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mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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you guys ever? Posted: 3/17/2007 12:38:21 AM
Yes. Last Summer, I was on here and Match at the same time. Since there were not very many quality ladies in my area, I ventured out to the closest metro area some 200 miles away. I came up with hundreds of ladies in my search, so I really trimmed it down and had abut 150 to look through. One wonderful face caught my eye. Her sweet honest profile really did it for me, I had to write. It would turn out that she had only been on for a month, had gotten over 200 responses, but what I wrote to her really stood out: "If I were walking on a busy street and saw you, I think I would trip over thin air or a crack in the sidewalk and make a total fool of my self in a delightful episode of distraction." I am not sure where I came up with that, but I am glad I did. We met and fell deeply in love, have been dating for about 8 months. My 40th birthday is coming up soon, so she wants to get me something really special. One day last week, I blurted out that I need a new back country snowboard since I broke mine last year. So she has been lovingly hounding me for the link to the site where she can look at it. I think it costs too much and besides, I can get a pro deal on it and save about 40%, so I have been trying to talk her out of it. So....last night, I get this cute idea: I write her saying here is the link. When she clicks on it, instead of a snowboard, she finds a incredible jewelry designer's selection of Bridal sets...:-). That pretty much turned her to jelly all day. I met her on Match. You have to pay for that site, so people are apt to play less games. Take a chance, I did and I now have the most wonderful woman I have ever met in my life..:-)

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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2.1 million women in Colorado...Where are you then? Posted: 3/6/2007 9:04:42 PM
Just thought I would check in on this thread since I started it. In Aspen, I see the same ol' party chicks who like the party guys and these women are in their late 30's. The guys they like are in their late 20's and early 30's. All of them act like idiots as they constantly brag about their hangovers. As for me, I am still doing great with the girl I met on Match.com who lives in Thornton ( sorry, to much BS on POF ). We have been together for over 7 months are are totally right for each other. She will move up as soon as she can sell her condo. You know, I was starting to believe it was all me that was wrong, but there are tons of F__ked up women in the world, shallow, mean spirited. But there are a few good ones left and I got lucky. Now all the girls in Aspen are giving me the flirt and I don't give them the time of day, they had their chance and lost it. As for Aspen in general? It is a brilliant place to live if you can find an in. It ain't all high and mighty types. It is home. Good luck folks, this is my last post.

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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2.1 million women in Colorado...Where are you then? Posted: 11/12/2006 2:59:44 AM
Match.com with ladies in the Denver / Boulder area worked. I have been dating Amy now for over 3 months and it has been SO nice to be with a real good hearted / down to earth woman. We both want the same things, are tired of the games and the immature drinking crap people like to do well into their 30's. But best of all, we really dig each other, had massive chemistry right from the first moment. Since I am self employed, I can and do easily split my time up between Denver and Aspen. What a doll she is!!!! I knew I deserved better than I was getting. Amy did too, now we are both really happy!! I am officially taken..:-).

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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Rules of attraction Posted: 11/12/2006 2:41:52 AM
The whole photo thing can be messed up. I mean, they really do help you weed out the ones who are not your type, but everyone looks different in real life. Almost 4 months ago, I gave up on this site and I just about gave up on the others, match, yahoo. You see, I live in a ski town, the ratio is 3 or 5 to 1 depending on season height. The girls here know this and take full advantage of it, treat men like total shit. Of course, there are great gals here too, but they are taken, of course. So, one night, I was changing my search criteria and decided to try the Denver / Boulder area. I found literally hundreds of girls that I would date. But one girl caught my eye. She was truly a wonderful looking wholesome, loving person from her profile. I gave it a shot. We hit it off, talked on the phone, emailed, texted and could not wait to meet each other. Now, I know what you might be thinking, we met and it flopped, right? Wrong. We met after one week of correspondence and sparks flew. Our photos had not done us justice, the woman I met in person is even more beautiful than the one in any of her photos. We are now totally in love with one another, both on the same page and it is going great. I just came here tonight to clean up my web presence since I am no longer available.

mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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~What did you accomplish today?~ Posted: 8/20/2006 9:52:20 PM
I turn 40 in 8 months. Trail run at 8,000-14,000 feet three times a week. I routinely out perform my peers of age 30. Good friend is a world famous mountaineer, hero from "In to Thin Air". He is 43 and often blows my doors off. Got up at 7AM, one final prep to my gear and out the door. Ate cottage cheese with mandarin oranges, met up with buddy and started hike. Got to trail at 9,500 feet. Helicopter flew in and landed, body recovery of fall victim on South Maroon, Maroon Bells ( do search ). Shot images of my pilot friend Doug doing spotting flight with sheriff. Talked with ground crew and mountain rescue about what happened ( I have climbed the pair of nasty peaks 3 times ). Started up trail, stopped at lake to shoot stock images of folks, got model releases. After a few stops for more pics, I got to the top if the pass at 12,400. Storm rolled in, lots of lighting and thunder, bailed off pass just in time to get soaked. Pulled batteries out of pack pocket and stowed them deeper to avoid shock. Storm cleared, shot more pics. Got back to lake, chilled for a few and got to my truck. Later arrived at Benedict Music Tent for final Summer Music Festival orchestra concert, said hello to dozens of friends and shot panoramic film pics. Got home, moved helicopter photos to Rocky Mountain News, showered, ate leftovers, called my sweet new gal in Denver I met on Match a month ago. Done uploading 6 GB of pics from today, time to sleep. More tomorrow.....

mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE???? Posted: 8/15/2006 10:59:37 AM
Novakin....Hmmm... "9. Must not believe that aliens actually land on our planet (if there is even such a thing as aliens) BTW - you wouldn't believe how difficult it is to fill this one!" I thought men were from Mars and Women from Venus?

mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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Light... Posted: 8/11/2006 2:56:30 AM
"Light.... You ALL see me. Light... You ALL feel me. Bright..... Hope shines brilliant upon you, you shine well upon.... me. Hate is fading for all, I love you all, you love, all, you see. My GOD!............. Wait until you see what I have to show you. wait until you see......... Suspend until that is what's good bestows upon you, the light of...............me. Humbling humanity I give you light. I am one of you, I am in utter teeeears as I write you this, I can hardly breathe, you can hardly see me, you truly can not believe.....my god, you have so to rejoice...... But you will, you will breathe, You will. I can not believe how I shine, How I mirror what is to be..... the shrills that ensue me......I shake...... For all my life I have not been vague, but I have been ever connected, ever burdened with the semblance of otherwise, wise to be. Fair people, I don't know what this is? All I know is that it is truth, powerful gut wrenching truth, in me. And when we least expect it, The song, the simulcast of spirit, the eruption of us, will....shine upon our lost, feeble souls. There are no losers here. So love our black, white, pale, yellow, old and new faces.....but not our "me". We are all so inside. We are ALL so divine! Can you feel me now? Light............... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Can you feel God's love outshine the desperate hum of uncertainty? Of course...... I am merely the pipeline.... You are too.... . . . . . . I love my enemy. That's right, I love you. I love your hate. I love your pain. I love you.......... I love you, so become it..........you. I even hear JESUS, he has told, we are new, he is old, we are true & he is too. I am who you are as a free being. Hate is a waste of your light. I need your light.. We need your light... You are your light.... We are all going to be there, in the, My, your............l i g h t. the light Grace's our trust. Feel your hands, touch them. Touch me. Touch you. Feel your face, feel your song. Feel your song in this life. Now get your groove on...... That's right.............. Get............ It............ On................................................................. . . . . . . . . . . . . Were watching.......so RIGHT ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mountain_art

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2.1 million women in Colorado...Where are you then? Posted: 7/27/2006 7:28:06 AM
Well it looks like POF is just a so-so method in this state for good dating. I took my search a step further and put up a full blown profile on Match and it is actually working. Of course, no one from my town, but at least one nice 38 year old artist from just 20 miles away. We are having lunch today, she remembers me from another time. Now from Denver / Boulder? Lots of ladies have responded, all perfect age groups, activity and interest backgrounds, 32-42, fit, kids, no kids. Some have even taken the first step and even contacted me first. I have not really contacted any ladies on here from the Denver / Boulder area because they have distance restrictions and that makes it impossible to even do that. Maybe I will take another look and see who is open to someone living in a wonderful valley in the mountains, away from the pollution, heat and crime. I can do a lot of compromising, but I just can't do the cities ladies. I grew up in Southern California, just too unhealthy a life for me. Match is a good reality check and I am not so sure POF is on the same level. It is free after-all.....

