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lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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when is the right time and reason for a Divorce? Posted: 9/7/2006 2:39:57 PM
Till death to us part - also includes in my books - emotional death...................

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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Stuttering! Posted: 8/30/2006 4:58:12 AM
Actually stuttering is not a normal developmental phenomonem - most children do not go through a period of stuttering.....of those children who do start to stutter many overcome it themselves - but we dont know to look at a child whern they are stuttering that they will stop. my advice would be to see a speech pathologist if it is continuing.there is an easy effective treatment for preschoolers that is not option for school aged children. certain factors will help a therapist decide timing of the treatment..........stuttering is not an emotional disorder , it is a mechanical disorder with a genetic basis it is believed - people who stutter are no more likely to have anxious personalities than people who do not stutter.people who stutter know exactly what they want to say but there is an interruption in the smooth flow of speech......they just look like they are rushing and stumbling their words too fast..............and yes for some children who have expressive language difficulties and word finding problems there sometimes can be difficulties distinguishing between these and stuttering in some cases..............also for further information stuttering especially when it starts is a cyclical disorder - this can be deceiving as you think it has gone away only to come back sometimes bigger and better than before..my advice - consult a speech pathologist and ask them if they are familiar with the Lidcombe programme for prescchool management of stuttering............

lovingit66

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Love at first or second glance??Who believes in it? Posted: 7/22/2006 12:57:45 AM
What about a "connection" at first sight??? Yes Yes Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lovingit66

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is inteligence a turn off? Posted: 7/21/2006 2:47:57 PM
oops just noticed my spelling error.........forgive me..........

lovingit66

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is inteligence a turn off? Posted: 7/21/2006 2:47:14 PM
Intelligence is made up of many skills - its how you learn and see and understand the world - it is made of verbal and nonverbal skills...................... A person who is not a good learner is probably going to be a poor speller..............but not all poor spellers are poor learners...............it may just be one area of wekaness and they may excel in other areas.........................

lovingit66

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is inteligence a turn off? Posted: 7/21/2006 5:35:26 AM
An intelligent person is one who is bright vital and stimulating- now who would be turned off by that??

lovingit66

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Do we stay in relationships for the security of having somebody?? Posted: 7/17/2006 4:29:55 PM
If you are thinking about whether you should stay or leave - Possibly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have found in the past that I stay (if I am thinking of leaving) until the negatives outweigh the positives.......and it looks lke things are not going to improve despite what energies have been devoted.................. I love lots of things about being single also .....................and when someone comes along who makes the benefits of a relationship outweigh the benefits of singledom then I will jump in...............

lovingit66

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So all my friends say that I'm evil Posted: 7/17/2006 4:19:41 PM
Do you like messy situations???? Do you like hurting people??? Do you live in such a small world that you cant find anybody else outside you tiny little circle??? DONT GO THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!To me its dirty and messy and what sort of trashy girl would do that to her friend???????????????She sounds gorgeous.................a real classy piece of work..................

lovingit66

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Friendship between men and woman Posted: 7/17/2006 4:06:19 PM
Its important to have male and female friends - its part of a healthy social network...............How do you relate to couples if you cannot be friends with the male partner????............I have numerous single male friends that I have absolutely no interest in sexually and I can guarantee that they feel the same about me.............I have found if there is sexual interest from one side or the other - the friendship just doesnt develop................

lovingit66

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Honesty Posted: 7/11/2006 2:22:12 PM
Some people are just better communicators then others...............

lovingit66

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Would You Go To A Wedding Dateless? Posted: 7/9/2006 1:36:17 AM
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!gotta love a good wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!dont need a date to enjoy yourself with friends and family.........................

lovingit66

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Is arguing healthy in a relationship Posted: 7/9/2006 1:34:27 AM
Not always agreeing is normal - how to handle the difference is what detemines healthy vs unhealthy..................negotiation and compromise are key ingredients...anger and accusation and raised voices are not healthy.neither is passive aggressive behaviour or withdrawal...........................

lovingit66

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Space Posted: 7/6/2006 5:52:12 PM
Somethings up - very hard to regain what you had..........better to walk away now.............

