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funone571

Joined: 4/18/2006

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full-time single dads Posted: 8/28/2009 8:41:59 PM
No JustMe_CA I don't think Shaniqua777 has any data to support her claim. According to her profile she doesn't have any children so her rant isn't coming from personal experiences either.

funone571

Joined: 4/18/2006

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full-time single dads Posted: 8/7/2009 9:20:53 AM
divorced, full-time dad of two boys for almost 5 years now. My oldest son is a teenager now and I should get combat pay for having to deal with him at times but at the end of the day I wouldn't change a thing

funone571

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In your opinion men, is this too much info too soon? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:19:14 AM
Well OP if it's a guy that you've met here I think you've explained it completely in your profile so there shouldn't be any questions. That being said I'm going to assume you are talking about a complete random introduction with a guy in a club, park, church event....where ever it happens to take place. From looking at your profile you seam very comfortable talking about your son so in my opinion I would use that as your basis for talking about what happened. If he asks if you have any kids simply say that you had a beautiful son who unfortunately died from SIDS not long after he was born.....and just kind of leave it with that. If the guy is really paying attention to what you're saying you'll probably get a blank stare and hear crickets for a response but that's when you tell him it's ok and that you've come to terms with what happened and how for that moment in time you felt love like nothing else is the world. A smile and a light-hearted laugh while explain it wouldn't hurt either. Follow it up by quickly asking him a question about his family....change the subject without being obvious. I am greatly sorrowed by your loss but you seam to be doing very well with adjusting to life after the loss of a child.....God bless

funone571

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Never make someone a priority who only sees you as an option... Posted: 8/6/2009 7:04:14 AM
I found someone who I wanted to make a priority in my life and after thinking of this saying at one point reassessed everything that was going on and opened my eyes up to the fact that I was only an option for her. After taking some time to accept what I was seeing instead of what I wanted to see.....being an option is fine. As an option we still hang out ever now and then and are still good friends.....I just keep looking for someone who sees me as high of a priority in her life as I see her in mine.

funone571

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would u date a woman with a kids with behavoural problems? Posted: 8/6/2009 6:40:40 AM
Very good point free....I kind of inadvertently flew by that. A date is just a date and my previous comment was from the aspect of "dating" = a monogamous relationship. Going out on a date doesn't involve the kids.....sometimes you can get all the kids together to have fun.....but not all the time

funone571

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would u date a woman with a kids with behavoural problems? Posted: 8/6/2009 6:34:42 AM
I can't say that I would but I also can't say that I wouldn't. Without your sons difficulties it boils down to a question of would I date a woman who has 4 kids.....and to answer that question is easy. However when dealing with children who have extra challenges in life (and my older son is one too) I don't think you can give a blanket answer. Each situation is different, each child unique, to be able to answer the question I would have to first have a complete understanding of what I am getting myself into. For some (a lot) it may be too much; others may have the skills needed to be comfortable in that environment, until that time comes that you find the right guy who is able to live with all the challenges you have simply love your kids for who they are and enjoy every minute you have with them. While it may be a challenge for you at times; that time goes by way too fast, in a few years they're gone and all you're left with are the memories of the time you spent together.

funone571

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How do I let a guy down easy Posted: 8/4/2009 11:35:11 AM
you need to tell him just like you have told us . Some guy's just dont get the coy and easy let down if that doesn't work then Tell him you had sex with his father Ok, seriously, just tell him straight up that you're not interested in him and to please give you some space while you deal with breaking up with the ex.

funone571

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Spending the night Posted: 7/30/2009 10:38:23 AM
OP....let's rewind the clock a few years....do you remember what you were like as a 15yo boy? If a girl would have told you a few years ago "I'm going to my brother's house...my parents won't be there.....we can sleep in the same room together"....what would you've been thinking? If you want to send her home to your parents pregnant or worse then sure, go for it......but if you have any respect for yourself, your parents and your sister then the answer should be a resounding H3LL NO

funone571

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Dating with children Posted: 7/30/2009 7:07:48 AM
As long as you approach it as the two of you are friends then what difference does it make? My kids know more than a few of the ladies I've gone out on dates with over the years....and those ladies are still friends of mine/ours and the boys see them on occasion like they would any other friend of mine.

