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Fantastic_Frank

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Do women over 45 feel nervous about the first sexual encounter? Posted: 11/1/2008 7:30:02 AM
I don't know about the women but I do have my own nervous problems too, So I don't really worry about a few stretch marks or scars thats part of being a women and not a young girl, I think older women are much sexier than younger women whi have no family experience and have never had to run a home and keep evryone loved and looked after, The ture measure of a women is in who she is and not so much as if she looks like a barbie doll, I have seen some really pretty women that were 45 or 50 years old so how can you put a line on what is accepted and what is not in todays world, My vote is for the Mature Women that can work and run a home as a single mom my hat is off to you ladies. and when all that is done they can still look good too Wow thats a super Mom to me. So whi ever says Older women are not sexy has not been around long enough yet to know all the cards that are dealt in the game of life. Dont worry to much I have been divorced for 4 years and I have only been with one lady, So I dont rteally know anything myself yet, I am still waiting for that majic again in my life, I know I have a lot to bring to a healthy relationship. Frank Duffey

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Depression Posted: 4/24/2008 9:51:42 PM
I woke up with my friend depression I went to see my therapist for a skull session He asked me do you have any aggression I told him aggression is not my only obsession Without a profession its easy to get caught in any obsession So when I am feeling blue I try to be happy and think of you But my old friend depression is very sly Sometimes it wont even let me try But I am not giving up, I will not die I will keep on going I am going to try There is always hope if I don’t give in As long as I don’t pick up booze and dope! I will not die, so my old friend depression Why do you even try

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Reflections 2007 Posted: 4/24/2008 9:49:57 PM
As I look back on this year I think of the things that I have been blessed with Let me count the ones that I love best Two Years of recovery which I did not do alone Friends that accept me for who In am A Best Friend who has been there for me I can say that the Promises of recovery are here They have not appeared they came with work With help from people who care With help from people who were there My biggest blessing in the last two years Are the friends and people who have helped me They are like Gods Angels sent to me In the time of need when All looked bad I remember many saying don't give up You can win you can beat this Trust God, Have Faith, believe in People And they will believe in you Love people and they will love you too

FanTastic_Frank

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My Best Friend Posted: 4/24/2008 9:46:52 PM
What is special about my friend is it her smile? Why do I love her, is it what she does for others What does she mean to me, caring, Sharing, Laughing My best friend, she’s the best person I know, She is Kind, Loyal ,Honest, and has a heart of Gold Is It a hug for Me or a funny look all included Yes she’s all that and more to me as you can see My Best friend is Very special to me its plain to see I know she feels I am special too She doesn’t need to tell me but I know she does I tell her often that god sent me an Angel Someone to watch over me and someone to Care And I wrote this for you best friend For it is Plain I love You Best! I wrote this just for you! From Frank What is special about my friend is it her smile? Why do I love her, is it what she does for others What does she mean to me, caring, Sharing, Laughing My best friend, she’s the best person I know, She is Kind, Loyal ,Honest, and has a heart of Gold Is It a hug for Me or a funny look all included Yes she’s all that and more to me as you can see My Best friend is Very special to me its plain to see I know she feels I am special too She doesn’t need to tell me but I know she does I tell her often that god sent me an Angel Someone to watch over me and someone to Care And I wrote this for you best friend For it is Plain I love You Best! I wrote this just for you! From Frank

FanTastic_Frank

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 4/24/2008 9:10:06 PM
I have been in the gainesville Area for 2 tears and would like to Introduce myself here I am a former business owner I had a Gift Store in The Historic area Of Crystal River and after the 3 hurricanes and my father in ;law whom was falling all the time contributed to my decision to close the Business after the 3rd quarter with no profit I like many other businesses in the area had to close my doors after thaqt following christmas I decided to leave my wife whom was using drugs from the nurses chart where she worked she was fired for this ;later and she was drinking more. I was sober and trying to clean up my Life And I have been successful at that now I have been soher for over 2 1/2 years now It all ia in my past now My father in law passed away now and I was very sorrt to hear of that one of then last things he said to me when he was in the nursing home was to go ahead and leave get away from her and so I took his advice and I leftb with out anything even the clothes on my back and then when I went to eat with someone that was in recovery I saw that My clothes were being worn by people at the satore and I aked them where thay got the nice clothes theyb said They gotb them at the thrift store in thae town there and there are not many there. So I know where My clothes went to So Now I had an idea what had happened but one day I came home and she was buubering oin the middle of the bed and I tried to get her to get jelp but she refushed So I did whatb her dad suggusted and I left the house In didnt have any where to go except the place thatb were had rented to move into sfter we sold the house so I styed there until I was told that I couldnt stay there anymore and then My Sponser in AA drove me to gainesville and I was in the VA Hospital fpr 3 days after that I was pout up in the Hotal by the VA and after that I ended uo calleing my dad in atlanta and he came down to Gainesville to get me Thats a long story the point is that I have a new life now and I am still tring to build a network of suppoert which includes new friends as I did not know anyone when I came back to Gainesville and the only friend that I have right now Is my Best Friend and Roommate Melissa I have not met anyone else New and I have been divorced for almost 5 years now, Most of that time I was involved in getting my Social Security with the help of my VA Case Manager I had Brain Tumor Surgewry and I didnt have the support of my exwife only that of my parents whom drove down to Tampa Bay to the hospital in Tampa, Fl. that was avery sad time in my life and I have moved on from there, I am trying to meet new friends in gainesville And I have not made any new friends Yet My Best friend Melissa is moving out soon and I will be alone here so I am trying to meet new people in town to hang out with and have fun so that I dont get to feeling to comfortable at being at home here by myself. I am really good at geeting my suppiles and staying home I dont need much in the way of things and I can be comfortable right here, I want to get used to planing some things in irder to get out of the house and doing something on a regular basis and that would be fun and having fun doing it myself. Frank Duffey

