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beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

Are old people starting to look good to you? Posted: 4/14/2009 10:16:26 AM
"starting to look good"? heck, older men have always looked good ...lol

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 293 (view)

How many people have actually went on a date using this site? Posted: 4/14/2009 10:09:39 AM
Been here for years......still waiting for the date

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 143 (view)

Calling All Divorcees Posted: 3/12/2009 8:03:24 AM
Because he was too dang cheap to pay for it.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 133 (view)

Do you still think about your ex? Posted: 6/25/2008 9:24:37 AM
The grass ain't greener, but dammit...I do think about him...and I wonder how big of a truck it would take to......nevermind.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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What would YOU prefer? Posted: 6/6/2008 7:15:27 AM
Well, I've already had #1 and #2 (except that it only lasted for 16 years)....seems that #3 is my only choice right now LOL But I'm still hopeful for the next LTR, whether it includes marriage or not.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 498 (view)

whats with women and harleys? Posted: 5/6/2008 7:37:38 AM
Actually, I just like motorcycles....doesn't have to be a Harley. I'm not impressed with the "crotch rockets", but ... for example....my housemate (female) has a Yamaha that she got as a plain jane....just a white simple bland bike. She designed what she wanted and it's now a "john deere" bike...painted green/yellow, with lots of JD accessories. I'd love to have my own bike, but I'm paying for a house so it'll have to wait. I love to ride with someone that's safe and responsible....but if "he" feels the need for speed, I'll get off and wait for him to get it out of his system....lol. As for the noise....the housemate's Yamaha makes plenty, especially when it's in my storage building running (we're doing our part to annoy the neighbors) LOL

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway? Posted: 5/6/2008 7:25:23 AM
There's lots for you to think about so, first of all....I'd say don't rush into marriage just yet. Is it really a big deal that she's 8 years older? I married a man that was 11 years older and dated one 16 years older; it wasn't about age....it was about what we had in common and enjoying being with each other. The fact that she lied....that's another issue. If you truly are in love with her, to the point that you proposed to her.....then take your time, don't make any rash decisions, and maybe consider forgiveness. I'm sure we've all needed forgiveness at one time or another.....Talk with her and try to get a better understanding of why she lied, has she been untruthful about anything else, and explain that you need some time to deal with all this.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 94 (view)

If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here? Posted: 5/5/2008 12:12:55 PM
The Fruitcake Lady would say...." well, aren't you a **stard"....no, it's not okay.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship as you get older? Posted: 5/1/2008 12:45:35 PM
Kissing is a requirement and ya better be good at it ! LOL There's lots of things that can be "good" and there's a lot that can be "bad"... I dated a guy when I was "young" and he was like kissing a St. Bernard. I have never seen anyone with so much spit when they were kissing. Another "younger" experience was the one with roaming hands; I felt like I'd been assaulted.

beachesofnc

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long distance - weekend only dating Posted: 5/1/2008 12:38:05 PM
I had a sort of long distance relationship; we lived 3.5 - 4 hours away from each other. I work Monday - Friday 8 - 5; he worked evening hours mainly Wednesday - Sunday as manager of a limosine service. I was at his place every other weekend....and helped him with his business during the day and went on our dates in the evening. That lasted for 10 months....until he called and said he was moving his girlfriend in with him...lol. In a way, a long distance thing works for me because I don't want to go out every night and I have things around my home/property to care for. On the other hand, with the cost of gas, it would be difficult to afford. If I found someone that I was compatible with and things were going well for us, there's a good chance I would relocate. But it'd take some time to get to know them; I'm not moving and have him turn out to be some mother murdering nut...lol.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Animal Magnetism - just a fun question Posted: 5/1/2008 12:26:42 PM
The guy that plays "House"...cannot remember the name. Those blue eyes just melt me.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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What will you do with your.............rebate Posted: 5/1/2008 12:21:49 PM
A portion will go to Small Paws Rescue and the rest in savings. I'm anticipating having to buy a new roof at some point.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Can you learn to love someone you only like? Posted: 5/1/2008 6:31:42 AM
I don't think you can force a loving relationship and I personally wouldn't want to spend time waiting to see if I could grow to love someone. There has to be an initial attraction, chemistry, curiosity and something stronger than a "likeness" for there to be a true relationship. There are people I like that have qualities that I love, but never could I learn to love them as a partner or a spouse.

beachesofnc

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Msg: 47 (view)

I took his hand and he flipped out...wtf... Posted: 5/1/2008 6:26:31 AM
There's a 4 letter word for this situation.....NEXT ! With a reaction like he had, I wouldn't even stress over what his issues are. He's obviously got some....let the next woman deal with them.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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what would you do? Posted: 5/1/2008 6:15:04 AM
My vote is you're nuts. I hope you don't think she'll get better with time.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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How bad is cheating on your partner? Posted: 4/23/2008 7:02:52 AM
All of those things are a 10. My mom always told me that a marriage is built on trust; seems that there wasn't any of that in your marriage. Good luck in moving forward. Just remember that all wives aren't like the one you had...lol.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

