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Brash_n_Sassy

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is sex something a woman offers in a relationship? Posted: 3/29/2008 3:39:00 PM
I think this question was answered so well, there's nothing more to be added..you left him speachless ladies

Brash_n_sassy

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woman's sincerity at relationships Posted: 10/1/2007 12:46:09 PM
I think that the only thing we (men & women) know...is what we don't want, and we don't know that we don't want it until after a few conversations and sometimes a "face to face" meeting.

Brash_n_sassy

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What should I do here ... Posted: 10/1/2007 11:08:42 AM
I don't think she intentionally lied to you, she probably assumed that you would recognize the pic. as a celebrity. Talk to her about it and ask for a current picture of her. If she lies or doesn't want to give you one, then you'll have your answer. Good Luck

Brash_n_sassy

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What is the real reason??? Posted: 10/1/2007 11:03:29 AM
If he knew your feelings before getting involved with you then, he should've voiced his conerns at that time, instead of letting the relationship evolve. That said, a relationship involves work just like anything else and if two people want to move forward, then compromise is something you both have to do. If he's not willing to discuss it, i would take that as a sign or an excuse to break it off. He's just not that into you. These things happen but, i wouldn't give in to someone who wouldn't be willing to give in to me or even talk it out. It says that all issues in the future will end with you being the one give in and you'll come to resent him for it.

Brash_n_sassy

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Conversation is a lost art form Posted: 9/22/2007 1:34:22 PM
Hey..if you start a conversations with a one-liner, that's what you'll get back from me But seriously..i agree..the only way to know a person is listening to what they have to say, and it would be nice if a man listened to what i had to say for a change...and remembered the converstaion.

Brash_n_sassy

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The Other Woman... Posted: 9/20/2007 8:08:33 PM
She did get him out of your life and that ended up being a positive thing. If you talk to her it may stir up some old feelings, don't let her drag you back down to their level. Forget them both

Brash_n_sassy

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The BEST hot WINGS ever Posted: 9/19/2007 8:38:36 AM
I'm a big fan of Hot Wings but hate the messy sauce, and while i do like the meat tender(falling off the bone when you bite them), i don't like them soggy. Never tried boiling them first tho so, think i will. I find a lot of recipes in restaurants always include tobasco or a similar tasting sauce which doesn't do it for me. I prefer a hot that is tasty and opens up your appetite, making you want more soooo..on that note Marinate your wings in Soya sauce, garlic, crushed chilli peppers,Montreal chicken spice, and Matouks Calypso Sauce(can be found in west-indian stores) Or for a twist use less soya sauce and substitute the chicken spice with Jerk seasoning. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Brash_n_sassy

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WTF am I supposed to do now? Posted: 9/17/2007 11:00:53 AM
For your own peice of mind, go see him, either way it'll give you confirmation and some closure as well as a lesson learned. As for what he did...who knows what goes thru the mind of a person like that, if he played you, i wouldn't even consider him a " human being" Consider yourself lucky you're still here and not stranded somewhere. I know it'll take some time to get over the hurt but, you will and be smarter for it. Good Luck

Brash_n_sassy

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The Irony In Dating The Choice Posted: 9/14/2007 7:03:47 AM
While one date may be enough to determine attraction, it's not enough to determine compatability. It could take several before they let their guard down for you to see the "real" person. There's nothing wrong with dating more than one, untill you're ready to take the next step. And...i had several emails with a man, felt like we connected but, then he sends me an email saying that he met someone he wanted to pursue further. I respected him for letting me know when most would just pull a dissappearing act. A couple of months later, he emailed me again, telling me it didn't work out and wanted to meet up with me. As it turned out, there was no connection in person but, you never know. I say keep your options open and happy

Brash_n_sassy

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Why do mature adults think taking it slow lends itself to a deeper/more meaningful relationship? Posted: 9/3/2007 8:04:14 AM
I talk to alot of people who have set a time limit on when take the next step and for some it's a good idea. I believe in letting things evolve naturally. When it's not right, we know, so our self-preservation mechanism takes control and tells us to take it slow but, we also know when it's right, if we pult a "halt" on it, we may lose by sending the wrong signals. I say, follow your heart and your natural instincts, they always know, and I wish you both all the best

Brash_n_sassy

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Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date? Posted: 8/27/2007 2:25:36 PM
ONCE..there was one profile i found humorous and had to respond to. I have been tempted a couple more times but, i don't want to give anyone the wrong impression and then have to hurt them. Wish it was different tho

Brash_n_sassy

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Domestic Abuse - When do you stop being afraid? Posted: 8/26/2007 8:59:17 PM
It goes away when you regain your self respect, confidence and independance. It just takes longer for some people but, hang in there, maybe you should also consider some lessons in self defense. I can't believe it's easy for you to meet men this way, i know i'm still cautious.

