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umaylikeme2

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 266 (view)

My Ex : Five weeks from Separation to Suicide. Posted: 9/4/2008 7:08:59 PM
Steven, I am sorry for your loss, and many on POF have been down that road. There are stages of grief and it takes hard work to get thru them....we cannot always prevent the bad things from happening, but do not let the good you had with her be forgotten...one day you will be able to think of those moments you shared without the pain...I couldn"t let one response pass by as in my opinion it was unkind. To Hellofagal...you ask "why do people act so hurtfully to each other".."why can"t they act mature"..."why are they so quick to hate". Those questions should be addressed to your own mirror...to imply this man is advertising ?...wanting people to feel sorry for him...HE ASKED FOR HELP! I am a survivor of suicide of a loved one...I too needed and asked for help , thankd God I got back compassion and caring ....where is your heart?????

umaylikeme2

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Meeting some from the internet Posted: 8/18/2008 1:58:18 PM
There"s ways to find out if he is a scammer. Your friend should ask him to send an e-mail to her private e-mail address. She can run an IP address lookup (Whois)and see if he lives where he says. Information on how to do this can be found on a yahoo group called romancescams. Have her check out this site. I highly suspect this may be the case, as they move fast...any yes..only want your money.

umaylikeme2

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Meeting some from the internet Posted: 8/17/2008 7:19:00 PM
Did she actually meet him in person yet? If its strictly online chat, its possible he could be a scammer. Sounds fishey too me,too.

umaylikeme2

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

What would you be looking at the person you date first time? Posted: 7/29/2008 6:41:23 PM
Great answer ...msg #39....your sooooo right on that one!....You can "see" a whole lot more when you're listening.

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Death of your child Posted: 12/9/2007 12:37:10 PM
I am sorry for your loss, and know how difficult coping with this is..I lost my son at age 16, 11 years ago. I found support with a group called The Compassionate friends...www.compassionate friends.org. Tonight is the Candelighting Rememberence where you can light a candle from 7pm to 8pm in your time zone, in memory of your child...there is also a Message board on the Compassionate friends site you may leave your thoughts on.....this lighting goes around the world...in memory of our children, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren missing from our families but not our hearts....You are not alone..... .....Susan

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Ummm..I hope that this is the right place to ask this??? Posted: 10/15/2007 6:28:00 PM
Maybe we develope the internet dating mind...chat a bit, get a feel for each other...then when you meet someone in the real world..your OMG...what do I do. Here"s a guy that helpfull, and shows obvious interest...not just a bunch of words that are easy to type and hide behind....if you can take a chance on this, why not when it:s right in front of you?.......think about it......

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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im gonna give up soon.. Posted: 10/12/2007 4:19:17 PM
You see the many faces on here that have been touched by the suicide of a loved one. Mine is just another, ..a mother that lost her son this way. You will cause her the worst pain imaginable..hurt her beyond any comforting words...listen to those here that know how that feels! We all need help at times, depression and thoughts of suicide need immediate attention by a physician and counselor. As for the responses of a few that ....you are going to be alone, or to grow up.........I just can"t see any reason for that. Sure we all free to voice our opinions , but seems when a person asks for help is it necessary to come on here and KICK them......It"s so easy to sit and pass judgement when you aren"t in those shoes. If that day ever comes when you may need help, remember your own words may come back to you........

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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no subject just curious about something. Posted: 10/10/2007 5:23:12 PM
Just my opinion but, a guy needs a woman who is also his friend. One who accepts who he is, so if he opens up... he can trust her not to criticize , point out any shortcomings, and pressure him to be something else. Women are the same.We all want a partner that makes us feel good about ourselves..someone who likes the qualities we have to offer. You are also opening up to people you can"t see and touch..like him Perhaps you both are looking for non-judgement and advice from strangers that only hear one side of the story...Better to just say, some people can"t open up or committ to each other at times. When the right combination of hearts and minds comes together, it works...

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 97 (view)

Have you ever gotten scammed? Posted: 11/29/2006 7:19:54 PM
For those wanting further info on scammers..yahoo has a group called "romancescams". They post pics used by scammers, and provide support and info on what to do if you become a victim of a scammer..Correct to say that scammers are currently on many dating sites..learning to spot them and also learning how to track the source of e-mails you receive are things you can learn from the "romancescams" group...

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Suicide? Posted: 11/8/2006 4:10:02 PM
So not true that people don"t care..whenever this subject arrises so many jump in to help. Tho we may not know your particular situation or pain, many here have experienced similar feelings at various times in our lives..Prolonged depression and thoughts of suicide require medical attention. Very true that it may be a chemical imbalance..so seek help as there are many treatments available to you.There are many people in these forums that are the "survivors" of loved ones that have taken this path...trust me on this..the guilt, pain, and total destruction of our lives is most unbearable...it is forever that we carry this in our hearts.Asking for myself and those others showing how they care... ..please seek medical help and come back to let us know how things are for you after that.....

