to it than that tiny word. I think about feeling the closeness of a woman, the warmth, the light and wet brushing of lips, the sucking of lips and the flicking of tongues. The wandering hands. It's heaven in the making. It's a wonderful thing to daydream about. It's a great way to pass the time. It's a stress reliever, God knows we are so much more stressful these days.

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And so God said........... Posted: 6/29/2009 10:43:21 PM
Interesting topic! My random thoughts: Love is a form of human suffering. Love hurts. It hurts because our ideals of what love is stems from our mind and yet it is our emotions that ultimately drive it. Imbalance on either end can sabotage your intentions. People who have better control seem to be more capable of having steady and rewarding relationships. Communication serves as tweakers in this balance. Say your SO tells you that he/she has cancer, your emotions would shoot up in shock at first, but in keeping balance, your mind should reel in and regain composure because your role just turned into support for your spouse. If you fail to do this, you or your spouse will suffer, depending which side of the spectrum dominates. Sorry, for the blabble, continue!

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Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers? Posted: 6/29/2009 8:47:26 PM
I feel it is because of the unnatural order of things. When 2 people marry, the spouses are always first and any following kids are second. Before you disagree, look it up. When divorce occurs, the order of roles are broken and the man becomes second because the kid(s) were there before the man. It's really quite simple. It's not the kids' fault, it's the hierarchy of our society. This is why divorce was considered taboo years ago, not just because God was against it, but because it created this problem of unnatural hierarchy. It is one of our curses of being the "intelligent" mammals in the animal kingdom. We can survive with one parent, whereas animals need one to guard their young while the other hunts for food. This places us in a situation of choice. It becomes a battle between choice and human nature. It's in our nature to fend for one's self, but when the weak and the unprepared are presented with the easier way out, we take it. This is why you must make sure you are mature and damn sure you are in it for the long haul. And most importantly, are able to forgive and forget. We cannot let the primal portion take part in this decision, it must be made with our brains and not our emotions. This is why males tend to be more cautious than women, that's just how we are made. Nowadays in the age of instagratification, and rebelliousness and promiscuity and poor parenting, is it no wonder that dating sites are flooded with single mothers? (yes, I know, I'm not trying to stereotype, but I'm not always good with words) I don't know about you but I have too much self-esteem to be placed second. Thusly, for me, choosing to go long term with a single mother is akin to "settling" or flogging one's self. There is no real blame to be had after looking into all of this, women are nurturers and often to a fault. Males are often detached and also to a fault. Emotions are a primal thing and it only leads to chaos, but it can be very rewarding if you are able to control and channel it with maturity and reason.

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Why Are Men Over 30 Drama Shy? Posted: 6/29/2009 7:38:53 PM
I don't know if it is limited to just guys over 30, but I'll throw in some reasons for you. Because we don't want to come home after a hard day's work to a nagging b*tch. Because we'd like to focus on what can change, not on the past. Because we want a peaceful and chemically balanced partner. Because we want to have fun with you but your whining and moaning gets in the way. Because we're with you to start fresh on a bold new adventure. Because we don't have drama/baggage, is it wrong to want the same?

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Are men on here really interested in marriage Posted: 6/29/2009 7:21:28 PM
Well, I feel like the reason why everyone is up in arms about what marriage is about is because this isn't the 50's anymore nor the loving 60's. Society as a whole is degenerating and so is parenting and the resulting kids. Christianity is in a decline. Marriage originated from it or at least I thought. But I bet a big chunk of at least one of the parties in divorce aren't all that into church, etc. My interpretation of marriage was meant to symbolize two people joining into one. But most people these days are selfish and only care about what they want, not so much the desires of their spouse. If we stopped worrying about our own wants so much and comunicate better when our needs aren't being met (which the other party should definitely listen to, its part of being a spouse after all). Isn't that what marriage is all about, having someone care for you and you for him/her, two people into one? Obviously too many people's minds are worlds apart to EVER become one. No wonder divorce rate is so high.

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Plastic + Food + Heat = a health problem? Posted: 6/29/2009 11:10:23 AM
True, living is a health problem. You start dying the day you're born. LOL :D

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In honor of the dead lift. Posted: 6/29/2009 11:06:54 AM
It's one of those exercises that hits a lot more muscles than you think, it's great! It has helped me fill out my rump bigtime.

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How often do you visit the gym? Posted: 6/29/2009 10:59:50 AM
Never, I got my lil home gym. Thinking about joining a gym, though, just for the social aspect of it. Maybe I'll catch me a fish there?

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No-Xplode??? Posted: 6/29/2009 10:57:54 AM
I'll 2nd what has been said here, I got caught up in the supplement fad but I'm not going to waste my money anymore. But I find myself really like Nitrix because it works for me and provides the motivation to keep working out and keeps me looking good all day. Otherwise its all about the essentials Ironman said: protein, creatine, (glutamine and maybe BCAAs if your protein powder doesn't have it.)

