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katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 172 (view)

what does a man REALLY want ? Posted: 3/9/2008 11:12:28 AM
I don't think a man really knows what they want! I have experienced this already. You give them what they say they want and they are not happy and they want more. You give them the more they ask for and you get ignored!!! So what is up with this, can make us women completely confused.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Why Can't Men Appreciate A Woman Telling Them The Truth?? Posted: 3/9/2008 10:59:57 AM
If a person isn't anyone you would care to date, then tell them and end all contact. I disagree with this statement. Just because you do not care to date them does not mean you should end all contact. There are many men that I chat with on a daily basis that I do not care to date and the feelings seem to be mutual but we have established a great friendship. We help each other when we run into a dating crisis or other issues. Friends are friends and if that is established and agreed upon in the beginning then why would you end all contact just because they are not dating material? Friends the majority of the time, are the best people you can have in your life.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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What?!?! No Lawyer Jokes thread?!?! Okay, let's start one! Posted: 1/23/2008 8:00:03 PM
This one was sent to me by a friend of mine, it is way too funny not to repost it here!!! Hope you enjoy it!!! Subject: The lawyer & the Cajun >> >> >> >> A lawyer and a Cajun are sitting next to each other on a long flight. >> The lawyer asks if the Cajun would like to play a fun game. >> The Cajun is tired and just wants to take a nap, so he politely declines >> and >> tries to catch a few winks. >> >> The lawyer persists, that the game is a lot of fun. 'I ask you a >> question, and if you don't know the answer, you pay me only $5; >> you ask me one, and if I don't know the answer, I will pay you $500.' >> >> This catches the Cajun's attention, and to keep the lawyer quiet, he >> agrees to play the game. >> >> The lawyer asks the first question. >> >> 'What's the distance from Earth to the moon?' >> >> The Cajun doesn't say a word, reaches in his pocket pulls; >> out a five-dollar bill, and hands it to the lawyer. >> >> Now, it's the Cajun's turn. >> >> He asks the lawyer, 'What goes up a hill with three legs, and comes down >> with four?' >> >> The lawyer uses his laptop, searches all references. >> >> He uses the Airphone; he searches the Net and even the Library of >> Congress. >> >> He sends e-mails to all the smart friends he knows, all to no avail.. >> >> After one hour of searching he finally gives up. >> >> He wakes up the Cajun and hands him $500. >> The Cajun pockets the $500 goes right back to sleep. >> >> The lawyer is going nuts not knowing the answer. >> >> He wakes the Cajun up and asks, >> >> 'Well, so what goes up a hill with three legs and comes down with four?' >> >> The Cajun reaches in his pocket, hands the lawyer $5 and goes back to >> sleep! >>

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 224 (view)

how dirty are you?? Posted: 12/24/2007 10:56:40 AM
Wow, mine was 660.60, I guess I was not as sheltered as once thought, lol

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 117 (view)

Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number?? Posted: 12/15/2007 12:56:27 PM
I have experienced it, it does not feel good. It is a real sign that something is going on, there is obviously someone at home, yet they say they are single!! Yeah right! .

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Question for the women Posted: 12/15/2007 12:54:18 PM
Well usually before I would consent to a date, we have already chatted online and via telephone. I ask a lot of questions about them and answer a lot of questions about me to make sure we would even be compatible. I do not want to waste anyone's time, money or emotions if I feel there won't even be any emotional attraction to begin with. Upon meeting and talking in person, I try to see in their expressions what they think about me and then proceed with the date. Personally, I would say that in about 5-10 minutes I know already if I would date them again. Sparks are important, can't tell you what makes them, just know that it occurs naturally and you can feel them when they are there.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it? Posted: 12/15/2007 12:35:44 PM
I would have to say I like it. One of my dates from here brought me the most beautiful pink rose for our first date. He was the youngest guy I had ever dated on here and it really changed the way I had viewed age when accepting dates from younger guys. It showed me that young guys can be romantic as well.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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why are there so many men without photos.......... Posted: 12/15/2007 12:18:10 PM
Excellent thread, don't you know they are all married and their wives are probably looking for them on here, so they leave out their picture and their occupation in hopes that she doesn't recognize the profile. Well that is my opinion anyway!! But it could be true!!

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Life's Lessons in dating.....What have YOU learned.... Posted: 12/15/2007 12:08:59 PM
I agree with you there, thank god for favorites it tells you if they should be your favorite or not!!