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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does this really i mean really work Posted: 7/20/2006 8:47:58 AM
Z28, I might just have to ask you out, you are just too sweet!

mountain_art

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Why dating athletic and in shape people is a bad idea Posted: 7/20/2006 8:42:45 AM
For me, it is not about how a person looks, it is about how one feels, energy level, health and all. I am a professional mountain athelete of sorts. I have to be in good shape or I don't put food on the table or pay the bills. I have had partners in the past that fit that description. I still need that to a degree. If you have a few pounds on your rear, so be it. But can you keep up with at least half of what I do? Otherwise, we will never see each other...and that is a bad thing.

mountain_art

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Surrounded by over weight women in Houston Posted: 7/20/2006 8:14:43 AM
When I fell in love with my ex-wife, she was nearly 40 pounds overweight. I never complained. After a year and a half, when coming back from an overseas deployment, she had lost it all and it did not return. I have to admit, she looked much better that way, but the moral of the story here is that I loved her for who she is on the inside. Now I live in a town where one has to look really hard to find obesity or even a bit of pudge. For me & like other people up here, it is an issue of health and ability to keep up with my active lifestyle. ....But I would never go as far as to be as rude and demoralizing as you have here. That is really shameful and I think that you owe these folks an apology.

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 7:56:43 PM
"from what i understand, CO could use some good ol' Texas charm...jk..lol...don't shoot me" As far as ladies go, that would be an understatement...come on over and teach them a thing or two girls!! I told my buddy today I would give Aspen 10 years in terms of finding a mate. He thought I was crazy. I have been here 8.5 years. Thing is, I am really well known, successful and have one heck of a niche in my community. On top of that, I am not really aging out here like I was in LA. If anything, I am getting in better shape, better connected to my true spirit. There are 54 peaks over 14,000 feet high in this state, I have climbed 50 of them. I can't live without this life I live. I am a photographer who gets to climb, ski, hike and eat at fine restaurants not only for a living, but a life. Heck, I have even appeared on Good Morning America, I won't find a life anywhere close to this elsewhere. I am just hitting my prime here but I spend every...and I mean every single night alone because I hate the bar / drinking scene. I lost my baby brother to that crap so I will have a brew once and awhile and like to party a bit with friends but not the shallow bar dating scene. So I will stay for another year and a half and then maybe move to Boulder with the rest of the 1,000,000 people stuck in traffic getting to the ski areas and great hikes. Until then...I know there is some really great girl who loves to hike and climb that is looking for a guy like me. Maybe she will find me in time, before I give up the life I have worked all of it to attain. Then again, maybe not.

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:40:00 PM
So is it possible to turn this thread into one that is benificial for more people? I think so. I suppose that if things keep going the way they do in my area for me, I might relocate. If you knew what kind of a life I lived where I am at, you woud think I would be crazy to. How many of you, male or female, would relocate then?

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:34:07 PM
Thanks Tiff! Have a great day

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:30:17 PM
Then I will re-word it. And how stupid is that we can not draw attention to our selves but it is a dating site. This is a tough new age we are in, we need to increase the chances of bieng seen. I am a different kind of guy, I will not be a good fit for everyone so I have to put my self out there in hopes that I am what someone is looking for. I know who I want, I just have no idea in how to reach her. How would you feel if in a 75 mile search, you got 15 results with a BIG age grouping too...

mountain_art

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Any nice Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:25:32 PM
I posted a thread on this and it is already getting voted out: I am casting my net a bit wider here. I live in a world famous ski resort in Colorado and love it. I have noticed that lots of folks from Texas come to visit. I am pretty easy going, have a really fun career with lots of perks that can be shared. I am fit, active, young minded, fun, but not a bar trolling idiot. I am looking for a woman about 30-40 give or take a year or two that would like to be married, have children or already have them. Read my profile though, you need to be able to keep up a bit or at least be interested in trying. There are not very many single women where I live though, lots of guys, pretty people and it is tough here for the average looking "Nice-guy" like me. Many of my guy friends who are happily married had to "Import" since the single girls here like to party like a teenager well into their 30's and love the "Flavor or the week" approach to fulfilling their needs for company. So take a look at my profile, it is a mountain lifestyle that I live. It is not really too much to ask for to have someone to share it with when I see so many here do have that. Just something to think about....

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:21:08 PM
On second thought, go ahead and delete it, if this is what you are all about, I really need no part in it: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4721240.aspx

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:09:34 PM
How should I ask this question then guys? Instead of voting me out of Texas, how about telling me how you would go about it. This is just wrong... Say something that will turn this into an imformative thread then, don't just bash it because you think it is an invasion..

mountain_art

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Where are all the good guys??? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:08:04 PM
We are in Colorado too, I posted a thread on it, but I am getting voted out. By the time you read it, it will say, thread deleted. It's called "Any Texas ladies willing to relocate?

