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justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Angeles Crest Road Ride Posted: 8/10/2007 1:32:29 PM
Love the idea, love closed roads, and hope you will plan another... You even covered the August factor. Stopping for the cold one when done... but, I'm not going to be able to make it that day. It's not the 60's anymore. Don't any of you fish bicycle?

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Can a divorced 25 year old love again? Posted: 2/10/2007 1:36:58 AM
The question sounds rather absurd to me. The "d" word? Whether you will ever be able to love and trust again is your call, not ours. If you choose to see yourself as a victim, you will be. It's all good. Life's for living. Love is part of that.

justtrbl

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Why get defensive? Posted: 2/9/2007 11:21:21 PM
Sounds kind of predatory to me. Wanting to meet ASAP isn't a big issue, but making you feel defensive for having a life or things not working out exactly as he wants is not a good sign. Plenty of fish and that's no keeper.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Women with LONG HAIR Posted: 2/9/2007 11:11:32 PM
Recently went from long to short and will be growing it back again. But I was very pleasantly surprised today to hear that I resembled Sigourney Weaver or an older (that wasn't the pleasant part) Demi Moore. There are some good looking short cuts out there and the truth is that a lot of the long hair I've been seeing is just hanging there. I have to agree that Jamie Lee Curtis is one woman who looks great with short hair. But she could carry off just about any look - she's got ATTITUDE+. Got some gel the other day and when I went to use it, it was hysterical - not enough to work with yet. More research is needed. got hats?

justtrbl

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standing up for someone who's been domestically abused Posted: 2/9/2007 9:24:16 PM
Sadly, people who seek out an abuser can find another after you have done your best to stop the situation. Do not take this as a 'blame the victim' attitude on my part. It is a reality that many people seek out the kinds of relationships that they are comfortable with and most will repeat the pattern unless they break the cycle of abuse. I have been in the position of telling a former friend to get out, Get Out, GET OUT!! She wasn't ready to leave. I asked "what if" he did it to their child? When she told me that he already had, I was speechless. And finally resorted to telling her to watch the patterns, write about things, etc. The reason being, I did not want her to go back to suffering in silence. (This was not the first abusive relationship she was in - but the first for her child.) I've also been in the other position and been asked if my ex abused me (asked a concerned family member who probably had her consciousness raised) ... My response was "Is he walking?" It is my own feeling that some people don't feel loved without feeling pain.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Big Girls ridin ?!? Posted: 2/9/2007 8:59:31 PM
Oops. . . day late and there goes that birthday wish.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Intimidated by high numbers in the members favorites lists Posted: 2/9/2007 8:42:39 PM
Well I for one use favorites for a few reasons: 1) looking and want to read again before deciding whether to contact, 2) liked what I read but unable to contact due to my long teeth 3) wondering if what I read might make sense in another time space continuum ummm Now WHO are these people who have added me to their favorites but never written to me? How rude!! I delete the so-called favorites that apparently accidentally* added me. *how can I be your favorite if you don't even say 'hey!'?

justtrbl

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What employment to women find 'sexy'? Posted: 2/9/2007 8:29:20 PM
Rocket surgeon has a nice ring to it.

justtrbl

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divorced and do not make alot of money Posted: 2/8/2007 9:55:24 PM
Being divorced comes with it's own stigma. Even though everyone has failures in relationships, yours was legally documented. I personally like the legal document that says the marriage is over. Beats the lack of same. Not all divorces are about the failure of the relationship. We also have the never beens and the can't be bothered to get the document or the collection of several of these documents. I'll take divorced over married or separated any day and I hate to say it but the never been marrieds do raise a question or two in my mind (if they are in my own age group). Can't win for losing... not enough money / too much money never married / still married / multiple exes kid$ / kid$ at home / $hared cu$tody / kid$ in college ... and on and on and on Pick a stigma. Or get to know and enjoy the person.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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I've got one month left... Posted: 2/8/2007 9:28:34 PM
I hear ya ... in a little more than a month I'll be that much more over 45. I think the best thing about the over 45 category is that they didn't use any zeroes. 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 .... isn't 45 nicer than those ten spots?

