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Who's Your Secret Crush? Posted: 4/3/2007 8:05:32 PM
No doubt about it....Christian Bale. Be still my heart!!! He's soooo hot. http://www.christianbale.net/

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What do you LOVE most about PA? Posted: 4/3/2007 7:19:26 PM
I love Pennsylvania. I love the history, the food, and my Pennsylvania German heritage. I love being within driving distance of mountains, the shore, Philly, NYC, lakes, rivers, and forests. I love the Phillies, the Sixers and the Eagles. I love that we have so many great colleges and teaching hospitals. I love the people, the geography and the pace. It's my home. I've lived in other places, down south and in New England, and there isn't anyplace else I'd rather be than good old PA. I live in a small town and it's just right for me, only not enough single guys in my age group. That's one thing I'd change.

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Lehigh Valley/ A.B.E. Party March 23rd Posted: 3/30/2007 10:00:11 PM
Did anybody show up for this? How did it go? I was just wondering to night if there was ever any parties in the Lehigh Valley and then I found this, but too late. Interested to see how you made out.

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Profession makes it hard for dating Posted: 3/22/2007 9:35:06 PM
I work in an office, but it's an addition on to my boss's home, which is located out in the country. She has her own business, and I'm her assistant. I see nobody on the job from day to day except my boss and two older women who also work for her and my boss's husband, who is retired, and their dog. I eat lunch at my desk, so I really don't have an opportunity to meet ANYONE new. I often wish I worked in an office building in the middle of a city somwhere so I'd get to meet more people.

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CHAT, IM's and Phone Calls Posted: 2/12/2007 9:30:22 PM
I see a lot of profiles of guys on dating sites and they describe themselves as "very attractive" and I look at the photo and think, "DUDE!! Don't listen to your mother, look in the mirror!!" They clearly have NO CLUE what women find attractive in a man. Myself, I like to get an idea of how intelligent a guy is and chatting and/or emailing with them online is a good way to tell. If they use complete sentences, spell words correctly and use good grammar, then that's a good indication to me that they're educated. A definite step in the right direction (FOR ME). Also, guys who can carry on a conversation without bringing sex into it shows, to me, that they're interested in ME as a person, not just a f-buddy. I find that men in general want to be the aggressors. OK, maybe that's "old school" but I AM 50-something so I know the situation for older men. I figure if a guy is interested in me, he'll contact me, ask for my number, etc. If he just throws his number at me, I'll figure he's got a lot of other chicks with that number as well, and doesn't particularly need me calling him. These are all observations based on my experience. Your milage may vary.

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how can you tell if a man is honest about liking you? Posted: 2/12/2007 9:13:00 PM
Run, don't walk, to the nearest library or book store and read "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" by Greg Behrendt. Seriously, this guy knows what he's talking about. You may not want to hear it, but it's true, true, true.

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What women truly seek Posted: 1/31/2007 10:22:34 PM
Hey, thanks...but the fact remains that there are a lot of guys here who are not very literate. That bothers me. I'm a smart chick and I want somebody who can spell, write, and use the English language correctly. That includes not using "they're" instead of "their" or "you're" instead of "your." Is that shallow? I don't think so. No more shallow than a guy who wants a fifty year old with the body of a teenager, which seems to be the case around here.

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What women truely seek Posted: 1/31/2007 10:10:47 PM
What women seek is a man who can spell "truly."

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Where is the Most Unusual Place You've Had Sex? Posted: 1/31/2007 10:09:08 PM
State gamelands during a particularly warm November evening right before hunting season. Wonder what the deer thought??

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Do you believe in love at 1st site or is it something we must build on? Posted: 1/20/2007 10:27:47 PM
I'm not so sure that love at first sight is actually love, but an intense physical attraction that often leads to real love. We all know that there are those people that just grab our attention the first time we lay eyes on them. I've had that myself. Sometimes this is mutual and often that leads to something more. I think if YOU think it's love at first sight (that is, you've met someone who you find immensely attractive and worth persuing) then you should go for it. How many times have we heard stories where Person A meets Person B and thinks, "this is the one I want to marry and/or spend my life with," and it happens? Too many for it not to hold some truth. The guy I fell in love with at first sight has been in and out of my life over the years, but I will always truly love him, even though he is now permanently out of the picture.

