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masterc_3

Joined: 3/30/2006

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Should I have stayed friends even though he dumped me? NC question Posted: 9/16/2008 8:17:51 PM
Honestly if he doesn't have the sense to be able to remain friends then he doesn't deserve to be friends with you anyway. I do think it was worth the effort because i am a firm believer in friendship after dating. Also dont let him finding someone new so fast be a downer for you either because that shows that he wasn't really applying himself to finding a special person, it was just him taking what came first. More than likely that will just become another future breakup. As far as meeting new people in a small town, it can be tough I am staying in a pretty small area. You said you're going to school there...maybe start by talking to some people you have classes with, join study groups, and hey...GO TO PARTIES!!! Just grab life by the horns and make the best of it (without neglecting your studies). If you get out there and enjoy yourself the friends will come naturally, and so will that next lucky guy!

masterc_3

Joined: 3/30/2006

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Desensitized -- VS -- Making the connection :-P Posted: 9/16/2008 7:52:37 PM
Well, the biggest problem is that a lot people dont know what to say (or how to say) things without seeming overly picky or making their profile so long that no one wants to read it. My only suggestion on this would I guess be to step up and be aggressive with the conversations and allow them time to gain comfort in talking to you. While being online builds some peoples ability to be open others it will make it feel impersonal to and they may not know how to react well with you. As for the people that lie, its just a fact of online dating. There will always be people that aren't going to be honest and are looking to manipulate people. Just make sure you are careful with it when you meet people, you know same old spill make it public, dont give personal information til you know them well, etc. Sorry this may not be the most definative answer you've ever gotten but I hope it helps.

masterc_3

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Limited experience, apparently a bad thing? Posted: 4/23/2007 11:14:53 AM
just advertise yourself as a low mileage model LOL...I might have to get that put on a t-shirt...

masterc_3

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Funniest thing ever happened to you during sex? Posted: 4/23/2007 11:04:34 AM
LOL!!! Wow, this conversation just keeps getting better and better. I can't wait to see what is still to come. Thank you all for making my day a little brighter!

masterc_3

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Limited experience, apparently a bad thing? Posted: 4/19/2007 8:01:46 AM
Thanks again everyone. Yeah I guess the whole thing is making sure you have the connection first because then they will deal with the faults and be more willing to give me time to learn.

masterc_3

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Funniest thing ever happened to you during sex? Posted: 4/19/2007 7:58:59 AM
HAHAHA...wow. Between the "rabbit" and the three year old there some funny stuff there...thank God I haven't had anyone walk in on me (human anyway) lol

masterc_3

Joined: 3/30/2006

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Shootings at Virginia Tech Posted: 4/18/2007 8:37:00 AM
Okay, lets face the simple facts. Gun control might have meant that he would have taken an extra day to find a gun to purchase it wouldn't have stopped him. The fact to this whole situation was that continuos abuse throughout the young mans life causes severe mental problems. This is something that possibly could have been dealt with if someone had recognized the severity of it, but what are we going to do? Should we take every guiet natured, loner type of person and put them into psychiatrists offices? I would hope not, that would probably causes more problems than it would fix! That would just be one more type of profiling! On top of that, this guy is not even from the US, he was Korean, which means that for all of you who are bashing the US over this situation and are saying that its just a problem in the US. How can you be sure that he wouldn't have done the same if he had instead gone to a college in Europe somewhere, or in Canada? His mentality is what was at fault and there is no real way to pinpoint everyone that has a problem of this nature ahead of time. Lets face the facts its a sad reality these days, that no matter where you are horrible things will happen and that you do have to watch your back. I dont care where you are in the world.

masterc_3

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Funny Funny Stuff Posted: 4/18/2007 7:48:35 AM
yeah...sorry, its much better when told aloud! but i guess if you could read faster you would have less difficulty with it

masterc_3

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Funniest thing ever happened to you during sex? Posted: 4/18/2007 7:46:57 AM
LOL thank you all...i needed a good laugh to get the day going!

masterc_3

Joined: 3/30/2006

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Funniest thing ever happened to you during sex? Posted: 4/16/2007 11:56:48 AM
What is the funniest sexual experience you have ever had....this one could get interesting! Looking forward to seeing some of the replies. I guess I will get this started, by far the worst thing and funniest thing at the same time. Right in the middle of it all her dog jumps on the bed and starts humping my leg. I wanted to kill the dog, but I was nice and just kicked it instead!

