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 Author Thread: A Vital Breath and the air that the pond breathes back to me
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 417 (view)
 
A Vital Breath and the air that the pond breathes back to me
Posted: 11/27/2009 3:55:46 PM
(three syllabic units: 5-7-5)

Circumcised ear prays
and with the ear of Samuel,
the servant can hear
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 1651 (view)
 
HOLIDAYS
Posted: 11/26/2009 9:55:03 PM
Circumcised ear prays
and with the ear of Samuel,
the servant can hear
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 4212 (view)
 
DAILY QUOTES
Posted: 9/10/2009 9:02:26 PM
"Reason is itself a matter of faith. It is an act of faith to assert that our thoughts have any relation to reality at all."
— G.K. Chesterton
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 12403 (view)
 
Haiku Game - Continuance From Previous Thread
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:07:37 PM
my love keeps afloat
on the possibilities
of things yet to come
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Why are there so many Divories
Posted: 6/1/2009 8:57:10 PM

I seen on many profile,divorce female,yet they want chemistry,I thought they had there chemistry when they married with there guy,year later it gone,or they just got
tiered of there chosen one?


I disagree with a 'year later it's gone' part--it just so happens,I married the same guy twice. Heck,"chemistry" is my middle name.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
i don't know what to do
Posted: 6/1/2009 8:11:17 PM

well, i just broke up with her


That's all for the best I think--look at this way,if you had gotten hitched,for whatever reason,and if she made you mad you couldn't even "cut her off" if you wanted to because you don't know where she's getting it from .

Okay sorry for jokin' around during a time you may be upset but seriously dude--you really should consider slowing your roll down some--think about it--you're going through all this and talking all this marriage stuff but you haven't even met her yet--am I correct?
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Happiness... does it find you?
Posted: 5/21/2009 10:11:54 AM

Happiness doesn't find me.
Nor do I find it.
I have a little factory out back where I make the stuff. For those with a happiness shortage, feel free to message me orders for some, I ship right away.


kewl! Do you accept pay pal ? If not,I'll write ya a personal check. And oh yeah,I was sort of hoping I could get the 'package' now--ya know,just in case the check don't clear.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Do you think you can tell compatability by a phone call?
Posted: 5/20/2009 9:48:04 AM

Do you think you can tell compatibility by a phone call?

yep
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is it possible to be too verbose?
Posted: 5/20/2009 9:41:31 AM
Duranti,
I do not consider your profile read as too wordy or too verbose.Yet that does not give mention to the fact that you may be over the top when it comes to talking to someone in person.

Now I can understand that when you first get to know someone,silence can seem awkward to some as to when you know that person well,unspoken words and comfortable silence can even feel like a warm embrace.

But you can't fill in the gap and rush things with an abundance of words.My goodness,you don't want her to feel like she needs to carry a pen around so she can keep up with all that you're saying---dang,that would feel like studying for test or something.

You need to let your words breathe.In order to do that,don't rush your thoughts and words you want to convey. Say something to her then let it simmer for a bit as well as this gives her the opportunity to be a part of the conversation. Trust me,I have had my share of dinner dates in the past where the dude didn't even come up for air in between sentences,let alone encourage the possibility of me wanting to join him in the conversation.

If ya need any more advice on anything else,just follow the posts of my friend Chill Pill--she gives good advice.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
How long after a first date do you wait to call?
Posted: 5/20/2009 9:09:29 AM

DO NOT text the girl if you feel a great connection going on, TALK TO HER on the phone. Don't be a loser by texting her. Its cool we can do that, but its sterile and insincere.


good advice
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 6169 (view)
 
Old Souls....only.
Posted: 5/9/2009 8:39:37 PM

I read between lines to catch a glimpse of what is


Indeed shudden ! There those that only read the words on the page. And there those that
can also read between the lines.

Hey there Rob /enjoying the read.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Your case for/against God.
Posted: 4/16/2009 11:19:01 AM

This kind of thing is done in mathematics all the time. If you want to prove that a proposition is false then first assume it's true. Then demonstrate that this logically leads to the deduction that the proposition is false.


If God were charged with the crime of existing then there wouldn't be sufficient evidence to convict.

And all this gets me thinking even further....in other words,if this experiment only exist in thought,things really might not be that way at all...not to mention,deductive reasoning may get one to the valid and invalid but that's not quite the same as a true or false....kinda like the difference in a valid argument vs sound argument possibly.

And then if ya gonna try and break it down logically so speak,I think that one would have to give the language used a clear identity in order for logical consequence to follow...and notwithstanding the possible metaphors and the poetic form one may find within a text written,still yet,even the imo most profound word,'exist' for example needs to have a clear identity in this thought experiment we got going here. And with this,imo one needs be prepared for a debate where language comes into play possibly....for example,surface grammar vs deep structure,context,mental predicates,real predicates,etc.