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 12:00:29 PM
So who is voting this as a self pity thread? Ticked off guys that don't like their "Turf" getting invaded? How in the heck are we supposed to gauge what is possible then, HUH GUYS??? I want to find a good lady, there are not that many in my area. Is it TOO MUCH to ask for to see how people feel about it? What about the thread called "How far will you drive? This is kind of about the same thing? Give a guy a chance, huh?

mountain_art

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Plentyofmoms.com Posted: 7/19/2006 11:51:53 AM
"I think there are more women on this site than men.. PERIOD!" Not in my area....not even close. I do a serch in a broad age range and get the following results: 25 miles, 2 50 miles, 8 75 miles, 15 100 miles, 200 150 miles, 469 In other words, they all live in the city...Denver / Boulder. I am not willing to relocate, I can't, I have worked since childhood to live here.

mountain_art

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Plentyofmoms.com Posted: 7/19/2006 11:38:00 AM
Why is that sad? Women have children, men act like idiots and cheat, abuse, lie and leave their families for the next hottie who has not had a c-section yet. I for one, want a family. The last relationship I was in, she has two wonderful kids. She did not like to go out and get wasted with her "You-go-girl" "It's raining men" girlfriends and I would think that most women with children would not want to. Kids change things, but that does not mean life stops. You were a kid once too. Oh, sure, me at age 39 living in a town of superficial bar flys...I might find a nice girl 30-40 that does not have kids to go out with, but not likely bud. I am more open minded now. I realize that I may never get to have a kid of my own, so I would love to make someone elses kid's life that much brighter. I am responding harshly because your title is outright rude, dude.

mountain_art

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Are Texas ladies willing to relocate? Posted: 7/19/2006 11:24:36 AM
Please don't vote me out!!!!! Do a search for ladies in my area and see what I am up against. I am just trying to get an idea of what is possible before I start spending time emailing people. I am casting my net a bit wider here. I live in a world famous ski resort in Colorado and love it. I have noticed that lots of folks from Texas come to visit. I am pretty easy going, have a really fun career with lots of perks that can be shared. I am fit, active, young minded, fun, but not a bar trolling idiot. I am looking for a woman about 30-40 give or take a year or two that would like to be married, have children or already have them. Read my profile though, you need to be able to keep up a bit or at least be interested in trying. There are not very many single women where I live though, lots of guys, pretty people and it is tough here for the average looking "Nice-guy" like me. Many of my guy friends who are happily married had to "Import" since the single girls here like to party like a teenager well into their 30's and love the "Flavor or the week" approach to fulfilling their needs for company. So take a look at my profile, it is a mountain lifestyle that I live. It is not really too much to ask for to have someone to share it with when I see so many here do have that. Just something to think about....

mountain_art

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2.1 million women in Colorado...Where are you then? Posted: 7/18/2006 6:13:40 PM
Hi Liberty, I sure as heck don't go to bars other than meet up with friends. I don't go for looks so much as common interests and personality. Fitness, not being a big drinker or smoker are things that I have not ever needed to compromise on and still wont. It's this town...the ratio is horrible and the women who are not taken...and that is very few, they are SO picky and have poor attitudes, I feel like I don't even come close to making the grade with all the competition. Women get hit on SO much up here that they either get an attitude of perfection themselves or are just plain worn out. I just did a search ages 18-40 within 25 miles of Aspen and came up with 5 results. One brand new one, age 32, will only accept replies from ages 30-35...so many f_cking choices, why settle? Right? I can't leave though, this is the right place for me. So I have resigned to being single and that is the way it will probably stay.

mountain_art

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 6/5/2006 7:41:30 PM
Ya know something? I never get asked that question. I am a single 39 year old guy in Aspen, heaven on earth and hell for dating, no one in their right mind would ask me that, LOL. Now when I complain about it to my friends that I can never seem to meet anyone here, I get the "It will happen when you least expect it" line.

mountain_art

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2.1 million women in Colorado...Where are you then? Posted: 5/22/2006 10:12:59 AM
Huh? Richie-rich? I said I am succesful, not wealthy. Hit and run? It is my lifestyle of an outdoors nature that brings me happiness, not any material things... Besides, I have figured that any woman who would want to live in Aspen and live this kind of healthy and adventurous life....already lives here. That is my best bet, most likely not POF.

