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kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 152 (view)

What do men 60 plus want? Posted: 8/5/2008 5:26:28 PM
Probably to be 70-plus one day! ...and a woman who is looking for a 60-plus man.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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have i doomed my new relationship with hormones??? Posted: 8/5/2008 5:12:06 PM
I think MAYBE you're being a little self-sabotaging...what with all the worry...Enjoy, and stop all the doom and gloom. You two had "talked" so often, you had gotten to know each other well, so stop the worrying. Enjoy.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Would You Even Know? Posted: 8/5/2008 5:06:03 PM
I saw one profile where the guy said in the interests section: BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...for half a page! I immediately thought, "NEXT!" and clicked back to what I was doing. Now THAT'S pretty weird, in my opinion. He had no interest in telling about himself..why did he even bother to make a profile on POF in the first place? It was easy to know in THAT case.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 54 (view)

Am I wasting my time? Posted: 8/5/2008 4:53:33 PM
GEEZE! the guy sounds like a normal person, he's had his kids longer than he's known you, also his job... If you need a guy to be around more, find one with a 40 hour work week instead of 70. I might agree with you on THAT point. ALSO: think STDs... he's cautious and careful. Nothing wrong with that in my book.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 86 (view)

Should attraction be on the first date. Posted: 8/5/2008 4:41:32 PM
I agree with some of the women posters that huge attraction may not occur on the first date, BUT A TOTAL TURN-OFF CAN. I've met men in a group setting that I didn't look at twice on the first outing, but grew attracted to over time because they were witty, decent guys who shared my values. I do definitely have a physical type that attracts me: a healthy, fit body, (allowing for my age group and the ravages of time...) LOL I've dated guys who were fit, but not even CLOSE to handsome, as long as they were healthy...(having good teeth is a sign of health, also having all of one's body parts)...LOL

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 91 (view)

Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 8/2/2008 9:44:41 AM
I originally put my profile on POF about 2.5 years ago, hence the old picture...at that time, I put down traits I REALLY do have, interests I do have, and had a couple of dates...I was honest about what I liked and who I was. I think the guy who wrote that people post traits that they think others will find attractive is right on the money...I know I did, and there are lots of people who can be people pleasers at some point in their life. but when I recently updated my profile, I changed the content to WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR, TO WHAT I WANT TO DO and I'm happier with it that way.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 196 (view)

Would you date a NASCAR fan? Posted: 7/30/2008 5:21:54 PM
Damn, if they got me an all-access pass, into the pits, sure why not! The NOISE, THE SMELL! The EXCITEMENT! I used to go to Formula One races all the time with my HS boyfriend, LOTS of fun! (of course, that was in the 60's and 70's...the dark ages of auto racing...) LOL

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 54 (view)

Sleeping with a dog (canine) Posted: 7/30/2008 5:06:15 PM
PS: I think goodTNgirl has the absolutely best advice if you would prefer the dog not to be inyour bed during sex. THAT can be a little awkward...especially if she joins in with licking! LOL Otherwise, sleeping with a little dog is not so much of a burden.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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New possible romantic interest. Please help. :) Posted: 7/30/2008 5:02:29 PM
Since you're not in the office on a daily 9-5 basis, I think you should go for it. It will be less awkward than being in the same office 8 or 9 hours a day. But first, ask around, discreetly, if she'd seeing someone, one of the other people in the office is bound to know something. If she doesn't have a steady guy, go for it asap. Good luck.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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I need some help Posted: 7/30/2008 4:44:10 PM
Lord almighty! Is English a second language for you? Anyway...ask her out, unless the guy she's seeing is a friend of yours. If that's the case, move on, too complicated!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 307 (view)

made a terrible mistake by f&&king these other guys ... Posted: 7/30/2008 4:38:19 PM
the relationship was over the first time, now you're just flogging a dead horse, move on the greener pastures don't regret the sex with the other guys, unless you got a gross STD, you had fun, right? life is too short for so much regret

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 67 (view)

What would you be looking at the person you date first time? Posted: 7/30/2008 4:09:49 PM
health/fitness, wit, intelligence, carriage, demeanor, commonalities