And then of course this thought experiment itself.

If you want to prove that a proposition is false then first assume it's true.

Did ya think it --imagine it---and with your thoughts,bring it into existence just so you could deny it's existence? Dang that's a heck of a lot of work not to mention,again,what I believe to be somewhat of a contradiction. But we still have the words,"perhaps and maybe" we can play with,(just trying to make ya smile)...ya do get me thinking CountIbli--thanks for sharing!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Your case for/against God.
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:34:13 PM
I'm just curious about something....if indeed,one takes the position that the bible is not considered objective truth and at the same time uses the bible to try and prove the bible wrong,wouldn't that be somewhat of a contraction?
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Your case for/against God.
Posted: 4/15/2009 5:31:01 PM
somebody please hand me my crayons cuz I got something I need to write --hehehe

Yep,G-d and me was having us some one on one time just the other day.And we'll if indeed I heard correctly(keep in mind,I did start this off with someone please hand me my crayons.
)

First off,he(choice of pronoun)loves to hear us ponder in his name apparently,but seems the "arguing" for and/or against was not what this is referring .To begin with,it seems that who he is or who is not doesn't depend on contingent beings such as ourselves. I'll just give ya a breakdown of some of the things we talked about.

Now all this depends on if I heard it right--hehehe--And I believe the feedback I was getting was more in the form questions like for example;

I give ya science as a tool --vessel if you will but that doesn't mean science can explain and or define who I am---in others,natural and supernatural are not synonyms--think about it--if science was in the business of adjudicating G-d questions and making truth claims then that would put my 'faith' business right out business,would it not?

Don't cha think there just might be a good reason why it's set up that control experiments,etc are limited? Don't cha think that it is faith that pleases me the most?

And if you've read any of the ancient texts,ya might come to the conclusion that I'm quite found of poetic form and metaphors ----does it not indeed give creativity and the imagination freedom to roam and breathe....and maybe even bring one closer to where the riddle itself breathes?

If I wanted it set up to where the 5 senses instrument and/or scientific cognition could gauge who I am or am not then don't cha think I could have made that possible? Think about it--it seems science has the brain all mapped out but has little to say about consciousness--wonder why it's that way?

And let's get to this 5 senses instrument and scientific cognition.Do ya really think that is the only warranted assertabilty for what is knowledge and how is knowledge obtained? If that was the case,then why are there so many of ya living your life and making so many decisions based on your valued judgments and subjective knowing? Think about it--"without conceptualized constraints,it be hard for a lot of people to be able to talk about reality at all"(okay okay,I might have gotten than part from one of my favorite philosophers-hehehe)

And all this "arguing" for and against me--trying to construct logical arguments using human intellect,human definitions,human everything--what's up with that? Do you think you can limit me to that--box me up to your reasoning?What makes you think you know all the reasons why I do all the things I do? Again, do ya think it's fair to put a strangle hold/limitations on me like that? You cats live the day by day--consistency--that which does not change--Don't cha think I have certain plans already in place for the future and that I'm not limited in that way---the way that you are?

And think about it next time ya try to limit me to human intellect,human emotions,human definitions,human logic,human anything! Think abiut it--Is logic this some kind of absolute law the rules the universe or even governs human behavior? See where ya I'm going with that?

For example,one of the greatest gifts there is--love. Is love always rational?

And oh yeah,he said something about others that keep saying that he said this and he said that---there's times he would like to ring out this voice saying,"Hey wait a min,I didn't say that"--but he likes for ya to keep pondering in his name and seek him and that way you will figure it out---or not.

P.S. I did start this off with 'hand me my crayons" so I hope I haven't offended or trespassed--just my uncanny wit and please know that this post is just belief and faith--not intended as any form of exclusivity of truth.

stay kewl everybody







 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Your case for/against God.
Posted: 4/15/2009 5:30:05 AM

I'm not a lawyer


you crack me up

and yeah,what he said...and oh yeah,"Damn it Jim,I'm not doctor,not a lawyer" sorry about that--was having myself a trekkie moment
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Why do men brag about sex?
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:51:22 PM

Why do men brag about sex?

shhh...this is a secret. Imo,with the man spending so much time braggin' about getting laid,chances are it's to overcompensate for the all time he actually isn't getting laid...but of course this may not be the case here. And I am curious about the following;

So, I am soon to be divorced.

duly noted

(Thank god) My soon to be ex is moving out within the next few days,

the divorce is almost final but up till this present time,you two have continued to live in the same house ?