mountain_art

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Enough Already Posted: 5/16/2006 7:55:02 AM
[qoute] This is my final post on this subject. I can't believe how many men got their shorts in a knot because they DIDN'T READ the d*mn thread. This thread was created in response to numerous "old lady" bashing threads. I didn't even write the first paragraph, I just COPIED it from a woman bashing thread and changed the word "women" to "men". Oddly, most of the men missed the point and instead of actually THINKING about what I was saying, they just vented their hatred and bitterness against women yet again. I was trying to make a point....that we ALL age.... men AND women. No sex has the ability to get older without suffering the effects. If you want to stay attractive you have to work at it regardless if you are male or female. Old saggy men do NOT look any better than old saggy women....not ever.[/qoute] Well, I hate to tell you this, but you failed at what were trying to accomplish, still nor sure what that was either. Anyone with some common deceny and common sence knows what age does. See the qoute marks up above? How in the heck is anyone supposed to know that you did not write the first paragraph? It's not like I spend everyday on this forum and can read your mind. Let me "qoute" you on the one thing that you said that is the main reason I am ranting, correct me if this was not directed at me: "Oddly, most of the men missed the point and instead of actually THINKING about what I was saying, they just vented their hatred and bitterness against women yet again." Good job, this was rude and uncalled for, who vented their "Hatred" for anything? What a load of internet crap!

mountain_art

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I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... Posted: 5/16/2006 1:10:33 AM
Hmmm.....I am 39. You tell me, Am I past my prime? Have I let it all go? Do you see any "Jowels"? It goes both ways lady... ....I'm starting to think this site is a total waste of time.

mountain_art

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How long to wait to date someone new after breakup? Posted: 5/16/2006 12:52:28 AM
I was with her for 2 1/2 years. I did not even think about dating for at least a year. It is going on two years and I still question if I am ready. No one has even come close...I think I lost the right one..

mountain_art

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'GOLD DIGGER' women who check for income amount... Posted: 5/16/2006 12:32:22 AM
I make over $150K. If I were looking at you ( which I would not because you are in AZ ) I would skip right over you due to the money thing. It is my opinion your thinking is selfish and flawed, I would skip right over you dear. ....maybe this is because I live in a town full of millionaires and billionaires...and gold diggers...who make me sick ( the diggers ).

mountain_art

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Women from Ontario & B.C. Posted: 5/15/2006 7:37:26 PM
Not only are they good looking, they seem more laid back, less superficial and have a wider age bracket when describing who they are looking for. And there are SO many of them!! I have a client in Vancouver that I need to visit, at this point in my life, I would strongly consider re-locating.

mountain_art

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do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 5/14/2006 9:19:26 PM
I have to say I agree with this. I am 39, I really can no longer to expect to find a woman my age bracket ( 29-42 ) that not only don't have kids and want them, but want a serious relationship ( In my good ol party town anyway). The last relationship I was in was by far the best I have ever been in. She, 33, two kids, 11 & 8, I loved a lot of what we had. It fell apart for reasons that I still feel terribly about. But it taught me one thing for sure: I want a family and I am more than willing to date a woman who is a single mom. ..........but I am thinking I might need to move to Canada.

mountain_art

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PHOTOGRAPHY and FILM!!! Posted: 5/7/2006 12:50:05 AM
Go to APUG.org. That is a good site for film use. I shot an ad campaign in my 35mm panoramic Hasselblad on Fuji 100 & 400 Neopan, it looked great, the client made 20x60 inch prints from it and it was stunning. I shoot about 70% digital ( two Canon 5D's ) and the rest film for my work. I am about to start a 2 year documentary for National Geographic on a certain color film that is quickly dissapearing, could make history if I do it right. Don't buy into that film is dead crap. It is far from it. I don't have 1,200 feet of Kodak Techpan in my lead lined film freezer for nothing...:-).

mountain_art

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Can a true nice guy get a chance? Posted: 4/25/2006 10:03:42 AM
Message #38 from KuteKat: " I work in the nightclubs so geting laid is NOT a problem for me." Wow, what a total turn off.

mountain_art

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Big world-small world.. Posted: 4/25/2006 9:10:02 AM
Thanks for the replies. I agree with the posting on the forums more. I also agree with the women wanting to be pursued thing, that is just nature. I am not looking for a miracle to happen here, so I am not all that disappointed really. The problem with this site is that most the women who are open to finding a mate live in Denver or beyond. There are very few that live nearby. None right in town or even 30 miles away. There are a lot more from my town on Yahoo and triple that on Match.com. On the attractive thing, well, that is subjective. Perhaps I should say "That I find attractive" or "who attracts me? Don't know.....I am really not That picky. This could be a good topic for a thread then, how does one voice the need for that attraction without sounding superficial or shallow? I think that is one of the problems with internet dating or the internet in general. You can't see a person's expression, hear their tone. It is often easy to be misunderstood it would seem. Again, thanks for the replies, more are welcome.

