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wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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How am I supposed to react? Honestly. Posted: 11/27/2009 9:01:28 PM
Sounds more like normal teenager stuff to me....been there done that , a loooooong time ago. Don't react just be!

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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for all alone today Posted: 11/27/2009 11:03:42 AM
yeah pooks but let me ask you this..do the ones that irritate you love you???? irritation I can handle...hell, at some point we all get irritated...even the best of loves!

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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for all alone today Posted: 11/26/2009 10:37:15 AM
Folks! a little pensive today yes, sad? nooooo....good god, is this what people tend to think when someone makes a post about thoughts? Ok, get this...I'm doin pretty good, yeah, went through a breakup 5 months ago, I'll live....I'm not ready to jump off a cliff (yet)...but there are some real unhappy people out there...they could use a boost...I thought it would be a nice idea....funny how some people react to that...oh well, DON'T EAT TOO MUCH TODAY! TURKEYS!!!!!

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Is This a Good Reason For a Husband to Leave? Posted: 11/26/2009 7:28:14 AM
when you marry someone, they're family becomes your family and you do just as much to help as you can, you also take the good with the bad...if you don't? you're a selfish sob....no excuse for him to leave...but be glad he did....you picked a looser.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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trying not to be bitter Posted: 11/26/2009 7:21:44 AM
don't even think of the m word before the age of 25! period, since you are young, listen to people older with more experiance in such matters (even if we are screwed up).. enjoy your loves, you will have many...and some broken hearts and yours will be broken too....all part of life, and you have a lot of life ahead of you....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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for all alone today Posted: 11/26/2009 6:15:31 AM
well we sit here, alone...wanting love...waiting for the holidays to be over...so we can go back to work to forget that we are alone....today, and christmas day....send an email to someone you will never meet (maybe you will) don't pick the handsomest, or the most beautiful...say hi (everyone likes to get mail when you are alone). we're not alone, there's a lot of us in the same boat....then go about doing what you have to do. me? I'm gonna trim the trees in my back yard today. and I'm thankfull I have a backyard a good job and I'm not broke ...yet! Happy thanksgiving!

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/26/2009 6:02:02 AM
me? I look to see how she feels about my feelings...I want to make her happy, secure....and i would expect the same.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Which is what? Posted: 11/26/2009 5:52:55 AM
If you call him and he does not call back....pretty much your answer.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 11/26/2009 5:09:14 AM
the reason he is still looking online is because while yes, he may have some feelings for you and like you, and maybe to an extent love you (small amount), as you stated, he lives over an hour and a half away....the whole thing of having someone is to be there with them...not far away. the reason long distance does not work. Some might say thats not that far, it is! Would you rather not have someone you could call up and ask to come over on a moments notice? If you want, keep seeing him when you get the chance, keep your profile up....keep looking around....who knows, maybe he will turn around, chances are not though.....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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LTRs and boredom versus boring Posted: 11/24/2009 3:09:03 PM
what do you do? life can be boreing sometimes...it's not all about excitement and fun I always found the most fun i had was working side by side with the one you love to be the most rewarding...doing things together...acomplishing something together...then you both get to sit back and feel good because you both did it.....TOGETHER....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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boyfriend constantly talks about ex Posted: 11/24/2009 2:44:48 PM
ahhh, the old "move on" routine....so? one thinks he's stroking his ego? then if thats the case, then YOU should be the one stroking his ego! Although yes, speaking of one's ex can be a bit anoying to the other and make you raise questions, speak to him about it...don't TELL him to stop, ask him why he's so hung up on the ex subject. I just love how a lot on here seem to think the answer to every little thing is to move on! No wonder nobody can make a go of things...they're too busy "moving on"...

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Why do you think some of the people act different in relationships? Posted: 11/24/2009 2:30:07 PM
Well the way i see it is we all have some type of issues, be it whatever.. the s o gets to see the real person, no fronts...and i guess we think they will accept us for us..good with the bad thing... such is not always the case.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Are you looking for that special trates? Posted: 11/24/2009 5:45:52 AM
hmmm...traits? no unless you want a whole bunch of people who are damaged and on they're guard...this place is full of them...myself included...everyone wants but who are not willing to just go for it...."because I've been hurt before" "and I refuse to let that happen again"...those are the traits on here....the rest? who knows. ya just never know whats going to happen tomorrow.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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talk to me before you judge me Posted: 11/23/2009 8:13:29 PM
you know bub...if you likem...you got em! BUT! not all are so pleased with them..and i hate to tell you this but you're gonna find out anyways, you are in a small percentage..no matter how many tat shows you go to and see all the ones out there..take a walk down the street? compare tats to no tats...lotta no tats! So now you have them, live with it and don't be surprised if you find you are shunned more than welcomed in the genral world.. people do judge you by appearence..