Just tonight, he left me and the kids at home for 5 hoours

Forgive me but I have a passion for words and these words used in this context imo appear a little misplaced when trying to match it up with someone that is eager and ready for a divorce---who knows,it could just be me reading it all wrong ---but imo,this statement is expressing emotions---one of which is a feeling of neglect. If indeed this is correct,then my advice is to reconsider this divorce thing and if even if the marriage is only hanging by a thread---imo,one pass ego/pride and hurt can put pieces back together----that is,if the love is still there! And of course,I don't know you or your situation other than your profile read and original post so I may be getting a wrong feel about all this. Either way,wishing ya the best!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Love and trust?
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:41:43 PM
OP, Trust (word in bold reads like 3 syllables) me when I tell ya,if ya can trust her with your heart,then you should be able to trust her with everything else. And here's the thing...and if I can't trust someone with my heart---then I don't call it love.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Seperated
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:52:57 PM

I dont believe that men that are seperated from theyre wives should be allowed on this site until they have completed theyre unfinished business and gotten a divorce..

depending on the state one is filing for divorce and the variables/assets/conditions relating to the divorce,it could possibly take anywhere from 12 to 18 months in some cases for a divorce to be final. I also think you're painting with a might broad stroke OP.

Heck,my profile states divorced---my divorce was final back in 2004---wonder if I get to graduate to single or should I still be listing myself as divorce...not mention,my profile reads Caucasian but I'm also part Cherokee and whatever else ya find when ya shake my family tree. I'm not real big on any type of institutional profiling and/or the profile box I'm suppose to fit in ....so I try real hard not to compartmentalize which box,if any,should someone else fit into nor do I feel like it's any of my business as to who or why others may decide to join this site...in other words, I simply respond and/or make contact with those I choose to.

 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
what was wrong with what i said?
Posted: 2/18/2009 7:25:26 PM
In your opening/original post you mention that you two broke up Monday and you also add the following to give mention to something that lead up to the break up;

it was just that i got kind of self-protective and stopped communicating with her for a couple weeks and it created this feeling of space between us that having only been together for 2 months we weren't able to overcome I guess.


So therefore in my opinion---and only based on the info you bring forward,I ask ya----if you knew that there was this feeling of space between the two of you notwithstanding breaking up on good terms,is it possible you were kind of marking your territory so to speak???

I commend you on operating off your poetic license but by putting your words out there on her face book wall is indeed making a bold statement for others to read as well...which would include other guys that check out her page.

If you were checking out someone's profile and/or face book wall and came across this,

When I picture you its on the day we walked through Central Park. Your eyes are shining brightly and your hair is frosted with white snow.

would it make ya think this person may be involved with another ?

You two had already broke up and I really think you should have placed your thoughts and words in her inbox---you could have attached a "no response needed back"...just my opinion
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Could you handle it? (Religion Discussion)
Posted: 2/17/2009 4:57:24 PM
Strait_up:

There is no Santa Clause, there is no Easter Bunny, Peter Pan really doesn't exist and God is a fantasy too.....*sigh*

Talk about a brainless idiot


It may indeed be what one may refer to as a psychological need should one believe that G-d exist---still yet,even if that was simply the case,I feel that your intellectual need to refer to this one as a brainless idiot simply because their beliefs differ from yours is about one of the most ignorant things I have heard in quite awhile. Last time I checked,science does not adjudicate G-d questions so enlighten me if you will how you *know* that this one is a fantasy--does not exist? Let's see here. Did ya think it --imagine it---bring it into existence just so you could deny it's existence? Dang that's a heck of a lot of work just so ya could shake hands with the laws of contradiction. Then again,maybe you were too busy stroking your ego long enough to even do that! Either way,I'm sorry but at this time,I am unable to claim ignorance just to accommodate you or your words.

Davo1986:

As an athiest to an athiest, Shut your filthy hole if you don't know what you're talking about.

While you can argue that there is proof that POINTS TO the non-existence of god, you still cannot say with 100% certainty that god doesn't exist. No-one can. Sorry, but I'm gonna be siding with religion on this one. You're just as bad as the religious fanatics, going on about how god is good and god is everything. Get off your high horse and learn to be more accepting. It's morons like you that give atheism the name it currently holds.

Talk about a mindless idiot


We all come with many passions....many counterparts. And I am one that has a passion for that which has often been referred to as the 'spirit'. And this word,spirit is possibly useless to us as explainers and may even be deemed philosophically untenable but still yet, you have the objective lens needed to be able to embrace another and all their counterparts,notwithstanding should this one believe or not believe. You demonstrate to me that you have tenderness and your vision is not narrow---and possibly these are the things that this woman you speak of also has taken notice to. And personally,I am not here to convert others but instead be true to myself and embrace others along the way notwithstanding if their beliefs may differ from mine---possibly she feels this way as well.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why do you not always respond to your girlfriends messages?
Posted: 2/17/2009 3:05:01 PM
OP,I know this is possibly intended to get the opinions of the male gender but as a female that possibly also thinks like a male when it comes to this kind of thing;

1)I really don't get into texting
2)And I wouldn't call someone during work hours unless there is something wrong,there's an emergency that has come up or I'm calling to tell him that I want him to come home during lunch hour so he can "do" me.

