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banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Commonly repeated feedback. Posted: 9/21/2009 9:07:44 PM
^^^^ Write to a mod and ask them to unlock the thread for you to post into. They are usually quite helpful. If you want more details, feel free to message me. PS - it won't "turn green" on it's own.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Could someone review my profile and possibly lend some advice? Posted: 9/21/2009 8:43:13 PM
Continue your quest for a flattering picture. I agree with the previous reviewer that your headline "you will not survive" is a downer. Try something a bit more inviting. Consider moving paragraphs 3 and 4 toward the bottom of your profile. They are rather negative/complaining. Better to lead with the descriptions of the things you love and are passionate about. In fact, I'd get rid of #3 totally - you have "student" as your profession, that's perfectly fine for your age.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Profile any good? Posted: 9/21/2009 8:27:52 PM
Make your current picture #2 as your main - head shots work better in the search function, and you have a great smile. Better yet - get a nice head shot with improved lighting to use as your main. Some great profile tips can be found here: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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what am I doing wrong? Posted: 9/21/2009 8:15:36 PM
Try to get a picture where you are smiling - especially for the main picture. Spellcheck. Your profile is rather generic - tell us more about YOU. Expand a bit on some of the statements in your profile. You say you are fun-loving, but your profile does not really feel "fun". What is your idea of fun? What is unique about you? You say you have a simple life - how so? Your interests include camping, fishing, movies - what details can you add to that? Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

How do I get myself, to give myself, permission to let this go...? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:49:46 PM
You don't need permission to leave - you need permission to value yourself. YOU are the most important person in your life. Only YOU can take care of yourself - nobody else will will put you first. Most other people are caught up in their own lives - and your boyfriend seems very much in that boat. Reach out to those who care about you - friends, family, etc. You might be surprised where you can find support. Batgirl gave you good advice - step by step you can change your life for the better.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Really different experience... Posted: 9/6/2009 12:26:12 PM
^^^^^ Emotional vampire is exactly the right description. OP - you can't save or help this person. He has to WANT to change or be helped. Until then, you are really just enabling him. You are "rewarding" his current behaviour by giving him attention.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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now what Posted: 8/13/2009 8:25:23 PM
Did you ask him if he wants to meet women? If he's in the midst of his second divorce, he may not be in the right frame of mind for it. Also, many women want nothing to do with a guy who is still full of the drama of a current/recent divorce. So that might lead to a lack of success in meeting women, which might make him feel even worse. I think dinner together, and possibly drinks after, is a good plan. Allow him time to talk, and give him the gift of your full attention (not distracted by the "meeting women" agenda). Follow his lead... if HE says he wants to meet women, then you can consider it. Maybe he just wants a nice night out with a friend who he can count on, without any pressure about meeting women.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy? Posted: 7/30/2009 9:26:10 PM
Yes. I agree - words and good writing are sexy. To me. But ... different people are seeking different things. The most interesting thing about being on this interweb thing is that we get to interact with all walks of life. Everybody responds to different "bait".

