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Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Deliberately hurtful? Posted: 5/13/2009 6:17:13 PM
I must add that she apparently often stated that she was "too old", I don't understand this as she's 37 maybe 38 now..... She also often boasts how she got pregnant with her first child the first time she tried. This situation is similar to one ive been through, but the whole child/adoption thing is a whole new ball game, this poor guy really feels so inadequate right now. This has also had some very personal effects which I can't really repeat, but as a friend im so worried about the long term effects on his well-being. I know it's too easy to take sides sometimes, but to me in metaphoric terms she is twisting the knife in his back (or heart).

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Deliberately hurtful? Posted: 5/13/2009 5:34:06 PM
This may get a few mixed responses..... It's a bit of a strange one, most people would never come across this. In talking to a friend of mine recently, this subject came up. Is it possible to be hurtful to the person who loves you with every fibre of their being, without having even the slightest clue that you've done so? I think to an extent yes it's possible. However the situation outlined below is not your average situation. My mate - has been with this woman for 2 years and desperately wants to start a family, he'd make an excellent father. His GF - has one child already and knows full well how much he desires to have one of his own. She recently started talking seriously about adopting a child of a similar age to her own son (around 6yrs old). She'd got all the leaflets and such......... Their sex life has been fading for some time and its been getting him down a lot, having been in a similar situation I know how he feels, but this recent turn of events has tipped him over the edge, it's not often as a friend I see a grown man cry, im just a really good listener I guess, but this has torn him apart.... His comment to me was "I feel as though she'd rather adopt a child than have sex with me and risk getting pregnant". Personally I cannot for one second believe that she isn't hurting him deliberately for some sick perverted reason known only to herself. This guy is an absolute saint, I know him better than he knows himself! he's done nothing at all to deserve this! I want to help him, but I don't know if I should tell him to leave her or tell him to stop being silly. Comments appreciated!

strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Missing profile/messages [Closed Thread] Posted: 11/5/2007 2:50:42 PM
This is a really weird situation, I logged on today to respond to someone id been chatting to for a bit only to find all messages from that person missing AND all my sent messages to that person missing. Their profile is also missing..... Normally when profiles are deleted the messages remain, just with the name of the person removed. Can anyone shed some light on this?

strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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why do men that get it two to three times a day still cheat? Posted: 9/29/2007 7:14:16 AM
why do men that get it two to three times a day still cheat? Because they can!! I've given up feeling sorry for people in your position, he's a "badboy"!! he knows he can get what he wants and thats what attracts women to him, thats probably what attracts you to him! You need a nice guy and he won't be the one who's full of (very well practiced) pickup lines and charm, he'll be the guy that you don't give a second look. Dump him, knock his ego down a peg or two and move on. Because if you don't do it, he probably will.

strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Bad situation, need some help Posted: 9/8/2007 1:44:43 PM
I'd like to thank everyone for the help/advice and support they have offered. I spoke with my mother and assured her that she doesn't have to put up with this crap anymore, I told her that my brother and myself could and would support her in whatever she wants to do, I said that if things get really bad she can move into my place, her response was "you took the words out of my mouth". I think she see's the problem and just has to take that leap of faith into the unknown, all in her own time I guess.

strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Bad situation, need some help Posted: 9/2/2007 8:34:16 AM
This should have been in the UK forum really, as "the system" works differently in other countries. But as she's upset I was also upset and not thinking straight. She is unhappy, she tells me so herself. When he's not continually moaning about stupid things she feels happy simply for not being moaned at. The abuse is very very rarely physical, its mainly controlling behavior, threats, nasty comments and everything has to be done his way (he's also a hypocrite). She is soon to be a grandmother from my brothers side, and she's been told that she's not allowed to have children to look after in the house or go look after her grandson at my brothers place if needed.

strider886

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Bad situation, need some help Posted: 9/2/2007 7:41:14 AM
Ok, kinda strange place to do this but...... My mother aged 54 is currently stuck with my abusive "step father" (kinda), has been for over 20 years. I've always wondered why she put up with his emotional (mostly) and physical (very rarely) abuse, I suspect because she was a single mom with two young children and little money. He prevented her from working to take away her independence and so she is in a no win situation. They're not even married (and he won't even do that), so if anything happened to him she'd be out on the street. Someone out there must have been through similar or seen similar situations, I want to know what her options are, it wouldn't be easy for her to find a job at her age with no qualifications and no experience?? I do have a large sum of money from the sale of a property which id give her in a heartbeat, but that wouldn't be much of permanent solution, there must be some options out there???? anyone?? My mothers happiness is very important to me and I'll do whatever it takes to hit this b**tard where it would really hurt. And what he's fears most is obviously being alone.