And oh yeah,try to avoid leaving the lunch hour request on his Nextel---the other co-workers close by are possibly listening to that one.hehehe,

Only these reasons that I mention are the only time I would try to get in touch with the guy I am with during the day and/or work hours and these reasons that I mention is the only time that I feel I would need a response back .
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why is it so Hard to find someone interested?
Posted: 2/17/2009 2:07:21 PM

Ladies Please help. It is so lonely when one is not only trapped in his home but also in his heart. I follow my heart over my head always and wonder if thats why I am single and getting no interest??


SilverSurfer77,as you mention that you are one that follows his heart over his head then possibly you have learned that love is not always rational and/or logical. Fret not I say because the last time I checked,"the rules/laws of logic are not something that governs the universe and/or governs human behavior."(paraphrasing the quote)


But not only do you mention being trapped in your home but you also mention being/feeling trapped in your heart. This is one of those things that I refer to as gates/doors that lock from the inside.OP,love does not need or even ask permission to enter but just so ya know,it's still up to you to keep that door open so that it can enter.

And if ya ask me,I think many of us are guilty of getting too comfortable and lazy when it comes to trying to meet people. In other words,imo for some others, this computer is treated like some kind of mythical creature that not only holds the future and but can also tell the future as it also supposedly intended to make it 'all' so conveniently available.

My advice would be to not seek out this online dating as a sole(soul)tool and/or vehicle to meet others. And when you are on here,send out your emails to the ones that hold your interest and/or get your attention but don't overwhelm yourself with reasons why things just aren't quite going your way.Personally,for me I would much rather be delighted with the quality of a reply/response than the quantity of replies/responses. And to me,that's the only measurement that I count!

So think about it that way. Should you be more concerned with how many respond to your emails sent or be someone simply anticipating that response that makes you pause and think---or even better--possibly helps ya breathe in a little deeper??? Imo, there are those that have deemed online dating as the quick and easy way to meet others but to quote ya something from the movie Shawshank Redemption,"The world went and got itself in a big damn hurry.”

Best wishes to ya
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Affairs...
Posted: 2/15/2009 7:48:16 PM

Is it taboo to simply state what I am after online?


From a sociological perspective,possibly the term 'taboo' does not apply here.*But* to further those thoughts as I respond to your words that follow;

Should I revise my profile to something less direct. I don't want to be one of those Di*K's that claim they are single, date and play games. I would like to find a partner to share activities with and rejuvinate my sex life...discreetly.


Imo,you will find that it is not considered as an acceptable 'social norm' to put a profile pic so that others (your wife) can't identify you while you are being one of those D1cks that try to present themselves like they are being soooo upfront yet at the same time,for some reason you fail to mention in your profile that your wife is soooo cool about you being on here---actually I think your profile reads that you are looking for something "discreet."

In other words,yeah you're "actively seeking an affair"----that is,as long as your wife don't find out. What a p^^sy!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is he 'into me' or not?
Posted: 2/15/2009 7:19:24 PM

My question is - what should I do? WHY does he keep saying 'hope to hear from you' & then not asking ME for a specific time/date to get together? Is he simply not as interested in me as I thought, even tho he tried to kiss me? Any advice? Insights into a guy's mind? Lol. Thanks in advance! :)


Tell ya what...line up another date and see if he's needing you to pick him up again,then ya might have your answer. Imo,someone that doesn't have a working and/or running vehicle possibly isn't really in the best position to suggest the next date.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
He's Just Not That Into You?? Or is he?
Posted: 2/15/2009 7:08:08 PM

Do guys ever truly act like a$$holes when they've fallen for a woman?


My little girl is 7 years old and she came home from school one day telling me about this one little boy in her class that was doing all these little things to aggravate her----and it seems that out of all the other little girls in the class,she was the one that he had chosen to respond this certain way to.----indeed,at 7 years old,that's possibly how he goes about trying to flirt.

But OP,when this one is still acting out this way with the female gender 2 or 3 decades later,then "he's just not that into you" and/or he's a di^k,as.s hole etc....
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Going back again...
Posted: 2/15/2009 1:01:26 PM

So the day before our date, I was completely shellshocked to receive a text message which simply said 'Me and **** are back together. Don't ever contact me again. You were out of order going to the Police. Hate you for it.'


Does it even really matter if he sent the email or if it was the wife that sent the email???...and yes,just keepin' it real when saying 'she is still the wife' in this situation...the same wife that he returned to the last time you guys were corresponding.

Here's what's up OP...he was a no show on valentines day and if by chance this is the wife leaving you this text instead,and I will play stupid and/or naive long enough to pretend that he is unaware of this text sent----okay,if I play along with that scenario,then still yet,why haven't you heard from this guy beyond this text???

