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SJS

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Spontaneous,a romantic dream? Posted: 11/18/2009 2:27:21 PM
I love spontaneity. I plan it on a regular basis.

SJS

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one message then nothing Posted: 11/17/2009 9:26:50 AM
Tip for Getting a Reply: Ask a question. Doesn't always work, but the logic is good.

SJS

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Virgin Broadband Posted: 11/16/2009 4:32:10 PM
I'm afraid I can't be helpful - the whole Virgin thing is ancient, almost forgotten, history for me. I'm sure that there are Forums on t'internet devoted to this sort of thing? However.... I hope you find an answer to your question, OP, because I know for sure that there are lots of members on here who would like to "update their medium package to a large package at no extra cost" Good luck!

SJS

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How long will you stick with POF? Posted: 11/16/2009 4:05:39 PM
Been here a few months now, Really? On your second profile already then? Or have you mistaken four days for 'a few months'? and been on a few dates now. Good for you! (didya get laid?!) Find it a real head messer though the dating game and online dating. People will give really good feedback after a date and say how they're looking forward to the next one, and then nothing. You certainly need to grow a thick skin on here..... knock-backs are just par for the course, and failure is standard! There's also an etiquette issue, if you date someone is it still ok to be coming on here? Can send various signals! If you are dating someone it's probably best to talk to them about their feelings about you/them still being on a dating/social site. Honesty is the best policy, in my opinion. Sure POF opens doors to a lot of people, but it sure does give you a kicking too! I'm thinking of a break for my sanity :) Yup, you'll get kickings, but you'll get the opportunity to meet people (maybe for romance, maybe for friendship) who you'd otherwise not encounter. And if your sanity is under strain now - wait till you've been using these forums for a while and THEN you'll know what serious mental disorder is about! dribbles into sleeves of straitjacket

SJS

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Vanishing Users. Anyone Else Noticed? Posted: 11/16/2009 2:06:52 PM
It's the POF Triangle. Like the Bermuda Triangle, but Canadian. or People join, have a look around, and then decide it's not for them.

SJS

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Hold my hand Posted: 11/16/2009 2:04:49 PM
I'm very very cautious about all this hugging, kissing and hand holding malarkey. One has to have standards, you know. I've found that, on an initial meeting, if I stride purposefully up to the gentleman in question, ram my hand firmly down the front of his grundies to have a good old rummage around in his trouser furniture and find that there's little (sic) or no response, then there is certainly not going to be a date #2. no one has ever objected and have allways responded and I have never been rejected or pushed away Same as that.

SJS

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hard to be single - social events Posted: 11/15/2009 11:45:28 AM
I dont really mind going to social events on my own. I know that there will be friends there, so I shant be alone. I dont feel that I NEED a partner to be there - I'm a whole person in my own right - I'm an adequate guest as I am. A partner wont 'complete' me, he'll compliment who I am. A nice additional extra, if you like!

SJS

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expensive tv at poole hospital Posted: 11/14/2009 4:53:09 PM
Could I just reiterate what was said by Ms Belle2009 in her post above...... Dont know where you get the idea from but the NHS is NOT free. We all pay National Insurance which pays for the treatment you get and those of us that pay taxes pay for the hospitals that are built. I suppose whether or not there should be charges for non-urgent items like tvs rather depend on what ones priorities are. Funds are limited......if its a choice of either a crash team or The A Team, then I'm pretty sure we'd all go for the former....

SJS

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Should a physical impediment end a relationship? Posted: 11/14/2009 9:36:40 AM
How bad would a physical impediment have to be before you decide a person’s not for you? Hmmmmmm.... complicated issue. For me personally....... I'm sure that if I met a really nice person, who made me smile, I would overlook a more significant impediment (such as having a lisp or maybe an extra head.) But if he was only a just about ok sort of geezer then I'd definitely be put off more easily by a less significant imperfection (such as an extra ear or maybe having an arm where a leg should be.) And, it follows, that if he really wasn't very nice at all then I wouldn't put up with even the slightest deviation from absolute standard. (Except for the obvious 'penis on chin' condition, obviously.)