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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as a single parent, has who and how you dated changed Posted: 10/29/2007 9:53:46 PM
Being a single mom with four children, the process of dating is definitely selective. The main thing I am concerned with is that the person I choose to go out with is child friendly. I want to be sure they are not abusive and they have patience with children, all just in case the dating progressed to anything more. So when seeking out potential dates I typically look for someone who has children or someone younger who would most likely have patience with children. No offense to older gentlemen without children, I just feel that they may be impatient since they have been childfree and did not have to deal with kids in a relationship.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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age difference issue Posted: 10/29/2007 9:48:14 PM
I hear all the time that age is just a number, but it really isn't once you get past 35, that is my opinion. To me a woman after 35 starts to lose her ability to have children, so if you are not in your age range or older you may run into a situation where your mate wants a child and you may not be able to give him one, therefore age would be a factor. For instance you are 39 and choose to date a 25 yro, you may have been married once before and have children, you come with experience. He being younger and not having been married and having no children could pose a problem because you already know what you want out of a relationship or marriage because you have already been there and done that , he being green has no clue and lacks the experience. On the children issue, if you can't or won't have anymore children, then it would not be fair to be with someone younger who has no children or may want them, they deserve the right to be with someone who can give them that gift of a child. That is why I feel that age is a factor and is more than a number.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Does anyone else raise two kids completely on their own?? Posted: 10/29/2007 9:40:46 PM
I raise four children on my own. Their dad does not pay a penny of the ordered child support. I get no emotional nor physical support from him either. He chooses to stay away and not visit or call. He did not even bring Christmas for the kids this last year. I work full time and have a very stressful and demanding job. Yet I do it all on my own. It is tough but hang in there you can do it!!

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Single Parents: Do you believe your ex's total household income should reflect Child Support? Posted: 10/29/2007 9:36:28 PM
I think that it is not the new spouses responsibility to pay child support for children that is not theirs. If they want to that is fine but I don't think it should be calculated in as they are not the responsible party.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 99 (view)

Unequal incomes and relationships Posted: 10/29/2007 9:30:54 PM
Money is the root of all evil. In a relationship it should not be about money and who make more or less than the other. Expenses should be discussed in the beginning and then don't over indulge or become too extravagant in your lifestyle is the income is not sufficient. True love is what makes a relationship not what you can materially provide.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Sex Poems Too funny Posted: 10/29/2007 9:28:01 PM
SEX POEMS Body: Roses are red Lemons are sour Open ur legs and give me an hour Kissing Is A Habit **ing Is A Game Guys Get All The Pleasure Girls Get All The Pain 90 Minutes Of Pleasure 9 Months Of Pain 3 Days In The Hospital A Baby Without A Name The Father Is A stard The Mother Is A Whore This Woulda Never Happend If The Rubber Hadn't Tore!! Sex is like math You subtract the clothes Add the bed Divide the legs And Pray to god You dont multiply.. Roses are red Grass is green Open your legs And I'll fill you with cream Sex is good Sex is fine Doggy Style & 69 Just for fun Or gettin paid Everyone likes gettin laid u opened it so u r cursed for 5 years. you need to read it ENTIRELY!!!!! roses are nice violets are fine. ill be the six if you be the nine. roses are red violets are blue condoms will rip now watch you get screwed Repost this as sex poems if u repost this in 1 min: the guy /girl that you like will tell u that he/she loves u and that he wants to go out with u. if u repost this in 2 min: the guy/girl that you like will give you a hug and a kiss on the lips if u repost this in 3 min: you'll find $2