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Why so many younger men contacting older women?? Posted: 1/3/2007 9:08:24 PM
joyce29 said: I only go after the younger guys also. I am a young looking 50 and the guys out there my age don't appeal to me at all. They are usually uneducated, fat, bald and VERY inactive. So if you all know of any younger, cute, educated and slim guys out there with hair and nice teeth send them my way.....LOL I'm not asking for much now am I? Wow, joyce29, I SO agree with you. I'm 52, probably could pass for 47 and the guys who are my age look like 60 PLUS. I do NOT want to end up with an old fart with high cholesterol, diabetes and penile disfunction. Also...most men and up my age brag about riding their Harley. What's with that?? I say, you just do that so you can say you have something big between your legs. LOL. I tend to reply to men who are at least 2-3 years younger than me. I've had my share of Nigerians and South Africans, which I ignore, but some of the 20 or 30-somethings who contact me and want "a mature woman" are just looking for a notch in their sexual belt. I can hear it now, "Dude. Check it out. I did this 52 year old MILF. Awesome, huh?" They're out for the bragging rights. I'll keep an open mind, but for me, younger men (within about 7 years) are the way to go. Youngsters are NOT.

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Best and worst Posted: 12/4/2006 8:42:23 PM
New Hope is wonderful, but bring lots of money. Forget Jim Thorpe, though. It's dirty and hardly any parking. One place I pass a lot on the way to my sister's is Chadd's Ford. I never went there, but I hear it's great. I also love Longwood Gardens. You MUST see that at Christmastime. Nothing like it.

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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall................................... Posted: 8/13/2006 7:45:02 PM
If you go to any clothing store at the end of a season, what you will find is that there are practically no size 12 or 14 clothes in the clearance racks. So, in my opinion, those are the most common sizes so that means women on average fit in those sizes. I go between 12-14 most of the time, so I consider myself average.

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Why so many younger men contacting older women?? Posted: 8/4/2006 8:44:27 PM
Hey, TeeBear, wanna visit eastern PA?? Young, cute AND a Mustang?? Sigh....

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Pet Names for Genitalia..... Posted: 8/4/2006 8:40:37 PM
Hey Debbiepa, I think I saw your blue "Papa Smurf" over on EBay. Guess he needs the money. I KNEW it!! I am SO selling his baseball cards!!

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Is it wrong to say I love you Posted: 7/31/2006 8:18:00 PM
Yes. Telling a guy you love him is the kiss of death.

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Pet Names for Genitalia..... Posted: 7/30/2006 8:38:17 PM
I can't believe I'm replying to this thread. No name for anything down south, but my boobs are called "the twins." As a side note, I used to have a blue vibrator I called "Papa Smurf." My ex stole it when he moved out. **stard.

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Love...and Lonelyness of a bored American Housewife.. Posted: 7/29/2006 10:55:08 AM
If you're so bored, study up on that grammar. "2wards"? vomit and a big amen.

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Why so many younger men contacting older women?? Posted: 7/23/2006 8:16:08 PM
I would love to find somebody about 5-8 years younger than me, but not much more. I too find that guys my age are "old farts" in that they usually look a lot older than me and have let themselves go quite a bit. Yet these same old farts want younger women! Go figure.

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For those who don't have pictures...why? Posted: 7/22/2006 10:59:56 PM
Well, suppers, I guess if I didn't have a picture and you did, and we decided to meet because you liked my "personality" and I thought you were good looking, then we'd BOTH be disappointed.

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If you could hook up with a celebrity... Posted: 7/20/2006 3:10:56 PM
Or Owen Wilson. I don't think I could hook up with somebody who had a nose that looks like a penis. Seriously.

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If you could hook up with a celebrity... Posted: 7/19/2006 8:39:33 PM
Definitely Richard Gere. Sigh.

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What do women honestly want in a man? Posted: 7/7/2006 9:23:57 PM
I like what Firewolf said. Everyone has different wants and needs. Just because we've been hurt, we shouldn't paint the opposite sex with the same brush as our ex-es. Mine was a passive-agressive, lazy dreamer who always made promises he wouldn't keep. Hence, my need for somebody "reliable." It's only natural to look for in the next person what you didn't have in the relationship that failed. Men seem to think that we women will never be satisfied. My ex used to say that about me, yet all I wanted to was to make our lives better. Better as in, "can we paint the living room?" Better as in, "our furniture is all worn out, can we think about buying something new?" or, "think we could go on vacation without your mother this summer?" Sheesh. Asking so little, yet deemed as demanding so much. And yet, if there's something GUYS want...a new truck, tools, tickets to the Phillies...then that's OK. See, men...it's all in your perspective. We get burned out with your bullshit, too.

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whats wrong with me ladies i cant get a date??? why??? Posted: 7/7/2006 8:30:07 PM
Ben...You're a cute guy. Here are some ideas....1. Turn off the computer. 2. Find a buddy. 3. Go out on a Friday and Saturday night. 4. Meet chicks. 5. Too busy with chicks to post online. Simple as that.