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Should I run from weak work ethics or stick around? Posted: 7/30/2008 4:04:04 PM
RUN, FORREST, RUN!!! loser alert!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

Sleeping with a dog (canine) Posted: 7/30/2008 3:46:41 PM
You knew the dog first, right? So why are you stressing about a problem that hasn't arisen? NEVER get serious with someone who doesn't share your love for animals, because you will forever be compromising, and regretting it. Your animal is a family member, and you've made the commitment for LIFE. There are PLENTY of dog lovers out there! Just hope HIS dog isn't a giant DROOLY mastiff (or two!) who also likes to sleep in bed and farts a lot! LOL Good luck!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 76 (view)

So, how do you confront him about his affairs? Posted: 7/30/2008 3:37:08 PM
confront him with a louisville slugger, and slug him a couple of times, if he gets up, hit him again, then go find a nice guy for crissakes! LOL

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 87 (view)

Never married female, no children, early 40's - what's wrong here? Posted: 7/30/2008 3:16:21 PM
oh, those guys are jerks! ... explain that you're really a tragic heroine, that your one true love died while trying to save a drowning child, and his sperm you had stored in your freezer "just in case" thawed out in a blackout...then run away as fast as possible! LOL

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 76 (view)

How long is too long to wait before meeting after first contact? Posted: 7/30/2008 2:58:31 PM
get it over with! email a couple of times, call once or twice to set up a date or meeting, whatever, and meet in person! we are not that young! and not getting any younger! I like a healthy, fit guy, who can keep up with me...one profile I viewed said his body type was "average" (for a sumo wrestler!) There were many photos, and he was at least 100 lbs overweight! So, I know a guy with that heft could never keep up, athletically, socially or sexually, and he'd never fit in my Saturn! LOL ...so I want to see in person what the guy looks like, and how he treats his body, because I run around a lot, and I want to be with someone active.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

High level of energy over 50. Posted: 7/30/2008 2:48:15 PM
I have a high energy level, always have, I run around a lot, then I plop into bed and dream the night away, thoroughly pooped, only to spring out of bed the next morning. I recently spent some time with a male friend 42, which is 15 years younger than I, and I had to drag him around like an anchor ! It was exhausting, and in the end, boring. Talk about low energy...of course, it coulda had somthing to do with all the pot he was smoking... I am happy to say I've always enjoyed great health, and while many of my peers are on multiple (6-7-8-sometimes more) medications for their blood pressure, cholesterol, heart and diabetes issues, I use nothing daily except the caffeine in my morning coffee. Just the luck of genetics, I think.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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never retiring? Posted: 5/27/2008 11:34:05 AM
to time4 2 and sail the moon: good luck living on your boat, you two! I think that you've never actually lived aboard...it is not as glamourous and romantic as it would appear at first glance! Having lived aboard on several boats in southern Florida, I do not recommend it for old folks. It's a young person's folly, boats leak, from the top, not the bottom, need constant repair and upkeep, and even if the "wind is free" on a sailboat: leaky leaky leaky! You have to get used to being damp and moldy, and all your effects being damp and moldy, and DON'T GET ME STARTED ON THE TOILET SITUATION! you have to like the ever-present smell of AN INCREDIBLY EXPENSIVE ($1,200.00), BUT ALWAYS-IN-DISREPAIR "HEAD" and the smell of diesel, and the weird smell your drinking water takes on in the tank...I put the experience out of my mind, so I can't even remember the rest of the awful truth...and that's on a nice boat, costing as much as your house did! But have fun anyway, you two!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Is it better to have a woman or a man fix you up with a blind date? Posted: 5/20/2008 2:38:57 PM
years ago, while I was training for a triathlon, a fellow gym rat, a guy named Dave, told me that he had a friend in Virginia who was my "twin". Dave suggested that he fix the two of us up on a blind date. The friend worked as a jet mechanic for a major airline, and lived just outside DC. Thinking that the friend in Virginia must be totally in shape, I told Dave, "why not?" Now, mind you, I was TRAINING FOR A TRIATHLON. I had no body fat, trained three or four hours a day, and at age 41, was told by 20 year old women in the locker room that they wished they had my body, not at forty, but at their present age. So, with me living in New Jersey, the friend in Virginia overnighted a companion ticket to me. I was excited to fly down and meet this hottie, not worrying, because I was friends with his friend, Dave. The guy had a gut the size of Delaware, and drank beer incessantly, with the can tucked between his legs while driving (!!!). We went out on his boat on the Potamac River, with beer in a cooler, always with one tucked between his legs. I never saw him sober the entire weekend. So...if you're a woman, never let a guy fix you up! and vice versa!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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never retiring Posted: 5/20/2008 1:41:00 PM
I've been thinking lately about what I'll do when I'm 65, or 75, or 85 years old. I put painting and writing on the back burner for many years, and since many people my age don't really have as much money as they REALLY need to "retire", given the economy and inflation and the state of Social Security, I've decided to reinvent myself as an author of children's books. I have many written, but not published. Through the years we've all heard of the "brave" artist or designer (or accountant, short-order cook, or librarian) who worked up to the day they dropped dead, at age 92, usually in a pile of canvases or at their desk, despite having cancer, or some other debilitating or painful disease. I think it's because they loved what they were doing, and if you love what you do, it's not "work", it's a life-sustaining passion that never dies until we drop in our tracks. Any thoughts, Baby Boomers?