lovingit66

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Fellow ladies, would this gross you out, or is it just me? Posted: 7/6/2006 5:36:02 PM
What a classy guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lovingit66

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What do flowers on a first date mean? Posted: 7/6/2006 4:54:49 PM
Just my opinion - clearly other women are impressed by it - just to let you know some may feel slightly uncomfortable .................

lovingit66

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What do flowers on a first date mean? Posted: 7/6/2006 4:43:35 PM
Well to me flowers have meaning - on a first date the meaning is clear - lets get to know each other - why would someone bring flowers ???? Mind you after the first date - bring it on.........

lovingit66

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How soon after meeting a guy is acceptable to call? Posted: 7/6/2006 4:41:06 PM
Cal him Call him Call him - the day after or the second day............tell him what a lovely time you had and feel the vibe from there....................dont think strategy..............

lovingit66

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What do flowers on a first date mean? Posted: 7/6/2006 4:30:54 PM
I love flowers but I would be totally freaked out on a first date if flowers were part of the deal.................................too much pressure.....................

lovingit66

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Love is a battlefield Posted: 7/6/2006 3:57:58 PM
Sounds like you dont want him back so you have made the right choice.Once broken it is very hard to regain the "good" in a relationship - the bit that makes you feel contented and passionate and full of hope and love - just look forward to when you can feel that again............

lovingit66

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Circumsized or not circumsized Posted: 7/6/2006 3:53:33 PM
I cant believe this is still going on........................ther is NO PROBLEM with an UNCIRCUMCISED PENIS ........................and some of the comments made have been downright ill educated, judgemental and nasty................................

lovingit66

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Time or Money? Posted: 7/6/2006 3:42:16 PM
Personally I have no issues with a man achieving his goals - whether they be financial or career in nature by working long hours......I also have no problem with a man spending time on himself outside of work .......he can show me in many ways that I am a prioirity in a relationship or that he is keen if we are starting out............. Unless the woman is possessive or needy or the man is neglectful there should be no problemo

lovingit66

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Why don't you age? Posted: 6/29/2006 5:21:36 PM
Man I dont know - can someone tell me??? I think I aged 15 years since having my child four years ago........................I think I look avery bit my age............and Im too old to care now..............

lovingit66

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i love my 5 month old baby but i am so lonely Posted: 6/28/2006 5:35:12 PM
Having a young child is the hardest time in a womans life - regardless of whether you have a partner.............That just makes it worse for you............... It gets so much easier as they grow - things will get so much better for you as the months pass.................................. Just know you are ok...............and get out there with friends......................do things that you really find pleasure in that make you feel human again.................It is really hard and you are not the only person that feels this way but it doesnt last forever.............. Honestly

lovingit66

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women on this site are kidding themselves Posted: 6/28/2006 4:24:27 PM
Look at the context - where in the real world can you put down what you are looiking for - its the nature of POF profiles that gives this illusion................It allows people both male and female to specify what you think you want.I do not think a profile truly reflects what people are really like and how they express themselves out in the real world - its just playing ......................................but its interesting...................

lovingit66

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Its hard to give up on your 20's Posted: 6/28/2006 3:50:53 PM
Well...........I find the opposite - a lot of people in their 20's are desperately looking for "the one" to "settle down" with.....whereas most singles in their 30's plus have been there and done that and are looking to satisfy themselves and enjoy life............if somebody comes along that is compatible then thats ok but if not then thats also ok...................I find most of my friends in their twenties think their time is running out to find a partner.....................the thirties are a time of fun with confidence and maturity......... I dont think my life started really until my thirties - hope the forties continue to be as fulfilling............

lovingit66

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How many partners Posted: 6/17/2006 1:33:25 AM
How many and who I have been with is a really personal issue - men only ask if its a big issue for them and at my age - it just shouldnt be.......................

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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What ever happened to Love? Posted: 6/16/2006 11:26:31 PM
I think most people I know are looking for love - and all that goes with it.......only some I know are mad rooters and want to just shag anything that moves - these are usually those just out of relationships and/or those in relationships who just want the physical without complications...................Most people want more I think................

