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Joined: 3/25/2006

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She just disappeared!!! Posted: 3/28/2007 4:25:41 PM
Women disappearing happens quite regularly. When they find out you're a nice guy, they want nothing to do with you. It's a scumbag's world. Or that girl who disappeared on you could have been a scammer. Take friendliness with a grain of salt. There's always an agenda behind it.

Joined: 3/25/2006

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The disappearing act? Posted: 3/11/2007 10:26:48 AM
Women also disappear on guys just to let you know. I've had it happen a bunch of times to me. But about your situation, you should have gotten to know him better before sleeping with him. 99% of guys on this and all websites are looking to get laid. Be more careful and get to know the guy longer before you get intimate with him. That's all this clown wanted from you.

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Have you felt like this?...losing someone you never had is more painful then one can imagine... Posted: 3/1/2007 6:28:01 AM
I know exactly what you're talking about. I've been played on the internet more times than a guitar. I am way too trusting of women and I seem to always fall for their affection only to get betrayed and hurt. Based on some of these answers to your post, most people don't have a clue what we're going through. I kept on searching and searching until I found a wonderful woman who I've known for 3 months. Things are going great. Time will heal your pain. I guarantee that. And you will find someone if you keep looking. Good luck!

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I think I met my soulmate but .... Posted: 2/24/2007 9:42:41 AM
Keep in touch with him because it's obvious you can't break away from each other. Why should you? It's so hard meeting the right person. When you do, don't let them go. You may never find another. Take it from a guy who gets played alot on the internet by girls who say they love me only to let me down. Hang in there!

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i feel destroyed an havent approuched him yet Posted: 2/22/2007 9:15:36 PM
Why did you have kids with this scumbag?

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The Most Difficult Thing You've Ever Had To Do....... Posted: 2/21/2007 5:58:35 AM
I have gone through some rough times too with being dumped by women who show so much affection and then with no warning, they dump me for no reason or some loser they met. This after being a perfect gentleman to them. Their loss. Feel lucky to have met a great guy who wasn't playing games with you. Time does heal pain but in your case, there is no deadline to your decision. You can always change your mind. Why put yourself through this if you love the guy? It's so hard finding the right person. When you do find them, you have to hold on to them. You might be feeling so lousy because deep down, you regret your decision. Think it over some more. In my opinion, you'll be happier with him than without him. Hang in there.

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how do u get over this.... Posted: 2/20/2007 8:43:23 PM
When are you pretty girls going to stop picking these scumbags as mates?!?

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I am so hurt Posted: 2/10/2007 11:43:53 AM
Hi. I've been there and it does hurt really bad. I guarantee you that time will heal your broken heart! I went through an affectionate long distance relationship in the fall. She told me in every email that she loved me and she wouldn't trade me for anything. We even talked on the phone on weekends. This went on for about 3 months. Until one day, she emailed me saying she loves someone else and she didn't want to lead me on! Just like that, it was over. No warning at all. You deserve better than what you went through. Things happen for a reason. You'll meet someone much better. You have to keep on trying. Even if you don't meet someone right away, time will heal your hurt. I kept searching after being betrayed and ended up finding an incredibly wonderful girl who I've known for alittle over 2 months. Please try to move on. You'll only be more miserable if you hang on to a deadend situation. Hang in there, things will get better from here.

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Scams. Nigerians, Russians ETC. Posted: 2/4/2007 3:06:37 PM
I've encountered quite a few russian/nigerian scammers on other sites but only 1 on POF. Whenever a woman writes me and says I'm handsome, I know she's a scammer! Haha!!!

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How could he just walk away... Posted: 12/30/2006 9:46:58 AM
About 2 months ago, I was in a long distance relationship with a woman who said she loved me in every email. She also said things like,"I wouldn't trade you for anything" and "I love you forever and always." We talked on the phone as well. After 3 months of this affection, out of nowhere she emailed me saying it's best that we don't talk anymore. She found someone else she loves and she didn't want to lead me on! Just like that! So I was devastated for about a week and I turned my sadness to anger and got over her through time doing its healing. I guarantee you, through time you'll get over this clown. Sometimes people like playing games and not really meaning the affection they show. It's like they want to get the other person's reaction to certain things they say to them. Cheer up. There's someone much better for you out there. Patience is a virtue. Hang in there.

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Shall i just walk away from this? Posted: 12/17/2006 10:53:21 AM
My opinion for what it's worth is to give her another chance. Unless she cheated on you, you should support her and she might realize what a nice guy you are. But I know nice guys finish last these days with girls. But if you can't get her out of your mind, stay with her. Show her how much you care at this time of need. She might deep inside really need you and not want to admit it. She could always change and come around.

Joined: 3/25/2006

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Moving on from a Break Up Posted: 12/5/2006 3:20:36 PM
I got dumped a few weeks ago and did not see it coming at all. We were together for about 5 months. Lots of affection back and forth. I saw the rest of my life with this woman. Then one day out of nowhere she says she loves someone else and it's best we don't talk anymore. Just like that! So I let her go without begging her to stay with me. Why bother? I was very depressed for awhile but then I asked myself why am I depressed over this cruel witch? To stay with her would have meant I wouldn't have trusted her. People said to me the same things. 'It wasn't meant to be' and 'Time will heal your wound.' Both are so true. I am feeling alot better these days and am ready to replace that loser with someone even better. So hang in there. I believe that everything in life happens for a reason. You'll see.

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Dumped by the perfect guy Posted: 12/3/2006 8:32:19 PM
I have been through this a few times this year and it does suck. My most recent situation is similar to yours. Lots of love back and forth for 3 months with this girl and then out of nowhere she cruelly said she loves someone else and that it's best we don't talk anymore! 2 things that I guarantee you: You are too good for this clown and time will defenitely heal your hurting. I was depressed for days where I couldn't concentrate at work or eat and sleep. But the passing of time has put this rotten girl out of my mind and the same will happen for you. Hang in there.