mountain_art

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Big world-small world.. Posted: 4/24/2006 11:49:21 PM
It's a big world out there, you never know who you might meet. But it is a small world, the one I live in, so my profile is pretty specific, probably too much so for most. So I did a few revisions and tried to keep it open and friendly, but still honest. I don't know if I will stay on POF for too much longer as I believe who I am hoping to be with is most likely right in my own small town. I know many will find it too "National Geographic" or "Discovery Channel", but the activities, values and goals are who I am and I can't change all of them. Is it too much of me on display? I have lots of friends who live similar lives here and have a wonderful soul-mate to share it with. Am I dreaming that I can do the same? I am beginning to think so...

mountain_art

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Msg: 28 (view)

She wanted to be engaged and had a timeline Posted: 4/24/2006 10:04:23 PM
catwmn wrote: "My mother had one date with my father and told me she knew that he was what she wanted. Over 50 years later, they are still together." As this world reaches a critical mass....and it is very, very quickly, this is getting to be more and more rare. Through the internet, mass media and pop culture, especially in the U.S., mankind is losing touch with the natural world, reality, faith and hope. There is less and less respect for life ( Not meaning I am pro life ), nature, love and the gifts that are true love and togetherness. "There is always something better around the corner". "There are plenty of fish in the sea" "Why should I settle?" "I want a man who has horses, is between 5.341-6.822 feet tall, is well built, makes $150+++..." "I am too independant, I love bieng single...at 36" ....the list goes on....... How sad....

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Thank you, Thank You... Posted: 4/24/2006 9:49:32 PM
....For posting this thread!! I fell in love with a woman who I had much in common with. She lived 170 miles away and we dated pretty serious right off the bat. She was 31 at the time that I met her, I was 35. She had two children and was separated and living at home with her mother. After 3 months, we got an apartment together, kids and all. I took on a TON of responsibility. I loved being a dad and all the quality time we spent together. Some 3 months later, we lightly spoke of getting engaged and maybe getting married a year later. Well, after 6 months of living together, things started to go wrong. She tried to change everything in my life, I got very isolated, lost nearly all my friends and worked far too much to make end meet. Things just got tougher and tougher. When a year had passed, I was getting serious pressure to marry her, she seemed to be so crushed that after only one year of knowing her, I did not marry her. I was stunned. I was put off by that since we were not in that great of place at times. As time went on, lots of things just got worse and worse. She basically sabotaged the relationship and after 2 years, it went south. While I know that it was most likely for the better, I still feel the loss to this day, some 19 months later. This post has helped me not feel so bad about all the hell I went through. Thank you.

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Dream chasers...good or bad?! Posted: 4/24/2006 8:26:00 AM
When I was about 10 years old, I decided that the all-on-the-same-path, get that pension going lifestyle was not for me. I sacrificed a lot to avoid it, was out on my own at age 15, working up to three jobs to make it happen. Now I am 39, live a life only some can dream of, others dare not to. I get paid to do what others have to pay to do. I hang out with past presidents, billionaire's and movie stars for all that is worth. I also spend 80% of my time outdoors in the high country. I never started my dream chasing or career for money, that is all to shallow to me and would miss the point of talent development. Now I have total freedom, success and plenty of funds to explore new ideas with and help others. I have often paid dearly for this. Sometimes in the form of broken relationships. But I have no choice in the matter, it is who the man ( or woman ) upstairs has designed me to be. Don't hate me for being successful, happy, living in a resort and somewhat famous, I worked my ass off for all of it, no hand outs, ever. ....and yes....I would do it all over again. PS: The only downfall is that I have a hard time finding a mate who is understanding and not inimadated by all of this. I would LOVE to have a family now, while I am still young so I do envy those who have that.

mountain_art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 89 (view)