masterc_3

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 4/16/2007 11:08:50 AM
Well, I'm from McDowell County. Around here there aren't a lot of options without going over an hour down the road, but the best place by far around here for a first date would probably have to be the Sterling Drive In. Good food, quiet environment so you can talk and get to know each other.

masterc_3

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Differences between men and women Posted: 4/16/2007 7:41:10 AM
I hope this one doesnt get me killed but I thought it was funny... A little boy walks into his house one day and goes up to his mom and asks her what a pu$$y is, the mother suprised by this kind of question quickly replies that its another name for a cat. The boy still a little confused says ok and then asks what a b** is and the mother says that its another name for an excited female dog. The boy now really confused goes to the garage and proceeds to ask his father the same questions. The father then gets a playboy magazine off the shelf and draws a circle around the part of the picture and explains that that is what a pu$$y is, the boy now thinking that this made much more sense then says well what is a b** and the father replies, that is everything outside the circle!

masterc_3

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Funny Funny Stuff Posted: 4/16/2007 7:22:31 AM
Heres a funny joke I heard a while back hope you enjoy! There was an old man that lived on a hill with a large farm with his family, but they only had one animal on there farm and it was an ass. He decided one day that he was going to ride it to town to get some more animals, but there was a catch to it, it would only walk if you scratched it. So he did so and proceeded on to town. When he arrived there he saw a rooster in the window and decided that he would buy it, and told the teller he wanted to buy the rooster. The teller then replied sure no problem but we dont call them roosters here we call them**. So he bought it put it under his arm and continued on down the road where he saw a rabbit in the window and thought what a wonderful pet that would be for his daughter. He went inside and told the teller he would like to buy the rabbit, to which they replied sure but we dont call them rabbits here we call them pullets...which is a type of rabbit. So he bought the pullet stuck it under his other arm and went back down the road to return home but realized he had a problem and turned to ask a man nearby for a favor, and the man being a good person replied "sure anything what do you need?" The farmer was relieved and asked him if he would hold his**and pullet while he scratched his ass! Hope that makes your morning a little bit brighter!

masterc_3

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Funny Funny Stuff Posted: 4/16/2007 7:21:51 AM
Heres a funny joke I heard a while back hope you enjoy! There was an old man that lived on a hill with a large farm with his family, but they only had one animal on there farm and it was an ass. He decided one day that he was going to ride it to town to get some more animals, but there was a catch to it, it would only walk if you scratched it. So he did so and proceeded on to town. When he arrived there he saw a rooster in the window and decided that he would buy it, and told the teller he wanted to buy the rooster. The teller then replied sure no problem but we dont call them roosters here we call them**. So he bought it put it under his arm and continued on down the road where he saw a rabbit in the window and thought what a wonderful pet that would be for his daughter. He went inside and told the teller he would like to buy the rabbit, to which they replied sure but we dont call them rabbits here we call them pullets...which is a type of rabbit. So he bought the pullet stuck it under his other arm and went back down the road to return home but realized he had a problem and turned to ask a man nearby for a favor, and the man being a good person replied "sure anything what do you need?" The farmer was relieved and asked him if he would hold his**and pullet while he scratched his ass! Hope that makes your morning a little bit brighter!

masterc_3

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Limited experience, apparently a bad thing? Posted: 4/12/2007 7:04:36 AM
Ok...thank you all...its good to know that not everyone sees it as pathetic lol. It's just a personal choice that I made. I'm not into the players aspect of things and want to avoid getting labelled as that, because frankly a player isn't going to get the good girl with good intensions usually and thats what I am looking for. I dont expect them to be virgins considering putting in an application to be a nun but still lol, dont want someone who is too "open" (at least with their legs ).

masterc_3

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What is love? Posted: 4/9/2007 1:26:59 PM
Love...love is a deep sense of need for someone else that is in your life. Its passion, happiness, serenity, and pure blind devotion tied into one big knot. It's the way that one special person can make you smile no matter what, and the way you know that no matter how much fun something is...it would be better if they were there with you! Thats the best definition I can give you I guess...its pure driven emotion!