SJS

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Dating In Debt !! Posted: 11/11/2009 2:10:20 AM
As with most things, it would depend upon the details of each individual person...... I think that if they were managing their debt ok then it probably wouldn't be a big issue. If they were up to their ears and still not taking responsibility for it then they probably wouldn't be the sort of person I'm attracted to.

SJS

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Polite replies/refusals Posted: 11/11/2009 2:08:06 AM
I go through phases.... I do the polite "thanks, but I dont think we are suited" for a while, and then I get a rude response to that so I just ignore them for a while, and then I start the "thanks, but I dont think we are suited" again.... and so it goes on..... (Unless the initial contact is just '"hi babe", "hi hun", "nice pics" or has any reference to my underwear in it in which case I always just ignore it!)

SJS

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Hairy backs - are they an issue? Posted: 11/11/2009 2:05:03 AM
Nope. Not an issue for me.

SJS

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being honest with yourself? Posted: 11/10/2009 6:51:30 AM
I try to be as honest as I can with myself. I try to be as honest as I can, without being hurtful, to others. I have to like me, you see. Otherwise why would anyone else?

SJS

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Hate being truthful about myself. Posted: 11/10/2009 6:25:16 AM
Retain your honesty and integrity, OP, and you will have self respect. You cannot expect others to treat you with respect until that happens. Your profile on here is honest and open, and that is how we should all be. It's hard enough for us run-of-the-mill, bog standard, folk to find The One and it'll be harder for you. But you sure as hell wont find that person without being straightforward from the start (just like the rest of us). I wish you good luck.

SJS

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Did Addict Prisoner Deserve Compensation? Posted: 11/10/2009 6:18:21 AM
An innocent man, leading (presumably) an ordinary life. And he was jailed for something he didn't do. Branded a murderer, and treated as such. Can you imagine what that must have done to his mental state? No wonder he took (readily available) drugs! Our prisons are rife with drugs, many people go in clean and come out addicts, and that is terrible in itself. The prison service is at fault. However - the majority of people serving time are serving time because they are criminals. This is an innocent man - a man who has suffered at the hands of a faulty judiciary system. In my opinion he deserves every penny.

SJS

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Are we becoming collectively disillusioned with online dating? Posted: 11/10/2009 6:02:38 AM
Perseverance and an open mind is key. If you let yourself get disheartened and view things with a negative attitude (which I have been guilty of in the past) then you are generally only going to have negative results. Absolutely agree with this! And this applies to most areas of life, not just online dating.

SJS

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Cats vs Dogs Posted: 11/10/2009 5:59:22 AM
I live with a cat. I found her in a skip when she was a few weeks old, along with her brother and sister who both died. She is now seven years old and we have a great relationship. She is a very odd shape because of her early malnutrition - she looks like a lot of spare bits of cat thrown together - but she is extremely loving and loyal. She's nervy around other people, but I think she thinks I am her mum (she wasn't properly weaned when we met, and used to try to suckle from me!) and wants to be with me all the time. She has never once bitten or scratched me, even when I have to do nasty worming things to her, and she has never once wee'd or poo'd where she shouldn't. I've never lived with a dog but I can see that their company must be appealing to some. However, I work, I spend time with friends and I have enough 'must do's' in my life already so I dont want the much larger responsibility of living with a dog.

SJS

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What's With This Horoscope Stuff? Posted: 11/9/2009 6:31:46 AM
I used to give some credence to astrology, so I researched it a bit. (Just because a person doesnt prescribe to a particular theory, Merkin, dont assume their ignorance!) I was disillusioned by the flaws in theory and the 'adding on' of bits through the years. I think it is very unlikely to have any real value. Interesting to read what was said in Msg 36 (thanks for that!) I think it nicely proves that if one wants to believe in something one can convince oneself of its worth.

SJS

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Women the superior sex Posted: 11/8/2009 7:18:05 AM
I met a man from here once who could multi task. He could talk on the phone, burn crumpets, tease a dog, plump up cushions and straighten tie backs all at once. I believe others thought he was a bit of a gayer. I wonder what happened to him? If only he would come back to us................... Gosh, SJ, how lucky you were to meet such a catch! Most of us can only live in hope that this paragon might step graciously into our lives...... I've been pondering this 'multi-tasking' thing, and have decided that it's probably irrelevant for me..... I can do just about everything myself anyway. So long as a man can do one thing well, that's all I need. And I'd like him to be superior while he's doing it, please.