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Your First Impression. Posted: 7/30/2009 8:40:49 PM
I've had a number of people tell me that I'm just like what they expected from my profile/emails. So I think that's a good thing. In the immortal words of Popeye... I yam what I yam.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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What does a woman REALLY want? Posted: 7/26/2009 3:35:41 PM
Here' s a suggestion. If you want to keep the conversation going, give her something to respond TO. As in, ask a question or expand upon something in your profile that seems to be a common interest. A first email is only a sign of possible interest, so when you jump on it right away and ask for what feels like a commitment (mail or phone), it might feel to her like you are coming on too strong. She's probably not sure if she wants to agree to mail or phone yet - depends how the conversation goes! So don't ask her to make a decision right away... just respond to the content of her email, add some more of your own, and give a "hook" to invite further conversation.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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First things you look at in a profile HONESTLY! Posted: 7/26/2009 2:42:56 PM
I look for signs of intelligent life! For me there isn't one specific thing above all others that is a "must have" or a "deal breaker", but how a person composes his/her profile gives a lot of information about that person. Both what is included, and what is excluded. I've "met" a number of people on this site - some in real life, some as great email friends... some that I chose not to pursue further! And I can honestly say that for me, first impressions of a profile have held to be very true. I look for evidence that the person is bright, and fun. Everything else can be figured out as we go, but if those two ingredients are missing there will be no interest on my part.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Profile Review Posted: 7/5/2009 3:38:04 PM
You profile has lots of information, but not much personality. Rather than a series of lists, pick a few things that you are particularly enthusiastic about and tell us more - why do you enjoy it, more details about it, perhaps a little story - anything really, that allows you to share your passion. This will make your profile more personal and therefore more interesting. It will also give readers more to respond to if they want to send you a message. More pictures are always a good idea. Do you have any taken outdoors? It's good to have a variety of looks. Finally, try doing something a bit more creative with your First Date. Most people are aware that coffee is an option, and the pros and cons of such. Throw out some suggestions of things that YOU enjoy doing... this is another opportunity to show who you are a little bit. Show the reader why it would be fun to spend time with you. Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Giving in to the urge... Posted: 7/5/2009 2:09:59 PM
I think it's a fantastic profile - too bad you live in Pennsylvania! I adore geeks who also have social skills. Minor points - take or leave as you wish. Headline - stroll through some of the other forums and you will quickly realize that "nice guy" has a negative connotation for many people. I.e. "nice guy" = whining, spineless doormat, often with a side of bitter ("Why did she leave me? I'm so niiiiice...! Why do girls only want the guys who treat them bad...?" You get the picture). Your call on whether to use it, but do be aware it might be sending a message you aren't aware of. Pictures - very good collection. I like #3 (April 2009) best for your main shot. It has better clarity and lighting, and you have a warm expression on your face. Also, no hat - this is a good thing. Your About Me is really well-written, it gives a very good sense of who you are, and conveys that you are happy with who you are. Well done. You could possibly add in a bit more specifics about the kind of woman you'd like to meet, but I think it's fine as is. Since I'm a word geek I'd like to see you capitalize your Interests, but that's me... I don't think it takes away from the overall profile (unless your target market includes word geeks who would notice such a thing). I think you could do a bit more with your first date section. Again, fine as is - but you seem like an interesting guy and I bet you could come up with a few more ideas. What if the weather isn't nice? Not everybody likes going for walks - personally, I like to see the face and expression of the person I'm meeting, so coffee/drinks/snack are my preference. My two cents - but it's already great as is!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Third time's the charm? Posted: 7/4/2009 8:40:12 PM
Lots of good information in your profile, but it needs some tweaks. My advice to you would be - think about your target audience (the type of man you'd like to attract) and make adjustments with that in mind. Here's what I see (realizing I'm not your target audience, so take what you feel is useful): Picture - your main pic is attractive, but could be more effective. Crop it down so it's just your face. Keep in mind that in the search pages of POF, those thumbnails are mighty small. The most effective main picture will be a close-up of your face only - much more than that and the details are lost. Also, you need more variety in your pics. I know they're all different, but your pose and costume are pretty similar in all three. Add in some pictures that show off different sides of you. Headline - maybe it's just me, but "All dressed up with nowhere to go" sounds kinda sad or possibly desperate to me. (Not saying you sound desperate, just that it could be interpreted that way.) The best headlines are fun and inviting, and make you want to read more. About Me - your best paragraph in here is the one under ISO (after the first sentence, which is unnecessary). You talk about what you are looking for, and give little examples which really highlight your personality. ("Someone who thinks it's cute when I do the "happy dance" because I just got my Boingo tickets. ") This is fantastic, and you need to apply it to the rest of your information. Apply the writing style from your ISO paragraph to the rest of your About Me. Lists are boring, and cause people to scroll down. Talking about what you don't want is negative, and that's not attractive. Plus, it doesn't work - nobody believes they are a flake, etc. Choose two, three, maybe four things about yourself that are uniquely you, and describe them (as noted above). Profiles should be "bait" for lack of a better word - not an exhaustive catalog of who you are. Give enough info that the reader will think "Hey, that's interesting". But leave it general enough to invite further questions, giving the viewer something to work with. Hope this helps.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Please be brutally honest and specific Posted: 7/4/2009 7:39:11 PM
Overall I think this is a great profile. Your writing style is engaging, and I love the Santa story. (He gave you very good advice!). One thing you could improve on: Pictures - the most effective main picture is a good close-up of your face. I think if you cropped your current pic #2 it would make a very good main picture. You have a nice expression and the lighting is quite good. Aside from that, try to get more variety in your pictures. Three of your current four have you leaning forward and tilting your face up. Try adding in at least one full body shot where you are standing straight up. And ideally, a few shots of you doing different things - perhaps something from your interest list. Maybe something less casual. I think it's always good to have at least one picture that's taken outdoors - natural light can be more flattering, as long as you're aware of where the sun is and don't have shadow issues.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Ghastly or what? Posted: 7/4/2009 7:11:48 PM
Overall I think it's quite good. A few minor points: Pictures - what you currently have are fine, but I think you can do better here. Both are rather similar in that they are both face shots. Get some more variety - at least one full body shot, and ideally a few pictures of you doing some things you enjoy (possibly something from your interest list to tie it all together nicely). Finally, try to get a good face shot that is taken outdoors - natural light is more flattering to everybody. Description - most of your description is very good, but consider removing or re-writing your first few lines. Don't talk about what you are NOT, talk about what/who you ARE. Rather than saying you're not dumb and helpless, describe yourself as bright and bold. Just turn it around into a positive. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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How does my profile come off? Posted: 7/4/2009 7:04:31 PM
Consider a different user name. "Scar Tissue" implies you may have baggage (scars), and in general is not very appealing.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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profile help? Posted: 1/23/2009 10:03:37 PM
I think it's a very good profile - you describe yourself well, and clearly state what you are looking for. Two things I think could be tweaked: Main Picture - I really like your current #6 to be your main. A head pic always drives more traffic (shows up better in the search thumbnails), and your direct look into the camera seems to capture your personality well. First Date - turn this around. Don't challenge the reader to impress you - most people will find that too demanding. Instead - pick a scenario or two that YOU would find enjoyable as a first date. This is a perfect chance to paint a picture of why it would be fun to spend time with you. Entice the reader to want to know more. Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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A little review here please Posted: 1/23/2009 9:52:16 PM
Try to add a bit of personality to your profile. Pick one or two things that you are enthusiastic about and describe in a bit more detail. You talk about a childlike enthusiasm - show it! That's the sort of thing that a reader might be able to relate to. Others have commented on your photos - I agree. Try to get a main shot that is warmer and more inviting. Definitely need a smile. Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Positive feedback is welcomed1 Posted: 1/23/2009 9:27:35 PM
There are some threads of negativity that you could remove. Rather than talking about what you are not, or what you don't want, focus on what you are interested in. Running down other people ("I understand that some women do find those players type of guys charming") is not an attractive character trait. The rest of your profile is well written, and quite detailed, which is a good thing. You could definitely improve your main picture. Your current is to busy and badly lit. The second is a good close up, but no smile. The others are good as part of your collection, but you need a good lead-in. I think you've missed the boat on your First Date. Your current is boring and safe and just like 637,769 other guys on this site. Think of one or two things that YOU would really find enjoyable as a first date, and describe it so that the reader can imagine herself in that scenario. Good luck! K

