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pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

Can honesty deter the players? Posted: 8/26/2008 2:54:14 PM
No. In fact it's just the opposite. You are telling someone you don't know just how vulnerable you are and openning yourself up to any and all scam artsits that know exactly how to use that to their advantage. The only way to deter the scammer is to not give them too much info. Stay aloof until you know the person. That takes time but it's better than the alternative.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Gold-digger Posted: 8/26/2008 2:46:38 PM
Recently you have heard idiots using that term. A lot of guys these days think women want them for their money, But these guys don't have hardly any and don't want to share what they do have. After these last few generations boys are used to Mommy taking care of them and they expect that their future"Mommy" will continue that trend. You are correct with your definition.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Is the bad economy crimping your dating style? Posted: 8/26/2008 2:39:45 PM
Absolutely! Because of the way the economy went I lost a bundle in investments which the returns had been my play money. Now I have no more money and no more play.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

Why do some older guys dye the hair and facial hair black? Posted: 8/26/2008 2:32:15 PM
The only coloring my hair gets is the greying that my kids feel obliged to help me with.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 246 (view)

Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go? Posted: 6/18/2008 4:46:44 PM
When I was 21 I fell in love with a woman who was perfection as far as I could see. We met through the mail when I was at sea in the navy. At first it was the occassional letter and then it was two or three a day. And that was before we met in person. We talked about marriage and I loved her whole family. But she had to go to work in D.C. and me in San Diego. The last time I saw her was her first day of work there. It took me a while to get settled and she was still searching for living arrangements too and so we didn't talk for a while. Too long. I finally got a phone number for her and when I called a guy answered. When I asked her if he lived there she said yes and then silence. I understood what that meant. I told her I loved her and always would and said goodbye for the last time. But I've never forgotten her and think of her everyday.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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I don't do separated... Posted: 11/14/2007 9:40:10 AM
There are a lot of reasons for a couple to be seperated. What if someone walks out on you but won't cooporate with the process of divorce? Or just disappears altogether? Are we doomed to spend years or even the rest of our lives alone because we have that title? It's almost like calling a rape victim promiscuous even though they were the victim. Sometimes things just aren't as we wish they were. I couldn't blame someone for taking this point of view but if you don't take a chance then you'll never know if someone is the person for you.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Would anyone be interested Posted: 10/10/2007 3:58:44 PM
Sure Harvey, I'll go. I'ld like that.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Why do they even bother? Posted: 9/22/2007 6:28:54 PM
Depending on the feeling I have for the woman I can be so nervous to call that I almost can't. Yeah I know, an inferiority thing. I was in a bar and a very cute woman walked up to me and gave me her phone number. I wasn't expecting it and was excited but nervous at the same time and I let the nervous side win out until I lost her number and became another one of those jerks who never called.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Cold Rainy Nights Posted: 9/22/2007 6:04:15 PM
The kitten and I watched the rain from the window all day. We don't get too much lightning around here. But the sound of the rain coming off the roof makes me feel lazy and I like to listen to it lull me into sleepiness. I think it's very romantic when you can wrap your other into your arms and drift with the raindrops.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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No More Lurking! Posted: 9/22/2007 5:44:27 PM
I try not to lurk but my cat makes me! She likes to watch the fishies swimming.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

No More Lurking! Posted: 9/7/2007 3:14:24 PM
"Look, up in the sky! It's a bird, it's a plane, its lurkerman!" " Criminals are a cowardly lot. So I must have a disguise that strikes terror in there heart. That's it! I shall become, a lurker!" "Who knows what evil lurks in the hearts of men? The lurker knows." "Holey lurker Batman!" Don't forget, be sure to lurk both ways when you cross the street. I'm going crazy. lol

pallyboy

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No More Lurking! Posted: 9/6/2007 2:37:48 PM
"You're nobody 'till somebody lurks you!" "Tell Laura I lurk her." "And she'll have fun fun fun 'till her daddy takes her lurker away!" "Frankly Scarlette, I don't give a lurk."