masterc_3

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Limited experience, apparently a bad thing? Posted: 4/9/2007 1:21:18 PM
LOL...yeah I dont think Im going to try to go the porn route :). LOL ... and I know that I am not exactly going to come out like a stallion the first few times. Its just the fact of worrying that when I get to that point in the relationship where I would be diong those things, its going to look kinda bad when I dont exactly set off some fireworks! LOL. Thank you

masterc_3

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My b/f of 6 months is still active on dating sites Posted: 4/9/2007 12:58:30 PM
While this may be something to be concerned about, it may not be. I have seen many people in the forums that use this site even though they have found someone. They do it simply for making friends and using the forum. Have you concidered this possibility. I would just ask him straight out and to the point, or you could try the manipulative way and flirt with a fake account. Just do something to see what is going on. Dont jump to conclusions like many of these people are telling you! Check it out, or you might lose something good.

masterc_3

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Limited experience, apparently a bad thing? Posted: 4/9/2007 12:50:04 PM
Honesty at its best coming out here...lol. I am 24 going on 25 and I have only had "sexual relations" 2 times, and to be completely frank with you I was drunk both times right before a trip to Iraq or it would have probably never happened then either! I always felt that there should be more to than a quick thrill. This poses a serious problem in todays society, because apparently women dont want to have to deal with the learning process. Why is this? Perhaps this is something I should just keep to myself, maybe then I wouldn't get shot down so much, but the fact is that I'm just not ashamed of it. I think its called "making love" for a reason. I want to really know there is something there before I go the extra step...it causes too much complication for a young relationship from what I have seen. Dont get me wrong I'm not saying that I have to have plans together for marriage just that I chose not to go that route in a casual dating situation. Why can't women seem to deal with this? What should I do to improve my chances?

masterc_3

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WHY do men just disappear?? Posted: 4/9/2007 12:36:55 PM
OMG! LOL! This whole post is killing me! Look you have stated this whole thing out as a huge stereotype here. I keep hearing stuff about how men are afraid of emotions or commitment, or how they are afraid to state their feelings, etc., etc., etc. That is some men, and I dont even for a moment deny that, but you shouldnt put down all men the way you are. I am only 24 so naturally my dating experience is somewhat limited but in my dating I have never once done something to intentionally hurt the person I was seeing. I will tell the woman how I feel, but at the same time I tend to be pretty kind in the way that I do it. I dont want to see anyone hurting, especially because of me! I would rather a woman come out and tell me everything about her right off the bat too...it'll save a lot of trouble later in the relationship for both of us. Thats why I make it very clear that I will answer any and all questions that anyone has to ask. I am not ashamed of my past mistakes they are simply lessons learned. All I can say in terms of the question is that God only knows why a guy/girl either one would do this. I would at least have the common curtosy to tell the truth to them, because hopefully in the end I would be lucky enough to have the opportunity to still be friends with them. I dont think you can ever have too many friends. The only reason I am not friends with the last g/f I had and broke up with is that she lives too far away and we just lost contact...but we did break up on somewhat peaceful terms (and that is despite the fact that I found out that she was cheating on me). So please please please dont generalize all men in these conversations because not all men are power hungry, egotistical, horomone driven pigs who only use the head on the southern part of their body for thinking. I wish all you ladies the best of luck with the pursuing of one of the "good guys." Apparently we are dying breed.

masterc_3

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Gods hands Posted: 4/9/2007 9:11:32 AM
This post reminded me of a poem that I wrote and I was hoping to get some feedback on what you all think of it! God's Hands Throughout life it often seems darkness dwells at all depths And that even the happiest of songs have sadness in their clefts Like the ups all end fast and downs are eternities long And that no matter how you try things always go wrong Disappointments flow like oceans with no way to damn them off And it seems youd do anything to stop it regardless of the cost But with faith in yourself and in the lord above You'll see that in the end it still will lead you back to our Gods love For some things we're denied because they're what we need the least And getting all we ever ask for would just lead us to the beast So celebrate your losses because they're all part of the plan And when you lose track of what to do just put yourself in God's hands

masterc_3

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Favorite Position? Posted: 4/5/2007 11:42:03 AM
HAHAHAHA OMG!!! LOL, thank you I needed a good laugh.

