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Joined: 4/1/2006

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Dating throw away and discard Posted: 5/21/2007 4:27:43 PM
Dating, until you meet the right person, seems to me to be 50% being rejected and 50% rejecting others. Yes, it is cruel, but we and they put ourselves out there for the chance to meet the right person. So yes, it can very cruel, but it appears to be what we must go go through to meet the right one. As the old saying goes, nothing good comes easy : ). Luck! Murunga

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The one thing you miss most when you are single Posted: 5/21/2007 4:20:35 PM
Companionship. Someone to share your life with. Murunga

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Do Men REALLY Like to Cuddle? Posted: 5/21/2007 4:17:50 PM
Absolutely! Its very nice with the right person : ). Murunga

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How should a very fit 40 year old dress? Posted: 5/21/2007 4:03:56 PM
I agree, whith whats most comfortable and appropriate. Murunga

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POF Gathering at Checkers, Sterling Hts, March 31st Posted: 4/2/2007 12:51:50 PM
Thank you to the few who worked so hard so that many of us could have so much fun! It was really a last minute decision on my part to come, but I'm so glad I did and I had a fantastic time! Of course, I ordered the fish (how appropriate, lol) and it was excellent. The band rocked and normally I don't dance, but...., well, it happened, lol. What a great turn out, I just wish I had more time to meet everybody. Thanks again to those who put this together, it was much appreciated : ). Murunga

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Help! - Should i feel marked!!!! After Divorce Posted: 3/31/2007 10:52:45 AM
Hello Joe I know how you feel..." i was married for many years to my wife. I thought everything was perfect. We both seemed so happy", and "She just said she fell out of love". These are the same things I felt and heard also so I can relate. Bottom line Joe is that you are not "marked" or "tainted", things just change. As much as we don't want them to, they do. Know that it probably wasn't you and it probably wasn't her, it was just both of you together. If your like me, you'll come to realize and know your a great guy with much to offer the right woman! So she's not the right woman anylonger, it happens. I know its hard, but if you take a good look in the mirror, I'll bet you see someone you like : ). I do and I know someone else will one day soon view me in the same way and appreciate me. And then my friend, you'll once again be loved : ). Murunga

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 11/5/2006 11:01:03 AM
Absolutely! I've met several people without pictures. Also, I've found many people to be much more attractive than they're picture, while some have been less. I believe too much emphasis is placed on the photo. Let me sit down and be with someone, see they're facial experssions, body laungage as they speak. See they're eyes when they communicate, they're smile when they laugh. Now that shows me far more than any picture. These things also present the person I'm meeting as they reall are and may shoe me somewhat who they are : ). Happy fishing all! Murunga

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What men should never wear on a date Posted: 10/15/2006 10:30:03 AM
What if you wear the hawian shirt with the painters pants????? : ) Murunga

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Women Writing to Men First? Posted: 9/17/2006 4:53:24 AM
I think it shows charachter. When someone puts themselves out there first, that shows me they are willing to risk, albiet little, to go out with me. I had a date last week with a woman that wrote me first. It was a fun time with a wonderful person : ). It doesn't happen often, but I'm flattered when it does. Also, a person that writes me first may receive a better chance at a date with me as I will expand my criteria for a person who initiates contact. Luck to al!! Murunga

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Oh Those Tears Are Falling Posted: 9/3/2006 5:26:21 AM
If stupid means you have the ability and desire to love and be loved, then I've got stupid written all over me too : ). I know it hurts, I know the pain. But when I'm ready, I'll go looking again. I'll probably be hurt a few more times, until I find that right somone, and I'm sure it will be worth it! Perhaps this is what it takes to not only find that person, but to recognize and appreciate them once we have : ). Don't blame yourself for being human and having feelings. Just try to be more careful where you put entrust them and with whom. Luck! Murunga

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Nothing to argue about. Posted: 9/3/2006 4:47:17 AM
Be very careful about you and/or your partner bottling up feelings! I was with a wowman for 12 happy years (lived with 5, married for 7) and we never once in all that time had an arguement. I thought it was perfect, but turns out it wasn't. A successful healthy relationship is all about sharing everything (I think, lol), good and bad, happy and sad, ect. Looking back I wish we had argued, then I'd know how she felt, or what she/I had been passionante about. Even in divorce, we never had a fight. I would however suggest to allways respect your partner no matter how mad you may get in a heated discussion. You don't want to regret something you may say : ). Luck to ya! Murunga

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what is wrong with men Posted: 9/2/2006 1:09:35 PM
I was looking for someone to share life with, but it turned out the woman I met was only interested in dating. So know there are guys out here looking for a relationship, not just a "toss". Luck! Murunga

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Loved and Lost Posted: 9/2/2006 9:37:19 AM
Thanks Jackie, I'll certainly have to pay more attention to where she is at instead of just where I'm at. I have much to learn, lol : ). Murunga

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Loved and Lost Posted: 9/2/2006 9:18:17 AM
I joined this site, like most of you, to find someone to share life with. I went out on many dates (40 maybe) and every meeting was the same, real nice people, great time, but no spark. Then I met her..... On our second date we kissed, and I fell in love. We dated for two months and things were going very well, then I went and messed it all up. I told her how I felt about her. Why is it that when your elusive, removed, or reserved your desireable but when your upfront and honest and share your deep true feelings she bolts? Anyway, after I told her I loved her, it ended. I know she was developing alot of feelings for me. She also told me she was scared of being hurt again. I know now I never should have confessed. I know now that I should of just laid back and let it happen. But it was how I felt and I guess your not supposed to say how you really feel. So I can only surmise that its ok to have deep feelings for someone but its not ok to share them. I know I moved to fast but its just how I felt. Next time, and I really hope there is one, lol, I'll have to adjust my speed according to how she feels and not how I feel. Loved and lost, it hurts alo! But it was soo wonderful, soooo beautiful, I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat, lol. Thanks for listening. Murunga ps, sorry my profile is removed, I'm just not ready yet.