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Can all women have multiple orgasms? Posted: 2/7/2007 8:53:45 PM
Well I don't recall this on any IQ tests.... Smart women know when to fake it. ...but the correct answer (for me) is NEVER.

justtrbl

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divorced and do not make alot of money Posted: 2/3/2007 3:30:34 AM
While I agree with belly dancer about setting aside the money for the "big" date, I do not think it should be the first date (meeting). That is about meeting coffee chat and finding out if there is common ground and a desire to treat her (and yourself) to a "night out". I agree with what I read here about parents putting kids first and dating when the responsibility of parenting is covered. That is behind me now, but I will never regret making that my priority. Lots of people talk it, but I know how you feel in making it a daily decision and appreciating all that that means.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 120 (view)

Cute or Hot? Posted: 2/3/2007 3:03:49 AM
cute, hot and all the other kind words are good things ... being able to take a compliment is an even better thing. I will be forever grateful to the wise person who taught me that the thing to say when someone says something nice is "thank you". Life doesn't have to be a "reality" show. ** oh BTW ... knowing what to say doesn't prevent me from being a smart ass or asking for clarification if I'm in the mood.

justtrbl

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Is What He Is Saying Real Posted: 2/1/2007 1:36:51 AM
You can connect online, but you have to meet to see if there is 'chemistry'. There are some great people on Plenty of Fish (and plenty of flounders too). But when it's all said and done, you have to come out from behind the keyboard and see if you relate (or if your dream date is stalker stuff). Meet, relax, have fun and see what happens. So far, I say he's in love with your image and the interaction. That isn't love. But it's worth giving a chance to see if it might be more than tapping the keys. And then, as someone already said, go with your gut.

justtrbl

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Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged? Posted: 2/1/2007 1:18:40 AM
damned if you do, damed if you don't. My own answer in one word picky. When we were young it was hormonal ... uh, in a good way. I guess, judging by some of the other responses, maybe it still is. (I was recently told that 50 is the new 19.5, so "come on hormones". The woman relaying that information got a big long laugh and hug. You guys want want to try that line on us.)

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Breast Augmentation over 45 Posted: 2/1/2007 1:09:41 AM
couple questions for you .... How much over 45 do you want to be? (I couldn't resist :) And really do you want to be getting attention for your boobs first and all your other qualitites down the road? I'm not saying that the store bought stuff doesn't get attention. Lord knows that women who have developed late in life (say after the knife), are happy to show, tell, and have you touch their investment. I like a bit more variety, but then I got a couple of dependents I have to support, so I'm coming from the other side. It seems that the Doctor in this area doing the 'bolt-ons' thinks one size fits all and I think the patients are required to show his work in revealing clothing afterward (like the sign in the yard advertising who did your landscaping).

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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What to do next??? Posted: 1/25/2007 10:14:15 PM
Ask her if she's ready to go on a date ... if she says yes, ask her out.

justtrbl

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when you see married? Posted: 1/25/2007 8:49:14 PM
And to add another layer ... what if it reads "separated"? Isn't that also married?

justtrbl

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Need some input...have thought this to death and am now confused.. Posted: 1/18/2007 11:01:59 PM
And...I must also add, that, during the course of our relationship I have told him I love him and he has told me that, although he has strong feelings for me and we are in a monogomous relationship, he didn't love me..yet...how am I supposed to take that? If I love HIM enough he'll come around?? Thats a gamble I'm not sure I want to take, and we don't live together( if I've implied that) so...I just don't know..see how confusing this all is???? UGH!!! I'd say you got it in one. That would be the last one. UGH!!! In my own opinion, you just cleared up the confusion. Strong feelings but no love. Nuff said.

justtrbl

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Laser Treatment for Eyes? Posted: 1/6/2007 10:19:04 AM
I guess it would depend on the consult and what you find for your own eyes. I've worn glasses since first grade and contacts since third and this gives me the specs no specs option, or at least as much as was given anyone back then. Personally, I like my vision (such as it is) and would not want to take the chance of losing any more of it. So the blended lenses and the disposable contacts will do for now. I have had a couple of friends get it done and there were downsides in both cases. One said she wouldn't have had it done if she'd known she would need to wear reading glasses. She needs them almost all the time due to the kinds of work she does. The other had the near eye/far eye thing done and wears reading glasses and had to have one eye redone (while under warranty in the first year). Both of these people were over forty and both are still wearing glasses a good part of the time. Maybe the upside is they don't need to have their glasses to find their glasses. I think with time the process will continue to be refined. I'd love to see the whole thing improved beyond where it is now. My son is wanting to have it done. He was never happy wearing glasses and when he tried lenses this year he was impressed at being able to see without the glasses. Now the army MAKES him wear his glasses, but they apparently also offer the laser correction as one of the optional surgeries they cover. I hope you do the reaserch and get the consultation and then make the decision that is right for you and find the best doctors for all of that. Good luck!