In other words,it doesn't matter who sent the text--what matters is that no words and correspondence outside this text exist ---he hasn't contacted beyond this mentioned text for reasons of his own and you should do the math!

And besides,what about this red flag;

he even told me if things went well when we met, he would consider moving over here, that he already considered me a real partner, and that he couldn't believe his luck in finding me, he had fallen for me hook line and sinker, and was in it for the long haul...


let me get this right.He's not even ever met ya face to face and he's already talking all this to ya. For heaven sakes...imo,this guy ain't needing a partner as much as he is needing someone to run to---to save him kind of thing. Let me ask ya something. Were you suppose to be his savior ?----can you walk on water now ?---I didn't think so.

Op,it appears that his wife will stop short of nothing to do whatever physical damage she can when she is hurting and I don't think this woman has the rational thought in the process to give a rat's as.s who all she takes down when she does it. You can read about this kind of sh^t on the 6 o'clock news...in other words,this is the kind of thing that gets people shot. He needs to deal with his problems and fix his own problems before putting you and your kids at any risk---and my advise to you is to not put your kids at risk or any danger as well! You don't know this woman--and to be quite honest,you don't truly know this man for indeed if you did,you wouldn't be having to get the opinions and input from all of us!

I think you should not allow yourself to stay in limbo a moment longer but instead,put your pic back up and get busy fishing.Imo,your writing skills demonstrate to me that you are an intelligent woman and you just need to make sure that the one that holds your interest and attention also happens to be available. These waters can get mighty tricky sometimes Op so don't beat ya self up about all this. Wishing you the best!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Healthy relationship or sick relationship?
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:39:44 AM

I met someone on New Years eve.

okay---you met 6 weeks ago


We hit it off nicely until I found out he had been lying to me all along about his relationship status.


My first question is "how well did ya hit it off " . I don't know you or your situation other than your original post...it was just a question.In other words,from the time you met six weeks ago to present,had ya already handed over everything but your spleen? This is just a question I felt a need to ask----the reason being,after reading many posts in the forums,imo there are quite a few women and men that are so eager and so needing in this domain of dating/relationships etc that they seem to jump out of the starting gate like a bat out of hell---as if maybe their doctor has given them only a few months to live kind of thing and they need to go fast forward ahead.


He has a fiance that he is not in love with.I won't go into all the details but he keeps saying he has had it, and doesn't love her.

I'm wondering if he has taken the time to share this tad bit of information with his fiance---imo chances are if had shared these same thoughts and words with the fiance,then possibly she would no longer be in this equation---there would no longer be a fiance because she would've left ---Seriously OP,if you were the fiance that he was sharing this information with ,would you have stuck around ? Think about it.


I am getting very tired of all his lies and deception. Especially after a the same thing happened to me last June( similar situation). I realize that all men do not do this to women, but this situation has made me very aware of just how many men use women for their money, credit, sex, and etc.


It takes two to be able to call it a relationship. After just a few short weeks,I still call it dating.And personally,after just a few weeks,I'm not one to get too invested,especially emotionally invested to the point that I'm ignoring all my senses--including my sixth sense/gut feeling,in which I believe to be a G-d given thing that a women should nurture and embrace instead of it tossing aside !


If I put 100 of you sweet, sexy men in one room, and 99 of you were healthy males, and one of you is very dysfunctional, I would probably pick the dysfunctional one. Hence, time to change my pattern of men I choose.


I think I know how ya might be feelin' OP. Many moons ago,I use to make this joke about how there must have been a sign posted on a billboard somewhere telling all the dysfunctional men to 'come lay up on my couch and eat up my groceries kind of thing and please bring all baggage with you.'

But here's the thing. There are signs/red flags but when one let's down all their defenses and ignores all their senses while doing so,then this one is just as unhealthy if ya ask me.And no,that doesn't mean ya should become *frigid*--for heaven sakes,who wants to share time with someone like that...and no,that doesn't mean to break out the players manual 101(and oh yeah by the way,it's written in code --it's memorized then ya burn the book..haha) and do the 'before you play me,I'll play you first' kind of thing either. Hopefully you are at a place in your life where these games have no place in your life!

My opinion of a healthy relationship would be one that isn't forced and/or rushed...in other words,I don't put getting to know someone on a time line but instead I believe it just takes time !

Good luck and best wishes
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Saying what works to get the chicks
Posted: 2/8/2009 9:55:23 PM

Without an audience, there can be no actors. We are but poor players who strut and fret our hour upon the stage...


Thought provoking !
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
To drop or not to drop
Posted: 2/8/2009 9:15:25 PM

He tells me he just signed up a few days ago


and then suddenly,he types you this;

"I'm leaving this site, I hate it, there are too many girls with no morals on here. Here is my email address xxxxx if you want to chat."