StepChild Posted: 4/23/2008 6:58:59 AM
Why can't he say "this is my wife ______ and these are our children, ____ and _____". Is there really a need for labels? I had 2 step monsters at one time and I never called them step anything.

beachesofnc

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FOR ALL THE INDEPENDANT WOMEN.... Posted: 4/22/2008 12:57:11 PM
I think you should be extremely proud of yourself for being in the financial position that you're in. Some of us would love to only owe 2K on 1 card....lol. I agree with another poster that said check out mortgage companies. When I divorced last year, the bank that had my mortgage wouldn't refinance my home so that I could get a loan in my name alone. So I went with a mortgage company. They had no problem refinancing it, giving me a low interest rate and seeing that all the paperwork was in order. It can be done....just don't give up !

beachesofnc

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Motorcycles and Sports Posted: 4/22/2008 12:47:41 PM
I've always loved motorcycles ! I don't see that ever changing. But sports...is another story. About the only sport I watch is Tarheel basketball ( Go Heels !!).

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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What should I do about this date...? Help Please!! Posted: 4/22/2008 12:44:37 PM
You said there are alarm bells....what does that mean to you? My first thought is if the text messages are uncomfortable for you, you're better off to ditch him and wait until a real "gentleman" comes along.

beachesofnc

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Why Do Men hold onto a woman if they say it's over for good? Posted: 4/22/2008 12:39:48 PM
Soooo....I think if ya change your phone number and e-mail address...you won't have the issue of him contacting you again....right? If that's really what you want.

beachesofnc

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Dental Braces - a few opinions sought Posted: 4/22/2008 8:19:23 AM
I had a full set of braces when I was in my late 20's and actually got married with them on. They didn't come off until late 1991 when I was 31. I dated my ex for 3 years before we got married, so he never saw my teeth before the braces. I don't think there's any need to go into detail about them; just put a picture up showing them and if you should happen to find someone you're interested in, then of course you can mention that you have them. Just remember: keep them clean and don't eat pizza in public....lol.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Is shyness hindering you from getting a potential date? Posted: 4/22/2008 8:04:40 AM
I can relate to what you're saying. I've always been kind of quiet and as I've gotten older, it's gotten worse; to the point that I don't make an effort to be social. I realize that I can't expect dates to just show up at my door, but between my shyness and fear of rejection, I don't put myself out there to be social.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Insurance Beneficiary Posted: 4/21/2008 10:49:53 AM
I'm sorry to say this, but after reading ALL your posts regarding this female and your relationship.....why are you even still with her? Did I miss something or is it normal to want to be with someone that tracks your internet activity, expects to be a beneficiary before marriage and, not to mention, goes to have sex with someone else ?

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Shared accomodations Posted: 4/21/2008 10:42:24 AM
I would say look for a condo or cottage that has 2 bedrooms. You can share the common area and then each have your own private space (if you need it).;

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Why take time out after a split-up? Posted: 4/21/2008 10:04:40 AM
Personally, I take plenty of time to just be with family, friends, travel to the coast, etc. before I venture into any other relationship. I don't need to analyze anything; it's just a matter of pulling myself together and getting over the drama of a breakup so as to not drag any old baggage into a new relationship.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Insurance Beneficiary Posted: 4/21/2008 10:00:07 AM
Of course your daughter should be the beneficiary ! When I got married (the 2nd time), I did list my spouse as my beneficiary; when we divorced, I changed it to my niece/nephew as I have no children of my own. I hate to be negative and I don't want to be rude about your girl, but it sounds like she's counting chickens before they hatch. Just because you've dated for several years doesn't a marriage make.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Everyday Things That Get On Your Nerves Posted: 4/15/2008 11:46:56 AM
There are times when I can sympathize with them....but we do have our "regulars" that either get hooked or sell the drugs....THOSE are the ones I have little patience for. I deal with a lot of cancer patients and am totally understanding of their pain.....but ya know, there's always gotta be one bad apple.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Household cleaing without chemical smells Posted: 4/15/2008 11:11:37 AM
I like the orange scented cleaners, but I also use Armstrong Floor cleaner/shiner for my kitchen/bathroom linoleum. It keeps it shining and looking new, plus it has a "clean" scent. I got an email from my bro-in-law today about a house fire that was started by a Glade Plug-In because my family knows that I have those everywhere. So...I need find something else to keep the house smelling nice; I surely don't want to burn it down. One thing that smells good, but it doesn't last long, are those furnace filter things that you just stick to the filter. They come in peach, gardenia, etc....and work well. Actually, vinegar has a LOT of good purposes...do a search...you'll be amazed at how much you can it for !