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Dr. Phil and Internet Dating Posted: 1/6/2007 9:46:17 AM
That show lost credibility when he says to accept people as they are...not as you want them to be.... meanwhile... his wife's cheekbones and eyes look like they got the hell stretched out of them from plastic surgery.... she can't move her cheeks when she smiles..... Does that say something about the show's credibility? And did it have credibility before he made the statement? Or perhaps before Mrs. Dr. Phil had her surgery? I don't think Dr. Phil is a plastic surgeon, is he? I don't watch TV, find the grat(ing) doc a weeeee bit annoying and so on, but who's to say he "made" her get her face tightened? A lot of women do stuff like this when they have the means. Anyway, not having seen the before or after pictures, I guess I really can't judge her on her looks. But I do think the comment is a bit catty and not very kind at all.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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when do you want to know? Posted: 1/3/2007 9:11:48 PM
Definitely mention in the profile that you have a child. Definitely do not put her picture up. And be very protective of your child. Just my opinion.

justtrbl

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Dr. Phil and Internet Dating Posted: 1/3/2007 7:12:35 PM
Someone I introduced to POF mentioned that Dr. Phil was going to do a show on this topic. (I think she'd gotten notified by matchdotcom) I don't do TV (but I do know enough about Dr. Phil, that if I did do TV, I'd need to be immobilized to watch him for any length of time) ... so I'd really like to hear more about what, if anything, was useful from those who saw it. The drphil site says "Learn how to present yourself best in the world of online dating." So what did they cover on that topic??

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Visiting the doctor... Posted: 1/3/2007 6:59:04 PM
Had got to take care of both of those this last year and two mildly funny things happened. The doctor noticed that I about had my knees in my ears when I was in the stirrups and said "let's lengthen these and make you comfortable". I replied that I didn't think it mattered how far they were moved, I doubted I'd find them "comfortable". We started joking about having some friends in and popping corn and watching movies. Then the referral for the ever popular boobie squishing... at which, after disrobing and all that fun stuff, the squishing begins... then the tech decides that a larger plate is needed. Damn!! It wasn't that fun the first time - but twice. Sadist! Take the effing picture and let me leave. I'm curious how the fake boobies survive the squishing.

justtrbl

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Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/3/2007 4:30:08 PM
(I am going to be reading those other sites with the information about your disease - it's pretty scary sounding.) You mean it's scarier than your post here? Okay... so the Doctor looked at you - let's call that observation. It's what they do. So what's it called if a guy in a bar looks at me for an extended period of time, even when I look away? Something different? I saw my physician this past year and he was perceptive enough and kind enough to give me a big hug. So why didn't you ask him out? I would have. Can you give me his number at least? Do you find the truth scary? My post is my opinion. That's all ... you think this doctor is in love with you and that Lyme Disease is less scary than our responses? Do you really not know the difference between eye contact in a doctor's office and in a bar? No, I will not give you his number. Continue with the one doctor that is so in love with you that he won't return (or even answer) your calls. Your next doctor needs to be a specialist ... you are really too whack to take seriously. And of course you will believe he's SPECIAL too.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Get together in Pasadena Posted: 1/3/2007 4:02:27 PM
So... what's the latest on this get together? When? where? and all that good stuff...

justtrbl

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Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/1/2007 8:54:45 PM
Okay... so the Doctor looked at you - let's call that observation. It's what they do. He is not reciprocating your clear advances and I don't think it's because he's playing hard to get or that his other relationships are new and require all his time. His kindness was interpreted as flirtation returned with obsessive behavior. It's time to leave the man alone. I agree with you, that if I were the target of your attention, I'd do what you said you'd have done. He's trying to let you keep some dignity - do your part. Individuals who go into the healing profession see the kind of attachment you are writing about all the time. Usually it's gratitude and that's a good feeling. Your attachment to this man and the feelings you are projecting onto him are not that. I saw my physician this past year and he was perceptive enough and kind enough to give me a big hug. That was all it was ... KINDNESS. He also made eye contact while talking to me. He's a healer, I'm a patient. It's his job to take care of me. Do not make professionals suffer for choosing to help us when we need it. If you are in need of some further professional help, get it! (I am going to be reading those other sites with the information about your disease - it's pretty scary sounding.) It's a thin line between niceness and flirtation... but if he were, in fact, flirting or really interested in you, he'd have followed through by this time. I'm not saying that you didn't connect with another human being on a personal level, but he's clearly not interested in you the way you are in him. Happy New Year and all that. It's time to move on.