Ladies who only date younger men Posted: 4/23/2006 5:31:33 PM
Rabid, dude, I think are burying your self here... This is the net man, things here are different, I turned 39 last Sunday, but I live a much younger life. I have noticed that there seems to be a large contingent of women on the net, especially in the US versus Canada, that when they are 30-40 years old, they date perhaps a year or two older and much younger men, according to their profiles. I have only just started dating again in the last 6-9 months. I took time off to heal from a breakup from a relationship ( she, now 34 ). What I have found without a doubt is that in real life dating is that I attract and get dates with women age 28-38. It just so happens that we have the same things in common, music, athletic ability, zest for life and drive. I joined here to just cast my net a bit wider, you know? You never know who is out there kind of thing? While I have found a couple of nice friends here, I have seen a more realistic dating scene in the real world. So you know what? Women on the net that say they want a younger guy? Who cares? Why does it matter, they can want who they want. I am sure if they ( POF girls ) saw me ripping XGames style on my snowboard then hanging out with all my great friends with a smile on my face, caught my great aura, they would not think I was nearly 40. Most ladies peg me at 31-35 at least in this time of my life. I will say this though, most of my 35+ year old female friends who keep going for the younger guys keep getting hurt. They seem to be the most lonely and unsettled at times too. I understand that this does not apply to all people, but it seems to be the prevailing circumstance, at least in this little ski town. Age is irrelevant. You can shape your life into what ever age you want, sure, we all get older, but we don't have to become boring, lazy, bitter or any of that. Be young! It's all in your head!! So for those ladies who want the younger guys, let them be. Some will be happy, but some won't as they try find their own youth in someone else....

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 479 (view)

Why are you single? Posted: 4/7/2006 9:51:23 AM
I have not chosen to. About 18 months ago, I had a wonderful girlfriend who has two beautiful kids and loved many of the things that I do. She, now 34, kids 12 & 8, loved to fish, hike, camp, born and raised in Colorado, very attractive. I lost her because we both blew it ( mostly me ) and you just don't do that in a male dominant ski town like the one I live in. "You don't lose your girlfriend, you lose your turn" is a widely accepted saying here, sad but true. So why am I single? Because most of the women here either don't want a relationship, want a younger guy, want a millionaire, not a hundred thousand aire, but don't seem to notice me either way. Why am I single? I am beginning to think I have not fully paid off my karmic debt of the situation above, in all honesty. By the way, in classic Aspen style, she had a new guy in 6 months, go figure... PS, to the lady who emailed me last night who is 53: My mom is 56, It aint gonna happen hun, sorry.

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 1040 (view)

What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 4/6/2006 7:54:32 PM
Stud1978, glad you are just joking, because that would be really sad if you were not.

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 168 (view)

Do You Have a Self-Imposed Age Limit for Dating (or Whatever?) Posted: 4/4/2006 10:04:15 PM
LOL! I just read my post over again ( can't edit it for some reason ) and I sound as bad as the ladies I am pointing out...silly me. Really, I am open to meeting a great girl who is a good match, but after reading many profiles on here, I tend to think It might be more realistic to seek out women in my area. But I do tend to have an open mind..:-). Come on, age? How about life?? Mine is AWESOME!!!

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 166 (view)

Do You Have a Self-Imposed Age Limit for Dating (or Whatever?) Posted: 4/4/2006 9:37:36 PM
I'm glad someone asked this. I have noticed that the age to age corollary on the net is very different than the real world. Before I divulge my findings, I have to say that I am not on this site because I can't get a date, but to merely put my self out there for I am ready to be with the right partner and know who I am. In other words, "Hey! You never know, right?" So why not? You, reading this right now, could be the right one.... So, on the net and in life, I look for women who are between 27 and 40, pretty fair age range I think and not even that is written in stone. I am soon to be 39 and would like to find a woman who is up for having a family, or not, might even have kids her self, or not. Women who are in their late 30's to early 40's seem to be over the idea of having kids if they have not already brought them into the world so that tends me towards women who are 29-35. BUT, most of the women on here who are between 27 and 33 don't seem to date older than 35...amazing! It just blows me away when a 31 year old goes off and says. "And please, no offense, but no men over 35". I mean.....like....wow, what an out of touch place this can be. Now in real life, things seem to be totally different. I easily attracted women in their mid 20's through early 30's. The last woman I dated for 30 months was 32. The last few dates I have gone on, the ladies have been 28-35. I have been told I look 31-34. Who cares? I am young, fun and then some. But either way, I have not met one single women in real life that thinks the way many women do on on here. I am not 39 or even 38, I am a young, strong, healthy energetic man who's age is irrelevant. Ladies, you are missing out by judging me or any other guy like that. I get paid to snowboard, mountain climb, travel and live an exceptional life. I am not dull or boring and when I hit the high country, I can often leave guys 10 years my age flat out in the dust. This stamina carries over to other areas of my relationships as well I might add. During 2001-2002, I was on assignments all over the world, for 11 months. I got hit on constantly by women who were at least 10 years younger than me, cool, whatever, I guess. So...I have not been on here long but I can already tell that the woman I will get along with best is not on here, she is in my town or one like it. She is as passionate about living a great life in this great little ski town like I am. She places no silly age limits on her partner, she might be a bit younger than me, perhaps a little older, but she is not on the net. She most likely already lives in Aspen and we will find each other through living a good life. Birds of a feather flock together. I will now change my profile to reflect this change. While there are some really great girls on here in my age acceptance range who seem to be OK dating my age group, strangely, most are not. The ones who are seem to live far away. I will not relocate and I doubt many would on here either so I might be wasting my time. So after 6 days, I am done with dating on the net. I figure why go through the motions of proving to a woman that is 30-38 or lives too far away that I am a catch? There are great ladies right in my town who climb, ski, snowboard, hike, camp, travel, take care of them selves, are not shallow or party-girls-night-out-very-other-night types and are between 30-40 and know a good guy when they see one. It's been nice, but it has not been very real.....not even close. So congrats! Ladies, you made this guy reduce his interest to friends only on the net. So unless you find I am exactly what you are looking for and already live the same kind of life.....well, you have plenty of other 20-25 year old guys on here to vote on, lOL!!!!

