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CityGirl__81

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 459 (view)

Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies Posted: 8/3/2009 4:05:55 PM
There is definitely something to be said for honesty, but my appearance doesn't match the number, nor my athletic ability or my strength. I'm not about to be judged on my weight because let's face it... it's JUST A NUMBER. I figure if I'm honest about not being thin, or even as my profile clearly says "a few extra pounds" then that shouldn't define me. I’m fine with a guy saying he’s not comfortable with my size or not attracted to larger women or even have a note in his profile saying he prefers height and weight proportionate women or small women. That is pure and simple honesty. But don’t say things like fat chicks need not apply. Really now…grow up! Well said.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

First Date Shallowness...I really need some help on this. Posted: 7/30/2008 11:48:38 PM
Nummesis, I must say that the women you're dating are insane... Unless you talk about your collection of iguanas or an intense skin condition you have, you're WAY too good looking to pass up based on a little thing like being hearing impaired by 5%. Good luck in your search :)

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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chubby men Posted: 2/18/2007 6:45:28 PM
I love a guy who can make me feel womanly. And for me to feel that way, I need a teddy bear... someone with extra poundage is totally huggable. Anywhere from 5'10" to 6'4" and can't be less than 210lbs. That's my ideal man.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 345 (view)

When it comes to the opposite sex, what is your weakness? Posted: 1/22/2007 6:35:01 AM
HUMOUR HUMOUR HUMOUR. I'm a sucker for someone who can make me laugh and keeps me smiling. I love talks that are serious and that mean a lot, but I it is vital that I find someone who doesn't take life too seriously. I've fallen for guys who aren't necessarily "attractive" just because they know how to keep things light. I'm one who likes to do her own entertaining cause I've got a quippy side... so I'm looking for someone who appreciates my brand of humour.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 172 (view)

OFFICIAL TORONTO NYE PARTY@ The Groundhog Dec 31/06 Posted: 12/30/2006 9:08:34 AM
ab initio: ya know, you dont need to find someone to go with you.... you will most likely meet alot of peope when your there! trust me :D but if you o bring someone, let is know if there not on POF. if they are a member, be sure to get them to sign up. Where do we tell you who and how many are coming with us? (who aren't POF people) Thanks!

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Stranger than fiction... Posted: 12/25/2006 8:06:03 PM
I worked with a woman who met her husband in the most you-could-only-see-this-in-the-movies way. Every day, she rode the bus to work. She never really took notice to the bus driver until he started a conversation with her one day and she really took a liking to him. Every time she boarded his bus, they talked the whole way to her work. She went to get off the bus one day and the driver wouldn't open up the door. She looked at him and he said "I'm not letting you off until I get a kiss from you!" and they rest as they say is history. I thought it was cute!

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

I don't get it - why does he bother? Posted: 12/25/2006 6:34:28 PM
P.S. fun_luvin_gal, your music is lovely, you are a very talented young woman. THANK YOU! I'm really working hard on in and I'm eager for the feedback! Much appreciated

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 70 (view)

30 year old men - why are they not self reliant and responsible?? Posted: 12/25/2006 5:26:53 PM
Yeah. I'm finding that a lot. I've stopped looking for guys my own age (24/25/26) and have started looking for men in their 30's because everyone (even men in their 30's!) seem to be living off of someone else. I live by and support myself and I would only hope that I can find that in someone I'm seeing. My reason for this is that I actually HAVE given these other guys a chance but my place always ends up being the "home-base" and I never feel we ever have any real special time alone. (I live with a roommate so imposing on her home is also a big deal to me) so that's that... disagree with me if you want but everyone has their preferences, right?

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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I don't get it - why does he bother? Posted: 12/25/2006 1:12:51 PM
I added someone to my msn a few months ago thinking that we would get a long and maybe meet up one day. Throughout several not-very-interesting conversations, I've come to realize that he's not for me. He messages me every time I come online (EVERY TIME) "hey" and we carry out this meaningless "how was your day... that's cool... ok, bye" scenario every time. Has anyone else had this happen? How did you deal with this annoyance??