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Number of people that you have dated? Posted: 1/1/2007 6:41:48 PM
Oh Lord!! I didn't know there was going to be a test? Give us some parameters.... Before I got 'hitched' at the ripe old age of 22 (after living together -- in lots and lots of sin for 2 and a half years, thank you very much), there were probably no more than a dozen. And at that age, some qualified as dates and others were much more casual. In the ten years since my divorce, quite a few more.

justtrbl

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in a relationship with a moody partner Posted: 12/28/2006 9:49:59 PM
Right on, karma king - it's a "talk to her and ask what's going on" kind of thing. all the advice on the forum might give you ideas and suggestions (that's simple if you only have a few of the facts and none of the 'hands on'. This has been a wild week and I have behaved totally whacky. In my version of things, this is not always who and how I am. But I left loving and caring messages on machines one night and after my car took a crap on christmas and I really felt all the dumping I'd taken this year - I snapped! I don't know any other way to put it. I really just don't want to see all the people who have said and done things to me without realizing that I am listening and applying the same standard to them that I do to myself and when they are deceptive (to be kind) it hurts me deeply. Thank goodness someone understood and helped me to put some perspective to it. And it was all by talking.

justtrbl

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My boyfriend makes rude comments Posted: 12/26/2006 10:12:49 PM
If your health is being compromised, lose the extra weight. If he's being rude, let him know it hurts and then do what is right to keep yourself feeling good. Many people use (or avoid) food for reasons that have nothing at all to do with nutrition or physical health. You also said that your family has gotten in on this issue... Is that about your excess "few pounds" or his reaction and rudeness? You need to sort out why it is such a big deal for so many people. If it's because they care, then you are a lucky person and let them know you appreciate that they care for you and that you will do what you need to about it. Good luck. Edit: You hit this one right on the head, JWA. "Lose the weight. Make your boyfriend (and yourself) happier." WTH??? Is this the 1950's calling? If said boyfriend isn't "happy"with her now who's to say he wouldn't find something just as trivial tomorrow?? Get a grip pal!!

justtrbl

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If you had 3 wishes Posted: 12/22/2006 9:43:51 PM
1)I hope Somjai gets her three wishes (I'm available to help define evil) and then 2)some of that storybook love stuff for me (and while I'm at it) 3)the same for my friends and family .... it's three big ones.

justtrbl

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msn messenger Posted: 12/22/2006 9:31:32 PM
It's not "almost like an invasion of privacy". . . It IS an invasion of privacy and being online or on POF is not a reason to pull that or to blame the victim of that kind of crap. The OP is probably too young to recall when some people thought not wearing a bra or wearing a short skirt was "asking for" rape. The fact is that a woman needs to defend herself online as much as she needs to on the street. There are lots of wonderful people here and there are lots of sleazeballs. Don't assume you can tell them apart. I don't know about msn but I don't add anyone on the messenger(s) I use unless I know them or unless the only way to block them is to add them. If you delete the person-they can often continue to harass you.

justtrbl

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I don't pee standing up!!! Posted: 12/22/2006 9:06:05 PM
What a funny thread... oh the memories. And my ex was around at that time ... but what was said is true for this situation, as well as so many other things. "And believe me, it will be learned by experience." Stop the performance pressure - peeing was going on long before indoor plumbing. Then again, you could learn to pee standing up and set an example. (Of course the only example I think is worth setting would be hitting the target and returning the seat to the position that does not make one scream in the night). Maybe that's just a girl thing.

