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Joined: 8/18/2004

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 3/31/2009 3:16:57 PM
lol, this one's easy. Kink is a huge turn on for me. Vanilla is a huge turn off. Um, for something more specific, a man's scent can turn me on or off in an instant.

Joined: 8/18/2004

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Howcome I never see a woman alone at an Adult movie store ? Posted: 3/31/2009 3:13:46 PM
Actually, I personally have no problem going in alone. And I do not find porn degrading or disgusting. I see it as an educational tool. You'd be surprise d how many tricks a person can discover on video! Or new positions to try for the more vanilla couples. As for the Creeps. Well, just don't talk to them. However, I could return the question. How come there aren't many men willing to go into a Sex TOY store alone? The visual stuff, men can't get enough of, but threaten their ego's with the physical stuff, and it's actually funny to time how fast they can make it out of the store. I'd say it evens out, in the grand scale of things.

Joined: 8/18/2004

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Women & Sex Posted: 3/31/2009 3:07:45 PM
I'm afraid I'm a firm believer in honesty being the best approach to everything. Communication is always key. Probably why I'm still single, lol. However, I think that women are naturally more open to the more 'serious' conversations that need to be had. And at a wiser age, most women do realize that potential partners come with a past. Subtlety is, after all, a woman's speciality. I think you'd find that there are many ways to broach the subject without having to come right out and announce it. As a gender, we're pretty good at picking up hints! The best way to look at is this. If you don't want to have the conversation for fear of being rejected or humilated, then you cease contact with the woman and are guaranteed, 100%, to end up with nothing. If you DO broach the subject, are honest and up front, then your chances increase by 50%. Best of luck!

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men and oral sex... Posted: 3/5/2008 2:18:34 PM
I would just like to state a quick thought. It's probably already here, but I'm having a hard time watching all the floggings. So, here's my thought, as someone who also DISLIKES going down on men. Relationships, whether casual or serious, are all about compromise. Perhaps explaining to the gentleman you are with will prevent further disappointments on both sides. Inform him you have a rather strong dislike for it. Does he have a favorite position he would like to try instead? Does he have a fetish that he wouldn't normally get to explore? Instead of saying no outright, bring up some options, let him know that while you have your limits, you are willing bend (no pun intented) in other areas. Since you and your hubby are looking for a playmate, you might be surprised how reasonable guys can be when you present them with options. Oh, and the bathing of a... ahem, "Rooster"... can be a very erotic experience and a part of foreplay all on it's own. Perhaps purchasing a cloth specifically for that purpose (soft, lol. Most dishclothes aren't really up to the sensual side of the job) to keep in the "Toybox". As for the guys threatening to remove one for the other, well, you guys should take a look above as well. It's not fair to say "an eye for an eye" in intimate situations. Either you enjoy doing it, or you don't. It's very simple. If you don't, compromise. Guys should keep in mind that it is much easier for them to be stimulated than it is for us. It's not fair, but that's the way it is. Have a little consideration for your partners. If you don't enjoy oraly stimulating your partner, then it's a waste of effort doing in the hopes of getting the same favor returned, because you'll find the same lack of enthusiasm when it comes your turn. Then no one's is happy. Be fair to your partners, considerate, open and honest. Both sides have their flaws in design, and their perfections. A little research can open a lot of doors.

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Sticking up for Absent Parent? Posted: 3/5/2008 12:53:44 PM
I'm dealing with a similar situation, only with a much younger child. He calls maybe once a month. Just often enough that she can't forget him and have him out of her life. My myself, I use the "he made his choices" speech. I'm as honest as I can be when dealing with a five year old whenever she asks. He frequently makes promises to call, or write, and then breaks them. He insists on telling her he's coming to visit, and he never does. When things fall through, he blames it on his "work". When my daughter comes crying to me about it, I hold her tight, let her cry it out, tell her Daddy works with the military and is very busy (which is the truth), cuddle her, throw in a movie and some popcorn :) It may no be the best method, but it works for HER. She feels loved, cared for and wanted. It's not always convenient timing, but she's secure in the knowledge that at least one parent will be there for her. I think the trick will be finding what works for YOUR daughter. You know her better than anyone else does. You know her maturity level, what she can handle and what she can't. Asking advice and similar scenarios is great, but in the end, it's going to rely on your own knowledge of your child. You're a good mother. Just have some faith in some of that maternal instinct we've been granted, and in yourself. You'll find the right way to do it, in the end.

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Easter Bunny Posted: 3/5/2008 12:36:13 PM
Easter IS a special day for us, though not so much on the Religious aspect of it. I'm an atheist. For us, Easter is about family and friends. Since we are away from our family, we'll be inviting a few friends over and I'll make a big dinner. My daughter gets to help me cook, whenever she can be torn away from the company that is, lol. She gets a single toy from the "easter bunny" and a few rented disney movies to occupy her during the day so I can prepare the food that she can't help with. It's a simple day, but a greatly loved one.

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what is the best way to meet someone and still stay safe Posted: 3/5/2008 12:29:31 PM
Honestly, the guys sounds like trouble. My question would be, does he know your address through your various chats? Have you given him enough information about your general area without giving the actual address that he could find it on a drive around? Your kids names? Schools? Ages? Stalkers are the most determined people on earth, and generally they don't need very many clues to put together a fairly accurate picture. Make sure you keep every scrap of info you have on him, in a folder somewhere, for a minimal of six months. That way, if trouble starts, you can take that file to the police. Also pass around his picture to your friends, that way if they spot him skulking around, they'll know enough to recognize him. Show his picture to your kids, and tell them to be honest with you if they ever see him, or if he tries to talk to them. Plenty of Fish is the greatest site ever, but in being totally 100% free, it also opens a few more windows for the freaks, stalkers and sex offenders that they would otherwise have to pay for. Caution. Trust your gut. And always make sure you have all the info you can to give to the police. No little thing is irrelevant. The more they have, the easier it is for them to find him. If you think that advice is silly, stop thinking about what he might do to you. Start think about what he might do to your KIDS!

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