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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What do you think? Posted: 1/23/2009 9:12:36 PM
Suggest you make pic #4 your main shot for now... more effective in searches with the small thumbnail picture that shows. Ideally get a head shot without the sunglasses stuck on your head. Expand a bit on your About Me. A list of things that you like doesn't stand out from the lists that every profile provide. Pick one or two of your interests and expand a bit. Describe us why you are passionate about them. Show the reader a bit of your personality by discussing the things you enjoy. Fill in the First Date section. Again - this is a great chance to show the reader why it would be fun to spend time with you. Don't make it something you think will be "popular". Just pick one or two things that YOU think would make for a fun date, and describe it in a few sentences. If you can paint the picture, then readers can get a sense of what it would be like to spend time with you. Use this to your advantage. Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Give it to me... review that is. Posted: 1/19/2009 6:56:21 PM
I think you have a really good start here. Love the username... that alone would make me check out your profile. Your text is well written, but a bit "on the fence" as I see it. There are a lot of qualifiers. You're not looking for this, but maybe that. People are like this, but also that. You like women who are this, but not that. See what I mean? It's difficult to really get a sense of who you are (except that you are really good at seeing both sides of any conversation!). Try to focus more on the things that you DO like, and/or feel passionate about. The other stuff will take care of itself. Also, your main picture isn't doing you any favours. Judging from the rest of your pictures, you're a good looking guy, but you look a bit scruffy in your main. See if you can get a better head shot for the primary picture. And although I know you love your kids - why do you put a picture of them on a dating web site? Time enough for that once you've connected with somebody. Initially, readers want to see YOU. Some more good tips here: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Please review my profile Posted: 1/2/2009 7:41:18 AM
I try to change that photo...but several friends on POF clamor for me to "change it back." They just love that photo, for some reason! That's nice that your friends like that picture, but unless you think one of those "friends" might turn into a "dating" situation, it doesn't really matter what they think. The purpose of a main profile picture is to invite the viewer to click on your profile because they want to know more about you. The black-and-white "brooding musician" shot is definitely a well-executed and interesting photo, and should remain as part of your gallery. But I don't believe it's the best choice for the MAIN photo, which should be more of a close up, with a friendly smile that invites the reader to want to know more. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Tell me what you think...please review my profile Posted: 12/29/2008 8:55:45 PM
You might want to re-think your user name (yes, it's easy to change). Might sound a bit creepy to some viewers. Otherwise, I agree with the good advice you've been given from the post above me. Final thoughts... you've got some good info in your profile, but you've also incorporated a sense that you've been treated wrongly (you're defensive about your age, you plead to have no "mind games" (I've had enough of that this past year)). Take out that negativity, and I think the rest of your profile is good. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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What is your definition of sex? Posted: 11/4/2008 10:04:43 PM
I'm sure every generation tries to tackle this question. I've read through this thread, and think many might agree with the definition I've adapted as my own. Many years ago, in a Sexual Behaviour course I attended at University, the same question was raised. Below is what we came up with. This was after much discussion of the words involved, their intent and meaning, etc. In my opinion, it stands the test of debate. Mutual. Intentional. Sexual Arousal. What say you?

