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es138

Joined: 4/9/2006

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Would you be with someone that you knew you liked more? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:23:39 PM
You should be relieved that you didn't send him running with the revelation that you like him more than he likes you. It's a really, really good sign. You're dealing with a pride issue. If you rely on others to fix it, then you'll never be satisfied.

es138

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A playful groper Posted: 11/9/2009 10:15:55 PM
You're in the right on this one. But it sounds like the way they look at this situation could make an imperfect approach, on your part, come off as viscious. I'm sure that when you approach him about this, he'll feel a little stupid and embarrassed, so don't follow it up with "or Else," bs. Your gf makes it sound like he doesn't seem to know he's doing anything wrong. That doesn't excuse his behaivior, but it will make your move to flex seem out of turn.

es138

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Need some honest answers Posted: 10/6/2009 10:26:17 PM
First: You'd know better than I do. Second: Don't tell the kid. He doesn't really want to know. He's to young to objectively take it all in. Everyone will view it as a dirty trick you pulled in a game of he said she said.

es138

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men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth? Posted: 9/8/2009 7:48:19 PM
Where I live, it was 6 guys for 1 girl, when I checked 2 years ago. Now it's 3 guys to 1 girl. I think a lot of what contributes to the imbalance is that there are lots of different venues where a girl can sign up for free, AND that girls tend to be on top of retiring (deleting) their profiles when they leave the site.

es138

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the instant messaging breakup Posted: 8/29/2009 1:22:21 AM
I'm secretly all for this. If it happens to me, I can gripe to the world about how uncooth my ex was. If I'm the one to do it... it's suuuuuper easy. It's a win:win

es138

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Do you wear ear plugs to a music concert? Posted: 8/29/2009 12:37:49 AM
I think ear plugs make live music sound better. Even more strange, I feel that when I have earplugs in at a show, and a friend is trying to tell me something over the loud music, I can hear them better than if I take the plugs out.

es138

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Seriously, is there any disarming/non-creepy way... Posted: 8/28/2009 1:09:21 AM
If you read too far into a read/deleted, you'll lend it a wieght that will bog you down after the 10th or 20th read/deleted.

es138

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Do men get mad because some of us women prefer large penis's? Posted: 7/27/2009 1:48:55 PM
Penis preference sort of defies the conventional and contemporary notions of how we regard women. In the old fashion camp, it's not very lady like to fixate a man's penis/penis size. In the new world, it's hypocritical for women to grade, label or quantify a man based on a physical attribute.

es138

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Racism........... Really? Posted: 7/23/2009 9:58:32 PM
When Professor Henry Louis Gates Jr. left home to attend Yale, he enrolled in their new program titled "Afro American Studies." (that's how long ago it was.) Since then he has been accredited as one of "Today's most public African American intellectual voices," above being "...among the most renowned American intellectuals of our time." To claim that this arrest was not an instance of racism is like telling the pope he's wrong about something that's Catholic. If you had read any of Gates' books, or even a book which has quoted Gates, you'd agree that this statement here: Racism still exists in America. But, why go looking for it in places where it doesn't exist? ...is ignorant, arm-chair, bullsh1t.

es138

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So he has been in prison so what right? Posted: 7/17/2009 12:25:26 AM
The fact that this guy got caught means that A. he stole or caused over 10K in losses and B. that the occupents of said home KNEW HIM!!!

es138

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Not to sure how to handle the question, why dont I have a daddy? Posted: 7/17/2009 12:09:30 AM
In this day in age, shouldn't that question be viewed through the same lense as "Why don't we have a dog?" Each family is different.

es138

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Where's the Ask a Gay forum? Posted: 7/15/2009 10:45:08 PM
I think the rules which apply to how only guys can post topics in the Ask a Girl forum, and vice versa, lends some merrit to the suggestion of a forum where only GLBT's can post topics. I think EVERY group should have a forum in the relationship catagory. (possibly due to the voyuristic nature of the white male... jk?)

es138

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 6/30/2009 3:33:12 PM
I once met someone from here who had no picture. We spoke on the phone before we decided to meet, and she described herself so I had a general idea of what she'd look like, plus I added a few grains of salt. Long story short, she turned out hot.

