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celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

Msg: 87 (view)

Why do men with kids respond to my ad? Posted: 10/30/2009 6:34:43 PM
Don't worry about what people call you.. It is your right to want to be free and have a relationship with someone who has no children. I have found that if a person is pushing for it, they are usually the very ones that will call you selfish and mean if you don't want to go places and do things with their children all the time. They feel their children are so special they will win you over.And if it doesn't happen they become angry. They want you and think they will change you.. Thats why they persist in trying to know you. They are actually showing a selfish nature.. It's a constant fight with a person like this, and in the end they make you appear bad. People who have children need to accept that women have a right to want children when they want them and not before. It's not about being a bad person or not being good mother material..We are not always ready to be mommie's just because we are women.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Mama's boy Posted: 5/11/2009 12:28:09 AM
What would you say to a woman with a guy that no matter what his girlfriend says, he thinks she is saying mean things about his Mom..I keep telling my friend the guy is emotionally stunted and let him go ..But she keeps trying to convince this clown that she isn't being mean to his Mom.. It's like a reversal ..Usually it is mom trying to convince the son she is treating the girlfriend nice. But she likes him..And I say he is hopeless..And that normal men respect and love their moms but they sure don't choose mom over her every time. He reads things into what she says too..He seems to think she is hating on his Mom all the time and is defensive and mean about it. Oh yea he is in his mid 50's.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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A suggestion for the site. Posted: 7/9/2008 9:35:42 AM
I don't think it really means too much anyway when a person looks at a profile..Even if they go back a lot.. I went back to one profile about 10 times cause I was trying to figure out what covered bridge the guy was standing in front of If he knew he might have thought I was cyber stalking him..

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Going back to horse and buggys Posted: 7/9/2008 9:14:18 AM
What about the batteries if we go to electric cars..Batteries don't last forever. Recycle? That always sounds good, but put into action it doesn't really work that well.. Also the cost of the battery would probubly not be cheap. Electric is not going to be the best alternative.But it seems to be the one most people are talking about.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Some users willing to PAY for POF Posted: 7/8/2008 5:16:36 PM
I think this site is great BECAUSE it is free.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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THIS DATING SITE [CLOSED Thread] Posted: 7/8/2008 5:01:33 PM
I have noticed that a few times I did not get back to someone right away they got upset. A couple quit the site. And this was after just a couple e mails. I'm thinking this is common and not just my experience. It seems many people on this site have either a lot of issues or get hurt very easily. Many of us are here and are "looking" but not desperately looking to meet up and start up somthing asap..We work, have families and can not and some times do not want to log on and scan the mail.. Is this wrong? Is this rude? I don't think it is..And I would almost quit signing on just to keep from hurting someones fragile ego. NO ONE wants to hurt others, or anger them..But not many want to be a slave to this either. It's a wonderful thing to be able to meet others, for free..And I enjoy it too..But not when tired or feeling crappy..Or just busy. So people that get upset without a quick response from others, just lighten up..It more than likely has nothing to do with you..Enjoy the others that are responding or just read the forums or some thing..

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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computer screens and someone you love... Posted: 1/31/2008 10:53:55 AM
NO~! Is all I can say.. Never spy on the person you are with... That is a invasion of privacy, leave it only to parents (who have a right) and weirdo's (who are jealous freaks).. If you feel you need to spy then your relationship is already in the toilet.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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computer screens and someone you love... Posted: 1/31/2008 10:48:21 AM
I would tred slowly.. Lots of personal conversations between friends and family are done through e mails and chats. And what she might have been trying to cover up were personal things that she or someone else only shares with each other.. So I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about what she was up to. You have to remember we don't talk to each other like we used to..So instead of just not talking she had to act on it by closing the screen.. and that makes the fact it was private more than obvious.But unless she makes you feel insecure in other ways I sure wouldn't worry about it.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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The role of self-sabotage Posted: 1/14/2008 8:54:44 AM
Vicious circle.. We are only open and ready to have our hearts broken in Jr high school..After that we become more fearful and cautious..You have to understand that you are meeting people with the same fears . Depending on how many times they have had their hearts broken, usually determines how sensitive and open they are. A lot of people are very sensitive and quick to run. And in doing that they make others feel senstive and quick to run. So I wouldn't let it bother you enough to ruin your self esteem and desire to find someone to love. Just keep up your positive attitude and you will find someone that is just as positive, when you do you will be glad you found a person that you can share a upbeat and good relationship with.

