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fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 272 (view)

Long vs short hair Posted: 11/16/2009 11:07:38 PM
A woman over 50 is usually not concerned if a man considers her to be fertile or not, and I have seen my share of women who have very masculine faces and also have long hair. Somehow I missed the memo that wearing glasses made a woman look masculine. Women who have short hair that is not blonde do their own things, and many of us are opinionated and sexy.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 92 (view)

Do large women like large men? Posted: 11/15/2009 3:00:31 PM
I am a bbw and do not have a big ass, seems as if men think being a bbw automatically means we all have big butts, legs and hips. I like all kinds of men, but I agree with nappykat, if a man thinks I should be happy he "settled" for me since I am a bbw, he needs to move on. I have met my share of men who thought that I should be thrilled they chose me as a friend with benefits gal when they continued to look for or date the thinner women, and that is a game that I am not playing. It also makes me wonder if some bbw are settling for men who treat them badly in order to have a relationship.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 88 (view)

Do large women like large men? Posted: 11/14/2009 11:37:21 AM
As usual, a man my age who likes bbws who lives very far away from me. There seems to be at least a few good men on the west coast who appreciate us "curvy" women.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Do women cook anymore?? Posted: 11/14/2009 8:09:32 AM
The same can be said for some men. I am honest and a good cook, and both of those traits do not seem to matter at all to men that I have known or dated.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 300 (view)

after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/14/2009 12:43:53 AM
Who are these women who get hundreds of emails from men? I might get a couple of email every few months, and most of them obviously do not read or comprehend profiles as they are married and/or smokers who are seeking tall, thin divorced women. Finding a person of quality seems to be difficult.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 231 (view)

Long vs short hair Posted: 11/14/2009 12:38:31 AM
Hair means nothing to me. If a man judges me by the length of my hair he is way too shallow a person for me to want to get to know anyway. My hair does not look good long, as long hair does not suit my face, hair type, and I like being able to not spend a lot of time and/or money on my hair. I do have it cut every 6 weeks and color it myself.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 314 (view)

over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG! Posted: 11/10/2009 3:19:41 AM
I don't view marriage as something one does when they are of child bearing age. I have always wanted to be married, even now when I am not in the child bearing years. My brother married for the first time at age 45 after dating his wife for 7 months. He and his wife have a seven year old daughter, and his wife is 8 years younger than him. I suppose he might have been attracted to her since she is younger, he and I have not discussed it.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 279 (view)

after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/9/2009 3:58:21 AM
Look for a woman who has not been married, many of us want to get married and do not have kids to raise or a bad situation and experience from our past.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/8/2009 6:08:11 AM
I think this quote rings true, although I do not think that Marilyn Monroe was pretty. She oozed sexuality I suppose, and from what I can gather, she would not be a size 16 today. Sizes seemed to run smaller in those days.

fifi47

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Why Men Love Bitches Posted: 11/7/2009 1:13:39 PM
I am just relating what I have heard from more than a few men. To me it is a reflection on the man when he will put up with a woman who has a caustic, witchy personality because she is hot to him . Yes, any woman can have a witchy personality, and attractiveness of physical appearance is subjective. Being an average looking woman to most men, I have heard my share of comments from men saying that I was wise to make sure that I have a good personality, since I would not go far being a witch as I am not good looking enough for that.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 395 (view)

Why Men Love Bitches Posted: 11/7/2009 11:36:32 AM
Is she is good looking to the man she can probably act any way and get away with it.

fifi47

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49 and never married/no children Posted: 11/7/2009 11:34:18 AM
I am generous to the childless, never married woman since I am childless and have not been married. Women who are childless and never married are often crucified by men when we seek to date.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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49 and never married/no children Posted: 11/6/2009 4:28:00 PM
She is a prize, snatch her up before she runs away.....

fifi47

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Barbados & Trinidad Posted: 11/1/2009 4:38:44 PM
I usually cook without using a recipe, so I will make the rice and pigeon pea dish and write down how I made it and then post the recipe on the forum.

fifi47

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Msg: 266 (view)

after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/1/2009 4:28:01 PM
I know more than a few women over 40 who rarely or never date. Depends on where one lives and how attractive they are I suppose.

fifi47

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Barbados & Trinidad Posted: 11/1/2009 10:39:50 AM
I make arroz con gandules, and thought it was a Puerto Rican dish. Sometimes the dried pigeon peas are difficult to find, so I used canned peas. The recipe I make contains ham and sofrito,which makes it yummy to me.