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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New to online dating and would like constructive criticism Posted: 10/26/2008 6:56:35 AM
As your headline suggests, you need more cowbell! A good profile will give the reader a sense of who you are. Here are some great tips to help you fill out your information. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Profile thoughts Ladies and thanks! :) Posted: 10/13/2008 7:56:08 PM
Agree with the previous reviewer - big block 'o text made me not read the whole thing. Pictures are not in your favour - none are flattering. Pic #1 is okay, but blurry. Same with #4. Pic #3 is actually a very good body shot - keep that. Pic #2 is just... I'm gonna go with not flattering. Here are some good tips: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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is this hopeless? Posted: 10/13/2008 7:48:56 PM
There are a lot of good tips here to help you out: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Advice requested... Posted: 10/13/2008 7:46:08 PM
Your main picture seems a bit blurry. Ideally you should take pic #3 and crop it to give you a better head shot, and use that for your main. Your first paragraph in About Me is decent - tells us a bit about you. But it mostly tells us what you DO, not who you are. Try to tell us a bit about who you are, and the things that are important to you. Your second paragraph is not bad in describing who you'd like to meet. I think you should delete your third paragraph - it tells us you are stubborn, and that you are rather fixated on age. These are things you can sort out as you get to know somebody. Here are some more good tips to help you out: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Would appreciate any suggestions Posted: 10/12/2008 7:54:14 PM
Here are a number of useful profile writing tips, all pulled together for your convenience! http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Have a read, make changes as you see fit, then if you still want more feedback post back into this thread. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Is my profile ok?! Posted: 10/12/2008 2:54:30 PM
Well wonderfulman - you have to give the readers a reason to contact you. There isn't really much detail in your profile, which might give a person something to respond to. And it sounds like you want the woman to do all the work, because you are "shy". Well, most women won't bother. You seem like a lot of work, and you don't have enough "fun" in your profile to overcome that. You will get MANY more profile views by posting a picture - you are really shooting yourself in the foot by not doing so. Here are some good profile writing tips, read them and see what you can add to your profile to make it more interesting and inviting. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Profile Review need some HELP Posted: 10/12/2008 7:12:00 AM
Bririmon1 A main picture of you smiling would be more effective. You are allowed up to 8 pictures, so get some more if you can. Variety is good - not just 6 more head shots! There's nothing "wrong" with your profile specifically, but it looks just like 623,089 other profiles on this site. Try to express some of the things that make you unique, and help the reader to understand your personality a bit more. Here are some more good tips on writing a profile: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingForum94.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Please Rate my profile and make suggestions Posted: 10/6/2008 5:36:33 PM
You say you're a "Fun Guy", but I'm not getting a big sense of fun from your profile. It's pleasant enough, but not "Fun". In fact, you even take a little time out near the end to give us all a lecture on how we should behave. If someone takes the time to E-mail or IM you be kind enough to acknowledge that and respond. Demanding that people behave the way YOU think they should is definitely a recipe for disappointment. People can be so uncooperative! And it makes you look rather petulant and unable to accept rejection gracefully. Seriously - if a person doesn't reply to you... is that the kind of person you want to be friends with anyway? Perhaps you should be glad they have shown you their true colours. You will find this site a lot more enjoyable if you don't take responses, or non-responses, too personally. I think you've missed a golden opportunity to show off your fun side in the First Date section. This isn't carved in stone, it's just a place to share a few ideas of what you think is fun. Give the reader a chance to imagine why it would be fun to spend some time with you. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Ok, 2 years and almost 300 rejections, what am I doing wrong? Posted: 10/6/2008 5:09:36 PM
Your profile's actually pretty good. You've done a decent job of conveying your personality and your sense of humour. You should try to inject some of that fun into your first contact messages. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but that "qu0te" you have on your profile has been kicking around on the internet longer than I have! If you like the idea of having a quote on your profile, try to find one that is a bit more unique, and that perhaps expresses a side of you that you'd like the reader to resonate with. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Be honest lol Posted: 10/4/2008 8:42:52 AM
Here ya go... http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Profile for review: Get out your red pens! Posted: 10/3/2008 6:39:32 PM
Awwww... you are just adorable! I think it's a great profile. You sound like you are fun to spend time with, you know who you are and what you are doing in life. I like most of your pictures, but I think they could be better. Your main pic is pretty good, but would be even better without the sunglasses. Women like to be able to see your eyes. The car pic doesn't add much - most women don't want to date your car. And your others are interesting, but it would be nice to see more of YOU. Add in a few more that are a bit more close up. You are allowed up to 8 pictures. But otherwise, it's one of the better profiles I've seen, especially in your age group. Good luck!

