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diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

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SINGLE DADS-WOULD U MOVE AWAY FROM UR KIDS-LADIES UR OPINION TOO Posted: 8/15/2007 11:48:39 AM
Simple answer - no. Kids are your flesh and blood and always will be. Partners come and go..... Just the same as I would never expect my partner to leave his kids for me, in fact I would ditch him if he even contemplated it. Its up to my kids if they want to leave, but I will never ever leave them. Take care, Diamond

diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

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No longer having sex in a relationship Posted: 8/14/2007 7:59:50 AM
Hey Andy, This is my opinion, I may be wrong. I get the feeling she doesn't want to be with you but she's tagging you along until something better comes along. Some people just cannot bear to be on their own, they must have another relationship awaiting before they finish the one theyre in. Crazy but it takes all sorts. She just doesn't want to have sex with you anymore and the pregnancy issue is just an excuse to get out of it because if she did want to be intimate with you she would have had contraception taken care of already. And why do you think getting pregnant is such an issue with women? Man meets woman - woman falls pregnant - man disappears into thin air perhaps or relationship doesnt work out - woman left holding the baby so to speak. Hmmmm I wonder why we worry.......... But dont dare get a vasectomy for anyone, unless you are finished making your family! Hope it all works out for you x x x x

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

Msg: 307 (view)

Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend? Posted: 8/13/2007 9:43:51 AM
If you have any doubts or insecurities, (you obviously have), don't do it! Simple as that. Take care Diamond

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

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Would you keep seeing this guy? Posted: 8/7/2007 3:03:38 PM
Absolutely no way in hell would I see anyone who portrayed even some of those characteristics! Stop trying to convince yourself it will work, it wont, and you will be destroyed during the process. Its all good and well to feel pity for this guy with the apparent issues he has but he sounds like a violent, control freak to me! If you have any doubts in your mind you must know the answer within yourself - your dont need us to tell you - GET YOURSELF AND, MORE IMPORTANTLY, YOUR KIDS, AWAY FROM THIS GUY NOW! I think there must be issues of low self esteem here for you. Remember...... People will treat you the way you ALLOW them to........... Good luck you deserve better, let him sort his own issues out you owe him nothing Take care Diamond

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

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Slimmer pickin's when you get older? Posted: 4/14/2006 11:27:55 AM
Aaaaah so thats where they all are! No-one seems to know about this site over here in this part of the world..... Never mind Eddie, there's always chocolate and potato crisps... yee haaa

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

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Slimmer pickin's when you get older? Posted: 4/14/2006 11:03:17 AM
Yea, tell me about it eddie.... Theres only around 30 - 40 guys in the WHOLE of Great Britain..... Help!!!

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

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Ladies, what do you think of my profile? Posted: 4/7/2006 10:33:39 AM
Well Joe, ur profile is good, cant say too much as this is public, and dont listen to the negative feedback from anyone, theyre just jealous! lol

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

When Daddy is a deadbeat . . . Posted: 4/7/2006 5:38:22 AM
Rah5300 U will no exactly where we are coming from....... Im sorry for the generalisation, its my personal experience, ALL my girlfriends are now single parents, not by choice, we were married at one time but it didnt work out. In the majority of cases, the mother is left holding the babies....... Although in my defence, i did say "Men or women for that matter who get up and leave their children, their own flesh and blood have a lot to answer for.........children are damaged by these situations FACT!" I just think that its not about blaming one another, its irrelevant who initiates the divorce, or who did what to whom or choosing wisely, nobody knows what life has in store for them. But, both parents need to concentrate on what they can do in those situations to benefit their children, we are the adults, the kids need us to hold it together for their sake, although, i no bitterness and revenge etc gets in the way and its really difficult to do that for everyone involved. I just dont understand the train of thought of some people. "you should have known better than have kids with him after his track record" "making the mistake of having children" it takes two doesnt it? these things happen, doesnt mean the kids dont have a right to decent parents........ As i said, he is the father, or if it was a mother, he/she needs to step up to that role and not piss off and neglect his/her children! There isnt an argument about it. all she wants is for the kids to see their dad, and have a relationship with him, is that a crime? What is wrong with that? Diamond

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

When Daddy is a deadbeat . . . Posted: 4/7/2006 1:50:25 AM
Loser.... not a loser, deadbeat..... not a deadbeat, its irrelevant. He's the "FATHER" full stop... HE helped make those kids regardless of the situation.... HE is supposed to help look after them, love and support them.... am I right????????? END OF........ Whats ur take on that? What if every mother had the same attitude as the gentleman in question? What the hell would this world be like for those poor children? Mums just cant get up and leave, theyre far too unselfish, sincere, loving and caring to do that to those children.... and thank god for that! You obviously have no conception how a mum and the kids must feel in a situation like this and its an attitude like yours that makes life even worse for everyone! Have you had personal experience? Men or women for that matter who get up and leave their children, their own flesh and blood have a lot to answer for.........children are damaged by these situations FACT! This is only minimised by their carer putting in 100% effort in and or by having a lot of family support too. The children have done nothing wrong, how can someone just cuts themselves off from the children they made? On that point may I assure you that I have had to sacrifice my lifestyle and work commitments over the years to raise my children single handed to ensure that they are pretty well balanced and have a good take on what is important in life. That was no mean feat!!!! So I can understand where CELTICHEALER is coming from. Its nothing to do with being a victim, its a case of standing up for what you believe is right for those children and for yourself. Children should be loved, respected, cherished, taught right from wrong, taught manners etc and parents when parted should make the children their priority instead of being too selfish to put the time in and give each other a break. Is that wrong? Diamond

Diamond2106

Joined: 4/6/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

When Daddy is a deadbeat . . . Posted: 4/7/2006 1:21:22 AM
Hiya, u r an amazing mum, dont forget that, u have to be to bring up children on ur own! I really feel for u as ive had a similar but not quite so bad situation myself over the last 9 years... I understand u must be feeling really bitterly angry and hurt but try to let the kids make their own mind up about whether "daddy" is a dead beat (unless of course, he is violent or abusive or cannot keep to his agreements and the kids become more upset). Its sometimes a near impossible task to do and its so tempting to tell them that their dad cant and doesnt love them (because, we know as adults that obviously if he did he would be around and look after them etc) I dont know if its a good idea for kids to be told that though, but thats only my personal opinion. If YOU show them real support and love over the coming years and always make them ur priority, they will work it out for themselves eventually, its a long time coming though and its still very sad for them and u....... Its a bit like twisted revenge but it doesnt even feel good unfortunately. Just believe it will make u a bigger and more stronger and more determined person in the end and as long as the kids have a strong, caring and extremely loving mum around theyve got quite a good start in life. It will also let the kids understand what it takes to be a good quality person who's priorities lie with keeping their family together and showing genuine love and respect to one another. I know i sound like a preaching old fogey but I am at the other end of ur journey having had a rocky ride and my kids, now in their teens are well adjusted and respect other people (that respect them). My son especially was hurt when daddy left him at 7 years old too, but in his words "I will never do to my children what my dad did to me". Rise above it, be pround of being a single mum and take care of yourself and the kids...... Diamond xxxx

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