masterc_3

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Ethnicity are we still in the Stone Age Posted: 4/5/2007 11:41:02 AM
Isn't this an ethnicity question? Leave the other topics in the area they were placed in please! I didn't agree with his comments on children but I'm not going to harass him about it either. Everyone has preferences that is human nature leave it at that. Now on topic, I think interracial relationships are fine and would be more than happy to date an african american, latino, chinese, japenese, korean, dont care. But, my family wouldn't like it! Doesn't mean that it will stop me if I meet the right person. They are family and they will forgive, love is something that may only come once if you get a chance at it regardless of age race religion or number of children you just have to adjust to make it work or risk never finding love again!

masterc_3

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does anyone still believe in love? Posted: 4/5/2007 11:27:02 AM
Look, love is out there, the key thing I guess is patience. Well, and looking in the right places! Love is something that I dont doubt for a moment still exists its just a matter of finding that special someone and putting all your heart into it. The reason love is often concidered a dying breed is because so many people are shooting for the super model and it keeps the from seeing the glowing star that possibly resides within the slightly overweight person. Who knows maybe the girl or boy you spent so much time making fun of in jr high or elementary is the one that YOU belonged with all along.

masterc_3

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Favorite Position? Posted: 4/5/2007 10:53:26 AM
This may be redundant from a prior post by someone else...I'm sure it is, I just didn't see it and didn't want to go through 50 pages to see it. What are you ladies favorite positions to "pleasure" you?

masterc_3

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~An interesting riddle~ Posted: 4/5/2007 9:09:45 AM
It was proven that over 80 percent of kindergarteners correctly answered this riddle but less that 10 percent of stanford university graduates correctly answered lets see how long it takes someone to get it! (If you have heard it before please dont answer it). What is greater than God, meaner than the devil, the poor people have it, the rich people need it, and if you eat it you die?

masterc_3

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will I go to hell? Posted: 4/5/2007 9:02:16 AM
Im going to put it pretty simply here...it says in the bible that there is only one unforgivable sin, and its not divorce! It is using the lord's name in vain! So follow your heart, obviously this is a relationship and marriage that has been over for a long time, so end it officially and dont worry yourself so much! God will still be there when it's all over and you will see that!

masterc_3

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Humour & Intelligence vs Looks Posted: 4/5/2007 8:50:48 AM
As I see it...the only reason a woman would tend to pick the dull good looking one is because they had a reason to go talk to the guy first or the guy was confident enough to confront her! The funny nice guy was to scared to make a move, and you can't expect to be average looking and get the girls without at least making contact with them. So in the end confidence is the difference....push yourself to make the first move by at least talking to them, and start out as friends if nothing else, who knows what it can turn into and I know I can always use more friends!

masterc_3

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What is the biggest weakness in a man/woman? Posted: 4/5/2007 8:44:45 AM
LOL...well there are some that i saw coming I'm still waiting on the one that really suprises me I guess....and yeah I noticed that most of the posts in ask a man are women and as a woman are men...lol...not sure why that is, unless its because they are there posting questions anyway and decided to reply :)

masterc_3

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Guys I have to ask ? Posted: 4/5/2007 8:39:03 AM
Well basically I dont know what to say to this except that its probably because of the massive number of people there. You take say 10 million men and put them in the same place at least 100,000 of them are going to be egotistical morons. You have just experienced a part of that croud I guess. I can say from personal experience that sometimes just walking up and greeting someone without something especially attention grabbing can get you ignored alot of the time! However, it doesn't excuse the behavior of these men. I would never do the things that you have described in this post! I guess the reason being that I was raised in a manner that taught me that anything even remotely disrespectful is out of bounds, you just dont do it! Maybe you should consider moving to a smaller place where values are better instilled and where the number of jerks are lower. But in the end you will never fully escape the wrath of the horomone driven jerk now matter where you are...good luck to you and I hope the harrassment doesn't continue for you. If it does I agree kick em in the nuts, they might learn not to do it that way :)

masterc_3

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Guys crude question! Posted: 4/5/2007 8:21:38 AM
This is a really funny question, and honestly i think it depends on the guy. There are honestly a lot of guys that aren't necessarily "boob guys." In that case it might not be such a turn on for them. For the average guy however, I seriously doubt that they will toss you out of bed for doing it. Me, personally, either way I'm happy...a girl being on top is enough to make my day!!!