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Trust issues Posted: 11/23/2009 5:44:23 PM
no job?? he's a moocher, don't dare let him move in...a little lie I could get by with...hey, I was in beech grove years ago seeing a girl named janice o'hair...know her? also raced with the late kenny irwin, he drove with our team a few times...ok, back to subject....the guy is a looser....best forget him.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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love to nothing? Posted: 11/23/2009 4:01:04 PM
some of us just want to talk online...about problems, life in genral, this that...get ideas..just because you're online does not mean you're meeting someone or even looking for someone....women get on much easier than men

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Kicking the habit Posted: 11/23/2009 3:53:12 PM
man, forgetting the old habbits...they were pretty strong....plus the fact that I just loved to be around her...I miss that routine we had, the footsies we played in bed...just watching tv together...5 months now....still find it hard. I wish it were easy...but, just keep pluggin along...I work a lot now.....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Would you cheat on SO for alot of money? Posted: 11/23/2009 12:44:45 PM
what a bunch of bunk...maybe if a spaceman came down and it was to save the world, well ok....other than that...forget it

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 12:43:00 PM
keep trying...you have a long history together...sometimes we don't make the right decisions...a few stupid moments and the rest of your life changes...ok, so he's a little wishy washy right now....does he love you? only you know this...a lot on here will say leave...yes, misery loves company....be optomistic! lotta nay sayers on here...yeah, I don't agree with landra a lot of times but she cut you some slack this time....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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PLEASE HELP!!!! Posted: 11/22/2009 12:26:13 PM
wll you could just keep playing your silly games and soon you will have your answer

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:54:37 AM
maybe thats just the way it goes...period! they call this a date site, but theres not always a date out there for you...I look at this as more of interactive tv....just something to do...maybe there is someone out there for you on here, maybe not. I have chatted with lots, dated a couple. just a way to kill time.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Wouldn't it be nice Posted: 11/21/2009 3:47:38 AM
what are you talking about?? this is the store...and you are cruzin up and down...looking to place your order...only thing is, its like sale day and everyone is trying to grab the same package....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ???? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:55:17 PM
well I'm pretty thick skinned so i can tolerate a lot! a lot of times i figure it to be growing pains, yes, things go wrong, feelings can be hurt...too many just want to walk away without realiseing that sometimes it comes to an end and what you wanted happens. starting over stinks!

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:50:48 PM
I thought I did, and her too...but due to a number of problems that we were never able to overcome...it did not last...its too bad...she was a wonderfull woman..

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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cant love or trust and feel like am losing my girl and myself Posted: 11/20/2009 4:44:33 PM
you're way to young to even know what true love is....just because you want to be the white knight and "save" this girl, you will only end up destroying yourself and she will be gone anyways...she admits to looking at other guys so that means you are not very high on her list...unless you are a desperate fool, you better walk away while you can...I'll bet at this time you don't make it a year.....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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tell my heart to let go Posted: 11/20/2009 3:13:36 PM
you never forget them...sometimes you can't even keep your mind off of them no matter how hard you try...you just go on. As they did...without you

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ???? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:47:07 AM
whats to quit if they are chaseing younger women, going bar hopping and leaving you home? AND bashing your friends???

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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aging moustache Posted: 11/20/2009 4:43:40 AM
my hair is still dark but the old moustache is turnin grey...along with the sidebruns...my sis said to dye it...thought about it and the answer is no...its me and you have to accept me and all my flaws...I'm 55 and look it, and don't mind.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Being committed to the relationship Posted: 11/20/2009 4:30:04 AM
being on this site does not have to mean you are looking for a date...sometimes its the forums...but she was and did....so! start to use the site for a date

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Meant to be alone Posted: 11/20/2009 4:05:41 AM
there is someone for everyone....till they really get to know you/them.....then you start over

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Is love enough? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:55:43 PM
hell, nowadays? love won't get you much....a word used but not felt...love lasts as long as things are peachy...