funone571

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Houdini baby Posted: 7/24/2009 11:13:49 AM
Start by baby proofing the entire house.....from the way you describe her it sounds like it won't be long till she wants to find out what happens when you put a metal spoon in the microwave As for keeping her out of the kitchen they do make indoor fences to keep the tots in/out of a given area. It's kind of like a bunch of baby gates all connected and can reach 20 feet or more. They also make these for dogs so if you can't find one at your local kids-r-us you may want to call a pet store. If not then why not build a low height temporary wall between the rooms? A couple of 2x4's some ply wood and some screws and you've got a 3ft high wall that will keep here out of the kitchen and you can even leave space for a door/baby gate in the middle to walk thru. Good luck. Cheers, Dave

funone571

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Do Girl Really Mind Dating a Single Dad ???? Posted: 7/24/2009 9:11:35 AM
If you really want other opinions on being a single father and dating do a thread search and take your pick from any one of the numerous times this has been discussed to death. You posted this question once already today and it was deleted already. Probably because of the redundancy factor. Have fun with your kid and let the other stuff take care of its self.

funone571

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A question of balance... Posted: 7/24/2009 7:29:24 AM
Hey OP I don't think there is much more you can or should do for the ex. Let CSA handle everything and if he gets prissy about it the answer is obvious.....the two of you tried to work out a solution and couldn't, that's why CSA is there. You can't force him to have a relationship with your (his) son so my suggestion is, don't. If the ex wants to see/phone his son then let him, if your son wants to see/phone his dad then let him. Never get in the way and prevent them from developing a relationship but you can't make it happen if the ex doesn't want it. Ya know, the old, lead a horse to water but can't make it drink saying. Good luck to ya.

funone571

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Ex boyfriendss????? Posted: 7/8/2009 11:45:38 AM
OP....quit sweating the petty stuff and start petting the sweaty stuff Ok seriously if he is bothering you and won't stop texting then change your number and forget about him. Leave the drama to prime time and start living your life.

funone571

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Places to meet exceptional people- Posted: 7/8/2009 10:49:23 AM
ExceptionalPeople.com Something tells me they don't offer what I'm looking for in their services section!!!!!!

funone571

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Places to meet exceptional people- Posted: 7/6/2009 11:39:18 AM
I've met a lot of great people because of playing golf. Now that my boys are old enough to play too I often times just talk with other parents who are there with their kids while the kids are taking lessons.

funone571

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Optimistic News For Those Considering Marriage Posted: 7/1/2009 8:04:44 AM
sediments .....lol should have been sentiments

funone571

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Optimistic News For Those Considering Marriage Posted: 7/1/2009 7:21:56 AM
I was one of those young ones that ran off and got married and thought I knew everything in the world. Yeah right. Can't believe I wasted it because I was a complete moron. My sediments exactly. I have two great kids and because of them wouldn't change anything we've been through but when I look back and think about how things could have been different.....d'oh

funone571

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Optimistic News For Those Considering Marriage Posted: 6/30/2009 12:02:28 PM
While this may be a simplistic way of looking at things whoever said it needed to be a complicated, convoluted approach to fixing it? Wait until you're old enough to really have a grip on what you're looking for with life. Find a mate who has similar interests. Enjoy the rest of your lives together. Sounds like a good formula to me.

funone571

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Single Parents dating eachother with childern of simmular age Posted: 6/29/2009 11:41:25 AM
One of the most overlooked problems is if the Guy's kids don't get along with her kids... or even worse, they get along too well... In the first place you could have total anarchy in the houshold... in the other, what happens if your kid and your partners kid, fall for each other.... (assuming they're teens)... Now what....? Remember, they don't have the tabboo against incest to stop them.... Also, what happens if you and your partner split and the kids don't want to....? so many issues to deal with.... Well this puts a whole new spin on the double dating thing now doesn't it Seriously though if I were in that situation and my son and her daughter were to develop their own relationship why should my break up have any bearing on them? Grant it I can't control how my ex (mom) would feel about it but I don't see any connection, mom and I broke up that's all.....really weird scenario but no connection.