SJS

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Women the superior sex Posted: 11/8/2009 5:43:03 AM
Which sex is superior? I think that probably it's the one which doesn't worry about whether it's superior or not!

SJS

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living with a partner with an ex addiction Posted: 11/8/2009 5:31:04 AM
Would I have a relationship with someone recovering from an addiction? I think I'd have to weigh up each situation/person on their own merits. It's very easy to become an addict (I have a nicotine addiction myself) but very hard to overcome that addiction. I have nothing but admiration for those who do. As for smack being easier than alcohol to kick? I fear that may be because one of those drugs is so freely available (and a huge part of our societys recreational structure) and the other can be more easily avoided.

SJS

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What's With This Horoscope Stuff? Posted: 11/7/2009 2:44:04 PM
I tend to be of the opinion that Horoscopes are meaningless, and I dont even notice them on peoples profiles. That kind of cynicism is typical of an Aries though.

SJS

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Fireworks Landing Zones Posted: 11/7/2009 10:37:25 AM
Here we are then.......the third night of explosions all around! On Thursday there was the "arranged" "official" display in the park. On Friday there were some in peoples gardens, and a smattering of idiots in the local streets. And tonight, so far, there have been two "displays" in neighbours gardens. Two of the rockets so far have made my windows vibrate! I'm braced for the idiots when the pubs chuck out........

SJS

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LOL! Posted: 11/6/2009 7:12:46 AM
I've never heard 'lol' spoken! As has been asked.... do they say "el oh el" or "loll"? I hate it when people put it at the end of a written sentence and think that it somehow makes things funny which actually aren't. Language is always changing, growing, evolving, so I guess this is just the latest new thing.

SJS

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Christmas Dinner Posted: 11/5/2009 4:10:52 PM
I wouldnt mind a wee bitta cokc for my xmas dinner this year............ Do you roast it? Wrap it in bacon? Does it need much basting? I too am veggie, so it's Quorn roast for me. All the christmas trimmings though, including sprouts because I love 'em!

SJS

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How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile? Posted: 11/5/2009 10:13:31 AM
The length of time I spend reading a profile depends on how much is written there, and whether I am immediately put off or not. What do I notice first? 1) Looks: can I imagine them looking up at me from halfway down the bed without feeling nauseous? 2) Location: can we manage to get together without visiting airports? 3) Wit: Do they appear to have a higher IQ than my flip-flop, and does it come with a fully functioning sense of humour. You'd think that wouldn't be a problem, eh?

SJS

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Ethnicity, Sex, Religion even income - all distinct on profiles - Should Politics be included? Posted: 11/5/2009 6:54:39 AM
I dont think it's necessary to have an option for politics. If it's particularly important to you then you can always put something to that effeect in the body of your profile. The 'sexuality' thing, I think, could do with a tweak. The 'looking for' facility only covers men OR women. Bisexuality isn't covered. (though I seem to remember once being told that it is the ONLY reason that having two profiles is acceptable to Admin?)

SJS

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What have your dates been like so far? Posted: 11/3/2009 7:28:01 AM
yes even shorter guys can be loving, caring and passionate too, and no the height issue isn`t getting on my tit$ either...........iam 5`5" and iam very tall, An inch shorter than the bloke in your profile, then? I had a few dates a couple of years ago and only one of them had The Spark. Most of them were nice enough, just not 'it'. I've just started looking again, and I'm hoping that there will be more sparks this time.......

SJS

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Fireworks Landing Zones Posted: 11/3/2009 6:47:11 AM
I think fireworks should only be sold to those who hold a licence, and in order to obtain that licence a person should have to be trained in their safe usage, and be holding a public display. I hate the damned things! They terrify my cat, intimidate people on the streets, and on top of causing distress to domestic livestock pose a very real danger once they have landed in both grazing fields and playing fields. Ever seen the leftover metal stake from a sparkler embedded in the knee of a Sunday afternoon footballer? Not pretty.