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Looking for a woman's viewpoint on my profile, thanks Posted: 10/1/2008 9:22:33 AM
Good job on clarifying your "separated" status. If the dirt picture is working for you, keep it there. If it stops working, switch it up with one of the other face shots. I think you would benefit from an update of your photo gallery. In many of your current shots, you are absent or so far away to be barely visible. This does not help the reader get a better sense of YOU, which is the primary purpose of the pictures. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Opening up the phone lines... Posted: 9/28/2008 6:19:51 AM
Personally I like the picture second from the right for your main shot. It seems a bit less overlit or over-processed or something. More natural/approachable. Overall, you've got a great variety and have added an element of fun - not easy to do with the picture gallery! Well done. Unfortunately, the rest of your profile doesn't live up to that great start. There's nothing WRONG with your written text, but I don't get a really strong sense of who YOU are. Much of what you've written - could have been written by any other guy on this site. "I like to do this. I'm looking for that. I'm a romantic." Try to flush out some of the content you already have with examples or little stories that illustrate what these things mean to YOU, or why you enjoy them. Share your enthusiasm with us. That is the true essence of who you are. On the same note... rather than a mini-lecture on what you think a first date should be - give a first date idea. Or several ideas if you like. Nothing is carved in stone, but give some specifics so the reader will think, "Oh, he'd be fun to spend time with". It's more effective if you can create a visual in the reader's mind. I do like the last sentence in your date section, if you can find a way to work that in without sounding too cheesy. Overall - pretty good, but I think with a bit of work it could be quite outstanding. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Any advice and feedback welcome... Posted: 9/26/2008 5:13:19 AM
You should make your head shot the main picture - it will show up better in searches. Overall, a very good profile. Nice tone - you sound like you are fun to spend time with. Have another look at your first date - there's a spelling error. Otherwise, it looks solid. You have a very long list of mail restrictions ... is that really necessary? Unless you are getting more mail than you can handle, try dropping some of the restrictions and sorting your mail as it arrives. A huge list of "NOs" can make a person seem unwelcoming. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Just finished my masterpiece... Posted: 9/23/2008 3:27:35 PM
I'm not sure that calling yourself "stud" is much better than your original "lover".

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Just finished my masterpiece... Posted: 9/22/2008 6:31:02 PM
Definitely go with the picture. You seem like you'd be able to sort through the people who aren't going to be a good fit, so what's the harm? You seems to be a smart kid, and you know what you want... I'm sure you'll be fine. And on that note, try dropping or loosening up some of your mail restrictions. Unless you're getting more mail than you can handle, there's no harm in being more welcoming. You never know when some interesting person might message you just to say "I really enjoyed reading your profile". Even if you'll never meet that person, something like that can really make your day! As for the username... yah, probably change it. Some people might just see "lover" and get turned away. The inline part is okay... try to find another word to describe an enthusiast. Overall, good profile.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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What do you think? Posted: 9/22/2008 4:06:55 AM
Suggest you use one of your head shots as your main, instead of the current. The head shots will show up better as thumbnails when a person is doing a search. Having said that, you could definitely use a few more pictures, and some more variety. The three head shots are all very similar - pick one that you like and replace the others. Try to get some outdoor pictures - natural light is more flattering for all of us. Think variety. Show us different sides of you. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

