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 Author Thread: How hard do you work on POF?
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 102 (view)
 
How hard do you work on POF?
Posted: 8/22/2012 3:36:02 AM
you need to reply to the unattractive women with good profiles and proximity
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Profile review for a new member please!
Posted: 8/22/2012 3:33:07 AM
get better pictures

you're writting your profile like a resume, cut that out, pretend you're flirting and talking instead.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Critique me, Help!
Posted: 8/22/2012 3:31:47 AM
excellent, i like it
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 181 (view)
 
That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal
Posted: 10/16/2009 12:16:36 AM
I can appreciate you arguement. I can see the advances that our society has evolved into, and can see how "unrealistic" some of the women may sound to you. However, you are not taking into account the biological aspect, which is more than 50,000 years old in the making. And this more current view of "dating and sex" is rather new in comparison. Evolution has made is so that the female is the one who gives the most to the offspring, from all of her resources to her own body. This is seen from even before the pregnancy stage. The egg is taken care of by the female body and is perfectly preserved from the onset of her birth. The male sperm is mass produced and not as carefully nor energetically produced. It is the female that relases bonding hormones during climax, oxytocin, 8'x's higher in concentration than that of man. This is because the woman is supposed to choose and stay with her mate long enough to see their offspring succeed. There are two completely different goals when it comes to dating. Irrelavant of the fact if the woman is looking to breed or not, the 50,000 years of evolution, adaptation, and genetic encoding demand for the female to be overly picky with her mate, assuring that he can provide at all times, for that is his function. The mans function is to spread the seed. As "golddiggerish" as this may sound, it is written in genetic stone. So the sooner you understand and stop swimming against evolutionary current (p.s. you are not that strong nor significant) the happier your dating life will be:) Happy fishing everyone:)
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Did you settle?
Posted: 10/15/2009 11:55:13 PM
That is a very intersting question. When I was younger, the ideal mate fitted a list of things I would not "settle" without. However, as I matured, I found that things i once found repugnant or unattractive became tolerable and attractive over time. Have you ever seen a beautiful girl, and as you speak with her, her characte comes out, and she starts becoming more unattractive as time goes on? It is as if she is morphing in front of you, the incredible morphing woman! You once found her attractive, but now she is not so hot. The same thing for men. And so, my list became basically useless, because people tend to change the way you view them as you get to know them. Very intersting question though. Happy fishing everyone:)
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
I need some advice from survivors of childhood abuse for better relationship with guys
Posted: 10/14/2009 3:14:51 AM
Hi there,
I am a psychotherapist. Is it possible that you have not dealt with the trauma thouroughly? Have you researched the current psychotherapies available that deal specifically with your traumatic issues? Have you heard of somatic psychotherapy, peter levine, or the foundation for human enrichment trauma healing institute? It is possible that you gave counseling with a shrink too short of a time or not enough effort to be effacacious? is it possible that this shrink did not deal specifically with trauma cases and that dealing with trauma was not his speciality? Try researching these questions, they may help. Good luck, and remember to stay stron and positive.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
This is not a library. It's a bookstore.
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:43:01 AM
rejection in any form can feel uncomfotable at best and enraging at worst. People have to deal and usually move on.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 1272 (view)
 
Ola chicos y chicas!
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:52:13 AM
From 213/818 area, Los Angeles looking forward to meet some new friends!
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 86 (view)
 
The Dangers of Faceboof!!!
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:40:02 AM
I think the facebook thing is triggering your dating/love trauma that you have not processed appropriately nor completely. You need to get a little therapy to help you get your bearings as to what is an appropriate reactions to different dating situations. You'll be alright, it's alright, you're ok, you're just a little rough around the edges from this life, play it cool, you can always follow, the breadcrumbs in the light when you are lost.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Yawn
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:34:02 AM
What a gross man, eww.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
howz about I borrow that excellent judgmental brain of yours?
Posted: 10/6/2009 3:48:57 AM
These are all very helpul, I have updated it...Any other comments?
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
bad pic
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:39:53 AM
remove that immediatly, it makes you look scary. Take another pic with your phone camera or your friends phone camera and have them email to you and put that up. I would immediatly block you if I recieved an email from you with that pic.

Good luck
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
profile review
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:37:15 AM
I'd get rid of that pic with your fam, you look a bit off. Also, you mention something about auntie or uncle, sounds like you are saying mommie and daddie, mamma's boys are not attractive. Remove you whole applying for lifeguard thing. Simply say student and your future job title "i.e. future computer networker" Put in a pic with an actual smile, not one where you are trying not to smile.

good luck
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
See if you laugh
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:25:28 AM
I like the profile, but I hate to break it to you, the picture is the first and most powerful screening tool on here for everyone on here. You might want to consider investing in some professional shots, and only use that one professional shot as your main pic so that your potential dates see how good you clean up:) You profile is HILARIOUS, witty, and your comic genious comes out, but that is only half the battle. Give them that one two punch. Get that sexy pic to reel them in, and knock em dead with your irresistable wit!

Good luck:)
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
howz about I borrow that excellent judgmental brain of yours?
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:17:14 AM
I totally need some honest opionions on my profile, What you think? which should be my main pic? Any new suggestions? does anyone have any cool riddles that I could include in my profile?
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What's wrong with this picture?
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:11:44 AM
Remove the one with the green shirt guy, it makes you look like jay leno. And the bike one, you should be on it, girls love that! also, remove the one with the girl in it, unless you caption it with something like, my sis, etc. throw in a joke, try some simple well known riddles that they can answer, thats always cool:)
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
!!Profile Review!!
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:08:20 AM
You are using too many I's. Remeber, this is not a third grade book report, give it your taste, get a little sassy, silly, jokey, whatever, clever. Try using it in a conversational aspect. You would'nt talk to your friends like that, so why would you want to sound that way with anyone else?
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
criticize me!!!!! Am i being funny or too over the top!!!!
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:05:41 AM
You need to remember that no one likes to be judged. And you opening line is making the girl feel judged. Even if it is in jest, there is a tinge of truth behind every joke. Remove that section. If you are not sure what to say, try describing yourself the way you would to one of your very good friends. Oh, and remove that naked picture.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Am I being to open?
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:02:11 AM
I'd change the fact that you are a server, and simply put computer engineer student or future computer engineer
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Click here for free cookies. Or a profile review. Could be either.
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:00:27 AM
I'd get rid of that picture of you laughing.
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 327 (view)
 
special members
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:15:15 AM
I would love to see chat rooms specifically designated for Megatropolis aras, like Los Angeles, New York, etc.

Videos, webcam capabilities, more chatrooms would be great

links directly to you myspace/facebook/etc, with definite flagging so that spamming doesn't occur
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 117 (view)
 
Is it healthy to check out other people online when your dating someone?
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:06:25 AM
Guard your heart, above ALL else.


He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the
companion of fools will be destroyed.


Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
 brainybeauty77
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Fustrated with online dating
Posted: 10/5/2009 1:26:48 AM
You might want to try speed dating. It will get you past the "This guy doesn't really look too hot in the pictures, so I am just gonna pass on him for now" and get you to look at the person in front of you. Chemistry is not only looks, but seeing the 3-d movement, smells, smiles, and other non-verbal cues that we as human beings are accustumed to. Remember, homosapiens have been around 30k+ years and we have only had language for the last 5k+ years. We had to learn to communicate first non-verbally for a very long time. You may pick up attractive features in an actual human enounter, say like speed dating, that you would normally gloss over online with a simple two dimensional picture. Just a thought...
 
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