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cherokaah

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For the Men Over 30 Posted: 10/9/2009 6:33:24 PM
i am single and 42 and no kids because: due to chemotheraphy (cancer treatment) i am unable to have own kids girls enjoy my company for a few months because they dont have to worry about getting pregger, but then they want kids and run away i have only been used by girls so far. but i still believe in love. maybe one day i find the right one.

cherokaah

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i miss her so much Posted: 3/15/2009 6:04:49 PM
back in 1994 i was 26 and engaged to a wonderfull girl. julia. our daughter was just 1 year old when a drunken driver hit the car of my fiance and killed her instantly. she was on her way home. we were together for about 4 years and our wedding was scheduled about 3 weeks later. you probably can't immagine what i went thru as i adored her. she was my first real love and her loss struck me so hard that i needed psychiatric aid. i had some serious suicide toughts back then as i could not imagine to live without her. our daughter turns 17 this year and she reminds me every day of her beautiful mom. she does not live with me but we see each other often and have a good relationship. she has been a strong girl and does not remember her mom but she sometimes recognize me being sad and in those moments she is like a best friend. she is very supportive and knows how much i still miss her mom. i have had some relationships afterwards but none of them really worked out. i guess i just didn't care. i know it is time to move on but i just can't let it go. i wonder why i am still in grief. i have happy days for sure and days i forgot about her but then a few days later i have a bad breakdown. i tried a doctor and that helped me for a while but i can not consult a doc for the rest of my life. i also try to be strong because i know my daughter s worried. the god thing is i never started to drink. i have been single now for 4 years because i am afraid i might hurt a girlfriend because i cant give her 100% of my heart.

cherokaah

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Employers and Bosses doing Online Searches Posted: 3/15/2009 5:17:21 PM
i hardly doubt you are online nearly 30 years.... i just did a research about the history of the internet.... and i consider myself as a hardcore web user for a loooooong time: http://www.nsf.gov/news/special_reports/nsf-net/

cherokaah

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does getting older scare u? Posted: 3/13/2009 2:20:17 PM
i am 41 now and the older i am the more i feel i have missed something and i start to plan travels to other countries, i start talking to younger girls altought i would actually not date them, i just do, to see if i still have that "spark" in me haha.... it's kinda funny. some girls are disgusted thinking im a old crap and others really enjoy my company as i am actually not try to get them into bed but just have a good time. i also started to bike a year ago. i always was scared of motorbikes and i was the type: "hell no im not going to make suicide" but now as i drive a harley davidson (nightster) i really enjoy my life but i am single for nearly 4 years now and this concerns me a lot...

cherokaah

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Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married? Posted: 3/13/2009 2:09:07 PM
im 41 now and divorced for 12 years. if i find a good girl that is honest i would love to give another try.

cherokaah

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learning to play guitar Posted: 1/7/2007 2:30:51 AM
well, i personally don't think it is smart to learn from books. a life instructor is always the best choice. just don't try to imitate the big guys. that's lame. find your own style. learn the most used/needed chords first and then go to pentatonic. it is not that hard

cherokaah

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AGE DIFFERENCE IN DATING Posted: 6/27/2005 1:30:30 PM
well age is not an issue to me. i was a bit more than 2 years very happy with my girl. we even used to live together for nearly 2 years. she was 18 years younger than me. i am 38 now.

cherokaah

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Hey girl! Seen you on fish forum!! Posted: 6/23/2005 7:38:21 PM
lake of the ozarks is a beautiful place! have been there just a couple months ago :-) i love that place greetings from switzerland chero

cherokaah

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Would you date someone who is disabled. Posted: 6/13/2005 5:32:49 AM
oooh yes i would! it is not an issue to me... once i have seen this beautiful girl at hotornot. damn she was soooo cute. she never respondet my email and she is not there anymore. luckily i saved her picture so i still have something to dream at.....

cherokaah

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I'm sick of phony profiles - Give me a break !!!! Posted: 4/13/2005 6:08:46 AM
thank you nick but i think i am to old. the girls dont respond my mails

cherokaah

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I'm sick of phony profiles - Give me a break !!!! Posted: 4/13/2005 5:54:39 AM
lol nick thats real fun. you guys seems to be happy! good luck to you! wish you all the best -chero-

cherokaah

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Younger Women - Older Men Posted: 4/13/2005 5:47:45 AM
why should they? is age really an issue? not for me... but i wont date someone who is younger than 19 now....

