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Joined: 8/18/2004

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can anyone fall in love again Posted: 1/9/2006 6:24:16 PM
That's not an easy thing to deal with, my friend. I am terribly sorry for your loss, especially since you're so young and so must she have been. My guess is that it will take a very long time to put the pieces back together. It is possible, though, I believe. There's no way anybody can know if it will or will not happen for you. My best advice would be to take one day at a time and hopefully love will find you again. That's pretty much all you can do. I wish you luck.

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Married but Available? Posted: 1/9/2006 6:13:10 PM
BE HAPPY!

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Married but Available? Posted: 1/9/2006 6:11:49 PM
This is quite a conundrum. I feel horrible for you. My advice would be to look at it as all or nothing. You cannot be happy if you don't know what would've been. That's a simple fact. You're obviously not happy with the other people that you're dating because your love for this man gets in the way. While I understand that you don't want to be anybody's mistress, the only possible choice you have, in my eyes, is to try to put that aside and go for what we all strive for in life, which is happiness. Do whatever you have to do to be happy while trying your best not to hurt anybody along the way. People's feelings are inevitably going to be hurt in life via so many different avenues. That's simply unavoidable. What you're doing right now, however, is self-torture. Swallow your pride and be happy. It's obvious that the relationship they have works for them, so let it work for you. Your only other choice would be to walk away and break all ties completely, and we both know that's not going to happen. Good luck to you.

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What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 1/9/2006 5:57:37 PM
To me, the two worst things about being single are: 1. Not having anybody to spend the holidays with or go to special functions with. 2. Waking up alone ... I really hate that.

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 1/9/2006 5:55:02 PM
Usually I read the whole profile. Sometimes I don't do it at first, but eventually I read the whole thing. The more into somebody I am, the more likely it will be the I will want to know as much as I can about them, so I will likely go back to the profile and finish reading what I started. I suppose, initially, I just read certain things, the important things that would have to be a match in order for us to be compatible.

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I don't get it!!!! Posted: 1/9/2006 5:47:17 PM
It sounds like a case of having no guts to me. Apparently, he was just another little boy who hasn't become a man yet and couldn't own up to his true feelings. Unfortunately, he dragged you through the mud in the process. I'm sorry he hurt you ... the ***hole

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I still havn't met his parents...what do you think? Posted: 1/9/2006 5:23:04 PM
See, I would have a big problem with what he is doing. I come from an Italian family -- right off the boat, if you will -- and to wait that long would be unprecedented in my family. The reason this is a problem for me is that, like it or not, his family may become your family one day, and I would want to know more about that family as soon as I could, simply out of respect. Almost a year is long enough that there are thoughts that this relationship will inevitably be long-term. So, what is long enough? Two years? I think it is getting to the "ridiculous" stage. Second, I would be very suspicious at this point that he was hoping to avoid my seeing something I or he did not want to see, whatever that may be. I would also think he may be hiding something that just might "slip out" if you got too close to them or even showed your face to meet them. BTW, are you not a "big deal" by now? I should hope so, because if you were my girlfriend you would certainly be to ME.

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They just give their # and expect u to call??? Posted: 1/9/2006 3:11:09 PM
AFTER HAVING BEEN ON THIS SITE REGULARLY FOR 6 MO OR SO AND TRYING TO INITIATE CONTACT WITH GOD ONLY KNOWS HOW MANY WOMEN, I'VE COME TO BELIEVE THAT IT IS THIS TYPE OF ATTITUDE TOWARD OUR FELLOW MAN IN GENERAL, AND THE OPPOSITE SEX IN PARTICULAR, THAT KEEPS THEM COMING BACK TO THIS SITE INSTEAD OF FINDING WHAT THEY CLAIM TO BE HERE TO FIND, LOVE. I THINK EVERYONE OF US SHOULD GO BACK AND READ OUR OWN PROFILES, THEN START LIVING UP TO WHAT WE HAVE WRITTEN. WHEN WE DON'T, WE'RE NOTHING BUT LIARS. GET HONEST WITH YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DEMAND THAT OF SOMEONE ELSE. IF WE WOULD QUIT JUDGING OTHERS BEFORE WE EVEN GIVE THEM A CHANCE, I WOULD WAGER THE SUCCESS RATE OF THIS SITE WOULD MULTIPLY EXPOTENTALLY. Well said, Lonrangr. I agree with you 100%.