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Women are massively confusing lol Posted: 5/22/2006 7:42:52 PM
I think the topic was a "kiss"..not butt kissing or kissing up to her..an entirely different issue. Geeze how can a simple kiss get so complicated..best advice given..."I ask may I give you a kiss". The decision now becomes the choice of the woman..if she does not want to she will tell you so, yet still be flattered that you asked first. The game..as some chose to call it..can lie within your own mind.You can play at guessing or simply put..just ask...Rainbows4sue

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 102 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 5/21/2006 8:46:06 PM
True words.."to love like tomorrow will never come".Sometimes we get so caught up in our lives we forget to tell the people we care for just how much we love them. It"s sad to have those regrets once they are gone. I learned thru the death of my son just how precious those tomorrows are. My loved ones know every day now,just how much I care and how happy I am to be a part of their lives.Yes,healing comes with time and also from the hearts of people who care. ..to all.......Rainbows4sue

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 85 (view)

Poetry Posted: 5/14/2006 7:31:50 AM
felt like jumping in here today..just reflecting on life while looking in my mirror one morning...lol Time reflected in my mirror, Shows the years gone by. Reflections of my yesterdays, Time on wings does fly. Many faces I have worn, With photos to recall. Memories held within my heart, They hang upon the wall. There are things I've yet to do, And places I shall go. Empty scrapbooks waiting there, With pictures yet to show. Mirror Mirrror on the wall, Is destiny my own? Surrounded by the life created, From the seeds I've sown. What door should I open now? Which key will unlock? Secrets that my mirror holds, Beside the mantle clock. thats an old one from 09..11..2000

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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What was the topic? I wasn't paying attention Posted: 5/1/2006 7:22:54 PM
I think stan2gud should teach internetcommunications 101..

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 4/29/2006 8:21:36 AM
Hi everyone, Moved to St. Augustine area last May and getting out to meet new friends finally. Welcome all to drop me a line...I like the poetry and writing forums on POF..so many talented people that share their thoughts and stories...this is more than a dating site to me ..it"s a place to have some fun and make new friends..... ...

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Another good blond joke Posted: 4/28/2006 7:48:18 PM
OHHHHHHH...thought this was for blonds that tell jokes....duuhhhh

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 188 (view)

People that love their pets Posted: 4/28/2006 7:23:59 PM
I have 4 cats and I personally don"t think thats too many. Some people like to crack jokes..like are you the catlady in the neighborhood.Well my neighbor has about 30 chickens and I wouldn"t refer to him as chickenman...lol. My ex and I bottle fed 3 kittens as their mom got out of the house and was killed on the highway when they were born. I am the only mom they have ever known and they love me back as much as I love them....they are right there when I get home from work every day waiting for me to come thru the door....

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

Msg: 200 (view)

ON THE DARKER SIDE OF LIFE...... Posted: 4/28/2006 6:44:14 PM
I call this...PRISONER OF Time.........coming home from Vietnam Who is my companion now, Waiting years gone by. Hoping for our time to come, Our rainbow in the sky. Haunting nightmares you did live, Memories from the past. Casting shadows on your sun, A darkness that would last. Trying to escape the pain, Wanting to survive. Always on the battlefield, Never quite alive. I wanted to share present time, To love you as I did. I saw the goodness you denied, Knew the pain you hid. So you felt we all must pay, A lifetime to repent. Unleash your rage upon us all, That"s how the story went. Now I am the prisoner , Of nightmares you can"t see. Carry scars deep inside, For times that just won"t be. Where is my companion now, Those years long passed by. He left this life so suddenly, Like rainbows in the sky.

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Can you help finish this song..... Posted: 4/28/2006 4:51:20 PM
I like those verses..Proveit4me...really pulls it all together...

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Bored Silly of all this Posted: 4/26/2006 5:15:42 PM
Don"t feel bad, I think it happens to a lot of us. I think being truthful about who you are and what you are looking for is the best approach if you want an honest person in return.I wish I had an answer to this one for you, as I thought about the same thing. But in the end I just decided to be me and thats what I want someone to like me for. What comes with the package is then a real surprise when opened...lol.............Sue

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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SHOOTING STARS Posted: 4/26/2006 4:33:18 PM
SHOOTING STARS When I was a child, On a clear dark night. I'd spend hours gazing up, At stars that shone so bright. I'd wish on the shooting ones, Till they passed from my sight, Memories I still recall, With wonder and delight. Now as I've grown older, Childhood years gone by. Thinking maybe that our lives, Are like stars up in the sky. Some twinkle a bit longer, Their light will fade with time. While others have brief moments Of beauty that does shine. Sometimes clouds hide their light, Yet stars look down on me. I still know they are above, For other eyes to see. .

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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Can you help finish this song..... Posted: 4/24/2006 6:32:01 PM
I wish I had a Crystal ball So in the future I could see you and me So tired of seven card no peek No answers to my questions Never knowing where I stand Always comming up with an empty hand Can"t tell if your bluffing Really afraid to call Don"t like losing And I really don"t like this game at all I wish I had a Crystal ball No more games to play Know then what to say Lay your hand upon my heart Look into my eyes I will see if truth is there Recognize the lies Our game really isn"t fun Like a tug-of war No more playing hide and seek Like when we were young

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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St. Augustine..rainbows4sue.. saying hello Posted: 4/24/2006 5:12:54 PM
..finally a great place to meet and talk to each other. Been on many other sites and I sometimes think all everyone does is just look at each others profiles I like the fact we can give each other advice ....something we can never get enough of. Hope to make many new friends here..feel free to say hello anytime............Rainbows4sue

rainbows4sue

Joined: 4/11/2006

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MAKES YOU THINK Posted: 4/23/2006 4:51:53 PM
We all come to face with losing someone we love. Dealing with that loss is a hugh rollercoaster of emotions. I found poetry can be a part of the healing process..sometimes we have to hide our pain from everyone else and try to be the strong one for others.I wrote many such poems after I lost a child..the worst pain anyone can have in their life. All we can offer to each other is our support , caring, and understanding...........Rainbows4sue

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