Brash_n_sassy

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First Impressions Posted: 8/26/2007 8:54:41 PM
He knew where he was meeting you and should've dressed appropiately. I think his appearance shows his lack of respect for himself, therefore you as well. First impressions are important, even if you're not sure there will be a connection. Of course there's no accounting for bad taste or bad manners.

Brash_n_sassy

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What do you think of computer software that lets your spy on your boyfriend/girlfriend? Posted: 6/17/2007 4:39:13 PM
That software is intended to monitor our childrens' activities online and i'm all for it. Just because it's not being used as it was intended to, doesn't make it a bad product.

Brash_n_sassy

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Oh man, he is so not what i am looking for.... Posted: 6/17/2007 1:38:24 PM
If you are attracted WICKEDLY as you put it to their personality, then there's no reason why you can't enjoy the date. As the evening wears on , two things will happen when you look at him. #1: You will see that personality that you find so attractive and you'll start to notice him physically, things such as... pleasant face, beautiful eyes, inviting smile..whatever, and he will become more attractive to you. #2: You will look at him and realize that there could never be anything physical there, but you could like him as a friend and enjoy the date. If #2 is the case, and you find it hard to say "in person", email him when you get home telling how you feel. If the situation was reversed, how would you like to be told?

Brash_n_sassy

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How well does your mirror work....or, do you know how you really appear to others? Posted: 6/15/2007 6:32:19 PM
It's not always easy to portray "the real you" in 50 words or less, and altho i know that friends and family can be a bit biased ..to give them credit..they're seeing the "you" they've come to know over time. I know that i don't always make a good first impression, i've been told that i come across as "intimidating", "snobbish",and that i have a "do not approach" look . Now that's "in person"...i don't know how i must come across in my profile or these forums...and i have to admit that if i were to judge by the few lines i read about someone else..i could easily pass up meeting "that someone special". I guess what i'm saying is...you just have to realize how hard it is for some people to express themselves, the nervousness they feel, and the fact that they probably can't type either

Brash_n_sassy

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This guy is 10 years younger than me Posted: 6/3/2007 4:13:06 PM
Sure..why not..as long as you're not 25 cuz..that would make him...15 Happy fishing

Brash_n_sassy

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She brought her dog on the date? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:49:57 PM
That's too funny..cuz i was just thinking that if i was meeting someone casually for coffe and walk down by the lake...Why Not bring my puppy along? It'll keep things casual and light and you can learn a lot about a person by how they relate to animals.

Brash_n_sassy

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Drunk Dating Posted: 5/12/2007 4:37:54 PM
I think it could be entertaining as well.. we should have a live chatroom where we can all have a couple drinks and act silly

Brash_n_sassy

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Sizzle on the phone...fizzle in person Posted: 5/5/2007 5:17:37 PM
That would depend on the reason for the fizzle..was he not as attractive in person as you thought he would be..or maybe he was just a little shy after sharing so much about himself before you actually met?..in any case you connected on the phone and formed a bond..i think it's worth a 2nd date.<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>

Brash_n_sassy

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women friends and warnings... Posted: 5/2/2007 6:16:15 PM
They weren't kidding when they said it was very contraversal. There's 14 pages of strong opinions here, i think that's a basis for reconsidering the decision. We women need to help eachother out..experience is the best teacher.

Brash_n_sassy

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Major New Feature, Woman Only. Posted: 4/27/2007 7:11:10 PM
Controversy is my middle name

Brash_n_sassy

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Tired of this stereotype... Posted: 3/26/2007 10:34:57 AM
Ya...i've been told that men my age (49) are looking for young (25),tight body trophy wives cuz they're coming out of marriages with women my age and now that they have the carreer (money) they can afford to be picky..Sooooo...if i want to find someone with the the qualities that are important to me, i need to be looking at men starting at 20 yrs older than me, that would be (69). Now don't get me wrong...i've met 69 yr. old men who have more life in them than some 45 yr. olds i know but, i'm not dating just to be with someone, i'm not settling for anything less than everything again! I'd rather be alone and happy and i am happy alone...if i meet someone ..Great!..if not..i'm not stressing. Good Luck in your searches.