After only a few days on here,he has come to his conclusion about there being 'too many girls with no morals" on here.
OP,you may be right about the being married and/or already involved with someone part.And should he not be married or involved with another,then imo,he is narrow minded and jaded---either way,personally I don't find anything about this as intriguing.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Some truths I've learned about today's females
Posted: 2/7/2009 11:12:53 PM

Isn't this 2009?

Let me see if I got this straight...Are you expecting me to believe that you have the exclusive truth about 'today's female' and at the same time,you're having to ask what year this is ?

just funnin' with ya/
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
how to approach people
Posted: 2/7/2009 9:05:43 PM

do this everyday got to walmart or just about anywhere and just talk about stuff itll get you more socialy calibrated. try to talk to atleats 10 strangers a day.


Many many moons ago,I was in the club scene.That's not my scene anymore---but I do enjoy still getting out from time when I want to hear a good blues band. Notwithstanding, back in the day or even the present,imo women don't want to feel like they are filling out a survey !
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Moments after love making.....what do you girls think about?
Posted: 2/7/2009 8:10:11 PM

but just moments after that precious moment when you and your lover are embraced in each others arms...what do you girls think about?


These days,I'm thinking more on lines of ,"Why did that alarm clock have to go off,waking me up from a perfectly good dream."
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
The word slut
Posted: 2/7/2009 5:04:20 PM

Now Ive gone through a few dozen profiles and I seem to come across the same old thing in them. The phrase" Im not that kinda girl" stuff. Now in my experience and I have a lot of it (not really tryn to brag) in ther girl depatment.....yes you are that kind of girl. In general like 80-90% of you are. WE are all horny to be ****ed. Which brings me to the slut word. I know why you women are so afraid of the word. But the logic behind I just drives me bananas. The word "slut" is a weapon used against other women in an attempt to lower their competitors perceived social value. Are you guys so worried about what other people think about you? If so why...who cares about what other people say about me. I really dont. The same women who say I dont care what others think of me is the same girl who is also afraid of being called one or being PERCEIVED as one. thats what kinda scrambles my brain. So why the hypocrytical bs?


For heavens sake,is it a full moon tonight ? I go from one thread where a married man is whining cuz he can't get laid off here and to this thread where another cat thinks it cool to reference women as sluts...I'm gonna have to get someone from a church and come lay hands on me just to keep me from calling bs out loud over here.... Too late.

OP,I know you may think you know women and think you know what women want,but imo,you really don't ! So go sit on yah mommy's lap while I tell ya the rest of the story...Actually I wrote in poem and I'll share a part of it.

Ah yes,
let me serve all my passions on a plate.
come and get it.
Now don't be late.....

Yeah,my sixth sense,
this gut feeling,
it's telling me
you could be the world's greatest lover.....
But I'm not ready to co-sign,
cos' I'm not looking for a part-time lover.
No,if I have to be a walking contradiction,
for a momentary gain,
then to me,you're just another five minute brother...

And just because I'm qualified to turn you out doesn't mean I would want to...and oh yeah,this slut here happens to be on lockdown kalank kalank---so put that in your pipe and smoke it!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
I need my stuff back....but
Posted: 2/6/2009 12:35:42 PM
OP,it is winter.And yes,you 'possibly' do have other coats you can be wearing but as you say,"It's a nice coat"....so of course, if you had it handy you would possibly be wanting to wear this nice coat you mention....Okay please tell me I am wrong when I say I think that you're keeping the coat over there so you may have a good excuse to see her again and you're waiting till a later time to cash this excuse in...hoping she may want to get back together after she has had time to think about you/miss you???? If I nailed this,then I will try and help you retrieve the coat. Here goes;

She has a date tonight and she thinks it's a nice coat too. She thinks it's so nice of a coat,she has decided to wear it on her date tonight with this other guy. Now how do feel about going to get that coat ? Glad I could help. Now, stop this nonsense and go get your dang coat!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Is it instinct? or just an excuse?
Posted: 2/5/2009 10:54:16 PM

Clumsy written word...my thought was taken out of context....
Is it not more arousing to be thrust up against the wall in a moment of passion and have your man bring you to orgasm without effort....than to have to lay an awkward kiss on the dude who doesn't know when to make a move ...then draw him a freakin' road map?
If so...in the context of that thought...you're sexually submissive...

Then again....maybe you're one of the rare ones who gets off on turning the man into their lil' "b*tch"


Do ya cum hoc ergo propter hoc often ("With this, therefore because of this")???
Imo,this is a narrow approach---indicator and causation based on a single agent.
Imo,you are not considering all the variables and factors but instead just
blowing up/inflating strawmen just so ya can knock em' down in your posts over here.In other words,also consider for example,the possibility that both,the man and woman are sexually vulnerable/exposed and possibly substitute the term submissive with the term surrender for both,man and woman....I'm pulling mental images off this already/lol
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Is it instinct? or just an excuse?
Posted: 2/5/2009 9:21:10 PM

So why do you think you're reluctant to send that first email 'round here? Deep primal instinct? or just an excuse to avoid rejection? Maybe for many the line between real interaction and virtual dating is rather blurry?