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Have you ever waited for a love? Posted: 9/2/2007 8:23:57 AM
Karen, I have waited in the last relationship I was in. I was patient and gave 150% only to find that he found someone else. I decided to never wait again and give them a chance to keep looking but yet I find myself in the same situation once again. Of course the reasons for the wait are different, I guess this one is older and able to manipulate better due to extra years of experience and has be convinced that waiting is better for the relationship and I was believing him up until last night. I am just thankful that I have many friends here on POF and they are definitely great friends and I am lucky to have them because they are there when I need them while trying to pick up the pieces of my broken heart. I hope you have great friends like I do, because you may need them one day. Just be careful. Each persons dilemma is different and I hope yours is an honest one on his end. Line up your friends just in case. Take care.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with? Posted: 8/16/2007 10:52:49 PM
Oh no way. I could never cheat on someone I was truly in love with. I just would not feel right. When you truly love someone you think of that person all the time and if you ever even considered cheating your conscience would stop you from making that mistake when there is true love.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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The Ecstasy of Intimacy Posted: 8/14/2007 10:22:21 PM
I have to admit after reading your post, you have made me feel more at ease with the things going on right now in my life. I have met someone here on POF and I have had a hard time trying to figure out what he is doing and this just turned on the light for me. Now I have a clear understanding of what it is he is trying to accomplish and now I can appreciate it and be at peace that all is okay and it is perfectly normal. Thanks again for this wonderful revelation.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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How truthful & honest should we be? When is it OK to open the closet and show the skeltons? Posted: 8/3/2007 2:03:31 PM
I think that honesty and truthfulness should be upfront in the beginning. I mean why should we start something in hopes that the connection will be strong enough to withstand some of our secrets that will eventually surface later on in a relationship. We as adults should all know that the truth is always revealed and quite often at the most unopportune time. This way by revealing what you so desire to keep a secret the other person can honestly know that they can trust you later on, knowing you will not keep secrets from them. Also if the other person really cares about you, you will know because they should understand your circumstances, and be able to look past your mistakes. Let the other person know who you really are. I would just hate to start loving someone and then find out later that the person I love is actually someone else in all reality. Let's keep it real, honest and truthful and hopefully there will be less hurt people in the long run. Just my opinion.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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From the mouths of babes Posted: 6/21/2007 5:42:56 PM
When I was about 12 my little sister was about 9, I asked my mom what she would do if she ever got pregnant with her then husband's baby (step dad). She replied that she would sue the doctor. I asked her why and she said because she had a hysterectomy. My little sister asked what that was and my mom explained that they remove all your female organ. My sister thought for a minute, then asked my mom, "does that mean you are a man now!!!!" Oh it was priceless, we are now 38 and 35 and we still laugh about it all the time.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Fate! Posted: 5/29/2007 1:05:45 PM
Thank you so much for your love and best wished, I appreciate that. Just an update, his parents are moving in today, before it was just a plan now it is in action. They received a phone call sunday evening that the house they were renting was being sold for sure and they had to move immediately, how fast this is taking place is still amazing to me.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Fate! Posted: 5/26/2007 2:01:56 PM
I have some strange scenarios taking place right now. I do not know how to decipher them. I had been dating someone I met here since last July. We have had a few off and on times and it made me a little uneasy but then he reassured me that all was okay he was just really busy at work. Then I saw him last March 25, 2007. He quit taking my calls and was not returning numerous calls that I would leave for him. Then on April 21, 2007 his mother called me and was crying, she informed me he was seeing someone else. Now mind you I had never met his parents nor talked to them during the time we were seeing each other. His mother could have called me only that once and never talked to me again, but that has not happened. Both of his parents talk to me and have taken a great liking to me and my children, which are not his children. We talk everyday, and they tell me daily how they hate the girl he is with. They knew that I took very good care of their son and were happy when I was seeing him. Strangly, as it may seem, everyone is under the assumption, he is coming back to me very soon, and yes I will take him back, it is a long story as to why, but I would take him back. I have tried to meet other people and take my mind off of him but I can't seem to do it. I just have a place in my heart for him and I can't make room for anyone else. Also, if I do talk to someone, it only lasts for a short while and we never meet, it is like I am having to save myself for him. I just found out yesterday, his parents are going to come and move with me and my children to help me out, I have an enormous house note and I work many hours and the kids need someone home with them more. He currently lives at home with his parents, he I assume will move with his girlfriend but when it does not work out he will come back to his parents, he is an only child, and his parents will be with me, how strange is this? Is it all fate that things are working this way or is it just coincidence? I know he still thinks about me because he does tell his parents so.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Funny Names For Kids Posted: 3/24/2007 12:26:50 PM
I used to work in an office and we had clients with the names: German **stard and then there was Phuc Nguyen.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Astrological Signs Like You have Never Seen Them Posted: 2/9/2007 2:09:49 PM
I agree the Pisces is very mean.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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ummmm, just upset Posted: 12/20/2006 7:36:22 AM
Have you tried contacting the three people whom have you on their favorites list, that would be a good start. I only put people on my favorites list if I intend to talk to them, that would show that they have some interest in you. Don't give up I have been here since April and I am still here. It comes and goes. Just beware, once one person starts talking to you then they all want to talk to you, hope you can juggle several userplanes at one time.LOL