Brash_n_sassy

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Rekindle Love ? Posted: 3/4/2007 4:40:17 PM
I think you already know the answer but, in case your'e looking for confirmation?..the fact that you're comparing every woman to your wife and not one comes close. Sex or passion isn't love..they're the phyisical manifestation of love...or an extension of love.How long do butterflies last?..i don't remember..but i do know that i'd rather have mutual respect and understanding,those coupled with open communication will result in better sex. And here's another question...when you're old, sitting in rocking-chairs on the veranda..who do you want with you?..your best friend or someone who just gives you butterflies?

Brash_n_sassy

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Maybe some things are just not meant to be? Posted: 3/4/2007 4:11:19 PM
Appease?: 1)to cause to subside 2)Pacify, concilliate, to buy off by concessions Adj: one who appeals, esp. from a judicial decision You were promised something big but, you don't know what or when you will receive it, and in the meantime..do you think to subside Gods' will?..have you analyzed your life and come up with your own theory?..or are you appealing..making concessions. As for beauty.."it's in the eye of the beholder"..sometimes you can see it on the outside, but sometimes you have to look a little deeper. Someone told me that God doesn't have Plan A and Plan B..therefore when we belong to Him..everything we do is pre-ordained and no matter what people say or how they judge us..we are still walking in Plan A. As for what's meant to be?..i'm 49 and i still don't know all the answers..maybe it's just to be content and here's the big one "patient"...now i don't know about you but "patience" isn't a virtue i possess, and at my age..i'm really not interested in learning it..He may have different plans tho..

Brash_n_sassy

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 2/18/2007 2:22:40 PM
I don't think there should be an age limit..alot of people can't wait to move out cuz they are under the mistaken impression that they can do whatever they want..they have no idea what the real world is like and how lucky they are to have parents who are willing to support them financially and emotionally, allowing them to grow into stable adults. I know that some parents can interfere..there are always exceptions but..we can learn alot from their experence and yes..then it'll be our turn to take care of them. I woudn't discriminate against a man living with his parents. He better have a car tho...

Brash_n_sassy

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Canadian men--would you move to the US to be with a woman? Posted: 2/13/2007 3:13:24 PM
And i think it's another case of "the grass is always greener" syndrome..i get men contacting me who live west..north..east..and yes..even in the States..go figure..guess they don't mind the drive for a cup of coffee...

Brash_n_sassy

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Would it be in bad taste Posted: 2/11/2007 1:17:52 PM
Do we really need to put a label on everything?..you've been going out for 7 weeks and enjoying eachothers company...spending time together gives you a chance to get to know him, get a feel for the type of person he is and you have that intuition to know whether you see it going further. After all..no matter what label we place on things..nothing is or lasts forever so..just enjoy the journey.

Brash_n_sassy

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Could you resist ? Posted: 2/10/2007 4:35:46 PM
Definately not!!...mind your own business..just enjoy the evening..it doesn't matter who she/he's got on there..it'll only matter if things start to get serious between you two..and if they're the person you think they are..the'll take care of it themself.. By the way...inquiring minds want to know...What did you do????

Brash_n_sassy

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does anyone believe in honesty? Posted: 2/8/2007 9:50:56 AM
First of all you have to understand that we are all attracted to different types so, altho you sound like a nice or sweet person, the chemistry or connection won't exist without that physical attraction..telling you that you're not their type is very honest and much better than not replying back at all..think about it. To address the other issue of prejudice..i can only apologize for the ignorance that has been directed towards you. Your'e not the first, nor will you be the last person to experience discrimination or prejudice in one form or another..there are good people out there..and like someone else said..better to weed these people out now...and just move on. Good luck in your search.

Brash_n_sassy

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Need advice.. am I overreacting..? Posted: 12/1/2006 12:37:30 PM
From what i've learned in life or read..."if a man is interested...nothing will keep him from calling"..so yes ..a red flag would go up for me as well. Look at it this way...it's been a few dates(nothing intimate)..just getting to know eachother...a few phone calls..nothing invested..just an exploratory stage..i wouldn't call him..if he calls for your date Saturday...GREAT!..if not you won't be dissappointed...it's hard to hurt someone you've been out with both for men and women...it's easier to just "not do anything"...good luck in your search.