celH

Joined: 3/28/2006

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What's up with the 'NO DRAMA PLEASE' rule??? Posted: 12/16/2007 10:37:39 AM
I have wondered the same thing and at times reject the profile (person) because in a past realtionship I was with a man that wanted me to provide him with a pleasant time..Nothing short of making him feel good was wanted or expected..My problems were my own and any discussion or situation that wasn't pleasant for him turned into a very much more un plaeasant situation for me..He would scream and yell and have a fit if I didn't pretend my day was great and so all my time and interest was focused on him. So he could complain and "we" could worry about only his problems. He would always say I caused the "drama".. Yep, when you look at it from his selfish prospective........... I did.. He was a total jerk.. So when I see the "no drama please".. I think of someone that will bail as soon as somthing goes wrong in their partners life.

celH

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Police taser guy who won't shut up at Kerry rally Posted: 12/14/2007 8:11:02 PM
From what I have seen on the news, it seems like some policemen can't wait for the opportunity to taser people. They seem to think it is a special tool to end any verbal or physical protest of any kind, on any one. When they use it on people that are just being loud, and obnoxius they should be charged with assault. The force they use should suit the situation..

celH

Joined: 3/28/2006

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feel a bit stupid Posted: 12/12/2007 7:35:20 AM
You have no idea what she thinks it means. I'm sure she is wondering. Did you give her false hope? Sometimes a nice gesture can back fire for legitimate reasons.Roses say a lot to a lot of women..

celH

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Abandoned or is he really busy Posted: 12/11/2007 7:13:54 AM
When we ask people to confirm or deny somthing we think might be so, we usually know exactly what the truth is.. You know what he is doing and you know exactly what to do about it.. Trust your instints.. Never call him again.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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What to do when a guy says it's between you and someone else? Posted: 11/29/2007 6:59:19 AM
The guy didn't put it in a very nice way, but what he really should have said is " lets not get too serious too fast and date others and see where this leads". I don't understand the need to jump right into serious relationships.Three dates is hardly enough time to know a person well enough to commit..It seems that alot of heartache could be avoided if more people put more time into dateing . The pretense of commitment before there is a real bond can cause alot more misery when the person decides to move on. Thats just my take on it, it seems he was honest, but not in a very tactful way. I would have told him 'of course we will both date others, we don't even know each other yet'.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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cant stop blaming myself Posted: 11/28/2007 10:23:43 AM
The best way to handle this at this point is to make an effort to move on. At some point pride has to take over..If you have made every effort to tell her your feelings, explain and try to win her back then it's time to take your friends advice and let it go.. If she is interested at all she will contact you..If not then maybe time apart and a sense that she might have lost out might make her re think the situation.. Spending 7 weeks with someone isn't really enough to know them well enough. You were only with her on special trips too, so it was like a vacation for both of you... A lot of what you found to love might have been the things surrounding being together, and what you thought being with her would be like. Being shut out, cut off and left with no recourse can make anyone go a little emotionally nuts. I think if you sit down and pick each feeling out and try to figure it out you might find this is more about frustration and the feeling of rejection than love. Sometimes it's hard to know the difference in the middle of all the turmoil. Either way the ball seems to be in her court.. Sometimes we just have to give up on somthing..Like it or not.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Would you have a relationship with a registered sex offender? Posted: 11/16/2007 10:59:37 PM
Are you serious? WHY WOULD YOU EVEN NEED TO ASK THE QUESTION? How old is he and how old was the child.?

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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What attracts men the most on women's profiles? Posted: 8/13/2007 6:03:20 PM
You know somehow worrying about making a profile that is catchy and attracts men defeats the purpose..I thought the idea was to get on here and tell somthing about yourself and then match up with someone that likes what they see and read.."Honesty", I suppose would be the main objective..If you have to perk your profile up or in any way put out somthing that is different than who you really are is pointless..You will attract men that you really arn't compatible with.. I think a person should just say what is is they like, and how they are and wait for someone that likes them for the way they are and how they look to respond.. Looks are important to all of us..We have our likes and dislikes and I see nothing wrong with looking at pictures and liking or not liking what a person see's..But the truth is a picture never tells the whole story..Once a person starts talking they take on a whole different look..Its just how it is..Pictures really don't tell much..A few general things.Provided the picture is current and actually is of the person themselves.. I say write a profile that reflects who you are and let it stand..If you get less interest in doing that, then I don't know why that would matter. I would suspect that any woman that seems like tons of fun or easy or perky or any of the other things would get more responses..So unless thats really your personality, why do it? What a job trying to keep that up for some guy would be!@!~