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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a guy that looks like an EX Posted: 12/24/2006 11:37:14 AM
What is your take on the situation? I received several messages on here from someone who was interested but he looks like an ex and for some reason, I can't bring myself to respond and explore it. I read his profile and he seems nice, but it's just difficult to think about dating him because of the past. What do you think? Am I being retarded or does my neurosis have merit? -Thanks

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

Do women only go for good lookiing guys and if so, why ? Posted: 12/24/2006 10:19:37 AM
Firstly, can I just point out that this is coming from someone without a pic on their profile... Secondly, looks DO matter but not in the way people stereo-type them to be. Eveyone has their own version of what's attractive so to say that "EVERY woman" goes for a guy with good looks and a car is complete bull. In my opinion, someone who doesn't like the way I look is not worth my time. I'm a bigger girl but I'm looking for someone who's LOOKING for that in a woman. There's bound to be men out there who appreciate curves... it's just all how you look at it. Maybe you should look at the good things you can bring to a relationship instead of whining about what you don't have or what you think women want. WOMEN don't even know what women want... it's because everyone wants something different. Maybe you're just going out with the wrong women. (side note: in YOUR opinion, Barry2k7, would you rather have a 5'8" beautiful brunette with gorgeous eyes and killer legs or a frumpy 5'2" straggly-haired girl with crooked teeth and a "good personality"... come on - I'm sure you're not innocent in your accusations.) In any case, I hope you find who fits you best.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 263 (view)

ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it? Posted: 12/24/2006 9:03:34 AM
I'm actually working on Christmas for the first time ever. Normally, I'd be able to distract myself with family and friends back home in London (Ontario) but this year, I'm stuck in Toronto, working today and tomorrow. Even my roommate is MIA as she's visiting her parents out of town! I'm beating the loneliness by being super-upbeat at work (you'd be surprised what a smile can actually accomplish!) and tonight, for Christmas Eve, I'm ordering in Swiss Chalet's Festive Special, opening up a bottle of Zinfandel while watching Christmas specials on TV... and then I'm going to see The Pursuit of Happyness in theatres... yup, it'll be me and a bunch of brown people in the theatre, lol I hope everyone is finding ways to make the best out of their holidays. Christmas is still Christmas whether you're in a relationship or not so I hope everyone has a great holiday and a WONDERFUL new year's eve :D PS: who wants to kiss me at midnight?

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 82 (view)

Is this torture to a guy? Posted: 8/29/2006 6:06:03 AM
I had this exact same situation. We had both agreed that it wouldn't go too far sexually until we were ready... I would assume someone who consciously makes this decision would not hold anything against you if you literally SLEPT in the same bed but didn't have sex with him. That's just a mature attitude to take towards a situation like that.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 81 (view)

Is this torture to a guy? Posted: 8/29/2006 6:05:51 AM
I had this exact same situation. We had both agreed that it wouldn't go too far sexually until we were ready... I would assume someone who consciously makes this decision would not hold anything against you if you literally SLEPT in the same bed but didn't have sex with him. That's just a mature attitude to take towards a situation like that.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

How to approach a cute stranger on a bus... Posted: 8/29/2006 5:54:39 AM
This reminds me of how a colleague of mine met her husband. She rode a bus for months and the bus driver was the one who had a crush on her. One day he just decided to go for it and when it was her stop, he didn't open the door for her. When she looked at him with a puzzled look on her face, he said "nope, I'm not lettin' anyone off until this young lady here gives me a kiss!" And they've been married for 9 years. SO CUTE.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone? Posted: 8/26/2006 1:29:40 PM
I agree with surprise07. Living on your own in a HUGE step into independence. If you've had to move back home due to unforseen circumstances or you're at home because that's what your culture dictates, that's another story. I respect someone much more if they're out there making it on their own. I can't stand people who just sit back and say "I've got it good at home... why move out?" I've been on my own now for 5 years and I'm doing just fine. I've had a job since I was 15 and was raised to take nothing for granted. I would look for that same sense of pride in someone I'm dating.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

