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AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Be truthful, guys about this one please Posted: 1/7/2007 7:19:35 PM
It may be that looking back on the date there was something that was said that was a deal breaker and he needed to think about whether he could live with it or not. James

amistere4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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How about a joke to cheer us all up? Posted: 1/2/2007 9:51:08 PM
Blond takes her car to her mechanic and tells him it's runs terrible. Mechanic works on it for fifteen minutes and it runs perfectly. Blond asks what he did, and the mechanic says "Oh you know, just crap it the carburetor" Blond asks, "How often to you have to do that?"

amistere4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Your nightmare date, tell us about it... Posted: 1/2/2007 9:39:24 PM
I consider myself somewhat of a southern gentleman and one date in college she turned out to be a radical feminist. A real ball chopper. Definitely NOT a match. Funny thing, in class there was a lot of chemistry, but that was before all the rest came out. I still laugh about that one. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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A biblical relationship Posted: 12/27/2006 10:46:09 AM
I think God knew exactly what he was doing. When men give over their power to their wives the relationship tends to wander with the emotions of the woman. If a man loves his wife like Jesus loved the church then her emotional needs are met and she stays on a more emotionally even keel. The other critical verse talks about the man listening to his wife. When a man does his decsions become more compassionate, taking the human factor into account instead of just the facts of the situation. God understood balance better than we do.

amistere4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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What have you NOT grown out of? Posted: 10/10/2006 9:14:17 PM
Cartoons, Disney movies, Coloring, Swimming, Catching Bugs. I love having a five year old so I can get away with kid stuff with some dignity. :)

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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short hair vs long hair Posted: 10/1/2006 8:58:22 PM
There is something about getting lost in freshly washed hair that just can't be explained. On the flip side I am letting mine grow out and women are responding positively so there is something about hair length. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Do U stay or Should U go Posted: 9/28/2006 7:58:33 PM
Because women almost always work in reverse, the harder you pushed her away the more she wanted you. Not that you want her you can't have her. Now she has the power in the realationship which is what she always wanted. Most women do. The only way to get the power back AND re-attract her is to stop calling. Honestly I would keep fishing. Good Luck.

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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What do you LIKE about the opposite sex? Posted: 9/27/2006 7:52:29 PM
I like watching a woman sleep. The sensuousness of every breath. Getting lost in freshly washed hair. :) James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Sexy Pics Paradox Posted: 9/27/2006 6:55:47 PM
I think this is one of those cases where their action are speaking so loudly that I can't hear what they are saying. A lot of women with self esteem issues WANT to be treated with respect but subconciously believe that they have no other qualities that will attract a man. Another aspect of that is that they believe that all men are pigs and only look at the pictures anyway. I find these types generally have trust issues and are the jealous types. Have a good day. James

amistere4u

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 9/18/2006 7:43:36 PM
The Pocket Sandwich Theatre on Mockingbird near downtown Dallas is awesome. The food is pretty plain, but the comedy theatre is a scream. You can even through popcorn at the cast. Your sides will ache or it was a bad night. Price is cheap too, for those dating on a budget. :)

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Do you want a ruthless review? Posted: 5/22/2006 11:03:54 PM
Ok give it a look. Since it may take a few days to get to me, would you drop me a line to let me know when you are done? Thanks, James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Dreamgeeks guide to online dating... ;) Posted: 5/22/2006 10:48:44 PM
I enjoyed the humor, but it does come off a bit cynical, and where are you in there? James

AMisterE4U

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Rate Me Posted: 5/22/2006 10:38:31 PM
I disagree with the other poster. I think your pics are very Lauren Bacall, a little heat, a little class. Your profile was brief but you still caught a taste of your passionate nature. I would say very well done. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Does My Profile Sound Harsh? Posted: 5/22/2006 10:25:29 PM
The first thing about your profile is it could use some breaks. You have sections so why not put a line break between them. And yes you do come off as a little bit of a ball-buster. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Drunken Declarations Posted: 5/22/2006 9:51:33 PM
Maria, He probably does have some feelings for you, he might even be decent long term relationship material. Accelerating the physical wont tell you if the emotional is there. Back the physical down and spend the time to find out. The more physical you two become the more clouded the emotional will be. So the real question I guess is what do you want from the realtionship? James Ps. Still a nice painting. You familiar with The Kiss by Klimt?