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Newly BrokenHearted Posted: 8/3/2007 7:03:38 PM
This guy is only caring about what he feels and what he wants.. You don't owe him anything and his feelings should not be your concern..If he is out of your relationship and in bed with someone else,then do what you need to do to feel better.. People like this are always trying to keep things open for themselves..Shut the door .

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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nawwww.. this isn't working for me Posted: 7/31/2007 5:39:03 PM
No one can have anyone... That statement always amuses me. Some people are willing to work at finding someone..Most others are thinking it would be nice "if" it happend.. This is a nice site, people that are on here determined to find someone to spend thier life with are probubly going to be disapointed..Because it just doesn't usually work that way..we arn't teenagers falling in and out of lust with everyone we see..the older we get the less interested, or worried about it we get...It is OK, Fun and all that but not a goal of most people on here to find the love of their lives..If you just look for friends and nice people that you can share time doing fun things with..then this can be a nice place and you can gain from it.. People that feel hurt, rejected, frustrated and angry need to relax.. this is just time talking to strangers on a computer..Nothing more.. Like being in a crowd at a ball game..you get up and go home and forget it usually..We turn this off and go back to our lives and most times that internet friend gets forgotten.. No big deal... Am I wrong?

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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What does Over the hill mean to you? Posted: 7/27/2007 8:02:09 AM
No it's not a bad thing to look younger than your age..But maybe not such a good thing to aspire to. Feeling great and enjoying each day and not spending time thinking of how many good years are left is a great attitude.. All the hype about youth being the best way to live life is not really natural, it is a image imposed on us by society.Fighting to retain it and not enjoying each stage is the bad thing. It is sad I think to see people thinking they look very young and dressing and acting accordingly..Being healthy and enjoying life and accepting your maturity too, is the cool thing,

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Is he not into me or what? Posted: 7/27/2007 7:18:07 AM
He is not calling, he is not e mailing and for whatever reason it is because he does not want to, and does not want share his reasons with you either. Working at a realtionship is miserable..waiting and wondering and questioning what some guy is doing is no fun at all.. Men are not that different from us, when the right one comes along they make the right forward moves..When this happens to me I take it for what it appears to be, for what any person knows he is showing.."Disinterest"... and keep looking for someone that makes me feel great without the hastle of having to worry and question what is happening constantly..