es138

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men who lie and use women Posted: 6/18/2009 2:45:53 AM
EL OH EL Fairydance3 says "You'll See! You'll See!"

es138

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Should a man do his eyebrows? Posted: 6/18/2009 2:44:08 AM
I'll let a girl do my brows for sure.

es138

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One Line Wonders And The Numbers Game Posted: 6/17/2009 7:51:34 PM
Meh, let them complain. Unless you're copy-and-pasting a generic email to a bunch of girls. If that's the case then accept it as proper reinforcement.

es138

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help!! I'm really confused Posted: 6/17/2009 7:38:00 PM
When I was his age, girls your age didn't appeal much to me above the collarbone.

es138

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Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink? Posted: 6/17/2009 6:50:15 PM
If he had gone to the bar and returned with three tequila shots for you- would you have drank them?

es138

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No physical attraction Posted: 6/16/2009 7:48:22 PM
Are you adopted? He could be your brother.

es138

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Doesn't want to go too far? Posted: 6/16/2009 7:25:55 PM
Two words: Flare Up.

es138

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Any Japanese Speakers? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:33:23 PM
I saw Takashi Miike speak back in 2003. He was wearing his sunglasses in a dark theater. I'd be so pumped to hear what he writes back to you. I am curious as to what is the aspect you speak of?

es138

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Why do I not get any replies? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:30:02 PM
First of all, Never ask a girl for girl advice. You ask girls for girlFriend advice. If she doesn't write back, it doesn't mean you can't message her again down the line. There are 50,000 reasons for why she didn't write back. My Girlfriend read/deleted 2 of my "first contact" messages. But down the line my third caught her on the right day. Nonetheless, if you want to make this site work for you, you need to cast a wide net and play the numbers. And you should focus most of your efforts on the New Users.

es138

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are we made up of atoms? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:24:08 PM
Do you mean like... millions of years ago a tree fell, and its atoms were dispersed and created other things. So you might feel a connection to anyone built from the same former tree, or mountain, or buffalo, which built you????

es138

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If I had a penis... Posted: 4/27/2009 3:43:49 PM
Any woman who truly envies a man's ability to pee outside, needs to google "The Shenis." And honestly ladies, if you had a penis, you'd spend the first 3 days adjusting to having balls.

es138

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Read.Deleted Posted: 4/27/2009 3:30:01 PM
I don't know what he's talking about. Every time I log in, all the emails I sent out have been replied to with offers for sex. And I get maybe 4 or 5 offers for sex from users I've never even contacted. (jk)

es138

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breakfast at tiffany's Posted: 4/27/2009 11:43:06 AM
I feel like a turtle scooting himself across the floor as if each forward movement is a major imposition and 90 percent of me wishes to stay put but yet I persist with my scrawny legs thrusting thrusting thrusting myself forward I wish I could stay in my shell and wait for food to climb in my mouth But perhaps this ooching and scooting will put me in water where I can float and flow with a current Allowing fate to do all the work for me.

es138

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Grown up sons who are angry and hostile Posted: 2/26/2009 11:53:19 PM
This is really long and reads as if you ommited the stuff you DO take the blame for, or you spent a lot of time writing what should exaunorate you of any blame. Either way this seems a bit one sided. Seriously, this is one long litany of why you feel mistreated. Are your interactions with them emotionally painful because they verbally berrate you? What is the case that the boys try to make for why they act this way towards you? Is that a conversation you're refusing to have? Emotional maturity of a 19 year old is a pretty good excuse to feel upset over having life turned upside down because of the choices ONE person in the family was making. Also, Anything your daughter has told you she heard, needs to be verified by adults before you assume it as fact. Party A says something hurtful Party B tells you about it You need to address it.

es138

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vancouver cop job as a career Posted: 1/31/2009 12:03:34 PM
RCMP, What does that stand for? I say go for it. Become a cop, it's a secure gig. The element of danger will probably trun out to be way overplayed, and you'll end up wishing you had more stories to tell the grandkids.

es138

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Smooth Operator? Posted: 1/27/2009 5:43:53 PM
I'm poor with names and do the same thing.

es138

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First date,invite her kids too?? Posted: 1/26/2009 3:39:06 PM
I hated every guy my mom ever introduced me to. Some consideration for the kids please.