NEED INSIGHTS HERE Posted: 8/25/2006 2:52:44 PM
Hey guys... there's a lot of bashing going on here... He really wasn't an ***hole and I never meant to portray him like that. He was very kind and really sweet while we were hanging out. To getinmyarms, who was talking about how a man should put his woman first if he loves her and going on about babies and commitment... I need you guys to remember that we were hanging out for only a month... this wasn't serious, I only thought it might have the POTENTIAL to get serious. My main reason for posting was to get reactions to the abruptness of the outcome. Usually guys will say stuff that they think we want to hear and not have the real heart behind what they're saying... but this guy's actions spoke more then his words. I guess I just mis-read the signals.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

insights from both guys and gals here... Posted: 8/25/2006 1:08:02 PM
actually now that i read it...heres your answer. you gave him sex too early umm, are ya sure you read it? lol

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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insights from both guys and gals here... Posted: 8/25/2006 12:19:39 PM
halfleb said: it sucks to lose a great kisser though!!! AINT THAT A B**CH, lol

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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insights from both guys and gals here... Posted: 8/25/2006 11:51:56 AM
Just to clarify on th sex issue - you people seem to be concentrating on that... It was actually him who decided not to jump into anything physical because we'd both been there before and the emotional relationship part never works out beause its' all based on the physical realtionship. (his words, NOT MINE) TRUST ME... if he wanted it, he could have had it. I was ready and willing.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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NEED INSIGHTS HERE Posted: 8/25/2006 11:20:45 AM
OK, I searched but I didn't find anything like this already in the forums so here goes: I was recently hanging out with someone for about a month. We were seeing each other about 4 times a week (that's A LOT for me) and during that time, I grew to really like him. I saw potential there but never brought it up because I was afraid I'd scare him off. He would call after a late shift (10pm) and say "what are you doing?" When I said "nothing" ('cause I had to work the next morning) he'd ask to come over. Well, given the choice, sure! I'm up for seeing him! We would chill and just watch TV or a movie, then just cuddle until like 4am. So that's how we ended up seeing each other so often. (no sex during this time) He would say stuff like "I really like kissing you" etc... We went out for dinner last weekend and the conversation flow was great, and he was reaching across the table to hold my hands now and then... its was just a really nice feeling and I thought it was going somewhere. Out of the blue, he called me yesterday and said that because of seeing me, he has stopped taking overtime at work, and had missed some important dates with his friends. And he didn't think we should see each other anymore. I was floored. It hit me like a ton of bricks... I didn't know any of this and I certainly didn't see it coming. Had I known he stopped taking overtime or was sacrificing important stuff with his friends, I wouldn't have agreed to see him so often. He said a lot of external factors played into this decision, that he didn't have a lot of time and that something had to give. It is my feeling that if you like someone enough, you can work around external stuff... but if the feelings just aren't there, then that's a whole other issue and it's a valid reason to call it quits. So I asked him to be completely honest and tell me if his feelings ever went beyond friendship and he said yes. Then I asked him if he still felt anything for me and he said yes. So here I sit, thoroughly confused. We've had the final conversation about it, so I'm not going to beat a dead horse and keep bugging him... But I wanted to know people's insights on the situation... has anyone ever come up against this type of thing before? How did you handle it?

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Is this even possible? Posted: 8/24/2006 10:53:48 AM
it's possible that she did love you. I'm willing to bet her feelings were real at one point or another, but she may have just been saying the words on automatic pilot near the end. I'm speaking from experience here. I was stuck in a relationship and I didn't know why I was in it by the end... I would say the words, but not necessarily have the heart behind them. Sorry this happened to you :( Glad you're here though. Not all women are like that... hopefully you'll come up against more honesty in the future.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