cherokaah

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If your partner died would you date his brother or sister Posted: 4/13/2005 5:46:19 AM
no way! in respect to the one who past away....

cherokaah

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Younger Women - Older Men Posted: 4/13/2005 5:44:55 AM
as i said before...i was 35 and my girl was 18 was a perfect combination :-)

cherokaah

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I'm sick of phony profiles - Give me a break !!!! Posted: 4/13/2005 4:18:11 AM
i totaly agree with you guys! phony pics and ads are a real turn off! i've had the same problem in the past. lot of people claimed that i use a picture of a famous racedriver and i calim i am "him" but in real i am just a 0815 person.... a famous racedriver like the guy on the pics must have tons of womans around and he does NOT put ads on a dating site. then i put some private pics of mine onto my profile. since then everything is ok. fakers are loosers. -chero-

cherokaah

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What's under your hood? Posted: 4/13/2005 4:02:05 AM
Pentium IV 3.6GHz 2GB Ram (4x 512 Sticks Doublesided) 2x 250GB HDD ASUS XTREME N5900 (128 MB RAM) Soundblaster Creative Audigy 2 ZS i put my computer to a video beamer..... sound is connected to my stereo internet connection: DSL with 600 downstream / 300 Up and 5 static IP adresses

cherokaah

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Dating Older Men Posted: 4/13/2005 3:54:12 AM
i was just turned 36 when i dated a 18 yrs old cutie. that was the most incredible relationship i had. i never was so happy...

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 4/13/2005 3:48:58 AM
well i put this post now 3 months ago. it seems that girls are afraid of me!? because i am looking for something serious leading into marriage. i have writen a lot of emails to some nice ladies in here and gave them the link of this posting after they wanted to know me better. i allways said: go here and take a look at this [link to this post] then you know exactly how i am and how i tread my woman. like a godess. after that i have never heard again from them. seems some girls are afraid of a serious relationship. makes me sad somehow. im still single and on the market

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 2/8/2005 4:52:58 AM
jessica but you are also a hottie hehe i figured out there is no woman left for me. all good girls are gone...

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/27/2005 1:53:33 PM
@alura nice new pix! do you have your digicam now? -chero-

cherokaah

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HotOrNot Posted: 1/23/2005 4:01:12 PM
yup i agree to the most ppl here. hot or not is real cool. i am a paying member there and have been registered since 2001!! so i am a "senior" but have not ben much there exept the last few days! my current rate is 7.2! pretty cool haha :-) well i meet some real cute girls there in did

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/23/2005 3:54:31 PM
lool ok.

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/18/2005 9:21:16 AM
alura today one of my close friends living in canada offered me a cool and pretty secure job in a race team (formula toyota atlantic) in florida. well that would mean my future would be secured... now i just need the right girl on my side hehe...

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/18/2005 9:18:56 AM
yna6 i hope you meant that on a sarcastic way? or did i missunderstood that?

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/18/2005 12:43:36 AM
thank you so much ladies!! you truly made my day !!! with love reto

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/17/2005 2:54:37 PM
alura i have seen your profile yesterday of course and it made me smile. i am happy for you. your man looks very handsome and nice!!

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/17/2005 2:39:53 PM
alura no i am NOT a hero! i dont wanna be a hero at all! i am just a down to earth guy who wants to be a little bit respected for all the things i have done in my life. my fight vs. cancer was a easy walk instead of other people who had even more worst battles for life than i've had with cancer! those peoples are heros but i am not! those people lost parts of their bodies to survive (talkin about breastcancer and so on) those people have my respect! well. i might be a stupid one and i guess i will go into same trouble again. i guess i am someone who never learn about my mistakes. thats the way i am... :-( ok in future i think i will be a bit more carefully and @ the moment i in did have problems to trust a woman again. lets say it needs time! but i dont give up! i still believe in the good thing inside a woman. i dont blame womans for what my ex have done to me. i know that NOT all woman are like this. i know there is a woman somewhere for me. sometimes i am just blind! thats the way i am when i am in love! i am a stupid and i know it will happen to me again if i dont be carefully. but to be honest there are also a lot of guys out there wo play such bad games on woman. -chero-

cherokaah

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man/woman of your dream - who is it? how would he/she looks like? Posted: 1/17/2005 1:39:56 PM
LOOL

cherokaah

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man/woman of your dream - who is it? how would he/she looks like? Posted: 1/17/2005 1:34:42 PM
if you would have a machine who can create the man/woman of your dreams how would he/she looks like? the woman of my dreams: black long hair down to her ass BIG green eyes slim max. 5'4" nice tits (no banana hangdown's) piano fingers not to much make up!! a woman with a soft voice attracts me more than someone with a voice like a man.... now....your turn

cherokaah

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bring it back!!!!!!!!!!!!..................... Posted: 1/17/2005 1:19:22 PM
i agree