funone571

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Do women mind single dads with kids Posted: 6/26/2009 10:45:25 AM
I don't have kids of my own and as long as you OK with me not having that expirience and you not telling me "kids your first priority" I guess it's OK. Who would want to come 2nd in relationship? I wouldn't. Either you can balance that we will be even when in relationship or keep your priorities for someone who has kids too with them being 1st priority for them than you will come 2nd or 3rd too. It's only fair Well quite frankly I'm glad you don't have kinds then. If you had and did not have custody I wonder if you would want your children's father to have a priority for his new girlfriend then for your children? Oh wait a moment I think I've seen that thread before...that's right it's the one where mom is complaining because dad is running around with his latest fling again. My children are my highest priority, period. With all due respects any woman who thinks that kids shouldn't be isn't the type of person I want to develop a relationship with. Even married couples put the needs of their children before their own. Why would I be expected to change this because I'm dating?

funone571

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I have a feeling I will end up with a single mom. Posted: 6/26/2009 10:31:59 AM
Being mature and independent are not traits exclusively inherent to single parents. While looking for these traits (and others) I would not limit yourself to only single moms as you may be missing out on someone who is equally qualified.

funone571

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How do you end a relationship that can't go any further when you truly love the man? Posted: 6/24/2009 12:17:57 PM
Hey bama, sorry to hear of the predicament you find yourself in but it sounds like you already have the answer to your question. From the way you've described your situation it sounds like the two of you have drastically different views on raising children and that you are not comfortable enough with his style to continue the relationship. While I'm guessing you wish to continue your friendship with this man be realistic in the sense that this may not be a smooth parting of ways and could cost you some of not his total friendship. Good luck to you all the same.

funone571

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its easier to just be single. Posted: 6/23/2009 10:07:21 AM
Just because it's easy to do doesn't mean it's very satisfying.

funone571

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Why don't guys ask me for my phone number? Posted: 6/22/2009 7:24:08 AM
Because everyone has made the internet such a scary sounding place that men POLITELY offer theirs as the woman can block her phone number and call the gentleman without risking her personal info of giving up her phone number to someone she really does not know and has not seen or met yet. They are doing this to protect you and letting you keep your identity protected until you feel comfortable enough to offer it. Couldn't have said it better myself. but.. why would a guy say hi... call me.. blurt out his number without even chatting first? i get that alot Welcome to the world of the internet....I call guys/gals that do this "blaster casters". They cast out as mines lines as they can in hopes that some poor fish will take the bait....wham bam thank you mam and they move onto the next fish in the pond.

funone571

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first custody hearingf , What a joke Posted: 6/19/2009 6:56:28 AM
I've gone to court every month for the past six months. And nothing. All I can tell ya Jen29300 is to get ready for a long ride.....it took almost 3 years before the courts would do anything against my X-wife for non-support. That being said she's still playing games and in the end what she doesn't realize is all she's doing is destroying her future with our children. The sad thing is in the end no matter what the courts do no one can force a person (man or woman) to be a loving responsible parent if they choose not to.

funone571

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Mothers Day/Father’s Day…..or better Family Day Posted: 6/18/2009 1:26:18 PM
The USA is founded on the bill of rights and the constitution. Those are the documents that should be followed and the freedoms they bring. I couldn't agree more freetime