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Is this Ironic? Posted: 5/8/2006 8:34:42 PM
I think what you are finding is that you keep getting put in the friend zone. It also may be that because you are with your female friends that you are seen as unavailable. I do agree with another poster that suggested that you enlist your female friends to help you look. Work on not being such a nice guy. I guarantee you that most women would rather have a good friend than another suiter. Unless you stop being friend only material and start acting like the red hot lover that you want to be, friend material is where you are going to stay. Good Luck, James Ditto Marsh on the DYD

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Why don't tall men choose to date tall women? Posted: 5/8/2006 8:19:38 PM
I prefer a tall woman. Easier on the neck and back. James 6'2"

AMisterE4U

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Boyfriend is Boring... Posted: 5/2/2006 7:44:20 PM
Take him to bed early every night for a week and he will be fine. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Strippers Posted: 5/1/2006 7:54:43 PM
It's detrimental to your relationship in ways you can't see. Trust me as a guy you do not want your man going to the strip club. I admire that you trust him. As a guy it's not that he isn't trustworthy he is just a guy. Envision this, his buddies buy him a lap-dance. You really ready for that experience getting into your relationship? They get passes to the VIP section and some stripper goes down on him, he's had a few too many beers. Think he is going to stop her? ? Bunch of ifs I know. Better he stay home and take his sexual frustration out on you. :) Good Luck, James

AMisterE4U

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Can I get my crap together? Posted: 5/1/2006 7:36:29 PM
If you were my girlfriend you would be contemplating who your next boyfriend was going to be not how you were going to apologize. The old phrase "dance with the one that brung ya", was just because of this happening. This is not a new problem. You may feel begging is beneath you but the fact this guy hasn't kicked you to the curb means he is worth begging his forgiveness. As far as work goes keep your eyes focused on doing your job better than the person they are going to replace you with. Ignore the other office, bull crap. Lastly, go to bed early, take vitamin B6, it will help with the stress. In fact take your boyfriend with you that helps to relieve stress too. :) James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Concerning Marriage Posted: 4/30/2006 7:42:48 PM
No that's way to cynical. It's not the vows or even the people involved that that are causing the current divorce rate, it's society and the skewed view of marriage that sets up unrealistic expectations which leads to dissatisfaction that leads to divorce. Being flesh and blood and having the capability to THINK we can love someone for a lifetime is something that makes us human and is one of our most desirable characteristics. The human heart was not designed to handle the onslaught that society puts on it. That is why the divorce rate is up. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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When to bring it up Posted: 4/30/2006 7:34:26 PM
It depends on what your motivation is for wanting to be a couple. Are you wanting to move to the next stage, or are you just the jealous type, can't stand the thought of sharing him? A conservative answer would be a year. If you want to see if he has commitment issues before you get too involved, then by all means ask him to date you exclusively that would definitely smoke him out. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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you tell me hunz, just what YOU would do, dont tell me what i should do... but what you would do! Posted: 4/30/2006 4:51:44 PM
sexysingle87/sexichickie06, Cut and run. Not worth your time. Not worth all this hoopla. James