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LADIES! Be VERY careful! Posted: 6/24/2006 6:06:23 AM
Sorry Cara-Lynn, thats just aweful! But I have to say it could have been worse. I've been on dating sites for about 3 months now and I was alarmed right away how much information people are willing to make available to total strangers. It occured to me early on that theses dating sites were prime hunting grounds for the cons. I'm just glad a few bucks, a bottle and some credit cards was all you lost. And I have to agree with those that say you can't blame yourself, I mean we have to put ourselves out there and open up to hopefully find what we seek. Yes, we should all be more vigiliant about our safety and our privacy, but we still have to put ourselves out there. Lets all use caution, common sense, and good judgement when inviting someone from the net into our lives. Hope your next date is the right one for you CL : ). Murunga

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2nd or 3rd time around......... Posted: 5/7/2006 9:26:52 AM
My answer would be yes. Besides being a fool (twice now), I'm a hopeless romantic, lol : ). I would have to live the person for a minimum 2 years (my last wife I lived with for 5 years before I'd marry her). Some of us just aren't quick learners : ). Murunga

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Your real name and your safety. Ladies, please read. Posted: 4/29/2006 9:22:32 AM
Correct, this goes for both sexes. But really, and I appologize for standing back on my soap box, but...... I can click on this site or similar sites and find out 1. If a woman (or man) is married, single, divorced, ect. 2. If she lives alone, her age. What type of build she has (which may be used to determine her strength). 3. If she has kids living with her, sometimes the childrens ages. 4. What city she lives in 5. Send a message and get a full name. Some sites show income levels. I mean its all there, everything it seems a bad guy would need to do dastardly things. I know we're all looking for someone and are willing to open up, but lets all (men and women) proceed wisely and safely : ). Thank you Murunga

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Your real name and your safety. Ladies, please read. Posted: 4/17/2006 3:41:30 PM
In many cases I recieved full names on the first correspondence. I'm sure a first name is probably ok. Just be safe guys : ). Murunga

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TEQUILLA RAIN........THE END OF APRIL?????????? Posted: 4/16/2006 7:11:40 PM
I'm very close to Novi and it sounds fun : ). So is it the 21st or 22nd? Murunga

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What happened to good old fashioned consideration Posted: 4/16/2006 7:07:18 PM
I don't mind when a person doesn't reply. This tells me all I need to know, that she's not interested. This is very clear to me. Now, when I get a short reply, its nice but I wonder if she's semi interested? Is she not interested? Is she interested but shy? Which might lead me to reply to her reply which would lead to rejection if she's not interested. So how long does the reply have to be? Many people communicate in different ways. In short, a no reply is fine with me and answers the basic question if their interested or not. It may not the best mannered approach, but it may the most painless. jmho : ) Murunga

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Your real name and your safety. Ladies, please read. Posted: 4/16/2006 6:53:38 PM
Ok, so I couldn't spell ananonimity (still can't), thats not the point, lol : ). I sent out a few messages with my email adress and got a few replies. In almost all replied email the sender used thier real names. I have also sent my Yahoo IM to a few people and they contacted me there too using they're real names in a few cases. Now here's my point, I don't know much about this site or how safe it is or isn't. I do know there are unsafe people on the internet that may look for just these types of opportunities! I am Murunga, its not my real name, until I get to know someone and feel comfortable telling them my real name. For your own safety, I think using your POF handle is fine until you feel comfortable with a person or get to know them a little. I'd feel better and know your safer if you do : ). I'll step off my soap box now, but I wish this could be posted where more people would see it. It just may help keep some nice person safer. Thank you Murunga

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Break up's Posted: 4/8/2006 4:17:41 PM
Hey, don't look at what it was, of what it could of been, or all you've lost, but instead, look at yourself. What do you see?....... I'm filing for divorce this week, I'm currently separated. Me and my wife have been together 12 years. We lived together for 5, married for 7. I loved her with all my heart. I gave her a very comfortable life. Hell, I even bought her a hot rod, lol. But alas, she told me she didn't love me any more. I think she is seeing another, but it doesn't matter now, its over. I still love her but I don't want to be married to her anylonger. I see it for what it is and wish her the best of luck! I hope she has a wonderful life! Now I look at myself, yeah, its sad, but life goes on. I am an excellent person and I have so much to offer a good woman! I love, am loyal, smart, and .....on and on. I won't be alone long, this I know : ). look at yourself, decide what it is you want, then proceed : ). I haven't dated a women in close to 30 years, lol. But I know when I do, they'll love me : ). Murunga

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