I got to ask...Low cut jeans, and Muffin tops Posted: 8/24/2006 10:27:44 AM
HAHAHA, I've been calling it Muffin Top for YEARS, that's so funny, I didn't think it was a common term! Anyway, I think it's in really poor taste to have your belly and sides hanging out from your jeans. Even girls who aren't that big squeeze themselves into the next size down just because they can do up the fly! This is not right!! I have noticed, however that highschool girls are getting what I call the "fast food paunch" It's right in the middle of the belly (around the belly button) and it just protrudes from the body. They're not fat anywhere else on their bodies except for the paunch on their belly. My personal feeling is that the parents of these teens should have more say in what their kids buy for clothing. It's ridiculous, the skanks-in-training that are coming out of the woodwork.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Just flakey? Posted: 8/24/2006 10:08:54 AM
I once saw a TV show about a guy-and-girl team coaching 4 women on how to go on a great 1st date. The one thing that stuck with me is that if you had a great time and you want this person to be more than just a friend, you kiss them. Just a peck will do, (don't have to eat her face off) but it shows you're interested. Did you try calling her? or were you just waiting around for her to call/email you? In any case, if I was really interested in someone, I'd send them at the very least an e-mail saying I had a good time or whatever. Seems like she might have waited around for you, but didn't have the motivation to make the next move herself. I say "NEXT!"

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Jealousy - am I over-reacting? Posted: 8/24/2006 9:04:54 AM
Reenie said: I think you need this guy like a hole in the head. He has NO manners. This has nothing to do with jealousy. He was acting inappropriately. What possible interest could any woman have in a guy's "locker room" conversation.....boring to the max. I agree... I understand that young chitlins (as I call them) are eye-candy and every man, young or old, single or not, looks at them... BUT if he's seeing someone and doesn't even take the time to compliment her before ruining his bib with drool, he's not worth much. This guy needs a girl, not a woman. Glad you moved on :)

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Ever ran into an ex unexpectedly? Posted: 8/24/2006 8:53:30 AM
hahaha, this reminds me of that Sex and the City episode when Miranda saw Steve in the street, looked both ways, saw there was nowhere to duck and just ran away, LOL. It's certainly an emotional thing to come up against an ex, especially if they're with their current gf/bf. I did run into an ex (sort of) I saw them on a street corner and I got that shudder... you know, the one that passes through your body like you can't believe you're seeing what you're seeing. It was very strange

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Heavy Dating - Dress Size Posted: 8/24/2006 7:37:43 AM
Nightwing said: Purely as the devils advocate & ONLY concerning those who are unsatisfied w/ their body...if you want to be different & you complain about being overweight, but don't choose to diet & excercise to achieve YOUR desires....does that say something about your individual personality. Would that also be an indicator that PERHAPS you might find it easier to not work to achieve something difficult in another personal area...say in a relationship? I hate to burst your bubble here, but not every person can just change it. Sure, anyone can loose weight, but everyone differs on how easily they take it off. You can't just say "well, go to the gym" Just to give you an eye-opener, I'm a relatively active - I go to the gym 3-4 times a week and I don't move a pound on the scale unless I really (really) watch what I'm eating. It's NOT an enjoyable experience for some people as it is for others. Sure, loosing weight is always difficult, but don't discount the hardships that come to those whose genetic make-up may prevent them from loosing weight easily. Dawn1114 said: If a man says he won't date anyone over a size (whatever), it just tells me he hasn't got a clue about women's clothing. It's different for men - they go by inches. I have clothes in three sizes in my closet, and they all fit. It depends on the style, maker, and, yes, let's be honest, the cost. The more expensive the store, the smaller the size I can get into. It's a silly ruse to allow rich women to say they're a size two, when they'd be busting out of a six, or even an eight, from Wal-Mart. Clothing size is meaningless. The mirror tells the truth. I couldn't agree more, Dawn. I've got stuff in my closet that's a size 13/14 that I fit into, and in some brands I need to go to a 20! It's amazing what different cuts and styles will do to a person's size. Men can go by S,M,L,XL... not women!! I was shopping the other day with my sister and my best friend. My best friend is 5'7" and a size 10, My sister is 6' tall and a size 15. I'm 5'7" and a (roughtly) a 15/16. We had to shop in 3 different categories of stores - it's exhausting! lol