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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Unattractive? Posted: 6/15/2006 11:14:20 PM
sometimes its not looks - maybe its the delivery...................maybe its what you said and how it was said................ for example if Im out shopping and a man (even reallly really cute) walks up to me and says something really loud and smiles really loud and says something in my face........well I might look at hm in that way.......Now Im not saying you did that ... but do you get my drift????

lovingit66

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What does a man mean by taking things slow??? Posted: 6/15/2006 6:11:31 PM
I believe it means I like you and want to shag you - but I know you are more into me than I am and I am letting you know that I cant give you what you want.................

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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Circumsized or not circumsized Posted: 6/15/2006 3:28:22 PM
in australia most older men have them cut but younger than me and it began to be done less often - usually nowadays its only done to match the father. personally i just like uncut its like a big surprise so to speak- not that i have an issue with cut - its not all about the penis is it????...............speak to nurses who used to assist with babies circumcisions and they will tell you haw sad and distressing and painful it is for the baby...remmber it was only about 30 to 40 years ago people thought babies did not feel any pain......................

lovingit66

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is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all? Posted: 6/14/2006 1:07:14 AM
Its all in the experience - I learned so much about how to communicate and relate to my partners while in love in long term relationships - you never leave a relationship the same person as you were when you went in - its amazing.............so I guess lost is not the right word to use love is gone..................Ill be right back in there again when it happens...........

lovingit66

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having children at 38....... Posted: 6/13/2006 2:48:38 PM
I was 35 when I had my child - a big surprise................ Now the real deal is.....having a child is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life.............there is no romance about it......it is not easy on your own...........its not the age thing ...............its the doing it on your own thing.......DONT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You dont miss out on anything by not having a child.........................mind you I love my child but I wouldnt have missed out on anything if I hadnt had him...............

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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for those that have no kids do you ever think you will? Posted: 6/13/2006 2:26:29 PM
Hey you never ever know when it will happen................I was married for 10 years (in a relationship for 13 years) without any children...........My next longterm relationship resulted in a big surprise when I was 35.................I had resigned myself to enjoying my life sans children.............but oops there he was.....................I am now resigned to the fact that I will never have any more....but you never ever know do you............there may be life in these old eggs yet???????????????

lovingit66

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Tell it to me straight Posted: 6/13/2006 2:15:55 PM
truth please but in a nice way thanks..........................

lovingit66

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So a girl on PoF asked me about marriage Posted: 6/13/2006 5:11:16 AM
Well personally I dont go around asking boys what they think about marriage - esp not on the POF site. But as someone who has been in a long term marriage (10 years)and then a long term relationship outside of marriage with whom I never lived with (5 years) which resulted in a child- I will never live with anyone unless I am prepared to marry them - Its like my little test to myself...I could easily live with a partner but do I love them enough to commit to them forever in marriage???????So for me its like an ultimate life long commitment.........Now that doesnt mean I am on the prowl looking for marriage - but to me its pretty serious stuff...............and not just a licence or a government regulation......................

lovingit66

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Woman that want your man! Posted: 6/13/2006 3:10:05 AM
Some women out there are soooo bizarre and full of self doubt that they dont trust their own judgement in finding men - so in a weird screwed up subconscious way they think "well he must be okay because someone else loves and has him" and the next level is "well if he dumps her for me then I must be really worthy and better than her in some way".......and thats why boys its never never a good idea to cheat because you may end up with a desperate insecure sneaky new girlfriend who only values you because you had a girlfriend and were therefore obvious boyfriend material (a trophy so to speak).........now my interpretation may be wrong ....but ive seen it happen so many times................................

lovingit66

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tired of being alone...how to fix it? Posted: 6/12/2006 2:31:12 PM
Just dont want it so hard......people can smell desperation a mile off.....and the ones who are attracted to desperation are usually wrong anyways...............so just enjoy yourself and have fun and when it happens it happens.. and if it doesnt who cares...............

lovingit66

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Not good enough... till now Posted: 6/12/2006 2:27:30 PM
thats does sound weird...................