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Legalizing incest.... Posted: 7/21/2007 8:48:02 AM
WE CONTINUE TO BLURR THE LINES BETWEEN RIGHT AND WRONG ON EVERY ETHICAL AND MORAL ISSUE WITH DUSCUSSION AND DEBATE. THE PRACTICE OF POLITICAL CORRECTNESS IN MANY SITUATIONS IS SIMPLE STUPIDITY IN ACTION. ANY ARGUMENT IN FAVOR OF INCEST IS A STEP CLOSER TO THE DESTRUCTION OF SOCIETY ON A WHOLE..THE MORE WE CHIP AWAY AT MORAL AND ETHICAL STANDARDS THE MORE SOCIETY FALLS APART. WE NEED RULES STANDARS AND BELIEFS. IT IS CHAOUS WITHOUT THEM. THEY HAVE BEEN IN PLACE ALL THESE YEARS AS THE GLUE THAT HOLDS US TOGETHER. DOES THE BIBLE SAY WE WERE BROUGHT FORTH THROUGH INCEST? GOD CREATED A WIFE FOR ADAM, DID HE POSSIBLY CREATE WIVES FOR THEIR SONS ALSO? THERE IS NOT A DAY BY DAY MINUTE BY MINUTE ACCOUNTING OF THIER LIVES. THE ONLY MENTION ON INCEST IN THE BIBLE WAS TO CONDEMN IT.. INCEST HAS BEEN VIEWED WITH REVULSION FOR AT LEAST 6 THOUSAND YEARS..SO WHY NOW DO WE WANT TO BECOME POLITICALLY CORRECT AND ATTEMPT TO ACCEPT IT? ANYONE CAN RATIONALIZE ANYTHING..PEOPLE INTERESTED IN CHILDREN HAVE EXCUSES.. THEY TRY TO CONVINCE OTHERS OF THEIR POINT OF VIEW. DO WE RATIONALIZE AND DEABATE THAT TOO SOME DAY? AT THIS RATE WE WILL.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Depression and suicide Posted: 7/7/2007 4:49:01 PM
First and most important is see a doctor that is an expert in diagnosing and treating depression..That would be a psychiatrist..We live in a time that doctors specialize..There should be ABSOLUTELY NO stigma..The brain functons with chemicals..depression is a a chemical imbalance..You CAN get help..You CAN feel better.. You just need an expert in this field, an expert in the medications that will work for you. Suicide is desperation, a feeling that it is hopeless and you can't feel better, a series of medicines that didn't work only add to that feeling.. Make the call.. A psychiatrist zips past the BS..hits the problem head on.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 7/7/2007 12:56:03 AM
Many men do things thinking they can get more than friendip in return. When it doesnt happen they get angry and resentful and feel used. It is uncomfortable for most women when a man clearly is hoping to obligate her to him. Most women find that trying to let this kind of "nice" guy down easy only leaves room for false hope..By the time they have tried every nice way to let him down, his coming around "doing" nice things has become irritating. Then she has to treat him somewhat unkind, and if that doesn 't work thats when restraining orders and gigantic male relatives come into play. Its a no brainer.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Controllers and Insecurity Posted: 6/30/2007 5:44:15 PM
I met a guy on here two years ago and the same thing happend.. We were going to meet and all of a sudden he started accusing me of not answering the phone and his e mails.. I took it as a sign that he might have some emotional problems..And was glad I never met him..

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Momma's Boy? Posted: 6/29/2007 1:46:29 PM
It is true if a man does not love and respect his Mother then he usually can not love or respect women . When a man wants "Mother" to go to Doctor app. 'instead' of his partner, then that is the man that is too close to his Mother.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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EEWWW!! THE WEIRDEST YET!!!! in 25 years... Posted: 6/29/2007 12:57:15 PM
Well, the world is full of wierdo's.. Sounds like you met one of them!!

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Hurt and Confused!!!! Posted: 6/29/2007 12:30:53 PM
I agree totally with diamond mine.. Waiting for someone to get all their ducks in a row to make room in their life for you, is painful and stressful..Cutting all ties with him will lessons the daily hurt and rejection you will feel of knowing you are being set aside and coming in last in line. You could end up playing a waiting game, waiting for the times he makes time for you..Hopeing to always be available you might stop living your life.. Your absence in his life is the only way he is going to feel the need to find a place for you..If you see him only as a friend and only when it fits into his life it will make life nicer for him..But it will never do anything but hurt and frustrate you..

celh

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Help me I'm almost 50..... Posted: 6/28/2007 8:33:16 AM
Yes, I have advice.. We get here before we know it..I think it is a shock because it happens so fast..Our culture worships the young and have made us feel we somehow loose somthing by growing older.. In other cultures, age brings benefits . Older people are respected and in some countries older women are acutally considered more sexual..In her own country Sophia Loren is still thought of as "sexy"....In America they would have her on the front of the tabloids remarking on every wrinkle and crinkle.. It's hype.. and the minute we start feeling old and sexless, we act that way.. You just said you breezed through 30 and 40..You obviously wern't listening then..Cause many people think that is over the hill..Clear up the thinking and you'll clear up the feeling that you are nearing the end.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Ladies...is rejection harder at our age? Posted: 6/28/2007 8:07:13 AM
I've said it before and I'll say it again and they will delete it again.. But the truth is It does not matter how gorgeous an older woman is a man no matter his age thinks he still can score the young hot ones..And most NOT ALL on here are more interested in the young woman.. So that being said.. I have no picture up and have no plans to do it either.. Pictures NEVER tell the story. It is the personality and the gestures that make a person.I think Pictures actually distort the first impression, who looks like their pictures?? It's either too good, not good or simply does not look like you.. A drawing would be about as good. So never feel rejected by having someone reject a picture..It is after they know you when they say they don't like you at all is when you have really been rejected!! And even then SO WHAT..The good thing is that when we get older we have learned enough about life to know that the only opinion about ourselves that is needed is our own.. People can have other agenda's and reasons for saying and doing lots of things.. Love yourself and if you are satisfied with who you are.That is what will draw the 'right' person to you .