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If you had your choice to travel tomorrow where would you go? Posted: 1/8/2006 7:34:37 PM
Hawaii ... because it is so beautiful and erotic-looking ... paradise, for sure. I would think it would be very conducive to romance :)

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What should be in a relationship to make it work? Posted: 1/8/2006 7:30:06 PM
Communication, trust, patience, fidelity, love, and tons of compromise :)

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Can a woman be a man's friend? Posted: 1/8/2006 7:27:26 PM
Sure. I think the only impediment would be if one wants to sleep with the other. Then it will never work.

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oh i have a problem Posted: 1/8/2006 7:24:58 PM
Ask him to do something casual with you. If he avoids the idea like the plague, chances are he is not into you. If he says yes, pursue it from there and see where it leads.

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Is one's educational level important in a long term relationship? Posted: 1/8/2006 7:21:15 PM
I don't really think it is a problem as long as each person knows who they are and as long as it does not get thrown in one of the people's face that the other has achieved more or less. I do find it easier for a relationship to be successful, however, if the education levels are similar only because you can have discussions about things you can both relate to at the same level of intelligence.

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whats the perfect relationship? Posted: 1/8/2006 1:02:48 AM
I respect your answer, Belgarion.

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whats the perfect relationship? Posted: 1/8/2006 12:23:54 AM
Come on, be realistic. We are talking about P-E-R-F-E-C-T. Nothing is perfect. Not even the hands attached to your arms have the same finger lengths. You are talking about something that works, quite simply. The question was, "What's the PERFECT relationship?" The answer can only be NO SUCH THING, because there isn't. And that's just a fact of life, not skepticism or sinicism ... just a fact.

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She said we weren't friends first. Posted: 1/7/2006 11:35:54 PM
I have never really fallen in love with a friend. Relationships begin two ways, I believe. One, as a friendship where two people grow on each other and realize that they are good for one another and develop sexual feelings for one another; and two, ones that begin sexually and either die over time or grow into a friendship as well, where the two people get to know each other along the way. Either can work, I think, but the one that begins as a friendship has a better chance of lasting, in my opinion. We cannot always choose these things, however. They either happen or don't. The situation has to be just right, where others are not involved and screwing everything up LOL ... as far as you ex is concerned ... the way I see it is, as long as you are having a good time with someone and are happy together, who gives a damn whether or not you were not friends first? I would venture to say there were other factors at play of which you were not aware. That is a bunch of bull, what she told you, as far as I am concerned. Sorry you were crushed by it.

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whats the perfect relationship? Posted: 1/7/2006 11:21:09 PM
Three words: NO SUCH THING

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I need some advise, which woman do I stay with ? Posted: 1/7/2006 11:10:37 PM
Always choose the one who makes you feel the best when you are with her. Money and boobs are nice, but who will be there when you really need her? Who will be faithful to you? Think about the long-term in each case. Who do you see yourself with? If you are ready to settle down, you should know the answer to the last question. That is my advice, friend. Take it or leave it.

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They just give their # and expect u to call??? Posted: 1/7/2006 10:35:10 PM
So, let me get this straight ... you would rather get to know someone by emailing them than speaking with them? The only way he is going to get to know you better is if you respond. What do you expect him to do? Besides, aren't most relationships or encounters based on looks at first anyway? I mean, if he is ugly you will not respond and if he is good-looking you will, so what does that say about you?

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name one thing on a person body that can turn you off Posted: 1/7/2006 10:31:20 PM
Really ugly feet or dumbo ears will do itto me every time. So will protruding teeth and "no" lips.

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name one thing on a person body that can turn you off Posted: 1/7/2006 10:30:51 PM
Really ugly feet or dumbo ears will do itto me every time. So will protruding teeth and "no" lips.

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