lovingit66

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20 Year HS reunion!!! (Uh-oh...) Posted: 6/12/2006 2:20:53 PM
I had a blast at mine.............it was fabulous...................I have to say go go go because you get to see everyone 20 years down the track and its amazing.........an observation from mine............most of the girls looked fabulous(improved with age) and most of the men looked much older and frazzled - except for some of the single men...........................

lovingit66

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being push in a pool is a relationship breaker? Posted: 6/12/2006 2:00:34 PM
Well.........sounds like there is not much real caring or respect in this relationship........do you really want that as a role model for your child???if there is arguing now about this incident its just an indicator of how things are really going.....................worth the effort??? probably not...........dont waste your energy....................

lovingit66

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love and weight gain Posted: 6/11/2006 4:01:06 PM
My love isnt conditional upon how much you weigh - other things influence my feelings more............in fact i actually dont mind a bit of the ol' chubba wubba. Id actually like to ask would you dump someone if they got so skinny they looked emaciated - i bet most men would say no........................

lovingit66

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43 percent of American women are either non-orgasmic or will be non-orgasmic for a significant period in their lives Posted: 6/11/2006 3:52:15 PM
NO saige I didnt mean to offend - its just that there is a difference between enjoying sex and orgasming - two different levels so to speak - and I was talking about my experiences and conversations with my girlfriends.....................not all women in general

lovingit66

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43 percent of American women are either non-orgasmic or will be non-orgasmic for a significant period in their lives Posted: 6/11/2006 3:30:39 PM
I know some friends who have never had an orgasm............and I feel so sorry for them............Another friend was non orgasmic until she met her latest partner........... Girls who have never orgasmed always worry they are less attractive or abnormal in some way and wonder if it will ever happen for them.........................its difficult for me to talk to about it with them as i feel guilty when I do................strange isnt it????????????????

lovingit66

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over 30 and still living at home Posted: 6/11/2006 3:20:51 PM
let me just say that if I ever ever thought of moving back home (I left to go to uni at 17) my parents would both have coronaries...........................

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 6/11/2006 3:17:27 PM
Well............maybe...........just maybe...............because right now..........at this point in time.....today.................I am not in a relationship........................I was before and I may be tomorrow but not right now............

lovingit66

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Good women are hard to find.........I guess so? Posted: 6/10/2006 4:40:17 PM
Yes tattat I would have to say maybe its the sort of women you are attracted to or are attracting - dont you like strong independent women??? or self assured women?? maybe its the age group??? but I would be reevaluating and trying to find other types of women that you would normally not go for and see if it is different..................or maybe you are just smarting from a recent bad experience and its clouding your view of your other good dates????????????Just a few thoughts

lovingit66

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How can do you get over someone? Posted: 6/10/2006 4:11:15 PM
Ok now lets get practical...............my advice is to get out there and do lots of things that you love to do that make you feel good.............and get back out into the dating and social scene...........you will not care what he is up to when you are enjoying yourself.............time heals all wounds and you will be ok............................18 minths isnt really a long time when you look at your life span....you learn new things in every realtionship - file it away for future reference................

lovingit66

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Anyone else always fall in love but are never loved back? Posted: 6/10/2006 4:06:10 PM
Was it really love you were in or intense desire and wanting on your behalf???? to me love is essentially mutual...so if it aint then it aint love..........when you get the feeling that something aint reciprocal - get out...........and dont waste your time pining for someone who doesnt really care if you are around or not.........................its a masochistic soul destroying exercise for you............

lovingit66

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Dating Idea's Posted: 6/10/2006 3:57:10 PM
You sound like you're a natural................ask where she'd like to go or what her interests are then adjsuts accordingly.......................very nice..............good on you...........

lovingit66

Joined: 3/27/2006

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should I be worried???? Posted: 6/10/2006 3:25:40 PM
Hey Wiz, I dont think I grilled him...............I just told him I was concerned that I couldnt find him and that I was surprised about his name.................. He was going to stay with me at my house..................but Im getting the feeling thats a big no...............

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