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I am disabled, how do you tell people. Posted: 4/17/2008 2:06:32 PM
A good question and I approach that one with a line in my introduction like I had surgery in 2003 and I am now disabled if they want to know more they have to meet me and then they c an make their judgements then I dont think anyone should be judged but there is a stigma about mental illness There is a good site called http://www.BiPolar connect.com it is a good site to find answers, I am bipolar but I have had any Manic episodes in the last few years so I am off of Lithium now and I dont know what they replaced it with. MY biggest problem is not being bipolar it is having Osteoarthritis in my Hip and my back Today I was at an AA Meeting and I wanted to stay but I was in pain and I left after the meeting without saying anything to anyone there and so That's the way it usually goes is by the time the meeting is over I want to go home and I am in Pain on a scale of 1 - 10 i would say that it was about a 8 today and that is hurting for sure. I would not go into to many details if you cant help it I would wait until you have a face to face meeting so that you can look at their eyes and see what there reaction can be when you discuss it in person.

FanTastic_Frank

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Medical Issues And Starting Over dating problems Help Ladies? Posted: 4/17/2008 1:40:36 PM
Sometimes I feel like giving up I had a brain tumor operation in June 2003 and after that I left my abusive wife of 14 years and now I live in Gainesville, Fl I have a female roommate and she dates she doesn't have any problem finding guys who want to take her out of do things, I stay home we are best friends no benefits, I dont drink so I dont go to Bars of dance places, I am in Recovery and I go to AA meetings but that is the only social outlet that I have right now I also have Osteoarthritis and I am in pain a lot of the time even with the pain medications that I am on I am Disabled 100% on SSDI and I am finding it difficult to meet women MY roommate tells me the right one will come along just be patient I have been divorced for 3 years now and I haven't even gone out on a date at all. Not one date even, I have had so many doctors appointments and pain clinic appointments at the VA Hospital here in Gainesville, Florida, That I have not even had time to think about dating or even sex at all. Now I feel like after my Brain Surgery that I dont even have the basic skills to know how to ask someone out on a date. I have panic attacks sometimes in grocery stores so my roommate usually goes with me to the store, I dont know but after the surgery it seems like I dont remember about dating or how to ask someone out or what I am supposed top say or do I really dont have a lot of money to take someone out to diner I just want someone who want s to hang out and get to know each other there are a lot of free things to do in Gainesville, Fl home of the Florida Gators, and I'm sure there are some women pout there who would be willing to get to know someone who is disabled not visible but still disabled. So I am hoping that someone will read my profile and give me a chance, I have been sober now for over 2 years MY last drink was December 31 2005 and My whole life has changed for the better the only thing missing in m7y life is someone to share it worth to laugh with to hold to care about Thank God I have my Best Friend Melissa, But I need more in my life and I dont know how to get my needs meet, Because of the surgery I cant even get myself off, Nothing happens at all and when I am with someone its the same thing I cant ejaculate nothing happens I have talked to my doctor and my primary care doctor at the VA, My PTSD screening Doctor there and she wanted to know why If I am a nice looking guy I am not dating anyone? I told her the same thing that I am having trouble meeting women. I need suggestions on this ladies I need your help on this one. I want to mo e on with my life and i dont want to be stuck anymore on this one issue.

FanTastic_Frank

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Scottish Penny for Your Thoughts Posted: 4/17/2008 1:02:13 PM
Ill Bet we all expected a different ending LOL

FanTastic_Frank

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how dirty are you?? Posted: 4/17/2008 12:50:51 PM
MY Score was 535.10 ao I dont know how dirty I am but I quess I rate somewhere in there. Any Offers Ladies?