funone571

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Mothers Day/Father’s Day…..or better Family Day Posted: 6/18/2009 1:18:11 PM
On January 14, 1969, Red Skelton touched the hearts of millions of Americans with his "Pledge Of Allegiance", in which he explained the meaning of each and every word. Red Skelton's recitation of the "Pledge of Allegiance" was twice read into the Congressional Record of the United States and received numerous awards. RED SKELTON: "I remember this one teacher. To me, he was the greatest teacher, a real sage of my time. He had such wisdom. We were all reciting the Pledge Of Allegiance and he walked over. Mr. Lasswell was his name... He said": "I've been listening to you boys and girls recite the Pledge Of Allegiance all semester and it seems as though it is becoming monotonous to you. If I may, may I recite it and try to explain to you the meaning of each word: I Me; an individual; a committee of one. Pledge Dedicate all of my worldly goods to give without self-pity. Allegiance My love and my devotion. To the Flag Our standard; Old Glory ; a symbol of Freedom; wherever she waves there is respect, because your loyalty has given her a dignity that shouts, Freedom is everybody's job. of the United That means that we have all come together. States Individual communities that have united into forty-eight great states. Forty-eight individual communities with pride and dignity and purpose. All divided with imaginary boundaries, yet united to a common purpose, and that is love for country. And to the Republic Republic -- a state in which sovereign power is invested in representatives chosen by the people to govern. And government is the people; and it's from the people to the leaders, not from the leaders to the people. For which it stands One Nation One Nation -- meaning, so blessed by God. Indivisible Incapable of being divided. With Liberty Which is Freedom; the right of power to live one's own life, without threats, fear, or some sort of retaliation. And Justice The principle, or quality, of dealing fairly with others. For All For All -- which means, boys and girls, it's as much your country as it is mine. And now, boys and girls, let me hear you recite the Pledge of Allegiance: I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic, for which it stands; one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all. Since I was a small boy, two states have been added to our country, and two words have been added to the Pledge of Allegiance: Under God. Wouldn't it be a pity if someone said that is a prayer, and that would be eliminated from schools, too?" YouTube video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPbIls0iOnI

funone571

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Mothers Day/Father’s Day…..or better Family Day Posted: 6/18/2009 12:35:17 PM
Pledging allegiance to a flag is pretty silly if you think about it. It never ceases to amaze me how quickly people forget things. Right after "I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America" comes the line of "And to the republic for which it stands". The flag is simply the symbol of the nation that you are declaring your allegiances to. And just for shits and giggles the definition of a republic is "a state in which the supreme power rests in the body of citizens entitled to vote and is exercised by representatives chosen directly or indirectly by them." It's funny how a lot of those elected to office have forgotten their purpose for being there.

funone571

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first custody hearingf , What a joke Posted: 6/18/2009 10:52:14 AM
From the legal side of this document everything!!!! After years of working for the courts one of the resounding phrases that stick in my mind is "if you can't prove it happened then as far as I'm concerned it didn't happen". Beyond that I'd suggest going out and buying the really big bottle of KY jelly 'cuz it sounds like they want to to bend over and take it big time

funone571

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Mothers Day/Father’s Day…..or better Family Day Posted: 6/18/2009 7:56:38 AM
Hey OP I can absolutely understand where you're coming from only for me it was Mother's Day that gave my youngest the most problems. At one point he hadn't seen nor talked with his mother for almost 2 years. He made his gifts for his mother and we held on to them till she finally showed up again and he was able to give them to her. Making the gifts and keeping them for her was a good thing for him because he learned that it was ok to love her even though she wasn't there. The reason she wasn't there was by her choice and not his/ours and making the gifts and buying the cards helped him deal with her absence.

funone571

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How do you hit on a single dad? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:52:37 PM
As long as you do this when his kids aren't there simply walk up to him and put your hand between his legs.....he will notice, I guarantee it!!!! Seriously just say hi, start some conversation and take it from there. We're not all that mysterious. If you can't think of anything to talk about ask him about his favorite sports team or tell him you think it's cute when you see him playing with his kids. (assuming you see him do this outside or somewhere) Either topic will get most guys talking.