Brash_n_sassy

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Meeting up with a casual guy friend, when you have a boyfriend? Posted: 10/30/2006 10:44:31 AM
If it's a work or casual friend that you feel comfortable with by all means meet with him/her for lunch or a drink after work..as long as it doesn't conflict with previous plans. Let your partner know about it...definately...either before or after the fact is ok..according to when you talk to him/her. If it's someone you haven't met...a warning bell would go off and i would definately discuss it with my partner before making any decision...if this is a decent person..they will understand your reasons for not meeting with them.

Brash_n_sassy

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Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language? Posted: 10/30/2006 10:34:45 AM
It depends on the situation: It's always rude to exclude someone by speaking in another language but..if the person you're talking to doesn't understand English..by all means "interpret"...and then go back to English. If the person is here on holiday..there's no reason for them to learn English, however if they're immigrating here, then it should be them that learn the language of the land. Of course if you chose to learn their language..that's your choice and could come in handy. I wouldn't feel threatened by my partner speaking to friends or family in their native language in my presence...under the right curcumstances as outlined above.

Brash_n_sassy

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Older women, not wanting to date men their age. Posted: 10/29/2006 5:05:17 PM
I agree that honesty is very important..i'm 48 and 10 months..i know i can look younger but i don't always feel younger...you can have an old 40 yr. old and a young 60 yr. old...i'll take the young 60 yr. old any day...i have a good 30 yrs. of life ahead and i want to live them to the fullest...not sit at home on the couch every nite. But..i personally won't date someone younger than 45...unless they didnt' look it and i didn't know their age when i met them...just don't feel comfortable with men that are much younger than me...but that's just a personal preference..."to each their own".

Brash_n_sassy

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Christmas: Pressured to find a relationship? Posted: 10/27/2006 11:30:34 AM
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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Approaching women in bars Posted: 10/27/2006 11:27:42 AM
There's a couple ways to look at this: I'm not really a club person..but i like local bars or pubs..friendlier atmosphere...usually go with friends..for a couple drinks..music(usually friends' band)..and dancing..you know..just to get out once in awhile and unwind. If a man approaches me and he's polite..i'll talk to him whether or not i'm interested in anything more...and from there...who knows..but..do i go there specifically to meet men..i'd have to say no...now maybe i'm being unfair..but i tend to think that most men who frequent bars...really frequent them and would do so whether or not they're in a relationship...and i don't want to be going to bars all the time. Does that make any sense?

Brash_n_sassy

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Heinous or no? Posted: 10/26/2006 1:42:36 PM
Hey scarlett...hope you kicked that guy out of the car with his pants still down...

Brash_n_sassy

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Is LOVE, SPIRITUAL OR PHYSICAL? Posted: 10/25/2006 7:14:03 PM
Ok..so we're not talking about how you come to love a person...just what love is..if we have to put it into words...right? Well...first of all...we have to love ourselves..then transfer that to another person..i say this cuz we would not then treat someone else how we ourselves wouldn't want to be treated. Love is caring, considerate, understanding, compassionate, respectful of anothers thoughts or feelings whether we agree with them or not. Love is true friendship. Love is unselfish. Eg:..You're in a relationship with a man/woman...you're deeply in love with them but find out they're not happy with you for whatever reason..(now this is someone you know inside and out..and have all the above feelings for) Love is...letting them go cuz your only thought is their happiness..even if it's without you. Eg:..You have raised your children to the best of your abilities...trying to instil in them good values...but you can only do so much and there comes a time when they have to make their own decisions. They come to you with these decisions...and you don't like them..you know they're not the right decisions but...you bite your tongue and let them grow up and learn by their own mistakes...good or bad cuz you remember how you felt at that age...and you let go..but always let them know that you're there...no matter what...and knowing that..they are more likely to turn back to you...faster than if you fought with them. That's Love With a man...sex is the physical manifestation of that love...the bonding...and Yes...the release...lol Hope this has answered your question...

Brash_n_sassy

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Heinous or no? Posted: 10/25/2006 2:07:43 PM
My opinion: He obviously thinks he's all that..Plus tax!..you know thinks he can have anyone anywhere..probably cuz he has. Life is a gamble to some people and they push it to the limit. But i also think that if he was really into you...he wouldn't have said that..it was a way to either "get lucky"...or provide a way for the rejection to come from you.