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

Name one thing.... Posted: 8/22/2006 12:12:33 PM
My 1st ex was my first everything (everything) We were both virgins when we met... We were together for 3½ years and the great part about it was we taught each other what we liked, and pretty much trained each other how to be "good in bed" ... well, to each other's standards, anyway. To this day, he remains the best I've ever had, simply for that fact.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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here's your sign!! Posted: 8/22/2006 11:09:17 AM
I could hand out so many of these signs in one day! ... I especially love numbers 4 and 6 Stupid people should have to wear signs that just say, "I'm Stupid", That way you wouldn't rely on them, would you? You wouldn't ask them anything. It would be like, "Excuse me... oops, never mind didn't see your sign". 1) It's like before my wife and I moved. Our house was full of boxes and there was a U-Haul truck in our driveway. My neighbour comes over and says "Hey, you moving?" "Nope. We just pack our stuff up once or twice a week to see how many boxes it takes. Here's your sign.". 2) A couple of months ago I went fishing with a buddy of mine, we pulled his boat into the dock, I lifted up this big 'ol stringer of bass and this idiot on the dock goes, "Hey, y'all catch all them fish?" "Nope. Talked 'em into giving up. Here's your sign." 3) I was watching one of those animal shows on the Discovery Channel. There was a guy inventing a shark bite suit. And there's only one way to, test it. "All right Jimmy, you got that shark suit on, it looks good... They want you to jump into this pool of sharks, and you tell us if it hurts when they bite you." "Well alright, but hold my sign. I don't wanna lose it." 4) Last time I had a flat tire, I pulled my truck into one of those side-of-the-road gas stations. The attendant walks out, looks at my truck, looks at me, and I SWEAR he said, "Tire go flat?" I couldn't resist. I said, "Nope. I was driving around and those other three just swelled right up on me. Here's your sign." 5) We were trying to sell our car about a year ago. A guy came over to the house and drove the car around for about 45 minutes. We get back to the house, he gets out of the car, reaches down and grabs the exhaust pipe, then says, "Darn that's hot!" See? If he'd been wearing his sign, I could have stopped him. 6) I learned to drive an 18 wheeler in my days of adventure. Wouldn't you know I misjudged the height of a bridge. The truck got stuck and I couldn't get it out no matter how I tried. I radioed in for help and eventually a local cop shows up to take the report. He went through his basic questioning..ok.no problem. I thought sure he was clear of needing a sign...until he asked "So..is your truck stuck?" I couldn't help myself! I looked at him, looked back at the rig and then back to him and said "No I'm delivering' a bridge... here's your sign." 7) I stayed late at work one night and a co-worker looked at me and said "Are you still here?" I replied, "No. I left about 10 minutes ago. Here's your sign." Anybody you know need a sign today? Send this to all your friends and the next time they say something stupid, ask them where their sign is.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

You Might Be Older Than Dirt.........IF......... Posted: 8/22/2006 9:58:48 AM
how about this: You remember when penny-candies actually cost A PENNY! (they're all 5 cents now!) and the phrase "I'm never drinking that much again, dude" is replaced by "Man, I can't drink like I used to"