SJS

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Is it possible to love an ex & have a healthy new relationship? Posted: 11/3/2009 6:40:22 AM
Is it possible to love your ex and still move on to a new relationship? Yes, absolutely. My ex husband and I love each other. He is one of my closest, dearest friends. I also love his new partner, and their daughter. Is it possible for the sort of love you have for someone to change? Yes, absolutely. I fell 'in love' with the man who was to become my husband. Over the years of our marriage that love changed. Hence the 'ex' bit. Our friendship is incredibly important to both of us, not only because we have a daughter, but we are not 'in love' any more. It's an easier, more comfortable kind of affection. Is it possible for some sort of love to still be there and for a new love to simultaneously blossom? Yes, absolutely. I have loved my ex husband ever since we met. Because that love has evolved into what it is now, it is in no way any kind of threat or impediment to a new relationship. A few years after we had separated I fell in love with a man who was in love with me. Unfortunately it only lasted a few years, but its demise had nothing whatsoever to do with the loving friendship I share with my ex husband. I think that if an ex is a friend (a real friend) then that relationship is no more a handicap to having a new 'romantic relationship' than any other friendship may be.

SJS

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He forgot my name!?! Posted: 11/2/2009 2:01:26 PM
He made a mistake. It's likely that you are not the only woman with whom he is corresponding, he only forgot your name (he probably thinks of you by your POF name anyway).... you aren't actually married yet - and he didn't commit a crime! Why on earth would you block him?!

SJS

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driving Posted: 11/1/2009 12:25:55 PM
Keep at it Nic. By the way..... you do know that if you take/pass your test in an automatic, you are not licenced to drive a manual, don't you?

SJS

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Should Alcohol Be A Classified Drug? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:56:45 AM
I found it ironic how cocaine and heroin wasn't mentioned - really obvious why though. From OP: Alcohol ranks as the fifth most harmful drug after heroin, cocaine, barbiturates and methadone.[/quote

SJS

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Should Alcohol Be A Classified Drug? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:06:48 AM
It seems that the concensus of opinion (on here) is that alcohol should not be a classified drug. So, given that: "Alcohol and tobacco are more harmful than many illegal drugs, including LSD, ecstasy and cannabis, according to a paper from a drugs expert." "Alcohol ranks as the fifth most harmful drug after heroin, cocaine, barbiturates and methadone. Tobacco is ranked ninth." should all the currently illegal drugs which rank lower in the harmful stakes than alcohol (such as LSD, ecstasy & cannabis) still be classified, or illegal?

SJS

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Should Alcohol Be A Classified Drug? Posted: 10/30/2009 3:03:37 AM
An interesting read: http://www.guardian.co.uk/politics/2009/oct/29/nutt-drugs-policy-reform-call "Alcohol and tobacco are more harmful than many illegal drugs, including LSD, ecstasy and cannabis, according to a paper from a drugs expert." "Alcohol ranks as the fifth most harmful drug after heroin, cocaine, barbiturates and methadone. Tobacco is ranked ninth." Do you think it's time that there was an update of the laws on recreational drug use, so that ALL of them are classified correctly? Do you think that as the classifications currently stand we are misleading our youth into thinking that alcohol abuse is 'safe'? Do you think that drug classification, in general, should be based on the research evidence rather than political or moral positioning? Discuss......

SJS

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Dating people you haven't met online Posted: 10/29/2009 4:26:50 AM
The last time I was seriously chatted up by a 'Real Person' was by a barman. Slightly younger than me, incredibly good looking, and smooth as oiled silk. Course - I was on holiday, and he was Greek, and I didn't think the whole Shirley valentine thing was quite my cup of tea - but I was flattered! I meet a few men when I'm out and about, but not many. I think that spending so much time with married friends (very often at their houses, rather than in public) isn't condusive to finding potential dates!

