I've been in Tesco's loads of times... can't say it's ever made me feel horny.

I don't watch TV, just happened to see an infomercial about them while in a waiting room the other day. It's just another gimmick. They are hand weights, no more, no less. You could just as easily, and probably more cheaply, buy some regular hand dumbbells. But if you like them and you'll do it, why not? The best exercise is the one you enjoy the most because you'll actually do it. Good for you for working out.

Single = Free to date and no ties or baggage from an ex.
Divorced = Recently broke up from partner and divorced and getting back to a single life.
Separated = The same as divorced but possibly more that an ex may still be around and still not back to being single fully.

The definition to me isn't important but more how the person sees themselves pratcially and mentally in terms of looking for a new partner and how able they are to commit.

It's as if an alcoholic says they have given up drinking - but there's a bottle of whisky in the cupboard.

I think many of us are confused about the whole thing. We wanna find someone but it ain't happening. A lot of people here are saying that looks are critical but not everyone.

Ultimately if everyone was punching above their weight then no one would ever find anyone, because even when you met your equal both of you would consider the other not good enough. And I do think a lot of this is going on, especially as we get older because we tend to compare people we meet to others we have dated in the past, forgetting they were a lot younger then and naturally more youthful looking.

There are definitely some people who are prepared to look beyond appearance (to a degree). I met one 3 years ago. Problem is I then found out she only dated me because she thought I had money !

I also think that with endless lists of people to contact, we constantly think we can find something better. That didn't happen in the real world before internet dating, well not for me, but I am very concious of it now.

Thank you for posting this!!!!!!!! I'm going thru this right as we speak... and your right. Day by day is the only way. I'm currently thinking about moving myself, not to get away from him, but feel the need for a complete fresh start. So many things changed for me in the relationship, and not all for the good!!!!! MOVING ON!!!!!!!!

I’ve heard many people say “I’m not a model Christian” (of all ages). How can someone not be a 'Model Christian' and still be a 'Christian'; sounds like a contradiction. Surely a ‘Christian’ is either a ‘Christian’ or not? No different to those claiming to be a ‘Vegetarian’. Or ... do they mean ‘Not a model Vegetarian’, committing the ultimate sin of eating something with four legs and eyelashes?

Isn't it just possible that there is nothing wrong with him save the desire to cause untold misery for thousands of people?

I can see where you coming from and have been times where all I had would be on me and then I would kind of feel the way you do. Now I think to give away something (even my beloved i-phone) is not really a major problem in the grand scheme of things. If I have a lot of cash on me I usually split it anyway so if I did get mugged I'd have back up but at the end of the day it is just money.

Saying that never been mugged (probably look like I have nothing on me which is what I want to look like when I do have money on me) but weighing up a situation i guess is the key. If you really feel under threat of attack you have to try something (try push and run - can usually get a good start on someone just by the suprise element) and if you really think an attack is imminent then strike first (usually the first one to strike wins) and run. I think running the key here and we have a fight or flight response for a reason which is survival (think the flight less risky and I dont think the fight response evolved at the same time as a legal system assessing 'reasonable force'). My only problem with this is as a smoker I have visions of me running then being caught up by someone and at that point I'd be too puffed out to have any fight in me :( but most people wont follow - they muggers not athletes.

One thing though is dont wear expensive jewellry if you in 'bad areas' or pull out expensive phones etc. in certain places and try and avoid being a 16-24 year old male if you can (think thats the most attacked demographic). Fighting back even if you in the right can be a real legal headache.