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

Who do i choose!! Posted: 8/22/2006 9:18:54 AM
At first I was going to be all "oh, poor you 'two guys love me, my diamond shoes are too tight, and my wallet's too small for my fifties!' " BUT... As I read on, I realized that you really are looking for people to help you... and help you need! Take what you will from the following, but from what I read, I can give you the following "big-sister-type" commentary 1) the EX: he tells you to go F%*K yourself and leave him alone?!?! I'm sorry - you're kidding yourself if you think that's in good taste. You say he doesn't mean it, but no one should be told that. You deserve better 2) the guy w/ the kids. NO NO NO NO NO. I can't say it any clearer. You do NOT want to involve yourself in any baby-mamma drama. You're too young for that crap. It's also a good bet that his attention is not going to be focused on you (obviously his kids are always going to come first) Again, you deserve better at your age. 3) you say this guy brings out the worst in you. Right there, I didn't need to read any further. Your right partner is going to be someone who brings out the BEST in you, in ANY situation. You deserve better. 4) Hun... he's 25 and lives in a different province. I'm willing to bet he won't be holding out for his 18-yr old long-distance relationship. I can't stress this enough - you deserve better. 5) As much of a sweetheart this guy might be, if he was involved in hurting your family, he's not worth the dirt you walk on. I agree with some of the comments above, saying that you sort of dwelled on the bad parts of these guys. You haven't said what the GOOD parts of them are. My big-sisterly advice is that you can do so much better than all of these guys. You're 18... you still have a lot of time to settle down. I was in the same boat as you when I was 18/19. I wasn't much of a party-er and I just wanted someone to love and call my own. (needless to say that 1st love didn't work out for me) Over the next few years, your life is going to FLIP and do a complete 180 - you're going to find that what you want now will most certainly not be what you want when you're 24 or 25. All I'm saying is... Don't settle. Find what you desire for now, and let it go when it's time. When all is said and done, I hope you find what you're looking for.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Need Some Feedback from both sexes please Posted: 8/22/2006 8:03:35 AM
Ouch, Kazzzoooo. Sorry this has happened to you :( This is a pretty tough situation. Honestly, I would be just as angry. I'm the first to admit I've got a bit of a jealous streak and it's in no way a bad thing. It's just how you handle your jealousy that will get you through this. Have you talked to him yet about how he feels about her? I know he wants to see her, but is he still in love with her? I see my ex often and we're very good friends, but there's absolutely nothing between us anymore. On the other hand, I don't talk endlessly about "the good old times" I had with him. Man... I hope you figure this one out. I think the most important thing here is just communication and trust. If it were me in your shoes, I'd be OK with him going out for coffee or something. But if you guys are going to Wonderland, make sure you hold his hand, give him little pecks here and there... just solidifying that you're his woman now. She needs to get the clear message that he's made a choice to be with you and not her. And if his attention sways, then it's his loss. :(

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Is this tacky? Posted: 8/22/2006 7:41:24 AM
WOAH! if I got an e-mail saying you'd rather date my friend, I'm sorry but it's a bit of a slap in the face. I already believe my friends are more beautiful than me - I don't need that belief confirmed by an annonymous request to bypass me and go to my friend. Sorry man, you can tell your "friend" that it's the height of tacky.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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How important is it to have a sense of humour in a relationship? Posted: 8/16/2006 6:55:19 AM
EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I NEED to laugh. It's vital to my happy existence! There's so much crappy stuff that goes wrong, you need to be able to let loose and have fun with your partner. ... I've discovered I LOVE play-fighting and tickling. Great fun ;)

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 8/16/2006 6:28:51 AM
to the OP: It's not being SMART that makes a person fail in the dating world. It's putting too much faith in your intelligence that will get you no where. What I mean by this is that YES, smarts are a great thing, but you can't just be smart. Charisma, personality, wit <- those things will get a woman's attention along with your intelligence. In my profile I clearly state that education is important to me. Not because I feel the piece of paper you get at the end of 4 years is important, but I find that those who have attended university/college have a better, clearer view of the world and can communicate themselves better than those who have not passed highschool ... on the whole. Don't get me wrong - I have on occasion met men who are very intelligent and witty without the degree. It's all about how one communicates. If someone is smart and he knows it, it's important to keep that in check. Flaunting your intelligence comes off as arrogant and that to me is a very unattractive quality. I dated a guy once who was very book-smart, and thought he had answers to everything. And when he didn't know, he'd B-S an answer. My family even got sick of it and never had a problem telling me that. In the end, it was a motivating factor for letting go of the relationship.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 282 (view)

Does having sex when you meet for the first time ruin a chance for a real relationship? Posted: 8/15/2006 11:38:01 AM
well it hasn't worked for me this far, so I'm gonna go with no, you can't start a relationship with that at the start.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