funone571

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How do I help my daughter? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:07:42 PM
OP maybe she just doesn't like the chemistry of her fathers house. You said that she is often with you or another person watching her.....a lot of one on one time? At dad's house you said are two kids and the new wife. Maybe some of her anxiety comes from the fact that she is used to only one other person being there with her? The more people in the house the more noise to contend with.....are their any pets there that aren't at your house....outside noises (i.e. trains, airports, highway) close to his house? Short of their being any issues of abuse maybe she just isn't comfortable with the house and associates those noises specifically with him. Is dad able to spend time with her at grandma's house playing and doing things with your daughter so that she gets comfortable with him first before going to his house. That way when she starts to feel uncomfortable she will see him as a comforting influence instead of possibly the face of the uncomforting influence. Good luck

funone571

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Dating different age groups Posted: 6/9/2009 10:51:04 AM
when you're 20 and he's 40 you may be cool with it but when you're 40 and he's 60 does it still have the same appeal?

funone571

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She broke up with me Posted: 6/9/2009 9:57:24 AM
If by changing everything about yourself for her you are referring to I wnt back to school to get my ged. Paid bills ontime.... then I hope you feel as though you are a better person for doing so because you are. The reverse being no education and irresponsible with finances is never good for anyone. That aside you should never change who you are just to be with a person...remember it's better to be hated for who you are then loved for someone you're not. Take some time to get over this then get back out there and start being you again.

funone571

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single fathers Posted: 6/5/2009 10:43:52 AM
in response to specialheartedlady's comment men get custody as much as women these days Copied from http://www.childrensjustice.org/stats.htm "Ninety percent of divorced fathers have less than full custody of their children." Jonathan M. Honeycutt, Ph.D.(c), M.P.A., M.A., I.P.C. Director of Research, Clinical & Consulting Psychotherapist, National Institute for Divorce Research, Panama City, Florida. * 37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights. * 40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse * 70% of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children * Very few of the children were satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers, after divorce. * Total Custodial Mothers: 11,268,000. Total Custodial Fathers 2,907,000 * Custodial mothers who receive a support award: 79.6% * Custodial fathers who receive a support award: 29.9% * Non-custodial mothers who totally default on support: 46.9% * Non-custodial fathers who totally default on support: 26.9%

funone571

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Single Father who wants to date? Posted: 6/3/2009 7:47:25 AM
Hey mrjamez your daughters aren't much younger then my boys and I'm in the same kind of situation you are with having the kids 24/365. At that age I found I could schedule some time for me with them going for sleep overs at their friends houses. Especially in the summer time when their off of school but I didn't try to do it every weekend so it worked out well. I usually got out about once every 3-4 weeks and would host sleepovers in return which is always fun. Maybe you could give something like that a try, it worked well for me. Good luck

funone571

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Daughter's father getting released from prison Oct09 Posted: 6/3/2009 7:20:07 AM
Unfortunately a PFA (protection from abuse) order is only as good as the paper it's printed on if he doesn't follow the order. While violence is never the answer to any given situation, protecting yourself and your daughter is of the up most importance. I don't know what gun laws are like in your area but if you truly believe that he is capable of carrying out his threat then I would suggest you take some steps to protect yourself. From my experiences the pepper sprays that are available to civilians are too often ineffective so I would suggest a stronger deterrent. Whether that be a stun gun, a regular gun or some other form of protection please sign up now for a class on how to properly handle, use and store the weapon. Simply having a gun isn't effective if you don't know how to use it......and worse if you don't know how to properly store it can be the story of a child playing with it. Good luck

funone571

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how to get child support payments lowered? Posted: 6/2/2009 11:35:35 AM
Ok fishing from shore, what is it exactly you suggest I should take a long hard suck on???? Since you think I have an issue with comprehending the facts let's revisit them for a moment shall we. The OP who wants to get his child support payments lowed, and I quote this from his profile, "I work only 6 months of the year" and on a first date suggests "we could smoke crack together". He classifies the reasoning on waiting 10 months to figure out what to do about his court ordered support as " i guess i was being generous". So with the facts revisited how is it then in your opinion that I'm being a "ass" when my suggestion to him was "go to the system that handles these judgments and file a petition for modification"? Or is it that you have an issue with me because I call bull shit when I see it?