Brash_n_sassy

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do u follow your heart? Posted: 10/25/2006 10:47:24 AM
Correct me if i'm wrong but..i think the question is being misunderstood. This is what i think it's asking. Eg...I have just finished a course and an opportunity has come up where i can apply my knowledge in my own business. This is something i really want to do..i believe in my heart that it will prosper but...my "significant other" doesn't feel the timing is right for whatever reason...do i let it pass...or???? Is this the type of thing you were asking?

Brash_n_sassy

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/24/2006 1:24:34 PM
So...what happened after this wonderful date...?

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Advice! A woman in need Posted: 10/23/2006 10:25:54 AM
OH..guess i should've read all the way thru before posting earlier...glad to hear you have it under control music man..and God Bless you.

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Advice! A woman in need Posted: 10/23/2006 10:20:21 AM
Part of me is wondering if this is a scam..after all, you have never met this woman, only correspond thru "msn" or phone..but if it isn't then i say YES..do whatever you can to help..if you can't go yourself...then direct help from here.

Brash_n_sassy

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why do woman say Posted: 10/22/2006 9:59:04 AM
Horror-film Mark I think she was hitting the "." instead of the space bar.

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Online Illusion Posted: 10/22/2006 9:41:00 AM
Oh don't worry gardennut..i don't rush into meeting. B.T.W...read your profile...love the conversaton with God.

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Online Illusion Posted: 10/22/2006 8:31:25 AM
There's a lot of good points here but it's true..you don't know for sure until you come face to face. Used to be you'd meet someone..knew the attraction was there and spent time getting to know them...the sad part was..sometimes it's hard to see past the looks..you had to really listen. This internet thing puts everything in reverse...you get to know a person inside..get attached faster than usual...and then meet to see if the chemistry is there as well. It's sad when you have the intellectual connection and no chemistry. I personally find it hard to just have one email and go meet someone from the internet..maybe it's just being cautious as a woman..even tho it does seem like wasting time..what can ya do....? Just keep fishing..the right one will come along..i believe it!

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why do woman say Posted: 10/22/2006 8:13:40 AM
You say you had more interest before you posted the pic.?..But..was it real interest?..who's to say the same thing wouldn't have happened...how would you have felt if after talking for a few weeks..really getting to know someone and she you that she took one look at you IN PERSON...and knew she couldn't be attracted to you. It's hard enough find the right person..you can't tell everything by the pic but at least it's a fair start..for both. I looked at your profile..it doesn't have to be very long but..it's very negative..maybe you should get some help fixing it up...and you only need one pic. of the ferret..are you looking for someone to spend time with it ..or you? No offence...just constructive critisism...i hope. Good luck in your search.

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TO TOUCH OR NOT TO TOUCH Posted: 10/20/2006 2:11:09 PM
First of all..if you invite people over you hope that when they use your washroom that they wash their hands..and it's up to you to provide a towel...it's called a "guest towel"..as not to get mixed up with your own person hand towel. As for the other incident...he should've brought up ahead of time what he wanted you to do with your towel...and honestly...i'm surprised he allows you to lay next to him in bed...never mind having an intimate relationship with him. It's him that owes you the apology!!!

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I Have A Theory...Question for tha Ladies! Posted: 10/17/2006 4:49:13 PM
I know i may be a tad out-dated but..i'm still old-fashioned..i believe a man should do the chasing...take the initiative..then i know they're really interested. I've heard from women who've done the persuing only to find that..Yaa men like it but are only with them cuz they made the first move...and figured.."why not..someone in my life...steady sex" I don't want to ever wonder that...and yes..part of it could be that i'm scared of rejection ..i mean i don't know how you men do it.."hats' off to you"..i'll tell you this..if i like you too..i won't make you chase me too far...

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My brokenhearted story Posted: 10/17/2006 4:37:12 PM
Ask yourself the same question you're asking us...if you really cared about someone but needed some space..would you forget the person you cared so much about..just cuz you haven't seen or talked to them in a few weeks? Sounds like this was a rebound thing but...if i'm wrong...he just really needs some space...if he knows you at all he will know that you're there for him...if not...then he just "wasn't that into you"...sorry i know it can hurt...but that's my honest opinion...and yes..it really bothers me as well when people who really aren't ready to move on ..rush into another relationship to help themselves get over the one they were in..and end up hurting the new person.

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