Strider886

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Being suspended or sacked Posted: 8/22/2007 1:50:18 PM
Defending my colleagues from a workplace bully, got me fired. I was head of a technical department, the production supervisor (a nasty b*tch) had a rein of fear over the whole company, she would emotionally bully people one at a time by turning everyone against that person before moving on to the next victim. Your "turn" would last anything upto 6 months, during which time you'd experience what can only be described as emotional hell. She turned on my staff and their work suffered, she was also trying to get me demoted to make way for one of her "friends", i'd had enough!! I made a 4 page official complaint detailing everything she'd done, including audio recordings of her spreading false rumors of job losses amongst the other employee's. The complaint went uninvestigated and I was fired 10 days later for lateness, something I couldn't deny as id been snowed in and had great trouble getting to work. Late is late. I can however hold my head high and say that I did the right thing, whatever the result......

Strider886

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bare legs............NO skirt phenomena Posted: 8/21/2007 4:01:13 PM
why do so many women have to keep finding faults with guys and what a guy wears......... my biggest grumble is women in jeans and trousers ALL the time and.......when the ladies do wear a skirt they have bare legs........wot no tights or stockings.......shame on you gals. leave us guys alone........white socks or no white socks........tut tut I agree in principle, but I do prefer women in a really nice pair of jean's. Also white socks = bad, white socks + sandals = should get an on the spot fine. But you girls shouldn't complain After a recent night out in what used to be a classy bar, I can say that an awful lot of women (age 16 to about 22) on a night out seem to have no fashion sense at all. Whatever happened to the classy sexy look? now its just a messy mix of anything they find in their wardrobes and in absolutely any mix of colors. All of it baggy and none of it taking advantage of their figure. Maybe I'm getting old?? but I see better dressed women shopping in Tesco's!!

Strider886

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when the spark goes! Posted: 8/21/2007 3:40:47 PM
Its very important to make time for each other, quality time away from the daily routine. I know this will turn into a bit of a rant but................... Unfortunately in my last relationship, my gf just couldn't be bothered to make the effort (depression, drink, aggressive child, abusive and manipulative mother, etc etc etc). Despite all my efforts making plans and arranging time (or days out) away every now and then, I was fighting a losing battle as she refused to leave the house and refused to let anyone (even family) look after her extremely clingy (and aggressive) son for a day or two. And just to make sure the relationship died, we had to share a bed with an 8yr old every night for the past 12months, mainly due to her being unable to say no when he wanted scary 18 rated Playstation games. For as much as I like kids ( and I really do), there has to be some quality "adult time" just to keep that special bond in the relationship. You can't exactly drag a child around an art museum, the result is a miserable short day out full of moaning. Whatever the circumstances, quality time together is absolutely essential!!

Strider886

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christen your child/children or not? Posted: 8/21/2007 3:18:49 PM
Lets face it, these day's its a meaningless act..... People do it because they can get the whole family around for a party and to look at the new baby. In many cases, its almost like a competition: Who's got the newest car on their drive Who's go the biggest conservatory in the street Who's children are wearing expensive designer clothes Who' child has the best Christening

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Guys, why waste the time?? Posted: 8/21/2007 3:04:47 PM
In addition to my previous comments id like to just throw one in for the lads. From my experience on pof i can say that unlike regular "dating" you tend to end up chatting to like 4 or 5 different people, who are all nice and all seemingly perfect. In the end some of them lose out, its unavoidable.

Strider886

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Guys, why waste the time?? Posted: 8/21/2007 9:50:03 AM
If a guy seems really chatty and charming and not nervous or shy in the slightest, he's probably done it 1000 times before........ Yet women fall for this act every single time! Its one of those mysteries I guess.

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Are you a good liar? Posted: 8/15/2007 3:25:03 AM
It's wrong to lie, I can count on one hand the number of times I've lied over the past 2 years. But sometimes you have to and a good lie is as close to the truth as possible..... Example Q - My friend blahblahblah saw you with my sister last night. 1 The best lie = Yes, I was talking to your sister about that time you all went to ?????? last year. We'll have to go there together some time, its sounds like fun. 2 The stupid lie = No, I never saw her at all. (speaks for itself, your going to get a kick in the teeth) 3 The whole truth = Yes, I was talking to your sister.... she was drunk and all over me, I had to fight her off. (likely to cause a family war and destroy your relationship at the same time)

Strider886

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Should The Police Be Employing 16 Year Olds as Coppers? Posted: 8/14/2007 3:37:59 PM
Oh joy, stroppy 16yr olds in Police uniform... whatever next.