funone571

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Why did you get divorced? Posted: 6/2/2009 9:01:53 AM
Well it's pretty simple for me....I got divorced because she didn't want to be married anymore. During the last 2 years of the marriage I think I did everything I could to keep our family together but in the end it was her decision so I didn't have all that much say in it.

funone571

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Uncomfortable Date Posted: 6/1/2009 10:55:11 AM
Hey OP as to him being out of your league there's no such thing.....and for you calling him a hottie......I think you have it backwards

funone571

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Are you sure you want someone to ACCEPT your child? Posted: 6/1/2009 9:38:04 AM
Hey cubanguy, thanks for the cliff notes on the OP's dissertation....I agree with your statement 100%

funone571

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would you date an escort? Posted: 5/21/2009 9:18:13 AM
As long as she always paid for everything sure.......otherwise the first time I paid for dinner wouldn't that make me one of her clients?????

funone571

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Childcare Posted: 5/21/2009 9:14:20 AM
Sorry itsallinthesoul......guess I did take the comment the wrong way...lol....guess that's what I get for drinking one too many cups of coffee in the morning. As for letting an attractive male babysitter watch over my daughter.....sure, no problem.....right after I show him the security system, pointing out all the different cameras and making a point of showing him my weapons safe where I keep all my guns, handcuffs, chemical spray and badge from when I retired from the county. If he didn't run scared by that point I'd be pretty confident it would be the babysitter I'd have to be concerned about in that scenario....lol Besides as I remember those days it was always you girls that were the aggressors ducks and runs for cover

funone571

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Please review my profile Posted: 5/20/2009 10:55:55 AM
looks fine to me

funone571

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Childcare Posted: 5/20/2009 9:55:49 AM
itsallinthesoul do you mean to tell me as a 12 year old girl you never tried to get that 17 year old life guard at the pool to look at you? Sorry but I'm talking about the innocent childhood fascination kind of stuff......not the twisted perverted child predator crap that fills today's media.

funone571

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Childcare Posted: 5/20/2009 6:44:24 AM
hire him a nice 17 year old babysitter, and go out frequently and for long periods of time. Now that's funny.......wish my mom would have done that.... damn, never thought being a responsible child would have been a bad thing

funone571

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Childcare Posted: 5/19/2009 8:35:08 AM
I thought hoovering over (i.e. worrying too much) the kids was one of the 10 commandments in the parenting book we got when our kids were born. Now if I could just remember where I put that book...... good luck to ya

funone571

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Childcare Posted: 5/19/2009 6:59:15 AM
OP as you can see there is no law with representation to a physical age.....more over the reason for this is most have realized that children mature at different rates and while one child at 9 may be mature enough to take care of them self another child may not be ready till they are 15. Each parent must make their own assessment of the maturity level of their child in this regard. In your question you ask if it would be ok to leave him alone while you go out......why not ask him that? What I mean is you say your older son (21) will watch him if you decide to go out for an evening right? Why not ask the 12 year old how he would feel about just staying by himself knowing that he can call his brother if he needs anything. Big bro can also call or stop in and check on him once or twice too. You want to go out with friends on a Saturday night and make sure your older son is able to watch younger brother. Younger son wants to try be there by himself so you leave and he watches some tv or plays a video game. Two hours later big bro shows up with some pizza, they hang out for a bit, maybe watch a movie, makes sure younger brother is still ok with being by himself and then goes home. Two hours or so later you come home and you've been out for 6 hours, your younger son feels like he is more of a man because he's been by himself all night and in reality he was never alone for more than two hours at a time.

funone571

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Single Dads Unite!!!! Posted: 5/18/2009 12:34:02 PM
While I wouldn't mind being referred to as a STUD~~~Stunningly Terrific Unforgettable Dad.......if you read these forums enough you might think of us as TOAST~~~Too Often Alienated Sperm Transporters

funone571

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Single Dads Unite!!!! Posted: 5/18/2009 10:28:12 AM
I guess in this thought then being a D.I.C.K. could be a good think~~~Dad In Custody of Kids

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