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Why do men have affairs? Posted: 11/11/2006 9:26:27 AM
First off I have never cheated on my mate and never will! But I know first hand, my last (now ex fiance) was a big cheater. Not only was he a cheater, he was a pathological liar as well. He would have not known the truth if it slapped him in the face. I was always told that cheaters cheat for the thrill of it, once they are discovered the affair usually ceases, this man kept on and with more than one woman. He would find excuses like, I needed to lose weight, I needed to quite complaining, I needed to quit helping my family, I don't do this for him, I don't appreciate him working, and you know the excuses went on and on. Bottom line.... the cheating never stopped but I did. He was constantly lying to his boss, which was also my boss, so the boss knew when he was lying, because I would get asked a question not knowing that the same question had been asked to my mate, that is when I found out that he was lying even to the boss and to our coworkers. After I discovered that was happening, he expected me to cover for him and I refused. So he left for ONE of the girlfriends he was cheating with, moved in with her and because we worked together, I found out he was cheating on her even. The sad thing is he left me for someone who is uneducated, very homely, just as overweight as I am(remember he told me to lose weight) and in everyones opinion, someone who is very unattractive all the way around. Sorry for the long post, but the conclusion is: People cheat not for the thrill, but I think becuse they have low self esteem. I think that in their mind they want to be better not equal, therefore they find someone lower than themself. Why is it when a man leaves a woman, the new woman is always worse looking than youself? I think they think by getting someone lower than themself they can feel better about themself. It is just a sickening thought!!!!! Using someone else to make you feel better. Also cheaters will always be cheaters and liars, they kind of go hand and hand like milk and cookies. I was told once by someone: If they lie, they will cheat, if they cheat they will steal, if they steal they will kill, and I believe every bit of it. Maybe you should read the forum on Pathological Liars, this cheating man had every characteristic mentioned.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 746 (view)

Anyone from Texas HERE ??? If so introduce yourself Posted: 11/11/2006 8:47:20 AM
HI, I'm Nina from Katy

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Why Can't He Talk To Me Posted: 11/11/2006 8:23:37 AM
Thank you for your story, it lets me know that I am not alone in this situation. I know it exist everyday but the pain still feels the same. One thing different is, at least he told you why he left, this one is complete avoidance. I feel really stupid at times because I did pass up other opportunities, maybe the real deal? Each time he said I needed patience, I told him I was patient, but don't keep me waiting, if you change your mind be a man and tell me and if I change my mind I will be a woman and tell you, so we are not waiting around wasting time for something that does not exist. It looks like I was the only one waiting around, I started having my doubts because I would see him signed on here, when I asked him about it, he said that he was talking to other artist friends about projects. I trusted him, another stupid mistake. Well here it is about a month later and he has avoided me, but through this forum I have been able to find some comfort and solace in this whole ordeal. I have decided that enough time has passed that I can start to enjoy myself again and so I am. Best of luck to you also. By the way are you in Houston? I hope we are not talking about the same person, lol.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Why Can't He Talk To Me Posted: 11/8/2006 7:30:00 PM
Actually, I am new to dating. I was married for 13 years, followed by a serious relationship for 4 years following my divorce. I never dated inbetween and not much before I married. I married at 21 and only dated 1 person prior to marriage. So even though some may think I should have known I didn't.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Is he worth waiting for? Posted: 11/2/2006 12:37:59 PM
I would not wait on him, afterall he is married with a child, I would not want to be the woman waiting on the sideline. His child will always be first, and that is totally acceptable, but the fact that he has not filed for divorce is another issue, I would be concerned. Why didn't he ask you to vacation with him. There are plenty of singe men on this site, seek one out.

Katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Pathological Liars Posted: 10/27/2006 9:10:14 PM
You have posted some very interesting facts here. My ex fiance of 4 years fit each criteria to a "T", I felt like he was always lying because of low self esteem. He not only lied to me, but also to friends, family and his employer and coworkers. I think he need psychological help, but at least he is no longer my problem. Thank God.

Katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Don't know what to do...??? Posted: 10/27/2006 6:30:34 AM
Sorry DuDrops, I have made the same mistake in my life, not once but twice, of course same person. I have had to suck it up because like any risk in life nothing is guaranteed. Most of the time we do something like "sleeping" with someone in hopes that they will want to be with you, but it is not "sex" that makes a relationship. A relatioship needs to be built on truth, trust, chemistry, many other qualities can be here, the list goes on, but sex is only a part of it, there have been relationships that have lasted with little sex, there are relationships that are plutonic. I felt that after I made this mistake, that all hope was lost for ever having a relationship with that person, I felt embarrassed at what I did, as it was out of character for me. I have managed to remain friends with that person, but I keep my distance. I have realized that sex can break up a good friendship faster than it can build a relationship. I would just try to recover from what you have done, concentrate on finding a true mate. I no longer believe that "friends make good lovers" like the song says, afterall it is just a song. Good luck to you in any future relationship. I am still fishing also, it is lonely at the pond but hang in there, you will get a bite soon and I wish you a "Big Fish". Take care.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Why Can't He Talk To Me Posted: 10/26/2006 11:44:45 AM
I understand what you are telling me, and trust me I am moving on. The fact that he wrote me is not what I was looking for. In the beginning he said that we would have to have a lot of patience because he was so busy, and I said fine. I also let him know then do not keep me waiting for something that is not real. We had a mutual agreement that if either one of us found that we were unhappy or wanted out we would talk to each other and let them know. I could accept the fact that he has changed his mind but be a man about it and talk to me don't hide behind the computer screen. Do as we promised each other. If I had made the decision to cut the relationship I would have been woman enough talk to him either on the phone or in person.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Why Can't He Talk To Me Posted: 10/25/2006 4:44:48 PM
I met a really nice guy on here, I will admit I was concerned about age in the beginning, he was 29 and I am 37. Things moved very slowly in the beginning and I was thrilled that we were on the same page. He seemed to adapt well to my kids and they liked him a whole lot. Then he calls me and says that he is having problems with his truck, it will be 2 weeks before he can come over and I said OK, all weekend he did not answer my calls, then on Monday he wrote me and said that he did not have time for a relationship, he had too much on his plate, but he wanted to assure me that there was nobody else, it is just that he has too many projects going right now. In the beginning he stated he was very busy and I would have to be patient and I agreed. I noticed that he has been on POF everyday during this time of silence, he won't write back or answer his phone. I feel like I have been dumped even though, we agreed in the beginning if our feelings changed we would be open and honest. I do not believe that his statement, "you deserve better, I can not be the man you need right now" is all so truthful, I think it is bullshit, because even if that is true then why dodge the phone calls. Am I just being too hurt and missing something here or are my intuitions correct and maybe he found a new date and is just not man enough to face me? This really bothers me.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Crowne Plaza Party 10/21/06!! Posted: 10/20/2006 2:35:51 PM
I don't think it would matter how many women RSVP'd to you 1 or 100, you won't show up anyway, you didn't come to the last party either. As for everyone who signs up, the sign up list looks great but many more need to commit and actually show up, it is a great way to meet in a public place for the first meeting.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Support for stepchildren... Posted: 9/5/2006 3:55:56 PM
I don't quite understand your question maybe, so if this does not seem right to you then maybe it is a misunderstanding. If her children are not biologically yours then you do not owe her support for the other dad's kids. If you have your biological and her biological daughter, then she should be paying child support to you for that daughter. I would most definitely request a hearing through the Child Support Division. My kids dad does not pay as ordered but my exfiance is good enough and he still helps me with the kids although he is not living in our home anymore and he is with his new girlfriend. I am lucky for the situation I have.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Do women date single dad's who live with there kids Posted: 8/10/2006 12:20:38 PM
I am a single mom of 4 kids. I would most certainly date a single dad with children. I love children. When I commit to a relationship I commit to the whole package whatever it might entail. I was fortunate and unfortunate in my last relationship. He was really good in the beginning, although he turned out to be a cheater I still can't deny the fact that he was a wonderful provider for my, and I said MY children, not his. He took us as a package deal. I do not feel that children are baggage and shame on those men and women alike who feel that they are. I would ony hope that both families could mesh well. It is obvious there will be authority struggles on both sides and it is expected. I think that through proper understanding and due diligence those struggles can be overcome. Overall I would be thrilled to date a man with children at least we would have that much in common and he would understand me more than a man without children. I think you are just not seeking hard enough, there are other women out there like me, but like men, there are only a handfull available. Good Luck in your search.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