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Is it Something I Said? - (or didn't say) Posted: 9/17/2008 8:51:39 PM
You need a better main picture. Much of your main profile is a "wall of text". Pare it down where you can, and throw in some paragraph breaks to make it user friendly. Here are some great tips. Read them, make changes, and then post back in this same thread for further feedback. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

looking for a review Posted: 9/17/2008 8:46:19 PM
You need a better main picture. Something to invite the profile browsers to take a closer look. Most of your pics are too far away to really see what YOU look like. Your main has a smile (good), but you have strange things in the background which are distracting. Here are some great profile tips: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Review please! (gently... lol) Posted: 9/17/2008 8:36:51 PM
Since this is a visual medium, you should give some more thought to correcting punctuation (i.e. caps where they belong). Put your best foot forward. Aside from that - I think you've done a good job of conveying your personality. Hard to do in the written medium, so big credit for that. More pictures = better. You're allowed up to 8 pics, so take advantage of that. Also read this - lots of good advice. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Please review my profile..how does it look? Posted: 9/17/2008 8:13:32 PM
Your profile is pretty good. I like how your name feeds into your online name - that's kinda fun. The Superman theme is a bit overdone in my opinion. Once is fine and kinda fun. But more than once suggests a bit of of a geeky theme. If that's true - then keep it. If not, then pare it down. I suggest you take your current pic #6, crop it a bit, and make that your main (for now). You have a lovely genuine smile in that picture which is very attractive. You need to pick a few things in your "About Me" and expand on them, to show us the real you. What do you mean by "sensitive guy"? Give an example, or share a short story to illuminate that. Here are some great general tips - have a read and see how they can help you. Once you've made changes, post back to this thread if you want some more feedback. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

profile review - rip away! Posted: 9/17/2008 8:03:53 PM
I agree with the other reviews you have already received. Your "humour" reads like a bunch of one-liners randomly strung together. It doesn't really tell us who "you" are. - you need a better main picture. I'd say current #3 is your best, but you can do better. - you need to work the "Interests" section better to your advantage - first date is boring and seen on 1,684,759 profiles. Doesn't help you stand out. Fortunately, many of these topics are addressed well in this thread. Give it a read, and see what changes you can make. Then, when you're ready for more feedback, post back into this thread and let us know that you've made changes. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

review please Posted: 9/15/2008 5:40:43 PM
Changing your name is easy. Go to your inbox, then click on the Edit link at the top of the page. On the next page, you will see Edit More Registration Details like passwords HERE, where the word "HERE" is a blue link. Click on that, and on the next page you will be able to change your user name.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Tell me the truth, I can take it. I promise :-) Posted: 9/13/2008 12:48:47 PM
It's a great start actually. I really like your headline! What it needs above all is just "more". There's nothing wrong with your current content, but it's quite generic and won't make you stand out among all the other generic male profiles. Have a read through these profile writing tips http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx . That should help to give you ideas where you can add some more details to your profile. You can write and spell, so that alone gives you a big advantage. Once you've made some changes, let us know in this thread and we can give you some more feedback. Good luck.

banterista

Joined: 4/18/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

I need some feedback Posted: 9/11/2008 10:19:14 PM
First, let me say that you show a lot of class by receiving feedback in an open and appreciative manner. I agree with MizQ - you need a better variety of pictures. For now, I'd make your current #2 the main - it's always more effective to have a close head shot. Better yet - crop that pic so that the lovely lady friend is not in the picture. Aside from that, your content is good, but you need to have... more. Give us a bit more insight on why you are a fun guy to spend time with. You can clearly write and spell (and that alone sets you apart from many of the profiles on this site! ) Your First Date section should be more specific. Try to create a word picture of a fun time a woman could have with you. Drop the first sentence - I know it's meant to be humorous, but anything that suggests you getting the girl alone (walk on beach) will give the impression of creepiness. You say you don't want to reveal your secrets, but save that kind of playful humour for when you get to the email stage. The profile is more like an ad for you - make it inviting, not a guessing game. And err on the side of making the reader feel they will be safe with you - no unknowns. Here are some more tips you might find helpful: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx Good luck!

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