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Laughing & Giggling during Sex Posted: 9/6/2007 2:26:14 PM
Yeah, don't point! Not only is it not polite, but it's cold in here.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Laughing & Giggling during Sex Posted: 9/5/2007 10:23:52 AM
Laughing is a whole lot better than criing! But it's fun, so why not laugh? Especially if you fall of the bed.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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When You Leave This World Posted: 9/5/2007 10:07:04 AM
There is a new technique where they can turn the carbon of your dead body into a man made gem stone. Since my birthstone is a diamond I want to be turned into a diamond ,...and then I want one of my kids walking around with me either in an ear or on a finger saying 'doesn't he look good?"

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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No More Lurking! Posted: 9/4/2007 7:50:34 PM
I thought it was "All lurkers must remain in the carpool lane".

pallyboy

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No More Lurking! Posted: 9/4/2007 4:09:05 PM
Okay, I admit it,....I lurk. But is it so wrong? I post too, but this is a different forum than others I post on. Maybe it's the dancing banana.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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If you've had cancer or an illness at what point in a relationship do you tell Posted: 9/4/2007 1:48:07 PM
Marm, I have Small B Cell Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. I get accepted with my cancer for the most part but it's like I'm a novelty. Play with the sick man and then tell me you don't want to keep seeing me because I can't promise forever, like who can? 4 times now that reason has been dropped on me, and every time those words hurt. I just don't know how people can look at themselves in a mirror when they treat people so callously.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 61 (view)

Holy god it's HOT out, how are you dealing? Posted: 9/4/2007 12:29:22 PM
We hit a record 114 up here outside San Diego yesterday. It's melting me. I'm turning into a vampire, sleeping during the day and awake all night.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 9/4/2007 12:21:25 PM
I can't see a thing wrong with this womans profile. It makes me want to get myself a beer and sit down beside her,..just to watch what goes on around her. lol

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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So many new fishies in the pond! Posted: 9/4/2007 12:08:13 PM
I'm not a newbie either but I'ld like to say hi! Sure ladies, pack your toothbrushes and come on down to San Diego. There's good fishing down here.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 9/4/2007 11:59:14 AM
Completely out of the blue I got a phone call from her number but some guys voice telling me she doesn't want any more messages from me. Then I got the words through the e-mail but I'm still waiting to hear the truth because everything she's said about why just doesn't ring true. The last excuse was that she met someone but how do you tell someone how much you miss them one day, then meet someone you decide you like more in less than a week? Oh, and you know, that excuse it's not you it's me? Well F**k that.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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What do pets mean to you? Posted: 8/6/2007 12:26:24 AM
I have a cat, a kitten, and a big nanny dog and we all love each other. Well, the cat isn't as fond of the kitten as the kitten is the cat, but she's relentless so I think the kitten is going to win her over. My dog is such a clown. He learned to grin and he does it for anybody that comes to my house. The more you laugh at him the more he grins but it makes him sneeze when he covers his nose with his upper lip. His name is Trouble but sometimes I call him Elvis because of that grin. My pets make me smile every day and I couldn't think of not having them around.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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If they begged... Posted: 8/6/2007 12:08:53 AM
I did it one time and it didn't last one day before she played me again. I know better now. When it's over it's over. One time I had some people at my apartment and I had to run out so I told a friend to lock up when they left. While I was gone an ex came by and talked him into letting her stay there and wait for me. Well I got home late and walked into my bedroom to find her asleep naked in my bed. So being very careful not to wake her I took a pillow and a blanket and slept on the couch. Like I said, when it's over it is over. I try to move forward, not backwards.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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When the Scary Music starts Posted: 8/3/2007 5:21:37 PM
A few years ago I was at home late one night and had some people there. I got a phone call from a women I had met a week or so before and she wanted me to come spend the night with her.I must have said no for an hour before I finally gave in and said okay. As I hung up the phone Southern California started shaking with that big quake we had a while back that flattened the overpasses. Talk about scarey music. After it stopped I had to wonder if I should have kept saying no.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Did Anyone Catch Roger Waters Perform Dark Side of the Moon Last Week? Posted: 7/27/2007 1:39:27 PM
I wish I had seen it. I did catch the Australian Pink Floyd band and what a great show it was. That gorgeous woman that sang that soulful wail during Dark Side Of The Moon was right on and gave me goosebumbs. I would recomend the show to any PF fan.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Are You a Catch and Why? Posted: 7/26/2007 5:48:32 PM
At first I was going to say no way, but I guess if you want straight answers I'm for you. Can't remember enough to tell a lie! lol Yeah, and I guess if you want to spend the day laughing and just having fun then I'm your huckleberry.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

