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carpaccio

Joined: 4/20/2006

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Europe itinerary (Please Review) Posted: 8/2/2009 9:06:57 PM
You're whipping around far too much. Spend all of your time in one country. Spain is amazing.

carpaccio

Joined: 4/20/2006

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Over 40 and no children? Posted: 8/2/2009 8:12:26 PM
I'm sorry, what? Are you seriously suggesting that people only have the right to existence if they plan on having children?

carpaccio

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What To Do If You Run Into An Estranged Relative? Posted: 6/20/2008 5:40:46 AM
I read your post, and you have imagined the entire scenario with your brother. What if you re-imagine it, and instead of you reacting with anger, you just react with incredible self-control. Imagine yourself saying, "I'm not interested in speaking with you. I'm here for _____________." Just practice saying it over and over and over. It would be such a shame for you miss this big event in your family. You may not be able to control how your brother acts, but you can control your reaction.

carpaccio

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Scared of falling in love Posted: 6/20/2008 5:34:34 AM
I think that it's admirable that you are willing to admit that you have fears. Counselling is the way to go. With a counsellor, you are talking to someone who is impartial, whose only interest is in helping you to work through your issues. Self-help books might be helpful for some people, but nothing can compare to real interaction with someone who is trained to listen and make suggestions that are pertinent to your specific situation.

carpaccio

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how a girl dresses Posted: 4/11/2008 4:55:48 AM
I don't know too many women who have two separate wardrobes - a single wardrobe and an attached wardrobe. Do you have to sets of clothing, OP? And at what point in the relationship do you make the switch?

carpaccio

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Women and traveling Posted: 4/8/2008 6:28:20 PM
Travel is a huge part of my life. Hopefully, I'll be jumping on dodgy buses, eating sketchy food in markets, and having lovely conversations with lovely people in far-off corners of the world when I'm 106. I couldn't possibly be with a partner who is not at least willing to travel, if not as passionate about it as I am. I have been with men who were not travel-minded, and it just didn't work. Willingness to travel is probably more important to me than most other characteristics, partly because to my mind someone who travels embodies many of the characteristics that I'm looking for in a partner.

carpaccio

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Why do women listen to their girlfriends? Posted: 3/25/2008 1:55:17 PM
Because we know our girlfriends have our best interests at heart.

carpaccio

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bad dancing or none at all? Posted: 3/25/2008 1:53:35 PM
Bad, happy dancing is better than no dancing at all.

carpaccio

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an easy way to purge bad memories Posted: 3/11/2008 2:40:10 PM
I didn't know that an actual medication was being developed, but I know that there is a radical type of cognitive therapy. We are not talking about bad relationships or depression here, we are talking about very traumatic events that are triggering such awful reactions that it is impossible for the person to move forward. What the original poster said was true, though. If a person has had a terrible trauma, the BODY remembers and can exacerbate panic reactions in the future. But we're not talking about just taking a pill and making the problem go away. We're talking about radical measures to get the person to the point where they can have a hope of success in therapy. I know about this, because I was assaulted and then had to deal with a year of post-traumatic stress disorder. Years later, I tried to take a martial arts course and it sent me into a tail-spin. The counsellor I went to see suggested a very expensive radical therapy just to get me past my panic to a place where I could talk about it. I didn't do it, because of the expense, and luckily counselling helped me.

carpaccio

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ART pet peeves Posted: 3/6/2008 7:09:23 PM
I hate openings. Everyone stands in front of the work and talks and you can't see the work.

carpaccio

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Jeff Healey loses battle with cancer at 41 Posted: 3/6/2008 7:07:25 PM
I had no idea that he was sick. That is so sad. I've seen him play at bars in Ontario and loved him. We really have lost a treasure.

carpaccio

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On Dancing Posted: 3/6/2008 7:02:26 PM
I LOVE TO DANCE. If I go out, all I want to do is get on the dance floor. If the man I'm with wants to dance, that is wonderful. If he is a terrible dancer, but enjoys moving to the music, that too is wonderful. Sometimes it's more fun to watch a bad dancer enjoy dancing than to watch a skillful dancer make his moves. But like a previous poster said, if the man I'm with WON'T dance, then he had better be prepared to be a spectator.

carpaccio

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Hello for the fun of it Posted: 2/15/2008 4:03:04 PM
I will often compliment people on their profiles or a comment I particularly liked in a forum, even if they live far enough away that meeting is not an option. I'm a firm believer that you can never receive or give too many compliments.

carpaccio

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Is a Disability a Dealbreaker? Posted: 2/15/2008 4:01:28 PM
A disability is not a red flag or a challenge. If you love someone with a disability, you accept it and learn to live with it. In the case of mental disabilities, which might not be as visible as physical disabilities, you probably want to let the person you are dating know fairly early on so that she can decide if she is prepared to live with it. In your case, I assume that the woman you are dating would need to be aware of signs that you are not taking your meds, or if you are slipping emotionally. If you are a potential danger to a woman if you slip emotionally, you should let her know that, too.