fifi47

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Msg: 228 (view)

Women question a man over 50 and not been married? Posted: 10/28/2009 2:07:33 PM
for Tink, who as usual, hits the nail on the head with her words and thoughts.

fifi47

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 10/25/2009 10:58:15 AM
It appears that some do and some don't, I have been told that I am unique looking due to my dark brown hair, fair skin and blue eyes, which is appealing to men who like said coloring, although it does seem that red and/or blonde haired women appeal to many more men than brunettes.

fifi47

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Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:18:26 AM
I have been rejected many times and been deeemed an insuitable dating partner because I have not been married. (before the men knew anything else about me at all). Not going to spend my time trying to convince a closed minded man that I am worth his time even though I am not "normal" according to him. Some of us do appreciate the older bachelors and wish we could find more of them who wanted to get to know women who have not been married. I have found that the older bachelors I met who are between ages 40-55 have wanted to marry women who are younger so they can have children or to marry women who have children whose fathers were not in the picture. Guess their paternal instincts were much stronger than my maternal instincts.

FIFI47

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/24/2009 1:45:26 PM
If someone considers themselves brave when meeting someone with no pic, I wonder what they call life's real challenges.....sure I would, since a pic does not always look like the person, and someone can be physically attractive to me and there be no spark of interest on my part whatsoever...some of us are quite content to meet average looking people who are charming in other ways.

fifi47

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Msg: 380 (view)

Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 10/19/2009 2:27:03 PM
Why does my comment have anything to do with a split personality? I fail to see the humor or point in a previous poster's comment.

fifi47

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Msg: 353 (view)

Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 10/18/2009 11:45:28 AM
Too many men? I know many women who are decent, average/nice looking but not hot by male standards who rarely date. We do not believe that a perfect man will appear to sweep us off our feet, and psychosis is not part of our personalities. I am a gorgeous swim suit model who is plus sized, does that count?

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 340 (view)

Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 10/18/2009 8:46:03 AM
Some of us are very content to date decent, average looking men who are not wealthy or who have a list of college degrees. Where are these men?

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 10/18/2009 6:19:59 AM
I have found men to be way pickier about who they consider to be an appealing woman, as looks seem to matter more to many men than they do to women about finding a match. A man who is decent to me is one who treats people and himself with respect, and who is not hung up on looks and material things and if the woman has been married. These men are rare finds.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 134 (view)

Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/17/2009 12:54:04 PM
So American women who have not been married are not worthy of American men who have not been married? It is difficult enough finding a man to date when a woman is middle aged and has not been married, but the men are now all seeking women who live overseas?

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Chorizo / Stupid Shopping Posted: 10/16/2009 3:07:00 PM
Simon and Bella did not find the feral cat story amusing, and they asked me not to cook chorizo and expect them to eat it. I add chorizo to black bean soup sometimes, or eat it for breakfast with loaded homefrieis and toast.

fifi47

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Should you still see someone even if they lied to you on the 1st date? Posted: 10/12/2009 3:27:54 PM
If you like drama and do not care if she lies, go ahead and date her, just be prepared for no sympathy from others when you whine about being in love with a woman who is a basket case.

fifi47

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Cornbread Posted: 10/12/2009 2:54:48 PM
I ate lunch at a culinary school restaurant recently, and after commenting that I do not care for cornbread made with yellow cornmeal or sugar, I must eat my words.(no pun intended). The cornbread that was served there was both yellow and sweet, and tasted awesome with a bit of blueberry preserves.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Show some intelligence when writing someone. Posted: 10/12/2009 12:23:30 PM
Seems as if a lot of men tell me that they find my profile interesting, and when I respond and ask them what was interesting about my profile I never hear from them again, or they respond with questions about where I live or what kind of appearance I have, or what my interests are, which are all apparent if they read the profile. Intelligence is really attractive to me, and ignorance is not very appealing.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 276 (view)

Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 10/12/2009 6:42:48 AM
I am attracted to men who are younger than me and men who are my age or older than me. My profile states that men 40-65 appeal to me, and I have received a few replies from men my age telling me it is a waste of time to say I am interested in a broad range of ages, as that makes me seem desperate, but that I should not even have a profile as I am what all men find unattractive. I never knew that all men were looking for women who looked the opposite of me (tall, thin, and blonde), which is odd because I seem to know married/ and or couples in serious relationships where both people are probably average looking to most and they seem to be attracted to each other and accepting that they are middle aged and their looks have changed.