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

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should Britain change the national anthem? Posted: 8/14/2007 3:34:49 PM
Should not be changed...... It'd probably end up something like "god save David Beckham", us being such a classy nation n all that.

Strider886

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skilled labour shortage in poland Posted: 8/14/2007 3:30:57 PM
We never had a skilled labour shortage here to start with!!! What we actually have is a shortage of skilled labour willing to work for crap wages. Our own skilled labour are being pushed out by foreign workers, I don't blame them I blame the government for messing the country up so much that many companies/employers can't afford to pay real wages. Unfortunately my company employs British warehouse lads who spend more time on the sick than they do at work. The blame there lies with lack of discipline in today's youth, hatred towards society and the rise of chav culture. Mainly it's the lack of discipline in home and schools.

Strider886

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Paying Financial Maintenance - divorced/separated parents Posted: 8/14/2007 3:22:02 PM
You should work for the CSA, I know a chap who went unemployed because his ex worked for the CSA and was screwing him for more than £600 of his minimum wage per month after SHE ran off with the next door neighbour who im sure was a doctor earning well over £50'000 on top of her £40'000...... Yet my ex received £5 per week from her ex, who claims to have no money yet buys a new car every few months. Life's not fair!

Strider886

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No longer having sex in a relationship Posted: 8/14/2007 2:59:05 PM
No intimacy = No trust = No relationship I have been in a similar situation to this myself (havent we all?). No sex life after around 12 months except very occasionally if we went away somewhere and basically got her out of the house, away from the stress and hassle. Unfortunately this can't be done enough to save a relationship!!! I broke it off with her several times and each time we went to being just friends, she would then make a move on me and we'd have sex and be back together again within 2 weeks, only to have the same old "no sex life" routine set in again almost straight away. I don't know what her game was, it was tearing me apart I loved her but felt I needed to cheat on her to get that emotional and physical intimacy. Because of the kind of person I am, I would rather die than cheat on someone I loved, the mental stress was unbelievable! I had to do something, I walked out and never spoke to her again, I even changed my phone numbers to avoid her. Everyone has different circumstances, but basically no intimacy = no trust = no relationship... Because to make love is to trust that one special person enough to share your deepest emotions. Oh and the "no sex before marriage brigade" can go jump of a f**kin tall building

Strider886

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I feel bad when I judge people on their weight.. Posted: 8/14/2007 7:44:45 AM
I dress very well, am very clean, have great hair ect...I exercize 6 days a week and it does no good. I eat very little carbs and do not snack, still no good. Sometimes it is medical. I was born to be this way and I know guys dont me for what I look like despite dressing well, and doing everything a human is supposed to do. Yes it made me bitter but hey its me. I would not mind a stocky guy at all, but a stocky guy still wants a stick. I cant blame him, if i was a guy, I would not want to date me. --You might already know this and if so I apologize, but everyone else can learn from this too-- Cutting carbs drastically can have the opposite effect, your body goes into "panic mode" and starts storing up even more fat because it thinks your starving. Carb's in sensible quantity are not bad, processed food IS bad (even if its low fat). The more its processed the less your body has to do to it for energy and the faster it turns to fat (even bread is a processed food). Natural unprocessed foods give a slow energy release and are therefore much better. We live in a world were we get processed rubbish pushed down our necks simply because we can't be bothered to cook properly. Fast food and microwave meals...... Here in the UK people affectionately label it as becoming Americanized (I mean no offense at all by that).

Strider886

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I feel bad when I judge people on their weight.. Posted: 8/5/2007 6:37:48 PM
Weight/size should not matter... BUT!! i my experience it matters a lot to women, I have been in two relationships which ended horribly because my gf put on a lot of weight. In both cases the weight gain affected her self esteem and totally ruined our sex life because she felt "unsexy", this in turn broke that all important intimate relationship bond and of course resulted in a great deal of resentment. The irony of both situations is that the weight gain did not bother me one bit. I think now id rather be with someone who was overweight to begin with!

strider886

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best gift -worse gift Posted: 7/19/2006 11:42:43 AM
I think many people would put "children" into both categories lol

Strider886

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am i bothered? Posted: 6/27/2006 11:18:40 AM
I am Supergirl and not Superman. I wish I had a bigger chest so the word "girl" on my shirt stood out more....Other than that., I do not give a frak what people think. ~Carrie B. Im sure I can speak on behalf of all the gents here when I say that we all share your wish But alas I've been staring at the "Supergirl" writing all day, my eye's hurt and I've decided that i don't think your wish is one that needs to come true

Strider886

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why do I set myself up for heart ache so frequently? Posted: 6/27/2006 10:35:35 AM
The nice one's are the one's you don't notice.... It's a lesson that very few people seem to learn.