es138

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enter past-tense presents now Posted: 12/4/2008 8:31:50 PM
Friday the 13th is bad luck A mailbox with no room Has swan lake frozen over Wanting to visit a baby Angel, Perhas Saterday the 13th will go my way

es138

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adorable? Posted: 11/17/2008 12:57:01 AM
It means that BOTH those girls like you. One for each ball that needs to drop. lol. I'm just kidding. I'm not trying to make fun of you but if you get more in touch with your inner Mac, then you'll be able to recognize compliments when they come your way.

es138

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Strange ex offer (spending money) Posted: 11/7/2008 5:31:13 PM
Holiday Spirit? Tis the season for giving.

es138

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do guys take a woman back after a break up ? Posted: 11/6/2008 4:49:52 PM
Yes... even sometimes against better judgement. Scathing email equals hurt pride. Nothing is more validating than someone crawling back to you.

es138

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Joint primary care takers Posted: 11/6/2008 4:46:56 PM
First evaluate just how much it bothers you that the ex won't talk to you. If there's no problem in the parenting plan as of now, then it might look like you're using the kids to effect the situation between you and the ex.

es138

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Obama - First Black or Biracial ... Posted: 11/4/2008 6:39:29 PM
Barack Obama was born to Barack Hussein Obama, Sr., a Luo from Nyang’oma Kogelo, Nyanza Province, Kenya, and Ann Dunham, a white American from Wichita, Kansas. He doesn't have any Latino blood.

es138

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Too much about the ex Posted: 11/4/2008 1:14:37 PM
I guess it has a utility to both parties. For the person talking about their Ex, it's cathartic. For the person being talked at about the Ex, it illuminates that you might be a rebound. I'd rather make a realistic determination on my own, than be dazzled by someone rife with savvy dating advice showing me something when it's really another.

es138

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enter the past-time of poetry: please share, comment, and write about hopes, wishes, desires, love Posted: 11/4/2008 12:50:21 PM
The Joy of a Sick Day. A forced Vacation Where choice goes on hiatus. The battle of bacteria breeds a fondness to resume the monotonous grind of waking life Incubating in the nest of favorite blankets and pillows Body and Soul Nourished by rest and comfort cracker crumbs oj and sweet cat naps under that cool blue glow of Jerry, Judge Judy and Joe Brown And today, What a great way to watch history unfold.

es138

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The 2nd Amendment & Obama Posted: 11/1/2008 4:49:40 PM
Obama has promised to protect and uphold the constitution. When he cast those votes (all prior to June of 2008) the 2nd amendment stood solely on the 27 words it was comprised of: "A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed." None of his votes attempted to renege on the promise of "A well regulated militia," nor is it apparent that he voted to infringe upon the rights to keep and bear arms. What you meant by Clinton Gun Ban was Clinton's Brady Bill (targeting hand guns) and the Assault Weapons Ban. In June of 2008 the supreme court set the precedence that (District of Columbia v. Heller ) self-defense is a central component of the right. None of your examples show that he has voted in opposition to the new (Very New) interpretation of the amendment. In that Pittsburg Tribune-Review article you listed, you'll read that "All three [candidates: Obama, Clinton and McCain] believe the Second Amendment gives individuals, not militias, the right to own guns. " Concealed weapons is NOT in the second amendment. Obama DID NOT state that he is opposed to the "Right to Carry," in that Pittsburgh Tribune-Review article. http://www.pittsburghlive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/news/s_560181.html "I do think we have to do a better job sharing information between local and federal officials," Said Obama. "I am not in favor of concealed weapons," Obama said. "I think that creates a potential atmosphere where more innocent people could (get shot during) altercations." Those are the only quotes from him in that "Interview."

es138

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How do I get past the friend complex? Posted: 10/22/2008 8:30:09 PM
many girls like it when the guy shows his swagger. It's hard to explain, but ... You've heard it from a girl and I'll go on to share that you might see less of the "friend complex," if you begin evaluating the first impression you're making on girls. A curt way to put it is: You need to come off as a sexual being. Luckily for you, meeting a girl on a dating web site is doing most of that work for you. The odds of a girl from this site getting the "friend complex" is slim.