Inquiring minds want to know... Posted: 8/15/2006 11:14:19 AM
I've met a few people from another site, (pay site) and I find they're a little more desperate. In comparison, the people here on POF are pretty laid back, with the attitude like "if it happens, it happens... we'll see where it goes" The pay site I was on was free for women and men had to pay $50/month (!!! I know!) and I just kind of felt pressure for it to work out because they were putting so much into it... I just recently met my first POF person and he's pretty nice... so far :P

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

at a loss Posted: 8/11/2006 8:18:41 AM
I'd appreciate the honesty. It's much better than telling you something that's clearly a lie to cover up the way he feels. Don't worry about what's missing, or what you did/didn't do. Obviously this guy wasn't for you because when you find the right one, there won't BE anything missing. He will accept you as you are. CHEER UP - you're gorgeous, you'll find someone better suited for you in no time :)

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

How many is too many? Marriages I mean . . . Posted: 8/11/2006 6:21:42 AM
For me, one previous marriage is too many. (with the exception of an abusive relationship) I come from the school of "Marriage is Forever". Which is why I'm not doing that whole I'm-25-so-I-need-to-be-on-the-wedding-train thing. I will find the right guy when I find him. If I don't find him 'til I'm 35, then so be it. I'm not going to get married just because I'm at "that age". Too many people don't take marriage as a serious commitment and I'm not willing to sacrifice life-long happiness by rushing into something. So to answer the OP's question, yeah - I think there's got to be something up with this guy. HOWEVER: my uncle was married twice in the past and both marriages failed (for whatever reasons) He swore he would never get married again but he met a wonderful woman and he's been living common-law with a her now for 18 years. SO... there are exceptions to my ideal, but I still stand by it that if I want to get married, I want it to be the first and only wedding for both of us.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Rings Posted: 8/11/2006 6:11:04 AM
what uncouth losers are you dating? even if I don't LIKE a gift, I don't say that! I at least appreciate the gesture! If I came up against that reaction to a gift I had given, I would let them know they're being a little snobby and that I tried to give them something they'd like. I'd then offer to take it back and go shopping for a similar item WITH them. "ok, well, we can take it back, it's not a big deal. Let's go together, then, and pick something out that you'd rather have"

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 61 (view)

Best break-up lines Posted: 8/11/2006 5:53:07 AM
"Dear Baby: Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: YOU" "Break up?" (get out magic 8 ball) "All signs point to YES." "All my friends at the gay bar said I should go through with the sex change, what do you think?" (Note: this one comes to you courtesy of Homer Simpson.) "Six simple words: I'm not gay, but I'll learn." "Remember when I asked you out?? Well.... I was talking to the guy behind you!" "Help, I'm an idiot. I can't see you anymore!!!" (And run away) "I can't meet your needs for the foreseeable future because I find working on my site and hanging out with my net pals far more absorbing than conversing with you or even looking at your face, actually." "I'm considering suicide because after being with you, hell should be a breeze." "You looked better when I was drinking." Send a dozen dead roses with a note: "Roses are red, violets are blue, I'd rather be dead than continue seeing you!" Hum, sing, or whistle "50 ways to lose your lover" constantly. "Thank you for taking the time to participate in this survey." Yell "FIRE!!!!!!!" and run, never stopping or looking back. "There's been a death in the family. My hamster. Sorry." and run away crying frantically

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

one year presents Posted: 8/11/2006 5:31:45 AM
a small piece of jewellery is always nice. a necklace or something maybe?

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

If you Met Online, do you tell People that? Posted: 8/9/2006 11:35:35 AM
to the OP: I know how your GF feels. I met my 1st boyfriend on ICQ and my Mom LOST IT when I finally told her that. She still thinks that internet "dating" is dangerous and not the right way to meet people. Despite what she thinks, obviously, I'm still here... But have a little compassion... your GF's mom might be like mine - a hardcore traditionalist.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Fixing the problem or comforting words-Which is important? Posted: 8/7/2006 5:06:25 PM
personally? ... Giving a solution to my crisis doesn't make me feel better. In fact, it makes me feel worse. Even if I see reason in the answer, it means I should stop crying/yelling/whatever and that doesn't let me let out the emotions I'm feeling. That's really what's most important to me. Just being there instead of offering an answer is the best thing.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