SJS

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Flirting with Married people Posted: 10/29/2009 4:19:55 AM
I've been pondering this because of the diverse and vehement disparity in some peoples opinions on 'flirting'. (Not because of the English Language lesson - I have my own dictionary, thanks) A mate of mine, a married mate, came round for coffee this morning, so I discussed it with her. I flirt with her husband, he flirts with me. Have done for years. So she seemed like a good person to ask. When I posed the question "how do you feel about the flirting that goes on between Don and I?" she replied "it's funny". When I asked if she felt it was wrong she said "it's a good laugh". And when I asked if she felt that it was in any way threatening or dangerous or in bad taste she just said "but you're my friend". We went on to talk further and she also brought up the point that she trusts her husband. It hadn't even entered her head to be concerned or worried - even when her husband and I have slept in the same bed when staying at other friends houses. So - I think maybe it's a trust thing. My friends trust me. Its a prerequisite of friendship for me - mutual trust. And for my married friends - mutual trust between the two of them. And trusting oneself may be pretty relevant too, of course. To reiterate, and to be firmly on topic, OP: I think it's easy to flirt with married/attached mates because there is no threat. It's fun. When flirting 'for real' it's more difficult because something more could come of it, and that makes one wary.

SJS

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Funniest First Contact Message. Posted: 10/28/2009 5:52:19 PM
I got this last night: can you lend me 32p please? And, oddly enough, I found myself amused enough to respond!

SJS

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Send Quick Message Posted: 10/28/2009 5:13:29 PM
I've just (purely experimentally, you understand) sent a friend a 'quick message'. Interestingly enough, once I'd sent it, I had a message at the top of my screen telling me that POF strongly suggests that I contact the following users. Guess who the 'following users' were? Trapped Ticket & some other geezer! You sure this isn't just an extra advertising feature for you mods?!?!

SJS

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Lonely Hearts Ads Posted: 10/28/2009 5:02:14 PM
I know people who use the local lonely hearts pages, and some of them are quite sucessful. It's the 'local' thing that's important, and very different to a site like this which is often not very useful for people in areas of low population. Worth a try, I'd say. (after all, you've nothing to lose!) I don't read the 'paper' ads these days because if they aren't a) solvent enough to use a computer or b) intelligent enough to use a computer then they are not for me. Hmmmm, yup. Could be a factor.

SJS

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SUGGESTING A DATE Posted: 10/28/2009 4:39:45 PM
If you want to ask him, OP, just go for it. You're an upfront sort of a girl, no shrinking violet, so if he's put off by you having the balls to ask then he's not very likely to be the one for you! I've suggested a meeting before, and I've not found that it's put people off. I'd do it again if I was in a similar situation. I dont think it really matters who asks, and I think that anyone who thinks it does matter is unlikely to be my The One!

SJS

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Flirting with Married people Posted: 10/27/2009 5:08:53 PM
I dont understand...why flirt with somebody that is happy in their relationship?? Its a contradiction...and totally pointless. It's (as I previously said) fun. Simple fun. Pointless? Yes, just fun. Personally I wouldnt want to upset any of my friends by flirting with their husbands...and if he flirted with me I would cut it dead immediately...cos who do you think the wife would turn on....??? It doesn't upset any of my friends if I flirt with their partners - it isn't something which is hidden from them at all, it's like the OP said.... just fun. Harmless because both parties (and any partners) know that it is unthreatening and completely without malice or intention of anything further developing from it. That's why it's fun and easy and comfortable. There is no threat - to anyone. Therefore no-one is bothered by it - it's FUN, nothing more, nothing less.

SJS

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Flirting with Married people Posted: 10/27/2009 3:50:43 PM
I flirt outrageously with lots of my married friends. Like you, OP, I know that there's nothing in it, that it's all in fun only, and that all it does is make us laugh. It's just risk free fun. And somehow I know when it strays into a 'danger zone' too. If it becomes even slightly likely that they think there's more to it, or a chance that something further may occur, I just switch it off. Automatically. Without even being aware that I've made the decision.

SJS

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How much effort should we make? Posted: 10/27/2009 12:02:25 PM
Why dont they make as much effort? Maybe it's YOU chosing the sort of blokes who are comfortable being who they are? Or maybe you make them feel at ease so that they don't feel they have to pretend to be something they aren't? How much effort should we make? Whatever you normally do. I dont like people to look like they've spent hours in front of a mirror so that they are groomed to within an inch of their lives, I prefer people who are what they are, and happy with that.