If I have something I want to write to someone---I just write it. And a lot of times,what I write may not even be tagged with a question at the end. In other words,I may not even be needing or particularly anticipating a response back. But at the same time,it opens a door should I find myself wanting to type and/or get to know more about that someone a bit later on.

I don't correspond with people on here as if I'm trying to score a date/ hook up before the week runs out kind of thing. For me,there seems to be a difference between real interaction and this imo,sometimes 'false consciousness' of cyberspace. The difference being,if it was face to face interaction with someone I am interested in,then I would 'swing for the bleachers in the ninth inning' if I needed/wanted/desired.On here,I tend to treat it like a walk in the park.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do you someone they have toilet paper stuck to themselves before being intimate?
Posted: 2/5/2009 6:01:28 PM
OP wrote:

Wonder if HallMark has a card for this occasion.

ForumStorm08:

Card Cover:
"When I first fell in love with you...it was because of your sweet words to me."

Inside Card:
"But you are so full of shite...that you now have toilet paper jammed in your a$$."

-The Dysfunctional Hallmark Card Section




I put together a little hallmark/unhallmark poetic greeting that gives mention to some of the elements mentioned...wonder if I should file this one in the Dysfunctional Hallmark section too ?

(cover)
Those heartfelt words I never got around to saying

(open)

Every time I go to the grocery store
I think of you....
the way you would just lay up on my couch
and eat my food

I recall how willing and able you were
when you wanted to get laid,
then suddenly,you were down in your back
when the bills needed to get paid

And as I was gathering up all your pictures
to throw them in the trash,
instead,I decided to have them printed on my toilet paper,
so that each time I wipe,
"you can kiss my a___"
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why spend so much time online
Posted: 2/4/2009 10:09:47 PM
to answer the questions asked in original post;

ok, now why do women spend so much time just sitting online instant messaging men??

As I have stated before,it would almost take an Act of Congress to get me to use IM on here.I actually have it available only for those on favs and still yet prefer e-mail/phone.


Does it really appeal to you that some men also spend ALL day chatting on instant messenger here ??

No,that would not appeal to me personally...who knows...maybe it is difficult for some to write e-mails and therefore the IM is the only vehicle/tool in which they can express themselves.I really can't speak on the behalf of others as to their reasons why.


If you get hooked up with a guy thru this site and he spends all day chatting to you, dont you think he is chatting to a bunch of other women as well??and now not chatting to you as much?


I don't 'hook up' just to be hooking up with someone// If someone gets my attention and also holds my attention,then our chats would not be spent/held over an IM all day kind of thing--one would think that it would be more up close and personal/in person as time and/or distance permits.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
check my profile is anything wrong
Posted: 2/4/2009 9:16:54 PM
You go first--Beautifully done ! Hey they there Andy. In my opinion,' The Sexiest Man Alive' has shared some great insight with you and 'You go first' truly knows how to give the words a great flow. I also agree that when time permits,you should try and add more pics...at least one pic that is close up.

happy fishing
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Laundry list...
Posted: 2/4/2009 5:12:08 PM
I think this dude should take his "laundry list" and use it to fill out an application for a mail ordered bride/girlfriend(does that even exist?) so he can by pass the dating process altogether. Self expression is an art within itself. People express themselves verbally and non- verbally and to be able to fully embrace getting to know someone,I think one can not just operate off a "laundry list."
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
check my profile is anything wrong
Posted: 2/4/2009 4:13:41 PM
I think it's kewl how ya came back with this last post of yours saying that all input/comments from both genders are welcome. There are a lot of guys in these forums that post sound advice and they will be just helpful as the ladies.I'll be back after while and give ya my thoughts on your profile.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Define drama
Posted: 2/3/2009 9:20:37 PM
I agree with Briannazg2--relax-smile-laugh-enjoy/remember, smiles are contagious.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Does someones sign really matter/ Chicago Libra
Posted: 2/3/2009 8:36:14 PM

I was wondering How I would get along with a Libra?


raiderfan18,this priceless;

Do we look like astrologists?

/let me try and explain this to the OP

For godsakes she's a doctor,not a astrologist. raiderfan18, Chillpill and myself were sent here to try and find intelligent life form but we can't seem to find where they are hiding....oh well..."Beam us up, Scotty!"
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What's in the ritutual?
Posted: 2/3/2009 7:15:18 PM

Lady have you looked at your own pics....seriously..wonder why you attract weirdos ? Oh and being "white trash" doesn't help either...


Imo,her pics nor her profile read, in no way whatsoever, reflects what you have just suggested !