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 999 (view)

What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 4/4/2006 11:48:35 AM
Canadian Chicka, all others, please take into account that not all guys in Colorado are like this "Hidden Treasures" guy. I don't know what his deal his, but he's giving the good guys of CO a bad name.....But then again, I'm sure most of the people on this forum have the mind to see that..

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 337 (view)

Relationships and Strip Clubs Posted: 4/1/2006 11:38:32 AM
I am not a church going guy, nor am I so straight laced that I won't notice an attractive girl or a nice smile, but for me, in no way is going to a strip club right when you are in a relationship. It's just not right in my book. I have never cheated on a woman or done this kind of thing even once when in a relationship. When I was in the Navy at age 20, I was in Vancouver, BC and a bunch of us went out and hit a club like this. I was quite put off.....and TRUST me, I LOVE the look of an attractive woman and know how to touch all the right places at the right times, but a strip club? Yuck!

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

this is unbearable!!! Posted: 3/31/2006 12:36:37 AM
Hang in there..It hurts, no one can give you all the answers. I have been in relationships that have ended OK and some bad. But in most cases, in a few months, I was on the mend and making a nice young lady laugh and smile even if only as friends. For me, this last time was different.... I live in a small ski town of 5,000 people. The ratio of women to men is not the greatest either, about 3-1 in favor of the girls in the high season, Summer / Winter and about 5-1 in the Spring and the Fall. There is a saying that is actually widely accepted here: "You don't lose your girlfriend, you lose your turn". I see her now and then, with her new dude, it still hurts, sometimes a little, sometimes a lot, sometimes as much as it did only a week after. I miss so much about her and deeply regret the part I had in the breakup. I know it is for the best, but I have not met anyone nearly as well suited for me as her since and I have even dated a few women in the last 6 months, nothing serious. It has been 18 months now, at a snails pace, slowly, but surely, it is getting easier to go on. I'm sure at 22 years old, living in a big city, you will do better than this soon to be 39 year old guy..

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 909 (view)

What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 3/30/2006 11:05:04 PM
No one to share a really cool life with, day in, day out, night after night. The possibility that I won't get to be a younger father if at all. I was married to my High School sweetheart for 8 years, I miss bieng married. It is nice to be free, I might go to Cambodia and finish a documentary I started....or maybe I will go with my buddies and climb the highest mountain in Greenland in May. Maybe now that I have, for the first time in my life, fully given up, it all might change........

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 244 (view)

WHY DO GUYS WITH AWESOME BEAUTIFUL WIFES CHEAT Posted: 3/30/2006 10:46:15 AM
Post #12 "Not that it matters, they weren't all dogs. I know I am shallow and need to be thankful for what I have, I guess im a spoiled brat, but the internet has made it so easy, I know thats an excuses. I really dont want to get a divorce, i need to just stop doing it." It's too late. Karma is going to get you and GOOD! I have seen it before. Guys like you give guys like me a bad name, sickening. This is a SINGLES site! How dare you come and here and spout off like you did. I was married from age 20-28, never cheated on her, never cheated on ANYONE dude! Why do guys like this end up married and I am still single??????

Mountain_Art

Joined: 3/29/2006

Msg: 103 (view)

Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 3/30/2006 12:10:44 AM
Hmmm.... ......Wait....... << I am a photographer / mountaineer who lives in Aspen, have for the last 8 years. I live a one of a kind, incredible here. But all the women in my dating bracket ( 28-40 ) want to do is party, flirt, cheat, party more, then leave. The other ones are taken. Any little sweetheart want out of Denver / Front Range? I sure don't want to live in the city so.............there you have it. Hello..:-)

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