justtrbl

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Question for the guys...Should us women say NO SEX on the 1st date BEFORE the date? Posted: 12/20/2006 12:56:25 AM
I wouldn't say it before the date. He might cancel on you. s'okay ... quite okay! really... buh bye tahtaaa etc. just seeing if my glass slipper was a fit for your third tootsie. no thanks... If that's all that's wanted, I'm sure it can be found somewhere and neither of us will need to waste any time bothering to try to get to know one another. What's the point of that if ALL one (he or she) wants is sex? It may seem crazy, but I do want to know the people I get intimate with ... prior to the intimate part. I am often confused by the different way things are stated by the different sexes. But if he is direct about that much then it's clear that's all there is ... and that ain't enough.

justtrbl

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why are men intimidated when a woman asks them out? Posted: 12/20/2006 12:46:48 AM
okay... tell us .... why? I don't believe that real men are intimidated. But then again, I don't ask men out ... I thrust, I parry (did I spell that right?) ... but I still like to be asked.

justtrbl

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Woman Looking to Meet Women Friends Posted: 12/16/2006 6:12:41 PM
If you are serious about talking to women and making friends, maybe taking some of the filters off your email might help.

justtrbl

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Judge removes Christmas tree Posted: 12/16/2006 12:51:37 AM
I think my favorite misconception here is this one My comment to all this is simple: To all those offended by our American ways, traditions and language.......don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way back from where you came. LIB Okay, we've covered the tree and some other symbols and their origins... perhaps, we need to move on to the "ways, traditions and language". Exactly what is it you mean by "American"? North America (this happened in Toronto - North America? Yes. USA? No!) has languages other than English and traditions that may not be regularly observed in Texas. South America is also full of "ways" that might not be what you are familiar with and a language that may seem 'foreign' to you. If everyone had returned to where they came from ... would you be where you are?

justtrbl

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Breastfeeding on a plane. Posted: 12/16/2006 12:22:07 AM
please note,...seats on an airplane face forward,...NOT sideways,... if you don't like it,..keep your eyes to yourself,..or better yet face forward and watch the movie,....hey,...they might have scantily clad breasts playing for you,.... Brilliant post(s)! Thank you. I've take the position that breastfed is best and did so myself (and took some criticism for the length of time I did). We have breasts and should use them as intended -- we ALL also have eyelids and should try using those as well.

justtrbl

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i hate christmas Posted: 12/16/2006 12:08:54 AM
I can't say I hate Christmas. But I can say I hate the way a lot of people behave at this time of year. I very much love the sincere spirit of the holidays (I celebrate them ALL) on those rare occasions I get to see it.

justtrbl

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weird thing that happened to me tonight Posted: 12/15/2006 11:47:01 PM
I can appreciate the wonder... still fresh in your mind and all. Since she did call you (to prove that she would... etc, etc.) If she isn't able to call you tomorrow, you do have her number. I wouldn't call her at noon asking why she hasn't called you though - wait and day and then ask how she it, if she remembers and what have you.

justtrbl

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love or respect Posted: 12/13/2006 9:23:18 PM
In that case ... LEAVE ME ALONE! Sounds like another variation of Munchausen's (sorry, didn't check the spelling), where what you want is the attention. Taking abuse will get you that. If a kid is given only negative attention they are willing to accept that as the norm.

justtrbl

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Shopping for your self before Christmas?? Posted: 12/13/2006 9:18:03 PM
Well if I were her and I'd seen your profile I'd wonder just what you might be getting yourself.

justtrbl

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love or respect Posted: 12/13/2006 8:50:28 PM
Now hold on ... you are asking to choose between respect or being unloved?? What is more important to you if you had to choose, feeling respected or feeling alone and unloved? Doesn't sound like much of a choice to me and I don't really care to meet people who would choose to feel alone and unloved. Don't mind a bit when I'm by myself (I'm good company for me) and I know I'm loved, but I do think I am worthy of respect regardless. Still feel like I'm missing the point of your question. Am I assuming too much?

justtrbl

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Sombrio Posted: 12/13/2006 7:59:32 PM
Well I always find both water and words sensual ... but when I see the , I do my best to make it a little raw. That was beautiful ... I hate (that one should be ***) the censorship on here.... hate even more the people who make it necessary to mess up such lovely prose. Thank you for taking me out past the waves with you.