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Long or Short rest periods inbetween sets? Posted: 6/29/2009 10:47:55 AM
I've always leaned on the long rest periods, but only because I started out really scrawny and wanted to do compounds and lift heavy. Went from 135 to 162lbs that way, about 25lbs muscle gain.

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Should expectations of optimal shape at 50+ differ from 45? Posted: 1/2/2009 4:03:33 PM
For leg lifts (ab work) most people start with no weights, you can try it with knees bent or for more bang you can keep legs straight and try to lift that way. The way I like to do it is hanging from a bar using your arms, then lifting the legs in front of you (take care not to use your hip flexors). Or you can try it from the floor lying on your back if you have no bar (arms on floor pressing down for support) but I don't like this as much because its hard to get the squeeze at the top when all the weight is gone from the legs being above you. Leg presses, if you don't want to go to the gym, I find that one legged squats are great even with just your body weight. It's as easy as grabbing a table and lowing yourself on one foot with the other leg out in front of you. Try to do at 8-10 reps. for 3 sets, if you can do more, find a backpack and load it up, or use dumbbells and do lunges. Good luck!

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Need help... really! Posted: 12/30/2008 10:56:41 AM
Ok I'm back, and no doubt you're beginning to become overwhelmed by the support and information! To make it a bit easier on you on your quest for knowledge (and knowledge is power for sure on this one!) I will post some links for you directly to some stickies (posts with tacks on them at the top of the list) on some powerful tips and info for you to arm yourself with as you press ahead into a better life. :) http://forums.johnstonefitness.com/forumdisplay.php?f=24 I should have said forums.johnstonefitness.com rather than www. in my prior post but it is the same place. Go ahead and browse the women's section and witness others on their own struggles. Great inspiration in there! Most importantly, is to not get overwhelmed. Start small and don't worry about doing it perfectly. Let your routine build over time as you learn. Take measurements and/or pictures before you start and then you'll know if you're making progress.

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When women state in their profile, seeks dating... Posted: 12/30/2008 10:27:01 AM
From a guy's perspective I believe that dating means to find a boy/girlfrield relationship with no intentions of settling down. Long term is for people who want to eventually settle down and marry. The downside of "Long Term" is that the expectations that it can wrongfully bring to the table before it even begins, that is why many use "Dating" instead. As a guy I will use Long Term because it is the truth, and it won't work against me like it may for women. Whether or not dating also includes exclusiveness depends on the couple, but I believe it can be either. This is why communication is so important. Dating - to go on dates and be friends or more than friends with no expectations of commitment. Commitment can change later once couple decides they want to move to long term. This is the safer place to start for people who don't want strings attached. This is commonly meant for busy and fast paced lifestyles and one can be dating more than one person at one time or have a different date each weekend, which is ok until a couple agrees on exclusiveness. This is great for people still learning about what they like in a mate, so they "play the field". Long Term - to also go on dates, to know one another and see if each other is compatible for something steady or for marriage. Each person knows what they want in a mate, so they do not need the revolving door of "dating". Dating periods may be longer and involve more of "hanging out" rather than strict entertainment. This is to foster an environment that is more realistic to the goals of the couple, which is long term relationship leading up to marriage. I was bored and pulled this out of my ass, so take the above with a shaker of salt. :)

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Should expectations of optimal shape at 50+ differ from 45? Posted: 12/30/2008 9:24:57 AM
I'd have to agree with Jumbie564. I'm still young at 32 but I believe muscles are key to keeping your figure. I'd pay special attention to core muscles (leg lifts) to eliminate the pooch, your back(seated rows) to keep you straight and of course your glutes(back extensions) to keep them lifted. Seems like your legs are good from running but if you want more curves, leg presses and curls. To keep the "wiggly arms" away, tricep work. You get the idea! Don't be afraid of packing on some muscles, they are great for keeping metabolism up and burning more calories at rest. And of course, keeping everything in their place, lol.

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Need help... really! Posted: 12/30/2008 9:03:48 AM
Hi Catherine! I don't share the same problems as you but I have done a lot of research about fitness. I'm not going to pretend that I know everything about losing weight because I was one of those that needed to gain weight. But what I can do for you is point you to a better forum for support. A free and safe website devoted to everyday people like you and me. Please try out www.johnstonefitness.com and read up on the stickies under weight loss there, and post under the beginner forum the same question you posted here. You'll find the people there are very helpful and there are lots of female members there too! I've been a member there for over 2 years, my handle there is Denzalo. The best thing you can do is research and learn more about your situation. Something else you could do is talk to your doctor about it. It is always suggested to talk to your doctor before beginning any sort of fitness program, to assess your health and capabilities first. Personally, I don't believe in doing diets alone. Humans were meant to move around and today we don't. 47 is just a number, your real age could be lower. I wish you luck and thanks for asking for help. :)

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