SJS

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Turn off or turn on jobs Posted: 10/27/2009 11:56:18 AM
I would never date anyone in the Military. (Dont like the mentality). Or a plod. So all those uniforms are a complete turn-off for me. As for turn ons? I really dont know! I dont think I'm too bothered really. I married a farmer, had a long term relationship with an engineer, and the last bloke I was seeing was an electrician, so I dont think I have a 'type!

SJS

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ever fancied someone, maybe on here or in your day to day life but like to keep it a secret Posted: 10/19/2009 4:39:23 PM
So tell me have any of you ever fancied someone, maybe on here or in your day to day life but like to keep it a secret and would never do anything about it or maybe youre thinking of doing something about it! I have fancied someone, on here and in my day to day life, but I like to keep it a secret and I would never do anything about it but I like to think about doing something about it (usually when I'm alone in bed, with oils and things that buzz).

SJS

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fat-ism, the next one for the pc brigade? Posted: 10/19/2009 4:35:51 PM
SJS if you are hungry all the time then you are not eating a healthy balanced diet. Wrong. I have a condition which means that even though I eat a very healthy and extremely well balanced diet, I am still hungry. Even after a large meal, I am still hungry. It's constant. What way is that to live? The only way I can. If I ate constantly to satisfy my hunger I'd already be dead by now. Don't make ungrounded assumptions and judgements, now. OK? As for thin people being employed? As a general rule, taking a sensible and well researched approach, people who are not obese are fitter than people who are obese. It's a simple choice for an employer. Sacking people if they become obese is an entirely different issue (rather like sacking someone who has ANY condition which no longer permits them to effectively do what they are employed to do)

SJS

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Living in an Ideal World - what will it be like? Posted: 10/19/2009 4:24:49 PM
I have to agree, in theory, with my favourite anarchist..... Basic premise - Equality. 1- Equal access to political decisionmaking for all. 2- Equal access to society's common wealth for all. As an ideal Communism is surely what most of us would like. In practice, of course, it doesn't work. Human nature cannot be changed by political structures. But one can dream. So, based on the horrorific reality that Communism would fail (again) I'd settle for my ideal world being fairly basic. I'd live in Johnny Depps bedroom and have an endless supply of everything illegal, immoral and fattening. Please.

SJS

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fat-ism, the next one for the pc brigade? Posted: 10/19/2009 4:17:18 PM
In the large majority of cases obesity IS a choice. Yes, there ARE medical conditions which mean that weight gain CAN be an issue. This issue can be reduced, or completely removed, by eating less (and, if the condition allows, exercising more). It is therefore entirely up the the employer if he/she wants to employ someone who choses to be overweight. They'd be silly to take on someone who has made a choice to become unfit/unable to do the job, wouldn't they? And before anyone starts: I am not skinny, but I have to really work at not being fat. Always have had to, since I was 15. If I made a choice to let myself be obese then I could be within months. I make the choice not to. So I DO understand how hard it is, and how it feels to be hungry all the time. So there.

SJS

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Apart From Metal. Posted: 10/19/2009 7:18:28 AM
I'm not a 'metal' fan - though (apart from the almost ubiquitous dislike of heavy Jazz) I can enjoy almost anything else. Why? I feel (and I suspect that there are many others who do too) that it's a very negative genre. It's most often performed by people with an axe to grind against society, and consequently usually comes across as both angry and depressing. Not in any way pleasing to listen to unless you too are angry and depressed. Melody and diversity of vocal sounds are not usually evident. Lyrical content is often of the 'oh my god, I think I'll cut my wrists because the world is so horrid to me and no-one understands me' type. On the whole: I can rarely relate to what is sung (or rather shouted) and when I do hear much of it I'm left with a feeling of wanting to slap the performers legs and tell them to stop being silly and grow up. Dont be offended by the above, OP, that was not my intention. You asked for an opinion, so I'm giving it. I should add: Just because it's not to my taste doesn't mean I dont respect each persons right to choose who/what they listen to at any given moment in their lives.

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