FanTastic_Frank

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Poem Depression Posted: 4/17/2008 12:29:30 PM
I woke up with my friend depression I went to see my therapist for a skull session He asked me do you have any aggression I told him aggression is not my only obsession Without a profession its easy to get caught in any obsession So when I am feeling blue I try to be happy and think of you But my old friend depression is very sly Sometimes it wont even let me try But I am not giving up, I will not die I will keep on going I am going to try There is always hope if I don’t give in As long as I don’t pick up booze and dope! I will not die, so my old friend depression Why do you even try Copy Right Frank Duffey

FanTastic_Frank

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Poem Best Friends Posted: 4/17/2008 12:26:26 PM
Best Friends What is special about a friend is it being there or maybe a smile at the right time What is different about a friend is it caring, or sharing your last dollar Where would you find a friend at a coffee shop a mall who knows? What is so special about a friend is it because they are your friend even when your mad Where would you be without your friend would you be depressed or down or would you just hide from the world and not want to come out. What is special; about my friend well I know she cares I know she shares I found my friend when God thought we both needed one I don’t stay mad at my friend friends are too special and hard to come by It is like finding a needle in a haystack There are to many thorns in my life and I need a friend to sort them out And Best friends are even more special because they chose you over all the other friends they had to be special to them Wow just writing this makes me feel better this morning I should treasure my best friend more and not be selfish about me I just want to be as much of a friend as I can and be the best friend that I can be. I don’t want to crowd you or make you feel burdened all I want is for you to be happy and I’m there to support you if you need me too. I know you’re a strong women and don’t need much support but maybe sometimes I do. I just want you to know how much you are treasured and why you are my best friend I just wanted to write something to you this morning and hope you like it This is for all the best friends out there and to my special Best friend you know who you are I care about you a lot and I hope you still love me too. Copy Right Frank Duffey

FanTastic_Frank

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MID-WINTERS NIGHT IN THE HIGHLANDS (Sebring) Friday, Jan.4, 2008 Posted: 12/28/2007 6:49:04 AM
It looks great I may bring my roomate Melissa we are both single**

FanTastic_Frank

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Sex on the 1st date Posted: 12/28/2007 6:33:36 AM
wow thats funny how mature was this guy. I would have to know aomeone a lot longer than one date at a restrant I would think I would like to spend more time with them and at least become friends before I approach the sex subjuct and even then I would go with them to the health department and both have a STD test. I have had all of mine because I am a veteran and the services were free after my divorce I didnt know who she had slept with she told me about 6 of them but I didnt know to be sure I got tested and I am fine but I dont think I would be casual about it and no I dont think youi were wrong. I have been divorced for 4 years and I have only been with 2 women and They both were tested. Its my life here I am playing with I dont sleep around, SO I cant really say if this is the new norm but if it is count me out. Frank Duiffey

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Why do you think men don't cry? Posted: 12/28/2007 5:57:00 AM
My thinking about this had to be changed I was brought up that men don't cry and It affected me to the point that I was holding my emotions in instead of letting them out in a positive way. I am in Recovery and I went through the VA Detox and SATT program here 2 years ago. I learned that a lot of my thinking can be reprogrammed into healthy ways to express my sadness and joy yes I have cried for joy too> I can think of recently when I was having difficulty with my Pain Issues I have Osteoarthritis it is very painful. and I went to my roommate just to talk I dint know why but I guess she knew I needed a hug we are best friends, I just bawled and bawled I let out a flood of tears and she told me that it was OK for men to cry and I didn't have to hold things in around her I should be comfortable around her by now we have been roommates for 7 months now. She can read my mind she said I knew something was wrong and she just let me come to her i guess. I am blessed to have such a best friend in my life and I have always respected her and I am learning to listen to her advice. IE (get back on the dating sites and stop staying home all the time).So I have continued to grow and learn new things in some ways I am like a kid relearning things, I had brain tumor surgery in June 2003 and I am still recovering from that, like relearning some things new again I am more open minded I have found out.

FanTastic_Frank

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Poems That I wrote These are simmited copyrighted to poetry.com Posted: 12/28/2007 5:41:03 AM
Depression I woke up with my friend depression I went to see my therapist for a skull session He asked me do you have any aggression I told him aggression is not my only obsession Without a profession its easy to get caught in any obsession So when I am feeling blue I try to be happy and think of you But my old friend depression is very sly Sometimes it wont even let me try But I am not giving up, I will not die I will keep on going I am going to try There is always hope if I don’t give in As long as I don’t pick up booze and dope! I will not die, so my old friend depression Why do you even try Best Friend What is special about my friend is it her smile? Why do I love her, is it what she does for others What does she mean to me, caring, Sharing, Laughing My best friend, she’s the best person I know, She is Kind, Loyal ,Honest, and has a heart of Gold Is It a hug for Me or a funny look all included Yes she’s all that and more to me as you can see My Best friend is Very special to me its plain to see I know she feels I am special too She doesn’t need to tell me but I know she does I tell her often that god sent me an Angel Someone to watch over me and someone to Care And I wrote this for you best friend Because its plain I love you best I am There For You I just want you to know that I am here for you. When things are good and when things are Bad When you are happy and when you are sad When you believe or your losing faith Ill be their so don’t hesitate When I look in your eyes I see a special trust I look but don’t see on others I wont trust You have won my trust and won my heart I write these for you because i think its a start On seeing your dreams I do not doubt That I can be there with a shout

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