Strider886

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Do you, think some POLICE man and women have a chip on there shoulder Posted: 6/9/2006 10:43:59 AM
Some do, some don't. You can say the same for anyone in any job. I've had conversations with them many times on Friday/Saturday nights here in the west midlands, even shared a pizza with one very lovely wpc on a very cold winter night I even brought one a parking ticket for his van, cost me 80p! he found this particularly funny and gave me my 80p back I also have a friend and ex colleuge, who recently joined the west midlands police. I infact concidered it myself, but my life was in a bit too much of a mess at the time. Unfortunately there are the odd few who seem to think they are the almighty god, but its no different to someone who gets a promotion at work and turns into a complete a***. ========================================== Disclaimer - I don't tend to drink because I always drive, so if you try this on a few pints your likely to end up in trouble. ==========================================

Strider886

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Are We Bothered? Posted: 6/9/2006 10:12:03 AM
I try to be very thoughtfull, but at the same time very clear and to the point.... If a thread/post upsets anyone, then more than likely it was fully intended to (although accidents do happen from time to time). If I unintentionally upset anyone then I will either appologise OR post again to clear up any misunderstandings. Life is too short and I have enough enemies in the real world without making even more online.

Strider886

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Proud to be British ???? Posted: 6/8/2006 8:21:27 AM
I heard that curries were actually invented in Britain but were adopted by India. Dunno how true that is. I do believe this to be true. I heard it was derived from the food rationing days of WWII. Meat was so hard to come by that people had to eat it even when it had started to go off, they mixed in hot spices to disguise the taste, cooked it to death and hey presto the curry was born. I also know for a fact that in Asia, most food is very lightly spiced and full of flavour.

Strider886

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Knife Amnesty Posted: 6/8/2006 8:14:20 AM
A spell inside doesnt seem to make em think twice at all. I was in the gym yesterday and there were 3 guys comparing how long each of them had been inside for and trading weight training tips they'd learned while they were there. Its not a small gym, these guys were loud and blatently proud of the fact they'd been in prison.

Strider886

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Letters you would love to send but don't... Posted: 6/8/2006 7:59:11 AM
Dear ex boss Thanks for 8.5 years of hell, everything was great for 6 months until you employed your chav cow friend as my manager. Also thankyou for supporting me through my education, which cost me a grand total of 8 years and over £3000. Thanks for allowing me the chance to work overtime to make up for the days I was at college. Its a pitty I had to return for an extra year because I missed a vital exam due to your previously mentioned friend not allowing me the morning off work. And thankyou so much for respecting my qualifications and vast experience by employing an unqualified, thick 17yr old to do the job which I trained 8 years to do, I understand fully that it was just personal, because he went on a camping trip with yourself and brother in law last October, we won't go into details as to how the three of you kept warm on that cold weekend in Wales.... Thanks to your friend the chav, I am a much better person, I remember the 2 diciplinaries I recieved for farting twice and I no longer do such things, although the trapped wind is becoming very painful indeed. Finally thankyou for firing me while I was off work on sick leave after a bout of depression brought on by your chav friend trying to get me out of my job so that her bit on the side could do it. No sarcasm intented... I really mean that, thanks for firing me... I am now a product development engineer for a multi million pound, multi-national corporation and im currently earning 3x the wage you were paying me. They don't care if my face fits or not, I got the job based purely on my skills/knowledge/experience for which I was tested over the space of 3 separate interviews. I don't think im as thick as your friend told you I was. I wish you all the success you deserve. BTW - all the custom in house software I wrote for the company has been removed from the computers and replaced with the original 6 year old versions, due to complaints that I was wasting time and too thick to be messing with it in the first place.