women in their forties... Posted: 7/20/2007 4:51:43 PM
cooky girl you forgot some things. Women in their 40s can usually carry a conversation. They can be wild but with enough expeience to keep us out of jail while we're "wilding". And my personal favorite, she knows who she is. She has come into full bloom with all that is a beautiful woman and the blossom that she is carries the fragrance of love throught the world. I love women but I am most comfortable with those over 40.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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The myth of doggie style Posted: 7/13/2007 6:03:24 PM
Absolutely not true. I do like it that way in the shower. As was said, seeing those curves in her body, being able to match those curves with mine and still use both hands to hold, and explore, and pull closer. An over the shoulder kiss. Nope. You know what? Your coworker doesn't know most men.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

would u propose to a man Posted: 6/11/2007 4:52:25 PM
I was asked three times by different women. Lucky me huh? Well by that last one I was feeling so guilty about telling the the other two no that I gave in. I know, lame excuse but I ended up marrying her. I knew it was wrong so I take the blame for it not working out. You know, the funny thing is I've heard women tell the same story.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 102 (view)

some girls are mentally deranged, i swear. Posted: 6/7/2007 12:03:45 AM
Yeah well I'm trying to maintain a friendship with a woman I met on here who insisted on meeting, calling everyday 2 or 3 times or more in a day until we met. Then once we met she told me she didn't like me that way. That's fine,...plenty of fish. But now every time I talk with her she accuses me of being in love with her, which I never ever told her I was. And suddenly everything I say confuses her, like she's trying to find the hidden meanings. All I want is light conversation. Yeah, deranged is a word for it.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

What are your boundaries? Posted: 6/3/2007 11:19:40 PM
I'm withh jujubee,...my kids are the boundaries. I'm good with anything but I'm not going to involve them in my love life except that they know I love them more than anything. Maybe it's unfair but it's the way it is.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line??? Posted: 6/3/2007 11:05:24 PM
I think it's a pittyf**k ploy. Don't fall for it and let the sad sack go. Come to Southern Cal instead.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 514 (view)

Do Men REALLY Like to Cuddle? Posted: 6/3/2007 10:54:19 PM
I love to spoon while watching tv,...or even when the tv is off but she's too tired to play. If you sleep next to me regardless of whether we have sex or not, expect to be my teddy bear.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 76 (view)

Is there an assumed commitment between 2 people dating, once they've had sex? Posted: 6/3/2007 10:50:43 PM
Never assume. If you want something in a releationship make sure it's clear, and agreed on. Sex is not the cement that secures a releationship,....it's the iceing that makes it sweeter.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Would You Help An Ex In Need? Posted: 6/1/2007 2:29:00 AM
Yes, absolutely! Remember, your ex was your friend once and just because things didn't work out doesn't mean you should be left to fend for yourself if you need help. Anyway, I would help. You'ld probably have to hear me grumble,..but I would help. We owe it to each other.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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If you've had cancer or an illness at what point in a relationship do you tell Posted: 5/27/2007 12:27:13 PM
I've tried to post here 5 times but it won't take. I am terminal times 2. And I've been dumped for it twice. Once by the wife and friends who couldn't watch the devistation that the chemo was doing to my body and again last week by a woman who aggresively pushed our whole getting together only to inform me two days after we met that she couldn't have a releationship with someone who was going to die and leave her alone to start dating again at age 50. The thing was I never asked her, but her words hurt me and still echo in my head. She said we would be "best friends". Yeah, I told her I'm not sure I can take another fair weather friend. I know I'm not missing anything without that one and I will still keep looking because I know everybody isn't that crude and the alternative is to go back to watching the world go by through my front windows, and that was lonlier I think than being hurt by careless words. .