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age? Posted: 5/20/2008 12:46:57 PM
I do! I see these fat, sluggish 50-somethings, male & female; they can't keep up with me, don't remember how to ride a bike, don't exercise, are on multiple medications for high blood pressure, heart conditions, gall stones, diabetes, whatever, and if they get down on the ground for a picnic, they can't get up! I think the problem is, you're active and vital, and men usually age more quickly and die younger, be grateful that you have younger guys hitting on you...go for a bike ride, a motorcycle ride, and enjoy until you're REALLY too old! Of course, I teach swimming to kids, and believe me, swimming up and down a 25 yard pool with the kids two or three hours a day keeps your blood pressure down, your cholesterol down, and your spirits up. It also keeps me in size 6-8 jeans! Finally, I know many self-satisfied people our age, they "figured it all out" decades ago, and haven't changed anything since. I know many stagnant people our age, and they're stuck in a rut, in the mud, however you want to describe it. Sad, but true.

KAMIKAZEKATE

Joined: 4/15/2006

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older gentleman - longer hair Posted: 6/18/2007 2:05:53 PM
TO: warrior dreaming I gotta tell you the truth, you need to watch "TEN YEARS YOUNGER" on TLC, because your hair is definitely not a current look. In fact, I don't think it's been current since you and I were both in our twenties...over 30 years ago! It doesn't look good, it's in bad condition, frizzy and wispy, that in itself should be enough of a reason to cut it. You do not look as attractive as you could. Get a flattering hair cut, trim the facial hair. Why not look as nice as you can? You look like you're lost in a time warp, and since you're so oblivious to current styles, it makes me think you'd be stuck in a rut and have old fashioned views, it's almost a surprise you even know how to use a computer! I also need to post a current picture, as I've cut several inches off my too-long hair. I was looking like an old hippie chick, who's trying to remain 22 forever. Since I've cut it, I get many compliments from the 20-something crowd as well as those in my own age group. I look younger with shorter hair, you will, too. I now look like I have a plan for my hair, and not that I'm just too lazy to do something with it. Although I still wear it straight, it's a more reasonable just-below-the-shoulder length. I still do not color it, but I'm lucky that my gray streaks are currently in style, and evenly spaced around my head. -Kate

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 109 (view)

Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act? Posted: 7/10/2006 7:10:57 PM
Most social workers are the same, in my opinion...and cannot feel good about themselves unless they are constantly in the company (professionally) of people who always need "help". As a matter of fact, social workers are some of the most inept, incompetant people on the planet. Already-rose-to-their-level-of-incompetancy in their field, making ridiculous policy after ridiculous policy, social workers are a blight on our society, always almost getting the job done, creating programs that just do not work, spending our tax dollars on a bunch of losers who are milking the system and usually end up over-medicated and useless for their entire lives, or in jail. Next, she'll be telling us that pedophiles can be cured. The name refers to the drink... a kamikaze: vodka, roses lime juice, triplesec, ice.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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What if the guy can't deliver? Posted: 7/7/2006 11:03:20 PM
kinda makes me want to go eewww... if a guy has all of these physical problems (diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol) because he has not been taking proper care of himself, not eating properly and exercising, I wouldn't be interested because he'd most likely be unattractive to me physically he'd probably be very overweight, sedentary, drink too much, and smoke cigarettes

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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The awkward question... Posted: 7/7/2006 10:38:14 PM
ask if they donate blood regularly...all blood is tested for several diseases, HIV, a few hepatitis types, syphillis, among others suggest going together to donate...do a good deed, get tested for free...every 60 days no news is good news from the blood bank, if you test negative, they will not contact you

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 106 (view)

Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act? Posted: 7/7/2006 10:33:46 PM
no. once a junkie, always a junkie. if it isn't heroin, it's coke, if it isn't coke, it's booze, if it isn't booze, it's prescription drugs... even if the obsession became going to the gym, life would never be what you want with an addict, you will always be second 99.99% of addicts stay addicted to something their entire life addictive personalities never go away, they just change focus.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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you cant handle me Posted: 7/7/2006 10:06:11 PM
if I said that to a guy, I'd say it because he's: stupid weak a stiff boring country out of shape uninteresting ignorant not capable not up to the task for a variety of reasons none of them good if it's being said to you.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Mermaiding Posted: 7/6/2006 6:43:10 PM
OH MY GOD! I am a mermaid...have been my entire life...AND I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW IT! cool. thank you, OP. Kate PS: why do you and your wife think that this is inappropriate?

kamikazekate

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Ever come across guys who pose as women to meet guys? Posted: 6/28/2006 11:10:07 AM
I find it pathetic, delusional and desperate, not to mention devious and deceptive...what a great set of personality traits, huh? Pity the OTHER gay guys who are unlucky enough to meet and date these weirdos.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog Posted: 6/27/2006 1:07:27 PM
I DID take precautions and gave his name & phone number and a description of his vehicle to a nearby friend who I was meeting first thing the next day for brunch. If I met a guy in a bar or at a party, and we made a date to go out, it's almost retarded to insist on going in separate cars, so I don't think that it's much different. I wouldn't know much about him except his general description and the make and model of his car, and I would expect him to pick me up and drop me off. If he wasn't a jerk during the date, I'd ask him in, especially since I do not live alone. I just thought it was immature and pathetic that he pawed at me like he was a teen.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Photos and the older person! Posted: 6/27/2006 12:57:53 PM
my photo is from mid-March, I was told on a first date two days ago that I looked better than my photo...which was nice to hear...and he looked better, too...but he turned out to be a groper! After one drink, I had to fight him off for the rest of the night! My cat stared malevolently at him the whole time, and finally decided to bite him on the foot. (The cat has never bitten anyone else!) Looking nice is good, acting nice is better.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog Posted: 6/27/2006 12:14:09 PM
his wife isn't dead, she's hiding.

kamikazekate

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over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog Posted: 6/27/2006 10:22:13 AM
Well! All I have to say is, If you are going to go on a first date, do not grope your date like you are 16 years old and desperate to cop a feel! My first date: good looking guy, better than his picture, told me I was better than my picture! We went for ONE DRINK, went back to my place, ( I do not live alone) where he proceeded to paw at me for the next two hours! He wasn't even a good kisser..which means one thing and one thing only: bad in bed, too! I laughed out loud, said he was acting like he was 18 (gave him the benefit of the doubt) I tried to play it off, gave him many chances to calm down, to no avail! My CAT sat there on the coffee table with a malevolent look on his face, staring at this guy, at one point, the cat actually bit the guy on the foot! Did this guy take Viagra before our date or what? The next day, I emailed and said don't bother to get in touch, thank you very much! I had no idea that guys his age had the energy to act like that! My take: selfish, uncouth, insensitive to MY needs or desires. Had he been a little bit seductive, more suave, well, maybe he would've gotten somewhere in a few dates. He was so ham handed, I'm convinced he would've been the worst thing in bed since crumbs! Any body else out there with an over 50 date with no idea how to act?