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/17/2005 1:18:06 PM
ok sweet child i will take a look here at POF there are some nice girls here i guess....

cherokaah

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Disabilities and dating.... Posted: 1/17/2005 1:12:11 PM
i dont care if a girl is in a wheelchair! she is still a human!! ok a relationship would have some restrictions but if i am in love with her i dont care.... im really not!

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/17/2005 1:08:38 PM
alura have you read this one:?? http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts314664.aspx

cherokaah

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IF YOUR A BAD BOY AND DON`T REALLY CARE ABOUT WOMEN`S FEELINGS Posted: 1/17/2005 1:06:03 PM
i guess i am a nice guy.... but the nicer i am the bader the girls treat me... see here: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts314664.aspx i guess i try to be an ashole next time i have a GF. that might helps?

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/17/2005 12:40:40 PM
hey :-) actually i dont care if "my" child is from my blod or not! i have no problems to accept a woman with a child from someone else. single mom's are ok for me also adoption is something i am open for. BUT a child is NOT a must for me. if i find a girl who loves me truly from the bottom of her heart i am happy even if she does not want children. that is not an issue to me. -chero-

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/17/2005 12:10:21 PM
@alura your story touches my heart...how sad :-( yes i have a brother and guess what! he just became daddy on dec. 17th i am the oldest in my family. i have a 2year younger sister and my brother is 32 now...5 yrs. younger then me. of course my mom freaked she was so happy!! lool he made me a uncle ..... his girfriend gave him a son. the name is steven and he is such a cutie!!!

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/17/2005 12:05:31 PM
hey ramcharger thanx :-) i know my cancer story discusting some people and i am sure others also suffered that way or even more worst! i never wish someone this bad illness. not even my worst enemy because it is really not funny to be such a weak man. i had chemotherapy during nearly 10 month. i wonder if someone is here who also has experience in chemo? someone i can share my experience? for those who not have been in this situation it is very hard to understand what i have been going thru. actually i never lost faith in my power to survive it. all my thought where ony on one thing: when can i get back into my racecar!! haha.... no im not talking bullsh***! hey charger you're a sympatic guy to me. is your nick coming out from dodge ram? do you have one? i love these big bulls! the 2500 dodge ram rocks!!! -chero-

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/17/2005 8:48:00 AM
thank you!!

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/17/2005 8:47:19 AM
thank you!!!

cherokaah

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~ Shame on YOU ...YOU fooled ME ~ Posted: 1/17/2005 5:19:26 AM