And Oh yeah upnorthmama, I'm familiar with the song and video:Everlast - White Trash Beautiful/I think it's pretty kewl too!
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
would you use this?
Posted: 2/3/2009 8:49:21 AM

That's not mind-reading, that's brain-reading.

indeed!It seems science has the brain all mapped out but has very little it can say about mind/consciousness
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Women just not interested in relationships
Posted: 2/3/2009 6:54:32 AM

She is the typical Tom Boy.

My question is, has anyone seen a Tom boy get into a relationship?


Dear Op,I have always been what another would possibly deem as a tomboy and not only do tomboys get into relationships,this 'tomboy here' does not even go both ways. In other words,I like D1ck and D1ck likes me ...and I could care less where Jane is running off to

And I really don't know what you would consider as the 'typical' tomboy but I can say that I have always been in my 'element' while covered in dirt and sweat while playing ball,cutting grass,unloading trucks,lifting 50 lb boxes for 8 hours in a warehouse without air conditon,etc.

My most consistent accessory that I wear would still be my perfectly shaped and mold to fit baseball cap I wear to my classes each day and while walking campus,flip flops are still always optional.

And yet I am also in my element being a mother of two as well as I have always been very touchy,affectionate with the man that holds my passion and desire.

So to answer your question;yes a tomboy can be as tough as woodpecker lips and still be soft and feminine and have a strong desire for touch and affection.

hey wait min...a woodpecker don't have lips.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
I was recently addressed as Women! he did not seem to think it rude
Posted: 2/2/2009 6:51:44 PM
OP,imo you are being *frigid* about all this. For one thing,this term is used as differently as the many different people that are using it.

I have had someone use this term with me-----but it was intended to be bold and yet flirtatious. And sometimes,there can be nothing more satisfying than being able to call billsh1t on what their talking about while responding back with a "I hear ya Grace"(hmmm,,was her name Alice or Grace from the show, Honeymooners)

edit/Alice--that was her name...hehehe
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Need A Guys opinion
Posted: 2/2/2009 5:37:51 PM
orcagal,I know I joke a lot when I'm in the forums .Yet there are those times that I share something/write something because my heart and soul demands it! This is one of those times.

She is running..........

Emotional high,this short lived euphoria,
was his greatest demon to chase...
And she stayed and loved him just the same,
by his side,to help him fight this ghost without a face...

Until she had nothing left inside..all hope was gone without a trace...

So with open wounds and hidden scars,
she ran through the forest aimlessly,without direction...
with her heart still breaking with every step taken,
she suddenly fell to her knees,without hesitation...

A thirst,a hunger...a yearning in her heart...
arms stretched to the heavens....as she "called to the deep"
And she was answered with a holy fountain of resurrection and hope
flowing within her.... and an eternal truth she could feel and see

Now with each time she stumbles,
it takes away the inner peace she carries inside,
And that alone helps her to realize,
that when she is not walking in the truth,
It will feel like she's just living a lie.....

And what I believe to be the truth is that some women love hard. And orcagal,I also believe that this one that is luvin' her man passionately can sometimes get caught in a vicious cycle while doing so. And I do 'personally' understand the words you share---but just know that *you are the only one* that can break that cycle.

You have to turn inward and find yourself again before you try to start over with another.In other words,if you turn right around and try to get involved with another this soon after,then your are still running !

And what I have found to be true,most men are not like the one you were with. Also, what you see and mention as scars/wounds---is what I see as "a diamond with a few rough edges." And diamonds are meant to shine and I believe that the only way ya can do this is to embrace all your passions in life and for life!

best wishes to you and give me a hollar if ya ever need to talk.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
I lost my license, would you still date me?
Posted: 2/2/2009 3:35:01 PM

I just made a mistake one night and am now dealing with the consequences.

It's not that I wouldn't date someone because of mistakes they have made in their past and yes,I do understand that with mistakes made,there are consequences that follow---but here's the thing;the lessons learned from mistakes made are valuable indeed. For example,and if I may quote ya;

I will not get it back until feb. of 2010.

When I referred back to Wisconsin law,this statement of yours imo contradicts the first quote of yours I highlighted. In other words:

Two-in-Five Year Offenders

Any driver who gets two OWI offenses in any five-year period is subject to:

* Mandatory one-year waiting period to be eligible for an occupational license


Are you a two-in-five year offender ? And if so,I would not perceive you as someone that has learned from mistakes made and/or dealing with the consequences too well...not to mention,choosing to allow others (innocent others on the road)to continue having to deal with the consequences of your wrong choices.
 casheyesblond
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
What is the best way to dump someone?
Posted: 2/2/2009 12:52:39 PM

If you meet someone, go out on a couple of dates with them.
End up having sex with them , and then pretty much decide, based partially on the sex, that you don't wish to pursue the relationship any longer.


What relationship ?
 
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