AMisterE4U

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Soul Mates Fate prevents you from hooking up with? Posted: 4/30/2006 4:41:58 PM
Been there, I can still close my eyes and feel them. I also know too that they can feel me when I do, I know they can because they call. Now about the soul mate part I don't know since I know two women I can do this with. One is an ex the other just a friend. I would say it is a good indicator of what is possible, but not what is. Think of it more like a tool than actual feeling. I hate to minimize what you are feeling but I also know how powerful it is when you can actually feel what another person is feeling about you for the first time. Ultimate rush! Especially if they love you. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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A matter of Class . Posted: 4/30/2006 4:04:05 PM
nipoleon, I think there are a small few of us that want a classy partner, but in answer to your question I think most people on this site would rather have hot than classy. Classy you don't see in many profiles as a want. I could be happy with a woman that was not classy if she were genuine and down to earth. I'd take sweet and kind too, over classy, if I have to pick. It's not that I don't look for the whole package but in these days I could be looking a while. James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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how to let go when you know its over ? Posted: 4/30/2006 3:39:56 PM
Nothing heals your heart like new love. Something I am sure you have denied yourself since you secretly (or not so secretly) wished to get back together. Find a place of your own and start dating again. Good Luck, James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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women proposing Posted: 4/29/2006 3:18:12 PM
Unless you plan to wear the pants in the realtionship for ever and don't mind him not being the leader in your relationship then go ahead. Have you ever considered he may not be going to ask you? I mean traditionally that has been the man's job. If he isn't ready to ask he may not feel you are the one for him or may not be sure about it yet. Have you two talked about getting married? Because if you haven't, and you are this far along, you may be in for a surprise and not a good one. I personally wouldn't mind it, and on some levels it would be kinda cool. Without knowing the situation it hard to give good advice. James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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girl is dating a man who has been seperated for approximately 6 months Posted: 4/29/2006 2:42:30 PM
She is still in love with her husband. She badly wants him to take her back but both are too stubborn to swallow their pride and try. The fiance is the victim in this. She doesn't love him and he is only a tool to try and make the husband jealous. I would be willing to bet good money that the woman is not pushing the husband to finalize the divorce, EXCEPT when she has been rebuffed by the husband again. If the husband really wants out, and he may because of all her games, then he should do what he wants in the dating area and if necessary move to keep her out of the mix. What a mess, James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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will i ever find someone new?? Posted: 4/29/2006 2:25:52 PM
Hey if these guys are really just friends, which I highly doubt, get them involved in looking for you. I hook up my female friends that I am not right for all the time. Guys know other guys. Be honest tell them what you are looking for. I have to agree get a a new profile and handle. James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Is this love??I'm losing my mind. Posted: 4/29/2006 1:46:41 PM
Clearly you are far more intelligent than this! Ditch this loser pronto. The main thing that most women want from a relationship is some small shred of security. He has had his right to use the word secuity repossesed. :) I know it is hard to be alone for any length of time but I can't believe that the short length of time you will be alone could possibly worse than contemplating a future with this pitiful parasite of a man. Sorry to be so blunt, James Ps. Happy Birthday from someone that cares more about you than he does.

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Breaking Up vs Adultery Posted: 4/29/2006 8:02:55 AM
From my personal experience, I think that the realtionship is forever broken. Primarily because you can no longer trust the other person, and second, brcause the one that was cheated on forever feels that they were rejected or were somehow inadequate. Not a solid foundation, and marriage is hard enough without a broken foundation. James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Whats the feeling on older men and younger women? Posted: 4/29/2006 7:29:14 AM
I have been contacted from time to time from women in their early 20's and I find that we have so little in common, I just don't think it could ever work. I'm 38, I feel like I am about 30. Women that are 28 to 32 seem to match better than women that are 35 to 41. For everyone else I talk to it is different. I know part of the reason some age difference works is because of how long it takes men to mature. I just thank God that women are more flexible on age or we would probably all be alone. :) Good fishing, James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Guys Answer This For Me... Posted: 4/29/2006 6:39:19 AM
Hey sexichickie06, Men can't help it that's just the way we are wired. I consider myself to be one of the biggest proponents of marrying for love and compatibility not just appearance, but even I catch myself having to push my mouth closed when certain genetically gifted women walk by. Every man wants to marry a woman that has the exact body type he likes and with the exact features, and we want it for as long as you can hold onto it. Women that have trouble with their weight tend to go towards heavier the longer you are married to them. If you think about it your story proves my point. You went up to 170 and then only after you seperated did you decide to lose 35 pounds. If you want to keep your man in the game lose the 35 pounds for him not after him. I know this probably will p.o. a bunch of women, but you asked so I've told you. Good Luck, James

AMisterE4u

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am i asking too much outta people? Posted: 4/28/2006 9:19:11 PM
CrAzY.LoCa, Clearly you have never been written to properly. :) James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Dear Genie of Relationships.. . Posted: 4/28/2006 8:28:39 PM
Sweet to a fault, thoughtful, loyal, hot and has no clue, and totally, lovingly, devoted to me. Make her a good money manager too since we are wishing. :) James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 4/28/2006 8:15:55 PM
I have to admit it is more difficult to wait since I have tasted the fruit before. I could wait and would respect my woman's choice to wait. I can tell you for sure that I would NOT be routing for a long courtship! :) James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Can you say you have truly been in love? Posted: 4/28/2006 7:58:47 PM
Yes I most certainly have. And that kiss lasted three days. :) God willing I will love and be loved, again. Hopefully sooner than later. Good Luck! James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Is True Love Really Possible and More Importantly, Can You Find Your True Love Online?? Posted: 4/28/2006 7:55:38 PM
Yes I believe in true love and I think it is more probable to find it online. I think the distance gives us the opportunity to love the person on the inside before we are swept up by the power of physical attraction. Or conversly we get the opportunity to love someone we normally wouldn't because we would have rejected them for not meeting our arbitrary appearnce requirements. Good Luck All, James