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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I need help...what would you do? Posted: 4/7/2007 9:38:27 AM
Just read your recent post ( right after I responded to the first)!! Sorry he turned out to be a creep.. \

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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I need help...what would you do? Posted: 4/7/2007 9:35:17 AM
You have been given some sound advice about not going with this man.. There are miles and miles of open highway in the States. Lots of places to get out or be tossed out if he gets angry or tries somhing..and thats just one scernerio.. If he lives near you then why can't you take the time to get to know him when he comes home over the next few months? Get to know his family, and friends first? I agree with the other member, truckers have some idea how long they will be out..not to the day somtimes but certianly within two or three..Sounds like he is already using a tactic to push you to a quick decision.. He could be a great guy, but he will still be a great guy in a couple months if he is one, and if he is not, you will still be a safe or alive lady for waiting..

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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The dating game in a man's shoes Posted: 7/15/2006 11:03:46 AM
WOW... I suppose no man has ever treated a woman that way huh??? It's not a gender issue... It's a personality issue..Cruelty comes in all shapes, sizes, ages and genders.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Frantic for relationship? Posted: 7/15/2006 10:13:02 AM
You know.. I don't see it that way... I think the computer has become a comfortable way to reach out..To talk to people.. We all work, get tired and stressed and there isn't aways someone at home to talk to.. To come home, tired and stressed..But have to clean up, look our best and be bright and energetic enough to "go out" and meet someone?? We don't feel "that" good.. But it's cool to "meet" while looking tired, crappy and worn out>> ON LINE I honestly don't think people are "frantic" for relationships.. This is just a place where there is a concept of the possibility that somthing good might happen..And happen from the comfort of our own homes.. Cause yeah, we all want a "soul mate"..( thats what people call it) Of course we do.. But "frantic" to find one ??? I Don't see it that way at all. If not for the computer, most of these people would stay settled into their lives, thinking "someday" it will happen.. They are just taking a extra step cause it's here..... Adding a extra possibility to the "someday" concept... So very much dought the "frantic" evaluation of the people on here..

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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why would a man do this advice please Posted: 6/26/2006 11:31:41 AM
Saddest but probubly the truest reason....................... He had been broken up with the woman he was in love with and she came back to him. Some people advise letting it drop..But having an answer is not asking too much. I would persist in seeking one for as long as you feel comfortable doing it... But to drop you with no word, for any reason........... Is cruel, and cowardly. Not good qualities in a potential partner anyway.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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its harder for an attractive woman to find real love Posted: 6/23/2006 2:10:53 PM
I read a lot of the replies here.. And I have also observed that attractive people get less, because people assume they think they deserves it. I have observed them get less help because people assume they are always being helped. I have observed them get less help because people are not going to rush to their aid because they assume they feel they deserve it... I have observed their lives made more difficult because some people feel they need to even the score...level the playing field... Also dumping an attractive person comes with less guilt, or compassion, because after all "it's easy for them to find someone else"... Forgetting that inside there is a heart and emotions just like everyone else. And the list goes on.. I have seen the opposite assumptions for less attractive people.. They must be nicer because people assume they have to be to get any attention. People help more assuming they are doing somthing for them that they must rarely get. And that list goes on.. I think beauty is in th eye of the beholder..And even the least attractive person can see themselves as "all that"...And a more attractive person not see it in themselves at all. Just the answers the question posted got, shows the attitude a person gets for even thinking they might be treated different because they are attractive. Quite a few nasty remarks. Had the woman said she felt treated different because she was ugly she would have gotten sympathetic upbeat, kind and helpful suggestions. Most people that are stuck up feel superior..And I have found that money and status play a bigger role in that than looks.

celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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how do u move on when a wife finds out Posted: 6/21/2006 7:33:45 AM
It always amazes me when people expect sympathy when their intention was to break someone else's heart... So boo hoo... You broke your own.. So suck it up..

Celh

Joined: 3/28/2006

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Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?... Posted: 4/15/2006 11:49:07 PM
On your profile you posted that you like misfits ..tattoos, a few other things that sort of go along with the whole "bad boy" scenerio... Maybe, just maybe it's not you at all..But the men you choose...

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