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Everyday Things That Get On Your Nerves Posted: 4/15/2008 11:04:54 AM
Since I am currently at work, this should be a breeze to answer: (1) Pushy pharmaceutical reps wanting to make an appointment to see a surgeon....did ya ever think maybe they make a living in the OR and not sitting in their office? (2) Insurance companies ... enough said. (3) Patients that don't know their doctor's name....think about it: he cut your chest open, saw you in the hospital for a week afterwards and you don't know his name? (4) People who complain that their pain medications give them diarrhea or constipate them....soooo stop taking it? Then there's the everyday neighbor who insists on calling every night to discuss his health problems.... there's a reason people have unlisted home numbers.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 123 (view)

the sleep issue Posted: 4/15/2008 10:56:47 AM
I get a more restful sleep if I sleep alone, but my dogs don't usually allow that to happen..LOL.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 282 (view)

for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 4/15/2008 5:24:11 AM
If money was a factor, I wouldn't have married the 2 that I did.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Talking about sex before even meeting Posted: 4/15/2008 5:23:12 AM
Gypsy....thank you for bringing this up ! I was beginning to think that I was a prude because I am totally turned off when someone approaches me with a lot of sex talk before we ever know each other. Just the other day, a man IM'd me and asked if i had been "done real good lately"....that's the crudest thing I've ever heard. He's now blocked. I don't see the point in even venturing into that type of discussion unless you've met, are getting to know each other and have some attraction. Otherwise, if the topic is that important, you're obviously just looking for a hookup and not a relationship.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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How many other people feel guilty about leaving your pet behind? Posted: 4/14/2008 11:01:56 AM
Blueeyed....I'm so glad to hear you say that ! I've felt the same way and my 2 have to be crated while I'm at work (because one of them is Satan and destroys the house). I have a lot of guilt about leaving them during the day and if I go out on weekends, I feel even worse. I haven't taken a vacation in almost a year because I am NOT going to board them and at the same time, I can't let my "terror" destroy a vacation rental. I had just one dog and then joined a rescue group and got the 2nd dog. They're good for entertaining each other, but they still will cry after me. Sometimes I leave them at my mom's just long enough to go pick up a take-out dinner and they sit at the door and whine/cry until I get back. I don't know what the answer is; but ain't it nice to be so loved and missed? LOL

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Two Bathrooms Posted: 4/11/2008 12:39:10 PM
I could share a bathroom with no problem, but it'd be a lot more convenient if the bathroom had 2 sinks/vanities. That way, you wouldn't have the issue of a "mirror hog" when you're trying to be somewhere on time.

beachesofnc

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are the gas prices killing you yet Posted: 4/10/2008 8:52:30 AM
Yep...it's hurting for sure. I drive 64 miles per day round trip to work/home. The average price of gas where I live in NC is $3.27/gallon. I'm spending around $150 per month on gas for work.....figure in if I go to the grocery store, take my dogs to the groomer, or god forbid want to go out to a movie or dinner....that's extra gas. I think eventually, I'll have to move closer to my job, but the cost of living in that city is SOOOO much higher than where I live now. I don't know what the answer to this crisis is, but I'm willing to bet that the executives of the gas companies aren't worried about their gas bill. I doubt that the president is worried about his either. I'm just confused about the different excuses given for the raise in the price: one day we have a shortage, the next day it's because of the war, another day it's because we've had a hurricane, etc. Personally, I think it can be summed up in 1 word.....greed.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Money spent on dinner dates Posted: 4/10/2008 8:41:01 AM
I try to avoid this altogether and just pay for my own. However, there are times when "the yard man" will ask me to go to a chinese buffet with him....I eat....and then he tells me he doesn't get his money's worth with me because I didn't eat enough. What can I say...I don't eat much for a chubby girl...lol. Honestly, I'm just more comfortable paying for my own because that way, I'm free to eat or drink whatever I want without feeling like I'm gouging him.

beachesofnc

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He's Married Already Posted: 4/10/2008 7:02:35 AM
I've been in your shoes and I hate to tell ya, but if you're kissing and hugging, you've already crossed some lines. I hate to tell ya too that you're not his first; he's played you like a fine fiddle. I think if you put the shoe on the other foot....if you were married, would you want your husband hugging and kissing his "online friends"? Probably not. You have the control here and personally, I think he's gonna be trouble. You'd be wise to send him on his way and find you another buddy.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Pets in Bed Posted: 4/10/2008 5:05:15 AM
I have 2 bichons... Jake and Gus. They sleep with me every night; one on either side of me. Since I haven't been in any relationships, this hasn't been an issue.....BUT if I were to enter into a relationship, they'd have to go to their crates. Whoever loves me has to love my boys, but yeah, we'll draw the line on sleeping arrangements....lol.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 4/8/2008 8:55:06 AM
"Yes I'm old and I've already forgotten more than you're ever gonna know. And all these tricks and schemes that you think you're getting by with? I've already done those too".