carpaccio

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Teaching/volunteering abroad in the summer Posted: 2/15/2008 1:35:33 PM
Thanks for the input!

carpaccio

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Teaching/volunteering abroad in the summer Posted: 2/10/2008 6:44:25 AM
I am hoping to teach (paid or unpaid) or volunteer abroad during the summer months. I am having trouble finding any information on the internet. It seems like most of the websites dealing with volunteering are basically selling their services, or offering volunteer 'holidays.' And I'm not sure how to track down organizations that offer summer courses abroad. Any ideas?

carpaccio

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WHATS THE BEST TASTING MEAL YOU HAVE HAD ON HOLIDAY Posted: 2/10/2008 6:29:52 AM
I was at a restaurant on the seaside in a town called Amalfi in the south of Italy. I had lemon pasta. The best ever. Another time I was at a youth hostel in the south of France, and the hostel owner was a an amazing chef. We ate a multi-course meal, all home-made, complete with fresh bread and lots of red wine, in the courtyard of a centuries-old home. I have a Russian friend who lives in Italy who is a wonderful, passionate cook. We spend hours in the kitchen drinking wine and talking while she lets me chop the occasional vegetable. Finally, we have a table laden with amazing home-made soups and amazing vegetable combinations. And two of my favourite dishes are Ecuadorian; humitas (boiled corn wrapped back up in the corn husks, then smothered with salsa), and potato soap.

carpaccio

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Is it really THAT strange?? Posted: 2/9/2008 10:39:27 AM
I know a family like yours here in Bahamas. The man's ex-wife and child and his new wife and child and he all live in a very small community. The two women have alot in common, like you and your ex's new wife, having both been single mothers, although they are the same age, and they have become best friends. You'd think it would be weird, and that there would be jealousy, but there isn't. The daughters are in the same class and get along well. Your kids are lucky that you are a mature enough person to be able to see your ex's wife for the person she is rather than her marital position.

carpaccio

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Nail polish Posted: 2/8/2008 1:29:34 PM
Guys, what are your thoughts on nail polish on women? Any colours or types of nails that turn you on or off? Apparently I have to make this question longer. I did a thread search and didn't see anything about this.

carpaccio

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Town mouse, country mouse Posted: 1/13/2008 9:16:39 AM
Sometimes people place arbitrary restrictions on themselves (I could never do this or that). I always thought I was a city girl, and that I could only be happy in a busy, crazy environment full of cultural activities. I now live on an island that has one stop-light, and I'm constantly amazed at how content I am here. If the person does try to move and is desperately unhappy, then the couple needs to find a compromise.

carpaccio

Joined: 4/20/2006

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does this sound ok Posted: 12/10/2007 2:56:28 PM
Book your own room unless you're planning to sleep with him.

carpaccio

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Would you accept her ex moving back in ? Posted: 12/10/2007 2:50:00 PM
I can't believe that your ex is completely ignoring your feelings about this. And it sounds as if she's trying to blackmail you by saying that she's only doing it because you haven't asked her to marry you. I also think that it's got be very confusing for the children. They must not know if they're coming or going. She needs to send her ex somewhere else. Where is he sleeping? If you have been in a relationship for 5 years, why are you on a dating site?

carpaccio

Joined: 4/20/2006

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Hey girls what did I do wrong? Posted: 12/9/2007 6:23:46 PM
you blew it. I guess she didn't want to be treated like an object to be leered at in private.

carpaccio

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are some people not MEANT to be in relationships? Posted: 12/9/2007 7:37:12 AM
When I say a relationship, I mean a romantic relationship. I'm a good friend, sister, daughter, aunt, just not very good at being a girlfriend. Those are different relationships, with different things expected of you, and different pressures. Someone said that you dont' stop someone who is not a good athlete from getting into athletics, but if you know you're not a good runner by the time you're 40, it would be a bit silly to keep trying out for the Olympics wouldn't it?

carpaccio

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are some people not MEANT to be in relationships? Posted: 12/9/2007 6:08:39 AM
This may be deleted as a self-pity thread, but I'll throw it out there. Do you think that some people just aren't GOOD at relationships, and maybe just should forget about it and go about their lives without the frustration of looking for and never succeeding at them? I'm talking about myself, obviously, but wondering if there are other people who just feel that they're not very good at relationships, for whatever reason, because of bad role models, or fear of losing themselves. Maybe people like that should accept that and put their energies into other talents.

carpaccio

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Is he interested or not? Posted: 12/5/2007 4:52:52 PM
What is a PUA? This message is too short to be posted. What is a PUA? But I think I'm agreeing with alot of the posters - either he's not interested or he's playing games, and I'm not interested in more games.