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Why do men do the diappearing act? Posted: 12/2/2006 6:32:04 AM
Oh yeah! I've had at least 5 women this year alone disappear on me and I did nothing to deserve it! I do nothing but treat a lady with respect and love and they still disappear on me. Based on what I see, women these days want to be with losers and abusers. They are so attracted to guys like that. I personally know 4 women I work with who are with abusers and they stay in the relationship! Can any of you women answer why you go for average looking guys that end up being abusive and you stay with them?

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Is It A Turnoff To Compliment A Woman Too Much? Posted: 11/26/2006 10:07:18 AM
I have been on these types of websites for about a year now and I noticed a pattern. Everytime I meet a girl I really like, I'll go a bit overboard with my compliments of her. Stuff like,"You're very pretty" or "You have a great personality" or if she's a cute girl, I'll title my emails "Hey Cutie Pie" etc.. Most of these women have disappeared on me and I'm still in touch as friends with a few of them. *Does it turn you ladies off when a guy compliments you too much?

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Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 11/22/2006 4:04:28 PM
I agree with you! There are plenty of scumbags working in churches doing bad stuff on the side. Girls should judge guys by their personalities and not their religious beliefs. I am willing to be more into religion for this girl. She is worth it. It's wrong to say that I have no shot with her. But I respect everyone's opinions and thank you all for your responses!

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Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 11/21/2006 3:41:40 PM
I did mention why I was down on religion in one of my first emails to her. She has emailed me 1-3 times a day for a month now. And she leads a busy life. I did tell her I'd start going to church again once in awhile and that made her happy. She said,"Maybe you'll get something out of it you weren't expecting." Now what could she have meant by that?

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Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 11/20/2006 8:30:19 PM
She is a Christian.

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Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 11/18/2006 2:38:55 PM
This women used exactly that 'equally yoked' statement. "If we are not equally yoked, I couldn't date you, says the Bible." That is her exact quote. I did remind her that there are plenty of scumbags who are very religious working in the churches molesting kids, cheating on their wives etc.. By the way, this woman's ex fiance was a drug addict who left her for drugs! She said she dated him because she believed in giving people second chances. Is that strange or is it me? I plan on remaining friends and leaving it at that.

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Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 11/16/2006 8:38:47 PM
I have been in constant touch with a woman who I really like. She emails me 2-3 times a day. She seems to like me too. She is very religious and I made the mistake of telling her I'm down on religion right now because of a streak of bad luck. She responded by saying she can't date me but we can stay friends. Is she wrong by saying that? How can I get her to date me without becoming a priest?

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Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women? Posted: 7/6/2006 8:08:56 AM
Isn't that the truth! That would make a good post in itself. "Why are great looking girls always choosing below average guys?"

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Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women? Posted: 7/6/2006 7:39:57 AM
It works both ways. I always see very pretty girls with these way below average looking guys.

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Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?... Posted: 6/19/2006 9:50:18 PM
I've had women write to me that they love my profile and we'd be great together, send me photos, passionate poems, sign the emails "your future wife" or "Hugs and kisses" and then I never hear from them again. This has happened about 6 times in the last 2 months. You feel like you finally found your soulmate and they drop you after they show lots of interest. The best thing to do is to move on and don't email them asking what happened. Show them you don't care and the'll be the one's who look like the fool, not you. Hang in there, time always heals the hurt. Take it from someone who feels like a pin cushion!

Joined: 3/25/2006

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Another Affectionate Women Disappears! Posted: 6/10/2006 4:14:14 PM
Can anybody tell me why some women contact you and show lots of affection for numerous emails and then after awhile they vanish and don't write back? This has happened a half dozen times to me in the last 2 months. They know what I look like and they all say they like my profile and think we'd be great together. Any women out there show lots of affection in emails and actually mean it?

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Is Early Affection In Emails A Bad Thing? Posted: 6/5/2006 4:00:32 PM
I'm so glad it worked out for you. It gives me some hope. I think I might be falling for this women. She's been sending me affectionate poems now about how her life was depressing until I came into it. She's also a deeply religious person.

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Is Early Affection In Emails A Bad Thing? Posted: 6/5/2006 3:58:01 PM
It just bugs me that this is about the 5th time in the last 2 months that I've been contacted by a super affectionate women only to be either nearly scammed or the women vanishing. I just want to make friends. Why is this always happening to me? I'm pretty sensitive too and I do get alittle depressed although I know I shouldn't.

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Is Early Affection In Emails A Bad Thing? Posted: 6/5/2006 3:55:31 PM
My drumkit is a CB 700. Thanks for the compliment.

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Is Early Affection In Emails A Bad Thing? Posted: 6/5/2006 3:54:31 PM
This women started the affection about the third email. Saying things like "I'd love for us to meet" or "I look so forward to your emails each day." Everyone of her emails ends with "With Love And Kisses, Jane." Lately, she's been sending me very affectionate poems with real mushy type of stuff in them. Things like "I was lost before you came into my life" etc.. And she's been signing off the emails recently with "Your future wife, Jane" Is that alittle strange? She's also deeply religious and getting over a boyfriend who cheated on her.

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Is Early Affection In Emails A Bad Thing? Posted: 6/4/2006 7:30:21 PM
I've had women in the recent past, after only acouple of emails, get a bit too affectionate saying stuff like "We'd be good together" or "You're the one for me" etc.. Most of them vanish after that or they end up trying to scam me wanting money. Is early affection ever a good thing? Are there any guys or gals who have positive stories about this or is it always bad news?

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