Strider886

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Knife Amnesty Posted: 6/8/2006 3:10:07 AM
Carrying a knife for protection is not necessary, there are a whole array of highly effective and legal martial arts defensive weapons available. I Carry a Kubotan, its a small hardwood or alloy rod 4 - 7 inches long, one strike can disable an opponents arm/leg or cause extreme pain without any lasting damage. However, if used with excessive force or in anger it could break bones... (apparently) Mine is alloy and is attached to a keyring with my car key, ive been checked for weapons outside a nightclub and ive even been through airport security with it several times and never once been stopped. There's no need at all to carry a knife, a knife causes damage not pain, it will not defend you in an attack.

Strider886

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Beginner swimmer Posted: 6/7/2006 3:21:54 PM
Treading water is like doing breast stroke upright, not really that hard to learn.

Strider886

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just wanted to get this off my chest Posted: 6/7/2006 3:16:28 PM
The mention of Seaman and Beckham reminds me of a joke about a posh box.....

Strider886

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Knife Amnesty Posted: 6/7/2006 3:12:25 PM
twas joke, besides... I use an SA knife regularly and the blades are missing for my own piece of mind, I do carry a tiny little keyring knife for removing packaging and pallet ties however, at 1" long its more of a tool than a weapon. We have laws such as "going equipted to steal" so why not charge anyone carrying a knife with "going equipted to murder!" ????? Teens have nothing to fear from carrying a knife apart from having it confiscated and maybe an offensive weapon charge which for a youngster is a slap on the wrist offence when i think it should involve a mandatory custodial sentence. The law dont take it seriously so why should the youngsters!!! Thats great, but then it just goes a bit to far.... how does "going equipped to hit and run" sound when your just driving to work? (unrealistic but you get the point). It can be delt with by the law, but its better delt with socially. Carrying weapons needs to become socially unacceptable by all generations.

Strider886

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Knife Amnesty Posted: 6/6/2006 11:29:42 AM
Or do what I did and snap the blades off in a vice/clamp. That way, if you do get caught you'll make the arresting officer look pretty stupid.

Strider886

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What's The Point In Learning A Foreign Language At School. Posted: 6/5/2006 5:37:15 AM
No-one likes the French My opinion of the french was lowered considerably when I heard (from a friend) of a woman walking into a shop in france (a bakers or butchers, can't remember), she didnt know French at all and the shop keepers were being unhelpful and claiming to not speak any English. This of course was a blatant lie because my friend had been in the shop for a good 5 minutes before hand and actually heard them speaking in English. From what he told me, he didnt exactly let them get away with it either. It's a pretty bad advert for the French in general, as many British people already consider them to be highly ignorant. It's much like saying that all Brits are chav's, pretty unfair to tar them all with the same brush.

Strider886

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What's The Point In Learning A Foreign Language At School. Posted: 6/5/2006 5:18:46 AM
I suspect that the teaching of French and German in schools has something to do with the remnants of WWII..... But it does also teach youngsters to not be ignorant of foriegn languages.

Strider886

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Knife Amnesty Posted: 6/5/2006 5:09:13 AM
Expanding this thread a little to include guns, in the wake of the recent attack on those young teenagers. Im starting to believe that the reason for the rise of this underground knife/gun culture is the fact we have made knives and guns very "taboo" where children are concerned. They're never seen on TV before the 9pm, we ban our children from having toy guns, knives and swords. Kids ALWAYS want what they can't have!! Bring back the likes of the A-Team and lose the lovey dovey crap on our TVs, it's just making kids more "curious" about these weapons... I always said that kids will grow up completely insane if they carry on putting this rubbish on TV. God help us when the teletubby, pokimon etc etc generation grows up. Censorship has gone mad. When I was between 6 and 18 I don't think I ever really took any notice of guns or knives and I know that 90% of my friends during those years felt the same way. I was sat next to a 7 year old yesterday while watching "The Mummy" on TV (yes I know its a 12, don't blame me), he wasnt at all scared, he wasnt really watching the film either, he was just totally enthralled and captivated by the sight of guns, he was even telling me what type of guns they were using (pistols, revolvers, shoguns, machineguns).... he's 7 ffs, he never see's this stuff, how the hell does he know all this?!?!?!

Strider886

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Why are people so cynical against Michael Jackson? Posted: 6/2/2006 2:19:24 AM
If proclaiming his innocence without knowing him personaly is distastefull, then so is proclaiming his guilt. Its very simple... Don't judge someone based on what the media tells you. If he'd done "things" to these children there would most likely be undeniable physical damage, I also recall hearing that the kids parents had refused to allow polygraph testing and hypnotic regression. I'll joke about mj as much as the next man, the fact he looks like one of the cast of "planet of the apes" for example.... ((Just do a google image search for "michael jackson ape")) But I don't pass judgement either way on someone I don't know.