cherokaah

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what am i doing wrong? (long story) Posted: 1/17/2005 5:11:01 AM
when i was 26 i meet my ex wife. we have been together for 2 years before we married. within this 2 years her girlfriend allways warned me about her that she is cheating with me, messin around with other man and that she has a boyfriend she has sex with. but i did not believe it because my woman was acting soooo perfect. she showed me how much she loves me and so one... i was sooo stupid! but shortly after marriage she showed her true face! just one weeka later i was home and my wife did not know it when she came home with her girlfriend. in the livingroom she sayd: well what do i need else...haha i have a man wo brings me money home, who takes care of everything but for sex i have my **** (name forgotten) well i came into livingroom immediately and showed her that i heard that. her girlfriend just sayd: chero...i allways warned you but u wont listen to me. since that day she was no longer my wifes girlfriend hehe.... well stupid as i am i gave my wife another chance after she sayd she will not see that guy anymore. she was crying and promissed me hardly to be loyal and i have forgiven her having sex all these 2 past years. about 4 month later, your marriage was much better than before (thats what i thought it was) i deciedet to suprise my woman and go home earlier than usual. i bought a bunch of flowers and drove home. at this time i was working about 80 miles!! from home and i drove everyday back home! usualy i was home at 7pm but on that day it was 4pm. when i opened the door i heard my woman .... in sleeping room having sex. my knees where shakin. i knew something is going on and i knew what it was. the two where so mch busy in their act they did not regonize me. i surely was standing 5 minutes in the sleepingroom doorframe and my tears droped down my face. until i asked loudly if i can join them!! well i never have seen a man dressing up so fast and running away. later of cource i had talked to my wife and told her that i cant to that. i loved her so much and i spoiled her very generously and she cheated on me. well i told her that i need a break to think about the whole situation and after then i will deciede if i will give her another chance or not. i traveled to norway to a friend for relaxing and it was good! whan i came home 2 month's later they arrested me on the airport for creditcard fraud... OMG!! know what happened? my woman took all our money we have saved for the house AND she picked up 1000$ each day from the teller machine with my credit card! i lost 50'000$ and there was nothing i could do about it because i was the owner of the account. but i could prove that i was not takin the money. the director of the bank came along with some videotapes showing allways my "dear" wife pickin up the money, so they released me and where out for my woman. she has been arested 3 month later in canada with her boyfriend she allways promissed me to leave!! i immediately filled for divorce and the judge was very fair! she applied for the half of my stuff and house but he denied it! she has nothing and this is good! believe me i needet years to recover from that shock! later i have had a girlfriend who was single mother. i meet her online in a chatroom. it was love at first sight. (i thought) but she also cheated on my on a similar way! she have had sex with other man and i kicked her after only 3 month. within tose 3 month i have spent 3000$ for clothing and toys for her 9month daughter, i payd all the rent and food! after i kicked her i asked her to give me back at least a bit but she told me: no why should i? it is your own stupid fault. i never told you to support me! you did that on your free will! and that she laughted at me and called me a stupid donkey! and i was! a stupid monkey who getting up every day at 7, changing the pampers of sweet little vanessa, played with her so my girlfriend could sleep out until 10am because she came home late from a party drunken..... often have had sex on the party! (later a GF of her told me that) after all this i was down mentaly and i did not believe in love anymore! well the show must go on! hopefully i find the girl who respects me they way i am and knows how to take the way i spoil a woman.... if i am in love i do everything. like a stupid monkey!

cherokaah

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older guys younger women Posted: 1/17/2005 4:25:27 AM
as i sayd before.... i was 35 and my GF was 18 and we matched perfect

cherokaah

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Dating Older Men Posted: 1/17/2005 4:17:48 AM
well my ex gf was 18 when i first meet her and it was good! i was 35 then and i must say it was the best relationship i've ever had! since then i like girls between 18 and 24. i can get better along with them. dont know why

cherokaah

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cant have childrens Posted: 1/17/2005 4:03:45 AM
back in 2001 i suffered on cancer and i have had the fight for my life. now i am completely recovered and healthy but chemotheraphy and x-rays killed my sperm, so i can not have childrens. NEVER!! what should i do if i meet a nice girls and she ask me if i want to have babys? i love childrens very much but ..... game over :-( what if the girls wants children in future? is my problem a reason not to be with me? i mean what do you think about child adoption in such a case? -chero-

cherokaah

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if you could choose... A BOY OR A GIRL?? Posted: 1/17/2005 3:56:04 AM
actually i dont care. i just want my child be a race enthusiast and later to be a racedriver haha

cherokaah

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americansingles Posted: 1/16/2005 9:01:09 AM
why should i visit as.org if i find everything i need at POF? i was a as.org member years ago but never was really happy. im not often at POF but this is the best dating website i know. ok other sites might be have a better design or look but do i need that? NO! most important thing here is i can find fast what i need and i dont have to go thru thousend links! i like POF and i will be loyal

cherokaah

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Re: dont understand why she cheated Posted: 9/8/2004 3:21:13 AM
hey zarsel, be happy! you have had a great gift! 16 years of marriage. i know it is hard to be alone now but look forward! do some thing you couldn't do the past few years. things that you ever have dreamed about! use this time to go inside you! enoy it in full! now you have the chance to do things your wife would never allow! and let her know that you are doing it. let her know that you are doing great! that you are NOT falling in deep depression! i know it is hard but go out! meet new people! your wife might become jealous and wants you back after a while! if she comes back to you then it is for ever, if not, let her go! even if it hurts! it is not worth it! take a deep breath and stand up! c'mon! you can do it! -cherokaah-

cherokaah

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Re: I found the man of my dreams on plenty of fish :) Posted: 8/30/2004 4:52:00 AM
good queen :-) congrats! hope it lasts for a long time! i am happy 4 u :-)

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