masterc_3

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What is the biggest weakness in a man/woman? Posted: 4/5/2007 8:01:18 AM
I was wondering what everyone thinks is a man's biggest weakness and a womans biggest weakness? (generally speaking, take this question how you want, whether men/women in general... or the biggest weakness they can have)

masterc_3

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What do I need to do? Posted: 4/5/2007 7:32:41 AM
Yeah, I am definately considering moving. I have been for a long time. I guess my biggest problem there is that I have a strong connection to my family and my best friends live here. I like the idea of being able to see my family at any given time, and moving to a big area wouldn't really allow that because there is nothing big near here. I really appreciate all the feed back from you all, and will concider where to go with this next. Maybe with a little luck I'll make the right decision, who knows!

masterc_3

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What's Up with all the Dam Kid's Posted: 4/4/2007 11:41:41 AM
WOW! Ok, I will admit that I have also noticed that a majority of the women on this site and others have children, but your approach to this is pretty harsh. The only reason a lot of the men on here dont have children is because they left them on the mom to take care of, and this is coming from a man. Its just a fact. Men leave them women to carry the burden (or blessing) of a child to care for, alot of times not even paying child support, and then have the nerve to ridicule women for being unwed mothers. While I do understand that this may not be you, it is a lot of men. If men would step up to their responsibilities this would be less of a problem, and if men and women would use better practices while having intercourse it would be less of a problem. I personally dont have a problem with being with a woman who has children. At that point you know they aren't a virgin, but how many virgins are there out there, most girls have lost their virginity by age 15 now. The only difference between the women with children and ones without is that one didn't get pregnant, and that you may have to step up and take care of someone else if you were to marry them. If you love them you will do that no questions asked, so does it really matter that much? Think about it...I look forward to your reply.

masterc_3

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What do I need to do? Posted: 4/4/2007 11:28:02 AM
LOL...yeah I try to get out and do sports every chance I get...I just want to take this opportunity to better explain the area that I am in to put it in perspective for all of you! My entire county consists of only 24000 people, and over sixty percent of them are elderly. That leaves you with only about 11500 people, now you need to take out the children in the area (age 17 and under) which is 16 percent of the population, you now are left with about 8000 people. Im not sure how many of these 8000 are over 30 but I can tell you it is a vast majority. The biggest things in my entire county are a wal mart, a small movie theatre, and a small bowling ally, and the best chance of meeting someone at any of them is wal-mart...go hit up the grocery isle? LOL. I do understand that it takes time, but at the same time when you are meeting noone to date much less have a serious relationship with something needs to change! I'm just hoping for something that I never really thought of to pop up and be a huge revalation I guess and maybe that is too much to ask for. I guess this post is just a shot in the dark!

masterc_3

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What do I need to do? Posted: 4/4/2007 10:37:46 AM
LOL, thats part of the problem. There are no clubs to join around here, no clubs to go to, no bars, no nothing. This area is as rural as it gets. The closest place to here with any type of "night scene" or even your basic kawanis club which is just a bunch of old people usually, is about an hour and a half drive from here. I can't make that kind of trip too much, not with work and military. It makes things tough. Thanks for the reply!

masterc_3

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What do I need to do? Posted: 4/4/2007 10:24:02 AM
I am from a small town in the middle of nowhere and honestly the "selection" here of women is pretty limited. I am not the type to go out to the club all the time and party, I used to be but even if I were still that way I dont think that is necessarily a good way to find someone. I am the type, I know I'm not a 10 in looks by any means...but I love who I am. I am just the type that wants to have fun with life because thats what its all about. Dont take that the wrong way though I take my future very seriously. I am the only 24 year old that I know that already owns a home, two cars, and works full time plus doing national guard. I am also the type to avoid trouble when possible, I dont like to fight and argue. My best friend always tells me that I shouldn't take as much from people as I do, but its just in my nature. I haven't had a girlfriend in 5 years...I have gone a few dates but they just weren't anything more than future friendships in the end. What should I do to help find a "significant other?" I like to think I would be an outstanding boyfriend and work hard to make sure that I have everything a family would need for when I have one. Anyone that has any input on how I can meet more people, and on how I can approach it in a way that improves my chances please let me know. Thanks!

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