pallyboy

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ANY STORIES OF PEOPLE ACTUALLY HOOKING UP FROM THIS SITE? Posted: 5/10/2007 5:05:28 PM
I have talked to some absolutely wonderful people on here and have met a couple. There is a beautiful woman 75 miles away that I'm looking forward to meeting this weekend. I know you ladies are going to say serial dater but it's not like that.I don't have forever, I have now and I want fun. Those people I talk to understand. But I would stay with one woman if she was the right one I have to admit being guilty of carrying a chat too long before asking a few women out.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 130 (view)

Why do guys go for the bad girl? Posted: 5/7/2007 8:28:29 PM
I think it's the demand for attention that "bad" girls make that makes the guys chase. Remember a lot of guys are like dogs, following each other around trying to cover up each others scent. Personally I like the woman who doesn't need to be all that but will assure me she is when she gives me that kiss as we are leaving to go home for the evening.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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Just for fun: What was your first car? Posted: 5/7/2007 7:59:47 PM
A 1955 Pontiac Chieftain. I bought that baby in Virginia, drove it from there to Vermont and back, and then straight out the I40 to California. Those bench seats were made for drive-ins, and looking points.

pallyboy

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Voting a 10 Posted: 5/2/2007 6:35:06 PM
Well, you're a ten in my book cooky

pallyboy

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Blurry Pictures & 3 Sentence Long Profiles Posted: 5/1/2007 11:00:15 PM
You know Sunshine, the fake profiles are something we all have to deal with. There is a woman that has e-mailed me three times using differrent profiles to proove something to herself,or me,.....I'm not sure what. But Girl,....you don't know how long some people stare at the pc screen and can only come up with a few words about themselves, women and men. Please don't discount those that can only spit out so many words or else you might miss that inarticulate slob that, in the end, should have ended up with your heart.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 5/1/2007 10:42:41 PM
He's a good, idealistic young man. Maybe you should just go ahead and say,...tell her, au, your perfect date would be ....in your dreams you are (where) feeling great and having the best time(doing what?) with her doing her thing or hangin near,....as long as you can see each others eyes while you're doing(what?). Let it loose brother.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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what intimidates you about a potential partner? Posted: 4/22/2007 5:43:13 PM
I will respond to everyone! I'll meet you whenever you want also. I'm that way and even more so lately. If we laugh together you own me. But I've learned,...discourage is not an option.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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What's an acceptable amount of Money to make? Posted: 4/22/2007 5:32:25 PM
Guess it comes down to what you want , golions. Like the man said, you're only as happy as you want to be and if it's money and the materialistic things it brings that make you happy, chances are, acceptable won't happen. When I did less than 20 I was quite content. Now topping 9x's it covers what I want, but not really.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 113 (view)

Sex or Love? Posted: 4/22/2007 3:00:59 PM
yeah ya know you can have mind blowing sex but as hard as you try, you can't get that hand to carry on a mind blowing conversation so i would have to opt for the love first

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

Who's Your Secret Crush? Posted: 4/22/2007 2:47:58 PM
i have at least three crushes here today. i secretly enjoy womens strengths and a strong woman is a sexy woman.

pallyboy

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How far would you go? Posted: 4/22/2007 2:36:27 PM
i waited until the relationship was over once, trying to respect the other guy. but i was crazy about her from the minute i met her. still i was their friend, not just her friend for years. then when they broke up i respectfully gave her a little time, and the next time i saw her was the day she married some other guy. i shamefully admit, i didn't wait the second time.

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 4/22/2007 2:11:46 PM
too funny! okay, ya got me. but no, unfortunately not everyone has sex on their mind. girl get your mind out of the gutter. i have to look day to day because of this cancer and avm so "other" means fun. don't you dare say sorry! everyone has something. and maybe after this next op i'll post a photo. but hey,...that wasn't an offer was it rose?

pallyboy

Joined: 4/4/2006

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What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 4/22/2007 1:43:35 PM
yo big guy! does the term overachiever mean anything to you? lol just kidding. but maybe you should change your first pic so it doesn't look like you're about to hit whoever looks at you. and dude! the song lyrics? They might send the signal needy instead of romantic like i think you want. Try the beatles, Why Don't We Do It In The Road. have fun

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