Physical or Habits that are Turnoffs of the opposite sex Posted: 8/7/2006 1:08:36 PM
recently, (thanks to Jessica Simpson and the like) it has become OK for girls to belch/fart and display what has, in the past, been considered manly behaviour to have in public. This has become a way of showing someone you're dating that you're comfortable with them. I disagree... there are other ways of saying that without injesting someone's fart particles (farticles, if you will) or smelling what they had for lunch in a burp. I'm not saying we should never do it, but JEEBUS, there's a time and a place, people!! I dated a guy who would intentionally break wind in my direction, thinking the reaction he got was just hilarious. I'm here to tell you... it's not. So yah, I don't care whether you're a man or a woman... I don't feel this is acceptable. letting one slip here and there is fine. Everyone does it; it's natural. But to overtly and intentionally expose others to it is really a turn-off for me.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

I have issues Posted: 8/7/2006 12:47:28 PM
I know EXACTLY what you're feeling. I'm totally the same way... and I'm only starting to get over it cause I know how nerve-racking a first meeting can be, no matter how long you've been chatting for. I'm also chubby and am unsure about how I come off to someone on a first-impression basis.... BUT... here's the thing. I NEVER lie to the person I'm talking to. NEVER. All it does it set you both up for disappointment. I mean, if you're 300 lbs, he's going to find that out, regardless.. why lie about it now? If you've been honest with him (which I get the impression you are being honest... webcams don't lie) then I'm sure your first-meeting will go very well for both of you. Best of Luck :)

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

H0w soon is to soon?~~~~ Posted: 7/3/2006 1:18:08 PM
Aside from never having met them face-to-face, I'd say anything before 6 months is soon. I've noticed that older people tend to move things a lot faster than young people (and I'm not trying to be a 24-year old jerk here... I mean people in their mid-to-late 30's and up who have lived and experienced and know what they want) I know a few couples in their late 30's who have decided that after 4 months of dating, they're ready for marriage. I'm thinking so long as you both are in agreeance, it's really just timing... But be cautious and sensitive to the 12-year old. That's a pretty impressionable age to bring in a new parental figure, especially if there arent any siblings at home to help cope.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

pick-up stories Posted: 7/3/2006 1:10:15 PM
HEY, THANKS FOR THE RESPONSES, EVERYONE.... BUT THE POINT OF THIS THREAD WASN'T TO JUST COMPLAIN ABOUT THAT ONE INCIDENT (I'm actually over it so it's OK) BUT I WANTED TO HEAR EVERYONE'S STORIES, WHETHER THEY WERE FUNNY, EMBARASSING OR LIKE MINE.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

pick-up stories Posted: 7/3/2006 12:26:30 PM
I want to hear your DISASTER pick-up story: My story goes like this: I was in a bar with a few friends, where a table of guys was sitting across from us the entire night. There was really only one of them that I found really attractive, so after a few drinks (I'm talking 3, just to lessen my nerves... It wasn't a drunk-off-my-ass stupor) I approached his friends and asked if he was single. His friends seemed happy to have a girl ask about him and they brought the guy over to talk to me. He looked at me; the smile vanished from his face; he looked at his friends; then back at me (up and down) and just laughed it off and walked away. I haven't approached anyone since. How can anyone be so cruel? I wasn't asking for marriage, I was asking for a "hi, how are you?" That's just courtesy. So, for any guys who are reading this... PLEASE, if you're not interested, that's FINE. But don't treat her like she's a piece of rotten fruit at the market.

fun_luvin_gal

Joined: 4/1/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

An observation Posted: 7/3/2006 9:06:42 AM
In my experience, those who PAY to be on dating sites either haven't found this site or they are slightly more desperate to find a mate. I don't think I would ever pay to be on a dating site, and with this site, I figured "well, what have I got to loose?" it's fun, it's free, you get to meet people, even if you're not here for "dating"... With those other sites, those people are on a mission - they're paying so they figure they should get their money's worth.

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