if your ex cheated on you, and left you for that person Posted: 8/10/2006 10:27:10 AM
My ex cheated on me and hid it for a year and a half. I figured it out and soon after he left to go and be with her when he realized he could not lie to me anymore. We still work in the same company and he spends more time talking to me now than he did when we were together. I know he regrets his wrong doings and his choices but there is no going back ever. You can't move forward in life if you are always taking a step backwards. Besides that once a cheater always a cheater. I would not take that person back for all the money in the world.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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Stupid rhymes to pass the time. Posted: 8/10/2006 9:52:19 AM
This is a very neat thread That I'm glad I read Wasn't sure what to write But I thought about it through the night I like your works Ignore any jerks Talent is what you make it No need to fake it

katymomof4

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Question about child support Posted: 8/10/2006 9:37:03 AM
I have four kids and their dad was ordered over 3 years ago during our divorce to pay child support in the amount of $550 a month and I do not see a penny of it. For school this year he handed over a whole $100 towards helping with school clothes. I don't push the issue because putting him in jail does not solve the problem and it still does not bring money to the household. Plus, I do not want to be the bad guy in the eyes of the children putting their dad in jail. I can assure you it takes a lot to raise children. I do not think that you are paying too much and I commend you for paying and not being a dead beat dad. Just remember 30,000 does not go far with the rising cost of rent, food, gas, utilities, ins. and etc... Also little things occur like daycare pictures, special events, birthday parties, etc... I am positive that that money is being spent wisely and for your child.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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He made the first move now what? Posted: 8/9/2006 2:25:41 PM
The forums are fairly new to me, I did not realize that they would be tagged to my profile, oh well I let it out now I have to live with it. Hopefully his daughter will not ever go on POF again and I will just have to not let her see my profile.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

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He made the first move now what? Posted: 8/9/2006 2:24:08 PM
I can assure you he is not married, I know for a fact he is divorced, I have seen the divorce papers and know a lot about him personally. I know that he is not attaced in anyway, so I do not know what the problem is. Could be because he knows my ex. oh what the hell, my ex works for him and so do I. I spend the majority of time with him in the office and outside the office even if only by phone. Now you have it.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

He made the first move now what? Posted: 8/9/2006 2:13:45 PM
lots of people can be affected by it. can't say too much more.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

He made the first move now what? Posted: 8/9/2006 2:12:59 PM
yes it really is a real question. i have lots of feelings for this person and i have for a good while. certain things took place that led up to what happened kind of like some shifting of things that more or less cleared the way, it is hard to explain because someone else i know that he knows uses this system so i have to be careful in case that person sees this post.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

He made the first move now what? Posted: 8/9/2006 2:00:50 PM
Someone I least expected to have anything to do with me made the first move. We have spent lots of time together and have spent 2 evenings together, mmmm. I don't know how to proceed with this, I would like it to be, but still seems impossible. How do I know what he is thinking or can I know. We have discussed these issues of spending time together and have agreed to keep it quiet between the two of us, now here I am telling the whole world, lol. But seriously I don't know what to do. I want it to be, but I also don't want to scare him away. Right now we are considered "Best Friends" with benefits. Please advise of how I should proceed.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Maybe opposites do attract? Posted: 5/14/2006 2:48:37 PM
I think my thread must have been misunderstood. What I mean is, we had a lot in common. Maybe we were too much alike and as the old saying is "opposites attract", maybe we were not too different, basically all chiefs and no indians. I thought that having a lot in common was good but I guess not.

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Maybe opposites do attract? Posted: 5/12/2006 9:43:01 AM
I recently started chatting with someone here on POF and it was amazing, we had so much in common. Both of us had photos in our profile so it was not a blind date. We chatted so much and had so much in common, I was believing it was a perfect match. Then we met for some tea and talk, we were the last ones to leave the restaurant. Then we spent much time talking in the parking lot. It felt as if neither of us knew how to close the night. He said that he would like to do this again, but since then he has been dodging me and it really hurts. I wish I knew what went wrong. Could it be that we had so much in common and as the old adage says, "Opposites Attract"., therefore we were not compatible, and if so then why isn't he man enough to just tell me "hey I don't like you"?

katymomof4

Joined: 4/2/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

crowne plaza party 4/22/06 Posted: 4/22/2006 9:12:14 AM
It is a good thing that you are not coming because I do not believe there is room there for someone who is as SHALLOW as you are. Maybe you should watch Shallow Hal you might learn a valuable lesson about what love and relationships are really about. It is about the beauty inside not the body on the outside. By the way you have many imperfections yourself you are far from perfect take a second look at your photo and you will see!!!!!!!!

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