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Curious - mothers who don't have their kids Posted: 11/19/2009 4:22:19 PM
in 1979 I moved to my town here...I met a woman who had just gotten out of a bad relationship, she had children but the father got them....1, she could not afford to have them with her at the time and was spareing them a life of poverty. 2,, the children were where they grew up and knew and they're whole routine was there... we ended up being together for 20 years...she was a very good woman, and I have always said..I 'd never be where I am today if it were not for her help along the way...so there are all kinds of reasons...and people...look at each then decide.

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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What is the best way to handle it if a date passes gas? Posted: 11/19/2009 3:52:46 PM
I would think the best way to handle it would to laugh it off, then move or at least wave your arms around and go "peeee yew" ....at least it makes that first date one to remember and laugh about it when you're 65 and still together....

wonderinone

Joined: 9/6/2009

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why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/19/2009 3:38:07 PM
it's not that I need someone in my life....and i won't just take anyone...but I feel my life has more direction.....goals to set and meet...and the fact that what fun is it if there s nobody to share it all with....what good is it to have something if you can't share it with somone who says that they love you... sure, I could have a beautiful sportscar...but what makes it better if the one I love is there next to me...(too bad she won't let me put the hammer down).

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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How would you take this? Posted: 11/16/2009 3:18:33 AM
unbeliveable! already dramma online and you never even met?...you want him back and you never really had him? he's in another country? this is wierd...now i know you can be attracted to someone online..but to got to this extent over someone you've never met? then you were with someone a month ago?? I suggest you stop posting on here because what you write will scare off any man in his right mind if he reads this...this just spells desperate! and at only 29...sounds more like jr high romance.

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Am I doing the right thing? Posted: 11/16/2009 1:36:42 AM
what a bunch of flakes! all because of a game.. married? in a game and you're upset? get a real life! and if she met this guy in the park after you said you would not like it then that goes to show you where you stand with her..she does not care about your feelings...but then again....its JUST a game

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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why do men assume you want to talk sex ? Posted: 11/14/2009 3:29:08 PM
sex schmex...while I have been known to be a tad racy talking in the past...doing it is much better....I would venture to think its just some harmless kicks for some..there's worse things in the world.

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Do you feel you Do More in a relationship - Or does your SO do more for you? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:25:16 PM
post 17 thought wrong...I worked in her yard, took care of her car, ran errands, gave lavish gifts (I always give dimonds, the good ones)...helped her friends, painted in her home, fixed all the things that were wrong in her house...took her places, stained her deck, fixed her pool, she once started to help strip the wallpaper off a bathroom wall with me at my house...I had to finish myself....But, she did cook, and very well, and kept a comfy home...and was sexy to boot...she was a good woman...I never minded at all.....I never kept score till afterwards and if I could do it all over again I would....

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Do you feel you Do More in a relationship - Or does your SO do more for you? Posted: 11/13/2009 11:29:56 AM
joe hit it on the head...I never keep score because its all in a days works just getting by..but after the relationship is over, and reflecting....it seems I always did more of the work and being there for her than she did with me..but never minded because i have a lot more flexable schedule than most women have...so it was never anything of a big deal for me....but walking away and looking back, she always came out ahead. sour grapes i guess

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Friend can be an Embarrassment Posted: 11/13/2009 7:36:16 AM
invite them...it will give some something to talk about after the party on the way home...a party is a mix of all types...

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Astounded by the amt of perverts on here... Posted: 11/13/2009 7:07:32 AM
then i guess this means you're NOT gonna tell me what color undies you're wearing???

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Ditching a person that's Bad News Posted: 11/13/2009 7:03:26 AM
well, an eye opener to him would be if you said " everytime I hear your name brought up I hear nothing but bad news about you, I'm sorry but i don't want to associate with someone who has such a bad reputation, please don't contact me again" then he will know the word is out about him....(but I'm sure he already knows anyways)

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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When do I ask again, or do I? Posted: 11/12/2009 10:41:19 AM
ya know joe, I have read some of your past posts and you seemed to have it a little more together than what I read at this posting...look aside from "pining" for someone on the other side of the world...who may even be more attracted to you than you are to them...the real world is...in this day and age, what starts off as wonderfull love and the world looks great...after 6 months you really start to know someone...hence, 6 to a year "relationships"...only to find out its not working because of this or that...there's a lot of women i could go for on here but live only a hundred miles away...I'm not gonna go there..try to find someone a little closer to you, and geet your head out of the clouds...