beachesofnc

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middle aged & multiple divorced- a red flag or not? Posted: 4/8/2008 8:50:36 AM
I have been divorced twice myself. I don't think anyone wears their divorce like a badge of accomplishment. I personally would've loved to have had 1 marriage to a spectacular man that lasted "til death", but regardless of the reasons, it didn't turn out that way. I am more suspicious of a man who has "lived with" countless women. Someone like that makes me feel that he may be okay with a short-term relationship, but maybe has some commitment issues when it comes to marriage. My first marriage was for all the wrong reasons and lasted a whopping 2 years. My second marriage was for MY right reasons and HIS wrong reasons, but I hung in there for 13 years. We were separated for 3 (I foolishly thought we could pull it back together) and now are finally divorced. Would I marry again? it's doubtful. I'm a different person now than I was 17 years ago; a little older, a little wiser and a lot more cautious. I think in this day and time, you would be hard pressed to find someone that hasn't been divorced and if you do, chances are, they haven't been married either...lol.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Shallowest Break-ups Posted: 4/8/2008 8:35:55 AM
I don't remember even breaking up with anybody; I've always been on the receiving end...LOL. But I think the most shallow was after I spent a weekend with someone and upon returning, I got the "I'm picking up vibes" excuse but he couldn't tell me what kind of vibes. My dogs never tell me they're picking up vibes...LOL.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

How much time do you spend with your ex? Posted: 4/8/2008 8:23:02 AM
absolutely none...and I'm better off not being around him.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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Is this true about marrying someone in law enforcement? Posted: 4/8/2008 8:22:09 AM
My ex was in law enforcement. We dissolved not because of the stress of the job, but because the job changed his entire personality. When we met/dated, he was kind and tender hearted and a good person. Once he got involved with law enforcement, his personality took a nose dive; I guess maybe the people they encounter takes a toll on the way they perceive and treat others.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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should u wait till all feelings are gone for x, before dating? Posted: 4/8/2008 8:19:42 AM
litefoot....give it some time. If you can admit that you're not over your wife, then it really wouldn't be fair to anyone else to start dating them or pursue a relationship. If the situation were reversed, I doubt seriously that you'd want to be involved with a woman that still carried a torch for her husband.

beachesofnc

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Over 40 and no children? Posted: 4/1/2008 9:48:00 AM
Ironman...if the purpose of our existance is to produce children, would you also say that our maker has made serious mistakes when there are some of us who were never able to produce? Or that the children who are "less than perfect" are mistakes? What if either of your children can't produce....should we eliminate them because they're defective and serve no purpose? Surely, if they can't pass on your family genes, the planet will suffer indeed. You're a moron.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

Is it okay to have my ex's picture of us up for my children? Posted: 4/1/2008 9:40:40 AM
I knew of someone that had a similar situation. He put the pictures of the children's mother in nice frames and put them in the children's rooms and a few on the wall in the hallway of the family home. At first, everything was left "as is" and then the pictures weren't displayed in the family room or the master bedroom. He also got nice photo albums and let the children pick pictures that they especially liked (pictures of their mom, of the whole family, vacations, etc.) and make their own albums. It was sort of a gentle way of saying this is part of our family history, but it's time to prepare for our future.

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Keeping your name after marriage Posted: 4/1/2008 9:36:35 AM
My supervisor at work has been married over 20 years and she never changed her name. She is legally married; but she still has her own name on all her financial & legal matters. After being divorced twice and going back to my family name both times, I won't ever change my name again. It's just too much grief to get everything changed. I don't see as though it's a big deal: you'll still be addressed as "Mr. & Mrs. ____.....who cares if you keep your family name ?

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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what would you really ask for Posted: 3/28/2008 12:56:27 PM
... i gotta do some serious calculating here to make sure I ONLY get what I ask for...lol

beachesofnc

Joined: 4/19/2006

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insanity.......... Posted: 3/27/2008 8:30:42 AM
Why do you even want a relationship with her? Are you a gluton for punishment or something? Really....if you could hand pick your family, would you pick her? I say...pick yourself up, and live your own life. It's obvious that neither she or your brother are supportive, much less nice....you don't need that ! It's too stressful ! They're not even giving you the simple consideration that they would a stranger on the street. Personally...I'd probably look for a job in another state, somewhere that I've always liked and think I could be happy there. Once I found that, I'd move....no forwarding address. No cell phone that they could call.....just disappear ....take my dog and be happy !

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