carpaccio

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What is sexy for women? Posted: 12/5/2007 3:15:34 PM
boxer-briefs. I dont know if thats what theyre called, but theyre hot.

carpaccio

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Is he interested or not? Posted: 12/5/2007 3:11:05 PM
That thought has also occurred to me.

carpaccio

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OK girls.. this is a guy asking a guy question though. Posted: 12/5/2007 3:05:13 PM
A hot bath, warm milk, you could rub her back, you can get natural teas that relax you, you could read to her. If shes tired and stressed and just wants to sleep the last thing she needs is you pressuring her to have sex. Sex makes men sleepy, not women. I used to suffer from insomnia. Something that a doctor told me was to not do anything like reading in bed. The bed is to be kept for sleeping, sex, and when youre sick. If she absolutely cant sleep, she should get out of bed and go into another room, have a glass of milk, maybe read a bit or whatever, then go back into the bedroom and try again. The worst thing you can do is lie in the bed freaking out because you cant sleep.

carpaccio

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Is he interested or not? Posted: 12/5/2007 3:02:39 PM
I live in a small town, and am a regular at a local bar where there is often dancing. A few months ago, I was at the local bar, chatting with my friends, and my neighbour. At the end of the evening, a man I didnt know, who happened to be with my neighbour, started talking to me. It was the end of the evening, and he had had a few, although he wasnt wasted. He told me that he saw me every morning walking to my work, and that he really really liked me. That was the extent of the conversation. The next day I was walking somewhere and he passed me, driving. He stopped and we chatted. He repeated that he really really likes me and would I like to go to the beach sometime. I said sure. End of that conversation. I have seen him many times at the bar since then, and we always exchange pleasantries, and thats it. I always dance with male friends, and he dances with lots of different women, but he NEVER asks me to dance. The last time I saw him he told me to save some time for him (whatever that means). A male friend of mine says that he is trying to get my interest by never asking me to dance. What do you guys think.

carpaccio

Joined: 4/20/2006

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Could you translate this for me? Posted: 12/3/2007 4:01:24 PM
I think she might have been trying to make a joke. I went out with a few female friends on Saturday to celebrate a birthday, and we were actually joking amongst ourselves that it had been 'all about her' all day, and now it was our turn. If someone had overheard us, they might not have gotten the joke out of context.

carpaccio

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8 out of 10 women............ Posted: 12/3/2007 3:53:19 PM
It's a line in a movie. It's b)))))))t.

carpaccio

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She broke it off after first date....because of the age difference Posted: 12/3/2007 3:51:47 PM
Eight years doesn't seem like that huge a difference to me. But everyone is different.

carpaccio

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Women Support Each Other Posted: 12/3/2007 3:49:49 PM
We do it because often we know where the other woman is coming from, because we or other women we know have had similar experiences.

carpaccio

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Hypothetical question: Posted: 12/2/2007 7:49:15 PM
Two minutes ahead of schedule? That's enough time to buy a pair of shoes! And if I run a few red lights, I'll still be early!!!

carpaccio

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Questions Posted: 12/2/2007 7:38:01 PM
Leave him. He's messing with YOUR head. Move in with a friend for awhile if you have to. He's dishonest and looking for other women.

carpaccio

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Canadian needing advice regarding Russian Travel Visa Posted: 12/2/2007 1:13:28 PM
Your travel agent should be able to help with your Russian visa as well. Before you buy your ticket, check that out. If a regular travel agent doesn't seem to know what to do, then you should go to a speciality travel agent, one that deals in travel to Eastern Europe or adventure travel. I used to work at an adventure travel agency, and we took care of all of that for our customers. The travel agent will probably charge you a processing fee, but if they know what they're doing, it's worth the $10 or $20 extra.

carpaccio

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Canadian needing advice regarding Russian Travel Visa Posted: 12/2/2007 1:13:10 PM
Your travel agent should be able to help with your Russian visa as well. Before you buy your ticket, check that out. If a regular travel agent doesn't seem to know what to do, then you should go to a speciality travel agent, one that deals in travel to Eastern Europe or adventure travel. I used to work at an adventure travel agency, and we took care of all of that for our customers. The travel agent will probably charge you a processing fee, but if they know what they're doing, it's worth the $10 or $20 extra.

carpaccio

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He took my pic Posted: 11/22/2007 2:31:01 PM
First of all, yes, he should have respected your wishes. However, I am now going to try to explain his actions (maybe), and I know I will probably be slammed. As a photographer, I understand the NEED to take beautiful pictures when you see them. It almost hurts to pass a beautiful picture up. When people are sleeping, they are often very innocent and beautiful-looking. If he has strong feelings for you, the image of you sleeping was probably just too perfect for him to resist. I do not think he was being creepy or weird or insensitive. He was reacting as an artist to a scene that he couldnt resist capturing.