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Stupidity Posted: 6/24/2006 12:12:54 PM
damn, that's sad!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Stupidity Posted: 6/24/2006 11:21:19 AM
it's just entertainment with silicone implants, nose jobs, bleached blonde hair, hair extensions, fake tans, fake nails, colored contact lenses...too many ugly tatoos...and you're watching it. As far as Tom Green is concerned...there's a reason why Drew left him..he's an idiot, and an ugly one at that. Change the channel, there's plenty of great things on TV, or the internet, and there are still good movies that aren't totally moronic...and I agree with bucsgirl, it's the herd mentality. Read a good book, join a writing group, write a good TV show or movie script...there's more to life than TV.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Update on the date issue Posted: 6/24/2006 11:07:28 AM
I'd say there's 50-50 chance SHE'S NOT INTERESTED AT ALL and is not smart or honest enough to know how to say "forget it" to you. Let go, if she emails you again, let her make the move, and plans.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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if women think men are dogs Posted: 6/24/2006 11:00:15 AM
maybe the ones with their titties hanging out are just b*tches looking for a dog...contact only those gals! What I wonder about is when the pic is ONLY of cleavage, or legs, or a butt...are they THAT ugly?

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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LADIES! Be VERY careful! Posted: 6/24/2006 10:31:50 AM
I hope you called the police and made a report & complaint!

kamikazekate

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Motorcycle Bike Ride...-what would you wear..or what should you wear Posted: 6/24/2006 10:27:15 AM
so...did you already go on that ride? It's been ten days since you first posted. What DID you wear?

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Gave him an out--why doesn't he take it? Posted: 6/24/2006 10:23:24 AM
let go, move on, you are a busy woman, right?

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

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Why do people do this? Posted: 6/24/2006 10:17:42 AM
I've decided after two months at POF, to not waste time with a million emails. I do not care for IM so much, and would prefer to talk on phone instead. I'm interested in meeting a guy who is approriate for me, age, interests, location, etc., so I exchange emails a couple of times, if that person follows through with an invite for a bike ride or coffee, then we exchange phone numbers. After talking to that guy, if it sounds like he has a brain and a heart, I'm making plans to meet. That's why we are on POF in the first place...to meet people. It doesn't guarantee that the first person you meet will be the one, but it saves all the wasted time of emailing forever. You just have to jump in at some point. THAT way, you now who you are talking to, because you've met them!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 106 (view)

BiPolar dude Posted: 6/24/2006 10:02:03 AM
RUN, FORREST, RUN! and I DO mean that! crazy is crazy, and he sounds crazy, whatever his diagnosis is! RUN!!!

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

He Loves Everything About You, Except Your Cat Posted: 6/24/2006 9:56:21 AM
the way I look at it...the cat (dog) has a proven track record, the date doesn't. Go with the cat (dog) every time...after all, you DID make a lifelong commitment when you got the cat (dog), right? The pet is part of the family, no? You LOVE the animal, and can't abandon it, that's why profiles provide us with plenty of space to declare our attitude towards animals. I would never be with a guy who didn't like animals or was allergic, I'm just not changing anything that importnat to me for anyone. After Katrina, people were separated from their pets...they suffered TERRIBLY due to the goverment's inflexibility, thank god there was such an outcry, because now, the law is changing, and people are expected to bring their four legged family members. In many states, it is illegal to abandon a pet...so I always wondered why it was okay to leave them behind in an emergency or disaster. THANK GOD ATTITUDES HAVE CHANGED! I would not have left my two cats behind during Katrina.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 120 (view)

Teachers are paid just fine? Posted: 6/24/2006 8:18:40 AM
My friend's daughter and son in law are teachers. They each have Masters degrees. They teach in the NYC metropolitan area, and with some after school coaching or lunch room duty, they EACH make just over $100,000.00 a year. Not too shabby!