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For those who don't have pictures...why? Posted: 7/5/2006 7:10:53 PM
Well, this thread was a flop.

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For those who don't have pictures...why? Posted: 7/3/2006 3:01:01 PM
OK, fess up...why don't you have your picture up here? It's not fair that you can see me but I can't see you! Oh, yeah...anything more than two years old is cheating.

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 7/3/2006 2:58:17 PM
Debbie from smack dab between the Lehigh Valley and the Poconos.

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Okay ladies, where do you hang out? Posted: 7/3/2006 2:50:50 PM
At the risk of sounding whiney, I don't have the time or money to hang out. Like many other divorced moms, I work 2 jobs (3 in the winter) just to make ends meet. When I get home, I sometimes have somewhere to run my kid (he's in school activities). I also take time to go for a power walk or exercise so I stay healthy, and what time is left I do all the necessary household things like cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, etc. Late at night, who feels like getting all gussied up when you don't meet quality men in most night spots anyway? I don't have an answer for you, and maybe that's why I'm here online, but this has turned out to be a less than winning proposition as well. ::shrugs::

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What do women honestly want in a man? Posted: 6/30/2006 6:06:02 PM
I don't know about the younger women, but here's what I want... CLEAN...clean cut, clean smell, no rotten teeth, no scraggly beard, no dirty fingernails (yes, I know you may work on cars, but when you come home, wash them with a scrub brush and Lava soap). Clean clothes, no holes. You don't have to be gorgeous, but you do have to take pride in how you look. SMART...you can talk about current events, you can spell, you can string a sentence together. Preferably, college educated, but if not, you keep up on the news and you know what's going on in the world. FUNNY...you have a good sense of humor that isn't based on gross sex jokes or Southpark. Clever, witty, fun to be around, you just flat out make me laugh. HONEST...no games, no bullshit. RELIABLE...you say you'll call and you do. You're on time. You make promises that you keep. REALISTIC...you know that we're both not kids any more, and that I won't look like Jennifer Lopez, but you don't look like Brad Pitt, either. You accept that I'm a middle aged woman and you're a middle aged man. We all get older. Life sucks that way. RESPONSIBLE....you pay the bills. You have a good relationship with your kids. You work hard and take pride in it.

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Motorcycles Posted: 6/26/2006 9:03:04 PM
Hi all. Is it just me or what but it seems as if every profile I read the lady either rides her own bike, rode with ex's or is looking for a biker or motorcyle enthusiast. I have two good biker friends so don't take this post the wrong why. However I would not be caught dead on a bike.I am scared to death of them. Yes go ahead and laugh. Anyhow I just seem to notice this. Anyone else? I've said the same thing about the men!! I always thought it was because they wanted to be able to honestly say they had something big between their legs.

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dating again after all these years.. Posted: 6/26/2006 8:57:34 PM
Same here, age 52, married 22 years, have been divorced 4 and so far only a handful of dates. I find guys my own age want younger women. That leaves me with the geriatric crowd. Not all, but most older men aren't in great shape. Men tend to not take care of themselves as well as women and so don't age as well. I don't want to be stuck with some old guy with health problems when I'm in my sixties. No, I don't have the perky boobs that I did in my thirties or even forties, but I still have a lot to offer and I'm active and healthy. I get discouraged when I see somebody on here that I think I could be interested in, they're 50 years old and only want to hear from women 30-45, or some such. It's a jungle out there. And online isn't much better.

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Most women are so full of crap ! Posted: 6/26/2006 8:40:42 PM
I have looked at hundreds of guys on this site, and the one thing I can never get over is how horrible most of the pictures are. Face it, most of us want someone that we're physically attracted to. What do many people say attracts them to someone first? Their SMILE. Their EYES. Why in the world would you pick a picture like the one on your profile when it makes you look angry and it's such a terrible angle? Don't you, or many of the other guys on here, realize how much more attractive a nice, smiling picture is? Get a web cam. Experiment with good light, and for god's sake, SMILE. Things that make me pass over pictures are frowns, pained looks, no expression at all, big facial hair (ugh), sloppy looking clothes, and shirtless shots where the guy is obviously in love with himself. Present yourself in a way that a woman would find attractive and you'd be surprised how many more responses you get.

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how to live with out a love Posted: 6/26/2006 8:12:08 PM
You keep busy, and make others the focus of your life instead of yourself. There's so many causes out there and so many ways to be useful and needed. I'm not living my life expecting to meet somebody, but if someone comes along, that would be great.

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