carpaccio

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Completely lost here. Am I in the wrong in feeling/thinking this way? Posted: 11/21/2007 1:04:55 PM
She makes to make a complete break with her ex. She is still way too emotionally involved with him. If she won't make that break for the sake of your relationship, you will know that her relationship with her ex is more important than her relationship with you.

carpaccio

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what is better..fancy dates or casual dates? Posted: 11/21/2007 12:56:02 PM
I totally agree with the OP. For the first date, who needs to be worried about which fork to use, and whether your panty-hose have a run in them?

carpaccio

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is there life after a 1 night stand? Posted: 11/21/2007 12:53:14 PM
If the OP met this woman at a POF function, that means that she is on this website, and there is a very good chance that she has read this thread and the original post, and has read that she is not 'worthy' of him. By this time, I hope she has realized what a very very sexist shallow man she is seeing and dumps his sorry a$$

carpaccio

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What Is It About Male Anger Posted: 11/20/2007 2:56:12 PM
Another poster mentioned what the issue is for alot of women - the physical size difference between men and women. An enraged man yelling is much more threatening than an angry woman. Men are often offended when women point out that their mere size can be intimidating. But if a woman has been assaulted in the past, her BODY remembers the fear, and if she is faced with another large person angry in her vicinity, even if he knows he wouldn't hurt her, her BODY doesn't know that.

carpaccio

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Do Arranged Marriages Work? Posted: 11/20/2007 2:40:04 PM
The people in alot of other cultures don't buy into the romantic love/soulmate idea that we have in Western culture. I lived in an area of London that had a high Sikh population and my Indian friends would say, in defence of arranged marriages, that an entire extended family is involved in the search for and selection for a suitable mate for a young person. They would bring the entire force of their experience and contacts to bear on the problem. They would look for someone with a compatible personality as well as similar values, in order to ensure a successful, long-lasting relationship. Whereas lots of western people get married on the basis of physical qualities, lust, infatuation, and passion that can be quickly extinguished and might not survive the realities of married life.

carpaccio

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What's wrong with me? Posted: 11/13/2007 4:10:57 PM
I'm going to disagree with you and say that your problem is that you have absolutely no information in your profile.

carpaccio

Joined: 4/20/2006

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Galapagos Islands Posted: 11/11/2007 6:57:34 PM
I used to be a tour escort with a company called Galapagos Tours out of Toronto. I don't think that that company is operational anymore. When you plan your trip to Galapagos, the most important factor is the boat. Make sure that you get alot of information about the boats that the different tour companies are using. If you go on a small, very inexpensive boat, you will not have the best possible guide. Good guides with experience and English fluency have more choice about what boats they go on, so they will gravitate towards the better boats. In my experience, the medium-sized boats were the best, from 12 - 40 passengers. Make sure that you take a 7 night cruise rather than a 3 or 4 night one. Every island has different wildlife, and if you do a shorter cruise, you will miss out on alot. If you can afford it, combine the Galapagos cruise with a visit to the rainforest. If you do this, try to do the rainforest first. The Galapagos archipelago is an amazing amazing place. You will remember it for the rest of your life.

carpaccio

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Men commenting on breasts Posted: 10/28/2007 1:40:22 PM
so far most of the men responding to this thread have not read the entire thing (did you get stuck at the phrase 'nice breasts'?) I didn't say DON'T comment on breasts, particularly if the woman is wearing clothes that flatter them. What I'm saying is that it gets REALLY BORING when men can't think of anything else to say or can't tear their eyes away to notice other equally lovely physical characteristics. Think of it this way - if a woman has nice breasts, she has heard whatever you have to say about them before. But if you come up with something original (and yes, commenting on pretty feet might be considered original), you might score more points.

carpaccio

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Men commenting on breasts Posted: 10/28/2007 11:49:03 AM
I didn't say NO comments. I just said move on to something else, as well.

carpaccio

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so what is the one thing a woman wants most from a man ? Posted: 10/28/2007 11:44:42 AM
respect. Not in terms of obeying every command, but acknowledging that she has valid opinions and ways of going about her life. Respect would enter into every aspect of your life together - your conversations, entertainment, sex...

carpaccio

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Men commenting on breasts Posted: 10/28/2007 11:28:57 AM
I'm sure this has been done ad nauseum, but I just want to give all of you potential Romeos a heads-up: Women aren't that impressed when you talk about their breasts all the time. I have nice breasts. I know it, and when I go out I often dress to show them off. If someone wants to tell me I have nice breasts when I'm wearing a low-cut top, fine. It's not news to me, but it evidently is to you. But once is enough. And hey, there are other nice things about me. I have really pretty eyes, and nice legs, and a great personality, and I'm a great dancer. Take a break from the breasts and look elsewhere for a few minutes. Just a thought.

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