es138

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22/Male/Ca. LA review my pROfile PleAseeee. Posted: 10/15/2008 12:02:52 AM
My friend Danielle would be melting over your profile dude. Your profile is just fine. I would say that if you are putting all your chips into this online dating site, then you might get more traffic if you simplified your profile and posted some Sunday pics. I doubt that you've set your focus upon conquering the internet dating universe, so if here like the rest of us, then stay real and wait for a keeper to swim by while casting a wide net. It's 6 guys for every girl on this site so keep playing the numbers and stay ahead of probability.

es138

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Guys and gals - help me with my profile! Posted: 10/14/2008 11:47:37 PM
A profile without a picture is not always someone who is hiding something. It also could be a lurker, troll or spammer. It's the age we live in, and with four different types of poor first impressions, there's little reason for users to assume that a pictureless profile might not be a waste of time. It's safe to assume that if you're on a dating site, you need not worry about other users thinking that you're "Unprofessional," because they are ALSO on the dating site. If you can't display a picture, then maybe you should promise one in your headline.

es138

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Why does nice suddenly turn to sexual? Posted: 10/14/2008 11:29:37 PM
I don't turn the conversation to sex, but I can empithize with guys who do. The reality of online dating for most guys leaves a lot to be desired. With one girl for every 6 guys on this site, IM is in very high demand. Often the few girls who are open to IM-ing are open to hawt talk.

es138

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why do guys kiss you and then never call?? Posted: 10/14/2008 11:09:42 PM
Sometimes talking to a girl on the phone can be the pits. If you're sorta doubting yourself then you must agree that a call from him will be validating for you. If I knew a girl was waiting for me to call so I could validate her... I'd probably opt to put it off until after dinner. Come to think of it, after the initial formalities of a phone call, if there's no business to attend to (like making plans for later,or sharing the day's funny story) a guy-girl phone call often turns into some form of the girl trying to nudge a little validation out of the guy. Among the many techniques girls use to do that, I've never come across one which is NOT some intensive trial of my listening skills. Regardless of the many reasons we try to avoid that, you should keep in mind that in a guy's subconcious: If she needs me to validate her maybe that means I'm hawter than her which means I could do better than her. Neediness is kinda gross... and girly to the point of boredom.

es138

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Hair extensions or short hair... which is worse? Posted: 10/11/2008 2:11:11 AM
I don't think I've seen the difference between bad extensions and good extensions. If I were her I'd get them.

es138

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Take note guys/girls Posted: 10/5/2008 3:50:15 PM
I really like vibrant, botanical colors... say on a knee length dress.

es138

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i'm sorry...you're such an a-hole Posted: 10/3/2008 6:55:55 PM
Counseling is the fast track to moving through this.

es138

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Asked for a date first time meeting Posted: 10/3/2008 6:52:10 PM
Yes, for the hell of it.

es138

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If guys can do everything they need already.... Posted: 10/3/2008 6:47:19 PM
Yeah... there was a time when Men thought they knew the answer to this question and so they made women their slaves. The gender roles established by thousands of years of humanity have allowed men and women to partner together like puzzle pieces. The budding notion, that there may exist a better idea than imposed gender roles, could ultimately make our hetero norms a primitive ideal from ancient times. At that point your question will be "Why do we need to partner if we can do everything ourselves?" The answer imo, is because the critical, first months/years of our lives were so heavily dependent upon our mothers/parents.

es138

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Do We Really Need Black/Asian/Gay Police Associations ? Posted: 10/3/2008 3:57:24 AM
Have you got a link for your statistics ? , unfortunately your last offering was nearly 10 yrs out of date !! I'll leave it to you and your own research to negate my assurance that those 8 year old statistics have yet to balance out. (Unless you're prepared to digress if I can prove it for you.) Are you saying there is an association solely for white/straight police officers in existance ...........that would be equality wouldnt it ? This in its essence is the impasse of the discussion. A compelling argument indeed. I would say that the necessity for a white/straight association is none. But does that mean that white/straight officers shouldn't have the option to create an association? This is where we as citizens of a fair and balanced, yet demographically disproportionate society must allow for this double standard in order to progress. A concession on the part of the white man.

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