justtrbl

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My Poems......Bobby7 Posted: 12/13/2006 7:37:47 PM
Hi! Well this is the area I found ... were there stories also? Or did I misunderstand? The poem I wrote you about was the one on your profile (and here) called if only, but I found many I like and I haven't begun to scratch the surface. Thank you for sharing these.

justtrbl

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An elder woman's interest Posted: 12/10/2006 8:03:43 PM
Isn't an elder someone who is involved at church? I get approached by lots of younger men. I don't have an age qualification or a line painted on the gate that reads "must be this tall to ride this ride". There are some qualifications and they are simple. The young man (and the older ones too) must be pleasant, polite, and able to converse. The phrase 'I like older women' is one I never consider flattering. It should go without saying (but it's happened, so I'll mention it)... you gotta be old enough to buy me a drink.

justtrbl

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A profile critique would be much appreciated Posted: 12/6/2006 10:15:49 PM
My mother wears a I heart D-I-C-K t-shirt. Whattcha trying to say? Sheesh, you dress in the dark *one* time... How are ya son? I thought that was an incredible reference though really, and you stated the point pretty darn well. I remember one guy I met online and when I saw him again (yes I have been known to do this on more than one occasion) he was in a filthy, dirty t-shirt. He told me that I needn't have dressed so nicely "I already had him". Well, the first thing we did was go to his house so he could change his nasty clothes. And he also found out that it wasn't him that I dress for. {I also think that was about as much as I had patience to teach him.} Seriously, I thoroughly enjoyed it and I think most women are visual when it comes to being able to read these darn things and the emails we get. We do probably get more than you guys - so the story goes, anyway. Liked you pictures and especially liked that you can spell, weave a story and drum roll please... Didn't put limits at the bottom of the page. You can't imagine how many times I've wanted to say hi or ask if I could introduce one of my friends in the prospective guys area and couldn't make contact because I'm apparently a hag, a crone or what have you. Kudos on the profile ... now I'm going to go check the guys here who think you could do better and see what they got. Edit! I agree that negative is not the way to go and for the most part these guys have okay profiles too. Two days on here, listed twice in favorites... doesn't sound bad to me.

justtrbl

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How come no one wants to get married Posted: 12/2/2006 11:07:32 PM
So... no one wants to get married? Who knew? There are lots of us out here and we aren't all the ex. Now back to the regularly scheduled absolutes and generalizations.

justtrbl

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Msg: 30 (view)

Foot 'n' Mouth disease... Posted: 12/2/2006 10:46:40 PM
Learn to laugh - or never EVER make another mistake. Take your pick. Messaging is toneless and expressionless so it's easy to misinterpret. I've had to spend 10 minutes clarifying things and sometimes I have to read something several timese to get it - or ask for an interpretation of what was said. And let's not forget that not everyone is using the same dictionary. I actually thought the horse jokes were kind of funny and sounds like an icebreaker and a (maybe no-so)-snappy comeback to me. Kind of like the jokes the OP told us about ... Here's my favorite faux pas (and it wasn't from here-but imagine how this looked to my friend) I told my friend that I was having some hypnotique and she hadn't tasted it, so she asked what that was like. And I said "smells like cat piss, but it tastes better" LMAO remembering that one. of course I didn't see it until she asked WTF??? - so, when I picked myself up off the floor... I told her it tastes better than it smells. It's quite yummy - just a bit pungent. Hope that told okay ... maybe you had to be there. Lighten up. Ask for clarification. And don't read mail when cranky - you WILL take it the wrong way then (maybe on purpose?).

justtrbl

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

honesty versus... Posted: 12/2/2006 10:24:33 PM
I usually have an idea of what the person looks like - either a description or a picture. When it is not at all close, it's the deception that is a problem more than the physical appearance. I happen to be REAL nearsighted, so perhaps by way of compensation, I am very fond of my sense of hearing (also going - no need to whisper) and sense of smell. So if we talk and you don't sound good to me, chances are it won't happen. For smell... well, just don't. Kidding! If you claim to be a non-smoker and smell like an ashtray or didn't have 'time' to bathe ... Eeewww! if you don't need a gag and I don't need a noseplug... this could happen. Please take this as tongue in cheek as I wrote it... which reminds me... sense of humor is a must and bad manners or annoying habits will also grate on my nerves and I hate my nerves grated. Some times it works and sometimes it doesn't ... seems it's very rarely equal between two people. So the question is whether it warrants another look or not.

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