FIFI47

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Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/9/2009 3:49:46 AM
I can assume that all divorced people did not know how to pick the right person to marry, they could not keep a committment, or they all had affairs. These ideas are unfounded, closed minded and really unfair to divorced people, as if I assume these things I am painting them all with the same brush. I have always wanted to get married, and feel that it was a good thing that I did not marry the men who wanted to marry me, and dated some men a short period of time if they did not want to get serious about me and I wanted to get serious about them. I have been appalled at how many divorced people seem to have a "one up" attitude regarding being better than single people, and seem to know all about what is wrong with us and what we have done wrong as far as not being married at this point in our lives. I am glad that I have avoided relationships that could have resulted in a broken committment of marriage, not caused children pain and heartache, and/or not been in a bad marriage just for the sake of being married and/or having children. I am maligned because I have not lived my life like most others my age have chosen to live their life. Everyone has a right to their opinion, but I try to look at every person as an individual.

fifi47

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Cornbread Posted: 10/8/2009 3:49:22 PM
I don't care for cornbread made with yellow cornmeal, or sweet cornbread. I usually use Martha White or White Lilly cornbread mix, using the recipe on the side of the package, but always use buttermilk and an egg and never add onion or sugar. My neighbor makes a fine hot water thinner cornbread in a cast iron skillet.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 231 (view)

Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 10/8/2009 3:03:16 AM
Many men are very specific about wanting a woman who is a certain age, has a certain appearance, and who shares all of his interests. I guess women are the same way, they assume that a man who has certain attributes makes for better compatibility, better conversation and a more rewarding relationship.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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pink cookies Posted: 10/8/2009 2:57:02 AM
I like the cranberry juice or strawberry puree suggestions, but then I drink a lot of cranberry juice and love strawberry and other fruit purees.

fifi47

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Why do people always want more pics , even tho you already have like a million on your profile Posted: 10/8/2009 2:52:36 AM
Men ask me for more because they ask me if I am large..duh...my profile says bbw and I say what size I wear....not interested in men who cannot comprehend what a profile says and if they think all large women have huge butts they are mistaken.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/6/2009 1:29:33 AM
Big difference between being single in one's 30s and being single in 50s.

fifi47

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Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/5/2009 2:21:11 AM
I have had the same experience with divorced men who do not get their way, and wondered if they are divorced because their ex wives finally got tired of being a doormat, or the men were doormats when married and were trying unsuccessfully to prove they mattered or that their opinions mattered. I doubt that most single people think only of themselves, but then my single friends and myself are teachers so we spend our days thinking of others and trying to help them.

fifi47

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The Vanishing Act.... Posted: 10/4/2009 3:51:20 PM
I have been amazed at the men who are in their 40s and 50s who vanish or fade away........age sure does not always equate with maturity/manners.

fifi47

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What do we do when not attracted to our date? Posted: 10/4/2009 3:48:17 PM
I agree, a simple "nice to meet you" will always suffice to me, as I have no need to be told what is wrong with me, etc. in person or in a post-meet email. I am astute enough to realize if a man is not interested, and hopefully he would get the hint if I left him with "nice to meet you" and realize that I did no care to persue anything with him.

fifi47

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Msg: 53 (view)

Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/4/2009 12:25:18 PM
It is difficult to find someone to date when we are older, as many people will not date us because we have not been married. I noticed that at about age 40 men seemed to weird out when they learned I was not divorced with children, and I went from seeming great to being probably ugly and psychotic when they realized I have not been married. (if I met a man online or a blind date type situation and we were talking on the phone) I think there is a stigma for both older bachelors and bachelorettes, but we bachelorettes might have it tougher, as being unmarried seems to mean that we have not dated or no one has wanted to marry us, which is probably not true for most of us. Divorced people never seem to have to prove themselves or explain why they are divorced, but it is like single people have to defend their singleness or try to convince people that they are normal. I would love to find a man who is my age who has not been married and has no children, but these men seem to live on planets besides Earth. Most of the single men I have met want to marry younger women to father a child, or marry a divorced woman to be a step father, although they often complain about the woman's issues from being divorced and her ill behaved children.

fifi47

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Msg: 199 (view)

Women who have more education than the man whom they are dating Posted: 10/4/2009 7:46:19 AM
My undergraduate and graduate work were done at 2 different schools. No option for me to complete undergrad and grad school at the same place, as my graduate degree is in Speech Pathology and undergrad is in elementary education. The Speech Path graduate degree is not offered at a lot of schools. Public education seems to be hit by the recession just like many other professions. I know a plethora of teachers who are recent graduates and cannot find jobs due to the economy- a woman with more education than the man she is dating might be unemployed and looking for employment that does not require a college education, as bills have to be paid and mouths have to be fed.