AMisterE4u

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Do you believe in fate? Or love at first sight? Posted: 4/28/2006 7:47:30 PM
I'm a romantic, I believe in both. I think the love at first site is more a feeling than just seeing someone. Perhaps yours souls connect when your eyes meet. On fate I can't believe that it is mere coinidence that put two people in the right frame of mind, in the right place at the right time. Nice, James

AMisterE4u

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Potential romance and and current friends status. Posted: 4/28/2006 7:38:02 PM
Driven men like you are talking about generally have few friends, not because they are not likable, but instead because real friendships require some time that most driven people are not willing to give up. They are busy making the money to afford the nice things you see. James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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am i asking too much outta people? Posted: 4/28/2006 7:33:40 PM
sexiechickie06, Yes I think you are expecting to much out of a guy your age. Most guys your age are action oriented. Yes we all know what kind of action they want! :) Let's look at this a minute, would he rather be doing something with his friends or sitting and talking about his feelings with you? I don't know many guys that age that would want to sit around talking with anyone. Also, too since men take a lot of their cues from what they can see, it makes it even more frustrating for him to communicate with you. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Live your life. If he really likes you he will respond faster to a loss of attention than to more attention. Good Luck, James Ps. You are way too young to be taking this so seriously. :)

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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When in a relationship, what makes you FEEL loved? Posted: 4/28/2006 7:17:53 PM
For me it is common thoughtfulness. Sure I love the big things, but just being nice every chance they get is my favorite love sign. I do the same, so it makes for a great realtionship. Cheers, James

AMisterE4u

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Right age for marriage? Posted: 4/28/2006 7:04:03 PM
If you can wait until you are 30, do it. Most guys haven't got a lick of sense before then. That would of course always depend on having met Mr. Special. Most women have sense before then but not when it comes to men. I know you probably have men proposing weekly syonara7, but if they really love you they will be with happy to date you without marrying. Take your time. If they get impatient and leave, you just saved yourself a divorce. Good luck dear! James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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is a strong woman really that bad? Posted: 4/27/2006 8:17:56 PM
I think the subtle difference here is whether the strong woman is approachable. I like strong women but some of them have that ice queen stay away from me air. Now I have defrosted my share and find that most of the time it is all a facade to protect the the scared inner girl. I find the ice queens familiar now and I really unnerve them when the ice queen bit is ignored. :) Or worse used against them. I do occaionally run across the truly confident, inside and out, woman but rarely are they unapproachable. In fact I find the opposite. The other thing I typically find is that they are already taken. Se la vie. :) I'll find mine some day! Good Fishing! James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Is It Posible ??? Posted: 4/27/2006 7:52:35 PM
I believe in the possible. I hope for you that which you wish. Good luck, James

AMisterE4U

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Is my friend a schmuck? Posted: 4/27/2006 7:49:37 PM
I want to thank you all for your opinions. While it is a sad day and the ending of one love it ime being the eternal optimist it is also the beginning of the next great love. I wish you all good fishing. James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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NOthing serious? What does that actually mean? Posted: 4/27/2006 5:06:51 PM
It means that all my relationships are currently at the beginning stages. Yes I am dating no I am not in a committed relationship. I think we are reading a wee bit much into a fairly simple statement. James

AMisterE4u

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How do I save my living together relationship?? Posted: 4/27/2006 5:02:46 PM
You gotta talk to the guy and agree to not fight. If it starts getting heated you say remember our agreement. Then you try writing down what you are angry about. You have to hold the letter for 24 hours. Rewrites are ok. Sleep with him if you want. The fact that he gave you time means you mean something to him but he just can't take the arguing. If you want to fix it definitely do not stop sleeping with him. That is your signal to him that it is over. Good luck, James

AMisterE4u

Joined: 4/21/2006

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Myers-Briggs Personality type...if you know it? Posted: 4/27/2006 4:35:34 PM
XNTP I had a tie on the Introvert Extrovert, on two different tests! James

AMisterE4U

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Is my friend a schmuck? Posted: 4/27/2006 11:40:46 AM
A final note to a sad tail. Love went down.

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