kamikazekate

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Is dating in 2006 almost the same as when we were in our teens? Posted: 6/24/2006 8:14:18 AM
I think that since as a species, we are the same animal, we pretty much want the same physical things: stroking, kissing, lovemaking, companionship. The hardware & software have changed a whole lot, though! Cell phones & other technology have eliminated the excuses of "your phone was busy" or "I was delayed by this or that", or "I missed your call", "I wasn't home", "I had an emergency", "I got a flat". Now there's no real excuse for a no show or being late for no reason. If he doesn't show up for a date...you know exactly what it means..you don't have to guess. But from a woman's point of view, I'm glad that we don't have to have the pretense of virtue that we had to exhibit when we were tenagers and unmarried in the 60's. After a certain age, back then, it was okay to express sexuality, now it's okay to express it as much or a little as we like, at almost any age, as women, young & old, are not labled sluts if they enjoy sex. It's also nice to be able to make the first move or phone call! I was greatly relieved when women's lib came about along with the free love movement of the 60's. Before that, I couldn't stand the hypocrisy of many young women who denied even getting "felt up" or "fingered" by their boyfrinds in high school.

kamikazekate

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I can't there are so many pervs on the net! Posted: 6/23/2006 10:09:02 AM
It makes sense to me...you stated you wanted sex, so you got offers. Marriage is a little bit more complicated than sex, no?

kamikazekate

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Sweet guy, low income OR abusive guy, high income Posted: 6/23/2006 10:04:44 AM
NO ONE should ever go out with an abusive person, no matter what they have to offer in a materialistic way. Life is too short.

kamikazekate

Joined: 4/15/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

pity sex? Posted: 6/23/2006 10:00:33 AM
of COURSE there's such a thing as "pity sex", or "charity sex" I myself always preferred the PITY HAND JOB: less muss and fuss. BUT ONLY ONCE! To get him out of the car, or out of the house, to stop humping your leg...NEVER twice, because then he starts to think he's an irresistable stud. WHY on EARTH would you be so crazy TWICE?! You do it TO GET RID OF THE GUY, NOT to encourage him to hang around for more! He may not be as stupid as you think!

kamikazekate

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Msg: 111 (view)

Dating a Transsexual / Transgender Person Posted: 6/23/2006 9:41:50 AM
GOLLY! I feel so blessed after reading all these posts! I'm a flaming heterosexual, with standard female genitalia, and I thank my stars! I read and see a lot of stuff on TV about these issues, and as more is discovered scientifically, it turns out a lot of genetic deviations or accidents are to blame for these types of people being born. The master plan is our two genders, so we can breed and multiply, two arms, two legs, one mouth, etc., anything else is just an unfortunate accident of genetic combinations that don't fit into a standard category. Conjoined twins, Downes syndrome, many rare genetic diseases, diabetes, scoliosis, cycle cell anemia, cleft palate, are all due to genes. I personally believe that homosexuality is a very common form of genetic "mal"function, because all gay men, whether in a San Francisco, the Sudan, Arabia, China, Brazil or India all exibit almost identical "feminine" characteristics and mannerisms. It's definitly not a "lifestyle" or "choice". It's a function of our society whether we accept them wholeheartedly or not. In certain African tribes, gay men are assigned women's chores, stay in the village when the other men go out to hunt, and are called "auntie brothers". They are not ostracised, but embraced. The tribe finds a place for them to fit in. Just because there are many people who suffer from these calamities doesn't mean we should either accept or reject, it is what it is. Sometimes it's really sad, sometimes, it's really hilarious, often, it doesn't matter one way or the other. Either way, we need to decide what's best for ourselves. I would not want to go out with a trans-gender post-op "man", because it just would not be the same. A penis is a beautiful thing to behold, and a surgically created one just would not be the same. Sometimes, you really cannot improve on Mother Nature. But I feel the same about all the surgically created "breasts" in Hollywood, too. I guess I'm a purist.

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