fifi47

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Don't drop that soap Posted: 10/4/2009 1:51:01 AM
I know someone who is dating a man who recently returned home from prison. I do not know why he was incarcerated, although he seems to have a history of alcoholism and drug abuse, so wonder if it is something related to drugs. The met in AA, and she is definitely the mothering type as far as a personality goes. She is a teacher, and he is between 5-10 years younger than she is and dropped out of college several times due to various problems. I have never spoken to this woman when she was not either started a conversation about people and their problems or changing the topic of conversation to people and their problems. Her boyfriend has moved in with her since he returned from prison, and I do admit, it has made me a bit anxious about living in the same apartment building with them.

fifi47

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Msg: 104 (view)

Agree or Disagree: If a person has a good personality you can make yourself sexually attracted Posted: 10/2/2009 1:15:20 PM
Sexual attraction for me is mostly based on a man's personality, he can be good looking, but if he has a rotten personality and is a selfish lover, then he will be told adios by me.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 300 (view)

over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG! Posted: 10/2/2009 1:50:24 AM
I have met a lot of men over 40 who do not have anything solidified- no career, no idea about who they are as a person without being attached to a woman, have fathered children with women they were not married to-why would they marry younger and start a family since they can barely support the children they have fathered? but then we women who are over 40 and have careers and do not have children have a lot more going for us than to date someone who is looking for a younger woman to start a family.

fifi47

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Msg: 298 (view)

over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG! Posted: 9/30/2009 6:11:27 PM
Men over 40 who have never married ,no kids and a stable job are prizes to me, they are so rare. All the men I meet who fit this category seem to prefer divorced women who have children.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Men and Dating and Looks... Posted: 9/30/2009 3:14:09 AM
A person's attractiveness encompasses a lot more than someone's appearance to some people, and a persons's appearance is not of equal importance to everyone. I do not understand why some people cannot fathom this concept. If typically "unattractive "people date "attractive" people, then obviously the typically "unattractive "person had something to attract the "attractive person". Looking at the women where I work, most seem to be typically "average" looking women of all ages, most of whom are married to "attractive" men (some of us are single or divorced)........wonder how these average looking women ever snared these attractive men? I don't look at them and think gee, she is so average looking I bet she is just so glad her husband is probably considered to be attractive by most people, I look at her and know what a fine person she is and am glad to be able to work with a teacher as dedicated to her students as she seems to be. Many people do think that people of equal attractiveness should date or get married. My sister is a typically pretty woman who married a typically average looking man. He is one of the best all around men I have ever met in my life, and she was lucky to find such a prize of a man. Several people commented on how she was so much better looking than he was when they got married, and hoped their children looked like her. At ages 27 and 29, both kids still look very much like their father, especially my niece. She is married to a cute man who thinks she is the best thing in the world, and my nephew is engaged to a stunning woman as far as appearance is concerned.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

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Men and Dating and Looks... Posted: 9/29/2009 2:35:38 AM
Please do not speak for me, as you are wrong. I am not the norm, which is why I posted how I perceive things and view the men I meet.

fifi47

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Men and Dating and Looks... Posted: 9/28/2009 2:56:10 PM
I would pick the man who was also interested in me, as good looking men are rarely interested in me, the average man and I would probably be more well suited for each other.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 26 (view)

Men and Dating and Looks... Posted: 9/28/2009 3:41:55 AM
Mother nature obviously made me different than most, because I could care less if a man is the best looking thing that I have ever seen. Appearance is a small part of the entire package of a man to me, and he can be drop dead gorgeous but if he is as dumb as a box of rocks or conceited or has no personality or does not care for others, then he is of no interest to me.

fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004

Msg: 179 (view)

How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 9/27/2009 11:22:35 PM
I get tired of the "looking for good and honest women headlines" because there are a lot of us who are good and honest women and I find it a bit odd that men have to advertise for us as if we are difficult to find. It also says to me (but then this is obviously my opinion, which is how I perceive it, which is not WRONG , just my opinion) that the men who posted the headline has dated or known at least a few women who were not good and/or honest, and those type of men who date these type women do not appeal to me. It has nothing to do with the appearance of the woman or the man, as in if they are good looking or not. Excuse me for having an opinion.

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