Strider886

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hitting women Posted: 6/1/2006 4:05:52 PM
Thats like some kind of bizarre twist on equality.... o.O

Strider886

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Why are people so cynical against Michael Jackson? Posted: 6/1/2006 3:59:18 PM
Why? Because they can. Because he's famous. Because he gets a lot of bad press for being so famous. Because he gives people plenty of rocks to throw at him. Because he shy's away from the allegations and cruel jokes, and fails to defend or justify himself. Because he has altered his physical appearance so drastically, probably as a result cruel jokes and press reports about him, his appearance, his music or his life, back in the 80's / 90's. Whether any of the allegations are true or not is of no importance, the power of the media can turn anyone into a monster in just a few days. Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see.

Strider886

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hitting women Posted: 6/1/2006 3:36:43 PM
It is unfortunate that many women believe that a man won't hit them, so they proceed to wind them up as far as they possibly can... (to the point of tears in some cases). It is also unfortunate that there are men out there who will harm first and worry about it later/never. It is far more effective and less violent to simply ignore any provocation.... I suggest, acting as if nothing important is going on, grabbing a beer and watching the TV (until it gets turned off, then read the paper)

Strider886

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Someone who feels awkward about touching... Posted: 6/1/2006 3:25:11 PM
Back right the way off... The more you push the matter the more she'll pull away, atleast if you back off theres a chance she might change her mind. nuf said

Strider886

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CAT: Coital Alignment Technique Posted: 6/1/2006 3:17:19 PM
I found my partners tended to prefer DOG over CAT But now we have this newly "designed" CAT, whats next? FROG? HAMSTER? GECKO? How about "Raw A** Technique"? Why must we put a name to everything? why must the natural act of making love be SO scientific? its madness gone mad....... Just do it!

Strider886

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Intelligent, Attractive, But Dateless For Years Posted: 6/1/2006 9:04:45 AM
You need to look at this the other way around too..... Most men would assume that you were married and give up before even trying. Why would any man risk getting a broken nose from a woman's husband by coming on to her? You need to dress/act/talk in such a way that men will know your free!! Spread the word... make sure as many people as possible know that your available.

Strider886

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Msg: 19 (view)

monitoring trust Posted: 6/1/2006 8:54:41 AM
This is how I found out my ex was cheating on me.... I was scanning her PC because it had a nasty virus, I found msn chat logs (which contained a reference to the virus I was looking for) where she'd been having very sexual converations with some scummy university student who had no money and no job. With friends like mine, it didnt take long to track this guy down and find out exactly who he was, where he lived, his place of birth, his mobile number, his bank details, etc etc... The chat log in question covered the previous 4 months where she had totally lost interest in me/us on a physical level, there was 1 reference to a meet up, which took place a few weeks earlier. A day on which she'd told me she couldnt see me because she was working over-time. I let the situation "ride" for a few more weeks until one day when I turned up at her flat an hour earlier than i'd told her I would and found this guy walking away from her place as I was driving past to find a parking spot. I mentioned this guy, she denied knowing him and calmly claimed he could be anyone. I told her about the chat log, which she also denied. The relationship ended approximately 30 seconds later. Im all for personal privacy and I don't think i'd ever search through someones computer again, not unless I saw a similar pattern of behaviour in a future partner. .

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

Repression Posted: 5/31/2006 3:29:39 PM
Been around on many forums and seen that behaviour a lot. Best thing to do is make sure you know your facts, because its normally the stupid/thick runts in a "clique" that start a fight or pick on newcomers. If you know your facts and don't give them any dirt, they usually find themselves being targeted instead.

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

As nature intended Posted: 5/31/2006 3:24:16 PM
As nature intended??? If that includes doggy style... im all for it

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

Msg: 86 (view)

Racism Posted: 5/31/2006 3:22:54 PM
Try looking for a job and losing out everytime to racial minorities and immigrants... Is it me or is racism now in reverse?

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

watching films over and over Posted: 5/31/2006 3:18:33 PM
I once spent a week watching "Monsters inc" 4 times a day, and having the VHS on rewind to watch all the funny bits over and over again. Eventually I hid the video, out of reach of children and carried on watching repeats on TV instead.......

Strider886

Joined: 3/28/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Auctions Posted: 5/31/2006 3:04:51 PM
Its like Ebay, except you don't get outbid by 2 pence when there's 3 seconds left. General auctions are much like you see on TV. Car auctions are fast, risky and competitive.

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