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Living expenses and pride.. Posted: 11/12/2009 8:27:21 AM
I once had a woman who lived with me for awhile..when she moved in, all that i asked for was that she buy the food, and cleaning supplies...I did not think that was a lot...she griped about that soon afterwards claiming that i was getting over on her..well, we did not last long...I think its shamefull that a man would not want to help out..ask about it..if he pays then keeps paying then ok all is good...if he even balks once, giving any old excuse he can...out the door----freeloader!

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Sending RL Guys to Online Profile Posted: 11/12/2009 4:47:07 AM
whoa nappy!...pretty darn demanding profile..but hey, thats what you want then thats what you want! If I met someone in real life then there would be no reason to send them to my profile...I could tell them in person who and what i want...of course with such a demanding profile, i could see why someone might be kinda put off by it...maybe show a softer side of you???common now, do you really have to be so "in your face"? yep, been seeing you around the ole forum watering hole awhile now...

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/10/2009 2:29:16 PM
why should you be so interested? he's told you all he wants to tell you...so he has another profile online...does not sound like he's looking all that much since you are keeping tabs on him. He has stated he's willing to remain friends with you and friends only...do you think he's want to remain just friends if he knew you were doing these things??? you had stated you had trust issues and i think this pretty much sums it up...he's not dateing you yet you want to "prove" something. this is kinda scary!

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Do you ever think about how much time you have left? Posted: 11/9/2009 5:20:29 PM
I was kiddin....geez....lighten up! I want love too..no, I would not just go for anyone...but i also realise that we all have flaws...that "perfect" stuff is for the birds...and "that ment to be" crap...just another excuse for being picky...hmmm, three years and still on a singles site..I was on here awhile ago...came back a few months ago and will be leaving here soon....too many picky women who think prince charming really does exist...I'm in a real good mood tonight, but pretty darn jaded by a lot of people on here.

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Do you ever think about how much time you have left? Posted: 11/9/2009 3:10:57 PM
its not about jumping in with just anyone who comes along...but to lighten up some...the 30 year olds don't get it yet....but 55? whew...its going by faster and faster...I want to make memories with someone who will remember with me...at this age, we should show more tolerance, not focus on the bad stuff...you can have a week of great, 5 minutes of bad and what is brought up? the five minutes....forget the week...I see a lot of this with a lot of people...I think the ones who are claiming the stuff about knowing people living in quiet misery and WON'T settle no matter what...will be the ones alone in the end...and who knows, they just might be just as happy that way...nope, not me...I'm trying...trying to meet someone...(who can at least stand me for a period of time).

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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Do you ever think about how much time you have left? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:51:53 PM
I think about this a lot...and yes, women who do most of the breakups don't think about this...but since there are a ton of men out there, they just continue to think they're time will never come....do you know how many ex hotties are on here in they're early sixtys? who still look in the mirror and see the 40 year old yet the men are slowly thinning out? and sorry, you're not that hot anymore... this can go for guys too... my ex of 5 months ago...got the boob job, face lift, tuck and at 55, she is hot still....but its starting to show no matter what..we were an item for 18 months..i loved her...but she just focused on the negitive and forgot about all the positives we had....left me and replaced me in a few weeks.....hell, I'm 55...I want someone in my life now...not maybe...I want to be able to say remember when and she does...not "I did not know you then"......the clock is ticking...and if you think its easier the older you get....bull crap! so someday those picky women who are alone when they get sick...be glad you did not settle! god help you haveing an imperfect man sitting by your side worrying about you...

tony here

Joined: 9/6/2009

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women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time... Posted: 11/8/2009 6:48:10 AM
well I'm one of those lucky guys who has time...I make my own hours, no, I have a business I've owned for 30 years, but i worked my butt of for 20 so I'm afforded time...and i make myself available to her whenever she needs me...I also havce a home i take care of, i happen to take care of hers too...I love it! I know she works..and is tired when she gets home...I don't mind...what i do mind is if she places more energy on the things in her life more than me...it shows me where i stand...don't be upset if i rank you where you rank me....because what i do is importent to me, you'll just have to wait...all i have to do is find "her" now

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